This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The object of a New Year is not that we should have a new year. It is that we should have a new soul.

G. K. Chesterton


This Day's Verse

Consider the blameless, observe the upright; a future awaits those who seek peace.

Psalm 37:37
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Instead of making a New Year’s resolution
Consider committing to a biblical solution.

Mary Fairchild


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Year-End Thoughts from Eric


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To Our Awesome Subscribers…

Today’s the last day of our year-end fundraiser. We’re currently at $14,156… up from $13,889 in 2017 and $11,792 in 2016. A HUGE blessing, to be sure!

But with our goal this year of $60,000 to do all that God has put on our hearts to do, we’re still $45,844 short of that goal.

What do we do if we don’t meet our goal? We regroup, we replan, and we restructure. Ultimately, we follow the wisdom God gave to King Solomon in Proverbs 3:5-6:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

If you’re like me, you had plans for 2018. Some of mine have not come to pass the way I had hoped or expected or believed they would. Others have come to pass in ways that have exceeded my highest expectations! What do I do with that mix of results? I do the same as above. I follow the wisdom God gave to King Solomon in Proverbs 3:5-6:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

Perhaps you’re ending 2018 like me and wondering what 2019 will bring. Can I encourage you to do the same? Follow the wisdom God gave to King Solomon in Proverbs 3:5-6:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

We make our plans. We pray to God. We trust Him with all our heart.

If you’ve given already, thank you! If you’ve meant to give but haven’t yet, we’d still love your help. 

There’s so much more we’d love to accomplish for Him.

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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon: “One Life”


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

“One Life”

by Eric Elder
The Ranch

 

If you wonder how your life can touch the world, I hope you’ll watch this message I shared last week with a congregation here in Illinois!

In this message, I also share some video clips and a song on the piano from our recent ballet called “One Life,” based on the book we’ve been featuring these past 7 Sundays called “St. Nicholas: The Believer.”

To watch the message, click the picture below or click this link.

One Life Message by Eric ElderAnd if you’d like to watch a LIVE worship service today at 9 or 11 a.m. Central Time (and recorded for playback later anytime during the week at the same link), visit live.eastview.church.

P.S. I’ll be doing a baptism today at the end of the 11 o’clock service of an online viewer who is coming in to be baptized! Be encouraged; people are coming to Christ all around the world.

Enjoy!
Eric Elder


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We were chaff, now we are wheat;
we were dross, now we are gold;
we were ravens, now we are doves;
we were goats, now we are sheep;
we were thorns, now we are grapes;
we were thistles, now we are lilies;
we were strangers, now we are citizens;
we were harlots, now we are virgins;
hell was our inheritance, now heaven is our possession;
we were children of wrath, now we are sons of mercy;
we were bondslaves to Satan, now we are heirs of God and co-heirs with Jesus Christ.

James Bisse


This Day's Verse

But grow in spiritual strength and become better acquainted with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be all glory and splendid honor, both now and forevermore. Good-bye.

2 Peter 3:18
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

Men give advice; God gives guidance.

Leonard Ravenhill


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday and Update from Eric


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To our wonderful subscribers… our daily thoughts will follow, but I wanted to share a story with you.

I was raising funds one time for myself and 2 others to go on a missions trip overseas. We had been asked to speak at a dozen events there and to encourage others in sharing their faith.

I believed strongly in the mission, but with just a few days left before our trip, we had still only raised about 15% of the total we needed for the 3 of us to go.

I had one more opportunity to share the need with our church before the deadline. But as the worship leader that morning, I had been so wrapped up in the worship that I forgot all about letting the people know about the need!

I was sitting down after the service with the pastor and his father, after everyone else had left, when I realized my mistake. I told them how I was so caught up in worship that I had forgotten to share the need. I was sorry, but I didn’t know what else I could do.

The pastor’s father asked how much we still needed, so I told him the amount. He said, “I usually give that same amount to a different mission project each year, but I haven’t given it away yet this year. I’d like to give it to you.” He wrote a check that covered the whole balance of our trip! In the weeks that followed, the 3 of us were able to board a flight and touch the lives of thousands of people, training them to encourage others put their faith in Christ, too.

I remembered that story this morning as we have raised just over 20% of our goal this year for this ministry. We are so thankful for the $12,095.05 we’ve raised so far and for the 186 subscribers who have blessed us with their gifts. But with just 5 days left in the year, and our goal this year of $60,000, I feel just like I did after the service that Sunday morning, sitting down and wondering how God could possibly meet the balance of our need.

Perhaps you could be an answer to our prayers? It would be such a blessing, not only to us, but to the thousands of others we’re able to reach each day with these encouraging messages. People like:

Peter in Germany: “I spend much of my time in a suitcase traveling to other countries. Being able to receive your daily posts are such a beautiful and enriching part of my day.”

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If you’d like to make a donation, we’d truly appreciate it… as would the thousands of others we’re able to reach each day with an encouraging word for their faith. Thanks so much!

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If we are willing to take hours on end to learn to play a piano, or operate a computer, or fly an airplane, it is sheer nonsense for us to imagine that we can learn the high art of getting guidance through communion with the Lord without being willing to set aside time for it.  It is no accident that the Bible speaks of prayer as a form of waiting on God.

Paul S. Rees


This Day's Verse

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teach and admonish one another in all wisdom, and sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Colossians 3:16
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is distrust of God to be troubled about what is to come; impatience against God to be troubled with what is present; and anger at God to be troubled for what is past.

Simon Patrick


This Day's Verse

And he came and preached peace to you who were far off and peace to those who were near.

Ephesians 2:17
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Hezekiah took his morning mail, with its bad news, and forwarded it to God.

William Vander Hoven


Ministry Members…We thank you for your overwhelming support over these last 20 years.  As we now prepare for our next year of ministry with The Ranch and This Day’s Thought, we prayerfully ask that you might again support our present  year-end fundraising efforts. We are seeking a firm financial foundation from which to go forward, and this next year, as we change our ministry’s structure so we can maximize our many ministry opportunities, will be a pivotal time in our ministry history. Thank you sincerely for considering supporting us financially to help in all these efforts!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Wishing you a most joyous and meaningful Christmas celebration!
Greg and Eric

A Christmas Prayer

O God, our loving Father, help us rightly to remember the birth of Jesus, that we may share in the song of the angels, the gladness of the shepherds, and the worship of the Wise Men.  May the Christmas morning make us happy to be your children and the Christmas evening bring us to our bed with grateful thoughts, forgiving and forgiven, for Jesus’ sake.  Amen.

Robert Louis Stevenson


This Day's Verse

And it came to pass in those days that a decree went out from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be registered.  This census first took place while Quirinius was governing Syria.  So all went to be registered, everyone to his own city.  Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judea, to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and lineage of David,  to be registered with Mary, his betrothed wife, who was with child.  So it was, that while they were there, the days were completed for her to be delivered.  And she brought forth her firstborn Son, and wrapped Him in swaddling cloths, and laid Him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

Luke 2:1-7
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If we could condense all the truths of Christmas into only three words, these would be the words: “God with us.”  We tend to focus our attention at Christmas on the infancy of Christ.  The greater truth of the holiday is His deity.  More astonishing than a baby in the manger is the truth that this promised baby is the omnipotent Creator of the heavens and the earth!

John F. MacArthur, Jr.


This Day's Verse

The following month God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a village in Galilee, to a virgin, Mary, engaged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of King David.  Gabriel appeared to her and said, “Congratulations, favored lady! The Lord is with you!”  Confused and disturbed, Mary tried to think what the angel could mean.  “Don’t be frightened, Mary,” the angel told her, “for God has decided to wonderfully bless you!  Very soon now, you will become pregnant and have a baby boy, and you are to name him ‘Jesus.’  He shall be very great and shall be called the Son of God. And the Lord God shall give him the throne of his ancestor David.  And he shall reign over Israel forever; his Kingdom shall never end!”  Mary asked the angel, “But how can I have a baby? I am a virgin.”  The angel replied, “The Holy Spirit shall come upon you, and the power of God shall overshadow you; so the baby born to you will be utterly holy—the Son of God.”

Luke 1:26-35
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

A Christmas candle is a lovely thing;
It makes no noise at all,
But softly gives itself away;
While quite unselfish, it grows small.

Eva K. Logue


Ministry Members…We thank you for your overwhelming support over these last 20 years.  As we now prepare for our next year of ministries, The Ranch and This Day’s Thought, we prayerfully ask that you might again support our present  year-end fundraising efforts. We are seeking a firm financial foundation from which to go forward, and this next year, as we change our ministry’s structure so we can maximize our many ministry opportunities, will be a pivotal time in our ministry history. Thank you sincerely for considering supporting us financially to help in all these efforts!

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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- St. Nicholas: The Believer, Part 7 of 7


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
Part 7 of 7

by Eric & Lana Elder

MERRY CHRISTMAS! Today, I’m posting the conclusion of our story, St. Nicholas: The Believer. 

I’m also preaching a special Christmas message, live and online this morning from Central Church in Streator, Illinois! You can watch live at this link at 9:30 a.m. CST (or watch the replay at the same link starting later in the day on Monday). I’d love to help bring the Christmas story to life for you this year–to YOUR LIFE!

Watch Live! Finding Your Place in the Christmas Story!And now, here’s Part 7 and the Conclusion of St. Nicholas: The Believer.

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

by Eric & Lana Elder

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

Click here to listen to Part 7 of the Audiobook, St. Nicholas: The Believer.

PART 7

CHAPTER 37

Nicholas stood at his favorite spot in the world one last time: by the sea. Eighteen years had passed since he had retuned to Myra from the council in Nicaea. In the days since coming home, he continued to serve the Lord as he had always done: with all his heart, soul, mind and strength.

Nicholas had come to the shore with Dimitri and Anna Maria, who had brought with them one of their grandchildren, a young girl seven years old, named Ruthie.

Ruthie had been running back and forth in the waves, as Dimitri and Anna Maria tried to keep up with her. Nicholas had plenty of time to look out over the sea and as he often did, look out over eternity as well.

Looking back on his life, Nicholas never knew if he really accomplished what he wanted to in life: to make a difference in the world. He had seen glimpses along the way, of course, in the lives of people like Dimitri, Samuel, Ruthie, Sophia, Cecilia and Anna Maria.

He had also learned from people like the ship’s captain that when the captain arrived in Rome, his ship miraculously weighed exactly the same as before he had set sail from Alexandria—even after giving the people of Myra several years’ worth of grain from it. Reminders like these encouraged Nicholas that God really had been guiding him in his decisions.

He still had questions though. He never quite knew if he had done the right thing at the council in Nicaea. He never quite knew if his later private conversations with Constantine might have impacted the emperor’s personal faith in Christ.

He was encouraged, however, to learn that Constantine’s mother had also made a pilgrimage to the Holy Land just as Nicholas had done. And after her visit, she persuaded Constantine to build churches over the holy sites she had seen. She had recently completed building a church in Bethlehem over the spot where Jesus was born, as well as a church in Jerusalem over the spot where Jesus had died and risen from the dead.

Nicholas knew he had had both successes and mistakes in his life. But looking back over it, he couldn’t always tell which was which! Those times that he thought were the valleys turned out to be the mountaintops, and the mountaintops turned out to be valleys. But the most important thing, he reminded himself, was that he trusted God in all things, knowing that God could work anything for good for those who loved Him, who were called according to His purpose.

What the future held for the world, Nicholas had no idea. But he knew that he had done what he could with the time that he had. He tried to love God and love others as Jesus had called him to do. And where he had failed along the way, he trusted that Jesus could cover those failures, too, just as Jesus had covered his sins by dying on the cross.

As Nicholas’ father had done before him, Nicholas looked out over the sea again, too. Then closing his eyes, he asked God for strength for the next journey he was about to take.

He let the sun warm his face, then he opened the palms of his hands and let the breeze lift them into the air. He praised God as the warm breeze floated gently through his fingertips.

Little Ruthie returned from splashing in the water, followed closely by Dimitri and Anna Maria. Ruthie looked up at Nicholas, with his eyes closed and his hands raised towards heaven. Reaching out to him, she tugged at his clothes and asked, “Nicholas, have you ever seen God?”

Nicholas opened his eyes and looked down at Ruthie, then smiled up at Dimitri and Anna Maria. He looked out at the sunshine and the waves and the miles and miles of shoreline that stretched out in both directions before him. Turning his face back towards Ruthie, Nicholas said, “Yes, Ruthie, I have seen God. And the older I get, the more I see Him everywhere I look.”

Ruthie smiled, and Nicholas gave her a warm hug. Then just as quickly as she had run up to him, she ran off again to play.

Nicholas exchanged smiles with Dimitri and Anna Maria, then they, too, were off again, chasing Ruthie down the beach.

Nicholas looked one last time at the beautiful sea, then turned and headed towards home.

EPILOGUE

So now you know a little bit more about me–Dimitri Alexander–and my good friend, Nicholas. That was the last time I saw him, until this morning. He had asked if he could spend a few days alone, just him and the Lord that he loved. He said he had one more journey to prepare for. Anna Maria and I guessed, of course, just what he meant.

We knew he was probably getting ready to go home, to his real home, the one that Jesus had said He was going to prepare for each of us who believe in Him.

Nicholas had been looking forward to this trip his whole life. Not that he wanted to shortchange a single moment of the life that God that had given him here on earth, for he knew that this life had a uniquely important purpose as well, or else God would never have created it with such beauty and precision and marvelous mystery.

But as Nicholas’ life here on earth wound down, he said he was ready. He was ready to go, and he looked forward to everything that God had in store for him next.

So when Nicholas sent word this morning for Anna Maria and me and a few other friends to come and see him, we knew that the time had come.

As we came into this room, we found him lying on his bed, just as he is right now. He was breathing quietly and he motioned for us to come close. We couldn’t hold back our tears, and he didn’t try to stop us. He knew how hard it was to say goodbye to those we love. But he also made it easier for us. He smiled one more time and spoke softly, saying the same words that he had spoken when Ruthie had died many years before: “Either way we win,” he said. “Either way we win.”

“Yes, Nicholas,” I said. “Either way we win.” Then the room became quiet again. Nicholas closed his eyes and fell asleep for the last time. No one moved. No one said a word.

This man who lay before us slept as if it were just another night in his life. But we knew this was a holy moment. Nicholas had just entered into the presence of the Lord. As Nicholas had done throughout his life, we were sure he was doing right now in heaven, walking and talking and laughing with Jesus, but now they were face to face.

We could only imagine what Nicholas might be saying to Jesus. But we knew for certain what Jesus was saying to him: “Well done, My good and faithful servant. Well done. Come and share your Master’s happiness.”

I have no idea how history might remember Nicholas, if it will remember him at all. He was no emperor like Constantine. He was no tyrant like Diocletian. He was no orator like Arius. He was simply a Christian trying to live out his faith, touching one life at a time as best he knew how.

Nicholas may have wondered if his life made any difference. I know my answer, and now that you know his story, I’ll let you decide for yourself. In the end, I suppose only God really knows just how many lives were touched by this remarkable man.

But what I do know this: each of us has just one life to live. But if we live it right, as Nicholas did, one life is all we need.

CONCLUSION

by Eric Elder

What Nicholas didn’t know, and what no one who knew him could have possibly imagined, was just how far and wide this one life would reach–not only throughout the world, but also throughout the ages.

He was known to his parents as their beloved son, and to those in his city as their beloved bishop. But he has become known to us by another name: Saint Nicholas.

The biblical word for “saint” literally means “believer.” The Bible talks about the saints in Ephesus, the saints in Rome, the saints in Philippi and the saints in Jerusalem. Each time the word saints refers to the believers who were in those cities. So Nicholas rightly became known as “Saint Nicholas,” or to say it another way, “Nicholas, The Believer.” The Latin translation is “Santa Nicholas,” and in Dutch “Sinterklaas,” from which we get the name “Santa Claus.”

His good name and his good deeds have been an inspiration to so many, that the day he passed from this life to the next, on December 6th, 343 A.D., is still celebrated by people throughout the world.

Many legends have been told about Nicholas over the years, some giving him qualities that make him seem larger than life. But the reason that so many legends of any kind grow, including those told about Saint Nicholas, is often because the people about whom they’re told were larger than life themselves. They were people who were so good or so well-respected that every good deed becomes attributed to them, as if they had done them themselves.

While not all the stories attributed to Nicholas can be traced to the earliest records of his life, the histories that were recorded closest to the time period in which he lived do record many of the stories found in this book. To help you sort through them, here’s what we do know:

  • Nicholas was born sometime between 260-280 A.D. in the city of Patara, a city you can still visit today in modern-day Turkey, on the northern coast of the Mediterranean Sea.
  • Nicholas’ parents were devout Christians who died in a plague when Nicholas was young, leaving him with a sizable inheritance.
  • Nicholas made a pilgrimage to the Holy Land and lived there for a number of years before returning to his home province of Lycia.
  • Nicholas traveled across the Mediterranean Sea in a ship that was caught in a storm. After praying, his ship reached its destination as if someone was miraculously holding the rudder steady. The rudder of a ship is also called a tiller, and sailors on the Mediterranean Sea today still wish each other luck by saying, “May Nicholas hold the tiller!”
  • When Nicholas returned from the Holy Land, he took up residence in the city of Myra, about 30 miles from his hometown of Patara. Nicholas became the bishop of Myra and lived there the rest of his life.
  • Nicholas secretly gave three gifts of gold on three separate occasions to a man whose daughters were to be sold into slavery because he had no money to offer to potential husbands as a dowry. The family discovered Nicholas was the mysterious donor on one of his attempts, which is why we know the story today. In this version of the story, we’ve added the twist of having Nicholas deliver the first two gifts, and Dimitri deliver the third, to capture the idea that many gifts were given back then, and are still given today, in the name of Saint Nicholas, who was known for such deeds. The theme of redemption is also so closely associated with this story from Saint Nicholas’ life, that if you pass by a pawn shop today, you will often see three golden balls in their logo, representing the three bags of gold that Nicholas gave to spare these girls from their unfortunate fate.
  • Nicholas pled for the lives of three innocent men who were unjustly condemned to death by a magistrate in Myra, taking the sword directly from the executioner’s hand.
  • “Nicholas, Bishop of Myra” is listed on some, but not all, of the historical documents which record those who attended the real Council of Nicaea, which was convened by Emperor Constantine in 325 A.D. One of the council’s main decisions addressed the divinity of Christ, resulting in the writing of the Nicene Creed–a creed which is still recited in many churches today. Some historians say that Nicholas’ name does not appear on all the record books of this council because of his banishment from the proceedings after striking Arius for denying that Christ was divine. Nicholas is, however, listed on at least five of these ancient record books, including the earliest known Greek manuscript of the event.
  • The Nicene Creed was adopted at the Council of Nicaea and has become one of the most widely used, brief statements of the Christian faith. The original version reads, in part, as translated from the Greek: “We believe in one God, the Father Almighty, Maker of all things visible and invisible. And in one Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of God, begotten of the Father, the only-begotten; that is, of the essence of the Father, God of God, Light of Light, very God of very God, begotten, not made, being of one substance with the Father; By whom all things were made both in heaven and on earth; Who for us men, and for our salvation, came down and was incarnate and was made man; He suffered, and the third day He rose again, ascended into heaven; From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead…” Subsequent versions, beginning as early as 381 A.D., have altered and clarified some of the original statements, resulting in a few similar, but not quite identical statements that are now in use.
  • Nicholas is recorded as having done much for the people of Myra, including securing grain from a ship traveling from Alexandria to Rome, which saved the people in that region from a famine.
  • Constantine’s mother, Helen, did visit the Holy Land and encouraged Constantine to build churches over the sites that she felt were most important to the Christian faith. The churches were built on the locations she had been shown by local believers where Jesus was born, and where Jesus died and rose again. Those churches, The Church of the Nativity in Bethlehem and the Church of the Holy Sepulchre in Jerusalem, have been destroyed and rebuilt many times over the years, but still in the same locations that Constantine’s mother, and likely Nicholas himself, had seen.
  • The date of Nicholas’ death has been established as December 6th, 343 A.D., and you can still visit his tomb in the modern city of Demre, Turkey, formerly known as Myra, in the province of Lycia. Nicholas’ bones were removed from the tomb in 1087 A.D. by men from Italy who feared that they might be destroyed or stolen, as the country was being invaded by others. The bones of Saint Nicholas were taken to the city of Bari, Italy, where they are still entombed today.

Of the many other stories told about or attributed to Nicholas, it’s hard to know with certainty which ones actually took place and which were simply attributed to him because of his already good and popular name. For instance, in the 12th century, stories began to surface of how Nicholas had brought three children back to life who had been brutally murdered. Even though the first recorded accounts of this story didn’t appear until more than 800 years after Nicholas’ death, this story is one of the most frequently associated with Saint Nicholas in religious artwork, featuring three young children being raised to life and standing next to Nicholas. We have included the essence of this story in this novel in the form of the three orphans who Nicholas met in the Holy Land and whom he helped to bring back to life–at least spiritually.

While all of these additional stories can’t be attributed to Nicholas with certainty, we can say that his life and his memory had such a profound effect throughout history that more churches throughout the world now bear the name of “Saint Nicholas” than any other figure, outside of the original disciples themselves.

Some people wonder if they can believe in Saint Nicholas or not. Nicholas probably wouldn’t care so much if you believed in him or not, but that you believed in the One in whom He believed, Jesus Christ.

A popular image today shows Saint Nicholas bowing down, his hat at his side, kneeling in front of baby Jesus in the manger. Although that scene could never have taken place in real life, for Saint Nicholas was born almost 300 years after the birth of Christ, the heart of that scene couldn’t be more accurate. Nicholas was a true believer in Jesus and he did worship, adore and live his life in service to the Christ.

Saint Nicholas would have never wanted his story to replace the story of Jesus in the manger, but he would have loved to have his story point to Jesus in the manger. And that’s why this book was written.

While the stories told here were selected from the many that have been told about Saint Nicholas over the years, these were told so that you might believe–not just in Nicholas, but in Jesus Christ, his Savior. These stories were written down for the same reason the Apostle John wrote down the stories he recorded about Jesus in the Bible. John said he wrote his stories:

“…that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in His name” (John 20:31).

Nicholas would want the same for you. He would want you to become what he was: a Believer.

If you’ve never done so, put your faith in Jesus Christ today, asking Him to forgive you of your sins and giving you the assurance that you will live with Him forever.

If you’ve already put your faith in Christ, let this story remind you just how precious your faith really is. Renew your commitment today to serve Christ as Nicholas served Him: with all of your heart, soul, mind and strength. God really will work all things together for good. As the Bible says:

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28).

Thanks for reading this special book about this special man, and I pray that your Christmas may be truly merry and bright. As Clement Moore said in his now famous poem, A Visit From St. Nicholas:

“Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night!”

Eric Elder

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Eric & Lana Elder have written numerous Christmas stories that have captivated and inspired thousands as part of an annual Christmas production known as The Bethlehem Walk.

St. Nicholas: The Believer marks the debut of their first full-length Christmas story. Eric & Lana have also collaborated on several other inspirational books including:

  • Two Weeks With God
  • What God Says About Sex
  • Exodus: Lessons In Freedom
  • Jesus: Lessons In Love
  • Acts: Lessons In Faith
  • Nehemiah: Lessons In Rebuilding
  • Ephesians: Lessons In Grace
  • Israel: Lessons From The Holy Land
  • Israel For Kids: Lessons From The Holy Land
  • The Top 20 Passages In The Bible
  • Romans: Lessons In Renewing Your Mind
  • and Making The Most Of The Darkness

To order or learn more, please visit:  www.InspiringBooks.com

Thanks for reading and Merry Christmas!

(If you missed some of this story, here’s a link to read the whole of the story online OR you can get the paperback or eBook as a keepsake for yourself or others to reread again in the future in our online bookstore.)

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

Here are a few pictures of St. Nicholas statues you can still see today in Demre, Turkey: on the left is my favorite because of the strength, humanity and love for children portrayed; on the top right is an earlier version by another sculptor on display in front of the church of St. Nicholas; and on the bottom right is a portrayal of Nicholas in his role as the Bishop of Myra (present-day Demre), which stands in a courtyard of the church.

And here’s a short video of my favorite statue of St. Nicholas, sculpted by Necdet Can and placed in the town square of Demre, Turkey, where Nicholas lived and ministered in the 3rd and 4th centuries A.D.

Click to watch a 360-degree video of the St. Nicholas Statue in Demre, Turkey


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christmas turns all wise souls from the surface which is time to the center which is eternity.

E. Merrill Root


This Day's Verse

Rejoice greatly, Daughter Zion!  Shout, Daughter Jerusalem!  See, your king comes to you, righteous and victorious, lowly and riding on a donkey, on a colt, the foal of a donkey.

Zechariah 9:9
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Christmas is a Son away from home.

Norma Alloway


Ministry Members…We thank you for your overwhelming support over these last 20 years.  As we now prepare for our next year of ministries, The Ranch and This Day’s Thought, we prayerfully ask that you might again support our present  year-end fundraising efforts. We are seeking a firm financial foundation from which to go forward, and this next year, as we change our ministry’s structure so we can maximize our many ministry opportunities, will be a pivotal time in our ministry history. Thank you sincerely for considering supporting us financially to help in all these efforts!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Somehow not only for Christmas,
But all the long year through,
The joy that you give to others
Is the joy that comes back to you.

And the more you spend in blessing
The poor and lonely and sad,
The more of your heart’s possessing
Returns to make you glad.

John Greenleaf Whittier


This Day's Verse

“Therefore the Lord Himself will give you a sign: Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a Son, and shall call His name Immanuel.”

Isaiah 7:14
The New King James Version


Ministry Members…We thank you for your overwhelming support over these last 20 years.  As we now prepare for our next year of ministries, The Ranch and This Day’s Thought, we prayerfully ask that you might again support our present  year-end fundraising efforts. We are seeking a firm financial foundation from which to go forward, and this next year, as we change our ministry’s structure so we can maximize our many ministry opportunities, will be a pivotal time in our ministry history. Thank you sincerely for considering supporting us financially to help in all these efforts!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The publican stood afar off and beat his breast and said, “God, be merciful to me, a sinner.”  I tell you that man had the finest theology of any man in all England.

Charles H. Spurgeon


This Day's Verse

A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

Proverbs 15:18
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

If you would voyage Godward, you must see to it that the rudder of thought is right.

W. J. Dawson


Dear Readers, Thank you for your gracious and generous response to our year-end fundraising efforts, as we have been inviting you, our ministry members, to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we prayerfully go forward in our efforts to simply remain centered in the Lord’s will as we all minister together. Thank you sincerely!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is no circumstance, no trouble, no testing, that can ever touch me until, first of all, it has gone past God and past Christ, right through to me.  If it has come that far, it has come with a great purpose, which I may not understand at the moment.  But I refuse to become panicky, as I lift up my eyes to him and accept it as coming from the throne of God for some great purpose of blessing to my own heart.

Alan Redpath


This Day's Verse

Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

James 1:4
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- December Update from Greg


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Dear Ministry Members…As we come closer to the end of our joint ministry fundraising campaign, we first wish to thank you sincerely for so many years of prayer and support. Without all of you, we would not have been able to minister in these many ways. Eric, of The Ranch, with his sermon series, his books, his music, his plays…all the resources that he has shared and made available for over 20 years! And he has strived to continue making all of these blessings available to all of us through his blessed technical wherewithal.

He was one of the earliest pastors to understand the potential of this “thing” we call the Internet so long ago, and he still remains on the forefront of understanding the use of this technology, much as Billy Graham and his associates did first with radio and then TV so very long before.

We all now take the Internet and this worldwide connectivity for granted, but if we take a moment just to reflect not only how it has changed all of our lives, but just how powerful of a tool it really is in our work for the Lord, to reach out and touch people in such significant and life-changing ways.

I thank God for Eric each and every day…for the blessing of “randomly” sitting next to him at a conference some 18 or so years ago…that began a friendship and a collaboration that has been a joy and a reward from the Lord, in the work we have attempted ever since.

And your support has made all the difference to my area of devotion, in sharing a daily Christian seed with you each and every morning. It has been just 20 years now that This Day’s Thought has broadcast out, and, at my upcoming age of 65, I do hope and pray that I might continue for even another 20 years, if that is what the Lord has in his plans for me.

So, thank you all for your diligent and pervasive prayers and for all your past financial support. Eric and I remain prayerful that we can still end this year with the desired resources to enter into 2019 on a firm financial foundation, as we both go forward to share our love of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

And thank you for considering helping us yet again in these efforts.

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Imagine being in this glorious world with grateful hearts—and no one to thank.

Christina Georgina Rossetti


This Day's Verse

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.

John 14:26
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Is your Christianity ancient history or current events?

Samuel M. Shoemaker 


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When the divine owner takes possession of a property, he has a twofold objective: intense cultivation and abounding fruitfulness.

Norman P. Grubb


This Day's Verse

“And to love him with all the heart and with all the understanding and with all the strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself, is much more than all whole burnt offerings and sacrifices.”

Mark 12:53
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

When Jesus went back to heaven, all He left behind was a prayer meeting.

Armin Gesswein


Dear Readers, Thank you for your gracious and generous response to our year-end fundraising efforts, as we have been inviting you, our ministry members, to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we prayerfully go forward in our efforts to simply remain centered in the Lord’s will as we all minister together. Thank you sincerely!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A state of mind that sees God in everything is evidence of growth in grace and a thankful heart.

Charles G. Finney


This Day's Verse

And the Spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the Spirit of wisdom, understanding, counsel, and might; the Spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the Lord.

Isaiah 11:2
The Living Bible


Dear Readers, Thank you for your gracious and generous response to our year-end fundraising efforts, as we have been inviting you, our ministry members, to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we prayerfully go forward in our efforts to simply remain centered in the Lord’s will as we all minister together. Thank you sincerely!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The center of God’s will is our only safety.

Betsie ten Boom


This Day's Verse

The blessing of the Lord makes rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.

Proverbs 10:22
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

I went to a theological book and crammed my brains with sentences long enough to make the jaw of a Greek professor squeak for a week.  It didn’t amount to shucks.  So I went and loaded up the old gun with rough-on-rats, ipecac, saltpeter, rock salt, dynamite and every other kind of explosive, and I pulled the trigger, and that Pharisee gang has been on the run ever since.

Billy Sunday


Dear Readers, Thank you for your gracious and generous response to our year-end fundraising efforts, as we have been inviting you, our ministry members, to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we prayerfully go forward in our efforts to simply remain centered in the Lord’s will as we all minister together. Thank you sincerely!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Never believe anything bad about anybody unless you positively know it to be true; never tell even that unless you feel that it is absolutely necessary—and that God is listening while you tell it.

Henry van Dyke


This Day's Verse

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

James 1:12
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Oh, beware!  Do not seek to be something!  Let me be nothing, and Christ be all in all.

John Wesley


This Day's Verse

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

John 3:16
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Prayer—the best wireless connection.

Unknown


Dear Ministry Members…Thank you for over 20 years of prayer and support, as we have sought to reach people throughout the world with our daily Christian messages of inspiration and encouragement.  We wish to once again share our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your continued prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

That God is more near, more real and mighty, more full of love, and more ready to help every one of us than any one of us realizes, is the undying message of the Gospels.

David S. Cairns


This Day's Verse

And he said unto them, Why are ye so fearful? how is it that ye have no faith?

Mark 4:40
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

I do not find God hard to live with.

A. W. Tozer


Dear Ministry Members…Thank you for over 20 years of prayer and support, as we have sought to reach people throughout the world with our daily Christian messages of inspiration and encouragement.  We wish to once again share our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your continued prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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Eric Elder Ministries, 25615 E 3000 North Road, Chenoa, IL 61726 USA


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday and Greg’s Update

Dear Subscribers, This month of December serves as not only the close to the year, but also the last of our joint fundraising efforts.  Eric and I have been so very blessed to work so closely together for these many years, but we are even more excited and grateful for the prospects that lie ahead for the two ministries The Ranch and This Day’s Thought.  The Lord has blessed us with many new opportunities for ministry as we begin 2019, and we now prayerfully prepare to have a firm foundation from which to begin the next year with all of you.

Our year-end fundraising efforts are accordingly so important to us, more than any time in the past, to provide for a smooth transition forward.  We thank you for your prayerful consideration of helping us financially at this time, and are so appreciative for your continued prayers as well of all your past support.

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I used to think that God’s gifts were on shelves one above the other and that the taller we grew in Christian character the more easily we could reach them.  I now find that God’s gifts are on shelves one beneath the other and that it is not a question of growing taller but of stooping lower.

F. B. Meyer


This Day's Verse

With the mighty deeds of the Lord God I will come, I will praise thy righteousness, thine alone.

Psalm 71:16
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A saint is never consciously a saint; a saint is consciously dependent on God.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

Admit your faults to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous man has great power and wonderful results.

James 5:16
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

The Christian who has the smile of God needs no status symbols.

Leonard Ravenhill


Dear Ministry Members…Thank you for over 20 years of prayer and support, as we have sought to reach people throughout the world with our daily Christian messages of inspiration and encouragement.  We wish to once again share our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your continued prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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Eric Elder Ministries, 25615 E 3000 North Road, Chenoa, IL 61726 USA


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When we are praying, the thought will often cross our minds that (if only we knew it) the event is already decided one way or the other.  I believe this to be no good reason for ceasing our prayers.  The event certainly has been decided—in a sense it was decided “before all worlds.”  But one of the things that really cause it to happen may be this very prayer that we are now offering.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

And the priest said to them, “Go in peace. The journey on which you go is under the eye of the Lord.”

Judges 18:6
The English Standard Version


 

Dear Ministry Members…Thank you for over 20 years of prayer and support, as we have sought to reach people throughout the world with our daily Christian messages of inspiration and encouragement.  We wish to once again share our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your continued prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Lord, send me where Thou wilt, only go with me; lay on me what Thou wilt, only sustain me.  Cut any cord but the one that binds me to Thy cause, to Thy heart.

Titus Coan


This Day's Verse

Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:

John 11:25
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

God created this game of life; and only when we play it his way can we find meaning, purpose and happiness.

Lane Adams


 

Dear Ministry Members…Thank you for over 20 years of prayer and support, as we have sought to reach people throughout the world with our daily Christian messages of inspiration and encouragement.  We wish to once again share our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your continued prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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Eric Elder Ministries, 25615 E 3000 North Road, Chenoa, IL 61726 USA


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- St. Nicholas: The Believer, Part 4 of 7


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
Part 4 of 7

by Eric & Lana Elder

 
I’m in Columbia, South Carolina this weekend for the opening of “One Life,” the new Christmas ballet based on my story, “St. Nicholas: The Believer.” The show is a WONDER-FILLED adaptation of the book. I would love for all of you to be able to see it someday!

Today I’m posting Part 4 of the book so you can read or listen along and enjoy. I am hearing from so many people how the book is touching them this holiday season. Even if you haven’t read any parts up to now, you can read today’s Part and be touched by it as it contains one of the most famous stories from Nicholas’s real life.

I pray you’ll have a renewed love for Jesus this Christmas.

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

by Eric & Lana Elder

Click here to listen to Part 4 of the Audiobook, St. Nicholas: The Believer

PART 4

CHAPTER 18

Nicholas’ next step in life was about to be determined by a dream. But it wasn’t a dream that Nicholas had conceived–it was a dream that God had conceived and had put in the mind of a man, a priest in the city of Myra.

In the weeks leading up to Nicholas’ arrival in Myra, a tragedy had befallen the church there. Their aging bishop, the head of their church, had died. The tragedy that had fallen upon the church wasn’t the bishop’s death, for he had lived a long and fruitful life and had simply succumbed to the effects of old age. The tragedy arose out of the debate that ensued regarding who should take his place as the next bishop.

While it would seem that such things could be resolved amicably, especially within a church, when people’s hearts are involved, their loyalties and personal desires can sometimes muddy their thoughts so much that they can’t see what God’s will is in a particular situation. It can be hard for anyone, even for people of faith, to keep their minds free from preconceived ideas and personal preferences regarding what God may, or may not, want to do at any given time.

This debate was the storm that had been brewing for a week now, and which had reached its apex the night before Nicholas’ arrival.

That night one of the priests had a dream that startled him awake. In his dream he saw a man whom he had never seen before who was clearly to take up the responsibilities of their dearly departed bishop. When he woke from his dream, he remembered nothing about what the man looked like, but only remembered his name: Nicholas.

“Nicholas?” asked one of the other priests when he heard his fellow priest’s dream. “None of us have ever gone by that name, nor is there anyone in the whole city by that name.”

Nicholas was, to be sure, not a popular name at the time. It was only mentioned once in passing in one of Luke’s writings about the early church, along with other names which were just as uncommon in those days in Myra like Procorus, Nicanor, Timon and Parmenas. It seemed ridiculous to the other priests that this dream could possibly be from God. But the old priest reminded them, “Even the name of Jesus was given to His father by an angel in a dream.”

Perhaps it was this testimony from the gospels, or perhaps it was the unlikelihood that it would ever happen, that the priests all agreed that they would strongly consider the next person who walked through their door who answered to the name of Nicholas. It would certainly help to break the deadlock in which they found themselves.

What a surprise then, when they opened their doors for their morning prayers, when an entire shipload of men started to stream into the church!

The priests greeted each of the men at the door as they entered, welcoming them into the church. The last two to enter were the captain and Nicholas, as they had allowed all of the others to enter first. The captain thanked the priests for opening their doors to them for their morning prayers, then turned to Nicholas and said, “And thanks to Nicholas for having this brilliant idea to come here today.”

The astonished priests looked at one another in disbelief. Perhaps God had answered their prayers after all.

CHAPTER 19

The captain’s concern about what to do with the grain on his ship dissipated when they arrived at the church as fast as the storm had dissipated when they arrived on shore.

Within moments of beginning their morning prayers, he was convinced that it could only have been the mighty hand of God that had held their rudder straight and true. He knew now for sure he wanted to make an offering of the grain to the people who lived there. God spoke to him about both the plan and the amount. It was as if the captain were playing the role of Abraham in the old, old story when Abraham offered a portion of his riches to Melchizedek the priest.

The captain was willing to take his chances with his superiors in Rome rather than take any chances with the God who had delivered them all. He knew that without God’s guidance and direction so far on this journey, neither he nor his men nor the ship nor its grain would have ever made it to Rome at all.

When the captain stood up from his prayers, he quickly found Nicholas to share the answer with him as well. Nicholas agreed both to the plan and to the amount. The captain asked, “Do you think it will be enough for all these people?”

Nicholas replied, “Jesus was able to feed 5,000 people with just five loaves of bread and two fish—and what you want to give to this city is much more than what Jesus had to start with!”

“How did He do it?” asked the captain—almost to himself as much as to Nicholas.

“All I know,” answered Nicholas, “is that He looked up to heaven, gave thanks and began passing out the food with His disciples. In the end everyone was satisfied and they still had twelve baskets full of food left over!”

“That’s exactly what we’ll do then, too,” said the captain.

And the story would be told for years to come how the captain of the ship looked up to heaven, gave thanks and began passing out the grain with his crew. It was enough to satisfy the people of that city for two whole years and to plant and reap even more in the third year.

As the priests said goodbye to the captain and crew, they asked Nicholas if he would be able to stay behind for a time. The winds of confusion that had whipped up and then subsided inside the captain’s mind were about to pale in comparison to the storm that was about to break open inside the mind of Nicholas.

CHAPTER 20

When the priests told Nicholas about their dream and that he just might be the answer to their prayers, Nicholas was dumbfounded and amazed, excited and perplexed. He had often longed to be used by God in a powerful way, and it was unmistakable that God had already brought him straight across the Great Sea to this very spot at this very hour!

But to become a priest, let alone a bishop, would be a decision that would last a lifetime. He had oftentimes considered taking up his earthly father’s business. His father had been highly successful at it, and Nicholas felt he could do the same. But even more important to him than doing the work of his father was to have a family like his father.

Nicholas’ memories of his parents were so fond that he longed to create more memories of his own with a family of his own. The custom of all the priests Nicholas knew, however, was to abstain from marriage and child-bearing so they could more fully devote themselves to the needs of the community around them.

Nicholas pulled back mentally at the thought of having to give up his desire for a family of his own. It wasn’t that having a family was a conscious dream that often filled his thoughts, but it was one of those assumptions in the back of his mind that he took for granted would come at some point in his future.

The shock of having to give up on the idea of a family, even before he had fully considered having one yet, was like a jolt to his system. Following God’s will shouldn’t be so difficult, he thought! But he had learned from his parents that laying down your will for the sake of God’s will wasn’t always so easy, another lesson they had learned from Jesus.

So just because it was a difficult decision wasn’t enough to rule it out. An image also floated through his mind of those three smiling faces he had met when he first landed in the Holy Land, with their heads bowed down and their hands outstretched. Hadn’t they seemed like family to him? And weren’t there hundreds—even thousands—of children just like them, children who had no family of their own, no one to care for them, no one to look after their needs?

And weren’t there countless others in the world—widows and widowers and those who had families in name but not in their actual relationships—who still needed the strength and encouragement and sense of family around them? And weren’t there still other families as well, like Nicholas and his parents, who had been happy on their own but found additional happiness when they came together as the family of believers in their city? Giving up on the idea of a family of his own didn’t mean he had to give up on the idea of having a family altogether. In fact, it may even be possible that he could have an even larger “family” in this way.

The more Nicholas thought about what he might give up in order to serve God in the church, the more he thought about how God might use this new position in ways that went beyond Nicholas’ own thoughts and desires. And if God was indeed in this decision, perhaps it had its own special rewards in the end.

The fury of the storm that swept through his mind began to abate. In its place, God’s peace began to flow over both his mind and his heart. Nicholas recognized this as the peace of God’s divine will being clearly revealed to him. It only took another moment for Nicholas to know what his answer would be.

The storms that had once seemed so threatening–whether the storm at sea or the storm in the church or the storms in the minds of both the captain and Nicholas–now turned out to be blessings of God instead. They were blessings that proved to Nicholas once again that no matter what happened, God really could work all things for good for those who loved Him and who were called according to His purpose.

Yes, if the priests would have him, Nicholas would become the next bishop of Myra.

CHAPTER 21

Nicholas didn’t suddenly become another man when he became a bishop. He became a bishop because of the man he already was. As he had done before with his father so many years earlier, Nicholas continued to do now, here in the city of Myra and the surrounding towns: walking and praying and asking God where he could be of most help.

It was on one of these prayerful walks that Nicholas met Anna Maria. She was a beautiful girl only eleven years old, but her beauty was disguised to most others by the poverty she wore. Nicholas found her one day trying to sell flowers that she had made out of braided blades of grass. But the beauty of the flowers also seemed to be disguised to everyone but Nicholas, for no one would buy her simple creations.

As Nicholas stepped towards her, she reminded him instantly of little Ruthie, whom he had left behind in the Holy Land, with the golden flowers in her hand on the hillsides of Bethlehem.

When he stopped for a closer look, God spoke to his heart. It seemed to Nicholas that this must have been what Moses felt when he stopped to look at the burning bush in the desert, a moment when his natural curiosity turned into a supernatural encounter with the Living God.

“Your flowers are beautiful,” said Nicholas. “May I hold one?”

The young girl handed him one of her creations. As he looked at it, he looked at her. The beauty he saw in both the flower and the girl was stunning. Somehow Nicholas had the ability to see what others could not see, or did not see, as Nicholas always tried to see people and things and life the way God saw them, as if God were looking through his eyes.

“I’d like to buy this one, if I could,” he said.

Delighted, she smiled for the first time. She told him the price, and he gave her a coin.

“Tell me,” said Nicholas, “what will you do with the money you make from selling these beautiful flowers?”

What Nicholas heard next broke his heart.

Anna Maria was the youngest of three sisters: Sophia, Cecilia and Anna Maria. Although their father loved them deeply, he had been plunged into despair when his once-successful business had failed, and then his wife passed away shortly thereafter. Lacking the strength and the resources to pick himself up out of the darkness, the situation for his family grew bleaker and bleaker.

Anna Maria’s oldest sister, Sophia, had just turned 18, and she turned a number of heads as well. But no one would marry her because her father had no dowry to offer to any potential suitor. And with no dowry, there was little likelihood that she, nor any of the three girls, would ever be married.

The choices facing their father were grim. He knew he must act soon or risk the possibility of Cecilia and Anna Maria never getting married in the future, either. With no way to raise a suitable dowry for her, and being too proud to take charity from others, even if someone had had the funds to offer to him, her father was about to do the unthinkable: he was going to sell his oldest daughter into slavery to help make ends meet.

How their father could think this was the best solution available to him, Nicholas couldn’t imagine. But he also knew that desperation often impaired even the best-intentioned men. By sacrificing his oldest daughter in this way, the father reasoned that perhaps he could somehow spare the younger two from a similar fate.

Anna Maria, for her part, had come up with the idea of making and selling flowers as a way to spare her sister from this fate that was to her worse than death. Nicholas held back his tears out of respect for Anna Maria and the noble effort she was making to save her sister.

He also refrained from buying Anna Maria’s whole basket of flowers right there on the spot, for Nicholas knew it would take more than a basket full of flowers to save Sophia. It would take a miracle. And as God spoke to his heart that day, Nicholas knew that God just might use him to deliver it.

CHAPTER 22

Without show and without fanfare, Nicholas offered a prayer for Anna Maria, along with his thanks for the flower, and encouraged her to keep doing what she could to help her family–and to keep trusting in God to do what she couldn’t.

Nicholas knew he could help this family. He knew he had the resources to make a difference in their lives, for he still had a great deal of his parents’ wealth hidden in the cliffs near the coast for occasions such as this. But he also knew that Anna Maria’s proud father would never accept charity from any man, even at this bleakest hour.

Her father’s humiliation at losing his business, along with his own personal loss, had blinded him to the reality of what was about to happen to his daughter. Nicholas wanted to help, but how? How could he step into the situation without further humiliating Anna Maria’s father, possibly causing him to refuse the very help that Nicholas could extend to him. Nicholas did what he always did when he needed wisdom. He prayed. And before the day was out, he had his answer.

Nicholas put his plan into action–and none too soon! It just so happened that the next day was the day when Sophia’s fate would be sealed.

Taking a fair amount of gold coins from his savings, Nicholas placed them into a small bag. It was small enough to fit in one hand, but heavy enough to be sure that it would adequately supply the need.

Hiding under the cover of night, he crossed the city of Myra to the home where Anna Maria, her father and her two older sisters lived.

He could hear them talking inside as he quietly approached the house. Their mood was understandably downcast as they discussed what they thought was their inevitable next step. They asked God to give them the strength to do whatever they needed to do.

For years, Sophia and her sisters had dreamed of the day when they would each meet the man of their dreams. They had even written love songs to these men, trusting that God would bring each of them the perfect man at the perfect time.

Now it seemed like all their songs, all their prayers and all their dreams had been in vain. Sophia wasn’t the only one who felt the impact of this new reality, for her two younger sisters knew that the same fate might one day await each of them.

The girls wanted to trust God, but no matter how hard they thought about their situation, each of them felt like their dreams were about to be shattered.

At Anna Maria’s prompting, they tried to sing their favorite love song one more time, but their sadness simply deepened at the words. It was no longer a song of hope, but a song of despair, and the words now seemed so impossible to them.

It was not just a song, but a prayer, and one of the deepest prayers Nicholas had ever heard uttered by human tongue. His heart went out to each of them, while at the same time it pounded with fear. He had a plan, and he hoped it would work, but he had no way of knowing for sure. He wasn’t worried about what might happen to him if he were discovered, but he was worried that their father would reject his gift if he knew where it had come from. That would certainly seal the girls’ doom. As Sophia and Cecilia and Anna Maria said their goodnights–and their father had put out the lights–Nicholas knew that his time had come.

Inching closer to the open window of the room where they had been singing, Nicholas bent down low to his knees. He lobbed the bag of coins into the air and through the window. It arced gracefully above him and seemed to hang in the air for a moment before landing with a soft thud in the center of the room. A few coins bounced loose, clinking faintly on the ground, rolling and then coming to a stop. Nicholas turned quickly and hid in the darkness nearby as the girls and their father awoke at the sound.

They called out to see if anyone was there, but when they heard no answer, they entered the room from both directions. As their father lit the light, Anna Maria was the first to see it–and gasped.

There, in the center of the room, lay a small round bag, shimmering with golden coins at the top. The girls gathered around their father as he carefully picked up the bag and opened it.

It was more than enough gold to provide a suitable dowry for Sophia, with more to spare to take care of the rest of the family for some time to come!

But where could such a gift have come from? The girls were sure it had come from God Himself in answer to their prayers! But their father wanted to know more. Who had God used to deliver it? Certainly no one they knew. He sprinted out of the house, followed by his daughters, to see if he could find any trace of the deliverer, but none could be found.

Returning back inside, and with no one to return the money to, the girls and their father got down on their knees and thanked God for His deliverance.

As Nicholas listened in the darkness, he too gave thanks to God, for this was the very thing Nicholas hoped they would do. He knew that the gift truly was from God, provided by God and given through Nicholas by God’s prompting in answer to their prayers. Nicholas had only given to them what God had given to him in the first place. Nicholas neither wanted nor needed any thanks nor recognition for the gift. God alone deserved their praise.

But by allowing Nicholas to be involved, using Nicholas’ own hands and his own inheritance to bless others, Nicholas felt a joy that he could hardly contain. By delivering the gift himself, Nicholas was able to ensure that the gift was properly given. And by giving the gift anonymously, he was able to ensure that the true Giver of the gift was properly credited.

The gift was delivered and God got the credit. Nicholas had achieved both of his goals.

CHAPTER 23

While Nicholas preferred to do his acts of goodwill in secret, there were times when, out of sheer necessity, he had to act in broad daylight. And while it was his secret acts that gained him favor with God, it was his public acts that gained him favor with men.

Many people rightly appreciate a knight in shining armor, but not everyone wants to be rescued from evil–especially those who profit from it.

One such man was a magistrate in Myra, a leader in the city who disliked Nicholas intensely–or anyone who stood in the way of what he wanted.

This particular magistrate was both corrupt and corruptible. He was willing to do anything to get what he wanted, no matter what it cost to others. Although Nicholas had already been at odds with him several times in the past, their conflict escalated to a boiling point when news reached Nicholas that the magistrate had sentenced three men to death–for a crime Nicholas was sure they did not commit. Nicholas couldn’t wait this time for the cover of darkness. He knew he needed to act immediately to save these men from death.

Nicholas had been entertaining some generals from Rome that afternoon whose ship had docked in Myra’s port the night before. Nicholas had invited the generals to his home to hear news about some changes that had been taking place in Rome. A new emperor was about to take power, they said, and the implications might be serious for Nicholas and his flock of Christ-followers.

It was during their luncheon that Nicholas heard about the unjust sentencing and the impending execution. Immediately he set out for the site where the execution was to take place. The three generals, sensing more trouble might ensue once Nicholas arrived, set out after him.

When Nicholas burst onto the execution site, the condemned men were already on the platform. They were bound and bent over with their heads and necks ready for the executioner’s sword.

Without a thought for his own safety, Nicholas leapt onto the platform and tore the sword from the executioner’s hands. Although Nicholas was not a fighter himself, Nicholas made his move so unexpectedly that the executioner made little attempt to try to wrestle the sword back out of the bishop’s hands.

Nicholas knew these men were as innocent as the magistrate was guilty. He was certain that it must have been the men’s good deeds, not their bad ones, that had offended the magistrate. Nicholas untied the ropes of the innocent men in full view of the onlookers, defying both the executioner and the magistrate.

The magistrate came forward to face Nicholas squarely. But as he did so, the three generals who had been having lunch with Nicholas also stepped forward. One took his place on Nicholas’ left, another on Nicholas’ right and the third stood directly in front of him. Prudently, the magistrate took a step back. Nicholas knew that this was the time to press the magistrate for the truth.

Although the magistrate tried to defend himself, his pleas of fell on deaf ears. No one would believe his lies anymore. He tried to convince the people that it was not he who wanted to condemn these innocent men, but two other businessmen in town who had given him a bribe in order to have these men condemned. But by trying to shift the blame to others, the magistrate condemned himself for the greed that was in his heart.

Nicholas declared: “It seems that it was not these two men who have corrupted you, sir, but two others–whose names are Gold and Silver!”

Cut to the quick, the magistrate broke down and made a full confession in front of all the people for this and for all the other wrongs he had done, even for speaking ill of Nicholas, who had done nothing but good for the people. Nicholas set more than three prisoners free that day, as even the magistrate was finally set free from his greed by his honest confession. Seeing the heartfelt change in the magistrate, Nicholas pardoned him, forever winning the magistrate’s favor–and the people’s favor–from that moment on.

When Nicholas was born, his parents had named him Nicholas, which means in Greek “the people’s victor.” Through acts like these, Nicholas became “the people’s victor” both in name and in deed.

Nicholas was already becoming an icon–even in his own time.

CHAPTER 24

Within three months of receiving her unexpected dowry from Nicholas, Sophia had received a visit from a suitor–one who “suited her” just fine. He truly was the answer to her prayers, and she was thankfully, happily and finally married.

Two years later, however, Sophia’s younger sister Cecilia found herself in dire straights as well. Although Cecilia was ready to be married now, her father’s business had not improved, no matter how hard he tried. As the money that Nicholas had given to the family began to run out, their despair began to set in. Pride and sorrow had once again blinded Cecilia’s father to the truth, and he felt his only option was to commit Cecilia to a life of slavery, hoping to save his third and final daughter from a similar fate.

While they were confident that God had answered their prayers once, their circumstances had caused them to doubt that He could do it again. A second rescue at this point was more than they could have asked for or imagined.

Nicholas, however, knowing their situation by this time much more intimately, knew that God was prompting him again to intercede. It had been two years since his earlier rescue, but in all that time the family never suspected nor discovered that he was the deliverer of God’s gift.

As the time came closer to a decision on what they should do next, Nicholas knew his time to act had come as well. And in order to make it clear that his gift was to be used first and foremost for Cecilia’s dowry, and then after that for any other needs the family might have, he waited until the night before she was to be sold into slavery to make his move.

Once again waiting for the cover of darkness, Nicholas approached their house. Cecilia and Anna Maria had already gone to bed early that night, sent there by their father who had told them not to expect any similar miracle to what happened for Sophia. But somewhere in the depths of his despair, their father still had a glimmer of hope in his heart, a wish perhaps, more than anything else, that Someone really was watching out for him and that his prayers just might still be answered. With that hope, he decided to stay awake and stay close to the window, just in case some angel did appear–whether an earthly one or a heavenly one.

Nicholas knew this might happen, and he knew that Cecilia’s father might still reject his gift if he found out that Nicholas had given it. But he also hoped that perhaps her father’s proud heart had softened a bit and he would accept the gift even if Nicholas was discovered.

Seeing that the house was perfectly quiet, Nicholas knelt down beside the open window. He tossed the second bag of gold into the room.

The bag had barely hit the ground when the girls’ father leapt out of the window through which it had come and overtook Nicholas as he tried to flee. You might have thought that Nicholas had taken a bag of gold rather than given a bag of gold the way the girls’ father chased him down!

Fearing that all his efforts had been wasted, Nicholas’ heart was eased as the man didn’t rebuke Nicholas but thanked him without even looking at who he had caught.

“Please hear me out,” he said. “I just want to thank you. You’ve done so much already for me and my family that I couldn’t have expected such a gift again. But your generosity has opened my eyes to the pride in my heart–a pride that almost cost me the lives of two daughters now.”

The girls’ father had spoken both breathlessly and quickly to be sure that the stranger would hear him before trying to escape again. But when he looked up to see who he was talking to–Nicholas the priest–the shock on their father’s face was evident. How could a priest afford to give such an incredible gift?

In answer to this unasked question, Nicholas spoke: “Yes, it was I who delivered this gift to you, but it was God who gave it to me to give to you. It is not from the church and not from the charity of my own hand. It came from my father who earned it fairly by the work of his hands. He was a businessman like you. And if he were alive today, he would have wanted to give it to you himself. I’m sure of it. He, of all people, knew how difficult it was to run a business, just as you do. He also loved his family, just as you do, too.”

Nicholas paused to let his words sink in, then continued, “But please, for my sake and for God’s sake, please know that it was God Himself who has answered your prayers–for He has. I am simply a messenger for Him, a deliverer, a tool in His hands, allowing Him to do through me what I know He wants done. As for me, I prefer to do my giving in secret, not even letting my right hand know what my left hand is doing.”

The look on Nicholas’ face was so sincere and he conveyed his intentions with such love and devotion for the One whom he served, that the girls’ father could not help but to accept Nicholas’ gift as if it had truly come from the hand of God Himself.

But as they said their goodbyes, the girls and their father could hardly contain their thankfulness to Nicholas, too, for letting God use him in such a remarkable way.

As much as Nicholas tried to deflect their praise back to God, he also knew he did have a role to play in their lives. Although God prompts many to be generous in their hearts, not everyone responds to those promptings as Nicholas did.

Nicholas would wait to see how the family fared over the next few years to see if they would need any help for Anna Maria, too.

But Nicholas never got the chance. The new emperor had finally come into power, and the course of Nicholas’ life was about to change again. Even though Nicholas often came to the rescue of others, there were times when, like the Savior he followed, it seemed he was unable to rescue himself.

To be continued…next week!

(Or if you can’t wait, here’s a link to keep reading the rest of the story online OR you can get the paperback or eBook as a gift for yourself or others in our online bookstore.)

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

Here are a few pictures inside the St. Nicholas Church in Myra (present-day Demre), Turkey, which was has been built and rebuilt over the spot where St Nicholas’ bones were first entombed. The pictures here show an archway with a mosaic floor, light streaming into the main sanctuary, a tomb which has been broken into (Nicholas’ bones were removed in a nighttime raid in A.D. 1087 when they were under threat of destruction by invaders, then taken to Bari, Italy, where they remain today), and a fresco on a domed ceiling featuring Jesus and His disciples.

And here’s a 90-second video I shot of the church itself and how it impacted me when I first walked into it.

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Here is Christian identity: I know my past, where I came from.  I came from God.  I know what went wrong.  I tried to play God instead of being satisfied to be a real man.  I know my future.  My destiny is Christ.  And I know the present.  I can face myself now—my problems, my hang-ups, my assets, my faults—because I have turned myself over to God.

Leighton Ford


This Day's Verse

O Lord, your discipline is good and leads to life and health. Oh, heal me and make me live!

Isaiah 38:16
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

Men go abroad to wonder at the heights of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of the rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motions of the stars, and they pass by themselves without wondering.

Augustine


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The self-centered suffer when others disappoint them.  The Christ-centered suffer when they disappoint others.

Leonard Ravenhill


This Day's Verse

What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him?  If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that?  So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

James 2:14-17
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Success is neither fame, wealth nor power; rather it is seeking, knowing, loving and obeying God.  If you seek, you will know; if you know, you will love; if you love, you will obey.

Charles Malik


This Day's Verse

When the crowds learned it, they followed him; and he welcomed them and spoke to them of the kingdom of God, and cured those who had need of healing.

Luke 9:11
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The world is a looking glass and gives back to every man the reflection of his own face.

William Makepeace Thackeray


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday and Update from Eric and Greg


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Wherever God dwells he hides himself.  Men expect the Kingdom of God to come with observation; they know not that it is a hidden mystery, to be received only as God makes himself known in hearts surrendered and prepared for him.  Even when I cannot see the least evidence of the Holy Spirit’s working, I am quietly and reverently to believe that he dwells in me.

Andrew Murray


This Day's Verse

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.

Ephesians 1:3
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Stewardship is your commitment: the asking of God to take you back to himself—all that you have and all that you are.

Lawrence L. Durgin


This Day's Verse

“Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name.”

Psalm 91:14
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

To pray is nothing more involved than to lie in the sunshine of God’s grace.

Ole Hallesby


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- St. Nicholas: The Believer, Part 3 of 7


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
Part 3 of 7

by Eric & Lana Elder

 
Today I’m posting Part 3 of 7 of St. Nicholas: The Believer, a new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas! If you haven’t read parts 1 and 2, you can still read (or listen for free!) at this link.

Next weekend is the PREMIERE of “ONE LIFE,” a new ballet based on this book. I’ve just finished recording the final narrations that will tell the story between the scenes of the ballet. I’m so excited to see the book come to life. If you want to take a road trip/plane trip to South Carolina, I’ll be there!

And if you’re looking for a Sunday morning church service online, you can watch one live at 9 or 11 a.m. (CST) at live.eastview.church and recorded for playback anytime the same link.

Click here to listen to Part 3 of St. Nicholas: The Believer, or read the full text of Part 3 below!

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

by Eric & Lana Elder

PART 3

CHAPTER 12

Once again, Nicholas was standing on a beach, alone. This time, however, it was on the shores of the Holy Land, looking back across the Great Sea towards his home.

In the months following his visit to Bethlehem, Nicholas, along with his young guide and bodyguards, had searched for every holy place that they could find that related to Jesus. They had retraced Jesus’ steps from His boyhood village in Nazareth to the fishing town of Capernaum, where Jesus had spent most of His adult years.

They had waded into the Jordan River where Jesus had been baptized and they swam in the Sea of Galilee where He had walked on the water and calmed the storm.

They had visited the hillside where Jesus had taught about the kingdom of heaven, and they had marveled at the spot where He had multiplied the five loaves of bread and two fish to feed a crowd of over 5,000 people.

While it was in Bethlehem that Nicholas was filled with wonder and awe, it was in Jerusalem where he was filled with mission and purpose. Walking through the streets where Jesus had carried His cross to His own execution, Nicholas felt the weight on his shoulders as if he were carrying a cross as well. Then seeing the hill where Jesus had died, and the empty tomb nearby where Jesus had risen from the dead, Nicholas felt the weight on his shoulders lifting off, as Jesus must have felt when He emerged from the tomb in which He had been sealed.

It was in that moment that Nicholas knew what his mission and purpose in life would be: to point others to the One who would lift their burdens off as well. He wanted to show them that they no longer had to carry the burdens of their sin, pain, sickness and need all alone. He wanted to show them that they could cast all their cares on Jesus, knowing that Jesus cared for them. “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened,” Jesus had said, “and I will give you rest.”

The stories Nicholas had heard as a child were no longer vague and distant images of things that might have been. They were stories that had taken on new life for him, stories that were now three dimensional and in living color. It wasn’t just the fact that he was seeing these places with his own eyes. Others had done that, and some were even living there in the land themselves, but they had still never felt what Nicholas was feeling. What made the difference for Nicholas was that he was seeing these stories through the eyes of faith, through the eyes of a Believer, as one who now truly believed all that had taken place.

As his adventures of traveling to each of the holy sites came to an end, Nicholas returned to the spot where he had first felt the presence of God so strongly: to Bethlehem. He felt that in order to prepare himself better for his new calling in life, he should spend as much time as he could living and learning in this special land. While exploring the city of Bethlehem and its surroundings, he found another cave nearby, in the city of Beit Jala, that was similar to the cave in which Jesus had been born. He took up residence there in the cave, planning to spend as much time as he could living and learning how to live in this land where His Savior had lived.

Dimitri, Samuel and Ruthie had gained a new sense of mission and purpose for their lives as well. As much as they wanted to stay with Nicholas, they felt even more compelled to continue their important work of bringing more people to see these holy places. It was no longer just a way for them to provide a living for themselves, but they found it to be a holy calling, a calling to help others experience what they had experienced.

It had been four full years now since Nicholas had first arrived on this side of the Sea. During that time, he often saw his young friends as they brought more and more pilgrims to see what they had shown to Nicholas. In those few short years, he watched each of them grow up “in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men,” just as Jesus had done in His youth in Nazareth.

Nicholas would have been very happy to stay here even longer, but the same Spirit of God that had drawn him to come was now drawing him back home. He knew that he couldn’t stay on this mountaintop forever. There were people who needed him, and a life that was waiting for him back home, back in the province of Lycia. What that life held for him, he wasn’t sure. With his parents gone, there was little to pull him back home, but it was simply the Spirit of God Himself, propelling him forward on the next leg of his journey.

Making arrangements for a ship home was harder than it was to find a ship to come here, for the calm seas of summer were nearing their end and the first storms of winter were fast approaching. But Nicholas was convinced that this was the time, and he knew that if he waited any longer, he might not make it home again until spring–and the Spirit’s pull was too strong for that kind of delay.

So when he heard that a ship was expected to arrive any day now, one of the last of the season to sail through here on its way from Alexandria to Rome, he quickly arranged for passage. The ship was to arrive the next morning, and he knew he couldn’t miss it.

He had sent word, through a shopkeeper, to try to find his three best friends to let them know that he would be sailing in the morning. But as the night sky closed in, he had still not heard a word from them.

So he stood there on the beach alone, contemplating all that had taken place and all that had changed in his life since coming to the Holy Land–and all that was about to change as he left it. The thoughts filled him with excitement, anticipation and, to be honest, just a little bit of fear.

CHAPTER 13

Although Nicholas’ ship arrived the following morning just as expected, the children didn’t.

Later that afternoon, when the time came for him to board and the three still hadn’t shown up, Nicholas sadly resigned himself to the possibility that they just might miss each other entirely. He had started walking toward the ship when he felt a familiar tug at his sleeve.

“You a Christian?” came the voice once again, but this time with more depth as about four years were added to his life. It was Dimitri, of course. Nicholas turned on the spot and smiled his broadest smile.

“Am I a Christian? Without a doubt!” he said as he saw all three of them offering smiles to him in return. “And you?” he added, speaking to all three of them at once.

“Without a doubt!” they replied, almost in unison. It was the way they had spoken about their faith ever since their shared experience in Bethlehem, an experience when their doubts about God had faded away.

As Nicholas tried to take in all three of their faces just one more time, he wondered which was more difficult: to leave this precious land, or to leave these three precious youth whom he had met there. They all knew that God had called them together for a purpose, and they all trusted that God must now be calling them apart for another purpose, too, just as Nicholas had previously felt he was to move to Bethlehem and they were to continue their work taking pilgrims from city to city.

But just because they knew what God’s will was, it didn’t mean it was always easy to follow it. As Nicholas had often reminded them, tears were one of the strongest signs of love in the world. Without tears at the loss of those things that matter most, it would be hard to tell if those things really mattered at all.

A lack of tears wouldn’t be a problem today. Once again, Nicholas asked them all to hold out their right hands in front of them. As he reached into his pocket to find three of his largest coins to place into each of their outstretched hands, he found he wasn’t fast enough. Within an instant, all three children had wrapped their arms completely around Nicholas’ neck, his back and his waist, depending on their height. They all held on as tightly as possible, and as long as possible, before one of the ship’s crewmen signaled to Nicholas that the time had come.

As Nicholas gave each of them one last squeeze, he secretly slipped a coin into each of their pockets. Throughout their time together, Nicholas’ gifts had helped the children immeasurably. But it wasn’t Nicholas’ presents that blessed them so much as it was his presence–his willingness to spend so much time with them. Still, Nicholas wanted to give them a final blessing that they could discover later when he was gone, as he often did his best giving in secret.

Nicholas wasn’t sure whether to laugh or to cry at the thought of this final gift to them, so he did a little of both. Under his breath, he also offered a prayer of thanks for each of their lives, then bid them farewell, one by one. The children’s hugs were the perfect send-off as he stepped onto the ship and headed for home–not knowing that their hugs and kind words would also help to carry him through the dark days that he was about to face ahead.

CHAPTER 14

The wind whipped up as soon as Nicholas’ ship left the shore. The ship’s captain had hoped to get a head start on the coming storm, sailing for a few hours along the coast to the harbor in the next city before docking again for the night. It was always a longer trip to go around the edges of the Great Sea, docking in city after city along the way, instead of going directly across to their destination. But going straight across was also more perilous, especially at this time of year. So to beat the approaching winter, and the more quickly approaching storm, they wanted to gain as many hours as they could along the way.

Keeping on schedule, Nicholas found out, was more than just a matter of a captain wanting to make good on his contract with his clients. It was also soon to become a matter of life and death for the families of the crew on board, including the family of the captain. Nicholas found out that a famine had begun to spread across the empire, now affecting the crew’s home city back in Rome. The famine had begun in the countryside as rain had been sparse in the outlying areas, but now the shortages in the country were starting to deplete the reserves in Rome as well. Prices were rising and even families who could afford to pay for food were quickly depleting their resources to get it.

The ship’s captain was not a foolish man, having sailed on these seas for almost 30 years. But he also knew that the risk of holding back on their voyage at a time like this could mean they would be grounded for the rest of the winter. If that happened, his cargo of grain might perish by spring, as well as his family. So the ship pressed on.

It looked to Nicholas like they had made the right decision to set sail. He, too, felt under pressure to get this voyage underway, although it wasn’t family or cargo that motivated him. It was the Spirit of God Himself. He wouldn’t have been able to explain it to anyone except to those who had already experienced it. All he knew was that it was imperative that they start moving.

He had thought he might spend still more time in the Holy Land, perhaps even his entire life. It felt like home to him from the very beginning, as he had heard so many stories about it when he was growing up. He had little family waiting for him elsewhere, and up to this point, he was content to stay right where he was, except for the Spirit’s prompting that it was time to go.

The feeling started as a restlessness at first, a feeling that he was suddenly no longer content to stay where he was. He couldn’t trace the feeling to anything particular that was wrong with where he was, just that it was time to go. But where? Where did God want him to go? Did God have another site for him to see? Another part of the country in which he was supposed to live? Perhaps another country altogether that he was supposed to visit?

As the restlessness grew, his heart and his mind began to explore the options in more detail. He had found in the past that the best way to hear from God was to let go of his own will so that he could fully embrace God’s will, whatever that may be. While letting go was always hard for him, he knew that God would always lead him in the ways that were best. So, finally letting go of his own will, Nicholas began to see God’s will much more clearly in this situation as well. As much as he felt like the Holy Land was his new home, it wasn’t really his home. He felt strongly that the time had come for him to return to the region where he had been born, to the province of Lycia on the northern coast of the Sea. There was something, he felt, that God wanted him to do there–something for which he had been specifically equipped and called to do, and was, in fact, the reason that God had chosen for him to grow up there when he was young. Just as Nicholas had felt drawn to come to the Holy Land, he now felt drawn to return home.

To home he was headed, and to home he must go. That inner drive that he felt was as strong–if not stronger–than the drive that now motivated the ship’s captain and crew to get their cargo home, safe and sound, to their precious families.

Storm or no storm, they had to get home.

CHAPTER 15

Nicholas’ ship never made it to the next harbor along the coast. Instead, the storm they were trying to outrun had outrun them. It caught hold of their ship, pulling it away from the coast within the first few hours at sea. It kept pulling them further and further away from the coast until, three hours later, they found themselves inescapably caught in its torrents.

The crew had already lowered the sails, abandoning their attempts to force the rudder in the opposite direction. They now hoped that by going with the storm rather than against it they would have a better chance of keeping the ship in one piece. But this plan, too, seemed only to drive them into the deepest and most dangerous waters, keeping them near the eye of the storm itself.

After another three hours had passed, the sea sickness that had initially overcome their bodies was no longer a concern, as the fear of death itself was now overtaking all but the most resilient of those on board.

Nicholas, although he had traveled by ship before, was not among those considered to be most resilient. He had never experienced pounding waves like this before. And he wasn’t the only one. To a man, as the storm worsened, each began to speak of this as the worst storm they had ever seen.

The next morning, when the storm still hadn’t let up, and then again on the next morning and the next, and as the waves were still pounding them, they were all wondering why they had been in such a hurry to set out to beat the storm. Now they just hoped and prayed that God would let them live to see one more day, one more hour. As wave after wave pummeled the ship, Nicholas was simply praying they would make it through even one more wave.

His thoughts and prayers were filled with images of what it must have been like for the Apostle Paul, that follower of Christ who had sailed back and forth across the Great Sea several times in similar ships. It was on Paul’s last trip to Rome that he had landed in Myra, only miles from Nicholas’ hometown. Then, as Paul continued on from Myra to Rome, he faced the most violent storm he had ever faced at sea, a raging fury that lasted more than fourteen days and ended with his ship being blasted to bits by the waves as it ran aground on a sandbar, just off the coast of the island of Malta.

Nicholas prayed that their battle with the wind wouldn’t last for fourteen days. He didn’t know if they could make it through even one more day. He tried to think if there was anything that Paul had done to help himself and the 276 men who were on his ship with him to stay alive, even though their ship and its cargo were eventually destroyed. But as hard as he tried to think, all he could remember was that an angel had appeared to Paul on the night before they ran aground. The angel told Paul to take heart–that even though the ship would be destroyed, not one of the men aboard would perish. When Paul told the men about this angelic visit, they all took courage, as Paul was convinced that it would happen just as the angel said it would. And it did.

But for Nicholas, no such angel had appeared. No outcome from heaven had been predicted and no guidance had come about what they should or shouldn’t do. All he felt was that inner compulsion that he had felt before they departed–that they needed to get home as soon as they could.

Not knowing what else to do, Nicholas recalled a phrase of his father’s: “standing orders are good orders.” If a soldier wasn’t sure what to do next, even if the battle around him seemed to change directions, if the commanding officer hadn’t changed the orders, then the soldier was to carry on with the most recent orders given. Standing orders are good orders. It was this piece of wisdom from his father, more than any other thought, that guided Nicholas and gave him the courage to do what he did next.

CHAPTER 16

When the storm seemed to be at its worst, Nicholas’ thoughts turned to the children he had just left. His thoughts of them didn’t fill him with sadness, but with hope.

He began to take courage from the stories they had all learned about how Jesus had calmed the storm, how Moses had split the Red Sea and how Joshua had made the Jordan River stop flowing. Nicholas and the children had often tried to imagine what it must have been like to be able to exercise control over the elements like that. Nicholas had even, on occasion, tried to do some of these things himself, right along with Dimitri, Samuel and Ruthie. When it rained, they lifted their hands and prayed to try to stop the rain from coming down. But it just kept raining on their heads. When they got to the Sea of Galilee, they tried to walk on top of the water, just like Jesus did–and even Peter did, if only for a few short moments. But Nicholas and the children assumed they must not have had enough faith or strength or whatever it might have taken for them to do such things.

As another wave crashed over the side of the ship on which Nicholas was now standing, he realized there was a common thread that ran through each of these stories. Maybe it wasn’t their faith that was the problem after all, but God’s timing. In each instance from the stories he could remember, God didn’t allow those miracles on a whim, just for the entertainment of the people who were trying to do them. God allowed them because God had places for them to go, people they needed to see and lives that needed to be spared. There was an urgency in each situation that required the people to accomplish not only what was on their heart, but what was on God’s heart as well.

It seemed that the miracles were provided not because of their attempts to try to reorder God’s world, but in God’s attempts to try to reorder their worlds. It seemed to Nicholas that it must be a combination of their prayers of faith, plus God’s divine will, that caused a spark between heaven and earth, ignited by their two wills working together, that burst into a power that could move mountains.

When Jesus needed to get across the lake, but His disciples had already taken off in the boat, He was able to ignite by faith the process that allowed Him to walk on water, and thereafter calm the storm that threatened to take their lives when He finally did catch up to them.

“Standing orders are good orders,” Nicholas recalled, and he believed with all his heart that if God hadn’t changed His orders, then somehow they needed to do whatever they could to get to the other side of the Sea. But it wasn’t enough for God to will it. God was looking for someone willing, here on earth to will it, too, thereby completing the divine connection and causing the miracle to burst forth. Like Moses when he lifted his staff into the air or Joshua’s priests who took the first steps into the Jordan River, God needed someone to agree with Him in faith that what He had willed to happen in heaven should happen here on earth. God had already told Nicholas what needed to happen. Now it was up to Nicholas to complete the divine connection.

“Men!” Nicholas yelled to get the crew’s attention. “The God whom I serve, and who Has given each one of us life, wants us to reach our destination even more than we want to reach it. We must agree in faith, here and now, that God not only can do it, but that He wills us to do it. If you love God, or even if you think you might want to love God, I want you to pray along with me, that we will indeed reach our destination, and that nothing will stand in the way of our journey!”

As soon as Nicholas had spoken these words, the unthinkable happened: not only did the wind not stop, but it picked up speed! Nicholas faltered for a moment as if he had made some sort of cosmic mistake, some sort of miscalculation about the way God worked and what God wanted him to do. But then he noticed that even though the wind had picked up speed, it had also shifted directions, ever so slightly, but in such a distinct and noticeable way that God had gotten the attention of every man on board. Now, instead of being pounded by the waves from both sides, they were sailing straight through them, as if a channel had been cut into the waves themselves. The ship was driven along like this, not only for the next several moments, but for the next several hours.

When the speed and direction of the ship continued to hold its steady but impressively fast course, the captain of the ship came to Nicholas. He said he had never seen anything like this in his whole life. It was as if an invisible hand was holding the rudder of the ship, steady and straight, even though the ropes that held the rudder were completely unmanned, as they had been abandoned long ago when the winds first reached gale force.

Nicholas knew, too–even though he was certainly not as well seasoned as the captain–that this was not a normal phenomenon on the seas. He felt something supernatural taking control the moment he first stood up to speak to the men, and he felt it still as they continued on their path straight ahead.

What lay before them he didn’t know. But what he did know was that the One who had brought them this far was not going to take His hand off that rudder until His mission was accomplished.

CHAPTER 17

The storm that they thought was going to take their lives turned out to be the storm that saved many more. Rather than going the long way around the sea, following the coastline in the process, the storm had driven them straight across it, straight into the most dangerous path that they never would have attempted on their own at that time of year.

When they sighted land early on the morning of the fifth day, they recognized it clearly. It was the city of Myra, just a few miles away from Nicholas’ hometown, and the same city where the Apostle Paul had changed ships on his famous journey to Rome.

It was close enough to home that Nicholas knew in his heart that he was about to land in the exact spot where God wanted him to be. God, without a doubt, had spared his life for a purpose, a purpose which would now begin the next chapter of his life.

As they sailed closer to the beach, they could see that the storm that raged at sea had hardly been felt on shore.

The rains that had flooded their ship for the past several days, and that should have been watering the land as well, hadn’t made it inland for several months. The drought that the captain and sailors had told him had come to Rome had already been here in Lycia for two and a half years. The cumulative effect was that the crops that were intended to supply their reserves for the coming winter and for next year’s seed had already been depleted. If the people of Lycia didn’t get grain to eat now, many would never make it through the winter, and still more would die the following spring, as they wouldn’t have seed to plant another crop. This ship was one of the last that had made it out of the fertile valleys of Egypt before the winter, and its arrival at this moment in time was like a miracle in the eyes of the people. It was certainly an answer to their prayers.

But that answer wasn’t so clear to the captain of the ship. He had been under strict orders from the keeper of the Imperial storehouses in Rome that not one kernel of grain could be missing when the ship arrived back in Rome. The ship had been weighed in Alexandria before it left Egypt and it would be weighed again in Rome–and the captain would be held personally responsible for any discrepancy. The famine had put increasing pressure on the emperor to bring any kind of relief to the people. Not only this, but the families of the captain and crew themselves were awaiting the arrival of this food. Their jobs, and the lives of their families, relied on the safe delivery of every bit of grain aboard.

Yet without the faith and encouragement of Nicholas, the captain knew that the ship and its cargo would have been lost at sea, along with all of their lives.

While it was clear to Nicholas that God had brought him back to his homeland, he too wasn’t entirely certain what to do about the grain. While it seemed that giving at least some of the grain to the people of Myra was in order, Nicholas still tried to see it from God’s perspective. Was this city, or any other city throughout the empire, any more in need of the grain than Rome, which had bought and paid for it to be delivered? But it also seemed to Nicholas that the ship had been driven specifically to this particular city, in a straight and steady line through the towering waves.

The whole debate of what they were to do next took place within just a matter of minutes of their arrival on shore. And Nicholas and the captain had little time to think through what they were going to do, as the people of the city were already running out to see the ship for themselves, having been amazed at the way God had seemingly brought it to their famished port. They were gathering in larger and larger numbers to welcome the boat, and giving thanks and praise to God at the same time.

Both Nicholas and the captain knew that only God Himself could answer their dilemma. The two of them, along with the rest of the crew, had already agreed the night before–as they were so steadily and swiftly being carried along through the water–that the first thing they would do when they arrived on shore was to go to the nearest church and give thanks to God for His deliverance. Upon seeing where they had landed, Nicholas knew exactly where they could find that church. It was one that his family had visited from time to time as they traveled between these twin cities of Patara and Myra. Telling the people that their first order of duty was to give thanks to God for their safe passage, Nicholas and the captain and his crew headed to the church in Myra.

As they made their way across the city and up into the hills that cradled the church, they had no idea that the priests inside its walls had already been doing battle with a storm of their own.

To be continued…next week!

(Or if you can’t wait, here’s a link to keep reading the rest of the story online OR you can get the paperback or eBook as a gift for yourself or others in our online bookstore.)

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

And here are some pictures my daughter and I took of the actual city of Myra (today known as Demre) on the coast of Turkey where the real St. Nicholas lived and ministered in the 3rd and 4th centuries A.D. You can see here some rock tombs, an archway under a theater, and the entrances and exits of the same theater from behind the stage.

And here’s a 30-second video of the famous rock tombs of Myra, which were carved into the mountainside several hundred years before Nicholas’ arrival there.

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Click here to see the Rock Tombs in Myra, Turkey



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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A great many people are trying to make peace, but that has already been done.  God has not left it for us to do; all we have to do is to enter into it.

Dwight L. Moody


This Day's Verse

There is great gain in godliness with contentment;

1 Timothy 6:6
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

How easy is pen-and-paper piety!  I will not say it costs nothing; but it is far cheaper to work one’s head than one’s heart to goodness.  I can write a hundred meditations sooner than subdue the least sin in my soul.

Thomas Fuller


This particular week, we are so very thankful for you, our ministry members. We thank you for your prayers and support for so many years. Presently, during these months of November and December, we share once again our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is an imaginative story told of a day when the sun did not rise.  Six o’clock came and there was no sign of dawn.  At seven o’clock, there was still no ray of light.  At noon it was as black as midnight.  No birds sang and only the hoot of an owl broke the silence.  Then came the long black hours of the afternoon.  Finally evening arrived but no one slept at night,  Some wept, some wrung their hands in anguish.  Every church was thronged with people on their knees.  Thus they remained the whole night through.  After that long night of terror and agony, millions of eager, tear-streaked faces were turned toward the east.  When the sky began to grow red and the sun rose, there was a loud shout of joy.  Millions of lips said, “Bless the Lord O my soul!” because the sun had risen after one day of darkness.

The very consistency of God’s blessings sometimes seems to dull our  gratitude.  The wonderful thing about the mercies of God is that they are fresh every morning and new every evening.  Let us remember to be consistently thankful to our gracious God.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

Being enriched in every thing to all bountifulness, which causeth through us thanksgiving to God.

2 Corinthians 9:11
The King James Version


This particular week, we are so very thankful for you, our ministry members. We thank you for your prayers and support for so many years. Presently, during these months of November and December, we share once again our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

GRATITUDE

I thank You for these gifts, dear God,
Upon Thanksgiving Day—
For love and laughter and the faith
That bids me kneel to pray.

For life that lends me happiness,
And sleep that gives me rest;
These are the gifts that keep my heart
Serene within my breast.

Love, laughter, faith and life and sleep,
We cherish every one—
They carry us along the road
That leads from sun to sun.

Margaret E. Sangster


This Day's Verse

Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.

Psalm 100:4
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

When we eat the good bread, we are eating months of sunlight, weeks of rain and snow from the sky, richness out of the earth.  We should be great, each of us radiant, full of music and full of stories.  Able to run the way clouds do, able to dance like the snow and the rain.  But nobody takes time to think that he eats all these things and that sun, rain, snow are all a part of himself.

Monica Shannon


This particular week, we are so very thankful for you, our ministry members. We thank you for your prayers and support for so many years. Presently, during these months of November and December, we share once again our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly.  The hard truth is that all people love poorly.  We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly.  That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.

Henri Nouwen


This Day's Verse

“Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and will not be afraid; for the Lord God is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.”

Isaiah 12:2
The English Standard Version


This particular week, we are so very thankful for you, our ministry members. We thank you for your prayers and support for so many years. Presently, during these months of November and December, we share once again our year-end fundraising efforts, where we invite our readers to participate in supporting these ministries financially. In preparation of our next year, we would so value and appreciate your prayers and your donations, as we seek to strengthen and expand our ministries as we go forward together. Thank you!

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday and a Note from Greg


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Dear Ministry Members,

As we progress towards the end of this year, we wish to share our ministry’s goals and financial needs with you, so that we might begin our next year together on a firm financial foundation.

This is a particularly pivotal coming year in the life of our two ministries.

The Ranch was begun by Eric Elder and his wife Lana some 23 years ago and This Day’s thought was started by Greg Potzer 20 years ago. If you will recall, these were the very early years of the Internet…web sites and email communications, social media.

During the earliest of these years, both ministries were operated individually, but at the same time both Greg and Eric worked together on many of aspects of their respectful goals.

Then, in 2012, both ministries joined together in a more unified presentation & approach, and thus, for the last 9 years have worked seamlessly together.

We now are in the process of prayerful plans to both go forward into our next year, separated once again in order to maximize all our present opportunities, but still so very unified in our goal to serve the Lord.

You have always been so very generous and supportive of our ministry needs and at this time we would humbly ask that you might consider your financial support for this next year. You have always heard us share, “we need so very little but we need that little so very much,” and we must admit that has never been so true and important as it is now, as we approach this year end.

We currently reach over 40,000 people each and every day, from over 160 countries, with our Christian “seed-for-a-day,” offering encouragement & inspiration, and we hope to expand our reach even further with the blessing of your prayers and gifts.

So, if you might prayerfully consider donating to these efforts, and help us lay the very best foundation to be able to go forward, we thank you for all you past gracious support and hope you will find it in your hearts to do so even more so as we begin many more years together, in our praise and celebration of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Thank you dearly. Greg and Eric

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The happiest, sweetest, tenderest homes are not those where there has been no sorrow, but those which have been overshadowed with grief, and where Christ’s comfort was accepted.

J. R. Miller


This Day's Verse

“In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ ”

Acts 20:35
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

As in Paradise, God walks in the holy Scriptures, seeking man.

Ambrose of Milan


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- St. Nicholas: The Believer, Part 2 of 7


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
Part 2 of 7

by Eric & Lana Elder

As a way to help you keep Christ in Christmas, I’m posting the full version of a heartwarming Christmas story I’ve written called St. Nicholas: The Believer. Today, I’m posting Part 2 of 7. If you missed Part 1, you can still read it online at this link.)

I’m excited to tell you that in two weeks I’ll be in Columbia, South Carolina attending the premiere of “ONE LIFE: A CHRISTMAS STORY BALLET,” which is based on our book!

One Life, A Christmas Ballet Story based on the book, "St Nicholas: The Believer"

I’m can’t wait to see the characters from our story spring to life in 3D, whirling and twirling in this new Christmas spectacular! If you’re in the South Carolina area, I hope you’ll stop by, see the show and say “Hi!”  You can learn more at: https://scchristiandance.com/one-life/

(And if you’re looking for a Sunday morning church service online, you can watch one live at 9 or 11 a.m. (CST) at live.eastview.church and recorded for playback anytime the same link.)

For now, enjoy Part 2 of our special Christmas story…

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

by Eric & Lana Elder

Click here to listen to Part 2 of the Audiobook, St. Nicholas: The Believer.

PART 2

CHAPTER 6

Nicholas stood alone. He was on the same stretch of beach where his father had stood just ten years earlier, looking out at the sunrise and the waves on the seashore.

Nicholas’ father never made it out to look at the Great Sea again, having finally succumbed to the sickness himself. Nicholas’ mother passed away first, within two weeks of the first signs of illness. His father lasted another three days after that, as if holding on as long as he could to make sure his wife passed as peacefully as possible from this life to the next, and making sure Nicholas was as ready as possible to take the next steps in his own life.

Nicholas’ father didn’t shy away from tears, but he didn’t want them wasted on wrongful emotions either. “Don’t cry because it’s over,” his father had said to both his wife and his son. “Smile because it was beautiful.”

There was a time and place for anger and disappointment, but this wasn’t the time for either. If given the chance to do it all over again, his parents would have chosen to do exactly what they did. It was not foolishness, they said, to be willing to risk their lives for the sake of others, especially when there were no guarantees that they would have survived anyway.

As it turned out, the plague ended up taking the lives of almost a third of the people in Patara before it finally ran its course. The sickness seemed to have a mind of its own, affecting those who tried to shield themselves from it as well as those who, like his parents, had ventured out into the midst of it.

After the death of his parents, Nicholas felt a renewed sense of urgency to pick up where they had left off, visiting those who were sick and comforting the families of those who had died.

Then, almost as suddenly as it came to their city, the plague left. Nicholas had spent most of the next few weeks sleeping, trying to recover from the long days—and even longer nights—of ministering to those who were affected. When he was awake, he spent his time trying to process his own feelings and emotions in light of the loss of the family he loved. In so many ways, his parents were his life. His life was so intertwined with theirs, and having them taken so suddenly from him, he hardly knew what to do without them. He went to live with his uncle, a priest who lived in the monastery in Patara, until he was ready to venture out further into the world on his own. Now that time had come, and it was time for Nicholas to make his decision.

Unlike many others who had been orphaned by the plague, Nicholas had been left with a sizable inheritance. The question on his heart wasn’t what he would do to make a living, but what he would do to make a life. Through all that he had experienced, and now recognizing the brevity of life for himself, Nicholas now knew why his father had come so often to this shore to pray. Now it was Nicholas’ turn to consider his own future in light of eternity.

What should I do? Where should I go? How should I spend the rest of my days? The questions could have overwhelmed him, except that his father had prepared him well for moments like these, too.

His father, always a student of the writings of Scripture and of the life of Christ, had told him that Jesus taught that we needn’t worry so much about the trouble down the road as just the trouble for that day. Each day has enough trouble of its own, Jesus said.

As Nicholas thought about this, his burden lifted. He didn’t have to figure out what he was going to do with the rest of his life just yet. He only had to decide on his next step.

He had enough money to travel the length of the entire world back and forth three times and still have enough to live on for years to come. But that wasn’t really what he wanted to do. He had never had a desire to live wildly or lavishly, for the life he knew up to this point already gave him tremendous satisfaction. But there was one place he had always wanted to see with his own eyes.

As he looked out across the sea, to the south and to the west, he knew that somewhere in between lay the place he most wanted to visit—a land that seemed more precious in his mind than any other. It was the land where Jesus had lived, the land where He had walked and taught, the land where He was born and died, and the land where so many of the stories of His life—and almost the entirety of Scripture itself—had taken place.

Nicholas knew that some decisions in life were made only through the sweat and agony of prayer, trying desperately to decide between two seemingly good, but mutually exclusive paths. But this decision was not one of them. This was one of those decisions that, by the nature of the circumstances, was utterly simple to make. Apart from his uncle, there was little more to keep him in Patara, and nothing to stop him from following the desire that had been on his heart for so long.

He was glad his father had shown him this spot, and he was glad that he had come to it again today. He knew exactly what he was going to do next. His decision was as clear as the water in front of him.

CHAPTER 7

Nicholas’ arrival on the far shores of the Great Sea came sooner than he could have imagined. For so long he had wondered what it would be like to walk where Jesus walked, and now, at age 19, he was finally there.

Finding a boat to get there had been no problem, for his hometown of Patara was one of the main stopovers for ships traveling from Egypt to Rome, carrying people and cargo alike. Booking passage was as simple as showing that you had the money to pay, which Nicholas did.

But now that he had arrived, where would he go first? He wanted to see everything at once, but that was impossible. A tug at his sleeve provided the answer.

“You a Christian?” the small voice asked.

Nicholas looked down to see a boy not more than ten looking up at him. Two other children giggled nearby. To ask this question so directly, when it was dangerous in general to do so, showed that the boy was either a sincere follower of Christ looking for a fellow believer, or it showed that he had ulterior motives in mind. From the giggles of his little friends nearby, a boy and a girl just a bit younger than the one who had spoken, Nicholas knew it was probably the latter.

“You a Christian?” the boy asked again. “I show you holy places?”

Ah, that’s it, thought Nicholas. Enough pilgrims had obviously come here over the years that even the youngest inhabitants knew that pilgrims would need a guide once they arrived. Looking over the three children again, Nicholas felt they would suit him just fine. Nicholas had a trusting heart, and while he wasn’t naive enough to think that trouble wouldn’t find him here, he also trusted that the same God who had led him here would also provide the help he needed once he arrived. Even if these children were doing it just for the money, that was all right with Nicholas. Money he had. A map he didn’t. He would gladly hire them to be his living maps to the holy places.

“Yes, and yes,” Nicholas answered. “Yes, I am indeed a Christian. And if you would like to take me, then yes, I would be very interested to see the holy places. I would love for your friends to come along with us, too. That way, if we meet any trouble, they can defend us all!”

The boy’s mouth dropped open and his friends giggled again. It wasn’t the answer the boy had expected at all, at least not so fast and not without a great deal of pestering on his part. Pilgrims who arrived were usually much more skeptical when they stepped off their boats, shooing away anyone who approached them—at least until they got their land legs back and their bearings straight. But the boy quickly recovered from his shock and immediately extended his right hand in front of him, palm upraised, with a slight bow of his head. It gave Nicholas the subtle impression as if to say that the boy was at Nicholas’ service—and the not-so-subtle impression that the boy was ready for something to be deposited in his open hand. Nicholas, seeing another opportunity to throw the boy off guard, happily obliged.

He gently placed three of his smallest, but shiniest coins into the boy’s upraised palm and said, “My name is Nicholas. And I can see you’re a wise man. Now, if you’re able to keep your hand open even after I’ve set these coins in it, you’ll be even wiser still. For he who clenches his fist tightly around what he has received will find it hard to receive more. But he who opens his hand freely to heaven—freely giving in the same way that he has freely received—will find that his Father in heaven will usually not hold back in giving him more.”

Nicholas motioned with his hand that he intended for the boy to share what he had received with his friends, who had come closer at the appearance of the coins. The boy obviously was the spokesman for all three, but still he faltered for a moment as to what to do. This man was so different from anyone else the boy had ever approached. With others, the boy was always trying, usually without success, to coax even one such coin from their pockets, but here he had been given three in his very first attempt! The fact that the coins weren’t given grudgingly, but happily, did indeed throw him off balance. He had never heard such a thought like that of keeping his hands open to give and receive. His instinct would have been to instantly clench his fist tightly around the coins, not letting go until he got to the safest place he could find, and only then could he carefully inspect them and let their glimmers shine in his eyes. Yet he stood stock still, with his hand still outstretched and his palm facing upward. Almost against his own self-will, he found himself turning slightly and extending his hand to his friends.

Seizing the moment, the two others each quickly plucked a coin from his hand. Within an instant of realizing that they, too, were about to clench their fists around their newly acquired treasure, they slowly opened their fingers as well, looking up at the newly arrived pilgrim with a sense of bewilderment. They were bewildered not just that he had given them the coins, but that they were still standing there with their palms open, surprising even themselves that they were willing to follow this man’s peculiar advice.

The sight of it all made Nicholas burst out in a gracious laugh. He was delighted by their response and he quickly deposited two more of his smallest coins into each of their hands, now tripling their astonishment. It wasn’t the amount of the gifts that had astonished them, for they had seen bigger tips from wealthier pilgrims, but it was the generous and cheerful spirit that accompanied the gifts that gave them such a surprise.

The whole incident took place in less than a minute, but it set Nicholas and his new friends into such a state that each of them looked forward to the journey ahead.

“Now, you’d better close your hands again, because a wise man—or woman–“ he nodded to the little girl, “also takes care of that which they have been given so that it doesn’t get lost or stolen.”

Then, turning to walk toward the city, Nicholas said, “How about you let me get some rest tonight, and then, first thing in the morning, you can start showing me those holy places?”

While holy places abounded in this holy land, in the magical moments that had just transpired, it seemed to the three children—and even to Nicholas himself–that they had just stepped foot on their first.

CHAPTER 8

Nicholas woke with the sun the next morning. He had asked the children to meet him at the inn shortly after sunrise. His heart skipped a beat with excitement about the day ahead. Within a few minutes, he heard their knock–and their unmistakable giggles–at the door.

He found out that their names were Dimitri, Samuel and Ruthie. They were, to use the common term, “alumni,” children whose parents had left them at birth to fend for themselves. Orphans like these dotted the streets throughout the Roman Empire, byproducts of people who indulged their passions wherever and with whomever they wanted, with little thought for the outcome of their actions.

While Dimitri could have wallowed in self-pity for his situation, he didn’t. He realized early on that it didn’t help to get frustrated and angry about his circumstances. So he became an entrepreneur.

He began looking for ways he could help people do whatever they needed, especially those things which others couldn’t do, or wouldn’t do, for themselves. He wasn’t often rewarded for his efforts, but when he was, it was all worth it.

He wasn’t motivated by religion, for he wasn’t religious himself, and he wasn’t motivated by greed, for he never did anything that didn’t seem right if it were just for the money, as greedy people who only care about money often do. He simply believed that if he did something that other people valued, and if he did it good enough and long enough, then somehow he would make it in life. Some people, like Dimitri, stumble onto godly wisdom without even realizing it.

Samuel and Ruthie, on the other hand, were just along for the ride. Like bees drawn to honey, Samuel and Ruthie were drawn to Dimitri, as often happens when people find someone who is trying to do what’s right. Samuel was eight, and like Dimitri, wasn’t religious himself, but had chosen his own name when he heard someone tell the story of another little boy named Samuel who, when very young, had been given away by his parents to be raised by a priest. Samuel, the present-day one, loved to hear about all that the long-ago Samuel had done, even though the other one had lived over 1,000 years before. This new Samuel didn’t know if the stories about the old Samuel were true, but at the time he chose his name, he didn’t particularly care. It was only in the past few months, as he had been traveling to the holy sites with Dimitri, that he had begun to wonder if perhaps the stories really were true.

Now Ruthie, even though she was only seven, was as sharp as a tack. She always remembered people’s names and dates, what happened when and who did what to whom. Giggling was her trademark, but little though she was, her mind was eager to learn and she remembered everything she saw and everything she was taught. Questions filled her mind, and naturally spilled right out of her mouth.

Dimitri didn’t mind these little tag-alongs, for although it might have been easier for him to do what he did by himself, he also knew of the dangers of the streets and felt compelled to help these two like an older brother might help his younger siblings. And to be completely honest, he didn’t have anyone else to call family, so finding these two a few years earlier had filled a part of his heart in a way that he couldn’t describe, but somehow made him feel better.

Nicholas took in the sight of all three beaming faces at his door. “Where to first?” asked Dimitri.

“Let’s start at the beginning,” said Nicholas, “the place where Jesus was born.” And with that they began the three-day walk from the coast of Joppa to the hills of Bethlehem.

CHAPTER 9

After two days of walking and sleeping on hillsides, Nicholas and his new friends had just a half day left before they reached Bethlehem. For Nicholas, his excitement was building with every hill they passed, as he was getting closer and closer to the holy place he most wanted to see, the birthplace of Jesus.

“Why do you think He did it?” asked Dimitri. “I mean, why would Jesus want to come here—to earth? If I were already in heaven, I think I’d want to stay there.”

Even though Dimitri was supposed to be the guide, he didn’t mind asking as many questions as he could, especially when he was guiding someone like Nicholas, which didn’t happen very often.

Nicholas didn’t mind his asking, either, as Nicholas had done the same thing back home. His parents belonged to a community of believers that had been started about 250 years earlier by the Apostle Paul himself when Paul had visited their neighboring city of Myra on one of his missionary journeys, telling everyone who would listen about Jesus. Paul had lived at the same time as Jesus, although Paul didn’t become a believer himself until after Jesus died and rose again from the dead. Paul’s stories were always remarkable.

Nicholas got to hear all of the stories that Paul had told while he was in Myra, as they were written down and repeated by so many others over the years.

As a child, Nicholas thought that anything that happened 250 years ago sounded like ancient history. But as he started to get a little older, and now that his parents had passed away, too, it didn’t seem that long ago at all. The stories that Nicholas heard were the same stories his father and his grandfather and his great grandfather, back to six or seven generations, had heard, some for the very first time from the Apostle Paul in person. Nicholas loved to hear them over and over, and he asked many of the same questions that Dimitri was now asking him—like why would Jesus leave heaven to come down to earth in person.

“The simple answer is because He loved us,” said Nicholas. “But that alone probably doesn’t answer the question you’re really asking, because God has always loved us. The reason Jesus came to earth was, well, because there are some things that need to be done in person.”

Nicholas went on to explain the gospel–the good news–to the children of how Jesus came to pay the ultimate price with His life for anything we had ever done wrong, making a way for us to come back to God with a clean heart, plus live with Him in heaven forever.

Throughout the story, the children stared at Nicholas with rapt attention. Although they had been to Bethlehem many times before and had often taken people to the cave that was carved into the hillside where it was said that Jesus was born, they had never pictured it in their minds quite like this before. They had never understood the motivations behind why God did what He did. And they had never really considered that the stories they heard about Jesus being God in the flesh were true. How could He be?

Yet hearing Nicholas’ explanation made so much sense to them, that they wondered why they had never considered it as true before. In those moments, their hearts and minds were finally opened to at least the possibility that it was true. And that open door turned out to be the turning point for each of them in their lives, just as it had been for Nicholas when he first heard the Truth. God really did love them, and God had demonstrated that love for them by coming to the earth to save them from their certain self-destruction.

For Nicholas, when he first heard about the love of the Father for him, the idea was fairly familiar to him because he had already had a good glimpse of what the love of a father looked like from the love of his own father. But to Dimitri, Samuel and Ruthie, who had never had a father, much less one like Nicholas had just described, it was simultaneously one of the most distantly incomprehensible, yet wonderfully alluring descriptions of love they had ever heard.

As they made their way through the hills toward Bethlehem, they began to skip ahead as fast as their hearts were already skipping, knowing that they would soon see again the place where God had, as a Man, first touched earth less than 300 years earlier. They would soon be stepping onto ground that was indeed holy.

CHAPTER 10

It was evening when they finally arrived at their destination. Dimitri led them through the city of Bethlehem to the spot where generations of pilgrims had already come to see the place where Jesus was born: a small cave cut into the hillside where animals could easily have been corralled so they wouldn’t wander off.

There were no signs to mark the spot, no monuments or buildings to indicate that you were now standing on the very spot where the God of the universe had arrived as a child. It was still dangerous anywhere in the Roman Empire to tell others you were a Christian, even though the laws against it were only sporadically enforced.

But that didn’t stop those who truly followed Christ from continuing to honor the One whom they served as their King. Although Jesus taught that His followers were to still respect their earthly rulers, if forced to choose between worshipping Christ or worshipping Caesar, both the Christians and Caesar knew who the Christians would worship. So the standoff continued.

The only indication that this was indeed a holy site was the well-worn path up the hill that made its way into and out of the cave. Tens of thousands of pilgrims had already made their way to this spot during the past 250 years. It was well known to those who lived in Bethlehem, for it was the same spot that had been shown to pilgrims from one generation to the next, going back to the days of Christ.

As Dimitri led the three others along the path to the cave, Nicholas laughed, a bit to himself, and a bit out loud. The others turned to see what had made him burst out so suddenly. He had even surprised himself! Here he was at the one holy site he most wanted to see, and he was laughing.

Nicholas said, “I was just thinking of the wise men who came to Bethlehem to see Jesus. They probably came up this very hill. How regal they must have looked, riding on their camels and bringing their gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. For a moment I pictured myself as one of those kings, riding on a camel myself. Then I stepped in some sheep dung by the side of the road. The smell brought me back in an instant to the reality that I’m hardly royalty at all!”

“Yes,” said Ruthie, “but didn’t you tell us that the angels spoke to the shepherds first, and that they were the first ones to go and see the baby? So smelling a little like sheep dung may not make you like the kings, but it does make you like those who God brought to the manger first!”

“Well said, Ruthie,” said Nicholas. “You’re absolutely right.”

Ruthie smiled at her insight, and then her face produced another thoughtful look. “But maybe we should still bring a gift with us, like the wise men did?” The thought seemed to overtake her, as if she was truly concerned that they had nothing to give to the King. He wasn’t there anymore to receive their gifts, of course, but still she had been captivated by the stories about Jesus that Nicholas had been telling them along the road. She thought that she should at least bring Him some kind of gift.

“Look!” she said, pointing to a spot on the hill a short distance away. She left the path and within a few minutes had returned with four small, delicate golden flowers, one for each of them. “They look just like gold to me!”

She smiled from ear to ear now, giving each one of them a gift to bring to Jesus. Nicholas smiled as well. There’s always something you can give, he thought to himself. Whether it’s gold from a mine or gold from a flower, we only bring to God that which is already His anyway, don’t we? 

So with their gifts in hand, they reached the entrance to the cave—and stepped inside.

CHAPTER 11

Nothing could have prepared Nicholas for the strong emotion that overtook him as he entered the cave.

On the ground in front of him was a makeshift wooden manger, a feeding trough for animals probably very similar to the one in which Jesus had been laid the night of His birth. It had apparently been placed in the cave as a simple reminder of what had taken place there. But the effect on Nicholas was profound.

One moment he had been laughing at himself and watching Ruthie pick flowers on the hillside and the next moment, upon seeing the manger, he found himself on his knees, weeping uncontrollably at the thought of what had taken place on this very spot.

He thought about everything he had ever heard about Jesus—about how He had healed the sick, walked on water and raised the dead. He thought about the words Jesus had spoken—words that echoed with the weight of authority as He was the Author of life itself. He thought about his own parents who had put their lives on the line to serve this Man called Jesus, who had died for him just as He had died for them, giving up their very lives for those they loved.

The thoughts flooded his mind so fully that Nicholas couldn’t help sobbing with deep, heartfelt tears. They came from within his very soul. Somewhere else deep inside him, Nicholas felt stirred like he had never felt in his life. It was a sensation that called for some kind of response, some kind of action. It was a feeling so different from anything else he had ever experienced, yet it was unmistakably clear that there was a step he was now supposed to take, as if a door were opening before him and he knew he was supposed to walk through it. But how?

As if in answer to his question, Nicholas remembered the golden flower in his hand. He knew exactly what he was supposed to do, and he wanted more than anything to do it.

He took the flower and laid it gently on the ground in front of the wooden manger. The golden flower wasn’t just a flower anymore. It was a symbol of his very life, offered up now in service to his King.

Nicholas knelt there for several minutes, engulfed in this experience that he knew, even in the midst of it, would affect him for the rest of his life. He was oblivious to anything else that was going on around him. All he knew was that he wanted to serve this King, this Man who was clearly a man in every sense of the word, yet was clearly one and the same with God as well, the very essence of God Himself.

As if slowly waking from a dream, Nicholas began to become aware of his surroundings again. He noticed Dimitri and Samuel on his left and Ruthie on his right, also on their knees. Having watched Nicholas slip down to his knees, they had followed suit. Now they looked alternately, back and forth between him and the manger in front of him.

The waves of emotion that had washed over Nicholas were now washing over them as well. They couldn’t help but imagine what he was experiencing, knowing how devoted he was to Jesus and what it had willingly cost Nicholas’ parents to follow Him. Each of them, in their own way, began to experience for themselves what such love and devotion must feel like.

Having watched Nicholas place his flower in front of the manger, they found themselves wanting to do the same. If Jesus meant so much to Nicholas, then certainly they wanted to follow Jesus as well. They had never in their entire lives experienced the kind of love that Nicholas had shown them in the past three days. Yet somehow they knew that the love that Nicholas had for them didn’t originate with Nicholas alone, but from the God whom Nicholas served. If this was the kind of effect that Jesus had on His followers, then they wanted to follow Jesus, too.

Any doubts that Nicholas had had about his faith prior to that day were all washed away in those timeless moments. Nicholas had become, in the truest sense of the word, a Believer. 

And from those very first moments of putting his faith and trust fully in Jesus, he was already inspiring others to do the same.

To be continued…next week!

(Or if you can’t wait, here’s a link to keep reading the rest of the story online OR you can get the paperback or eBook as a gift for yourself or others in our online bookstore.)

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

 

Here are a few pictures of the Holy Land (taken by my daughter, Makari on a trip we took there a few years ago): a waterfall in the mountains of En Gedi where David fled from King Saul, an unmarked tomb by the side of a road, and the Temple Mount in Jerusalem where Jesus once walked, taught, and touched people’s lives 2,000 years ago.

And here’s a short video clip I took while visiting Bethlehem, showing the star on the ground which has been shown to believers since the days of St. Nicholas as the location of the stable where Jesus was born. A church was first built over this spot just a few dozen years after the real St. Nicholas visited there.

Click here to see inside the Church of the Nativity in Bethlehem


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Don’t be afraid to desire great mercies from the God of heaven.

John Bunyan


This Day's Verse

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Though weary, love is not tired;
Though pressed, it is not straitened;
Though alarmed, it is not confounded.
Love securely passes through all.

Thomas Kempis


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If you check out the life of Jesus you will discover what made him perfect.  He did not attain a state of perfection by carrying around in his pocket a list of rules and regulations, or by seeking to conform to the cultural mores of his time.  He was perfect because he never made a move without his Father.

Tom Skinner


This Day's Verse

For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 6:23
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

No sorrow touches man until it has been filtered through the heart of God.

Joseph D. Blinco


This Day's Verse

In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.

Psalm 4:8
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The soul is not where it lives but where it loves.

Thomas Fuller 


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday and Update from Eric

Update from Eric Elder: Today’s “Thoughts” follow this brief update, but I wanted to let you know we’ve received $5,145.30 so far from 67 of our wonderful subscribers…

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This Day's Thought from The RanchThe storm was raging.  The sea was beating against the rocks in huge, dashing waves.  The lightning was flashing, the thunder was roaring, the wind was blowing; but the little bird was sound asleep in the crevice of the rock, its head tucked serenely under its wing.  That is peace: to be able to sleep in the storm!  In Christ we are relaxed and at peace in the midst of the confusions, bewilderments and perplexities of this life.  The storm rages, but our hearts are at rest.  We have found peace—at last!

Billy Graham


This Day's Verse

Let me ask you only this: Did you receive the Spirit by works of the law, or by hearing with faith?

Galatians 3:2
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We have to pray with our eyes on God, not on the difficulties.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

That I may proclaim with the voice of thanksgiving, And tell of all Your wondrous works.

Psalm 26:7
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Because of a friend, life is a little stronger, fuller, more gracious thing for the friend’s existence, whether he be near or far.  If the friend is close at hand, that is best; but if he is far away he still is there to think of, to wonder about, to hear from, to write to, to share life and experience with, to serve, to honor, to admire, to love.

Arthur Christopher Benson


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- St. Nicholas: The Believer, Part 1 of 7


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

ST. NICHOLAS: THE BELIEVER
A New Story for Christmas Based on the Old Story of St. Nicholas

Part 1 of 7 (Click here to listen)

by Eric & Lana Elder

 
Starting today and for the next 6 Sundays leading up to Christmas, I’ll be posting the entire book that my late wife Lana and I wrote about the real St. Nicholas who lived in the 3rd and 4th centuries A.D. Nicholas had a strong faith in Christ, and I’d love to tell you about it! His story will encourage you to keep putting your faith in Christ for everything in your life.

New this year, I’ll also be posting a few songs that a friend and I have written for an upcoming ballet that is being staged this Christmas by 250 kids at a wonderful Christian Ballet company in South Carolina. The ballet is called “One Life,” a name taken from the tag line of the book that says: “Nicholas had just one life to live, but if he lived it right, one life was all he would need.”

One Life, A Christmas Ballet Story based on the book, "St Nicholas: The Believer"

If you live in the South Carolina area and want to see the show, you can get tickets here! I’ll be at the show November 30th and December 1st and would love to meet you! I’ll be posting some songs in the weeks ahead.

If you’re looking for a Sunday sermon, you can watch one live at 9 or 11 a.m. (CST) at live.eastview.church or recorded for playback later at the same link.

Without further adieu, I present to you, St. Nicholas: The Believer!

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

(Also available in paperback in English or Spanish as a Christmas gift for you or others!)

DEDICATION

This book is dedicated to my sweet wife, Lana, who inspired me and helped me to tell you this spectacular story.

Lana had just finished making her final edits and suggestions on this book the week before she passed from this life to the next, way too young at the age of 48.

It was her idea and her dream to share the story of St. Nicholas with as many people as possible. She wanted to inspire them to give their lives to others as Jesus had given His life for us. This book is the first step in making that dream a reality.

To the world Lana may have been just one person, but to me she was the world. This book is lovingly dedicated to her.

INTRODUCTION

by Eric Elder

There was a time when I almost gave up celebrating Christmas. Our kids were still young and weren’t yet hooked on the idea of Santa Claus and presents, Christmas trees and decorations.

I had read that the Puritans who first came to America were so zealous in their faith that they didn’t celebrate Christmas at all. Instead they charged fines to businesses in their community who failed to keep their shops open on Christmas day. They didn’t want anything to do with a holiday that was, they felt, rooted in paganism. As a new believer and a new father myself, the idea of going against the flow of the excesses of Christmas had its appeal, at least in some respects.

Then I read an article by a man who simply loved celebrating Christmas. He could think of no greater way to celebrate the birth of the most important figure in human history than throwing the grandest of parties for Him–gathering and feasting and sharing gifts with as many of his family and friends as possible. This man was a pastor of deep faith and great joy. For him, the joy of Christ’s birth was so wondrous that he reveled in every aspect of Christmas, including all the planning, decorating and activities that went along with it. He even loved bringing Santa Claus into the festivities, our modern-day version of the very real and very ancient Saint Nicholas, a man of deep faith and great joy as well who Himself worshipped and adored the Baby who was born in Bethlehem.

So why not celebrate the birth of Christ? Why not make it the biggest party of the year? Why not make it the “Hap-Happiest season of all”?

I was sold. Christmas could stay–and my kids would be much hap-happier for it, too.

I dove back into celebrating Christmas with full vigor, and at the same time took a closer look into the life of the real Saint Nicholas, a man who seemed almost irremovably intertwined with this Holy Day. I discovered that Saint Nicholas and Santa Claus were indeed one and the same, and that the Saint Nicholas who lived in the 3rd and 4th centuries after the birth of Christ was truly a devout follower of Christ himself.

As my wife and I read more and more about Nicholas’ fascinating story, we became enthralled with this believer who had already been capturing the hearts and imaginations of believers and nonbelievers alike throughout the centuries.

With so many books and movies that go to great lengths to tell you the “true” story of Santa Claus (and how his reindeer are really powered by everything from egg nog to Coca-Cola), I’ve found that there are very few stories that even come close to describing the actual person of who Saint Nicholas was, and in particular, what he thought about the Man for whom Christmas is named, Jesus Christ. I was surprised to learn that with all the historical documents that attest to Saint Nicholas’ faith in Christ, compelling tellings of those stories seem to have fallen by the wayside over the ages.

So with the encouragement and help of my sweet wife, Lana, we decided to bring the story of Saint Nicholas back to life for you, with a desire to help you recapture the essence of Christmas for yourself.

While some people, with good reason, may still go to great lengths to try to remove anything that might possibly hint of secularism from this holiest day of the year, it seems to me equally fitting to go to great lengths to try to restore Santa to his rightful place–not as the patron saint of shopping malls, but as a beacon of light that shines brightly on the One for whom this Holy Day is named.

It is with deep faith and great joy that I offer you this Christmas novella–a little story. I’ve enjoyed telling it and I hope you’ll enjoy hearing it. It just may be the most human telling of the story of Saint Nicholas you’ve ever heard.

Above all, I pray that God will use this story to rekindle your love, not only for this season of the year, but for the One who makes this season so bright.

May God bless you this Christmas and always!

In Christ’s love,
Eric Elder

P.S. I’ve divided this story into 7 parts and 40 chapters to make it easier to read. If you’d like, you can read one part a day as I send them out for the next 6 Sundays leading up to Christmas. Or if you’d like to use this book as a daily devotional, you can read a chapter a day for 40 days!

PART 1

PROLOGUE

My name is Dimitri–Dimitri Alexander. But that’s not important. What’s important is that man over there, lying on his bed. He’s–well, I suppose there’s really no better way to describe him except to say–he’s a saint. Not just because of all the good he’s done, but because he was–as a saint always is–a Believer. He believed that there was Someone in life who was greater than he was, Someone who guided him, who helped him through every one of his days.

If you were to look at him closely, lying there on his bed, it might look to you as if he was dead. And in some sense, I guess you would be right. But the truth is, he’s more alive now than he has ever been.

My friends and I have come here today to spend his last day on earth with him. Just a few minutes ago we watched as he passed from this life to the next.

I should be crying, I know. Believe me, I have been–and I will be again. But for now, I can’t help but simply be grateful that he has finally made it to his new home, a home that he has been dreaming about for many years. A home where he can finally talk to God face to face, like I’m talking to you right now.

Oh, he was a saint all right. But to me, and to so many others, he was something even more. He was–how could I put it? An inspiration. A friend. A teacher. A helper. A giver. Oh, he loved to give and give and give some more, until it seemed he had nothing left to give at all. But then he’d reach down deep and find a little more. “There’s always something you can give,” as he would often say.

He always hoped, in some small way, that he could use his life to make a difference in the world. He wanted, above all, to help people. But with so many needs all around, what could he possibly do?

He was like a man on a beach surrounded by starfish that had been washed up onto the shore. He knew that they would die if they didn’t make it back into the water.

Not knowing how to save them all, the man on the beach did what he could. He reached down, picked one up, and tossed it back into the water. Then reached down again, picked up another, and did the same.

Someone once asked the man why he bothered at all–that with so many needs all around, how could he possibly make any difference. He’d just toss another starfish into the water and say, “It made a difference to that one.” Then he’d reach down and pick up another.

You see, to the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.

In many ways, my friend was just like you and me. Each one of us has just one life to live. But if you live it right, one life is all you need. And if you live your life for God, well, you just might touch the whole world.

Did his life make any difference? I already know my answer, because I’m one of those that he reached down and picked up many, many years ago. But how about I tell you his story, and when I get to the end, I’ll let you decide if his life made a difference or not. And then maybe, by the time we’re finished, you’ll see that your life can make a difference, too.

Oh, by the way, I haven’t told you his name yet, this man who was such a great saint, such a great believer in the God who loved him, who created him, who sustained him and with whom he is now living forever.

His name is Nicholas–and this is his story.

CHAPTER 1

Nicholas lived in an ideal world. At least that’s the way he saw it. As a nine-year-old boy, growing up on the northern coast of what he called the Great Sea–you might call it the Mediterranean–Nicholas couldn’t imagine a better life.

He would often walk through the streets with his father, acting as if they were on their way to somewhere in particular. But the real reason for their outing was to look for someone who was struggling to make ends meet, someone who needed a lift in their life. A simple hello often turned into the discovery of a need to be met. Nicholas and his father would pray, and if they could meet the need, they found a way to do it.

Nicholas couldn’t count the number of times his dad would sneak up behind someone afterwards and put some apples in their sack, or a small coin or two. As far as Nicholas knew, no one ever knew what his father had done, except to say that sometimes they heard people talking about the miracle of receiving exactly what they needed at just the right time, in some unexpected way.

Nicholas loved these walks with his father, just as he loved his time at home with his mother. They had shown the same love and generosity with him as they had shown to so many others.

His parents had somehow found a way to prosper, even in the turbulent times in which they lived. They were, in fact, quite wealthy. But whether their family was rich or poor seemed to make no difference to Nicholas. All he knew or cared about was that his parents loved him like no one else on earth. He was their only son, and their times together were simple and truly joyful.

Their richest times came at night, as they shared stories with each other that they had heard about a Man who was like no other Man they had ever known. A Man who lived on the other side of the Great Sea about 280 years earlier. His name was Jesus. Nicholas was enthralled with the stories of this Man who seemed to be so precious in the eyes of his parents. Jesus seemed both down-to-earth and larger-than-life, all at the same time. How could anyone be so humble, yet so noble? How could He be so poor that He was born in an animal stable, yet so generous that He could feed 5,000 people? How could He live His life so fully, yet die a death so cruelly? Jesus was, to Nicholas, an enigma, the most fascinating person about whom he’d ever heard. One day, Nicholas thought to himself, he hoped to visit this land on the other side of the sea–and walk where Jesus walked.

For all the love that Nicholas and his parents shared and which held them together, there was one thing that threatened to pull them apart. It was the one thing that seemed to be threatening many families in their country these days, irrespective of their wealth or poverty, their faith or lack of faith, their love for others or their lack of love.

Nicholas’ friends and neighbors called it the plague. His parents had mentioned it from time to time, but only in their prayers. They prayed for the families who were affected by the plague, asking God for healing when possible, and for strength of faith when not. Most of all, his parents prayed for Nicholas that regardless of what happened around him, he would always know how very much they loved him, and how very much God loved him.

Even though Nicholas was so young, he had seen enough of life to know that real threats existed in the world. Yet he also had been shielded from those threats, in a way, by the love of his parents and by their devout faith in God. As his father had learned over the years, and had many times reminded Nicholas, “In all things, God works for the good of those who love Him.” And Nicholas believed him. Up to this point, he’d had no real reason to doubt the words his father had spoken.

But it would be only a matter of months before Nicholas’ faith would be challenged and he would have to decide if he really believed those words for himself—that in all things, God would truly work for the good of those who loved Him.

Tonight, however, he simply trusted the words of his father, listening to his parents’ prayers for him–and for those in his city–as he drifted off into a perfect sleep.

CHAPTER 2

Nicholas woke to the sounds of birds out his window. The air was fresh, washed clean by the seaside mist in the early morning.

But the news this morning was less than idyllic. A friend of Nicholas’ family had contracted the sickness that they had only heard about from people in other cities. The boy was said to be near the point of death.

Nicholas’ father had heard the news first and had gone to pray for the boy. Returning home just as Nicholas awoke, his father shared the news with his wife and with Nicholas.

“We need to pray,” he said, with no hint of panic in his voice, but with an unmistakable urgency that caused all three of them to slip down to their knees.

Nicholas’ father began the prayer: “Father, You know the plans You have for this child. We trust You to carry them out. We pray for Your healing as we love this boy, but we know that You love him even more than we do. We trust that as we place him in Your hands this morning, You will work all things together for good, as You always do for those who love You.”

It was a prayer Nicholas had heard his father pray many times before, asking for what they believed was best in every situation, but trusting that God knew best in the end. It was the same type of prayer Nicholas had heard that Jesus had prayed the night before He died: “If You are willing,” Jesus prayed, “take this cup from Me. Yet not My will, but Yours be done.”

Nicholas never quite knew what to make of this prayer. Wouldn’t God always want what’s best for us? And how could someone’s death ever be a good thing? Yet his father prayed that prayer so often, and with such sincerity of heart, that Nicholas was confident that it was the right thing to pray. But how God could answer any other way than healing the boy–and still work it out for good–remained a mystery.

After Nicholas’ mother had added her own words to the prayer, and Nicholas himself had joined in, his father concluded with thanks to God for listening–and for already answering their prayers.

As they stood, the news came to their door, as if in direct answer to what they had just prayed. But it wasn’t the answer they were hoping for. The boy had died.

Nicholas’ mother began to weep quietly, but not holding back on her tears. She wept as she felt the loss of another mother, feeling the loss as if it were her own son who had died.

Nicholas’ father took hold of her hand and pulled Nicholas close, saying a quiet prayer for the family of the boy who had died, and adding another prayer for his own family. He gave his wife and son one more final squeeze, then walked out the door to return to the other boy’s home.

CHAPTER 3

The boy’s death had a sobering effect on the whole city. The people had known the boy, of course, and were sad for the family.

But his death was more sobering because it wasn’t an isolated event. The people had heard stories of how the sickness had been spreading through the cities around them, taking the lives of not just one or two people here and there, but entire families—entire neighborhoods. The death of this boy seemed to indicate that the plague had now arrived in their city, too.

No one knew how to stop it. All they could do was pray. And pray they did.

As the sickness began to spread, Nicholas’ parents would visit the homes of those who lay dying. While his parents’ money was powerless to offer relief to the families, their prayers brought a peace that no amount of money could buy.

As always, Nicholas’ father would pray that death would pass them over, as it had passed over the Israelites in Egypt when the plague of death overtook the lives of the firstborn of every family that wasn’t willing to honor God. But this sickness was different. It made no distinction between believer or unbeliever, firstborn or last born, or any other apparent factor. This sickness seemed to know no bounds, and seemed unstoppable by any means.

Yet Nicholas watched as his father prayed in faith nonetheless, believing that God could stop the plague at any moment, at any household, and trusting God to work it all out for good, even if their lives, too, were seemingly cut short.

These latter prayers were what people clung to the most. More than anything else, these words gave them hope–hope that their lives were not lived in vain, hope that their deaths were not going unnoticed by the God who created them.

A visit by Nicholas’ father and mother spoke volumes to those who were facing unbearable pain, for as the plague spread, fewer and fewer people had been willing to leave their own homes, let alone visit the homes where the sickness had struck. The prayers of Nicholas’ father, and the tears of his mother, gave the families the strength they needed to face whatever came their way.

Nicholas watched in wonder as his parents dispensed their gifts of mercy during the day, then returned home each night physically spent, but spiritually strengthened. It made him wonder how they got their strength for each day. But it also made him wonder how long their own family could remain untouched by this plague.

When Nicholas finally found the courage to voice this question out loud, a question that seemed to be close to all of their hearts, his father simply answered that they had only two choices: to live in fear, or to live in love, and to follow the example of the One in whom they had entrusted their lives. They chose to live in love, doing for others what they would want others to do for them.

So every morning Nicholas’ father and mother would wake up and pray, asking their Lord what He would have them do. Then, pushing aside any fears they might have had, they put their trust in God, spending the day serving others as if they were serving Christ Himself.

While his father’s response didn’t answer the immediate question on Nicholas’ heart– which was how much longer it might be till the sickness visited their own home–it seemed to answer a question that went much deeper. It answered the question of whether or not God was aware of all that was going on, and if He was, whether or not He cared enough to do anything about it.

By the way that God seemed to be directing his parents each day, Nicholas gained a peace of mind that God was indeed fully aware of all that was going on in the lives of every person in his city of Patara—and that God did indeed care. God cared enough to send Nicholas’ parents to those who needed to hear a word from Him, who needed a touch from His hands, who needed a touch from God not just in their flesh, but in their spirits as well.

It seemed to Nicholas to be a more glorious answer to his question than he could have imagined. His worry about when the sickness might visit their own home dissipated as he went to sleep that night. Instead, he prayed that God would use his own hands and words–Nicholas’ hands and words–as if they were God’s very own, reaching out to express God’s love for His people.

CHAPTER 4

In the coming days, Nicholas found himself wanting to help his father and mother more and more as they delivered God’s mercy to those around them.

They worked together to bring food, comfort and love to each family touched by the plague. Some days it was as simple as stopping by to let a mother know she wasn’t alone. Others days it was bringing food or drink to an entire family who had taken ill. And still other days it was preparing a place in the hills around their city where they carefully laid the bodies of those who had succumbed to the sickness and whose spirits had passed from this life to the next.

Each day Nicholas’ heart grew more and more aware of the temporal nature of life on earth, and more and more in tune with the eternal nature of the life that is unseen. It seemed to Nicholas that the line between the two worlds was becoming less and less distinct. What he had once thought of as solid and real—like rocks and trees, or hands and feet—soon took on a more ethereal nature. And those things that were more difficult for him to touch before—like faith and hope, love and peace—began to become more solid and real.

It was as if his world was turning both upside down and inside out at the same time, not with a gut-wrenching twisting, but as if his eyes themselves were being re-calibrated, adjusting better to see with more clarity what was really going on—focusing more acutely on what really mattered in life. Even surrounded by so much sickness and death, Nicholas felt himself coming alive more fully than he’d ever felt before.

His father tried to describe what Nicholas was feeling by using words that he’d heard Jesus had said, that whoever tried to hold onto this life too tightly would lose it, but whoever was willing to let go of this life, would find true life. By learning how to love others without being constrained by fear, being propelled forward by love instead, Nicholas was starting to experience how it felt to truly live.

Whether that feeling could sustain him through what lay ahead, he didn’t know. But what he did know was that for now, more than anything else, he wanted to live each day to the fullest. He wanted to wake up each day looking for how God could use him, then do whatever God was willing to give him to do. To do anything less would be to shortchange himself from living the life God had given him to live—and to shortchange God from the work God wanted to get done.

As the days passed, Nicholas came to know what his father and mother already knew: that no one knew how many more days they had left in this world. His family no longer saw themselves as human beings having a temporary spiritual experience, but as spiritual beings, having a temporary human experience. With eyes of faith, they were able to look into whatever lay ahead of them without the fear that gripped so many of the others around them.

CHAPTER 5

When Nicholas awoke one day to the sound of his mother coughing, time seemed to stand still.

For all the preparation his parents—and his own faith—had given him, it still caught him off guard to think that the sickness might have finally crossed over the threshold of their own home.

He thought that maybe God would spare them for all the kindness they had shown to others during the previous few months. But his father had cautioned him against such thinking, reminding him that for all the good that Jesus had done in His life—for all the healing that He had brought to others—there still came a time when He, too, had to face suffering and death. It didn’t mean that God didn’t love Jesus, or wasn’t concerned for Him, or hadn’t seen all the good He had done in His life. And it didn’t mean that Jesus remained indifferent to what was about to take place either. Jesus even told His disciples that His heart was deeply troubled by what He was about to go through, but that didn’t mean He shrank back from what lay ahead of Him. No, He said, it was for this very hour that He had come. Greater love, He told His disciples, had no one than this: that they lay down their lives for their friends.

Nicholas’ mother coughed again, and time slowly began to move again for Nicholas. He stood to his feet. As he approached his mother, she hesitated for a moment. It was as if she was torn between wanting him to stand still—not to come one step closer to the sickness that had now reached her body—or to get up on her feet, too, and throw her arms around him, assuring him that everything would be all right. But a moment later, Nicholas had made her decision unnecessary, for he was already in her arms, holding on as tight as he could as they both broke down in tears. As Nicholas was learning, having faith doesn’t mean you can’t cry. It just means that you can trust God, even with your tears.

Nicholas’ father had already shed some of his own tears that morning. He had gone outside before the sunrise, this time not to visit the homes of others, but to pray. For him, the place where he always returned when he needed to be alone with God was to the fresh air by the sea, not far from their home. While he knew he could pray anywhere, at any time, it was by the sea that he felt closest to God. The sound of the waves, rhythmically washing up on the shore, seemed to have a calming, mesmerizing effect on him.

He had arrived in time to watch the sunrise off to his left, looking down the shoreline of the Great Sea. How many sunrises had he seen from that very spot? And how many more would he have left to see? He turned his head and coughed, letting the question roll back out to sea with the next receding wave. The sickness had come upon him as well.

This wasn’t the first time he had asked himself how many days he had left to live. The difference this time was that in the past, he had always asked it hypothetically. He would come to this spot whenever he had an important decision to make, a decision that required he think beyond the short term. He would come here when he needed to look into eternity, taking into account the brevity of life. Here, at the edge of the sea, it was as if he could grasp both the brevity of life and the eternity of heaven at the same time.

The daily rising of the sun and the swelling, cresting and breaking of the waves on the shore reminded him that God was still in control, that His world would carry on—with or without him—just as it had since God had first spoken the water and earth into existence, and just as it would until the day God would choose for its end, to make way for the new heaven and the new earth. In light of eternity, the lifespan of the earth seemed incredibly short, and the lifespan of man even shorter still. In that short span of life, he knew that he had to make the most of each day, not just living for himself, and not even just living for others, but ultimately living for the God who had given him life. If God, the Creator of all things, had seen fit to breathe into him the breath of life, then as long as he could still take a breath, he wanted to make the most of it.

Coughing again, Nicholas’ father remembered that this was no mere intellectual exercise to help him come to grips with a difficult decision. This time–as he looked out at the sunrise once more, and at one more wave rolling in—he realized that this was the final test of everything that he had believed up until this point.

Some of life’s tests he had passed with flying colors. Others he had failed when fear or doubt had taken over. But this was a test he knew he wanted to pass more than any other.

He closed his eyes and asked for strength for another day. He let the sun warm his face, and he gently opened the palms of his hands to feel the breeze as it lifted up along the shore and floated over his body. He opened his eyes and looked one more time at the sea.

Then he turned and walked toward home, where he would soon join his precious wife and his beloved son in a long, tearful embrace.

To be continued…next week!

(Or if you can’t wait, here’s a link to keep reading the rest of the story online or you can get the paperback or eBook, in English or in Spanish, as a gift for yourself or others.)

St. Nicholas: The Believer, by Eric & Lana Elder, A new story for Christmas based on the old story of St. Nicholas

The photos below (taken by my daughter, Makari) feature the ancient Roman theater, the main street and the parliament building in Patara, Turkey, the birthplace of St. Nicholas.

patara-theater-mainstreet-parliament-by-makari-elder-april-2015

Click here to see a 2-minute video of the Patara Theater in Turkey.

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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is impossible to have the feeling of peace and serenity without being at rest with God.

Dorothy H. Pentecost


This Day's Verse

And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.

Philippians 1:9-11
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

May God defend me from myself.

Michel de Montaigne


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Sinners can do nothing but make wounds that Christ may heal them; and make debts that he may pay them; and make falls that he may raise them; and make deaths that he may quicken them; and spin out and dig hells to themselves that he may ransom them.  But it is neither shame nor pride for a drowning man to swim to a rock, nor for a ship-broken soul to run himself ashore upon Christ.

Samuel Rutherford


This Day's Verse

All the glory of mankind will bow low; the pride of men will lie in the dust, and the Lord alone will be exalted.

Isaiah 2:17
The Living Bible


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We must move from asking God to take care of the things that are breaking our hearts, to praying about the things that are breaking His heart.

M. Gibb


This Day's Verse

Then answered Jesus and said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, The Son can do nothing of himself, but what he seeth the Father do: for what things soever he doeth, these also doeth the Son likewise.

John 5:19
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

It’s about time we gave up all this theological grand opera and went back to practicing the scales.

Vance Havner


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Where man’s method fails and can reach no higher, there God’s method begins.

Jan Ruysbroeck


This Day's Verse

He who pursues righteousness and kindness will find life and honor.

Proverbs 21:21
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God is always moving about His work to shape and arrange events in His wise government of our lives.

John of the Cross


This Day's Verse

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.

Ephesians 1:3
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Prayer is not learned in a classroom but in the closet.

E. M. Bounds


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- A Note from Greg


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Dear Ministry Members,

Thank you sincerely for your prayers and financial support as we begin this season of giving and this year-end time of fundraising for our two ministries, The Ranch and This Day’s Thought.

Eric and I are preparing for this next year with hearts of joy and dedication as we are both committed to going forward in our closely aligned efforts in serving you, our participants, with the very best we can offer.

We have grown to over 40,000 subscribers in over 160 countries, during these last 20 years, and we want to continue serving the Lord for as long as He has planned for each of us.

This coming year, we will be structured slightly differently, as we have shared, and now prayerfully seek the resources to launch these efforts to continue for perhaps another 20 years, if so blessed!

Here are just a few recent comments from some of you, our valued readers…

“Hi there from Scotland!  Every night before I go to bed I read your messages by email. Can I just say how wonderfully meaningful they all are and how they have  brought me to tears many times with their power. Thank you so much .”

“I love your daily messages. They inspire me.”

“Thank you for the daily encouragement I receive from your devotional’s. Many have come at critical times over the past year as my life has gone through great spiritual change… many have been God inspired & timed to meet me where and how I needed the most. Thank you!”

“Beautiful sermon! Thank you so much! I have been subscribed to The Ranch for so many years now, and it has truly helped me during some of the most difficult times of my life more than I can say. I am grateful and inspired by your ministry! Thank you for allowing The Lord to work through you by giving Him control over your entire house!”

“Your daily bible verses keep me lifted. I just wanted to thank you for sending them.”

“I love your daily thoughts, I really value the daily quotes and the verses. And the smiles always make me smile.  I am so very grateful.”

“Many thanks for an inspiring sermon. I always look forward to your weekly sermons. Thanks for the blessings they bring to our home.”

“God gave you a beautiful and engaging style to minister to hearts through your Internet ministry. Thank you.”

“I just wanted to share my gratitude with all that you do. Every Morning I wake up I look forward to my Morning reading. Life seems to be unfair for so many people, such as myself. But Reading daily and finding the scriptures has helped me see that God wants so much for us and we tend to misunderstand Gods works. Thank you for helping me see that God has so much more for all of us. My heart is healing through the work of God. Also through good people like all of you who spread his word. Thank You!”

“Thank you for your daily encouragement! It is a blessing to me!”

We are asking for your financial support at this time, if you are able to help with your donations, both small and large, as we strive to have our necessary funding in place by year’s end, in order to go forward.

Thank you all sincerely, for all your past years of prayer and assistance as if it were not for you, our members, we would not have been able to reach so many with our daily messages of inspiration and encouragement.

May God bless you all in your continued walks with Him.

In His Name, Greg and Eric

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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

BE READY- PERSEVERE

By Norm Story

Psalm 78:1-7 Matthew 25:1-13

 

The challenge of faithfully living prepared and ready…

When I was a Boy Scout, I remember how the younger scouts
struggled and suffered on long hiking-camping trips; because they always seemed to bring so much of the wrong stuff.

They’d come loaded down with unnecessary equipment & supplies,
and yet often, they would not have brought along the more useful & important things they actually needed.

With more experience and by listening to the advice of others,
you learned which items were better left back at home, and which ones were actually useful and needed, which supplies & equipment were worth the cost – the weight of carrying them on your back.

The result was that the more experienced scouts were generally
much better prepared and fared better in any situation.

They were better prepared for whatever might happen; and so they were more able to relax and enjoy their camping experience out in nature.

It was really a matter of learning how to prepare for the unexpected.

A most formative time in my spiritual journey was during, “The Jesus Revolution” of the early 70’s.  That was a pretty heady time to be a young Christian.  There were lots of Bible Clubs and Bible Studies
that sprung up in school and in the community.  There were alternative worship services and events, quite different than mainline Presbyterianism.

In the excitement and religious fervor of the time, it was difficult to know what to do – what was true; whose theology & teaching was really God’s truth?

Which way of worship and which music did God most favor?

There was an amazing variety of answers to religious questions

Caught in the swirl of conflicting ideas and voices, each authoritatively claiming to be God’s truth, It was confusing to decide between religious ideas.

Back then, as a young Christian, it was almost impossible to discern the truth —so many voices making so many claims in absolute certainty each declaring that they alone rightly read the Bible and that their ways alone matched God ways, and were closest to the New Testament church.

So how could I possibly know who was right, way back then?  Today its much easier, more obvious to discern who was right back then.

Those who truly followed God, are still in the faith; while that which was false, that not of God, has withered and waned, it is no more —-those folks have not weathered the years.

The passing of time has disproved their false claims.  Some who I knew back then have grown in their faith, their walk with God has matured, broadened and deepened.

Others have strayed over time, some have abandoned their faith
Some of the loudest outspoken and most adamantly certain, did not hold to Christ, have not served God over the years.

When things got difficult or demanding, they left.  So the passage of time and events have revealed, who was truly speaking God’s truth, and who was not.

That is the same principle of spiritual & prophetic discernment That God told Moses to teach the people of Israel.

Deuteronomy 18:21-22

You may say to yourself, “How can we recognize a word that the LORD has not spoken?” If a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD but the thing does not take place or prove true, it is a word that the LORD has not spoken.  The prophet has spoken it presumptuously; do not be frightened by it.

The immediate appearances may well obfuscate and deceive, but in the long run, time will surely tell — the ones who persevere on the long journey, have truth, and the ones who do not, but falter & fail, are false.

Most anyone can make a good impression at first, for a season —-and on the surface, its easy enough to seem faithful, but its on the long journey that faith gets tested —-can it withstand hard times and harsh struggles?  Can it emerge from questions and doubts still intact?… or is it only an easy fair weather faith?  Is it prepared to withstand storm and tribulation?

The test of a genuine Christian faith is just that simple,and that is the point and that is the message of the parable Jesus tells.

The context is a Middle Eastern village wedding celebration, which was culturally somewhat different back then.

In our culture, the wedding is mostly the bride’s special day, but in that patriarchal society, the focus was on the groom.

The bride and her attendant bridesmaids would wait all together while the groom and his party negotiated the ’bride’s price’ with her family.  A sign of the families love for their daughter, was to be difficult and draw out the negotiations, to show their reluctance at losing their daughter.

You’d have to have haggled & bargained in a Middle Eastern market to appreciate how much they enjoy the verbal exchange — the give and take is an important part of their culture;– its not really about the money or the cost of the item, but its establishing a relationship and respect; which is why even today it is a great insult when a tourist accepts the first price offered.

So having appropriately discussed at length the ’brides price. and once an agreed upon figure has been carefully negotiated, its now late into the night when the groom and his party would go and bring the bride and her attendants to the great wedding feast and celebration.

This was before the age of fireworks and neon lights, so the bridesmaids would provide lamps and torches; their job was to illuminate the way, their light creating a bright festive atmosphere.

Part of the fun and delight was to catch them napping, not ready; to show up unexpectedly, surprise and catch them off guard.

So Jesus frames his parable within that particular cultural context.

Matthew 25:1-4

“Then the kingdom of heaven will be like this.

Ten bridesmaids took their lamps and went to meet the bridegroom.

Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. When the foolish took their lamps, they took no oil with them; but the wise took flasks of oil with their lamps.

To all outward appearances, there is no perceptible difference, between the wise and the foolish bridesmaids —they are all dressed in the same long gowns, their hair done up, each looking their best, with their lamps ready to celebrate.

If you just look around at them, you can’t tell which ones are the foolish, or which ones are the wise.  Only by the passing of time, only the long delays will tell, who is prepared and ready for the unexpected, and who not.

The groom and his party are delayed, they show up very late, and the catch the girls napping — they are surprised, and then there is a mad scramble for the procession to begin.

Now the bridesmaids have just one responsibility, to provide a bright light ready for when the groom arrives.

The five wise bridesmaids fill-up their lamps with spare oil, but the five foolish have not planned ahead and prepared.

They have no oil for their now depleted empty lamps, and with no oil, there is no light, so they cannot fulfill their one critical responsibility, so they aren’t ready to take part in the procession.

As soon as the groom and his party arrive the celebration begins.

Then there is no more time for preparations & getting ready.

The foolish are not prepared or ready to do what is expected of them, they cannot provide light to honor the procession; which within that peasant village cultural context, would be a major insult against the bride & groom.

It would be unheard of doing such a rude thing, like inviting someone to dine at a restaurant, and then not having any money to pay for the meal.

Well, it is futile at that late hour to go out looking for oil.

It is futile to try and prepare once its already too late, so they are not welcome or permitted to share the joy of the wedding celebration.

The wedding procession and celebration will go on without them

The parable is really that simple and straight forward, the challenge is understanding how it applies to our lives.

The first application has to do with the second coming of Christ; that despite the delay of over 20 centuries, his call is still to be ready, to be found alert & waiting.

Hebrews 9:27-28

And just as it is appointed for mortals to die once, and after that the judgment, so Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin, but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him.

Whether its our own death or the second coming of Jesus, at some point the Bridegroom will come for us, and our call is to be found ready and waiting.

Being ready is not a life spent figuring out when and how, its not a passive life spent watching the skies, and its not being sequestered away from the world – or standing on mountaintop singing hymns, checking our watches.

A lot of Bible interpreters seem to focus on the judgment aspect, be ready or else —with the threat of accountability – answering for our sins, they teach fear and terror at the Lord’s coming.

Jesus told this parable just days before his arrest, it was meant to reassure his frightened disciples, to give them courage and hope in facing the future.

The setting is the joy of a wedding celebration – not a funeral.

For Christians, the coming of Jesus is good news, not bad.

If we believe, if we know and walk with Jesus now, then it describes the joyful coming of a close friend.

It’s the happy excitement of a festive celebration, which is hardly reason or cause for fear & dread.

To those who already know the Bridegroom, this marks the fulfillment of our heart’s deepest desire and delight.

Yet at the same time, clearly there is a challenge to this text; will we have oil for our lamps when the Bridegroom comes for us?

The oil for our lamps is our relationship with God through Jesus; it is having submitted to the Lordship of Christ, it is accepting His love and grace to transform our lives.

BUT far more than just responding to an alter call one time, it is living out an on-going and growing walk with God it is living out his teachings – reflecting his light, and dwelling purposefully in the presence of God’s Holy Spirit

It is taking God and God’s Word seriously, living a life that honors God and imitates Christ, seeking to grow deeper & more faithful in our walk

Among international students studying in our universities, if a fellow foreign student becomes lax or grows complacent, if they stop making an all out effort and really trying, if they forget the sacrifice necessary to be there, they will be accused of, ’going American’.

International students have noticed that some American students coming from our culture of free entitlements & easy opportunity seem to always demand more and more, better and faster.

They expect life to be easy without any great effort. They show little gratitude for all they have. and are largely unwilling to give or contribute back.

It’s a harsh evaluation of our culture that may reveal some difficult truth.

And sometimes Christians, ’go American’, in the Church; becoming lax and worldly, ungrateful and spiritually lazy, undisciplined and complacent in our faith.

Forgetting the high cost of God’s love poured out at Calvary, we figure God owes us God ought to be grateful just because we show up.

In unrestrained arrogance, inflated ego and pride, we expect God to make our lives easy and pleasant, for God to quickly provide exactly what we want, for God to always respond to our every little whim; even though we refuse to submit to his rule and authority, though we continue to insist on having it our own way.

The mainline American church is plagued by such passive Christians who will commit to only enough religion and faith, as to inoculate ourselves … from God’s Spirit & Truth actually directing our lives.

We figure God owes us, just for showing up at all.  We want to control & limit God’s impact & rule in our lives  We want a type of religion that doesn’t cost us very much.

The parable is a stark reminder to those who’ve grown lax, to church insiders and members gone lazy and inert, who choose to ignore and refuse God’s ongoing call, who are content to go no further than yesterdays faith.

The parable is meant to grab our attention and shake awake those who don’t take God’s truth seriously.  There is a lot more to the Christian life than just showing up.  There’s a lot more than just smiles and warm fuzzy feelings.  It requires more than just being a member and then watching others support & serve the church.

It means to live out our lives to their richest & fullest, to fully commit our ways to serving our Lord.  It means giving God more than just the leavings of our lives, but making God’s presence in our lives our priority.

It means first seeking and obeying the will of God, and not just showing up occasionally after we’re through doing whatever else we want to do.

The call is to be ready and prepared with oil for our lamps, and that oil is our deepening relationship growing in Christ.  The oil is our lives lived usefully and faithfully, as we have been called and equipped for God’s service.

Our call is to wait and be ready, prepared no matter what the future holds for us.  It means to grow deeper, more faithful with the Lord.  Its easy enough to look good on surface – have a godly appearance, but has God’s truth permeated deep into our hearts and souls?

Its easy enough to be appear godly and holy for a short season, but will our faith last over time and adversity?  The truth will be revealed by how we run life’s long race hour by hour, day by day, all the way to the end.

To quote Starbucks coffee:

“Life is short —- stay awake”

To quote Jesus Christ: Luke 12:35-38

“Be dressed for action and have your lamps lit; be like those who are waiting for their master to return from the wedding banquet, so that they may open the door for him as soon as he comes and knocks.  Blessed are those slaves whom the master finds alert when he comes; truly I tell you, he will fasten his belt and have them sit down to eat, and he will come and serve them.”

If he comes during the middle of the night, or near dawn, and finds them so, blessed are those slaves.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Throughout the Bible, when God asked a man to do something, methods, means, materials and specific directions were always provided.  The man had one thing to do: obey.

Elisabeth Elliot


This Day's Verse

For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.

Romans 14:17
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

A saint is a person who has learned how to get out of God’s way.

Margaret C. Romanes


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If you love only the people who are like you—who have the same values, the same economic and educational background—you’re not really doing much except loving yourself.

Rick Reynolds


This Day's Verse

Therefore let it be known to you, brethren, that through this Man is preached to you the forgiveness of sins;

Acts 13:38
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We do not have a personal Gospel and a social gospel.  There is one Gospel, and one Gospel only, and that Gospel is the Gospel of God—this indivisible message from God has its individual application and its social application.  It has the power to redeem the individual and also the power to redeem social order.

Jesse M. Bader


This Day's Verse

He is your praise. He is your God, who has done for you these great and terrifying things that your eyes have seen.

Deuteronomy 10:21
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Music strikes in me a profound contemplation of the First Composer.

Thomas Browne


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I am fully assured that God does not, and therefore that men should not, require any more of any man than this: to believe the Scripture to Be God’s Word, to endeavor to find the true sense of it, and to live according to it.

William Chillingworth


This Day's Verse

But I will sing of thy might; I will sing aloud of thy steadfast love in the morning. For thou hast been to me a fortress and a refuge in the day of my distress.

Psalm 59:16
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In the pure, strong hours of the morning, when the soul of the day is at its best, lean upon the window sill of God and look into his face, and get the orders for the day.  Then go out into the day with the sense of a Hand upon your shoulder and not a chip.

E. Stanley Jones


This Day's Verse

The Lord also shall roar out of Zion, and utter his voice from Jerusalem; and the heavens and the earth shall shake: but the Lord will be the hope of his people, and the strength of the children of Israel.

Joel 3:16
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Many men have too much will power.  It’s won’t power they lack.

John A. Shedd


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Special Note


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Special note from Eric Elder, founder of The Ranch:

Ever since I met Greg Potzer at a Billy Graham Internet Evangelism conference in Florida 18 years ago, he and I have worked together to reach as many people as possible online to bring some hope and encouragement in their faith in Jesus Christ. Sometimes our work together has been behind the scenes; at other times, as with our joint effort with “This Day’s Thought from The Ranch,” it has been very much “in front of the scenes.”

Starting next year, we’re going to continue working together, but with some new opportunities on the horizon we’re going to be sending you our messages from two different lists. Greg will continue to send you daily Christian quotes, Bible verses and occasional smiles from “This Day’s Thought” every weekday, Monday through Friday, and I’ll continue to send you messages from “The Ranch” on a regular basis to encourage you to keep putting your faith in Christ for everything in your life.

We’re telling you this now as we enter into our joint, once-a-year fundraiser, to ask if you could help us both to enter into our new year and our new opportunities as strongly as possible. We’re hoping to raise $60,000 by the end of this year, which we will split between our two ministries.

So many of you have been so generous in the past with your gifts and words of encouragement, and we’re so grateful to have such wonderful subscribers. Here are just a few of the notes we’ve recently received:

“I cannot tell you how important your daily messages are. I am alone here and you sustain me. This in itself is God’s blessing on you.”

“Your message is wonderful daily. You have no idea how far it travels and how many hearts are touched.”

“I just wanted to tell you how much I look forward to your days thoughts. Thank you.”

“Hi, I’m from a rural town in middle of South Africa. I use the internet for everything else in my business life- why not use it for the most important thing? I need daily food and fellowship to serve God and my responsibility to my family, and the rest of my heavenly family. Thanks for this site.”


“This Day’s thought has helped me through some rough days and has been an inspiration to me. Thanks so much for everything.”

“Your work in sharing the word of God brings comfort to me every day, and I forward it on to friends and coworkers and always seem to get a response from someone who really needed to “hear” that today. You are truly a blessing to so many people in the world.”

“Thank you very much for the ministry of This Day’s Thought.  You are like a candle burning in me every day.  I’m always closer to God.  Papua New Guinea”

“Thank you for another wonderful message. I am rather isolated from other Christians geographically and hearing your good word on a daily basis makes a world of difference in my life. God bless you and your ministry. Nicaragua”

“Just wanted you to know I am glad I stumbled upon this site. I find it a wonderful way to start my mornings! Very encouraging, inspiring, and reassuring. The uplifting messages and Bible verses seem to reflect God’s love for me! I need to be reminded. And I’m the pastor.”

“Keep up the fantastic work that you do in bringing the message to all via the internet. Am always refreshed when I read your inspirational thought for the day. Austria”

“Each message is a divine joy, blessing and an opportunity for us to be with Jesus each day. It is the modern day equivalent how Jesus would spread his message.

“Bless you for all you do! This ministry makes more of a difference than you will ever know!”

Greg and I love doing this, giving people a regular boost in their faith, and we look forward to doing it for many more years to come. Would you help us as we venture out to reach even more people for Christ in the coming year?

If you’ve given in the past, would you consider doubling or tripling what you normally give, or giving an extra-special one-time gift? And if you’ve never given before, would you consider joining us in this work as we go forward, not only as a blessing to yourself, but so we can pass on that blessing to others?

As we’ve often said, “we need so little, but we need that little so much.” Thanks so much for your support!

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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

FACING THE FUTURE

By Troy Borst

Joshua 1:1-9

In the first chapter of Joshua, we begin reading about a crisis that has erupted in the lives of the people of Israel. Their longtime leader and spiritual guide, Moses, has died. We need to understand that this time was very much a crisis for these people. This was the man who had led them from slavery in Egypt! This was the man who brought them the laws of God! And now he is gone.

In the first chapter of this book, we not only find crisis, but we find the Lord speaking to the new leader of the people. We find God meeting this man and encouraging him. We find God meeting this man and challenging him about the future.

  1. THE PURPOSE OF GOD (v. 2)

Joshua was about to become very aware of God’s purpose and direction in his life. Moses was dead and Joshua had been his assistant. There was no contract that Joshua would become the leader. There was no line of succession. What I mean to say is that Joshua becoming the leader was not a “given”, but was open. This new leader would be in charge of leading the people to the Promised Land… no small task.

I think the leadership of Israel was in doubt until that moment when “God spoke to Joshua.” God was now hand-choosing the next leader of His people. It was God who would be directing their paths through the Promised Land. God chose Joshua to be that leader who would bring about the fulfillment of the promises to Abraham.

God’s directions and purposes are clear: 1) The people of Israel are going across the Jordan River into Canaan and will take possession of it. 2) Joshua son of Nun will be their leader in all of this.

II. THE PROMISE OF GOD (v. 3)

Joshua and the people of Israel trusted in the Lord their God. They put all their faith and trust in Him to guide them and lead them into Canaan. And what of Joshua? He had to believe that God keeps His Word. Joshua had been a faithful believer throughout his life. In fact, when Israel spied out Canaan 40 years before, only he and Caleb put their faith in God and believed that they could conquer the land. Joshua knew that God always fulfills His promises. Joshua knew that God had promised Abraham that he would become a mighty nation and that his people would inhabit the land of Canaan. And now, Joshua and the people stood on the bank of the Jordan ready to go in and possess the land. God’s promises were coming true.

We as Christians also have the benefit of knowing that God keeps His promises. We have the entire Bible to read and discover all the promises that have been fulfilled. We also have Christ, in who so many of God’s promises are fulfilled. 2 Corinthians 1:20 explains to us that all the promises of God are fulfilled in Jesus and He is the One we have been looking for. In Him we find the “Yes” answer to our questions.

Was Jesus the Son of God?

Was He the Promised One who would take away the sins of the world?

Is He our every present help in times of need?

Does He provide direction for us in our lives?

As God was speaking with Joshua, He promised Joshua something very important. It occurs in verse 3. Joshua was assured victory in all of his endeavors. In taking hold of these promises, Joshua would be given all the places that his foot trod. He was given the victory before he even started.

III. THE POWER OF GOD (v. 5)

I believe that Joshua was a man of faith. He believed God and all that He was saying and promising. Because of this, God’s power was available for Joshua. God tells Joshua in verse 5 that no one will be able to stand against him all the days of his life… now that is power. We will see that power working in Joshua’s life shortly when he faces off against Jericho.

The people of Israel don’t stand a chance of toppling this mighty fortress of a city. Yet they do.

Joshua may feel that he doesn’t have the skills to lead Israel. Yet he does.

Retold from “The Book of Virtues” Editor: William J. Bennett

There is a story that centers on a king and the members of his court who were continually full of flattery. “You are the greatest man that ever lived…You are the most powerful king of all…Your highness, there is nothing you cannot do, nothing in this world dares disobey you.”

The king was a wise man and he grew tired such foolish speeches. One day as he was walking by the seashore he decided to teach them a lesson. “So you say I am the greatest man in the world?” he asked them. “O king,” they cried, “there never has been anyone as mighty as you, and there never be anyone so great, ever again!”

“And you say all things obey me?” he asked.

“Yes sire” they said. “The world bows before you, and gives you honor.”

“I see,” the king answered. “In that case, bring me my chair, and place it down by the water.” The servants scrambled to carry the royal chair over the sands. At his direction they placed it right at the water’s edge. The King sat down and looked out at the ocean. “I notice the tide is coming in. Do you think it will stop if I give the command?”

“Give the order, O great king, and it will obey,” cried his entourage.

“Sea,” cried the king, “I command you to come no further! Do not dare touch my feet!”

He waited a moment, and a wave rushed up the sand and lapped at his feet. “How dare you!” he shouted. “Ocean, turn back now! I have ordered you to retreat before me, and now you must obey! Go back!” In came another wave lapping at the king’s feet. The king remained on his throne throughout the day, screaming at the waves to stop. Yet in they came anyway, until the seat of the throne was covered with water.

Finally the king turned to his servants and said, “It seems I do not have quite so much power as you would have me believe. Perhaps now you will remember there is only one King who is all-powerful, and it is He who rules the sea, and holds the ocean in the hollow of His hand. I suggest you reserve your praises for him.”

The power of God, that same power that holds the earth together and calms the seas, is available to you in your own personal life. All that is required to access this awesome power is faith.

IV. THE PRESENCE OF GOD (v. 9)

Verse 9 would have been a great comfort to Joshua and the people. God told Joshua that He would be with them wherever they went. Joshua had the very presence of God as he marched through the Promised Land. We, as Christians, have that very same presence with us today. We have the presence of God in our lives given to us by Christ and described to us in the Word of God.

THE PRESENCE OF HIS LOVE

The passengers on the bus watched sympathetically as the attractive young woman with the white cane made her way carefully up the steps. She paid the driver and, using her hands to feel the location of the seats, walked down the aisle and found the seat he’d told her was empty. Then she settled in, placed her briefcase on her lap and rested her cane against her leg.

It had been a year since Susan, thirty-four, became blind. Due to a medical misdiagnosis she had been rendered sightless, and she was suddenly thrown into a world of darkness, anger, frustration and self-pity. Once a fiercely independent woman, Susan now felt condemned by this terrible twist of fate to become a powerless, helpless burden on everyone around her.

“How could this have happened to me?” she would plead, her heart knotted with anger. But no matter how much she cried or ranted or prayed, she knew the painful truth her sight was never going to return. And all she had to cling to was her husband Mark.

Mark was an Air Force officer and he loved Susan with all of his heart. Finally, Susan felt ready to return to her job, but how would she get there? She used to take the bus, but was now too frightened to get around the city by herself. Mark volunteered to drive her to work each day, even though they worked at opposite ends of the city. At first, this comforted Susan and fulfilled Mark’s need to protect his sightless wife who was so insecure about performing the slightest task. Soon, however, Mark realized that this arrangement wasn’t working – it was hectic, and costly.

Susan is going to have to start taking the bus again, he admitted to himself. Susan was horrified at the idea of taking the bus again. “I’m blind!” she responded bitterly. “How am I supposed to know where I’m going? I feel like you’re abandoning me.” Mark’s heart broke to hear these words, but he knew what had to be done. He promised Susan that each morning and evening he would ride the bus with her, for as long as it took, until she got the hang of it. And that is exactly what happened.

For two solid weeks, Mark, military uniform and all, accompanied Susan to and from work each day. He taught her how to rely on her other senses, specifically her hearing, to determine where she was and how to adapt to her new environment. He helped her befriend the bus drivers who could watch out for her, and save her a seat. He made her laugh, even on those not-so-good days when she would trip exiting the bus, or drop her briefcase.

Finally, Susan decided that she was ready to try the trip on her own. Monday morning arrived, and before she left, she threw her arms around Mark, her temporary bus riding companion, her husband, and her best friend. She said good-bye, and for the first time, they went their separate ways. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday… Each day on her own went perfectly, and Susan had never felt better. She was doing it! She was going to work all by herself! On Friday morning, Susan took the bus to work as usual. As she was paying for her fare to exit the bus, the driver said, “Boy, I sure envy you.” Susan wasn’t sure if the driver was speaking to her or not. After all, who on earth would ever envy a blind woman who had struggled just to find the courage to live for the past year? Curious, she asked the driver, “Why do you say that you envy me?”

The driver responded, “It must feel so good to be taken care of and protected like you are.” Susan had no idea what the driver was talking about, and asked again, “What do you mean?” The driver answered, “You know, every morning for the past week, a fine looking gentleman in a military uniform has been standing across the corner watching you when you get off the bus. He makes sure you cross the street safely and he watches you until you enter your office building. Then he blows you a kiss, gives you a little salute and walks away. You are one lucky lady.”

God watches over us in just the same way. We may not know He is present. We may not be able to see His face, but He is there nonetheless! Be blessed in this thought: “God Loves You – even when you are not looking.”

People of faith can face the uncertain future with certainty. We can face each day as Joshua did, with God’s purpose, promise, power, and presence.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God never burglarizes the human will.  He may long to come in and help, but he will never cross the picket line of our unwillingness.

James Jauncey


This Day's Verse

If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?

1 John 3:17
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

If there is joy in the world, surely the man of pure heart possesses it.

Thomas Kempis


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I think of death as a glad awakening from this troubled sleep which we call life; as an emancipation from a world which, beautiful though it be, is still a land of captivity.

Lyman Abbott


This Day's Verse

For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.

Isaiah 54:10
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Among the attributes of God, although they are all equal, mercy shines with even more brilliancy than justice.

Miguel De Cervantes


This Day's Verse

O Lord, my strength and my stronghold, my refuge in the day of trouble, to thee shall the nations come from the ends of the earth and say: “Our fathers have inherited nought but lies, worthless things in which there is no profit.

Jeremiah 16:19
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Please be patient.  God isn’t finished with me yet.

Inter-Varsity saying


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Every man has a train of thought on which he rides when he is alone.  The dignity and nobility of his life, as well as his happiness, depend upon the direction in which that train is going, the baggage it carries, and the scenery through which it travels.

Joseph Fort Newton


This Day's Verse

Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, And into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.

Psalm 100:4
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When I came to believe in Christ’s teaching, I ceased desiring what I had wished for before.  The direction of my life, my desires, became different.  What was good and bad changed places.

Leo Tolstoy


This Day's Verse

He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

1 John 4:8
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Christ can triumph in a weaker man than I am, if there be any such.

Samuel Rutherford


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

GUIDANCE

By Warren Bird

 

How does God guide us in the decisions we have to make? This sermon provides an outline of a Biblical model of guidance, using Colossians 3.

I don’t suppose many of you are old enough to remember the original TV Quiz Show, “Pick-a-Box”. It was hugely successful back in the very early days of television in Australia in the 1950’s and 60’s – so, yes, all the episodes were in black and white.

The big moments in “Pick-a-Box” came when the contestant who had got the questions right had to pick from several boxes on a wall and there would be either a terrific prize or some useless dud object in the box. It was a moment of great drama for many Australians at the time – what would the contestant decide? I guess more recently we have had the nightly decision by the winner of “Sale of the Century” about whether to take the prize they’d already won or come back the next night to try for a bigger one.

Decisions, decisions – life is full of the need to make decisions. Make the right decision – pick the right box – and you will end up a lot better off than if you make the wrong decision.

In “Pick-a-Box” the outcome was random. Despite being smart enough to know the answers and get to the point of making the decision, in the end the contestant just didn’t have enough information to be able to tell which was the best choice of box.

Sometimes we get choices like that in life and a lot of the things that happen to us in life do seem somewhat random. But most of the time we do have information to help us make our decisions – maybe not enough information to guarantee the outcome, but enough to help us to make a choice from among alternatives. It is then up to us to use the information we have and any other resources that might be able to help along the way, to make the best decisions.

• Some decisions are quite trivial – will I have a Magnum Classic or a Magnum Ego? Will I choose Optus or Telstra as my internet provider?

• Some are moderately important – will I give up eating ice cream like Magnums so that I don’t get overweight? Will I go out and play sport or spend my time on the internet?

  • And some decisions are crucial for our life’s direction – will I get married? What career will I aim for? Will I obey the road rules when I am driving my car?

Phew, some big issues there! Because they can be quite daunting choices to make, some people seem to think that they can avoid making decisions and just drift along with life. What did those critters in “The Lion King” call it – akuna matata? Friends, that sort of attitude IS making a decision – it’s a decision to be unthinking about what you do in life, a decision to give in to the forces that are at work in the world for good or evil and let them rule over you. From my experience, far from meaning “no worries for the rest of your days”, akuna matata means nothing but trouble as those forces sweep over us and get us into an awful mess sometimes.

As Christians we have accepted that making our own decisions our own way, ignoring God in our lives, is not the way we want to live; we have turned to Jesus as our Lord and Saviour, accepting Him because He has accepted us, has taken us into His friendship, into His family; and as a result we have decided to follow Him.

This means that when we are faced with a decision we will want to make the right decision, the best decision, the decision that is consistent with us being followers of Jesus Christ.

The question before us tonight is, therefore, how do we know whether we are making the best decisions? How do we find and follow God’s guidance in our lives? We want to obey God’s will, but how do we know what His will for us actually is? Like the writer of the psalm that we read together, we call out to God:

“Show me your ways, O Lord, teach me your paths;

Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are my God and Saviour and my hope is in you all day long.” (Ps 25:4-5)

God Promises to Guide Us

The prayer of the psalmist is not a forlorn one, because God does promise to guide us. Later in psalm 25 we read that:

“Good and upright is the Lord; therefore He instructs sinner in His ways; He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way.” (Ps 25:8-9)

Other verses that similarly promise God’s guidance are:

Proverbs 3:6 “In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.”

Isaiah 58:11 “The Lord will guide you always.”

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.”

These and many other passages in scripture make it clear that God wants to help us to live the lives He asks of us. He hasn’t called us into a relationship with Himself only to leave us in the dark about how that relationship should unfold. In the verse from Isaiah that I just quoted he uses interesting imagery to make this point clear. He describes life without God as being like living in a desert, in a “sun-scorched land”, but says that God’s guidance of His people means that they “will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.”

Be in no doubt that God wants what is best for His followers and that He promises to guide us.

How Does God Guide Us?

OK, you accept that God has made this promise, but the question then becomes, “how?” How does God guide us? When we acknowledge Him, as the verse in Proverbs says, how will he then direct our paths? When we ask for wisdom, as James instructed, how will He give it to us?

Over the years many Christians have given lots of different answers to this question. You will hear sermons on guidance that talk about doors that are opened and closed for you; about things that you can do to test out the different options from which you are to choose; about the importance of the counsel of Christian friends and elders; or about the place of your own feelings of “peace” about a decision.

In some of those things there can be helpful stuff and in relation to some decisions that we face in life those sort of “signals” will have a part to play. If I fail maths and the Universities Admission Board won’t let me into an engineering degree course then that is probably a clear signal that I should pursue something other than a career in engineering.

But I worry that a lot of the things I hear on guidance belittle the place of God’s revealed word in the whole process. The apostle Paul wrote to his young friend Timothy that the Bible is “inspired by God” and said that this means that it “is profitable for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” (2 Tim 3:16) Doesn’t that mean that if we want to find out how God wants us to make decisions, how He guides us, that we should look first and foremost in the Bible?

Yes it does, but there is also a great danger of taking this the wrong way entirely as well. Finding information on guidance in the Bible doesn’t mean that there is going to be in its pages a simple, text-book like answer to every question. When my wife and I decided to get married all those years ago we didn’t look up a passage in the Bible that said, “God wants D.A.D. to agree to marry Warren Bird”.

Nor does it mean that we can lift any verse out of its context and interpret it as telling us something about a decision that we are facing. I heard of a young man once who tried to use the Bible like that.

He randomly opened it at a page and with his eyes closed let his finger pick out a verse on that page. He got to Matthew 27:5 in this fashion: “Judas went and hanged himself.” That’s not real helpful, he thought, so he repeated the process and ended up selecting Luke 10:37: “Go and do likewise.”

Sounds funny, but there are many Christians who treat the Bible just like that – I know, I was one of them when I was a young Christian.

Paul also wrote to Timothy that he should “be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a workman who is not ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” (2 Tim 2:15) I could preach a whole sermon on what “correctly handling the word of truth” involves. The key thing to get across tonight is that understanding any one verse requires understanding the message of the whole Bible and that understanding what the Bible is saying about my life individually requires prayerful meditation and reflection. That way we can ensure that we are not imposing what WE want or think on what God is really saying to us.

A model of guidance

What, then, DOES the Bible say about how God guides us? I think that our reading from Colossians gives us a terrific outline of the answer to this question. There are three parts to the answer:

1) Keep your eyes on the prize.

2) Keep your feet on the path.

3) Keep your heart at peace with Christ.

  • Eyes on the prize (Col 3:1-4)

Ultimately, God’s guidance relates to the way that He takes us from being sinners who do not know Him to living eternally in heaven with Him. God cares about every detail of our lives here and now, because He wants to help us to negotiate the path tp heaven that we set out on when we become Christians; it is the impact that each decision we make has upon that objective that is of most importance to Him.

This is a constant theme in the New Testament. Paul elsewhere wrote that personally he was pressing on toward the goal to win the prize for which God had called him heavenward in Christ Jesus (Phil 3:14). Peter wrote that Christians should “live holy and godly lives”, looking forward to the day in which God will bring this world to an end and usher in the new heaven and the new earth, our new home of righteousness (2 Peter 3:11-13).

It’s also in Psalm 25 – verse 15 says, “my eyes are ever on the Lord, for only He will release my feet from the snare.”

In Colossians Paul urges us to set our hearts and minds on the prize that awaits us when Christ returns in glory. Everything we do in our life now should be done with our eyes on the prize. When we are faced with decisions that have to be made, God’s guidance is that we choose things that will be positive for us spiritually, that will help us on our journey to our home of righteousness, rejecting choices that will hinder our journey.

The first principle of guidance is to keep our eyes on the prize.

  • Feet on the path (Col 3:5-14)

Paul goes on to argue that if we are heading in the direction of heaven then we should actually walk on the path that takes that us in that direction. The attitudes and behaviours that we have turned away from when we decided to become Christians should be left behind and the attitudes and behaviours of “God’s chosen people” should be the ones that we adopt.

Let’s be clear – no one is a Christian because they live a moral life. Being a Christian means you are an immoral person who knows they are immoral and has asked God’s forgiveness through Christ. But someone who has been forgiven is now heading for a new home of righteousness, as Peter called heaven, and thus right living is a logical, natural outworking of the relationship we have with Jesus. So when you are seeking God’s guidance, a significant place to look is in those passages of the Bible that talk about His moral will.

When you are faced with a choice between something that is morally wrong and something that is morally right, then God’s guidance for you is unambiguous – choose the thing that is right. Sometimes it won’t be easy, especially when it is a decision that has effects on other people, who might fight back or take some sort of retaliatory action against us. But be clear that God will only ever guide you to decide something that is morally right.

As Psalm 25 says, “may integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope is in You.” (Ps 25:18)

There was a lot of news about lying, cheating and fraud in some of America’s biggest companies. The first of those companies to be found out was Enron and the whistle blower was an employee of Enron who knew that the financial accounts were a fabrication. She is a Christian woman and she realized that keeping her feet on the path required her to be honest about what was going on at Enron. It has cost her a lot – she lost her job and has been ridiculed and verbally abused by the men that she exposed – but she is able to stand before her God in all good conscience, which is far better.

The second principle of guidance is to make decisions that keep our feet on the path of life.

• Hearts at peace with Christ (Col 3:15-17)

The third and final principle is to make decisions based upon Christ’s peace ruling in our hearts. This isn’t talking about a subjective feeling of being “at peace” about a decision. Rather it is talking about the peace that we know in our hearts and souls when our daily lives are in tune with the friendship that we have with Jesus.

A lot of it comes from the fact that thankfulness is a significant part of our relationship with God. Can you thank God for the decision that you have made? Can you stand before other Christians and say that you have made a decision that expresses your gratitude to God for what He has done in your life? That you are at peace with God after making the decision? If you can, then it is a decision that you can truly say resulted from following God’s guidance.

Working it Out

You might be thinking about a decision you face at the moment in light of these three principles. It is possible that you might be thinking, “hey, wait a minute, those three things rule out some of the choices that I have but not all of them. I’m still in the dark about what God is guiding me to do. Should I go with option A, B or C?”

I want to say to you that in many, many instances there are going to be several choices that are ALL within the realm of God’s guidance. You might be looking for a new job; you rule out a couple of options because they contradict Biblical principles; but you still have a choice of 2 or 3 jobs left. A lot of people would keep fretting about not yet having received God’s guidance about what to do, but I want to tell you that in that case you really should be rejoicing! If God’s clear leading results in you having a couple of choices then there is nothing wrong with going with the one you’d prefer. God is your creator as well as you saviour, and if he made you with a liking for engineering instead of medicine, or labouring instead of office work, and there are no spiritual or moral reasons to favour one job over the other, then go with the one you’d like the best.

The apostle Paul has summed up the Bible’s teaching on guidance really well in Colossians 3:17 – “whatever you do, in word or in deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” Everything we do is as a representative of God here on earth – we act in His name. When we have choices to make, let us make the ones that represent Him the best, the ones for which we can give Him thanks. We can’t go wrong if these are our guiding principles.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Our life has no meaning in itself; it has meaning only in relation to God.

Christoph Blumhardt


This Day's Verse

“There is a saying, ‘Love your friends and hate your enemies.’  But I say: Love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!  In that way you will be acting as true sons of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust too. If you love only those who love you, what good is that? Even scoundrels do that much.  If you are friendly only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even the heathen do that.  But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.”

Matthew 5:43-48
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

You have not fulfilled every duty, unless you have fulfilled that of being pleasant.

Charles Buxton


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The harder a man tries to be himself without being right with God, the less like himself he becomes and the more like everyone else he is.  Man was made to have fellowship with God, and man is never himself until he submits to this divine rule.  Not your talent first, or your money, or your time, or your service, but the complete “you” is what God requests and requires—not that he might make you into a slave, but that he might emancipate you.

Richard C. Halverson


This Day's Verse

The Lord is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation; this is my God, and I will praise him, my father’s God, and I will exalt him.

Exodus 15:2
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To believe on Christ, I say: not merely to believe in him, or to believe something about him, but to believe on him; and this means to entrust your soul to him and to trust in him for wisdom and strength and salvation.

Washington Gladden


This Day's Verse

I call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised, and I am saved from my enemies.

2 Samuel 22:4
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

When you educate a man you educate an individual; when you educate a woman you educate a whole family.

Charles D. McIver


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

After the resurrection the apostles never used the word death to express the close of a Christian’s earthly life.  They referred to the passing of a Christian as “at home with the Lord,” “to depart and be with Christ,” “to sleep in Jesus.”

John M. Drescher


This Day's Verse

“It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life.”

John 6:63
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Your theology is what you are when the talking stops and the action starts.

Colin Morris


This Day's Verse

This also comes from the Lord of hosts, Who is wonderful in counsel and excellent in guidance.

Isaiah 28:29
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

How much more Christian love there would be if we didn’t wait for death to release our reserves!

Hazel Beck Andre


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon

In case you missed it, you can still watch all 4 main sessions from our 2018 Men’s Retreat (the sessions are powerful for anyone, men or women) at this link: http://theranch.org/2018-mens-retreat/. Topics include “Facing Your Fears” by Eric Elder, “Out of the Vortex (Breaking Addictions)” by Jefferson Williams, “5 Lies I Believed About Depression” by Kent Sanders, and “Going After Your Dreams” and “Why Everyone Should Consider Writing A Book” by Eric Elder and Kent Sanders.

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

LISTENING FOR GOD

by Alan Tison

1 Samuel 3:1-10

How do we hear the voice of God, Samuel’s life emulates 4 traits we should have in order to listen to the call of God

The following are actual bloopers found in church bulletins.

· The scouts are saving aluminum cans, bottles and other items for recycling. Proceeds will be used to cripple children.

· Next Sunday’s Message – WHAT IS HELL, come early and hear our choir

· Weight watchers meeting Tuesday; please use large double doors at the side entrance.

· Ushers will eat newcomers

· Remember to pray for the many people who are sick of our church and the community.

· Our minister is on vacation; massages can be given to the secretary.

· This being Easter Sunday, Mrs. Johnson will lay an egg on the piano.

· The flowers on the altar are provided by Jason Edwards, the sin of Pastor and Mrs. Edwards.

Miscommunication it is all around us, we speak of it as a get out of jail free card” in our society – If we have a mishap, we call it miscommunication.

· Failure to Listen

· Out of the Loop

· Dad I did not hear you

· Mom, you want to clean the WHOLE room.

MISCOMMUNICATION

Through out the Bible God communicated with his creation in a number of ways.

· Dreams

· A Burning Bush

· Prophets

· Animals

· Miraculous signs

Through this God teaches us he is not limited to one way of communication.

Heb 1:1-2

In the past God spoke to our forefathers through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom he made the universe.

When God communicates with his creation, he does it in such a way as that one is assured God is speaking.

In 1 Sam. 3, we discover a young man who hears God voice and yet does not recognize him to be God. Yet after some prompting he soon learns to be a great listener for God.

COULD WE BE LIKE SAMUEL?

· Would we fail to recognize God’s voice?

· Do we need someone prompting us so that we might be able to listen?

· A better question today, What qualities in Samuel’s life made him able to hear the voice of God?

IN 1 SAMUEL 3 WE DISCOVER 4 QUALITIES IN SAMUEL’S LIFE WORTH EMULATING TODAY.

  1. Samuel had a servant’s heart.  His role, Ministering before the Lord

Jewish historian, Josephus states Samuel was 12 years old at the time of his calling.

His tasks were to light the candles, tend to the furnishings and general housekeeping in the Tabernacle.

These were not the “glory jobs” of the Tabernacle, but none the less they had to be done.

Compare this to Eli’s sons – They grew up in the Tabernacle, saw their father administer the worship – But in 1 Sam. 2:12 Eli’s sons were wicked men; they had no regard for the LORD.

WHAT A CONTRAST Growing up in the same house, watching the same man (Eli), observing the same sacred items – yet two different outcomes.

HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY CHILDREN GROWING UP IN THE CHURCH REJECT THE CHURCH LATER ON IN LIFE? After all we have a promise Prov 22:6, Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

– PARENTS ROLE, Hannah prayed for her son (2:20) Hannah monitored her Son’s grow (2:19) Hannah and her husband were faithful in worship (1:21)

– Eli, knew his son’s sin (2:22) He was willing to confront their sins (2:23-25)

– THE CHILD’S ROLE – The attitude of the sons – Eli’s, No regard, Samuel, Servant hood

  • There comes a time when children must take responsibility for their actions, Now if we will keep this two step approach of a Parent’s active role and a child’s submissive attitude, we will be able to claim the promise of Prov. 22.

2. Samuel had a good reputation

1 Sam 2:26

And the boy Samuel continued to grow in stature and in favor with the LORD and with men.

These are the same words used to describe Jesus in Luke 2:52

Why is our reputation so important? Simply put how people see us is how they see God. – Our actions reflect our leader.

That is why Jesus had such trouble with the Pharisees, they were representatives of God and yet their reputation for ritual and rules had become a departure of God’s grace.

Reputations must be formed, a reputation is not formed in one day, but it can be destroyed in one minute. A reputation cannot be passed on from one generation to the next but it can be destroyed in a relatively short time. A reputation is formed by living a consistent life before God

Billy Graham was one of the most respected men in the world today, with the many scandals that have come about in the last 20 years; Graham remained untarnished – WHY? Graham’s 3 laws of integrity

– He never was the first person to enter a hotel room

– He never ate dinner with a woman other than his wife

  • He never was in a car alone with a woman other than his wife.

Samuel is an example of how a good reputation makes one available to be used by.

3. Samuel was obedient to authority.

3 times he thought he heard what he thought was the voice of Eli, and 3 times he went to see what his mentor wanted.

Obedience is an unnatural response. Few of us enjoy being told what to do. Our natural response is to be in control. Yet where there is control there is an absence of humility.

THIS IS WHEN PRIDE TAKES OVER – Don Shula, Former head coach of the Miami Dolphins tells of a vacation he was taking in Maine during the off season. He wanted to go some place where he go and relax without people recognizing he and his wife. When they arrived at their resort, it was raining so they decided to go to a movie in town. When they arrived at the Theater the house lights were on and he was surprised how small the crowd was for the movie. Yet when he walked in he was surprised to receive a round of applause from the patrons. They took their seat and waited for the movie to start. Secretly surprised, Shula leaned over to his wife and whispered, I guess there is not a place I can go where I am not recognized. I guess not she replied with a bit of sarcasm. About that time a man came over and with a friendly smile shook hands with Shula and his wife. Shula said I am surprised you know us. Should I know you the man asked? We are just glad you came in the manager said he would start the film until 10 people came in.

Samuel was obedient because he was humble.

Signs of Obedience

– Understand God is good – he has our best interest in hand.

– Submit to his authority – God is in control, Good Friday to Easter

  • Realize there are benefits to ObedienceObedience in the good times – OT Promise of faithfulness, Moses, Joshua, Josiah

Obedience in hardships – Wilderness Wanderings

Obedience is the key to our salvation – are we willing to do what Jesus asks?

Even though Samuel was not receiving answers from Eli, He continued to be obedient to his mentor. In like manner we must always find our obedience in the Lord – EVEN WHEN HE DOES NOT ANSWER!

Obedience must be lived out

Of the Fiery Furnace

Dan 3:16-18

16 Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter.

17 If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king.

18 But even if he does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.”

When we are obedient we are able to hear his voice – even in silence.

4. Samuel was willing to listen.

Eli realizing Samuel was being called by God now gives him a series of instructions to prepare for God’s call.

NOTICE THE INSTRUCTIONS

  • Go back to your room – waiting, Have you ever been in God’s waiting room? Waiting to be used, waiting for an answer to prayer? WAITING PREPARES US
  • If he calls you again – Anticipation, carries with it the idea of expectation. A young minister was distraught by the lack of results in his new church after his first few months of service. He visited D.L. Moody for some advice. Moody asked, “Do you expect decisions ever Sunday, when you preach? The young man replied. There is your problem – You Should.
  • I am amazed the number of people who do not expect God to do great things. We pray and prayers are answered and we say it is a coincidence. We put God first in our finances and then when our needs are met we seem shocked. 1 Cor 2:9 However, as it is written: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him” Each week I hope you anticipate God working in your life.
  • Answer His Call – Be available, this may seem so simple, but it can be difficult to answer God’s call. So many things call out for our attention.
  • Samuel did answer the call notice his words – SPEAK FOR YOUR 
  • SERVANT IS LISTENING, I imagine those are some of the sweetest words the lord can hear from our mouth.

I don’t know what you want to do with me BUT SPEAK FOR YOUR SERVANT IS LISTENING

I don’t know how I can help BUT SPEAK FOR YOUR SERVANT IS LISTENING

I am concerned about the future BUT SPEAK FOR YOUR SERVANT IS LISTENING

When Samuel made himself available he was ready to receive God’s instructions

Listening for God requires…

1. a servant’s heart

2. a good reputation

3. an obedience to authority

4. And the ability to be ready to listen.

Jesus himself used an illustration of listen for the voice of God in

John 10:1-5

1 “I tell you the truth, the man who does not enter the sheep pen by the gate, but climbs in by some other way, is a thief and a robber.

2 The man who enters by the gate is the shepherd of his sheep.

3 The watchman opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out.

4 When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice.

5 But they will never follow a stranger; in fact, they will run away from him because they do not recognize a stranger’s voice.”

Who are you listening for today, who is calling your name, and what is your reply?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday

Reminder from Eric Elder: Starting tonight, you can watch our live broadcasts from the 2018 Men’s Retreat (you can watch online anonymously, so you don’t have to be a man to watch… the sessions are deeply personal and will be powerful for anyone).

I’m speaking tonight (Friday, Oct 12) at 7 pm CDT on “Facing Your Fears,” Jefferson Williams is speaking Saturday morning at 8 am CDT on “Out of the Vortex: Breaking Addictions,” Kent Sanders is speaking Saturday morning at 10 am CDT on “5 Lies I Believed About Depression,” and Kent and I will be doing a special interview on Saturday afternoon at 4 pm CDT on “Going After Your Dreams” and “Why Everyone Should Consider Writing a Book.” You can watch live online at live.theranch.org.


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In the cross of Christ excess in men is met by excess in God; excess of evil is mastered by excess of love.

Louis Bourdaloue


This Day's Verse

Lord Almighty, blessed is the one who trusts in you.

Psalm 84:12
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

I look back on my life like a good day’s work.

Grandma Moses


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

You will never be an inwardly religious and devout man unless you pass over in silence the shortcomings of your fellow men, and diligently examine your own weaknesses.

Thomas Kempis


This Day's Verse

And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.

Matthew 7:25
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We are saved not by works, yet not without works.

John Calvin


This Day's Verse

But I have trusted in thy steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in thy salvation.  I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully with me.

Psalm 13:5-6
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Improve each moment as it flies; Life’s a short summer.

Samuel Jackson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Jesus Christ alone stands at the absolute center of humanity, the one completed harmonious man.  He is the absolute and perfect truth, the highest that humanity can reach; at once its perfect image and supreme Lord.

Charles W. French


This Day's Verse

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.”

Luke 16:10
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christ attributes all he does and says to the Father, and this makes God’s name no longer terrible to us, but comforting.

Martin Luther


This Day's Verse

Then Job arose, tore his robe, and shaved his head; and he fell to the ground and worshiped.

Job 1:20
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

If you accept this Gospel and become Christ’s man, you will stumble on wonder upon wonder, and every wonder true.

Brendan To King Brude


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2018 Men’s Retreat

2018 Men's Retreat

2018 MEN’S RETREAT

Here’s the archive of all 4 sessions from the “2018 Men’s Retreat,” held on October 12-13 at Little Galilee Christian Camp in Clinton, Illinois.

The theme was Bondage or Breakthrough… Conquering Your Fears Through the Power of the Spirit, featuring inspirational messages by Eric Elder, Jefferson Williams, Kent Sanders, and worship with Travis Johnson. Discussion questions for each session are at the bottom of this page.*

SESSION 1 – Eric Elder “Facing Your Fears”

SESSION 2 – Jefferson Williams, “Out of the Vortex (Breaking Addictions)”

SESSION 3 – Kent Sanders, “5 Lies I Believed About Depression”

SESSION 4 – Eric Elder & Kent Sanders, Podcast Interviews:
“Going After Your Dreams” and “Why Everyone Should Consider Writing A Book”

*QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION OR DISCUSSION

SESSION 1 – “Facing Your Fears”

1. Read Exodus 1:8-14. Is there an area of your life where you feel God might want you to be strong, but for some reason you feel weak in that area?

2. Read Exodus 1:15-17. What are some steps you could take to knock down those hurdles of fear and move forward in God’s calling in that area of your life?

3. Read 1 Peter 5:8. How does the “fear of man” play into any fears Satan might be throwing your way to discourage you from following what could be God’s calling on your life?

4. Read Exodus 1: 20-21. How might God bless you, and those around you, if you did step forward into what God might be calling you to do?

5. Read Exodus 2:11-23. In what ways has God already wired you to do what you feel called to do, regardless of your fears of doing it?

6. 2 Chronicles 2:16:9a. In what ways do you need strengthening from God right now to help you carry out what He’s put on your heart to do?

SESSION 2 – “Out of the Vortex (Breaking Addictions)”

1. What are some things that the feather can represent in a person’s life?

2. Why is secret sin so dangerous?

3. Why is learning about your identity in Christ so important in fighting sin?

4. After listening to Jeff’s talk, how would you counsel a friend who is struggling with sexual sin?

5. Jeff said that he believes that the church is weak because a lot of people are trapped in a cycle of shame and guilt and unable to lead. Do you believe this? What’s the solution?

SESSION 3 – “5 Lies I Believed About Depression”

Lie #1: I can __________________ my depression on my own.

Question: Are you trying to manage life on your own, or do you have a solid support network in place to help you through depression and other struggles of life?

Lie #2: Self-medicating my pain is an effective ______________________ strategy.

Question: Are you trying to medicate your pain with a vice or bad habit? What pain are you running away from in your life?

Lie #3: I have no _____________________ over the forces that make my depression worse.

Question: What are some proactive ways you are dealing with stress, fatigue, and conflict in your life?

Lie #4: I don’t need _______________________ help.

Question: Why do you think most men have a hard time admitting they need professional help or counseling?

Lie #5: My struggle with depression means that I am _______________________ in some way.

Question: Why do men tend to view depression as a weakness or deficiency? Do you have a trusted group of friends who can help you process through life’s difficulties?

Action Steps:

  1. Find a support network.
  2. Face your pain–don’t medicate it.
  3. Proactively deal with stress, fatigue, and conflict.
  4. Seek professional help.
  5. Don’t view yourself as deficient.

This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon

Special Note from Eric: Need a boost in your faith? Join us NEXT WEEKEND, LIVE ONLINE OR IN-PERSON, for a men’s retreat where I’ll be speaking on “Facing Your Fears,” and my friends Jefferson Williams and Kent Sanders will be speaking on “Breaking Addictions” and “5 Lies I Believed About Depression.” We’ll also have inspirational times of worship with my friend, Travis Johnson.

2018 Men's Retreat

Join us LIVE ONLINE (for free!) starting Friday, October 12 at 7 p.m. Central Time at http://live.theranch.org, or register to attend IN-PERSON (for a small fee for food and lodging) here.

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

DEFEATING DEPRESSION

by Kevin Burden

 

Loneliness has been called the most desolate word in the English language. It is no respecter of age, race, economic status, or intelligence. Albert Einstein once said, “It is strange to be known so universally, and yet to be so lonely.”

God made us for intimacy and companionship with others. Even before sin entered the world, He declared that “it is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). That’s why many people often feel so empty inside.

Jesus experienced loneliness. He felt it when His disciples deserted Him (Mark 14:50). The Father’s presence more than compensated for this, however. He said, “Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me” (John 16:32).

Intimacy with God is available to all who put their trust in Christ – John 14:16-23.

We can reduce our feelings of loneliness by reaching out to others. But even more important, we must reach out to the Lord. He is always with us, and He wants us to fellowship with Him throughout the day.

A recent Gallop poll concludes 4 out of 10 Americans admit to frequent feelings of intense loneliness and depression. Has loneliness ever crept into your life? What does the Bible say to those who are going through those dark times?

Difficult times came to many in the Bible. Just two examples…

Elijah needed rest after his encounter with the Prophets of Baal.

Paul in his letter to Timothy said, “Everyone has deserted me” three different times. His way of coping was to ask for his parchments and his friends.

Charles Spurgeon was prone to times of deep sadness and depression. On an unforgettable Sunday morning in 1866, the great C. H. Spurgeon stunned his five thousand listeners when from the pulpit of London’s Metropolitan Tabernacle he announced, “I am the subject of depressions of spirit so fearful that I hope none of you ever gets to such extremes of wretchedness as I go to.” For some of his audience it was incomprehensible that the world’s greatest preacher could know the valley of despair. Yet twenty-one years later in 1887 he said from the same pulpit, “Personally I have often passed through the dark valley.”

The fact is – many “Good” Christians battle depression. Most of us face situational depression at some time. There are times in life when depression is a normal response to a difficult situation…

* The death of a loved one

* A disappointment in life

* Failure in some area of your life

* Relational problems

  • Some battle biological factors

Depression Can be Devastating: The Psalmist felt many things during time of loneliness.

* God seemed far away – v 2.

* Life seemed meaningless – v 3

* His bones burned; He just didn’t feel well – v 3

* He experienced loss of appetite and weight loss – v 4

* He felt alone – v 6

* Felt persecuted and rejected –v 8

* Experienced times of sadness and tears – v 9

* He was painfully aware of his failures – v 10

  • He felt tossed aside – v 10

Does this sound like some of the things you have experienced in life? 

How do we defeat Depression? Start by…

#1. TURNING OFF THE TUNNEL VISION – v 3-10.

Depression often occurs when we focus on the circumstances surrounding a situation instead of the situation surrounding the circumstance. We become unable to see “the forest for the trees.”

In these times we must learn to dwell on the Lord’s goodness b not our pain.

#2. SURRENDER TO GOD’S SOVEREIGNTY – v 12-15.

God is in charge. He knows where you are and what you’re going through.

He knows what he is doing b even if we don’t. We must learn to trust God.

God perfects us by means of the furnace.

#3. CONCENTRATE ON GOD’S CHARACTER – v 17-22

#4. FOCUS ON THE FUTURE – v 16, 23-28.

Look past the present. God is preparing a great place for those who trust Him.

As we reach the end of Psalm 102 we see the darkness lifted.

Are you prone to deep darkness? Is it a powerful emotion that you seem powerless to change? Are you trusting God or are you trying to make it on your own?

If your depression will not go away; If you trust, and pray and nothing changes…

You may need to see a Doctor. Overcoming depression can be hindered by chemical imbalance, diet or other physical complications.

You may need to see a Christian counselor.Overwhelming, overpowering thoughts of harming yourself or others; Overwhelming, overpowering thoughts of suicide are not acceptable conditions. You must seek help immediately.

Understand what is happening; then take charge of your mind. Don’t deny the emotion . . . face it!

Here are some practical steps for defeating Depression. . . .

* Get some rest – like Elijah

* Ponder God’s Character and love – like Jesus

* Make extra time to study God’s Word – like Paul

  • Spend extra time with your Christian friends and church family – like Paul.

These are usually the opposite of what you feel like doing. But take control!

Minirith/Meier Christian Counseling:

“Seven laws for living life free of Depression.”

1. Commit yourself to the purpose of glorifying God in all things.

2. Spend time daily meditating on God’s Word and applying it to your life.

3. Deal with grudges and anger daily.

4. Concentrate on building close relationships with your family.

5. Develop solid Christian friendships and spend time each week enjoying these people.

6. Be involved in a daily routine that brings personal satisfaction to you.

7. Do something nice for one special person each week.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To know God is at once the easiest and the most difficult thing in the world.  It is easy because the knowledge is not won by hard mental toil, but is something freely given.  As sunlight falls free on the open field, so the knowledge of the holy God is a free gift to men who are open to receive it.  But this knowledge is difficult because there are conditions to be met and the obstinate nature of fallen man does not take kindly to them.

A. W. Tozer


This Day's Verse

Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you.

Proverbs 4:6
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Life’s a voyage that’s homeward bound.

Herman Melville


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The big end of the branch is always toward the vine.  The fruit comes on the little end.  When we daily direct the big end of our lives towards Christ, and his Word, an amazing thing takes place.  The fruit comes on the little end.  It will come in a way that will let us know that it was because of him and in spite of us.

Lane Adams


This Day's Verse

Ye also helping together by prayer for us, that for the gift bestowed upon us by the means of many persons thanks may be given by many on our behalf.

2 Corinthians 1:11
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Jesus Christ is no crutch; he is the ground to walk on.

Leighton Ford


This Day's Verse

Know this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not work the righteousness of God.

James 1:19-20
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Knowledge is a process of piling up facts; wisdom lies in their simplification.

Martin H. Fischer


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Are you looking unto Jesus now, in the  immediate matter that is pressing, and receiving from him peace?  If so, he will be a gracious benediction of peace in and through you.  But if you try to worry it out, you obliterate him and deserve all you get.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

And He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.”

Mark 16:15-16
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We can form no idea of the natural distance between God and man, but the infinite vacuum is filled up by the Messiah.

Christmas Evans


This Day's Verse

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

Colossians 3:20
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

To miss the joy is to miss all.

Robert Louis Stevenson


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon

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Also, if you need prayer or someone to talk to, you can chat live with our online hosts between 9 and noon on Sunday mornings at the same link. Join us today for some rich worship, biblical teaching, and an online chat!


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Why The Holy Spirit Does Not Give Into Our Whims, but Helps to Bring Out God’s Best in Us and Teaches Us to Love What is Difficult

by Paul Fritz

Rom. 8:26-28

People need people. Laurie was about three when one night she requested my aid in getting undressed. I was downstairs and she was upstairs, and … well. “You know how to undress yourself,” I reminded. “Yes,” she explained, ’but sometimes people need people anyway, even if they do know how to do things by themselves.”
-William C. Schultz, Bits & Pieces, December 1990.

1. The Holy Spirit wisely chooses to not give in to our selfish whims because He knows what is best. Paul wrote, “God works all things together for good for those who love God and those who are called according to His purposes.” (Rom. 8:28) The Spirit of God works to conform us more to the thinking, behavior and character qualities that are found in Christ Jesus. Ask the Lord to help you surrender more of the control of your desires to the leading of the Spirit.

2. The Holy Spirit listens to our cries, but selectively responds to the prayers that are in conformity with the will of God for our lives. The Spirit acts as our advocate to the Father, but acts only according to the will of God. The Spirit has a way of filtering out requests that are not in agreement with scriptural truth. Paul wrote, “And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God’s will.” (Rom. 8:27) Ask the Lord to help you pray more in line with all of the scriptural passages, promises, and principles.

3. The Holy Spirit makes us competent to do whatever God calls us to accomplish. Paul wrote, “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant.” (2 Cor. 3:5,6) Thank the Lord for all the ways He has made you competent to perform every aspect of His will of your life.

4. The Holy Spirit filters out some of our requests that are not in the perfect will of God. Paul wrote, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.” (Rom. 8:26) Ask the Lord to help monitor your requests so that the Lord answers only the prayers that are in line with 100% of the perfect will of God.

5. The Holy Spirit has a way of amplifying the requests that will facilitate our maturity in Christ. Paul wrote, “The Spirit intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.” (Rom. 8:26) The Spirit continues to remind us of the prayers that will best help bring us to higher levels of personal, spiritual and ministry maturity. Ask the Lord to help you record your prayers and answers to prayers enabling you to see where God is blessing.

6. The Holy Spirit is hindered from helping to answer the prayers of those who are habitually living with secret sins. David wrote, “If I cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” (Psa. 66:18) Ask the Lord to help you uncover any secret sins so that you can confess and forsake them.

7. The Holy Spirit is more concerned about obedience and trust than in giving us what we desire. John wrote, “Those who obey his commands live in him, and he in them. And this is how we know that he lives in us: We know it by the Spirit he gave us.” (I John 3:24) Whenever you are not seeing answers to prayer, it may be necessary to evaluate how obedient and trusting you are in the Lord. Ask the Lord to show you if there is any false way in your heart so that you can become all that the Lord wants you to be.

8. The Holy Spirit cautions us against hardening our hearts to the Lord in any way. The writer of Hebrews wrote, “So, as the Holy Spirit says, ’Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion, during the time of testing in the desert, where your fathers tested and tried me and for forty years saw what I did. (Heb. 3:7; Psa. 95:7-11; Ex. 17:7) Ask the Lord to help you be more tender hearted to the Lord’s correction and rebukes.

9. The Holy Spirit wants us to pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. Paul wrote, “And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests.” (Eph. 6:18) Ask the Lord to help you pray in harmony with the Spirit’s mind, will and emotions with everyone of your prayers and requests.

10. The Holy Spirit does not want anyone to hear God without really listening and responding to Him. Paul said, “The Holy Spirit spoke the truth to your forefathers when he said through Isaiah the prophet: ’Go to this people and say, ’You will be ever hearing but never understanding; you will be ever seeing but never perceiving. For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes.” (Acts 28:25-27) Ask the Lord to help you avoid any tendency to be insensitive to God’s word, His voice or His counselors.

11. The Holy Spirit wants us to realize that many of our desires are contrary to God’s will. Paul wrote, “So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want.” (Gal 5:16,17) Ask the Lord for help in conforming more of your will to the Father’s will.

There are no hopeless situations; there are only people who have grown hopeless about them.  -Clare Boothe Luce.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christ always lives where there is room for him.  If there is room in your heart for Christ, he lives there; if there is room in a law office for Christ, he lives there; if there is room on a locomotive engine, he will be there; if there is room in a baggage car, he will be there.

Sam Jones


This Day's Verse

Work hard and cheerfully at all you do, just as though you were working for the Lord and not merely for your masters,

Colossians 3:23
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

I cast off the mooring lines at a decaying wharf and pointed the bow toward the open sea of life, trusting my new Captain to take me safely to his heavenly haven.

Roy C. Naden


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Joy is not gush; joy is not jolliness.  Joy is perfect acquiescence in God’s will because the soul delights itself in God himself.

H. W. Webb-Peploe


This Day's Verse

Only, do not rebel against the Lord; and do not fear the people of the land, for they are bread for us; their protection is removed from them, and the Lord is with us; do not fear them.

Numbers 14:9
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God created the world for reasons that are sufficient unto himself.  It is not necessary that we be told these reasons.  As long as we know that God loves us, we have a base for hope.  And when we have hope, all else can be borne in patience.

Edward John Carnell


This Day's Verse

He shall pray to God, and He will delight in him, He shall see His face with joy, For He restores to man His righteousness.

Job 33:26
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

My life’s horizontal started focusing when Jesus Christ introduced me to vertical fine-tuning.

Nancy White Kelly


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I came to Christ as a country boy.  I did not understand all about the plan of salvation.  One does not have to understand it; one has only to stand on it.  I do not understand all about electricity, but I do not intend to sit around in the dark until I do!  One thing I did understand even as a lad: I understood that I was under new management.  I belonged to Christ and he was Lord.

Vance Havner


This Day's Verse

Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.

Proverbs 29:11
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Do you love the Son?  Is he the captain of ambition and desire?  Are you receiving daily into your spirit those marvelous resources and powers which are available from Christ?  Are you living an everlasting life?  Are you happy?  Are you calm?  When you can say Yes to these questions you have come to the point where your partnership with Christ begins.

Alistair MacLean


This Day's Verse

Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

Isaiah 26:3
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Who lives content with little possesses everything.

Nicolas Boileau-Despreaux


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A FAMILY RESEMBLANCE

by Terry Sisney
 
Ge 1:26 Ge 5:1

We say we belong to the family of God, My question is can the world see the resemblance.

It’s interesting sometimes to go to a family reunion or family get together and to look around at the different people and try to determine whose children they are by their characteristics, or features.(Sometimes it’s very evident, unmistakable, undeniable) then other times it’s less evident.

As Believers we have been born again by the spirit of God into the family of God, We have a new blood line, We are the children of God.

I’m talking about a family resemblance:

Now are we the sons of God.

1Jo 3:2 Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.

1Jo 3:1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.

I know it’s hard to take it in, but by virtue of the new birth you and I are as much the sons of God as Jesus himself.

In fact he calls us his brethren, (his brothers, sisters, mothers)

Mt 12:50 For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

When you see a branch of an apple tree, loaded down with apples, you have no difficulty distinguishing it’s identity.

There is no wondering if perhaps it’s a grapefruit tree that it’s connected to, or an orange tree, (No the branch takes on the same character as the tree) It has a family resemblance.

Jesus said: I am the vine ye are the branches.

My concern is that in the hour that we live in, it’s getting harder and harder to distinguish what family we belong to.

The Church is becoming more worldly, more comfortable with sin, we laugh at the things that used to make us cry.

What used to break our hearts now gets passed off by saying ( it’s just the times we’re in).

My friends the truth is, you can dress it up anyway you want to and call it good.

But Jesus said the tree is known by it’s fruit.

If the fruit is rotten the tree is rotten, You can’t have a rotten tree and good fruit, (it may look good, and it may sound good) but look at the fruit.

Let me take it a step farther (There are only two families)

(#1) The family of God (#2) The family of the devil

Joh 8:44 Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

1Jo 3:10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.

In the natural many times people will attribute a certain characteristic or personality trait to their bloodline.

(Bad Temper)

(grudge holding, self pity, critical, prejudice, untrustworthy,) it’s in the blood, That’s the way his Grandpa was and his daddy – the poor kid didn’t have a chance.

Sometimes they will say the same thing about certain sicknesses or diseases, (well it’s in the blood line)

(Family Resemblance)

But as a new creature in Christ Jesus we have a new bloodline, and This bloodline doesn’t have any homosexuality in it, it doesn’t have any prejudice or self pity, or bad temper in it, It doesn’t have any sugar diabetes, or heart disease or cancer or any other disease in it.

(Are you following me? I’m talking about a family resemblance)

You won’t find adultery or fornication or Drug addiction, or wife abuse or child abuse.

In this bloodline.

Too many times Christians want to excuse wrong behavior by saying: I can’t help it it’s just my nature,

(No sir)

The Christian cannot use that excuse because he has got a new nature, and he has a new bloodline,

We cannot say: I really am a good tree, you just have to overlook my bad fruit,

(No sir) If the tree is good there will be a family resemblance, we are going to bring forth the fruits of righteousness, the fruit of the spirit,

We’re going to look like our daddy.

And we’re going to think like our daddy, and act like our daddy.

Eph 5:1 Be ye therefore followers = (Imitators) of God, as dear children;

There is a supernatural side to this family: We should be contending for everything that he gave us in this new birth.

Power, power to heal the sick, power to cast out devils, The gifts of the spirit.

(Talking about a family resemblance) Jesus said: The works that I do shall ye do also and greater works than these shall ye do.

I wonder does the world see a family resemblance in us?

When they look at us can they see Jesus, When we speak can they hear Jesus?

If I was on trial for being Wayne Sisney’s son, I would be convicted, the resemblance is undeniable, indisputable, in fact people who have known my dad for years will call me Wayne, because we look so much alike.

If we were on trial for being Sons of God, is there enough family resemblance to convict us?

The fact is: (We are) every day we are on trial before the world, do they see a family resemblance to your heavenly father and your brother Jesus Christ?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is right that you should begin again every day.  There is no better way to complete the spiritual life than to be ever beginning it over again.

Francis de Sales


This Day's Verse

If any one does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his own family, he has disowned the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

1 Timothy 5:8
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Teach us delight in simple things.

Rudyard Kipling


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Brother, if you commit a sin and take pleasure in it, the pleasure passes but the sin remains.  But if you do something virtuous even though you are tired, the tiredness passes but the virtue remains.

Camillus de Lellis


This Day's Verse

As for that in the good soil, they are those who, hearing the word, hold it fast in an honest and good heart, and bear fruit with patience.

Luke 8:15
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Leave Him to be the source of all your dreams and joys and delights, and go out and obey what He has said.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

How awe-inspiring are your deeds, O God! How great your power! No wonder your enemies surrender!

Psalm 66:3
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

It is better to give than to lend, and it costs about the same.

Philip Gibbs


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Severe trouble in a true believer has the effect of loosening the roots of his soul earthward and tightening the anchor-hold of his heart heavenward.

Charles Spurgeon


This Day's Verse

Then said he unto me, Fear not, Daniel: for from the first day that thou didst set thine heart to understand, and to chasten thyself before thy God, thy words were heard, and I am come for thy words.

Daniel 10:12
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Virtues are formed by prayer.  Prayer preserves temperance.  Prayer suppresses anger.  Prayer prevents emotions of pride and envy.  Prayer draws into the soul the Holy Spirit, and raises humanity to heaven.

Ephrem the Syrian


This Day's Verse

For God did not appoint us to suffer wrath but to receive salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Thessalonians 5:9
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

I have handed Jesus the key to my secret hideout.

Paddy Baker


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

HEALING

by Tim Zingale

Luke 8:26-39

 

“Then they arrived at the country of the Gerasenes, which is opposite Galilee. And as he stepped out on land, there met him a man from the city who had demons; for a long time he had worn no clothes, and he lived not in a house but among the tombs. When he saw Jesus, he cried out and fell down before him, and said with a loud voice, “What have you to do with me, Jesus, Son of the Most High God? I beseech you, do not torment me.” For he had commanded the unclean spirit to come out of the man. (For many a time it had seized him; he was kept under guard, and bound with chains and fetters, but he broke the bonds and was driven by the demon into the desert.) Jesus then asked him, “What is your name?” And he said, “Legion”; for many demons had entered him. And they begged him not to command them to depart into the abyss. Now a large herd of swine was feeding there on the hillside; and they begged him to let them enter these. So he gave them leave. Then the demons came out of the man and entered the swine, and the herd rushed down the steep bank into the lake and were drowned. When the herdsmen saw what had happened, they fled, and told it in the city and in the country. Then people went out to see what had happened, and they came to Jesus, and found the man from whom the demons had gone, sitting at the feet of Jesus, clothed and in his right mind; and they were afraid. And those who had seen it told them how he who had been possessed with demons was healed. Then all the people of the surrounding country of the Gerasenes asked him to depart from them; for they were seized with great fear; so he got into the boat and returned. The man from whom the demons had gone begged that he might be with him; but he sent him away, saying, “Return to your home, and declare how much God has done for you.” And he went away, proclaiming throughout the whole city how much Jesus had done for him.” Luke 8:26-39, RSV.

Grace and Peace to you from our Lord and Saviour, Jesus who is the Christ. Amen

Once there was a very wealthy young man who lived in a great, elaborate house with dozens of rooms. Each room was more comfortable and more beautiful than the one before it.

One day he decided to invite the Lord to come and stay with him.

When the Lord arrived, this young man offered Him the very best room in the house. The room was upstairs and at the end of the hall. “This room is yours, Jesus, stay as long as you like and you can do whatever you want to in this room. Remember Jesus, it’s all yours.”

“Thank you,” the Lord replied, and with that the man shut the door and went about his business.

That evening, after he had retired for the night, there came a loud knocking at the front door. The young man pulled on his robe and made his way downstairs. When he opened the door he found that the Devil had sent three of his demons to attack the man! He quickly tried to close the door but one of the demons kept sticking his foot in the door.

Sometime later, after a great struggle, he managed to slam the door shut and returned to his room totally exhausted. “Can you believe that?” the young man thought. “Jesus is upstairs in my very best room sleeping while I am down here battling demons. Oh well, maybe he just didn’t hear.”

The young man slept fitfully that night. The next day, things went along as normal and, being as tired as he was, the young man retired early that evening. Along about midnight, there came such a terrible ruckus at the front door that the young man was sure that whatever it was would tear the door down. He stumbled down the stairs once again and opened the door to find that there were dozens of demons now trying to get into his beautiful home.

For more than 3 hours he fought and struggled against the demons from

hell and finally overtook them enough to shut the door against their attack. All energy seemed to fail him. “I really don’t understand this at all. Why won’t the Lord come to my rescue? Why does he allow me to fight all by myself? I feel so alone.”

Troubled, he found his way to the sofa and fell into a restless sleep.

The next morning he decided to inquire of the Lord about the happenings of the last two evenings. Quietly, he made his way to the elegant bedroom where he had left Jesus. “Jesus,” he called as he tapped at the door. “Lord, I don’t understand what is happening. For the last two nights I have had to fight the demons away from my door while you were sleeping. Don’t you care about me? Did I not give you the very best room in my house?”

He could see the tears building in Jesus’ eyes but continued on. “I just don’t understand. I really thought that once I invited you in to live with me, that you would take care of me, and I gave you the best room in my house and everything. What more can I do?”

“My precious child,” Jesus spoke softly, “I do love and care for you. I protect all that you have released into my care. But when you invited me to come here and stay, you brought me to this lovely room and you shut the door to the rest of the house. I am Lord of this room but I am not Master of this house. I have protected this room and no demon may enter here.”

“Oh Lord, please forgive me. Take all of my house, it is yours! I am so sorry that I never offered you all to begin with. I want you to have control of everything! With this he flung open the bedroom door and knelt at Jesus’ feet. “Please forgive me. Lord. for being so selfish.”

Jesus smiled and told him that He had already forgiven him and that He would take care of things from now on.

Along about midnight the banging on the door was frightening. The young man slipped out of his room in time to see Jesus going down the stairs.

He watched in awe as Jesus swung open the door. Satan stood at the door demanding to be let in. “What do you want, Satan?” the Lord asked. The devil bowed low in the presence of the Lord. “So sorry, I seem to have gotten the wrong address.” With that, he and the demons all ran away.

Our opening story reminds us that Jesus wants control of our whole lives. And this is seen very dramatically in our gospel lesson.

A man had demons and Jesus came to him and demanded that those demons leave. This man surrendered to Jesus and the demons left.

Notice he did not have to ask Jesus to have the demons leave, Jesus acted on His own accord. The only request that was made was made by the demon itself, Legion asked that they not be put into the abyss, but to enter the swine and Jesus agreed. But the swine being filled with the demons rushed down the bank into the river and were drown.

The man, now free from the demons, sat at the feet of Jesus and we can just imagine that Jesus was explaining to him who he was, the Son of God.

Then the people from the city came and were afraid of Jesus because of the miracle he had performed and asked him to leave.

Isn’t that typical? If you don’t understand something, you become afraid and then blame not yourself, but the person responsible.

When I was in the senior year of college, I began applying for teaching jobs. It was later that In entered seminary, but I graduated from college with a BA in elementary education. I had an interview on campus with a superintendent of a school system. It was a good interview and at the end he offered me a job teaching 4th graders. But he said that the school board would have to approve, but thought that would be no problem.

I left feeling confident that I had a job. My wife and I were engaged at the time and we planning a wedding as soon as I graduated. I had told the superintendent that I was going to my wife’s family for the weekend and he could contact me there with the final approval.

The phone rang, I answered and the superintendent told me that I did not get the job. He said the school board did not want some one like me teaching their kids.

His exact words were: “We don’t want someone like that teaching our kids”

Someone like what?

For he explained to them that I wore a long leg brace and used a cane for walking and they were afraid of my disability and would not hire me.

I later found a teaching job and my disability did not matter one bit in the classroom.

But isn’t that typical, if we don’t understand something we blame the person not our selves for our ignorance or bigotry.

The people of Jesus day did not understand what He had done, did not understand that He was the Son of God, did not understand that Jesus had just made this man whole. What they saw they could not believe, so they became frighten and demanded that Jesus leave.

But the man, who was now whole, understood and wanted to go with Jesus. He had in his demon state surrendered to Jesus and now in his healed state he once again surrendered himself, his whole self to Jesus.

Jesus understood, but wanted the man to stay behind and convince the people to not be afraid of Jesus’ power but to surrender to it as he had.

Jesus wanted this man to help the people to begin to heal, to be delivered from their “demon” of fear and misunderstanding. He wanted the man to help the people to surrender their “whole house” to Jesus not just one room, but everything.

Healing comes to us in various ways. Some experience “a miracle”, some are given the power of courage and strength to endure their situation. Others are released from their personality traits that keep them from truly experiencing the healing power of Jesus.

When this post polio syndrome hit me and I had to leave the ministry because of being in a wheelchair, not being able to talk well enough to preach, and because I did not have the stamina to do more than every day activities, I was really angry. Angry at God, I guess for allowing this to happen, angry that I had to endure another “disability” in my life, angry that I had to give up something that I truly enjoyed and thought I was called to do.

Finally, after much screaming at God, soul searching, and finally being able to just surrender this whole situation to God, some peace and comfort came into my life.

I had to allow Jesus into everyone room even the room of anger and what I saw as the unfairness of live.

When He entered that room finally, I felt at peace with myself and this terrible situation. That peace allowed me to develop this Internet ministry to share my sermons with you even though I do not have a congregation of my own. I enjoy preaching and this is one way for me to continue that even though I am still experiencing all the manifestations of this post polio syndrome.

Healing comes when we open all the rooms in our “house” to Jesus and He can work his power in our lives.

Amen.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Collapse in the Christian life is seldom a blowout; it is usually a slow leak.

Paul E. Little


This Day's Verse

But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.

2 Peter 3:18
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Jesus is God spelling himself out in language that man can understand.

S. D. Gordon


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Should we feel at times disheartened and discouraged, a simple movement of heart toward God will renew our powers.  Whatever he may demand of us, he will give us at the moment the strength and the courage that we need.

Francois Fenelon


This Day's Verse

But we have renounced disgraceful, underhanded ways. We refuse to practice cunning or to tamper with God’s word, but by the open statement of the truth we would commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God.

2 Corinthians 4:2
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Of all created comforts, God is the lender; you are the borrower, not the owner.

Samuel Rutherford


This Day's Verse

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

Galatians 5:22
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.

Guillaume Apollinaire


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A cross Christian, an anxious Christian, a discouraged, gloomy Christian, a doubting Christian, a complaining Christian, an exacting Christian, a selfish Christian, a cruel, hard-hearted Christian, a self-indulgent Christian, a Christian with a sharp tongue or bitter spirt—all these may be very earnest in their work, and may have honorable places in the church; but they are not Christlike Christians.

Hannah Whitall Smith


This Day's Verse

But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever.

Psalm 52:8
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God’s favorite word is—come!

Robert L. Sterner


This Day's Verse

With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone.

Proverbs 25:15
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

This life is for loving, sharing, learning, smiling, caring, forgiving, laughing, hugging, helping, dancing, wondering, healing, and even more loving.

Steve Maraboli


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

PRAISE

by George Rennau

 

Isaiah 43:21 This people have I formed for myself; they shall shew forth my praise.

Psalm 107:8 “O that men would praise the Lord for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men.”

Rev. 3:15 “I know thy works, that thou art neither cold or hot, I would thou wert cold or hot”.

The Bible expresses that God has created us to praise the Lord, the scripture also tells us that God desires that we would recognize his works and that we would give him the credit for it in our life.

PRAISE IS NOT JUST SOME ASPECT OF CHURCH THAT MEN THOUGHT UP.

It is a divinely ordained unconditional expression on our part that if practiced by us

— will draw us closer to God

— and according to scripture it will draw God closer to us.

Ps 22:3

But thou art holy, O thou that inhabitest the praises of Israel.

The purpose of my message is to encourage us to praise the Lord that we might enjoy the benefits and pleasure of this aspect of our worship toward God.

And I want to deal with this subject by asking the question What is Praise?

Prayer

I. What is Praise?

1. Praise by definition is: “an expression of approval or commendation; applause”

  • it is getting hilariously excited

I will never forget being at the high school football game.  We had decided to go to the last game of the season, and in the fourth quarter there was a 70 yard conversion for a touch down.

Do you know what happened

We are a people formed to give praise,

We know how to give praise.

And people including me went wild

-we use words
-clap
-we smile
-cheer
-we even become FANATICAL.

OH THAT WE COULD GET AS EXCITED ABOUT GOD AS WE DO ABOUT FOOTBALL

2. The Bible tells us the manner in which we should show our praise to God!

None of these ways include reserved silence.  There is a times for silent meditation.  Meditation is a different aspect of our life with God,  Meditation is not praise…

EXPRESSING YOUR PRAISE INCLUDES

Clapping — Psalm 47:1 Clap your hands all ye people, shout unto God with a voice of triumph”.

Lifting up your hands — Psalm 134:2 “Lift up your hands in the sanctuary, and bless the Lord”.  (That doesn’t sound like a suggestion.)

Singing – Psalm 100:2 — “come before him with Joyful song”

Ephesians 5:18-20 “Be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess, but be filled with the spirit; speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your hearts to the Lord”

Verbal Praise – Psalm 100 “Shout for Joy all the earth, worship the Lord with gladness.

Praise is an expression of approval, commendation, and applause to God.

Isaiah 43:21 This people have I formed for myself; they shall shew forth my praise.

Psalm 107:8 “O that men would praise the Lord for his goodness, and for his wonderful works to the children of men”

II. Thanksgiving to God for blessings received and the reporting of those blessings to others

  1. The testimony of God’s goodness toward you should be an unceasing proclamation.

Isaiah 62:6 “I have posted watchmen on the walls., o Jerusalem they will never be silent day or night, You who call on the Lord give yourselves no rest”.

When my father in law pastored in Nebraska. There was an old fellow — who had been kicked in the head by a mule as a small boy. One day he received Christ.

His regular testimony was “we just can’t thank him enough”  And he was right also

b. Praise for What God is doing in your life should be shared in the home.

Mark 5:19 (demon possessed man) “go home to your family and tell them how much the Lord has for you, and how he has had mercy on you.”  Our faith and testimony needs to go beyond, Sunday morning.

c. Our testimony and Thanksgiving to God should be proclaimed in the assembly.

Ephesians 5:19 “Speak to one another in Psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, sing and make music in your heart to the Lord.

Thirdly praise is…a response of faith toward his precious promises.

I believe in positive confession.

• If his promise to heal you is true then you need to thank and praise him for it.

• If you believe his promise to deliver you is true then you need to thank and praise him for it.

  • If you trust him to guide you then you need to thank and praise him for it.
  • If you believe he can perform a miracle in your finances -then you need to thank and praise him for it.

Rather then praising God for the answer even before it comes What many Christians do when faced with one of God’s promises is to grow discouraged, start to doubt, they begin to disbelieve — and miss the blessing.

A poet wrote…
We mutter and sputter
We fume and we spurt
We mumble and Grumble
Our feelings get hurt
We can’t understand things
Our vision grows dim
When all that we need
Is a moment with him

Hebrew 11 says: that with out faith it is impossible to please God and he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him  Praise is an expression of your faith and without that in your life it is impossible to please God.  But when you praise him and trust him, and believe him he will reward you.

In order to begin experiencing the blessing God has for you in this discipline of Praise you have to climb the mountain for we are in the position of travelers who after surveying a great mountain and after traveling around it and observing how it dominates the landscape, and observing its features and the landscape around it, now must approach it directly, for the intention of climbing it.

In other words, if we are ever going to fulfill the purpose for which we were created.

Isaiah 43:21 “This people have I formed for myself; that they may proclaim my praise”

We just have to go for it.

Rev. 3:15 “I know thy works, that thou art neither cold or hot, I would thou wert cold or hot”.

This verse speaks of our life toward God.  God desires that we would be on fire for him and a people who are praising Jesus all the time.  Not cold and dismal and lifeless, but expressive and reverent toward Him. for he is the focus of our praise

There was an elderly Christian whose advancing years had taken their toll on her memory. As her health faded the time came that she could recite but a single verse (2 Timothy 1:12) “I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that he is able to keep that which I’ve committed unto HIM against that day”.

Even these words slowly slipped away from her memory until only a few days of he life remained and friends would hear her repeat just seven words: ”that which I’ve committed unto him.”

Finally as the hour of the women’s death neared and her memory was all but gone.  She voiced a single word repeatedly, it was all she could remember.  HIM HIM HIM

Here is the key to our praise, when we come together to worship, when we are giving thanks in the presence of others, or when we are expressing our faith through praise let it all focus upon HIM.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The gentleness of Christ is the comeliest ornament that a Christian can wear.

William Arnot


This Day's Verse

He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.

Isaiah 40:29
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

There is nothing so refreshing as to watch a new Christian before he has heard too many sermons and watched too many Christians.

A. W. Tozer


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Faith makes a Christian,
Life proves a Christian,
Trial confirms a Christian,
Death crowns a Christian.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

But the Lord was gracious to them, had compassion on them, and regarded them, because of His covenant with Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, and would not yet destroy them or cast them from His presence.

2 Kings 13:23
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There are three distinctive marks of the man who has been influenced by Jesus Christ: poise, simplicity, peace.

Francis Greenwood Peabody


This Day's Verse

“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven;”

Luke 6:37
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

When a Christian is in the wrong place, his right place is empty.

T. J. Bach


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

He who shall introduce into public affairs the principles of primitive Christianity will change the face of the world.

Benjamin Franklin


This Day's Verse

Noah was another who trusted God. When he heard God’s warning about the future, Noah believed him even though there was then no sign of a flood, and wasting no time, he built the ark and saved his family. Noah’s belief in God was in direct contrast to the sin and disbelief of the rest of the world—which refused to obey—and because of his faith he became one of those whom God has accepted.

Hebrews 11:7
The Living Bible


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God will never plant the seed of his life upon the soil of a hard, unbroken spirit.  He will only plant that seed where the conviction of his Spirit has brought brokenness, where the soil has been watered with the tears of repentance as well as the tears of joy.

Alan Redpath


This Day's Verse

Honour and majesty are before him: strength and beauty are in his sanctuary.

Psalm 96:6
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

The finger of God never leaves identical fingerprints.

Unknown


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

REPUTATION

by Shawn Drake

Colossians 1:1-8

I was watching a T.V. program while on vacation called “Rescue 911”. This program has different scenarios of emergencies that occur and then it tells of the rescue. A particular scene caught my attention.

A family was in a boat that got to spinning out of control and everyone was thrown from the boat except a 3 year old child. As the boat continued to spin round and round, people were gathered just watching the boat go in circles. There were a couple of feeble attempts to get into the boat and there was several people that was offering up suggestions; but no one could rescue the child.

As the boat continued to spin word began to spread all over the pier about the little child trapped in the boat. At this news a man yelled at his son to come help him get the boat so they could go help. As he was yelling, he noticed his 16 year old son driving on a jet-ski towards the boat. The teenager went around the boat and dangerous motor 2 times and then all of a sudden drove right up against the boat and dove into the boat. He then drove the child to shore where he brought him together with his family.

Since the beginning of humanity when Adam and Eve sinned, mankind has been spinning around in sin and no one could do anything about it. Sure there has been some who thought they had the answers; but these were just feeble attempts. When it seemed that there was nothing that could be done, God the Father sent His only begotten Son Jesus Christ to this earth to die on a cross so that we could be rescued from the grips of sin.

Colossians 1:13-14 (NIV)

[13]For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, [14] in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Through His victory over sin, death, and Satan; Jesus has snatched us out of the grips of sin. When no one else could do anything, Jesus Christ saved us.

I want to tell you the rest of the story about the rescued 3 year old. The family of the child welcomed the 16 year boy into their home. They treat him with great respect and honor. They never forget his birthday, they stay in communication with him, they tell other people what he did, and they never take him for granted.

Jesus died so that we could be rescued. Jesus is now at the right hand of God the Father; but He has sent the Holy Spirit to dwell in all believers which make up the church. Every member of the Body of Christ is a part of the rescued.

In the Book of Colossians, Paul was writing to a group of Christians that made up the local Church of Colosse. This Church was under attack of the Gnostics who believed that they had “the market” on God. These Gnostics were extremely arrogant and legalistic. They were also trying to shut down the local church so that their “garbage doctrine” would not be contested. How did the Church of Colosse hold up and continue on? As we answer this question we must ask ourselves the same question.

We live in a time when the church is known for being a place of fighting, lying, cheating, stealing, gossiping, etc… Because of this, lost people are not drawn to the church; many saved people don’t want to be a part of the church; and the church seems to just be spinning in circles. Our reputation as a church matters to the cause of Christ.

Colossians 1:3-8

[3]We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, when we pray for you, [4] because we have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and of the love you have for all the saints– [5] the faith and love that spring from the hope that is stored up for you in heaven and that you have already heard about in the word of truth, the gospel [6] that has come to you. All over the world this gospel is bearing fruit and growing, just as it has been doing among you since the day you heard it and understood God’s grace in all its truth. [7] You learned it from Epaphras, our dear fellow servant, who is a faithful minister of Christ on our behalf, [8] and who also told us of your love in the Spirit.

Look at what was noticed about the Colossian Church…

Their Faith, Hope, And Love

Their faith in Jesus Christ was apparent by the way they loved.

1 John 4:7-12

[7]Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. [8] Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. [9] This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. [10] This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. [11] Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. [12] No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.

Do you see the correlation? If we show love to one another, our faith in Jesus Christ is obvious. This must mean that the opposite holds true. If we are constantly tearing each other down and not showing love to one another then our faith in Christ is in question.

How was this church able to stay faithful and love one another during such hard times? Verse 5 says that their faith and love sprung up from their hope of Heaven. When they were told that the Word of God says that all believers in Jesus Christ would some day go to Heaven, they believed it. This hope is what pushed them daily to faithfully serve Jesus Christ. Their motive was Jesus Christ.

May be the reason that the church of the 21st century does not see faith and love evident is because they have lost that burning hope of Heaven in their lives. Sometimes it seems that Christians are about as excited about leaving this earth and going to Heaven as they are about going to the dentist. Christians, we need to let go of the things of the world that are hold us down.

Unfortunately, sometimes it takes something bad happening in our lives to get our attention. Sometimes it even takes a near death experience to cause us to remember why we are here.

Not only did Paul point out the evidence of their faith, hope, and love; but he also pointed out why it was evident.

Their Hearing And Doing

When they heard the Word of God, they didn’t just hear it with their ears, they heard it with their heart; and when they heard it they put it into action and because of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ spread like “wildfire”.

James 1:22-25 (NIV)

[22]Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. [23] Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror [24] and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. [25] But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it–he will be blessed in what he does.

In a world where evil seems to be growing; Christians need to stop just Amening the sermon and then go home and not change anything. Myself and many other preachers are growing tired of preaching about something and then watching the opposite happen during the week. We seem to think that if we heard it then it will automatically happen. No! Just because you know what is right doesn’t mean you will do it. Christians, stop walking in the flesh and walk in the Spirit.

Let me give you an example. This week something happened that caught my attention. Generally when something is wrong at our church, I hear about it. I usually am told that I need to fix whatever the problem is; but this week things were different.

It was noticed on Wednesday night that the hymnals and Bibles in the pew were not organized. Normally this would end up into me being in trouble because something didn’t get done; but instead this person came up on her own time Thursday and went in and checked things out. Christians, if we would all spend our time doing God’s will instead of griping about who is at fault we would see a change.

It is like the people who are suing McDonald’s because they got fat. Let me give those people a little hint, if you would stop eating 2 Big Macs, 2 hot fudge Sundays, and 2 lbs. of French fries; may be you wouldn’t gain so much weight. Christians we need to be hearers and doers of the Word.

Paul pointed out why there was evidence of faith, hope, and love. He then finishes this section by saying a word about the pastor of the Colossian Church, Epaphras.

Their Faithful Minister

Paul points out why Epaphras was a faithful minister. He preached the Word. He taught them the truths of God with love. He wasn’t out playing referee for a bunch of fighting Christians. He wasn’t out mowing the grass, watching the nursery, etc…; he was studying the Word, praying, and preaching the Word.

Epaphras could lead the church. He had time to do those things that God called him to do and when he lead, the people followed.

I have heard numerous stories about how sorry preachers are doing leading their congregations; but may be its not the pastor’s leadership that is the problem. Maybe the problem is the congregation’s fellowship.

I have preached for almost 6 years 2 main themes: 1) Let’s get along and act like Christians; and 2) Start doing what God is calling you to do.

The bottom line is this: certain churches have had the reputation for fighting and bickering amongst each other. I don’t know about you; but I and God are not pleased. I don’t want this kind of reputation for our Church.

We can say things such as, “All churches have these kind of problems, this is normal”. Or we can say, “I’m not the problem, it is someone else”. You can say, “It’s not my fault”.

You know what I say, “Enough!” Either we are going to lay stagnant as individuals or we are going to stand together and watch God work. We are going to settle our disputes, we are going to get our lives right with God, and we are going to start being a vibrant Church; or we are going to sit here and devour one another and be a waste of space to the Kingdom of God.

What is it going to be?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The Lord is telling us to be honest about our sins, to put away bitterness, criticism, and dishonesty from among us.  Christ must have first place in our lives.  We need to give him the key to every secret closet in our hearts, and help him to clean out all the junk we have allowed to accumulate there.

Carol Myers


This Day's Verse

The vessels that have been given you for the service of the house of your God, you shall deliver before the God of Jerusalem.

Ezra 7:19
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

If life is a comedy to him who thinks and a tragedy to him who feels, it is a victory to him who believes.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christianity does not consist in abstaining from doing things no gentleman would think of doing, but in doing things that are unlikely to occur to anyone who is not in touch with the Spirit of Christ.

R. H. L. Sheppard


This Day's Verse

On the first day of every week, each one of you should set aside a sum of money in keeping with your income, saving it up, so that when I come no collections will have to be made.

1 Corinthians 16:2
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Baptism signifies that the old Adam in us is to be drowned by daily sorrow and repentance, and perish with all sins and evil lusts; and that the new man should daily come forth again and rise, who shall live before God in righteousness and purity forever.

Martin Luther


This Day's Verse

A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!

Proverbs 15:23
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Grace grows best in the winter.

Samuel Rutherford


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I have learned to place myself before God every day as a vessel to be filled with his Holy Spirit.  He has filled me with the blessed assurance that he, as the everlasting God, has guaranteed his own work in me.

Andrew Murray


This Day's Verse

Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am.

John 8:58
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

For me prayer is a surge of the heart, it is a simple look towards heaven, it is a cry of recognition of love, embracing both trial and joy.

Therese of Lisieux


This Day's Verse

For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.

Romans 1:20
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

When saving for old age, be sure to put away a few pleasant thoughts.

Unknown


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

GOD’S LOVE

by Jeffery Anselmi

 

A man was lured into a busy florist shop by a large sign in the window that read, “Say It With Flowers.” “Wrap up one rose for me, please” he told the florist. “Just one?” the florist asked. “Just one,” the customer replied. “I’m a man of few words.”

A husband was told by the marriage counselor to try and be nice to his wife. One day he comes home from work. He does the dishes, vacuums the house, and does all of the dusting and laundry. He’s dressed up in a suit, he has cologne on, and he has a bouquet of flowers and a box of candy in his hands. He’s trying to make a good impression. The wife says, “Oh, I can’t believe it! Little Johnny has been throwing up; the dishwasher just broke; your parents are coming to visit this weekend and to top it all off, you come home drunk!

Sometimes we have a hard time expressing love don’t we?

What is love? The word conjures up all kinds of different pictures. Is love a feeling or an action? For some love is flowers, candy and gifts. To some love is getting what you want from people when you give them something. For some love is an inanimate object such as a car, a house. This object will give them pleasure.

Where did love come from? Did it evolve?

What does it mean to tell someone that you love them? When we tell someone that we love them, we can mean anything from “I really like you a lot”, to “I really like what you do for me” to “I want to commit my life to you.”

1 John 4:8 says, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”

1 John 4:7 tells us that love is from God. How has God displayed His love for us? Why does God love us? Does God love us because of what we give to Him? This is t he type of love that the world has, the type of love that says, “I will love you if..”

What is different about God’s love? What can we learn about love from God?

I want us to take a look at another attribute of our awesome God, love.

I want us to see three things about the love that God has for us. The type of love that God has for you is a true love; it is not a selfish love that only loves you because you have something to offer. God’s love is a deep love, it is a love that we can look to as an example of the type of love that we are to have for the people around us.

GOD’S LOVE IS:

  1. SACRIFICIAL (1 JOHN 3:16, PHILIPPIANS 2:7-FF)

God’s love is a different kind of love than what the world teaches us. God’s love is agape love. This type of love means to do what is spiritually best for another because the one doing the loving sees something of value in that person.

The world’s system of love tells you that if do not get what YOU want out of a relationship that you need to move on to the next one. In our wedding vows we talk about for better or worse for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part. What this part of the vow means is that I am going to love you sacrificially. I may have to give something up to love you.

God loved us so much that He sacrificed a lot to show us His love for us.

1 John 3:16 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.

What did God have to gain by sending His son for us? Would you intentionally allow your son or daughter die for someone else? It reminds me of the story of a young boy and his sister.

A little boy was told by his doctor that he could save his sister’s life by giving her some blood. The six-year-old girl was near death, a victim of disease from which the boy had made a marvelous recovery two years earlier. Her only chance for restoration was a blood transfusion from someone who had previously conquered the illness. Since the two children had the same rare blood type, the boy was the ideal donor.

“Johnny, would you like to give your blood for Mary?” the doctor asked.

The boy hesitated. His lower lip started to tremble. Then he smiled, and said, “Sure, Doc. I’ll give my blood for my sister.”

Soon the two children were wheeled into the operating room–Mary, pale and thin; Johnny, robust and the picture of health. Neither spoke, but when their eyes met, Johnny grinned.

As his blood siphoned into Mary’s veins, one could almost see new life come into her tired body. The ordeal was almost over when Johnny’s brave little voice broke the silence, “Say Doc, when do I die?”

It was only then that the doctor realized what the moment of hesitation, the trembling of the lip, had meant earlier. Little Johnny actually thought that in giving his blood to his sister he was giving up his life! And in that brief moment, he had made his great decision!

Jesus said in JOHN 15:13 “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. This little boy actually was willing to lay his life down for his sister.

Jesus sacrificed His life for ours. God could have turned His back on you when you decided not to live you life that way that God wants you to live, but He didn’t.

As we look at the scriptures not only do we find that God sacrificed His son for us but in Philippians 2:4-8 we see that Jesus gave up the glory of Heaven to come here so that we could have the opportunity to receive eternal life.

The world tells you that you should have it all, God tells you that true love requires sacrifice. I am not just speaking of love within marriage, but love for people in general.

There will be times that our love for others will cost us something, your love for your children will cost you time and money. If your children cause you some embarrassment, will you still love them? We have embarrassed God, but He still loves us. In the story of the prodigal son, you know the father must have suffered some embarrassment over his son leaving to live the wild life, but when the son returned, the father accepted him.

Some young men and women need to realize that when they get married, they are sacrificing their days of running wild or running with the boys. The husband’s love for his wife should make him want to settle down and spend time with his family instead of running and boozing with the boys.

Some people feel that you can love with no strings attached, but God’s true love has the string of sacrifice attached to it.

GOD’S LOVE IS:

II. UNCONDITIONAL (ROMANS 5:5-8)

Hettie Green was a famous millionaire. She lived in seclusion and became a virtual recluse. She had only a few friends and an ugly mongrel dog that kept biting the few friends she did have. One of them said, “You’ve got to get rid of that dog.” Hettie refused. She said, “That dog loves me and he doesn’t even know how rich I am.”

Let’s look at Romans 5:5-8 together for a moment.

Verse 5 tells us that God’s love has been poured out to us through the Holy Spirit.

Verse six tells us that while we were still helpless, Christ died for us. The word helpless means that we had NOTHING to offer to God, but God’s love was such that even though we had nothing to give to Him, He still send His son to die for us.

Verses 7-8 makes the case that normally a person would not even allow themselves to die for even a righteous person, but God sent His son to die for us while we were still sinners.

You need to realize that God despises sin, but He loves us unconditionally. Our world tells us that you should be able to receive something for the love that you give. The worlds love us conditional.

In 1995, Christopher Reeve, the “Superman” actor, fell from a horse in a riding accident that severed his spinal cord and paralyzed him from the shoulders down. In the days which followed both he and his mother considered pulling the plug on his life support system.

In his new memoir Still Me, which recounts how he battled back from the accident, Reeve said he first shared his thoughts with his wife, Dana. “I mouthed my first lucid words to her: ’Maybe we should let me go,’ ” he recalled.

But his wife, through tears, persuaded him to fight back, saying, “I want you to know that I will be with you for the long haul, no matter what. You’re still you, and I love you.”

Think about the life that Mrs. Reeves was in for, yet she sacrificially and unconditionally loved her husband.

God’s love goes way beyond all that man would do or conceive and commends His love to us as deeper, stronger and purer than the human hearts can know.

It is easy for those of us who are saved to know that God loves us because we are trying to live for and please Him, but we need to understand is that God loves all people unconditionally. The person who is getting tanked up on the barstool last night is still loved by God.

This love does not mean that God likes what the person is doing or that love equals heaven, but the Bible tells us in 1 Timothy 2:4 that God desires all to come to the knowledge of the truth and be saved, despite what we have been done.

Sometimes love will require us to be tough. When a husband or wife abandons, abuses or commits adultery, your love for them at some point my require you to leave so that they will wake up and change. God loves us enough that He will not force you into heaven, if you do not want to go, He will not make you go.

The opportunity for salvation is an example of God’s unconditional love for you.

The worlds love has conditional strings attached. As long as you give me what I want, I will love you. As long as you look young and thin, I will love you.

LUKE 6:32-33 “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. “If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.

God’s love is unconditional. He loves you no matter what you have done. You do not have to clean up your act before you experience His love for you.

Living for Jesus in one sense is tough because you start thinking about how your actions reflect upon Jesus, but on the other hand it is easy when you can allow yourself to experience God’s love for you and turn your life over to Him.

I have heard a statement that I have always liked, LET GO AND LET GOD.

God always has your best interests in mind, let Him love you, let Him work on your heart.

GOD’S LOVE IS:

III. PERMANENT (ROMANS 8:38-39)

In Romans 8:35-39 we find that God’s love is permanent. Let’s look at the depth of this passage.

VERSE 35-.

No condition of existence (LIFE OF DEATH)

No beings (ANGELS OR PRINCIPALITIES) (Demonic or Angelic)

Nothing in time (PRESENT, FUTURE, THINGS TO COME)

Nothing in the way of powers. (earthly rulers)

Nothing in space (HEIGHTS OR DEPTHS)

Nothing in creation (ANY CREATED THING)

But God, I have lived a terrible life! God still loves you.

But God, I have allowed the devil to run my life! God still loves you.

But God, I have worshipped the creation instead of you! God still loves you.

But God, in the future I do not know if I can follow you! God still loves you.

Here is the point. Quit making up excuses as to why you will not allow God to love you. God loves you no matter what, God loved you so much that He provided a way through Jesus so that you can be with Him for eternity.

Let God love you. His love NEVER ends. God will love you if you decide to reject Him. God will always love you, but do not mistake that love for a ticket to heaven.

You can reject God’s love, but God will still love you. God loved you enough to give you a free will. God was willing to let you decide if you are going to love Him back.

The love of the world is a self-centered love; it is a love that basically says that if you can deliver for me, I will love you. God says, I love you sacrificially, (in other words, God’s love for you cost Him something).

God says that He loves you unconditionally. That is that God loves you no matter what you have or will do.

God says that His love for you transcends time. God will always love you.

I am so glad that we can look to God to see how we are to love each other.

In Ephesians husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church.

Jesus gave His all for the church; He did what was best for the church.

God’s type of love, agape, always does what is spiritually best for someone.

If a person loves you the way that God loves you, they will not use you and they will always be looking out for what s best for you.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A man can accept what Christ has done without knowing how it works; indeed, he certainly won’t know how it works until he’s accepted it.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap; he seats them with princes and has them inherit a throne of honor. “For the foundations of the earth are the Lord’s; on them he has set the world.”

1 Samuel 2:8
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Jesus Christ didn’t come into my heart to sit down; he started moving around.

Andy Hamilton


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To solve the human equation, we need to add love, subtract hate, multiply good, and divide between truth and error.

Janet T. Coleman


This Day's Verse

They will attack your cities until all the fortified walls in your land—the walls you trusted to protect you—are knocked down. They will attack all the towns in the land the Lord your God has given you.

Deuteronomy 28:52
The New Living Translation


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To live by the law of Christ and accept him in our hearts is to turn a giant floodlight of hope into our valleys of trouble.

Charles R. Hembree


This Day's Verse

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

1 John 4:18
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Why should we wear black for the guests of God?

John Ruskin


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Holiness consists of three things-separation from sin, dedication to God, transformation into Christ’s image.

James Aughey


This Day's Verse

Now, my God, let, I beseech thee, thine eyes be open, and let thine ears be attent unto the prayer that is made in this place.

2 Chronicles 6:40
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Life’s beauty is discovered through it’s pain and hardship.

R. R. Ball


This Day's Verse

Then shall your light break forth like the dawn, and your healing shall spring up speedily; your righteousness shall go before you, the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.

Isaiah 58:8
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The Other Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to stop beating myself up for not doing things perfectly, the courage to forgive myself because I‘m working on doing better, and the wisdom to know that you already love me just the way I am.

Eleanor Brownn


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

FRIEND

by Russell Brownworth

15Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; John 15:15 (NASB)

There is a picture which haunts my mind; it is of the last supper, where John, the beloved friend of Jesus is leaning against the Lord as they celebrate the Passover. Judas can be seen in the background, leaving the room to betray Him.

“Friend” is a word Jesus extended to even Judas at the Last Supper. “Philos” is the word; it means dear, and carries with it the idea of affection, a friend; 

Jesus knew Judas would betray him, yet he loved him.

Later, in Gethsemane, when Judas led the soldiers to Jesus with a kiss, even then Jesus called Judas “friend”. In fact he used a word which means comrade, or clansman.

The betrayer had worked out a sign with them: “The one I kiss, that’s the one—seize him.” He went straight to Jesus, greeted him, “How are you, Rabbi?” and kissed him. Jesus said, “Friend, why this charade?” Matthew 26:50 (TMNT)

When it came to choosing friends, I don’t think we would have chosen Judas. Then, again, consider some of the friends that God has had who are listed in the Bible:

Moses stuttered.

David’s armor didn’t fit.

John Mark was rejected by Paul.

Timothy had ulcers.

Hosea’s wife was a prostitute.

Amos’ only training was in the school of fig-tree pruning.

Jacob was a liar.

David had an affair.

Solomon was too rich.

Abraham was too old.

David was too young.

Peter was afraid of death.

Lazarus was dead.

John was self-righteous.

Naomi was a widow.

Paul was murderer. So was Moses.

Jonah ran from God.

Miriam was a gossip.

Jeremiah was depressed and suicidal.

John the Baptist did not dress well.

Gideon and Thomas both doubted.

Elijah was burned out.

Martha was a worry-wart.

Mary was lazy.

Samson had long hair.

Noah got drunk.

Did I mention that Moses had a short fuse? So did Peter, as well as Paul… well lots of folks have that problem. 

The Passion of the Christ film showed us the extreme pain and suffering Jesus went through in order to forgive the sins of people like that; people like us. Yet, with all the cost of being the Savior and Lord over sin, Jesus still calls us friends. It is a most strange thing that Adonai, the Lord God should want us as friends.

Our daughter Carrie and her husband Shannon have a dog; rather he is a small horse. He is called Coltrane. Cole does not realize he weighs 150 pounds. He also does not realize he has “drooling issues”. (Now that may be caused by the fact that my wife brings hot dogs to the house whenever we visit…the dogs are for the dogs…Cole starts drooling when we turn on their street. The sound of our car’s engine is like music to his ears!)

Whenever we visit Cole comes charging; he has only two gears, wide-open and stopped (on top of your chest, after you’ve been slammed to the ground). The hound is not going to miss hot dog call!

Coltrane eats before saying “hello”. (Got his priorities straight, that dog does!) Once the Ball Park dogs are inside the dog (is that an “inside-the-park-dog”?), then comes a gregarious welcome. The welcome always includes generous portions of “slime”. A 150-pound Rottweiler who has just consumed 18 hot dogs can produce impressive amounts of saliva!

Needless to say, I have learned to wear my yard clothes when we visit. 

This is for two reasons —

1. I can’t afford to buy clothes as often as we are at Cole’s place.

2. I love the dog…even the way he says “hello”.

When that hound comes to me, everything living (or that which wants to stay living) has to get out of the way. He is going to get his ears scratched and his tummy rubbed. In fact, if you rub his belly long enough, he just slides down to one side, flops-over and falls asleep while you “say hello”. “Keep rubbing…a little to the left…harder, that’s it….ahhhhh.”

This is so much like God’s acceptance of me. He wants me close to Him, even with all the goofy things I do, and the mess which I bring. He loves me and calls me friend, even with my sin and betrayal. He loves me and calls me friend, even though it meant taking on all my slime, my sin. He is still called, the Friend of Sinners!

Being a friend to the Friend of Sinners

Friendship goes in more than one direction. If all God had in mind was saving the world from sin, Jesus would have gotten up from the grave and returned to heaven. But, He hung around for forty days to teach the disciples what was next…relationship…friendship with God.

In spite of the fact that we tend to slip back into the slime of sin, God wants us for friends. It hardly seems like that would be possible, but it is the one reason this church (and all churches) exists; we are to introduce our best friend, Jesus to more friends.

Here are the major themes to friendship; they apply in your relationship to Jesus:

• Stay in Touch with your Friend

Being a friend is not the easiest thing in the world. I am not good at it. But, I am learning, and I’m better now than I used to be. Samuel Johnson said, “A man…should keep his friendships in constant repair.” 

Friendship is strong, but it can be destroyed through carelessness. It almost need not be said that Jesus is never careless with our friendship; we are not in that class. Last week I missed my friend’s birthday. In February I missed my daughter-in-law’s birthday. I’m beginning to understand why Judas went out and hung himself.

Our earthly friendships are important and we should keep in touch. The heavenly relationship is no different – even more important. Keeping in touch is that daily devotional time of prayer and reading our Bibles.

• Trust your Friend

George Washington wrote: Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity. 

When it comes to human friendships, George was right – there is nothing quite as devastating as trusting another person, only to have that person break your trust. On the other hand, friendship without trust is simply an acquaintance.

With Jesus, trust is the starting point. That’s the rub…we learn early to test before we trust. With Jesus, you don’t even enter the family until you trust Him.

• Be there for your Friend

When it comes to earthly friendships, there is a time when your friend will need you to stick with him. I am glad to say there are a few men who are my friends who have stuck with me in difficult times. I pray I will be there when they have need.

With Jesus our friendship should also be returned. He was there on the cross for us when we were still in our sins. His promise is that he will always be there:

…for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. Hebrews 13:5b


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The disciplined person is the person who can do what needs to be done when it needs to be done.

Richard Foster


This Day's Verse

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Proverbs 31:26
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The Bible teaches that you don’t determine a persons’ greatness by the value of their wealth but by the wealth of their values.

Rick Warren


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is possible to offer fervent prayer even while waiting in public or strolling alone, or seated in your shop…while buying or selling…or even while cooking.

John Chrysostom


This Day's Verse

And Elijah said unto Ahab, Get thee up, eat and drink; for there is a sound of abundance of rain.

1 Kings 18:41
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is possible to be so active in the service of Christ as to forget to love him.

P. T. Forsyth


This Day's Verse

Have you not known?  Have you not heard?  The everlasting God, the Lord,  The Creator of the ends of the earth,  Neither faints nor is weary.  His understanding is unsearchable.  He gives power to the weak,  And to those who have no might He increases strength.

Isaiah 40:28-29
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

I have pain (there is no arguing against sense) but I have peace, I have peace.

Richard Baxter


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The only complete cure for your bad nerves, as you call them, is to relax in the hands of God and know that He is now looking after your troubles, that He is now guiding you into the quiet waters of inner peace.

Norman Vincent Peale


This Day's Verse

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Colossians 3:16
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christian life consists in faith and charity.

Martin Luther


This Day's Verse

We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.  And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.

Romans 5:3-4
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

For those who have hidden fellowship with God, life is a continuous feast.

S. G. Degraff


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

PATIENCE

by D. Greg Ebit

Galatians 5:22-23

[22] But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

The annual cost of people running red lights in the United States is $7 billion. The average amount of time saved by running a red light is only 50 seconds. How much might a minute saved cost you?

Yes, this morning we are going to focus on patience. I’ve often heard people say, “Don’t pray for patience because it’s too painful!” Or others who have prayed, “Lord please give me patience . . . and I want it NOW!” Whether you are reluctant to pray for patience or if you want patience in a hurry, you are not likely to develop much fruit until you have a change of heart. What you need is a better understanding of what patience really is and how it works in our lives.

What is patience?

How many of you know when we talk about patience there are a lot of different ideas that come to mind? Patience can be:

o Endurance or staying power, an inner strength

o Tolerance or lack of complaint, a still calmness

o Persistence or personal fortitude, a willingness to wait

But what is patience . . . what is the fruit of the Spirit known as patience? Is it all of these things, or is it something else altogether?

For starters let’s remember, we’re talking about the FRUIT of the Spirit not fruits! Paul lists nine different expressions of the Spirit, but they are all one fruit. The fruit is all connected to each other.

Love is the blossom; love is where the fruit of the Spirit begins. Without love there is no fruit. In the same way you will not have cherries without cherry blossoms, or apples without apple blossoms, you cannot have the fruit of the Spirit without love.

The first thing the Spirit does within our lives is to put the love of God within us. Remember also that we are talking about the fruit of the Spirit and not the fruit of the saints. Apart from the Spirit of God these characteristics cannot be fully developed in our lives.

We have said joy is love rejoicing; peace is love resting—love trusting. Patience is love enduring; it’s love that is durable and lasting. Patience is love that is not easily broken.

How many of us would like to receive that kind of love from the people in our lives? Guess what . . . you will most often receive the love you give! When we think of patience as love enduring—a love that is not easily broken, then we are all more likely to want it!

Does this fit with what the Bible says? Paul wrote to the Galatians, “The fruit of the Spirit is . . . patience.” What did he mean by patience? Well for starters let’s remember Paul didn’t write the Bible in English! It was written in Greek. The fruit of the Spirit we are calling patience has also been translated into English as longsuffering, forbearance, and serenity.

What is this fruit of the Spirit? Is it really love enduring, a love not easily broken?

The Bible uses four different Greek words that are translated in various ways as patience. Each of these words emphasizes one aspect in one way or another of what we think of as patience. Because it’s “Greek to me” and you too we’re not going to look at all four of these words; we are only going to look the word Paul used as the fruit of the Spirit.

Paul said the fruit of the Spirit is “makrothymia.” This is a compound Greek word made up of the words “makro” meaning long, and “thymia” meaning anger. So literally it means LONG TO ANGER as opposed to “oxythymia” which means sudden anger.

We all know people who “have a short fuse.” They are quick tempered and easily angered. Let’s be honest; I have found “oxythymia” sudden anger looking back at me in the mirror sometimes; my fuse has sometimes been cut short. Am I the only one?

That’s why we need the fruit of the Spirit; we need “makrothymia;” we need a long fuse, to be slow to anger. Patience is the prolonged control of anger or restrained wrath.

Do you see now why patience or longsuffering, forbearance or serenity, whatever you may want to call it is really LOVE ENDUREING? Patience is a love that lasts; it is durable and will not be easily broken.

The Picture of Patience

• Matthew 18:21-35 (MsgB)

At that point Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?”

[22] Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.

[23] “The kingdom of God is like a king who decided to square accounts with his servants. [24] As he got under way, one servant was brought before him who had run up a debt of a hundred thousand dollars. [25] He couldn’t pay up, so the king ordered the man, along with his wife, children, and goods, to be auctioned off at the slave market.

[26] “The poor wretch threw himself at the king’s feet and begged, ’Give me a chance [be patient with me] and I’ll pay it all back.’ [27] Touched by his plea, the king let him off, erasing the debt.

[28] “The servant was no sooner out of the room when he came upon one of his fellow servants who owed him ten dollars. He seized him by the throat and demanded, ’Pay up. Now!’

[29] “The poor wretch threw himself down and begged, ’Give me a chance [be patient with me] and I’ll pay it all back.’ [30] But he wouldn’t do it. He had him arrested and put in jail until the debt was paid. [31] When the other servants saw this going on, they were outraged and brought a detailed report to the king.

[32] “The king summoned the man and said, ’You evil servant! I forgave your entire debt when you begged me for mercy. [33] Shouldn’t you be compelled to be merciful to your fellow servant who asked for mercy?’ 

[34] The king was furious and put the screws to the man until he paid back his entire debt. [35] And that’s exactly what my Father in heaven is going to do to each one of you who doesn’t forgive unconditionally anyone who asks for mercy.”

The responsibility of the servant to forgive is not dependant upon ordinary human emotion and feelings. The servant is not expected to show mercy because he is relieved and overjoyed that his debt has been canceled. Instead the responsibility to be merciful is directly linked to attitude shown to him by his master. Because the king was patient with his servant, the servant should follow the example and lifestyle of the king. In other words the servant should be patient with his fellow servants whether he feels like it or not simply because the master has been patient with him.

God has been patient with us. His anger and wrath have been restrained. He has not treated us as we deserve to be treated for our sin. Because God is patient with us, He expects us to be patient with each other. This is why Jesus has given us His Spirit to live within us. The Spirit empowers us to live like Jesus; the fruit of the Spirit is “makrothymia” long to anger—patience.

The Purpose of Patience

The obvious question is: WHY IS GOD PATIENT WITH US, and in turn why does God want us to be patient with others?

• Romans 2:4 (NIV)

Do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness leads you toward repentance?

What is God’s purpose for being patient with us? God’s patience leads us to repentance. As the wrath of God is restrained we are given the opportunity to become friends of God. Look how the Message Bible puts this verse:

• Romans 2:4 (MsgB)

Or did you think that because he’s such a nice God, he’d let you off the hook? Better think this one through from the beginning. God is kind, but he’s not soft. In kindness he takes us firmly by the hand and leads us into a radical life-change.

As a father I have taken my children firmly in hand from time to time. Sometimes I take hold of them when they have disobeyed to teach them obedience, but at other times I have taken hold of them to lead them to safety. I still take Mikey by the hand when we walk through a parking-lot or go across the street. Because I’m bigger than he is I can see things that he won’t see. While I may have to walk a little slower with Mikey at my side, together we arrive safely across the street.

God is patient with us; He has taken us by the hand, not to pour out His wrath. God takes us by the hand to lead us into a radical life-change, a life of repentance whereby we can have a relationship with God.

• 2 Peter 3:9 (MsgB)

God isn’t late with his promise as some measure lateness. He is restraining himself [He is patient] on account of you, holding back the End because he doesn’t want anyone lost. He’s giving everyone space and time to change.

God has a single goal for each of us, for all 6 billion plus of us living today on planet earth. God does not want us to be separated from Him for all eternity; He loves us so much He wants to spend all eternity together with us. Therefore He is patient; He withholds His wrath giving everyone time to repent. Notice what Peter then says:

• 2 Peter 3:15 (MsgB)

Interpret our Master’s patient restraint for what it is: salvation.

The goal and purpose of God’s patience is salvation! God wants’ us to have an intimate and loving relationship with Him!

That’s also why God wants us to have patience! As we live a lifestyle of patience God will use us to reconcile men to God as well as our own personal relationships with family and friends.

The Practical Practice of Patience

EVERY FRUIT I KNOW OF HAS A PROTECTIVE OUTER LAYER. We peel a banana or orange to eat the fruit inside. Others fruit like an apple or grape we will eat skin and all. The outer layer serves an important purpose; it helps keep the moisture inside the fruit . . . even in dry seasons. The outer peel will also protect the fruit and allow it to grow. If the outer peel or skin is broken or removed, then the fruit will rot and spoil.

Patience is like that for the soul of man. Patience protects our hearts from becoming rancid—bitter and rotten to the core. God wants our lives to be sweet and appealing to others; that’s the purpose of the fruit of the Spirit to give our lives the aroma and taste of Jesus!

The practical practice of patience restores and protects relationships. Godly patience enables us to show mercy instead of hate, to forgive instead of seek revenge.

“Patience is the ability to put up with people you’d like to put down.” Ulrike Ruffert

I have often said, “We must learn to trust the heart and when necessary forgive the hands.” Pinch your neighbor and guess what, you will probably feel good about it and they will say “Ouch!” Why? We are all human!

Hurting others comes naturally to us! The longer you are in relationship with other people eventually you will be hurt. That’s when you need to trust their heart and forgive the hands—to be patient, slow to anger.

And guess what, it is not an option! Remember the servant who begged his master to be patient with him. Because the king was slow to anger and forgave the debt the servant should follow the example of his master and do likewise.

• Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Patience is love enduring; it’s love that lasts and won’t be broken by anger. We are to be patient; with a long fuse we give allowances for each other’s faults and shortcomings.

• Colossians 3:12-13 (NIV)

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. [13] Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Patience is not idleness; it doesn’t mean you do nothing. Patience is active. The patient man is always ready to meet his neighbor halfway; instead of building fences, patience builds bridges to maintain relationships.

Further, patience is not simply a character trait or quality an individual may possess. PATIENCE IS A LIFESTYLE! It is a way of life that affects all our relationships. Patience is an expression of love because love is patient.

Patience, being slow to anger enables us to live a good life. Patience will keep us from embarrassing ourselves by what we say or do.

• Proverbs 14:29 (NIV)

A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly.

  • Slowness to anger makes for deep understanding; a quick-tempered person stockpiles stupidity. Proverbs 14:29 (MsgB)

Some of the stupidest things I have done were at times when my fuse was short and I lost my temper! Am I the only one? We have all done some things we would rather not talk about.

God wants to lengthen our fuse; He wants to enable us by His Spirit to be slow to anger, to restrain our wrath. Why?

God is patient to lead us to repentance; His patience offers us salvation a relationship with God that will last for all eternity. Likewise our patience with others is to restore and renew our relationships with one another. Further our patience can be used by God to bring others to salvation as well.

• 2 Timothy 4:2 (NIV)

Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.

You may not be a preacher, but your testimony can be wrecked through impatience, by cutting your fuse short and blowing up in anger. God does not want our lives to be a stumbling block to others. He wants to use our lives to bring others to repentance. That’s an ETERNAL practical practice of patience.

How can we have patience?

[1] We must be connected to Jesus.

• John 15:5 (MsgB)

I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing.

[2] Remain ever thankful for God’s patience in your life. Being mindful of how God’s patience will remind us of our responsibility to do likewise.

[3] Ask God for help! Yes, pray for patience. God will equip you to live a lifestyle of patience, or you can face conflict and hurtful relationships on your own.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Health is a good thing, but sickness is far better, if it leads us to God.

J. C. Ryle


This Day's Verse

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

Psalm 46:1
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Hate is a prolonged form of suicide.

Douglas Steere


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The very heart and root of sin is an independent spirit.  We erect the idol self, and not only wish others to worship, but worship it ourselves.

Richard Cecil


This Day's Verse

“And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites.  For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men.  Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.  But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly.”

Matthew 6:5-6
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In sorrow and suffering, go straight to God with confidence, and you will be strengthened, enlightened and instructed.

John of the Cross


This Day's Verse

Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness.  Whoever loves his brother abides in the light, and in him there is no cause for stumbling.

1 John 2:9-10
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The gloom of the world is but a shadow; behind it, yet within our reach is joy.  Take joy.

Fra Giovanni


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The air which we breathe, the bread which we eat, the heart which throbs in our bosoms, are not more necessary for man that he may live as a human being, than is prayer for the Christian that he may live as a Christian.

John Eudes


This Day's Verse

“Every one then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house upon the rock; and the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat upon that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.”

Matthew 7:24-25
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Our trials will seem to us nothing at all.  We shall talk to one another about them in heaven.  Let us go on, therefore; and if the night be ever so dark, remember there is not a night that shall not have a morning.

Charles Spurgeon


This Day's Verse

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped:  therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him.

Psalm 28:7
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

We must remember God more often than we draw breath.

Gregory of Nazianzus


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

THE PRIORITY OF WORSHIP

by Jeffery Richards

Luke 10: 38-42

Someone said “If God were small enough for us to understand, He would not be big enough to Worship.—Author Unknown

Some go to church to take a walk. Some go to church to laugh and talk. Some go to church to meet a friend. Some go to church, their time to spend. Some go to church to meet a lover.

Some go to church, a fault to cover. Some go to church for speculation. Some go to church for observation. Some go to church to doze and nod. The wise go there to worship God.—Author Unknown

I. SERVICE WITHOUT WORSHIP WILL CAUSE US TO LOSE FOCUS.

A. Service will become a burdensome weight.

1) This word “Cumbered” means “to be driven about mentally, to be distracted; to be over-occupied, too busy, about a thing”

2) Matt 11:28-30 The yoke was a familiar item to the Jew. It was made of wood and placed around the neck of oxen. Jesus says his yoke is easy or well fitted and is light, easy to carry.

3) The law was a heavy yoke. And in the same way, when we serve without worshipping, the yoke becomes heavy and hard to bare.

B. Without worship our attitude will not be right.

1) Martha was a kind and loving person from indication of Scripture. But here she had lost her focus.

2) I believe that Church division is a result of a lack of worship. If we are not worshipping, we will say and do things that we would not normally do.

C. Jesus said “Martha, you are careful and troubled by many things.”

1) The word careful has two meanings here. It means “to be worried and also to be seeking one’s own interest.”

2) Martha thought Jesus would say “Mary get in that kitchen and help her.”

II. WORSHIP IS NEEDFUL

A. It is the important or needed thing.

1) It is needed so that our relationship is right with Christ.

2) It is needed to make the yoke light.

3) It is needed to prepare us for service.

A while ago, the world watched as three gray whales, icebound off Point Barrow, Alaska, floated battered and bloody, gasping for breath at a hole in the ice. Their only hope: somehow to be transported five miles past the ice pack to open sea. Rescuers began cutting a string of breathing holes about twenty yards apart in the six-inch-thick ice.

For eight days they coaxed the whales from one hole to the next, mile after mile. Along the way, one of the trio vanished and was presumed dead. But finally, with the help of Russian icebreakers, the whales Putu and Siku swam to freedom.

In a way, worship is a string of breathing holes the Lord provides his people. Battered and bruised in a world frozen over with greed, selfishness, and hatred, we rise for air in church, a place to breathe again, to be loved and encouraged, until that day when the Lord forever shatters the ice cap.

III. WORSHIP IS POURING OURSELVES OUT BEFORE GOD.

A. Worship is sparing no expense or commitment to honoring Christ.

1) We tend to offer only what is convenient in our worship. That is not worship.

2) This ointment was very valuable. Three hundred pence was the equivalent of a years wages for a rural worker.

B. The use of her hair was a sign of total dedication.

1) Some have supposed that this was done because no towel was provided by the host.

2) The washing of feet was a job normally done by the lowest servant for his master.

C. When we commit everything to God some will criticize. 4-6

1) Judas said “Lord, that is a waste, we should have sold it and given it to the poor.”

2) Notice the insightful information given in Scripture. His true motive was to steal some or all of this money.

No matter how good it sounds, any work of God that is put before worship is out of place.

Will you totally surrender to Christ in an act of worship today.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To believers, Jesus says, “Go!”  But to the lost world, Jesus says, “Come!”

Rick Warren


This Day's Verse

Sing out the honor of His name; Make His praise glorious.

Psalm 66:2
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

When God sends the dawn, he sends it for all.

Miguel de Cervantes


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Tell God all that is in your heart, as one unloads one’s heart, its pleasures and its pains, to a dear friend.  Tell Him your troubles, that He may comfort you; tell Him your joys, that He may sober them; tell Him your longings, that He may purify them; tell Him your dislikes, that He may help you conquer them; talk to Him of your temptations, that He may shield you from them; show Him the wounds of your heart, that He may heal them; lay bare your indifference to good, your depraved tastes for evil, your instability.

Francois Fenelon


This Day's Verse

But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.

2 Timothy 3:14-15
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

How melancholy it is that we must often bolster up our will to live and strive by the thought that someone else is in an even worse plight than we are ourselves.

Oscar Wilde


This Day's Verse

“For the mountains may depart and the hills be removed, but my steadfast love shall not depart from you, and my covenant of peace shall not be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you.

Isaiah 54:10
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Live through me, Son of God, make me like Thy clear air through which unhindered colors pass as though it were not there.

Amy Carmichael


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Our broken lives are not lost or useless.  God’s love is still working.  He comes in and takes the calamity and uses it victoriously, working out His wonderful plan of love.

Eric Liddell


This Day's Verse

If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.  If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.

Psalm 139:8-10
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

As a good Christian should consider every place holy because God is there, so he should look upon every part of his life as a matter of holiness because it is to be offered unto God.

William A. Law


This Day's Verse

Pray all the time.  Ask God for anything in line with the Holy Spirit’s wishes.  Plead with him, reminding him of your needs, and keep praying earnestly for all Christians everywhere.

Ephesians 6:18
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

There are things you can’t dream your way out of, think your way out of, buy your way out of, or work your way out of.  You can only trust your way out of.

Bob Buford


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A LOOK AT ANGER

by Dennis Davidson

 

We need to get control of our anger & channel it into productive instead of destructive ways. It is important to understand our anger, realize what causes it, & how to control it.

A LOOK AT ANGER

Anger is a universal human experience. It is an intense emotional reaction that may express itself through frustration, irritability, annoyance, impatience, blowing of steam, shouting, intimidating, insensitivity, fretting, quitting, back-bitting, depression. Thus there are many passages in Proverbs that focus on anger. We need to get control of our anger and channel it into productive instead of destructive ways. It is important to understand our anger, realize what causes it, & how to control it.

In his autobiography, Number 1, Billy Martin told about hunting in Texas with Mickey Mantle. Mickey had a friend who would let them hunt on his ranch. When they reached the ranch, Mickey told Billy to wait in the car while he checked in with his friend.

Mantle’s friend quickly gave them permission to hunt, but he asked Mickey a favor. He had a pet mule in the barn who was going blind, and he didn’t have the heart to put him out of his misery. He asked Mickey to shoot the mule for him. When Mickey came back to the car, he pretended to be angry. He scowled and slammed the door. Billy asked him what was wrong, and Mickey said his friend wouldn’t let them hunt.

“I’m so mad at that guy,” Mantle said, “I’m going out to his barn and shoot one of his mules!” Mantle drove like a maniac to the barn. Martin protested, “We can’t do that!” But Mickey was adamant. “Just watch me,” he shouted.

When they got to the barn, Mantle jumped out of the car with his rifle, ran inside, and shot the mule. As he was leaving, though, he heard two shots, and he ran back to the car. He saw that Martin had taken out his rifle, too.

“What are you doing, Martin?” he yelled.

Martin yelled back, face red with anger, “We’ll show him! I just killed two of his cows!

Anger… can be dangerously contagious. As Proverbs puts it, “Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul” (Proverbs

In Proverb 14:17 the emphasis is on a result of a lost temper. “A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, and a man of evil devices is hated.”

The quick-tempered or impatient man readily loses control of his temper. When a man allows his anger to run unchecked he will not act in a wise thought out manner. Flying off the handle causes a person to do & say things, which he may later regret & be unable to undo. The Hebrew word temper comes from the noun nostrils implying the flaring of the nostrils in anger. It has been correctly said that when your temper boils over, you usually end up in hot water. We have seen it over & over again in our lives. We must learn to control our anger before it grows from a weakness into a habit of deceitful scheming.

Proverb 14:29 contrasts the slow to anger (patient) with the quick tempered (impatient). “He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.”

[ “Quick-tempered” is literally “short of spirit.”] What does anger do to objectivity? Anger obscures the facts & makes us subjective & emotional. To see calmly is to see clearly or with understanding. Let me illustrate.

A man from Michigan had an idea for removing a TREE STUMP from the yard of a friend. He decided to use some dynamite he had stored away in his house. It did the trick. The explosion turned the stump into an airborne missile that traveled 163 feet down range before crashing through a neighbor’s roof. The stump opened a 3-foot hole in the roof, split the rafters, and pushed through the ceiling of the dining room.

If we are honest, we can see ourselves in the actions of the dynamite user. We have used explosive words and actions to try to solve problems, which only made things worse. We get action, but we leave much damage in our wake.

We are not the first to let anger make trouble for us. It happened to people in the Bible too. Moses, for instance, became extremely frustrated with his murmuring followers (Num. 20:10). So, instead of speaking to the rock to get water, as the Lord had instructed him, he angrily struck it twice (v. 11). He did get water from the rock, but there was a problem-Moses had disobeyed God. Because of this angry response, God told Moses he could not enter the Promised Land (v. l2).

Anger, like dynamite, is explosive. Unless it is handled with wisdom and self-control, it can do great damage. [MRD II. Our Daily Bread] When a person’s temper gets the best of him, it reveals the worst of him.

People learn better than to come to the rescue of an angry person. Proverb 19:19 teaches us that anger stirs us to do foolish and destructive things. “A man of great anger will bear the penalty, For if you rescue him, you will only have to do it again.”

Anger is one of the most common and destructive emotions. In our hard-driving American society, anger is sometimes viewed as a virtue. We will be nice and friendly until someone crosses us, or we’re calm and controlled until something doesn’t go our way- and then we have the right to be angry.

We are taught by some psychologists that spontaneous explosions of anger can be therapeutic–can help us to get things off our chest and to feel better. While it certainly is true that not all anger is wrong (Jesus got angry), the Bible also makes it clear that we are not to be under the control of anger. “A fool vents all his feeling, but a wise man holds them back” (Proverbs 29:11).

Again Proverb 22:24 warns us of associating with hot tempered people. “Do not associate with a man given to anger or go with a hot-tempered man,” Verse 25 tells us what happens to us if we do associate with hot tempered people. “Or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself” (NASV).

The warning here is against being a friend or even associating with a hot-tempered man (lit. “an owner or possessor of anger”(19:19), or one easily angered. The reason for not associating because such an association leads a person to take on wrathful ways [which are foolish (14:17, 29), divisive (15:18), and sinful (29:22)]. Anger and bitterness are contagious. Don’t be friends with angry people because you’ll start to agree with them. When you do you become ensnared (29:6) in events and caught up in a way of life that is hard to get out of.

Levelheadedness, control of temper, and patience are requisites for leadership. One way to cultivate these traits is to avoid “friendship” with those whose lives are stamped by temper and anger. “An angry man” (lit., an “owner of anger”) and “a furious man” (lit., a “man of heats”) are not persons who occasionally let off excess steam. They are steam engines with subnormal boiling points and extra loads of fuel. Anger is their path of life (“ways”). To walk that road with them is to put your whole stability and equilibrium in jeopardy, since their path is laced by traps which any misstep will trigger. [Hubbard, David. The Preacher’s Commentary Series, Vol 15: Proverbs. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Inc, 1989, S. 364]

2ND ANGER STIRS UP STRIFE.

Proverb 15:18 teaches that anger people are divisive. “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute.”

The hot-tempered man [lit., a man of heat] blows up like Mt. Vesuvius The contrast is not between opinion but between two kinds of people, one hot-tempered the other slow to anger.

In contrast to the angry man is the one who is slow to anger. The calm man has his anger under control. In His presence quarrels die. Contention cannot exist without someone feeding the flame.

[Proverb 20:2 “The terror of a king is like the growling of a lion; He who provokes him to anger forfeits his own life.” ]

[Proverb 26:21 “Like charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, So is a contentious man to kindle strife.”]

Proverb 29:8 indicates that anger inflames situations and places. “Scorners set a city aflame, but wise men turn away anger.”

Mockers (1:22) laugh at the upright and stir up (“fan or blow on”) trouble. Mockers keep things in an uproar. These troublemakers get others angry and incite rebellion. (“anger” and “angry” in 29:11, 22.) The wise, however, help calm a city by averting anger and its rebellious results. [Walvoord, John & Zuck, Roy. The Bible Knowledge Commentary. Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1983, p. 967.]

Proverb 29:22 warns that hot head people cause sin to abound. “An angry man stirs up strife, and a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression.”

An angry hot-tempered person causes strife (26:21; 30:33) and commits many sins. These sins could include cursing, insulting others, misusing God’s name, being rude, lacking kindness, being cruel or proud.

Proverb 30:33 once again teaches that anger produces strife. “For the churning of milk produces butter, and pressing the nose brings forth blood; so the churning of anger produces strife.”

As sure as churning milk makes butter and the twisting of a nose brings blood, so the agitation and stirring up of anger produces strife.

3RD SOME SOLUTIONS FOR ANGER.

A solution for anger is proposed in Proverb 10:12. “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all transgressions.”

Hatred results in the stirring or raising up of dissension (6:14) because people who despise each other can rarely work or live together in peace. If you hate someone you look for excuses to bad mouth or start in on him. The gossip fiend is at work everywhere, in homes, offices, politics and churches. It is like a subterraneous fire that smolders out disgusts, dislikes, envyings, coldness and selfishness.

Love contributes toward peace because it covers or forgives the faults of others (17:9). It does not dwell on those faults (1 Cor. 13:5; James 5:20; 1 Peter 4:8). [The Hebrew word translated “covereth” is kacah, which means “to overwhelm” (Proverbs 10:6, 11)]. When we see shortcomings in others, the solution is to overwhelm them with love. For we who have been forgive so much must forgive others (Col. 3:18).

A promoter of strife magnifies the faults of other (and we all have them). If you love someone, you give them the benefit of the doubt. If you hate someone, you don’t. Love covers a multitude of sins [Prov 17:9; 1 Cor 13:4–7; James 5:20; 1 Pet 4:8].

The message of Jesus is simple yet astounding: Love your enemies. Do good to those who mistreat you. Repay evil with kindness. When Christians live by these principles, he will keep his heart free of hatred no matter how others feel toward him.

Proverb 15:1 teaches that angry outbursts are divisive. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Notice the contrast. A gentle (soft) answer can dispel a potentially tense situation. Such a conciliatory response in a tense situation is not easy. It requires forethought, patience and self-control. A harsh (lit., “hurtful”) word though arouses rather than dissolves anger.

In Proverb 16:32 having patience and a controlled temper is honored above being a great warrior. “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.”

In a land where safety depended on might and skill in warfare, this statement may seem surprising. Yet conquering oneself (14:17, 29; 25:28; 29:11) is of greater virtue than conquering a city.

If you’re slow to anger, or are self-controlled, you possess an ability so great in God’s eyes that it’s more valuable than the ability to defeat an entire city.

Proverb19:11 teaches us the value of discretion in controlling anger. “A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression.”

A prudent, patient man is not easily upset by people who offend him. The word discretion refers to insight. You must first have insight to impart insight. Discretion makes it possible for a man to control his anger & see what should be done & how it should be done. He overlooks offenses (12:16), knowing that to harbor resentment or attempt revenge only leads to more trouble. Overlooking them is honorable and brings him glory.

[Proverb 21:14 “A gift in secret subdues anger, and a bribe in the bosom, strong wrath.”]

In Closing,

When God’s Word shapes our thinking and guides our choices, we’ll discover that His way is always better than the way of the world. With gratitude, praise God that He has given up His anger against us because of Christ.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Worship is giving God the best that he has given you.  Whenever you get a blessing from God, give it back to Him as a love gift.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

The Lord God is my Strength, and he will give me the speed of a deer and bring me safely over the mountains.

Habakkuk 3:19
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

Who knows?  God knows and what He knows is well and best.  The darkness hideth not from Him, but glows clear as the morning or the evening rose of east or west.

C. G. Rossetti


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

So often I simply react to a situation rather than remembering how my God would have me respond because of who He is and because of what He has said.

Kay Arthur


This Day's Verse

He that goes forth weeping, bearing the seed for sowing, shall come home with shouts of joy, bringing his sheaves with him.

Psalm 126:6
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

What is there then that can blight our Christian hope; for apparently there is no person, place or thing that can neutralize the exhilarating truth that God is never far from any of us.

James Turro


This Day's Verse

“You have heard that it was said to the men of old, ‘You shall not kill; and whoever kills shall be liable to judgment.’  But I say to you that every one who is angry with his brother shall be liable to judgment;”

Matthew 5:21-22
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

God is the owner; I’m the manager.  Every resource, every blessing I have today is a gift of God.

John C. Maxwell


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Fear is a greater evil than the evil itself…What do you fear?  No, fear not; you walk on the sea amid the winds and the waves, but it is with Jesus.  What is there to fear?  But if fear seizes you, cry loudly, “O Lord, save me.”  He will give you his hand: clasp it tight and go joyously on.

Francis de Sales


This Day's Verse

“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

Revelation 21:4
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Pray often, for prayer is a shield to the soul, a sacrifice to God, and a scourge to Satan.  Prayer will cease a man from sin; or sin will cease a man from prayer.

John Bunyan


This Day's Verse

But one thing I do:  Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.  I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 3:13-14
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

God is a sea of infinite substance.

John of Damascus


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

HOW TO EXAMINE YOURSELF

by Jehu Hernandez

 

Self-examination is an important part of our relationship with God.

There are events in our lives that cause us to take a good look at ourselves. The death of a close friend or loved one, especially if death comes in an accident or at a young age, tends to make us stop this whirlwind of activities we call life and look deep inside our souls.

Examine yourself. That is precisely what the Bible teaches us to do every time we recall Jesus’ death by participating in the Lord’s Supper. But how do we examine ourselves. Allow me to suggest three areas that should be included as a part of our self-examination.

1. Examine your relationship with God.

a. What does our relationship with God consist of? It consists of a true and total surrender of our will to the sovereign will of God; exchanging our agenda for His agenda.

b. Many people who have accepted the gospel have done so because of the benefits that are received as a result of knowing Christ. He gives joy, peace, healing, meaning for life, glue for a marriage, the promise of heaven, etc. So they base their relationship with God on these benefits, but they never cross over into a relationship of total commitment. Consequently, we have an entire generation of nominal Christians who know nothing about power with God because they know little about true commitment and surrender to God.

c. Just how committed is God to you? Well, Jesus died for you to be saved; not only for you to receive the benefits of his death, but he died to have complete rule over you. (Rom. 14:9)

d. Examine your relationship with God. Are you making your own decisions without regard to whether it’s God’s will or only your will. Let your relationship with God be one where only He rules.

2. Examine your relationship with others.

a. Before a person comes to God, he basically lives for himself because man’s basic nature is self-centered. An unsaved person has little or no awareness of God’s laws and certainly has no regard for them. But when that person is saved, he is also transformed by the power of God. That self-centeredness is replaced with a humility and love for others. In fact, the Bible clearly teaches what the basis of our relationship with others should be. (Phil. 2:3; Rom. 12:10)

b. Unfortunately, we live in a society where we are taught to demand our rights. Some Christians have also demanded their right to make decisions without worrying about whether others are affected or not. They say, “I can do whatever I want. I have no obligation to other believers.” The truth is no, we don’t have that right, and yes, we do have that obligation. In fact, if our actions confuse young Christians and cause them to stumble, we will be accountable to God. (Matt. 18:6)

c. God is committed to building a loving family, so much so that he does not even want us to approach him if we are in conflict with a fellow believer. (Matt. 5:23-24) So examine your relationship with others. Are you placing your interests and desires before others? Are you making your decisions without no consideration for how others will be affected? Is there unresolved conflict with others.

3. Examine your relationship with the church.

a. What is this thing we call the church. The church is the family of God, those who have been saved and transformed, those who have been called out of the world, living in community with one another. The church meets together for worship, the church is accountable to one another, the church reaches out to the unsaved.

b. Why is it important to be committed to the church?  Because God is committed to it, so much so that his son gave his life for the church. (Eph. 5:25)  Because in being committed to it, we have power that hell itself cannot overcome. (Matt. 16:18)

c. Examine your relationship to the church. Are you as committed to it as Jesus is? Are you fully involved in the life of the church? Are you and your family reaping the benefits that come as a result of being committed to the church of God?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Forgiveness is powerful and beneficial.  When we forgive someone for hurting us, it frees us from feeling like victims or feeling we are under the power of the person who hurt us.

Grace Ketterman


This Day's Verse

“‘I saw the Lord always before me, for he is at my right hand that I may not be shaken;’”

Acts 2:25
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

When you pray, you are not starting the conversation from scratch, you are just remembering to plug back into a conversation that’s always in progress.

Anne Lamott


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday

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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God wants you to give Him your body.  Some people do foolish things with their bodies.  God wants your body as a holy sacrifice.

Warren Wiersbe


This Day's Verse

Be sober, be watchful.  Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking some one to devour.  Resist him, firm in your faith,

1 Peter 5:8-9
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is no use to pray for the old days; stand square where you are and make the present better than any past has been.  Base all on your relationship to God and go forward, and presently you will find that what is emerging is infinitely better than the past ever was.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

Do not say, “I will repay evil”; wait for the Lord, and he will deliver you.

Proverbs 20:22
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The more I read and pray, the more I want to read and pray.  The less I read and pray, the less I want to read and pray.

Ed Dobson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If you want to hear God’s voice clearly and you are uncertain, then remain in His presence until He changes that uncertainty.  Often, much can happen during this waiting for the Lord.  Sometimes, He changes pride into humility, doubt into faith and peace.

Corrie ten Boom


This Day's Verse

“Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom.  For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”

Luke 6:38
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christ is our fortress, patience our weapon of defense, and the Word of God our sword.

Amish proverb


This Day's Verse

Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!

Psalm 107:1
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

An easy way to make a bad day better is to smile at everyone you meet.

Unknown


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THE LORD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU

by Warren Bird

 

Grace, peace, blessing, keeping. God desires wonderful things for His faithful people! Blessing is a term that gets misused a lot – this sermon explores what it really means.

Have you ever noticed how the apostle Paul opens every one of his letters by wishing his readers “grace and peace”? It is also present in both of Peter’s letters, one of John’s and Revelation.

When they said, “grace and peace” these Biblical writers were not merely using a polite form of words to start a letter. In fact, they are very special words. To wish someone “grace” and “peace” is to desire for them something wonderful – it is to pray that they will be as close as possible to the heart of God.

When they said, “grace and peace”, Peter, John and Paul were also carrying on a tradition that dated back almost 1500 years; a tradition that started during the time of Israel’s wilderness wanderings between the Exodus and entering the Promised Land. God used this time to prepare Israel for life as His people in His land. One of the important things He did was to establish the role and ministry of the priests, who were to offer the sacrifices and lead the people in worship.

And an important part of their ministry was to “bless” the people. In Numbers 6 we read of God’s instruction for the priests to say these words:

“The LORD bless you and keep you;

the LORD make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you;

the LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace.”

And it adds that in this way “they will put my name on the Israelites, and I will bless them”. I’m not going into detail what “putting my name on them” means, but the essence is this. Pronouncing this blessing affirmed the people of their special relationship with God and of the special place they had in His world.

We learn from Leviticus that the priests were to say these words with their hands held up above their heads. This was to signify that the words weren’t just being uttered by the priests, but were coming from God Himself to the people. The priest was the mediator, not the initiator. When the people gathered for worship, the priest would offer the sacrifices to establish them in fellowship with God, then he would raise his arms and pronounce the blessing.

What did it mean to say, “The Lord bless you”?

The Hebrew word literally means “on bended knee”. It describes a servant kneeling out of respect for his master or a lover kneeling to ask his beloved for her hand in marriage. There is a wonderful moment near the end of “The Return of the King” when the four hobbits are stunned that the newly crowned king of men, Aragorn, kneels to honour them. That is something like what this passage has in mind. In this blessing, God is offering to come to His people “on bended knee” – that is, to come to serve them, to love them, to share Himself with them.

The second part of the first phrase of the Aaronic blessing calls upon God to “keep” His people. What do you think “and keep you” might mean?

The Hebrew word for “keep” is used to describe the way shepherds would use thorn bushes to build a protective enclosure for the sheep, to keep them safe from predators. “To keep” literally means “to build a hedge around”. Thus, the key idea is that of protection from harm, putting around you and your life a sort of fence to keep out enemies that would snatch away the blessings that God has given you, and to keep you from wandering off.

Are these not staggering thoughts? That YHWH, the supreme and almighty God, who dwells in eternity, the creator of and ruler over all things, would get down on one knee as a servant to sinful and rebellious people like us! That He would then take the trouble to build a protective hedge around us to keep us safe? Yet that is exactly what the Bible says he instructed the priests to call on Him to do.

Most people do not think of God like this. In fact, I believe that many Christians don’t think of God like this. Yet, even more than the people of Israel, we should be able to see that this is how God has revealed Himself. His coming “on bended knee” was most completely put into action in the incarnation of God the Son. Jesus in the manger is God on bended knee; Jesus eating with sinners is God coming on bended knee; Jesus living as one of us, then giving His life on the cross is God on bended knee. Jesus ascending to heaven and sending His Spirit as our Comforter is God at work keeping our us secure, for as Peter wrote, “we have an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade, kept in heaven for you.”

Truly, God has shown Himself to be a God who has a heart to bless and keep His people!

What sort of blessings does this prayer have in mind?

If you peruse the many other references to “blessing” in the Old Testament you will find that the sort of things most often referred to are:

• material needs being met, so that you will have sufficient to live on and to be generous to others;

• a happy family life;

• a good reputation in the community where you live and work;

• good health and a long life;

• the defeat and scattering of your enemies;

• fruitful labour, that their daily work would go well and be rewarded;

that they would be the head and not the tail – i.e. to be able to make decisions about their life rather than merely being followers, dragged along by others.

In short, these are the sort of things that the prayer of General Thanksgiving calls “all the blessings of this life”. Life, health, safety, power to work and leisure to rest, as the current version puts it. These are great things not only to be thankful for, but to pray for on behalf of others.

But the Bible also teaches that the greatest blessing is that of a faithful relationship with God, issuing in obedience to Him. The Aaronic blessing also goes much deeper than “blessings of this life”. It goes on to the two ideas that I mentioned at the beginning of this talk – it seeks from God the great spiritual blessings of His grace and His peace.

The second phrase asks for God’s grace:

“The Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you.”

The best way I can explain God’s face shining on us is to think about the difference between rainy days and sunny days. I work in the city and try to get out at lunchtimes to walk in the Botanic Gardens. I distinctly remember one day after a period of rain and wind that had made being outside quite unpleasant; however, the sun came out and when I went walking I noticed several things about the sunny day:

– it was much brighter – the grass seemed greener, the harbour sparkled, the flowers were all wide open with their colours showing off to maximum effect;

– it was much warmer – pleasant on the face, indeed it sort of cheered up my whole body to have the sun shining again;

there is much more life and activity – more people are out and about, they are involved in a range of activities that often don’t take place on wet days. The city was more alive!

How good is it, then, when in the midst of the stormy weather that we often encounter in life, when our spirits are dampened by the sadness of this world, to have God’s face shine upon us? His light helps us to see clearly, brightening our understanding of what is going on in the world and how He is in control working out His purposes. His love warms us and heals our soul’s wounds. When we are weighed down because of our own inadequacies and the contributions that we make to the sadness of our world, it is wonderful to know that God is gracious. We don’t deserve it, but He is on our side. God is for us – who can be against us? Nothing can separate us from God’s grace and love in Christ.

What a great thing that is to pray for someone – that they will know the grace of God in their lives! What a great thing for someone to pray for you! “The Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you.”

The third phrase of the Aaronic blessing asks for the reality of God’s peace in the lives of His people:

“The Lord turn His face towards you and give you peace.”

Have you ever been looking for someone in a crowd? Perhaps you’ve been to pick someone up at the airport, or been met yourself when you’ve gone to visit someone you haven’t seen for a long time. Think of the moment when you finally make eye contact with the person you are looking for. Suddenly, out of all the people gathered in that place at that time you make a personal connection with someone that you know and who knows you! You run up to them and embrace them. Any doubts – would they be there? Would they know you? – all such questions disappear as they turn their face towards you.

That’s what the Aaronic blessing asks for between us and God. When God turns His face towards you, it is a moment of recognition that you matter to Him and are special to Him. The one who turns His face towards you also opens His arms wide to embrace you as you meet. You are at peace in that embrace, you are secure in the knowledge that your relationship with God is real; you know that He knows you and that your relationship with Him cannot be shaken.

Is that not a wonderful thought?! It is not just a thought – it is our reality as Christians. Jesus said that His sheep hear His voice; He knows them and they follow Him; He gives them eternal life and no one can snatch us from His Father’s hand. God is for us – and neither life, nor death, nor calamity, nor things or people from our past, nor anything in the future can ever separate us from Him and His love for us. Truly this is peace that passes all understanding!

God gave this prayer to the priests of ancient Israel because His desire is to bless His people. He wants to come to us on bended knee to bring us great things from His heavenly storehouse of treasures. He wants to shine His face on us, to pick us out from the crowd and embrace us, to build a protective hedge around us so that nothing can deprive us of His grace and peace. This is the heart of God for us and He gives these blessings to all who come to Him through faith and serve Him faithfully throughout their lives. When Jesus hung on that cross, God came to us on bended knee to give us far more than we could ever imagine or ever deserve. He gave us Himself. There can be no greater blessing than this.

At the end of Luke’s gospel we read that one of the last things Jesus did before returning to heaven was to raise His arms and bless His disciples. I believe that Jesus prayed this prayer for them, as the great high priest who gave Himself as the ultimate sacrifice for us.

Furthermore it is now our role to be priests who pass on God’s blessing to others. As Peter says in chapter 2 of his first letter, everyone who believes in Christ is part of His royal priesthood. He speaks of us declaring God’s praises – which includes praying and working for the spiritual well-being of others. As someone has put it, we are blessed to be a blessing.

The apostle Paul knew this, which is why every one of his letters commences with his own shortened version of the Aaronic blessing – “grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.” He blessed them as he shared God’s word with them, as he travelled around risking his life to help them to know the gospel, and as he prayed for them and sought their spiritual well-being.

We also have the opportunity to be instruments of God’s blessing in this world – to minister grace and peace to our neighbours, our work colleagues, our classmates, our families and our friends. We can do this by how we treat them and by what we say to them and about them. The things we say to people can be a powerful force for good or ill in their lives. In a world that so often sets out to curse people, to put them down and keep them down, a positive word, an affirmation that God desires good for them, can be profound.

Let me illustrate what I mean by reading to you a true story. Writing in his book, “Life of the Beloved”, Henry Nouwen tells of a time when he was working with disabled people. One of the handicapped women in the community asked him for a blessing, but when he started to do the ritual signing of the cross she said, “no that doesn’t work. I want a real blessing!”. He realized something special was needed and promised to do something when the community was gathered together later.

He tells of how later on when about 30 people were present he said that Janet had asked for a special blessing. I continue in his own words:

“As I was saying this, I didn’t know what Janet really wanted. But Janet didn’t leave me in doubt for very long. As soon as I (started speaking) Janet stood up and walked toward me. I was wearing a long white robe with ample sleeves covering my hands as well as my arms.

Spontaneously, Janet put her arms around me and put her head against my chest. Without thinking, I covered her with my sleeves so that she almost vanished in the folds of my robe. As we held each other I said, ‘Janet, I want you to know you are God’s beloved daughter. Your beautiful smile, your kindness to the people in your house and all the good things you do show us what a beautiful human being you are. I know you feel a little low these days and there is some sadness in your heart, but I want you to remember who you are: a very special person, deeply loved by God and all the people who are here with you.’”

Nouwen relates how Janet’s smile assured him he’d hit the mark and that before long many of the other handicapped people had also come forward for a blessing. “The most touching moment, however, came when one of the assistants, a 24-year old student, raised his hand and said, ‘And what about me?’ ‘Sure,’ I said, ‘come’. He came and, as we stood before each other, I put my arms around him and said, ‘John, it is so good that you are here. You are God’s beloved son. Your presence is a joy for us all. When things are hard and life is burdensome, always remember that you are loved with an everlasting love.’ As I spoke these words,” writes Nouwen, “he looked at me with tears in his eyes and then he said, ‘Thank you, thank you very much’.”1

My dear brothers and sisters, blessing and being blessed are very important parts of being a Christian. Blessing is the work of God.

Let me conclude, then, by praying this prayer for you.

“The Lord bless you and keep you;

the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you;

the Lord turn His face towards you and give you peace.”

(Footnote: quotes are from “Life of the Beloved” by Henri Nouwen, Hodder & Stoughton 1992, p 57-59.)

(Second footnote: During June 2006, a scholar of ancient languages challenged my use of the definition ’to kneel’ for the word bless. He suggested that it’s only a primitive root meaning and not necessarily a good translation when used in the Bible. He particularly argued that my statement about coming on bended knee being like a lover making a proposal of marriage was conjecture and that he’s unaware of the word ’barak’ ever being used in that way in Hebrew literature. I take these points and acknowledge his greater expertise. However, I also believe that, in their contexts, the usages of ’bless’ that I’ve referred to in this sermon are perfectly consistent with the notion of kneeling in service and humility. I don’t believe anything needs to be changed, but I felt that I should note my friend’s technical point for the record.)


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We are of such value to God that He came to live among us…and to guide us home.  He will go to any length to seek us, even to being lifted high upon the cross to draw us back to Himself.  We can only respond by loving God for His love.

Catherine of Siena


This Day's Verse

Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation.

Habakkuk 3:18
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Go outside, to the fields, enjoy nature and the sunshine, go out and try to recapture happiness in yourself and in God.  Think of all the beauty that’s still left in and around you and be happy!

Anne Frank


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

And life is eternal and love is immortal, and death is only a horizon, and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

William Penn


This Day's Verse

“Where, O death, is your victory?  Where, O death, is your sting?”

1 Corinthians 15:55
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A world of saints and angles, a glorious world, the palace of God, the mountain of the Lord of Hosts, the heavenly Jerusalem, the throne of God and Christ, all these wonders, everlasting, all-precious, mysterious and incomprehensible, lie hid in what we see.

John Henry Newman


This Day's Verse

No evil shall befall you, Nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; For He shall give His angels charge over you, To keep you in all your ways.

Psalm 91:10-11
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

If you can walk,
you can dance.
If you can talk,
you can sing.

Zimbabwe proverb


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In a single day I have prayed as many as a hundred times, and in the night almost as often.

St. Patrick


This Day's Verse

The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works.

Psalm 145:9
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

He who created us without our help will not save us without our consent.

Augustine of Hippo


This Day's Verse

The godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again.  But one disaster is enough to overthrow the wicked.

Proverbs 24:16
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

When I get to heaven, I shall see three wonders there.  The first wonder will be to see many there whom I did not expect to see; the second wonder will be to miss many people who I did expect to see; the third and greatest of all will be to find myself there.

John Newton


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AGE & PRAISE

by Alvin Hathaway, Sr.

 

Psalm 63: 3 “Because thy loving kindness is better than life, my lips shall praise thee.”

Age is maturity gained though wisdom

Praise is acknowledging the sovereignty of God.

I met with a childhood friend of mine the other day for lunch. He looked at me and said; man you have a lot of gray hair. You should do like I do. When you take a shower, just put a little color in your hair. I smiled and told him. It took me too long to grow it like this!

“God keep my heart attuned to laughter
When youth is done;

When all the days are gray days, coming after
The warmth, the sun.

God keep me then from bitterness, from grieving,
When life seems cold;

God keep me always loving and believing
As I grow old.”

As one matures in age they should gain wisdom though the understanding that life’s lessons of love and longevity will bring you closer to God.

That’s why Age and Praise belong together.

  1. Age enhances praise because of authentic experiences.

Thou my everlasting portion, more than friend or life to me, All along my pilgrim journey, Savior, let me walk with Thee. – takes on new meaning when life has taught you what it means to have God as your everlasting portion.

When peace like a river attendeth my way. When sorrows like sea billows roll; Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say, It is well, it is well with my soul.

Longevity tell you that when you finally get a hold of God and God has gotten a hold of you. You become like the tree planted by the water and you’ll say, I shall not be moved.

Let look closely at the text and see how the life of David informs us in this Psalm. Psalm 63 was written when David was in the wilderness fleeing from his son, Absalom, who had taken over his Kingdom and was attempting to kill him. Age tells you that trouble can rise up in your own home, even among you children. The ones you have given your all to, invested in, sometimes can be the very ones to try to destroy you spirit, kill your joy, break your heart. But David knew that even though he had to leave for a place and flee to the wilderness. David knew something about God.

Whither shall I go from thy spirit? Or whither shall I flee from thy presence? If I ascend up into heaven, thou are there. If I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.

Age confirms in your spirit that if your heart is right, if your spirit is sincere, if your mind is stayed on Jesus. God is an ever-present help even in the time of trouble.

That’s why David in his wilderness experience could say with assurance.

“Because thy loving kindness is better than life, my lips shall praise thee.”

Loving-kindness. Kindness is calling someone on the phone and asking if they are all right. Loving-kindness is stopping by their house and bringing them some chicken soup and sitting beside their bed and feeding them until they want no more.

Kindness is inquiring. Loving-kindness is compassion.

When David thought about the Loving-kindness of God. God is a Shepard. God is a shield. God is a bridge over trouble water. God is a healer. God is a comforter. God is the lily of the valley. When David thought about the goodness of the Lord!!!

That’s why you praise the Lord. When life has given you some experience. When you been though the storm. When you seen the lighting flash. When you’ve heard the thunder roll, then you know there is a God somewhere. And his promise is true. God promised never to leave me, never to leave me alone. No never alone. No never alone. He promised never to leave me. Never to leave me alone.

David like each one of you stood on that faith during his time of trouble.

Trouble on one hand – wilderness in the middle – triumph on the other.

Because when David has the battle with the army of Abasalom, he defeats them and wins the battle.

2. Praise can extend age. Praise can extend your life. Many of you know that if you listen to what your medical doctors say, friends say, people say. You would have been gone a long time ago. But praising God can extend you life. King Hezekiah was told that his time on earth was coming to an end. He turned his face to the wall and prayed to God that I can’t praise you in the grave. God heard his pray and extended his life fifteen more years to praise his name.

Someone hear knows what it is to have Age and Praise. Someone has had an experience with God and knows that you just couldn’t keep it to yourself. You must tell somebody.

I have a friend who when she was 89 years old had a double heart by-pass. Many people wondered why have such a serious operation at such an advanced age. I met with her family. Prayed with her. She told me of her faith in God and her belief that God was with her. I had grown to love her and was very afraid that she might not be strong enough to with stand the trauma of the operation. She told me everything was going to be alright.

The night of the operation I prayed to God to allow to not necessary experience healing, but to experience wholeness. Healing is the recovery of your body. Wholeness is the recovery of your spirit and the experience of joy. The joy of the Lord is your strength.

Last Monday, she was 94 years old and I stood on the corner of McCulloh and Stevens Street and dedicated a former fire station that was completely renovated and had become a community center, day care center, banking center and office space. She was there because the building was named for her. The mayor was there, the congressman was there, the state senator was there, the four television stations where there, and people came from everywhere. Her doctor was there taking pictures. And I thanked God for the life of Maggie Jones who not only experienced healing, but wholeness. Five years ago was laying on an operation table and on this day was witnessing a building being dedicated in her honor.

I want you to know that age and praise goes together.

Praise God from whom all blessing flow . Praise God here below. Praise God.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is not trying to grab hold of God.  Prayer is to recognize God coming to us.

Stephen Verney


This Day's Verse

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.  But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.

James 1:5-6
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

It used to irritate a friend of mine that when he went to confession he never got the chance to tell the priest the good things he had done.

Monica Furlong


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Make sure you are doing what God wants you to do—then do it with all your strength.

George Washington


This Day's Verse

“Listen, all of you.  Love your enemies.  Do good to those who hate you.  Pray for the happiness of those who curse you; implore God’s blessing on those who hurt you.”

Luke 6:27-28
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

Eat not to dullness, drink not to elevation.

Benjamin Franklin


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Is life so wretched?  Isn’t rather your hands which are too small, your vision which is muddied?  You are the one who must grow up.

Dag Hammarskjold


This Day's Verse

“You shall love the LORD your God will all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.”

Deuteronomy 6:5
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

One act of thanksgiving when things go wrong with us is worth a thousand thanks when things are agreeable to our inclination.

John of Avila


This Day's Verse

For I am sure that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:38-39
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Standing your ground is easier when you are grounded in God’s Word.

Amish proverb


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

COMPASSION = ?

by Tim Zingale

 

Romans 5:6-11, Matthew 9:35

There are two verses in our texts for today that I would like to call to your attention. The first is in our lesson from Romans which says: “But God shows His love for us in that while we were yet sinners Christ died for us.” and the other verse is found in our gospel lesson saying:” When he (Jesus) saw the crowds, “He had compassion for them because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.”

These two verses, I feel, sum up for us the meaning of the gospel message, the Good News of Jesus Christ. God shows His love for us while we were still sinners, or enemies of God and Jesus had compassion for the people. But what does that mean?? God loves us and Jesus had compassion? These two words oft times have a vague and mysterious meaning. What does it mean to love?? What does it mean to have compassion??

In Roget’s Thesaurus, which is a book of synonyms and antonyms, he lists many words which describe or expand on the meaning of love and compassion. These words are, sympathy, charity, mercy, generosity, pity, and we could go on and on. And each of these words can be described with many others. The list is endless. But that still doesn’t get us to the meaning, to the heart of the matter, what does it mean that God loves us, what does it mean that Jesus had compassion? Maybe scripture might help, how about John 3:16, “God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that who so ever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life.

“Yes, that verse speaks about God’s love for us, but does it describe it? Can we see love in that verse? Yes and no. Yes we can see love because God’s love is visible only through Christ. No, we cannot see love, because we do not see the actions of Christ. The only true way to see God’s love, to describe God’s love is to see Christ. Christ is God’s love incarnate, or God’s love made real in this world. So, as we look through the New Testament, as we look for descriptions of what does it mean that God loves us, we need to look at the actions of Christ.

When Christ had compassion on the crowds, He was in a sense, in all reality, showing the people, showing us what it means that God loves us. As He healed, as He forgave sins, as He brought people together, as He made especially women feel part of God’s created order, He showed us and them God’s love.

Jesus is the one who shows us very dramatically what God’s love is like. It is a forgiving, accepting, caring, merciful, compassionate love. It is a love which allowed God’s only son to be killed on a cross so that you and I might have eternal life. It is a love which was willing to sacrifice God’s son so that reconciliation might happen on this earth. “While we were yet sinner, Christ died for us.” While we were yet sinners, Christ reconciled God the Father with the creation.

So, if one is to describe God’s love it can be described in the action, words and deeds of Christ. It can be called a reconciling love, a love which brings people together. It is a love which forgives, it is a love which is willing to sacrifice, it is a love which is willing to give instead of take.

That love of God is seen through Christ and the cross, but at the same time, the love of Christ is seen today not only through the actions, words and deeds of Christ in the Bible, but through the actions of the Holy Spirit working in the lives of people today. Paul says very clearly, that you and I are little “little Christs” out in the world. People see Christ today through us, through you and me. Paul says in Romans 12:9,”Let love be genuine, hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good, love one another with brotherly affection, outdo one another in showing honor.”

Paul says further in Ephesians 5: “Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Paul says further,”for once you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord, walk as children of light,”

As you can tell, you and I are to be little Christ’s in this world. We are to be Christ like, loving one another as Christ has loved us. We are to be free with our love, expressive with our love, we are to be generous with our love toward our neighbor.

As you have come to know my preaching style, I am comfortable telling stories and this morning, I would like to tell you some stories which sum up for me this love of God through Christ and then my love for my neighbor. It is in the experiences of these stories, that Christ becomes alive for the individual. I hope and pray that as you listen, Christ will come alive for you and then you in His love will become alive for your neighbor. Our faith is not static, but alive and expressive. As you listen to each story, decide which character you are. Who are you in each story??

Story # 1. 

“A group of men were traveling across the desert. They were total strangers when they started, some were well to do business men, others were common working men, and one was a criminal, a thief. This band of men traveled together across the hot desert sand. They encountered more wind storms they they anticipated, so their food, their water began to run low. They wore woolen hoods to keep the hot, biting sand from stinging their faces as they traveled. As they traveled, a man noticed that one was missing, the one called Jasmin. They looked around in the driving wind storm, but all they could see was his empty camel. No rider. The men thought it wasn’t worth going back to look for Jasmin since he was the thief among them. He wasn’t worth saving. But, Lawrence, a wealthy business man, a man who had a lot to loose risked leaving the group to go back to look for Jasmin. Lawrence traced over their route, and finally found Jasmin, half mad with heat and thirst. He shared what little water and food he had, placed him on his own camel, and led the camel forward once more. They traveled on and on until they reached the group. When they arrived, all were surprised they had made it. They were bewildered that Lawrence, the rich man, would risk his life for a thief, a crook. They marveled at his love, his respect for a human life.

Do you see yourself in this story?? I do, I am Jasmin. In my relationship with God I am the criminal, I am the outcast, I am the sinner. I am the enemy of God. But Paul says,,”For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of His Son.” You and I are Jasmin, having broken God’s laws, having become lost in the storms of life and failed to live according to God’s commandments. But all is not lost, Christ is Lawrence. Christ saves the lost. Christ finds the lost. Paul says,”much more, now that we are reconciled shall we be saved by his (Jesus) life.”

Story #2

Peirre von Passen in his book, Days of our Years, tells of a little hunchback, Ugolin, who lived in a small French village. He had a difficult because he was a monstrous looking person. Children would not play with him. One night some men who were drinking started making fun of him. One kicked him, spit on him tore off his clothes and finally left him in a pool of blood. Later that night, the local priest found him, took him home, washed him and put him to bed. The next day, while the priest was conducting mass, Ugolin, went to the river and drowned himself. When his sister found out, she committed suicide. Though they were suicides, the priest planned a double funeral in the church for he said, “Those children were not suicides. they were murdered by society without mercy.” The day came for the funeral and the priest went to the pulpit. While looking at everyone, he began his sermon says, “Christians!!!When the Lord of Life and of Death shall ask me on the Day of Judgment, Pastor where are your sheep??? I will not answer him. On the third time he will ask, Pastor…..Where are your sheep?? I will hang my head in shame and I will answer, They are not sheep, Lord…they were a pack of wolves!!!”

Who do you relate to in this story?? The priest, the boy and girl, the towns people??? Maybe all three. As the priest, you and I are the word of God in the world reminding people they are not all that God intends for them to be. You and I are not perfect. We need the love of God, the transforming love of God in our lives. If you and I were not or are not at one point or another a pack of wolves, if we did not have a sense of our own sinfulness, then, then, you do not need Jesus Christ, you do not need to be here, you do not need to come and eat and drink this morning, you do not need the cross, you can get up and leave right now because there is nothing here for you.

But if you sense you can be and at times are that pack of wolves at times in your lives, if you treat people badly, if you reject God, if you feel life is not as perfect as you would like it, then, you are in the right spot, because here transformation takes place, here lives are changed, here you and I encounter God and Christ through the Holy Spirit. Here you and I have a personal relationship with Christ through the Word, through the Sacraments, through fellowship with each other. Here hurts are healed, here lives are made whole, here fellowship and love are present.

Lutherans have far to often be accused of being stuffed shirts, non expressive in our faith. But I think Lutheranism is broad enough to allow for expression, to allow for joy, to allow emotion of faith to be expressed. I have said many times in my other churches, but probably not here yet, that if someone would shout an amen, or praise the Lord, or alleluia during one of my sermons, I would know that maybe someone was listening, that someone was interested, that everyone was not asleep. There is a power present here that means something, it means business is not usual. Life can be changed. People can be renewed.

Because of that power, we would not have an Ugolin and his sister dying for nothing. All of us at one time or another can relate to the hurt, the pain, the abandonment these young people felt. If we are honest with ourselves, we have all been there. But what is so sad in that story, is they felt they had no where to turn, no one who would care, no one to help.

But my dear friends, I hope and pray that does not ever happen here, because all of us have someone I hope, we have Christ, and we have Christ incarnate in someone here in the church. If we do not, then there is something wrong with the church and its members.

Here people is where the power of Christ is present. Here is where the compassion of the people of God should be present. Here is where love should abound for each other. Here is where we should and do feel free to express that love for Christ and love for neighbor. Here is where deeds of mercy and love should begin and then spread out across the land. But if we cannot love each other here in this particular family of God, then I do not know where else that love can be felt.

I like to think of the church as a family and in that family, each of us gives of ourselves, receives from others and is willing to sacrifice for another. In that way we express Christ’s love for us and we become little Christ for one another.

I would like to close with a story of that kind of caring. As you listen, think of yourself as the mother, at times, in the family of God, as you listen, think of yourself as the girl, because I believe as members of God’s family, we are constantly changing roles, constantly giving, constantly receiving, constantly being loved.

The story is told of a young girl whose mother was very beautiful–all except her hands, which were shriveled and scarred and hideous. One day the girl asked her mother about her hands….The mother told her how their house caught fire when the girl was very little. The mother rushed upstairs to the room where the girl was sleeping in her crib, and with the help of Lord was able to carry the babe downstairs and outside without being harmed. But in doing so, the mother’s hands were terribly burned. This brought sobs to the child as she said, “O Mother, you know I’ve always loved you–especially your face, your smile your eyes. But better than all, now I love your hands.”

Amen


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Do not limit the benefits of fasting merely to abstinence from food, for a true fast means refraining from evil.

Ambrose


This Day's Verse

Blessed be the LORD, that hath given rest unto his people Israel, according to all that he promised: there hath not failed one word of all his good promise, which he promised by the hand of Moses his servant.

1 Kings 8:56
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

You will always have joy in the evening if you spend the day fruitfully.

Thomas Kempis


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Let gratitude for the past inspire us with trust for the future.

Francois Fenelon


This Day's Verse

“I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand.”

John 10:28
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Our suffering is not worthy the name of suffering.  When I consider my crosses, tribulations, and temptations, I shame myself almost to death, thinking what are they in comparison of the sufferings of my blessed Savior Christ Jesus.

Martin Luther


This Day's Verse

Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have.  For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Hebrews 13:5
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

The devil is a gentleman who never goes where he is not welcome.

John L. Lincoln


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

However just your words, you spoil everything when you speak them with anger.

John Chrysostom


This Day's Verse

But the Lord is faithful, who will establish you and guard you from the evil one.

2 Thessalonians 3:3
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

He who has money to spare has it always in him power to benefit others: and of such power a good man must always be desirous.

Samuel Johnson


This Day's Verse

For God is the King of all the earth: sing ye praises with understanding.

Psalm 47:7
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Know you what it is to be a child?  It is to have a spirit yet still streaming from the waters of baptism; it is to believe in love, to believe in loveliness, to believe in belief.

Francis Thompson


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

PERSEVERANCE

by Scott Coltrain

In this world, we shall face tribulation. For this reason, perseverance is an important grace to develop in our lives. In this Bible study, we learn how to do just that.

I.DEFINITION.

The word is the Greek HUPOMONE. In Classical Greece it described the ability of a plant to thrive in a harsh environment – literally in the deserts and rocky slopes. In later Greek and Jewish literature, it was used to refer to the ’spiritual staying power’ which enabled the faithful to die for their God.

In the First Century of the Common Era, it was used for the characteristic of a person who is not swerved from their deliberate purpose and retains their faith and piety through even the greatest trials and sufferings. It means to keep continuing forward with an attitude of hope and a smile on the face even when confronted with unpleasant circumstances and great distresses.

II. NEED FOR PERSEVERANCE.

A. Christians Will Face Tribulations in Life. John 16:33; Acts 14:21-22

Christ never promised us that this life would be a bed of roses. The Gospel never said we’d go to Heaven on flowery beds of ease. Rather, we are promised that we shall have hardships and tribulations in this life, especially if you are a faithful Child of God.

B. Jesus cautioned potential disciples to count the cost. Luke 14:25-32; 9:23-24

C. Only those who persevere receive the reward. Revelation 2:10-11

III. MUST NOT REPEAT THE UNFAITHFULNESS OF ISRAEL

Exodus of over a million Israelites (603,550 men over age twenty) Numbers 1:46

B. Israelites left Egypt’s bondage with joy and gladness. Psalm 105:43

C. Only two persevered and reached Promised Land. Numbers 14:26-32

D. Paul admonishes us to not imitate the Israelites. 1 Corinthians

10:11-12; Hebrews 3:7-12, 16-19; 4:1-11.

IV. PERSEVERANCE IS DEVELOPED IN TRIBULATION.

Viewed in faith, tribulation is a friend rather than an enemy. Romans 8:28

B. Israelites failed to see the benefits of their trials. Deuteronomy 8:1-5, 15-17

C. Rather than complain (1 Cor.10:10; Jude 16), rejoice in God’s work in your life. Hebrews 12:5-13; Romans 5:3-4; James 1:2-4, 12.

One of the most fascinating events in nature is the emergence of the Cecropia moth from its cocoon – an event that occurs only with much struggle on the part of the moth to free itself. Some time ago, I had the privilege to see this extraordinary event.

But, the story is frequently told of someone who watched a moth go through this struggle. In an effort to help – and not realizing the necessity of the struggle – the viewer snipped the shell of the cocoon. Soon the moth came out with its wings all crimped and shriveled. But as the person watched, the wings remained weak. The moth, which in a few moments would have stretched those wings to fly, was now doomed to crawling out its brief life in frustration of ever being the beautiful creature God created it to be.

What the person in the story did not realize was that the struggle to emerge from the cocoon was an essential part of developing the muscle system of the moth’s body and pushing the body fluids out into the wings to expand them. By unwisely seeking to cut short the moth’s struggle, the watcher had actually crippled the moth and doomed its existence.

The adversities of life are much like the cocoon of the Cecropia moth. Like the viewer of the moth, with His omnipotence God can easily snip our cocoon and give us immediate release from our trials and adversities. But that would not be wise nor loving. God uses trials to develop the spiritual “muscle system” of our spiritual lives. If it were not beneficial, God would not allow it or send it. Each adversity that comes across our path, whether large or small, is intended to help us grow in some way.

Difficulties and trials would not normally be considered an occasion for joy, but James and Paul exhorts us to look beyond the immediate pain and discomforts of trials to the lasting effect they have on the character of the Christian. It is the expectation of results, the development of our character, that should cause us to rejoice in adversity.

When we view adversity and trials with this trusting, hope-filled and joyful attitude, God’s grace and strength can and will produce perseverance in us.

V. CHRISTIAN LIFE IS A MARATHON REQUIRING PERSEVERANCE.

Paul compares the Christian life to a marathon. Hebrews 12:1-2

1. Lay aside sin and spiritual hindrances. 1 Corinthians 9:24-25; 2 Peter 2:11

The encumbrances to be laid aside are those things which weigh us down, diverts our attention, saps our energy, or dampens our enthusiasm for the things of God.

2. Don’t look back, look forward. Exodus 16:2-3; Numbers 11:1, 4-6; Philippians 3:13-14; Colossians 3:1-3; 2 Corinthians 4:16-18.

3. Seek Jesus as the Perfecter of our faith. Hebrews 4:14-16; Luke 18:1; 2 Corinthians 12:8-10; Philippians 4:13

VI. THE CHRISTIAN MARATHON IS A TEAM SPORT.

Unlike earthly marathons, the Christian marathon encourages teamwork. Hebrews 3:12-14; 10:23-25; 1 Thessalonians 5:14

CONCLUSION SCRIPTURE: 2 Timothy 4:6-8


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I say that Christ might be living now in the world as our next-door neighbor and perhaps we not fine it out.

John Henry Newman


This Day's Verse

When calamity comes, the wicked are brought down, but even in death the righteous have a refuge.

Proverbs 14:32
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Friendships begun in this world will be taken up again, never to be broken off.

Francis de Sales


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Every day the choice between good and evil is presented to us in simple ways.

W. E. Sangster


This Day's Verse

So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.

2 Corinthians 9:7
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

How rarely we weight our neighbour in the same balance in which we weigh ourselves.

Thomas Kempis


This Day's Verse

The LORD is near to the brokenhearted, and saves the crushed in spirit.

Psalm 34:18
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Keep company with the more cheerful sort of the godly; there is no mirth like the mirth of believers.

Richard Baxter


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Where there is no love, pour love in, and you will draw love out.

John of the Cross


This Day's Verse

The haughty looks of man shall be brought low, and the lofty pride of men shall be humbled, and the LORD alone will be exalted in that day.

Isaiah 2:11
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I am pleased for my brothers to study the scriptures as long as they do not neglect application to prayers.

Francis of Assisi


This Day's Verse

For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.

Proverbs 2:6
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

You will not become a saint through other people’s sins.

Anton Chekhov


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Committing Family

by Jeff Strite

 

I looked up every reference I could find that used the words “commit”, “committed”, & “commitment” and I was surprised at what I DID’T find. I never found the Bible teaching that we should put our family first! Why?

Author and speaker Zig Ziggler loved golf and once took his son with him out to the golf course. His son was still relatively new to the game, so Zig was very impressed by his son’s performance on one of the par 4 holes.

At the tee, the boy lifted the ball straight and true down the fairway. A second shot got him onto the green within 14 feet of the cup. Wanting his son to succeed, he went to great trouble in sighting the shot for him and gauging the lie of putt and then told his son just how he ought to play it. His son stepped up to the ball and putted the ball perfectly into the cup just as his father had taught him. His first birdie.

Then it was Zig’s turn. He also had made the green in 2 shots but his putt was far easier. For a moment he considered flubbing the shot so that he would not overshadow his son’s achievement, but then he decided against it because it would go against everything he had taught his son about doing his best. He sank the putt easily and also birdied the hole.

As they were walking away to the next tee, Zig casually asked his son “Well, son, were you rooting for me on that last shot.”

“Dad,” the boy replied, “I always root for you.”

I always root for you… that is the kind of commitment you find in the best families. It’s a commitment that always seeks the best for our spouses, children and parents. It is always seeking a way that they can succeed. Always wanting them to get ahead and win at life. And that’s the kind of commitment God wants His people’s families to have for each other.

And so, in Deuteronomy 6, God says to Israel: If you want your families to succeed in life… if you’re truly committed to your household – then here’s what you have to do: LOOK THERE WITH ME starting with verse 5

“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.”

Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.

Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.

When the LORD your God brings you into the land he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, to give you— a land with large, flourishing cities you did not build, houses filled with all kinds of good things you did not provide, wells you did not dig, and vineyards and olive groves you did not plant— then when you eat and are satisfied, be careful that you do not forget the LORD, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery.

“Fear the LORD your God, serve him only and take your oaths in his name.”

This is the formula for success: put God first in your family.

Put God 1st in what you teach your children

Put God 1st in how you live your life

1. Now, as I prepared for today’s sermon, I looked up every reference I could find that used the words “commit”, “committed”, or “commitment” and I was surprised at what I DID’T find

I never found the Bible teaching that we should put our family first! In fact Jesus Himself taught us that we dare not do that.

In Matthew 10:37 Jesus said: “Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me”

But, now wait a minute…

I thought the church would be a great place to raise my children

I thought it would be a great place to strengthen my family

I thought if I went to church, I’d have a stronger marriage

Well, yes you will… but not if your commitment first is to your family. You will have the kind of family you want only if your commitment comes to God first. In fact, you have a promise to that effect:

“Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” (Proverbs 16:3)

Why would that be?

Well… this is how it works:

God knows that WHO I’m committed to will determine WHO sets the rules.

1. If I’m committed to my family first… then if they’re not happy, then I won’t obey God

For example, I know of one family where little Johnny couldn’t do anything wrong. And being a precocious little boy, little Johnny would periodically misbehave in Sunday School. One day when he was corrected for behaving badly in Sunday School one day, the parents didn’t talk to the Sunday School teacher to find out what had happened (she had acted properly, by the way) … they simply didn’t bring him back to church. Why? Because little Johnny is their priority… not God. They ended up divorcing themselves from God because little Johnny wasn’t happy.

2. If I’m committed to my family first… then I’ll do what I (rather than God) THINK is right

I once met a man who told me of the great movies he and his grade school sons had watched together. Now, this man wasn’t a Christian, but I was appalled at what he allowed into his house. I knew these movies were PG-13 fare I wouldn’t watch if it were just me at home.

Granted, I’d never seen these movies, but from the advertising and the nature of the actors in those movies, I knew they displayed disrespect for authority and were loaded with profanity.

I tried to be tactful (because I was trying to win this man to Christ) and I noted that I would be worried about bringing that kind of movie – so filled with cursing – into my house with my two kids.

He scoffed and replied: “They’re going to hear that kind of language eventually, they may as well hear it here in my house with me.”

To him this made sense. These were his boys and he wanted to share the movies he liked to watch with them. AND because he wasn’t a Christian – God standards were not a priority to him.

It is a firm principle of Christian life if you and I put our families first… then sooner or later, God will come 2nd

But when I put God 1st then my family will benefit BECAUSE THEN God will then set the rules on how I should treat my family.

In 1 Peter 3:7 tells us Husbands to “be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

What God is saying is that if we husbands mistreat our wives – He won’t listen to us. He won’t hear our prayers.

In Ephesians 5:33 Husbands are told we “must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Wives are commanded by God to respect their husbands. To not put them down or belittle them.

Then in Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”— which is the first commandment with a promise— “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

God is telling our kids that if they want to survive in this world, they need to learn to honor their parents. If they don’t, they’ll suffer and live lives that won’t be what they’d hoped for.

And Fathers are told, “do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

Notice… all these are commands from the Lord. We MAY NOT ALWAYS WANT to do these things, but even if we don’t want to do them – if God is our 1st priority/ if we’re committed to pleasing God above all else in life – then we’ll follow them because this is what God wants us to.

You see… if I’m totally committed to God, then I understand that once I became a Christian I signed my entire life over to Him. I don’t own anything. I don’t own my home, my car, even the clothes on my back. AND, I don’t own my wife or husband or my children. They all belong to the Lord. And God tells me that He thus hold me accountable for the things that are now His. He holds me accountable for how I treat my wife or discipline my kids. They are His, not mine.

II. Now… that’s only PART of the idea of building our families on the foundation of commitment

Why is that only ONE part? Because what I’ve just discussed is MY part of this commitment thing. We haven’t yet talked about GOD’S part

God says in Psalms 37:5-6: “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and HE WILL DO THIS: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.”

In other words: You put God first… God will put you first

Now, there are people who believe the pagan concept of “God helps those who help themselves”

This is a false doctrine. It is not Biblical.

God has NEVER said that and has NEVER endorsed that

God does not help those who help themselves.

God helps those who honor Him and put Him first in their lives.

NOW I don’t care if someone is a Christian or not: every parent… every child… every grandparent…. really want what’s best for their family. And sometimes those who are not Christians will do by instinct what God commands us to do as Christians. Perhaps their parents modeled this lifestyle for them. Perhaps they’ve seen Christians who’ve treated their families Biblically and have copied that… or perhaps they intuitively know that this is the right thing to do.

Thus, we all (Christians and non-Christian alike) try to make sure our family is well provided for.

Our children to have the best education

The best health care

The best opportunities for a good job when they graduate

We want them to marry well

We want them to raise children/grandchildren that we be proud of

If it’s WITHIN OUR POWER, we want them to have a financial help they may need to get ahead…

If it’s within OUR power…

Many families will do much of what they do “within their OWN power”. And by extension… they teach their children to rely upon THEIR OWN power

One day a small boy tried to lift a heavy stone, but couldn’t budge it. His father, watching him, finally said, “Are you using all your strength?”

“Yes, I am!” cried the boy.

“No, you’re not,” said the father. “You haven’t asked me to help you.”

What God is saying here in Deut. 6 is: teach your kids to ask me for help. And you will teach them this by helping them to remember that God helped YOU in the past.

If you and I make it a constant part of my life to REMEMBER what God has done for us in the past (when we have been faced difficulties and obstacles in our lives) we’ll be more inclined to look to God for help when we encounter problems a 2nd and 3rd and 4th time in life.

And if that’s true in our lives… then our kids will be more inclined to look to God when life gets difficult for them.

This type of mindset should almost be “missionary” for us. We should be as consumed with this as we are with any other aspect of life we consider vital to the health of our family.

For example: my kids are still in grade school and when they get ready for bed Diana yells up at them: “Don’t forget to brush your teeth!” Every night she does this.

Then, in the morning, before the kids leave for school, she’ll shout to them “Did you remember to brush your teeth?”

Every morning and every night, my wife pursues this with a missionary zeal. Why? Because she wants to make sure our kids have the same teeth they have now til they die!

Likewise, we should deliberately pursue teaching our family about God’s power in our lives.

Years ago in Reader’s Digest, one young black woman told of how her dad used to teach God’s providence to his kids. She said she remembered this story from her youth:

Her dad said: “Seems like some of our neighbors expect to be sharecropping forever. But it doesn’t have to be that way, now does it? Look at the boy Joseph there in the Bible.”

She said that then her dad wove the wondrous story about a young man thrown into a dark slimy pit.

Then he said: “Joseph didn’t stay in that hole. Joseph expected to be a leader, not a forgotten young man at the bottom of a pit. And do you know what happened to him? One day…” and then he told of how God worked in Joseph’s life to pull him out of that pit and raise him up to be the 2nd most powerful man in Egypt.

It was such a powerful lesson that she remembered it even when she became an adult.

I personally like these “Chicken Soup For the Soul” books. I read them to Jonathan when he was growing up and they taught him that God really does work in people’s lives. He’s not just a distant God talked about in an old book that’s 100’s of years old. God works in people’s lives today.

The book has made such an impression on him that he took it to school with him just last week.

And I’ll tell him and Naomi stories of what God has done in my life and Diana’s life and how we’ve learned to depend upon Him for everything we have.

Deuteronomy 6 tells us we need to teach our children/ grandchildren – with a missionary zeal. It should be an all-consuming passion to get our kids to know that

God is good…

and God cares

and God acts in our lives

If we believe that God can act in our lives… if we’re convinced that God has acted in our lives… and if we’re committed to putting God as the central force in our lives… then our kids/ grandkids will pick that up. They’ll learn to trust in our heavenly Father because they’ve seen that we have learned to trust in our Father.

The story’s told of a stuntman who – years ago – pulled a tightrope across Niagara falls. He had announced that he was going to walk across both ways and a large crowd gathered for the event.

He started across the water on that tightrope and made it to the other side and the crowd applauded.

Then he started to walk back; he made it again and every body applauded. People who said it couldn’t be done suddenly became believers.

Then he took a wheelbarrow and walked the wheelbarrow across. By this time everyone was a believer where some had been scoffers before.

Then he asked, “Now before I take the wheelbarrow back once more, and I’m going to ask for a volunteer. Who will ride in the wheelbarrow?”

The applauding believers suddenly drew back. But one young child came forward, and climbed into the wheelbarrow. As he made his way back and forth across the falls with this young girl in the wheelbarrow, someone in the crowd asked “how could she be so trusting of this man?”

Another in the crowd responded: “Oh, didn’t you know? That’s her father.”

She believed it could be done… because she believed in her father. Likewise, our children should know how much we’re willing to trust God… because He is our Father.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The gift of the Holy Ghost closes the last gap between the life of God and ours.

Austin Farrer


This Day's Verse

He will swallow up death forever; and the Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces, and the reproach of his people he will take away from all the earth, for the LORD has spoken.

Isaiah 25:8
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

It is not possible ever to exhaust the mind of the Scriptures.  It is a well that hath no bottom.

John Chrysostom


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The old timers had more faith in the Bible.  Spent more time on their knees.  Got more meaning out of life than the present modern generation with all its technical advances and electromechanical gadgets.  We have gained technically but we have lost spiritually.

A. P. Gouthey


This Day's Verse

Anyone who hates his Christian brother is really a murderer at heart; and you know that no one wanting to murder has eternal life within.

1 John 3:15
The Living Bible


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Relying on God has to begin all over again every day as if nothing had yet been done.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

“What’s more, I am with you, and I will protect you wherever you go.”

Genesis 28:15
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

Those who have the gale of the Holy Spirit go forward even in sleep.

Brother Lawrence


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

This is the gift that God reserves for His special proteges, talent and beauty he gives to many.  Wealth is commonplace, fame not rare.  But peace of mind—that is HIs final guerdon of approval, the fondest sign of His love, He bestows it.  Most men are never blessed with it, others wait all their lives—yes, far into advanced age—for this gift to descend upon them.

Joshua Liebman


This Day's Verse

Nevertheless I am continually with thee: thou hast holden me by my right hand.  Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory.

Psalm 73:23-24
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The essential fact of Christianity is that God thought all men worth the sacrifice of his Son.

William Barclay


This Day's Verse

The LORD will guide you continually,

Isaiah 58:11
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

I can hardly think I am entered this day into the seventy-eighth year of my age.  By the blessing of God, I am just the same as when I entered the twenty-eighth.  This hath God wrought, chiefly by my constant exercise, my rising early, and preaching morning and evening.

John Wesley


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

MY LORD AND MY GOD

by Simon Rundell

 
Thomas as Everyman: Doubting Thomas or Believing Thomas?

Thomas must have felt that he had a bit of a raw deal. For he really missed out on that first Easter Sunday. Thomas must be the definitive everyman, for there is a little bit of him in each of us, and what he missed has much to teach us.

Firstly, Peace.

“Peace” Jesus said to the disciples in the locked room. What a relief for them, a frightened, persecuted, and bewildered group, hidden away in a locked room “for fear of the Jews”. It could conceivably have been the same upper room that was the site of Christ’s final, most significant teaching: triumph become disaster within only a few days. His first words were “Shalom” – “Peace”. He could have spoken first of his disappointment, of his anger at them for their denial, abandonment, misunderstanding and betrayal. However, Peace is what he bestows on his disciples, and in saying this he echoes what he had said in that same room on the last night he had been with them: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid”

And Thomas missed the peace.

Next, Pardon.

Our Lord had already forgiven or pardoned the disciples when he bestowed peace upon them; but he spoke explicitly of pardon when he spoke of forgiving and retaining sins. What Christ empowered the apostles to do, his Church continues…

The pardon of our Saviour can be available to us, only if we make some concessions: God cannot fill our cup with forgiveness if it is already filled to the brim with bitterness.

God cannot embrace us with forgiveness if our arms are carrying the heavy burden of resentment.

God cannot take our hand in forgiveness, if our fists are clenched in anger.

God cannot forgive the malevolent, shadowy side of our spirits if our minds are darkened by revenge and hate.

In his cry of doubt, Thomas shows his own unwillingness to make concessions to Our Lord, expecting Christ to come to him and show even his most intimate wounds, associated with the world’s greatest humiliation, with nothing given in return.

So Thomas missed out on the pardon of Christ.

Finally, Presence.

The real, concrete, Glorious Presence of God came to those disciples. Woody Allen said that “95% of life is just ‘showing up’” Thomas had simply failed to ‘show up’.

And so Thomas missed the presence.

He missed out, and that must have hurt; especially for one so previously intimate with our Lord. Peace, Pardon and Presence, Thomas missed them all. In their place he demanded a substitute for them, something which our cynical society constantly craves, and which we, in our inmost, darkest times before the dawn hanker after, another “P” – “Proof”

And this is why I must conclude that Thomas must be the definitive everyman, because although graced with apostolic sainthood, he is shown to be above all like us. In our struggle to maintain the Christian life, we too miss out on Peace, Pardon and the Presence of Christ, and in return we torture ourselves over Proof.

Despite being promised how blessed we would be if we believe without physical proof, the burden of rationality rests upon our faith like a cumbersome weight – `Unless I see the mark of the nails in his hands, and put my finger in the mark of the nails and my hand in his side, I will not believe’. Thomas craves certainty, clarity, proof: an empty tomb and the reports of his colleagues are simply not enough. And these things have not changed: the quest for proof to bridge the gap between us and the living Godhead remains constant through the ages: from the Upper Room, past the Enlightenment and into our present age.

Thomas. How like the rest of us, Thomas manages to be; unwilling to commit to faith, I imagine him being borne by the tide of apostleship: to join the band, caught up but not caught in.

How often we treat our membership of the Church like this: caught up, but not caught in. A central part, a leader of worship and a focus of ministry even, but without having that final act of faith.

So, was Thomas just going through the motions of discipleship? Was he incapable of commitment to faith beyond proof? I think not, for he learns in his shame that his Lord was indeed his God: a shame almost comparable to the remorse felt by Peter when he had denied Christ. Both are forgiven, both are justified by the risen Christ, and they are used as examples to us, we the less immediate disciples: learn from Thomas and believe without having to put your hand into his side.

Recall in your mind that great painting by Carravaggio, where Jesus lets Thomas get right up close to see his wounds. Thomas is bent over – at eye-level with his pierced side, and Jesus is guiding his hand so that he might feel the wound for himself. Most graphically, Thomas’ finger is buried in the gaping hole in Our Lord’s side, all the way up to the knuckle.

We do not have that privilege; but how much we would all like to swap places with Thomas, and to be able to quench those nagging doubts once and for all with a little physicality.

When Thomas was given the opportunity to experience the risen Christ, the Presence of Christ in his life, he was also able to experience the Pardon, a blessing even, and through that he is able to experience the Peace; a true peace which can only come from an intimate, life-changing encounter with the risen Lord. Thomas therefore was ultimately able to catch up with those special events, and through this, to be able to conclude that he was faced by “My Lord and My God”. He did not miss out.

‘Blessed are those who believe when they have not seen’ .  John the Evangelist speaks directly to us at the end of this Gospel passage, a ‘direct-to-camera’ piece which reminds us of the purpose of his gospel, the purpose of all the gospels, which is to enable us, nearly 2000 years after these marvelous events, to be able to believe. He says to us that “Jesus did many other signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book” , events which may have been trivial: encounters, comforts, healings even, which the risen Christ took part in during those heady days between Easter and the Glorious Ascension, proof which existed, but which we do not need.

The other passages we have learnt from this afternoon speak of another “P” – Permanence. Through the resurrection of Our Lord, Jesus Christ he has demonstrated the undisputable permanence of God: more than simply a prophet, more than simply a teacher, more than even a King of Israel like David, who was as corruptible in the body if not the soul as the rest of us. Not merely content with being seen on earth, the incarnation of Christ, and the resurrected Lord offers us an incorruptible place, the route to which can only be found by faith. This was the faith that Thomas was able, at last, to capture. Peter also speaks of permanence, an enduring faith which becomes so real to those experiencing it that it becomes the purest they can imagine: a faith as precious as highly refined gold.

As Thomas discovered, faith is therefore not something which can be scientifically rationalized, and all such rationalizations have been ultimately disappointing in their conclusions. Thomas thought to begin with that he needed a concrete solution, and failed to realize that he ignored the qualitative, the abstract, the core that makes up Faith; for this he nearly missed out, and the danger is that we too may miss out.

Look beyond the Proof – and there is proof out there, if you really want to fruitlessly search hard enough for it – and seek the faith that is found behind this account; a faith that is as pure as gold that has been tested by fire.

We will always remember Thomas as the one who dared to question the reports of his fellow apostles – “doubting Thomas”. However, his one definitive statement is the finest example of New Testament Christology – “My Lord and My God”. How dare we call him doubting Thomas after that: “professing Thomas”, perhaps, “confessing Thomas”, and now, most undoubtedly, “believing Thomas”

“My Lord and My God”. We declare. We bear witness. We believe.
Amen.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Fathers and mothers of families should bring up their children virtuously, looking at them rather as God’s children than their own; and to count life and health, and all they possess as loans which they hold of God.

Philip Neri


This Day's Verse

And even when you do ask you don’t get it because your whole aim is wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.

James 4:3
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

Err in the direction of kindness.

George Saunders


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The Christian who lives in the Spirit speaks with authority.  His plans and efforts are in union with the thoughts and ways and words of God.  He is increasingly aware of his privileges through faith and of his limitless possibilities through redemption.  He was not built for the temporal; therefore, he will settle for nothing less than the eternal.

A. P. Gouthey


This Day's Verse

But grace was given to each of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift.

Ephesians 4:7
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Ten minutes spent in Christ’s society every day, ay, two minutes, if it be face to face, and heart to heart, will make the whole life different.

William Drummond


This Day's Verse

No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

1 Corinthians 10:13
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.

G. K. Chesterton


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To know about Christ is not enough.  To be convinced that He is the Saviour of the world is not enough.  To affirm your faith in Him, as we do in the Apostle’s Creed, is not enough.  You really don’t actively believe in Christ until you make a commitment of your life to Him and receive Him as your Saviour.

Billy Graham


This Day's Verse

Stop being angry!  Turn from your rage!  Do not lose your temper—it only leads to harm.

Psalm 37:8
The New Living Translation


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Though the world needs reproof and correction, it needs kindness more; though it needs the grasp of the strong hand, it needs, too, the open palm of love and tenderness.

H. W. Beecher


This Day's Verse

Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.

Proverbs 16:18
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Prayers should be the key of the day and the lock of the night.

English proverb


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

WORSHIP

by James Capps

Worship is one of the purposes of the church. Worship is the main thing the church has been called to.

WHY IS WORSHIP SO IMPORTANT?

Worship has always been the main thing for the church to be involved in….Actually this began long before Jesus came on the scene…Worship was central to the lives of the folks in the Old Testament…and most of our understanding of worship comes from them…

Originally worship was a relationship with God as the two humans, Adam and Eve, walked with God in the Garden…PERFECT RELATIONSHIP WAS POSSIBLE BECAUSE THERE WAS THE ABSENCE OF SIN

HOWEVER, after the fall…after sin entered, in things changed…now worship became a thing of sacrifice to cleanse us so we might can enter into the presence of God

YOU SEE THE MAIN THING THAT WAS LOST IN THE FALL WAS OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD…THE REST OF THE O.T. IS THE STORY OF HOW GOD WAS WORKING TOWARD RESTORATION OF RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM….

IT IS IN WORSHIP THAT WE ENTER INTO GOD’S PRESENCE….IT’S WHAT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP POSSIBLE…WORSHIP IS THE KEY

WHAT IS WORSHIP?

Worship isn’t just something we do at church…it should encompass our whole lives putting God at the center of our lives. We do this as submit to Jesus’ Lordship…WHEN WE DO THIS WE ARE WORSHIPPING GOD

WORSHIP isn’t just following an order in a bulletin or being a watcher of the leadership…IT IS ENTERING INTO THE PRESENCE OF GOD…hopefully those things we do usher you into God’s presence

WORSHIP YOU SEE ISN’T A CEREBRAL EXERCISE…IT’S EXPERIENCING THE VERY PRESENCE OF GOD

Matt. 15:8-9 “ ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain; their teachings are but rules taught by men.’ ”

JESUS WAS TALKING ABOUT THE WORSHIP HAPPENING THE “RIGHT WAY”…THAT IS THE RIGHT WORDS, THE RIGHT ORDER…BUT IT WAS EMPTY…WHAT THEY WERE LACKING WAS REAL LIFE…THE SPIRIT OF GOD WASN’T EXPECTED BECAUSE THEY HAD IT ALL DOWN PAT

But isn’t this what it becomes so many times…just another Sunday…another service….we leave the same way we came in…

Worship magnifies God

Do you remember what Mary said after learning she was going to be carrying the Son of God?

Luke 1:46-50 And Mary said: “My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant. From now on all generations will call me blessed, for the Mighty One has done great things for me — holy is his name. His mercy extends to those who fear him, from generation to generation.

The Psalmist said… Ps. 34:3 O magnify the LORD with me, and let us exalt his name together.

To magnify means to make larger or greater…to Magnify God doesn’t mean we make Him any bigger than He already is…EXCEPT IN OUR LIVES…AND BEFORE OTHERS!!  THE WORD MAGNIFY HERE TALKS OF NAME AND REPUTATION, IT IS OUR JOB, OUR JOY, TO LET OTHERS KNOW OF HIS GREATNESS IN OUR LIVES…THAT’S HOW WE MAGNIFY HIM

GOD IS LOOKING FOR REAL WORSHIPPERS!

John 4:2224 You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews.Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.”

WHAT JESUS WAS TELLING THE WOMAN WAS “YOU KNOW WHO TO WORSHIP, BUT YOU DON’T KNOW HIM!”

Think about your greatest hero (someone you don’t personally know) you can know all about them, without knowing them.  The same thing happens with God, we can know all about Him without having a relationship

LOOK WHAT JESUS TELLS US TRUE WORSHIPPERS ARE GOING TO HAVE TO DO…

John 4:24 God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth.”

1. WE ARE TO WORSHIP IN SPIRIT, this word in Greek is PNUEMATI…which refers to a human’s regenerated spirit so to be a true worshipper we must

a. Be in a relationship with God…

b. our mind, our will, our emotions are used to express ourselves…you know that’s one of the main reasons God gave them to us

2. WE ARE TO WORSHIP IN TRUTH… John 17:17 Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth.

TRUTH MEANS –

a. knowing what God requires and do it

b. having a revelation of who God is and making it part of our lives

c. living in a way that becomes the truth for others

we are to worship according to the Word, the scriptures..it is to be God centered..centered in on Jesus and what he had done for you

3. WE ARE TO WORSHIP IN FREEDOM!

John 8:32 Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 8:36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

I THINK ONE OF THE THINGS THAT HAS HURT US IS WHEN WE GOT DIGNIFIED

Now I like order and we are to worship in order…but sometimes our notion of order is to be as boring as we can possibly be.  Sometimes that orderliness just runs God right out of the mix of our worship

We need to be free to express ourselves without fear of what someone else might be thinking

I HOPE YOU CAN SEE THAT WORSHIP IS ONE OF THE PURPOSES GOD HAS ORDAINED THE CHURCH TO BE PART OF…THAT IT’S MORE THAN JUST SHOWING UP AND FOLLOWING THE ORDER IN THE BULLETIN, BUT IT FOLLOWS US OUT OF HERE AND INTO OUR DAY TO DAY LIVES IN THE WORLD…FOR WORSHIP IS THAT THING THAT THE CHURCH HAS BEEN CALLED TO DO…AND TO BECOME…LET’S WORSHIP THE LORD OUR GOD.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Do not honour Christ here in church by wearing silk, while you neglect him outside the church when he is cold and naked.

John Chrysostom


This Day's Verse

Knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ,

Galatians 2:16
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Cry the gospel with your whole life.

Charles de Foucauld


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.
Where there is patience and humility, there is neither anger nor vexation.
Where there is poverty and joy, there is neither greed nor avarice.
Where there is peace and meditation, there is neither anxiety nor doubt.

Francis of Assisi


This Day's Verse

You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing.  You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy, that I might sing praises to you and not be silent.  O LORD my God, I will give you thanks forever!

Psalm 30:11-12
The New Living Translation


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Most people really believe that the Christian commandments (e.g. to love one’s neighbour as oneself) are intentionally a little too severe—like putting the clock ahead half an hour to make sure of not being late in the morning.

Soren Kierkegaard


This Day's Verse

I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.

Ephesians 1:17
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

I am sorry God that I forgot my prayers but remembered my breakfast.

Samuel Johnson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday

In case you missed Eric Elder’s Special Note last week regarding his new book on homosexuality, you can read his note at this link. And if you’d like to join an online discussion group about this book, hosted by Eric Elder starting this Thursday night, you can learn more at this link.


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The Gospel is not merely a communication of things that can be known—it is one that makes things happen and is life-changing.  The dark door of time, of the future, has been thrown open.  The one who has hope lives differently; the one who hopes has been granted the gift of a new life.

Pope Benedict XVI


This Day's Verse

The LORD upholdeth all that fall, and raiseth up all those that be bowed down.

Psalm 145:14
The King James Version


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Book Discussion Group

Book Discussion Group
for Eric Elder’s new book
Loving God & Loving Gays: What’s A Christian To Do?

Loving God & Loving Gays: What's A Christian To Do?

Have you ever wished you could talk to the author of a book while you’re reading it? Now you can!

Eric Elder is hosting an online discussion group on Thursday nights about his new book Loving God and Loving Gays: What’s A Christian To Do? This group is for anyone who wants to understand homosexuality better from a biblical basis, whether you’re experiencing same-sex attractions yourself or know someone who is.

The conversation will be live and interactive, so you’ll be able to talk with Eric and others in the group via audio, video, smart phone, or tablet. (You can also simply watch the discussion or interact via text chat for those who would rather remain anonymous.) This is intended to be a safe place to ask your questions about homosexuality.

The group meets on Thursday nights from 6:30-8:30 PM Central Daylight Time (UTC -5), from May 31 through August 30, 2018. The discussion topic will focus on 1 chapter from the book each week for 12 weeks (with a 2-week break in the middle). Here’s the full discussion schedule:

  • May 31 – Chapter 1
  • June 7 – Chapter 2
  • June 14 – Chapter 3
  • June 21 – Chapter 4
  • June 28 – Chapter 5
  • July 5 – Chapter 6
  • July 12 – (Break)
  • July 19 – (Break)
  • July 26 – Chapter 7
  • August 2 – Chapter 8
  • August 9 – Chapter 9
  • August 16 – Chapter 10
  • August 23 – Chapter 11
  • August 30 – Chapter 12

While there’s no fee to join this discussion group, would you consider making a $10 donation for each session, or $100 for all 12 sessions? There’s no obligation to make a donation, but for those who do, please know that all donations will go directly back into the ministry to help reach even more people with the life-changing message of Jesus Christ. You’ll also receive a paperback edition of the book for a donation of any size.

Click here to make a donation.

To connect to the online discussion, simply send an email to eric@theranch.org asking to join the discussion and he’ll send you a link to access it. You’ll be able to join the discussion anytime between 6:30-8:30 PM Central Daylight Time (UTC -5) on those Thursday nights when the discussions are taking place. You’ll be able to participate in the discussions via audio, video, smart phone or tablet.

For more ways to get a copy of this book, including a free PDF or a Spanish edition, click here.

This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In the Old Testament the New lies hidden; in the New Testament the Old is laid open.

Augustine of Hippo


This Day's Verse

Oh, give thanks to the LORD!  Call upon His name; Make known His deeds among the peoples!  Sing to Him, sing psalms to Him; Talk of all His wondrous works!  Glory in His holy name; Let the hearts of those rejoice who seek the LORD!

1 Chronicles 16:8-10
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Christianity can be condensed into four words: admit, submit, commit and transmit.

Samuel Wilberforce


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

THE BIBLE

by George Rennau

 

I have found that in times when I lacked wisdom God’s word answered my questions, and gave me direction.

The political convention was in chaos. Each delegation wanted something different. Some favored states rights, others wanted a stronger central government. Larger states wanted greater representation, and small states wanted an equal voice.

Debate dragged on and on. Finally the committee chairman admitted the situation was hopeless.

After weeks of fruitless effort, the oldest delegate rose. Addressing the chairman, he said, ”The small progress we have made after four or five weeks is melancholy proof of the imperfections of human understanding.

I have lived, Sir, a long time, and the longer I live the more convincing proofs I see of this truth – that God governs the affairs of men”.

Citing the Bible he added, “And if a sparrow cannot fall to the ground without His notice, is it probable that an empire can rise without His aid?

We have been assured sir in the sacred writings that “except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it. I firmly believe this; and I also believe that without His concurring aid we shall succeed in political building no better than the builders of Babel.

The speaker? Benjamin Franklin.

It is ironic that Ben Franklin, who for most of his life was not considered devout, turned to the scriptures in a time of crises.

At 81 years of age, using the Bible for his examples, Benjamin Franklin brought a clear vision to the convention, that eventually brought the delegates together, and a great document was produced, the constitution of the united states of America.

I have found…

That in times of crisis Gods word has been there for me faithfully holding forth hope, and encouragement.

I have found…

That in times when I lacked wisdom Gods word answered my questions, and gave me direction, and

I have found…

That in times when I am not sure what is right God’s word helps me discern the truth

Benjamin Franklin turned to God’s word in a time of Americas crisis, and in so doing he found help, and direction

Where do you turn in time of trouble?

Where do you turn for encouragement?

What is your source of truth?

My message today is that God has given us His word, let us turn to it to find what we need for life.

I.  In times of crises God word faithfully holds forth hope, and encouragement.

John Jay was a delegate at that first continental congress. At a very young age JAY was one of the smartest and most respected lawyers in the colonies. You may have never heard of John Jay before, but in the early history of U.S. government, Jay was responsible for single handedly averting a war with England through his diplomacy.  It seemed that everything Jay touched turned to success.

Then in May 1802 after 28 years of marriage his wife Sarah became very ill.  As her condition became more serious, John and their children gathered at her bedside.

When death came the famous and powerful father felt weak and defeated.  With his children by his side he turned to the Bible for strength. and began reading I Corinthians 15, which concludes with this verse.

“When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true. Death has been swallowed up in victory, where O death is your victory? Where O death is your sting?”

When he closed the Bible, with tears in his eyes he spokes to his children and assured them from God’s word, of the promised reunion they would all someday have with his Sarah.

In times of crisis God’s word is the only hope that can bring true peace to our souls.

God’s word has the answer if you are:

Discouraged…

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you, not as the world giveth, give I unto you, Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Worried…

I Peter 5:7″cast all your cares upon him for he careth for you”

Lonely…

John 14:18 “I will not leave you comfortless, I will come to you”

Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble”.

Depressed…

Psalm 34:17 “The righteous cry, and the Lord heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles”.

Confused…

I Cor. 14:33 God is not the author of confusion

Psalm 32: 8 “I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way thou shalt go”

A young Christian family moved into town and rented the only house that was available. The house was in a run down section of town and the closest neighbors lived in a terrible poverty stricken condition.

In an effort to love their neighbors the couple went over to their neighbors house. They were invited inside to discover that conditions were worse then they first expected. As they were leaving the home the husband noticed a dust covered Bible under a rickety table in the house.

As he left he said “there’s a treasure in this house which if discovered and believed would make you all rich”.

The family began to search their house.  They wondered could it be a jewel or a pot of Gold.  After searching and searching they found nothing.

Not long after that the mother picked up the old Bible, and began to look through it.  As it happened on the inside cover of the bible was written these words: “Thy testimonies are better to me than thousands of Gold and silver” (Psalm 119:72).

She thought to herself “is this the treasure our neighbor spoke of”.  She and the other members of the family began to read the Bible, and a change took place in their hearts that were formerly filled with sin, pain and discouragement.

The next time the neighbors came for a visit to their surprise they found a completely changed family.  They said “we found the treasure and we received it, and we received the savior.”

The Bible is the power that changes lives, and when you are in a crisis it is the power that will strengthen and encourage you a second thing.

II. I have found that in times when I lacked wisdom Gods word answered my questions, and gave me direction.

The Word of God has the answer for me–for everyone living throughout the world.  The Bible is universal in its appeal because it isn’t just a book.  It is God’s living word.

Hebrews 4:12  For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

Isaiah 55:11 “And it will not return void it will accomplish that which it is sent forth to do”

It was applicable in the 1st century in the 1700’s, in the 1950’s and it will be in the future not because its well written, but because it is alive.

An American missionary was traveling across Korea by train. At a busy station an old man boarded and sat across from Him. The man was Korean and he addressed the American in his native tongue.

The Missionary responded in the only Korean phrase that he knew which was “I DON’T UNDERSTAND”.

A few minutes later the Korean tried again, but the missionary could only say ” I DON’T UNDERSTAND”

The Korean then tried a third question, only this time the American recognized a familiar word YESU which means JESUS.  The American pointed to himself and said YESU.  The Old man did the same thing with a smile of delight on His face.

The Korean then unwrapped the bundle he was carrying . It was a large Korean a Bible.  He turned to a page and pointed to a place that he wanted the American to read.  Remembering that oriental Bible are written from back to front . The clergy men took his own Bible and counted the number of books and chapters from the back to the place that the old man had pointed to.  The old man had pointed to Mark 3:35 “Whoever does the will of God is my brother”

The American searched for a suitable reply. He counted out and pointed to it in the Korean Bible. It was Psalm 133:1 “Behold how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity” The Korean man read it and smiled in agreement and for the rest of the journey, these two men, ages apart in culture were brought together in a remarkable friendship as they pointed first to one verse and then to another. Their separate Bibles had a common language of the Spirit.

The word of God is a universal appeal and it can direct you as it has directed me,

It directs us in our job

It directs us in our finances

It directs us in our Character

It directs us in our lifestyle

It will direct you in your relationships

and it directs us to CHRIST…

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all”

Lastly

III. I have found that when I was not certain what was right God’s word helped me to both understand and do what is right.  The truth of the word of God doesn’t stand in my life as a rule book of do’s and don’ts.  The Bible never says and you shall know the rules and by them you shall be bound.  It says, “you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”.  By allowing Gods word to guide me into truth it allows me to be free.

The world is filled with delusion and false ideas all trying to bring us under bondage.  But Gods word brings real freedom.

A few years ago at USC there was a professor of philosophy who was a deeply committed atheist.  His primary goal for one required class was spend the entire semester attempting to prove that God did not exist.  His students were always afraid to argue with him because of his impeccable logic.

For twenty years he had taught the class and no one had ever had the courage to go against him.  No one would go against him because he had a reputation, at the end of every semester on the last day of class

He would say to his class of 300 students,  “If there is anyone here who still believes in Jesus, stand up!”  In twenty years no one had ever stood up.  They knew what he was going to do next.

He would say, “Because anyone who does believe in God is a fool.  If God existed he could stop this piece of chalk from hitting the ground and breaking.  Such a simple task to prove that his God and yet he can’t do it.

And every year he would drop the chalk onto the tile floor of the classroom, and it would shatter into 100’s of pieces.  All of the students could do nothing but stop and stare.  Most of the students were convinced that God couldn’t exist.  Certainly a number of Christians had slipped through, but for twenty years they had been to afraid to stand up.

A few years ago there was a freshman who happened to get enrolled in the class.  He was a christian and had heard the stories of the professor.

For three months that semester he read the Bible and prayed that he would have the courage to stand up no matter what the professor said or no matter what the class thought.

Finally the day came. The professor said, if there is anyone who still believes in God , stand up.  The professor and the class of 300 looked at him shocked as he stood up.

“You Fool!” “If God existed, he could keep this piece of chalk from breaking when it hit the ground!”

He proceeded to drop the chalk, but as he did, it slipped out of his fingers, off His shirt cuff, onto the pleats of his pants, down his leg, and off his shoe. As it hit the ground, it simply rolled away, unbroken.

The professors jaw dropped as he stared at the chalk.  He looked up at the young man and then ran out of the lecture hall.

The young man who had stood up, proceeded to walk to the front of the room, and share his faith in Jesus for the next half hour.  300 students stayed and listened, as he told of God’s love for them and his power through Jesus Christ

How has Gods word impacted your life?

Do you turn to it in time of trouble for encouragement?

Do you turn to it when you need direction?

Has it become your source of truth?

Or is it down the line in your priority list of things to do?

God’s word contains the things we need to make our life fulfilling.

Let us commit to turning to its pages for our lives.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The disappointments of life are simply the hidden appointments of love.

C. A. Fox


This Day's Verse

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ:

Ephesians 1:3
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Now let us do something beautiful for God.

Mother Teresa


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In the evening of our lives we shall be examined in love.

John of the Cross


This Day's Verse

Without having seen him you love him; though you do not now see him you believe in him and rejoice with unutterable and exalted joy.  As the outcome of your faith you obtain the salvation of your souls.

1 Peter 1:8-9
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Special Note


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Special Note from Eric Elder, founder of The Ranch: Our daily thoughts will be posted shortly, but before that I wanted to ask for your help.

I’ve recently published one of the most important books I’ve ever written. It’s called, Loving God & Loving Gays: What’s A Christian To Do? For those who may not know it, I used to be involved in homosexuality myself until I put my faith in Christ and married a woman beyond my dreams.

With so many Christians being impacted personally by this issue today, I felt it would be helpful to share what I’ve learned over the past 30 years of not only dealing with same-sex attractions myself, but also having ministered one-on-one to hundreds of others who have experienced such attractions.

Loving God & Loving Gays: What's A Christian To Do?Would you be interested in reading this new book and sharing it with others?

If so, there are three simple ways to get a copy, any of which would help greatly in spreading the word out about this important new book.

1) Post a 1-2 sentence review on Amazon. If you’d be willing to read the book and post a short review on Amazon, I’ll send you a complimentary PDF version of the book that you can read first. After reading it, just post a 1-2 sentence review on Amazon. If you email me afterward with a link to your review and your mailing address, I’ll send you a paperback version of the book as well! Your reviews are so helpful in encouraging others to read this biblical perspective on such an important topic. To request a PDF copy to review, just email me at eric@theranch.org.

2) Make a donation of any size to our ministry. If you’d like a copy without posting a review, just make a donation of any size and I’ll send you a paperback version of the book, anywhere in the world, as our way of saying thanks. Your donations help us to continue creating resources like these so even more people can hear about the life-changing message of Jesus Christ. Click here to make a donation and request a paperback.

3) Order the book directly from Amazon. You can also get a copy of the book, in paperback or ebook versions, directly from Amazon. All proceeds go directly back into our ministry to create more resources like these. So whatever way you get it, know that you’re blessing others as well as yourself. This book is also available in Spanish thanks to one of our subscribers who helped us get it translated so we could share it with even more people. Click here to order a copy in English or click here to order the Spanish edition.

Could I ask 2 more things before I close?

1) Would you be interested in joining an online “Book Discussion Group” on this topic? If there’s enough interest, I’d like to host an online book discussion group starting next week, May 31, and continuing for 12 weeks, discussing 1 chapter per week. We would meet on Thursday nights from 6:30-8:30 pm Central Time using an online chat tool where you can join the conversation via audio, video, smart phone or tablet. If you’d be interested in joining such a group, click here to learn more or email me at eric@theranch.org.

2) Could you pray for me? I’ve been asked to speak on this topic several times in recent months, which I’ve been very happy to do. Each time, I’ve seen a significant response in those who have heard this message as they learn more about a topic that is close to so many people’s hearts. You can watch some of these talks online at these links: Eastview Church (7 minutes), Eastview Youth (42 minutes), Ax Church (56 minutes; my interview starts 31 minutes into the video). Would you pray for me as I continue sharing Christ in this way in the coming months, that even more people would hear the life-changing power of Christ? And if you’d like to talk about having me speak to your group or church, just email me at eric@theranch.org.

Thanks for your help and for reading this special announcement. Our daily thoughts will follow shortly!

Eric


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Nothing in all creation is so like God as stillness.

Meister Eckhart


This Day's Verse

Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away.

Isaiah 35:10
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Every ordinary thing in your life is a word of God’s love: your home, your work, the clothes you wear, the air you breathe, the food you eat, the flowers under your feet are the courtesy of God’s heart flung down on you!  All these things say one thing only: “See how I love you.”

Caryll Houselander


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Speak, move, act in peace, as if you were in prayer.  In truth, this is prayer.

Francis Fenelon


This Day's Verse

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear or be in dread of them: for it is the LORD your God who goes with you; he will not fail you or forsake you.”

Deuteronomy 31:6
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Grace is not sought nor bought nor wrought.  It is a free gift of the Almighty God.

Billy Graham


This Day's Verse

Let them give thanks to the LORD for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for men, for he satisfies the thirsty and fills the hungry with good things.

Psalm 107:8-9
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Peacefully do at each moment what at that moment ought to be done.  If we do what each moment requires, we will eventually complete God’s plan, whatever it is.  We can trust God to take care of the master plan when we take care of the details.

Katharine Drexel


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Moral Issues: Sex

by Rob Harbison

When sex is about intimacy in marriage it is beautiful. When it is about lust and lewdness it is tarnished.

Many people who are unfamiliar with the Bible think that it presents sex as an ugly—although necessary—thing for the purpose of procreation. Many Christians who are unfamiliar with the Bible think the same thing.

Both are wrong. And both of those misguided perspectives have caused problems for people regarding their sexuality.

SEX IS GOD’S IDEA

God Created Sex. Whoever thinks there is something dirty about sex itself doesn’t understand God’s perspective on it. When He created man and woman He provided them with the ability to procreate—then encouraged it (Genesis 1:27-28). The Bible says this of all God’s work, “Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good.” (Genesis 1:31).

God Recognized Man’s Need For Companionship And Intimacy. “And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’” (Genesis 2:18). He created woman. Then man was complete.

Marriage And The Marriage Bed Are A Special Thing. Sexual relations between a husband and wife are not just a concession in order to achieve procreation. They are also designed for a couple to share love, acceptance, intimacy, emotional bonding and satisfaction (Hebrews 13:4).

Sex In Marriage Is For Rendering Affection. Actually, what some people might consider “dirty” is a beautiful expression of love between two people who are committed to one another in marriage (1 Corinthians 7:1-5). Sensuality and sexuality in marriage are applauded, “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you are all times; and always be enraptured with her love.” (Proverbs 5:18-19).

What a beautiful expression of love! Some of the problems we experience today with adultery come because we are not developing such an intimate union with our spouse. If you are enraptured by the love of your wife, someone else’s wife isn’t going to be able to attract you nearly as strongly, “For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?” (Proverbs 5:20). Keep it at home where God intends for it to be.

The Bible Is Not Responsible For Sexual Repression. Sin is the cause of irresponsible sexual expression. Anyone who uses the Bible to stifle sexuality in marriage, doesn’t understand either the Bible or sexuality.

SEXUAL SINS ARE MAN’S IDEA

Man Invents Abuses Of Human Sexuality. There’s the rub. We are not advocating some old-fashioned, puritanical sexual suppression. We are trying to identify those things that GOD says are an abuse of human sexuality—things that are not a diversity of sexual expression but a perversity of it!

How Much Sexual Freedom Do We Have? Some people say that no one has the right to say what can and cannot happen in someone’s bedroom. God does! Make no mistake about it! He says, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4).

Fornication. It is the sin of sexual contact with anyone besides your spouse—anyone! Or maybe we should say anything too (Hebrews 13:4; Galatians 5:19-21)!

Adultery. It is the sin of sexual contact with another married person. Lack of fulfillment in a marriage, loss of love, marital difficulties—none of these are acceptable reasons for having an adulterous affair (Hebrews 13:4; Mark 7:20-23).

Homosexuality. The gay and lesbian lifestyle is gaining more popularity as we throw off moral restraints. Nevertheless, as expressions of our sexuality, they are condemned by the Bible (Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).

Multiple Expressions of Sexuality. Incest. Bestiality. Phone sex. Fisting. Voyeurism. Sexual abuse. Pedophilia. Multiple partners. Unmarried cohabitation. Orgies. Do we need to continue? We cannot list them all.

Our Obsession With Sex Is Disturbing. According to a weekly report from Webtracker (which tracks the most popular search engine queries), of the top 500 keyword queries on popular search engines, 20% to 25% of the searches are pornographic.

God made sex a beautiful thing between a husband and wife. One Old Testament book—the Song of Solomon—is very sensuous. It shows the beauty and intimacy of married love.

When sex is about that intimacy, it is beautiful. When it is about lust and lewdness, it is tarnished.

God’s instructions for our sex lives will lead us to the greatest fulfillment. Those guidelines give us something that sinning against our own bodies—through some of these other outlets—can never give us (1 Corinthians 6:15-18). They give us physical and emotional satisfaction.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is nothing that God cannot accomplish.

Marcus Tullius Cicero


This Day's Verse

The LORD will give strength to His people; The LORD will bless His people with peace.

Psalm 29:11
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Speak only well of people and you’ll never have to whisper.

H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Grant me, O Lord my God, a mind to know you, a heart to seek you, wisdom to find you, conduct pleasing to you, faithful perseverance in waiting for you, and a hope of finally embracing you.

Thomas Aquinas


This Day's Verse

“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.

Ephesians 4:26-27
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The hardest part about letting God fight your battle is that He sometimes waits until the eleventh hour so you will have no doubt of where the power is coming from.

Stormie Omartian


This Day's Verse

Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe;

Hebrews 12:28
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

We’ve all got both light and dark inside of us.  What matters is the part we choose to act on.  That’s who we really are.

Sirius Black


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

What is the mark of a Christian?  Faith working by love.

Basil of Caesarea


This Day's Verse

He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

Proverbs 15:32
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

All that we call human history—money, poverty, ambition, war, prostitution, classes, empires, slavery—is the long, terrible story of man trying to find something other than God which will make him happy.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart, All you who hope in the LORD.

Psalm 31:24
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

A forgiving heart grows stronger with exercise.

Amish proverb


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A Recipe For Successful Parenting

by John Hamby

 I made a startling discovery soon after our child was born, they do not come with an instruction manual. The way that we dealt with this emergency was to call our moms, with questions that went something like this, “Mom she doing so and so, is she suppose to do that?

Most parents feel a little like the story I heard about a young student of child behavior who frequently delivered a lecture called “Ten Commandments for Parents.” He married and became a father. The title of the lecture was altered to “Ten Hints for Parents.” Another child arrived. The lecture became ‘Some Suggestions for Parents.” A third child was born. The lecturer – so the story goes – stopped lecturing. [Paul Lee Tan. Encyclopedia of 7,700 Illustrations. (Rockville: Maryland: Assurance Pub., 1979. # 635] The truth is that we never have more opinions about child rearing than when we do not have any ourselves. We say things like, “MY, children will never do that!” Those words can sure come back to haunt you.

Mark Twain, the humorist, had these words of advise on raising children. He said, “When they become teenagers put them in a barrel and fed them through the knot hole. When they turn sixteen stop up the knot hole!”

Two children were heard discussing their parents. The first said, “I’m really worried. Dad slaves away at his job so that I have everything I need, so I’ll be able to go to college some day. Mom works hard washing and ironing, cleaning up after me, taking care of me when I am sick, driving me everywhere I want to go. They spend every day of their lives working for me. But I’m worried.” His friend asked, “What have you got to worry about?’ The first little guy replied, “I’m afraid they’re going to try to escape some day.”

James Dobson in his book “The Strong Willed Child” said, “ Child rearing is like baking a cake. You don’t realize you have a disaster until its too late.” But success in both child rearing and cake baking is best achieved by following the recipe, so this morning I would like to offer you “A Recipe for Success for Parenting.

The first Ingredient in our Recipe for Successful Parenting is the Recognition that Your Child is a Gift from God. If we are going to survive the challenges of parenting, we must remember that your child is a gift from God. Psalm 127:3-5 “Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. (4) Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. (5) Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; …”. (NKJV)

If you want to survive parenthood remember that your child or children are worth the struggle and are a gift from God even if they sometimes act like the devil.

The Second Ingredient of our Recipe for Successful Parenting is Unconditional love. Deal with your child as God, your heavenly father, deals with you, that is with patience, grace and unconditional love. Never allow your child to think that your love is conditional to his behavior.

The Third Ingredient of our Recipe for Successful Parenting is Recognize and Work with our Childs Natural Bents.

If you want to survive parenting we absolutely must realize we have a duty to “train up our children.” There is nothing anymore challenging or rewarding than the privilege and responsibility given by God to parents to raise their children. Scripture says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” (NKJV) Training children in the way they should go has always been a huge and vital task in every generation because of all this is involved in the process, however, there has never been a time when the challenges were greater than now.

Sometime this verse is taken as a guarantee that if we are good parents we will always produce good children. That is not what this verse says. So what does it say? Well I am glad you asked! A paraphrase might read something like this, “Adapt the training of your child so that it is in keeping with his God-given characteristics and tendencies; when he comes to maturity, he will not depart from the training he has received.”

Every child has natural bents both good and bad, these are the basic tendencies unique to this child. You might be surprise to learn that the root word of “train up” in the Hebrew is a word used to describe the palate or the roof of the mouth. It was used to describe the actions of a Hebrew mid-wife who after helping to deliver a baby would dip her finger in a paste made of dates and rub it on the gums of the new baby to create thirst and start the baby’s feeding instinct. (Charles Swindoll. You and Your Child. ( Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 1977)

The parent is in like manner to create a thirst in their child for the right things. What is your favorite food, my guess would be that it is what you grew up enjoying. The Christian parents job is to create such a thirst in our children for the things of God. Deut. 6:5-7 says , “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. (6) And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. (7) You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” (NKJV)

The Fourth Ingredient of our Recipe for Successful Parenting is Consistent Discipline. Perhaps the greatest responsibility we are given is to discipline our children. We are reminded in the book of Proverbs 29:15 “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” And again in verse 17, “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; Yes, he will give delight to your soul.” (NKJV) These Proverbs clearly remind us that godly discipline of children will bring delight and rest to your soul, but failure to do so will bring shame and heartache.

Some years ago the city of Houston Texas waged an ad campaign to deter juvenile crime, the Houston Police Depart-ment came up with “Twelve Rules for Raising Juvenile Delinquent Children.”

1. Begin with infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.

2. When he picks up bad words, laugh at him. This will make him think that it is cute.

3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he is twenty-one and then let him “decide for himself.’

4. Avoid use of the word “wrong.” It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing a car, that society is against him and he is being persecuted.

5. Pick up everything he leaves lying around. Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility on others.

6. Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on. Be careful, that the silverware and drinking glasses are sterilized, but let his mind feast on garbage.

7. Quarrel frequently in the presence of your children. In this way they won’t be shocked when the home is broken up later.

8. Give a child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own.

9. Satisfy his every craving for food, drink and comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified.

10. Take his part against neighbors, teachers and policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.

11. When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I never could do anything with him.

12. Prepare for a life of grief. You will likely have it. [Quoted by Charles Swindoll. You and Your Child. (Nashville, Nelson Pub., 1977) pp. 63-64.]

Ephesians 6:4 has two words which describe the responsibilities and methods that we are to use in child rearing.

“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” (NKJV).

The first word translated, “training” (paideia) it is the word we get pedagogy from. It can refer to discipline but normally contains the broader meaning of education , the entire training particularly of the very young.

The second word, “admonition” (nouthesia) comes from the combination of two Greek words one meaning “mind” and the other “to place” and involves the idea of reasoning and gentle or friendly reproof. It is more appropriate to the child as he gets older when they can have a better understanding of the spiritual and moral issues of their own behavior.

We must recognize the necessity of discipline. Five simple reminders about discipline:

1. Never discipline in anger.

2. Pick your battles, not everything is worthy of a battle.

3. Realize that even children need to express anger from time to time.

4. Choose the best time and place to discipline. Never discipline in anger. Always discipline in private.

5. Choose your words carefully and speak in a soft tone of voice.

Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” (NKJV) Discipline of course, means conflict and far to often parents attempt to resolve conflict with a yelling session with their children. This does no good and may do a lot of harm.

The Fifth Ingredient of our Recipe for Successful Parenting is Be willing to admit when you are wrong.

Every parent is also a human and all humans make mistakes. When you make a mistake with your children admit it. It may come as a shock to you but, your children all ready know that you are not perfect, seeing and hearing you admit your mistakes will make it easier for them to recognize and admit their own mistakes in life.

You may be thinking well my children are all grown. Then invest your wisdom and experience in a young couple with children. Be a mentor. And if you have the privilege of grandchildren be a godly influence in their lives.

The idea that good parents always produce good children and bad parents always produce bad children is just not true. We all know families were the parents were a walking disaster, yet their children turned out to be very decent people, good citizens and responsible adults. By the same token we’ve all seen godly parents who sought to raise their children up to know the Lord, yet one or more or those children ended up in serious trouble.

Scripture give us governing principles for training our children, not guarantees. Parents who apply these principles are far more likely to produce godly children than those who do not. The bottom line is to know God’s word, use it, trust it, pray consistently for your ability as a parent and for your children, love them deeply, take nothing for granted and cling to the Lord.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The most profound essence of my nature is that I am capable of receiving God.

Augustine


This Day's Verse

Therefore the redeemed of the LORD shall return, and come with singing unto Zion; and everlasting joy shall be upon their head: they shall obtain gladness and joy; and sorrow and mourning shall flee away.

Isaiah 51:11
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Enjoy life.  It’s later than you think.

Muhammad Ali


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Just to be is a blessing.  Just to live is holy.

Abraham Joshua Heschel


This Day's Verse

I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him.  Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.

Romans 15:13
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

We are each other’s harvest:
we are each other’s business;
we are each other’s magnitude and bond.

Gwendolyn Brooks


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The world is not impressed when Christians get rich and say thanks to God.  They are impressed when God is so satisfying that we give our riches away for Christ’s sake and count it gain.

John Piper


This Day's Verse

For I will give you words and wisdom that none of your adversaries will be able to resist or contradict.

Luke 21:15
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God, with all His giving heart, can only give us Himself as we recognize the depth of the need in our own lives.

Eugenia Price


This Day's Verse

Above all hold unfailing your love for one another, since love covers a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

The road is smooth.  Why do you throw rocks before you?

Ancient expression


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Commitment To Trust

by Steve Shepherd

 
Two partners from a small law firm were having lunch when suddenly one of them looked alarmed. He announced, “I have to go back to the office right away! I forgot to lock the safe!”
“What are you worried about?” asked the other lawyer. “We’re both here.”

Do lawyers trust lawyers? Does anyone trust a lawyer? Can you trust anyone these days? If not, we’re all in deep trouble. Trust is a real problem in our society.

I have watched with some interest the TV reality show, “Survivors.” Every week they have a different contest to see who will win immunity and keep them from getting kicked off the show. The survivor contestants talk to one another in small groups, trying to gain support from one another. It’s a matter of trusting one another, but the truth is…no one trusts anyone else! Why? Because the last remaining survivor will win a million dollars! And when you’re talking about the possibility of winning money, no one trusts anyone!

In fact, when it comes to money, most people won’t trust anybody. Would you mind loaning me a $1000 bucks? Well, then what about $100? See what I mean?

This is pretty much the way it is in life. It’s a dog eat dog world and it’s every man, woman and child for themselves. This is why many people are not trustworthy. We are self-centered, self-absorbed, etc. We’re out to take care of number one!

Here’s another story of distrust, dated Nov. 17, 2005. Calling her actions “a new low,” a federal judge today imposed a five-year prison term for a former Shreveport, LA, woman who lied and told people she had an inoperable, malignant brain tumor in order to get thousands of dollars from them.

“You have breaded distrust where there was no distrust before,” Judge Maurice Hicks told Tina Larry as he sentenced her in federal court in Shreveport. Larry, he said, “Was trying to create a perpetual money machine. It is, indeed, a new low.”

Tina’s ex-husband, former Shreveport police officer Tony Larry, was sentenced along with her and received a three-year, five-month sentence.

The Larry’s, both 38, were both convicted of conspiracy charges earlier this year. She had pleaded guilty earlier to health care fraud and also to filing bogus claims on the city’s dental insurance plans.

The same jury acquitted the Larry’s of charges they conspired to burn their rental home to collect insurance money. That jury also acquitted Tony Larry — who insisted he knew nothing of his wife’s scheme — of the fraud charges against him.

Tina Larry cried as she spoke to the judge about leaving her children behind and told of “a lie that snowballed.”

“I just got caught up in something I created,” she said. “I’m not as smart as you guys have given me credit for. I am sorry to every person I hurt, I feel like a fool and I’m embarrassed. I don’t have a criminal heart. I don’t have a criminal mind.”

Afterward, Assistant U.S. Attorney Mignonette Griffin replied, “Well, she’s good. I’ll give her that, your honor.”

I DON’T HAVE A CRIMINAL HEART. Well, what kind of a heart and mind do you have, lady? Greed is good to many people and they’ll lie in every conceivable way to get money.

Is there anybody out there we can trust?

The famous preacher Dwight L. Moody once said, “Trust in yourself and you are doomed to disappointment. Trust in your friends and they will die and leave you. Trust in money and you may have it taken from you. Trust in your reputation and some slanderous tongue may blast it. But trust in God and you are never to be confounded in time or eternity.”

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Ps. 118:8 “It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man.”

Ps. 146:3 “Do not put your trust in princes, in mortal men, who cannot save.”

Don Dwelt of Ozark Christian College was one of my favorite professors and preachers. In fact, his oldest son, Dan, baptized me into Christ about 40 years ago. I never once saw Don falter and fail when it came to the Christian faith. I am sure that he knew when he faltered, but I never saw it in him. I always considered him a man who could be trusted, no matter what. He never once failed me. However, as great as Don was to me or in my eyes, he could save no one. He could only tell people how to be saved.

At other times I have put my trust or faith in some people whom I knew were very human but I thought, also faithful. But I found out I was wrong. I have discovered that some people will not only fail you but also deceive or betray you, just as Judas betrayed the Lord with a kiss.

It’s sad to think that there are some people you can’t trust BUT if there is one person we can trust, it is the Lord! He remains trustworthy even when human beings are not.

II Tim. 2:13 “If we are faithless (or untrustworthy), He will remain faithful, for He cannot disown Himself.”

Deut. 7:9 “Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commands.”

I Cor. 1:9 “God, who has called you into fellowship with his son Jesus Christ our Lord, is faithful.”

I Cor. 10:13 “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.”

Heb. 10:23 “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”

God can be trusted even when we don’t understand all His dealings with mankind. He is the Mt. Everest of trust.

In this message let’s consider some of the benefits or blessings of putting our trust in the Lord and not man.

1-Delivery from evil

2-Delight in the spirit

DELIVERY FROM EVIL

Remember the phrase, “God helps those who help themselves”? Where is that in the Bible? It’s not. And it’s not a Biblical truth. The Biblical truth is this: God helps those who can’t help themselves!

Want proof of this? Will your righteousness take you to heaven?

Is. 64:6 “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags; we all shrivel up like a leaf, and like the wind our sins sweep us away.”

II Cor. 5:21 “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”

Christ is our righteousness. We are unrighteous. Without His righteousness there is no salvation. God helps those who can’t help themselves.

Ps. 22:8 “He trusts in the LORD; let the LORD rescue him. Let him deliver him, since he delights in him.”

From what does the Lord deliver us? From all kinds of evil that can happen in our lives. I think many times we have been spared, protected and/or delivered and we never knew it. Or perhaps we saw it sometime later, after the fact.

In the early winter of 1968 I was headed out of Joplin, MO, in my new Pontiac Firebird. I was going to some small town in Iowa to preach a trial sermon at a church. I didn’t get 10 miles out of Joplin when suddenly I hit a patch of what many people call “black ice.” I was only traveling about 50 mph and immediately I lost control of my car and started going in circles. It made a couple circles while I was clinging to the steering wheel (because that’s all I could do) and suddenly slid sideways off the highway, jumped a ditch and ended up in a farm field. I got out, looked the car over and decided there was nothing visibly wrong with it.

I got back in, put it in gear and drove out of that farm field at the nearest entrance. I then proceeded to drive on to Iowa so I could preach. When I returned home I discovered that both of my front tires were badly worn to one side. Consequently, I had to buy two new tires and get the front end of that car aligned.

Brothers and sisters, I considered that incident to be a kind of deliverance or protection even though I had to buy new tires. My car could have flipped over and I could have been killed. God is our deliverer from evil!

Ps. 22:8 “He trusts in the LORD; let the LORD rescue him. Let him deliver him, since he delights in him.”

Prov. 29:25 “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.”

Ps. 56:11 “In God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me.”

Ps. 91:2 “I will say of the LORD, ‘He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.’”

Matt. 6:13 “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.”

Someone wrote: All I will ever need to know I learned from Noah.

1- Don’t miss the boat.

2- Remember that we are all in the same boat.

3- Plan ahead. It wasn’t raining when Noah built the Ark .

4- Stay fit. When you’re 600 years old someone may ask you to do something really big.

5- Don’t listen to critics, just get on with the job that needs to be done.

6- Build your future on high ground.

7- Speed isn’t everything. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.

8- When you’re stressed, float awhile.

9- Remember the Ark was built by amateurs, the Titanic by professionals.

10- No matter what the storm, when you are with God there’s always a rainbow waiting.

Noah was a man of faith. Noah trusted God and what did God do for him and his family? Obviously, he saved them. God saved Noah and his family from certain destruction.

God can be trusted to do that for us as well. He can deliver us from certain destruction and/or all evil.

Perhaps you’ve read the book or seen the movie, “The Cross and the Switchblade.” The story of David Wilkerson’s first five years in New York is told in The Cross and the Switchblade, a book he co-authored in 1963. The book became a best-selling phenomenon and more than 15 million copies have been distributed in over 30 languages.

In 1969, a motion picture of The Cross and the Switchblade was released, starring Pat Boone as David Wilkerson and Erik Estrada as Nicky Cruz, the teen gang member whose life was dramatically transformed by Christ.

Nicky was only 3-1/2 years old when his heart turned to stone. As one of 18 children born to witchcraft-practicing parents from Puerto Rico, bloodshed and mayhem were common occurrences in his life. He suffered severe physical and mental abuse at their hands, at one time being declared the “Son of Satan” by his mother while she was in a spiritual trance.

When he was 15, Nicky’s father sent him to visit an older brother in New York. Nicky didn’t stay with his brother long. Instead, full of anger and rage, he chose to make it on his own.

Tough, but lonely, by age 16 he became a member of the notorious Brooklyn street gang known as the Mau Maus (named after a bloodthirsty African tribe). Within six months he became their president. Cruz fearlessly ruled the streets as warlord of one of the gangs most dreaded by rivals and police.

Lost in the cycle of drugs, alcohol, and brutal violence, his life took a tragic turn for the worse after a friend and fellow gang member was horribly stabbed and beaten and died in Nicky’s arms.

As Cruz’ reputation grew, so did his haunting nightmares. Arrested countless times, a court-ordered psychiatrist pronounced Nicky’s fate as “headed to prison, the electric chair, and hell.”

No authority figure could reach Cruz – until he met a skinny street-preacher named David Wilkerson. He disarmed Nicky – showing him something he’d never known before: Relentless love. His interest in the young thug was persistent. Nicky beat him up, spit on him and, on one occasion, seriously threatened his life. Yet the love of God remained – stronger than any adversary Nicky had ever encountered.

Brothers and sisters, the story of David Wilkerson and the salvation of Nicky Cruz could only have happened because of the faithfulness of God and His power to deliver people from evil.

What God did for David Wilkerson and what He did for Nicky Cruz, He can do for us too! God can be trusted to deliver us from evil!

II. DELIGHT IN THE SPIRIT

Ps. 28:7 “The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.”

MY HEART LEAPS FOR JOY. That sounds like delight to me. When we learn to trust Him fully He brings joy into our lives and spirit.

Rom. 15:13 “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Richard Wethersfield, at age 22, having studied piano, violin, and voice, got his first chance to conduct an orchestra. “The moment I picked up the baton, I knew this was what I wanted to do.” His parents however, urged him to be more practical. So he got a master’s degree in business and took a well-paid position in international investment banking.

But Richards’s passion for music never ebbed. After putting in 12-hour days on Wall Street, he’d stay up nights writing music scores. His vacations were spent guest conducting for orchestras around the country. One year he got his big break when a famous European conductor (Erich Leinsdorf) had to bow out of 5 guest appearances with the New York Philharmonic Orchestra. Westerfield, who was his understudy, took over to critical acclaim.

On the last night of the Philharmonic, Richard learned that his father had terminal cancer. “I realized then that life is too short not to do what’s really important to you.” He quit his job and started fulfilling his passion– full time conducting. Today he earns half of his old salary, he’s had to simplify his life, but he has finally found the joy he never knew in business.

Brothers and sisters, there are many people who are not happy and it’s simply because they have followed the wrong pursuit in life. No matter what we do in life and no matter how much money we make, there will never be any great joy or delight until we are linked up with the Lord.

Why is this true? Because deep in the heart of every person looms the certainty of death. And when death is on the horizon and you are not sure of what is going to happen to you, how can anyone find joy or delight in this life? However, on the other hand, if you know where you are going when this life is over and you are certain of eternal life, HOW CAN YOU NOT EXPERIENCE A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF JOY?

Ps. 28:7 “The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song.”

One day when George MacDonald, the great Scottish preacher and writer, was talking with his son, the conversation turned to heaven. “It seems too good to be true,” the son said at one point. A smile crossed MacDonald’s whiskered face. “Nay,” he replied, “It is just so good it must be true!” IT IS TRUE. We must believe God’s Word. We must trust Him. He can be trusted.

Col. 3:1-3 “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”

If we are ever going to find any happiness in this life then we must realize there is more to life than this life. We must focus on that which is eternal! We need to change our focus from earth to eternity. We must anticipate, not dread what is going to happen. We must glory in it. Prepare for it. Sing about it. Dream about it. Live for it.

C. S. Lewis in Mere Christianity wrote, “If you read history you will find that the Christians who did the most for the present world were just those who thought most of the next. It is since Christians have largely ceased to think of the other world that they have become so ineffective in this.”

To find some happiness in this life and be effective as a Christian, we must set our focus on eternity and heaven!

There is more to come. More life to come, especially to the follower of Christ. There is good to come. The greatest good of all! And this great good brings delight to our souls!

Charles H. Spurgeon was England’s best-known preacher in the 1800’s. He often preached to audiences of 10,000 without a PA system. He said one time, “I would recommend you either believe God to the hilt, or else not to believe at all. Believe this book of God, every letter of it, or else reject it. There is no logical standing place between the two.”

BELIEVE GOD TO THE HILT. Believe Christ to the hilt. We must trust the Lord and nothing but good will come from it. Make a commitment to trust Him more!


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Remember the three powerful resources you always have available to you:

LOVE
PRAYER
FORGIVENESS

H. Jackson Brown, Jr.


This Day's Verse

But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead.  (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)

Ephesians 2:4-5
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

If the sun shines in your soul, does it matter if it rains outside?  Happiness within overlooks any sadness the outside world may bring.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We all want our children to be smart.  Unfortunately, people have largely forgotten that there is a huge difference between intelligence and wisdom.  Intelligence is a measure of things you know.  Wisdom is your ability to discern right from wrong and make moral choices.  A wise person will follow God.  An intelligent person may or may not.

Sonya Haskins


This Day's Verse

“We believe it is through the grace of our Lord Jesus that we are saved,”

Acts 15:11
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is nothing the body suffers that the soul may not profit by.

George Meredith


This Day's Verse

Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.

2 John 1:3
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Don’t look at your feet to see if you are doing it right.  Just dance.

Anne Lamott


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Truthfulness is much more than the absence of lies.  It is genuine communication of minds and hearts.  Real truthfulness reflects the character of God, who is always exactly what He says He is, and who speaks painful but joyful truth, never any small talk to our hearts.  Think of Jesus: ever kind, but relentlessly truthful.

Tim Stafford


This Day's Verse

O my God, in thee I trust, let me not be put to shame; let not my enemies exult over me.  Yea, let none that wait for thee be put to shame; let them be ashamed who are wantonly treacherous.

Psalm 25:2-3
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

First keep the peace within yourself, then you can also bring peace to others.

Thomas Kempis


This Day's Verse

The LORD is good, A stronghold in the day of trouble; And He knows those who trust in Him.

Nahum 1:7
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them.

Norman Vincent Peale


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

BE YOURSELF, EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN

by Wayne Lawson

Genesis 27:19-24 & 1 Samuel 17:37-50

I want to spend a few minutes this morning building this message about the importance of being you. As we continue to grow this ministry and define various leadership roles, I believe that it will be important for us to understand the value of simply being yourself and not focus upon anyone else, or attempt to be something that we are not. I challenge us this morning to understand the gifting that God has placed in you and operate in your gifting, simply be yourself, everyone else is taken. We run into many problems not only in Church but also in life in general when we never become comfortable with whom we are, and the great value we have to offer. We each have a treasure hidden in our lives that we take for granted and if we aren’t careful, we allow the enemy to rob us of the very thing God has entrusted to us. We have then, in essence, under-priced God’s precious gift to us.

I believe that God is calling us to take an assessment today and see if we have placed too low a price on the gifting that God has provided for us as Christians. Perhaps there is even a second question here – Have you short-changed your gift by trying to be like someone else? I have often heard over the years many Christians say they don’t have a gift or unsure as to the gift they have and how to operate in it. Let’s try to address all of these issues this morning.

Let’s run over and visit our initial text read in our hearing. As writer Frederick Beuchner pointed out in The Magnificent Defeat, “This was not a blessing in our sense of the word, a vague expression of goodwill that we might use when someone is going on a journey and we say, ‘God bless you.’ For Jacob the blessing is a word of great power. It conveys the very energy and vitality of the blesser’s soul into the one blessed. Just like Elijah when he was carried into heaven by chariots of fire. As he was taken up he dropped his mantle on his successor by the name of Elisha who then received a Double Portion of the Anointing. From that point Elisha would go out and do extraordinary things for God. So, this final blessing by Isaac of his son is to be the most powerful of all blessings. Let us also remember that once it is given it can never be taken back.

There was a rivalry between these twin brothers. The boys mother, Rebecca, would tell you it could be traced back right to the womb. When she was pregnant with them it was like WWF wrestling match going on inside her. It was so intense that she feared for her life and prayed to God about it. God said to her: “Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples born of you shall be divided; the one shall be stronger than the other, the elder shall serve the younger.” In other words, God was pronouncing blessing upon the youngest child in her womb. Now, that’s not the way it works in Hebrew culture – everyone knows that the first born is the preferred child, not the youngest! But God decreed it would be otherwise and Rebecca heard it.

In our text, we find the twins father, Isaac is advanced or old in age and his eyes have begun to dim. Old Man Isaac waits now for his eldest son, Esau, to appear. After awhile, he hears someone enter the tent and say, ‘my father’. “Who are you, my son?” The boy Jacob lies and says that he is Esau. He says it boldly. Isaac almost believes, but not completely. The weak-eyed father asks, ‘Are you really my son, Esau?’ The boy Jacob lies a second time. In the silence of that black, goatskin tent, Isaac reaches out both of his arms and says, ‘Come near and kiss me, my son.’ Let’s identify the first problem – Jacob’s hands are smooth. His brother’s hands are hairy. But the boys’ mother Rebecca is in on the whole thing with Jacob. She has covered the backs of Jacob’s hands with the hair of animals. Jacob stretches his hands into Isaac’s and Isaac is fully deceived. He blesses him saying, ‘See, the smell of my son is the smell of a field which the Lord has blessed.’ Then Isaac gave Jacob the great blessing. Jacob is now the recipient of the blessing that belongs to his brother and takes advantage of his own father’s blindness. Right here he has broken three of the Ten Commandments – “You shall not steal.” “You shall honor your father and mother,” “You shall not bear false witness.” Yes, I agree with you studious Bible readers, there was a fourth commandment violated as well – the one against coveting – however, this one had gone by the wayside years before.

Lest we be too harsh on Jacob, I have heard many Bible teachers and others claim that Jacob was a thief. But the Bible in the New Testament – HEBREWS 12:16 tells us plainly that Esau “FOR ONE MORSEL OF MEAT SOLD HIS BIRTHRIGHT” and in the Old Testament record GENESIS 25: 29-34 it states clearly that he “SOLD HIS BIRTHRIGHT UNTO JACOB” and bound the sale with an oath, for “ESAU DESPISED HIS BIRTHRIGHT.” The real Jacob is not the schemer – trickster nor is he perfect. Rather it is the journey of a man to become his best self. Jacob is our patriarch because of his journey, not despite it. When we consider our lot in life or our current position or status it is because of our Journey, not Despite it. Jacob is not many figures, but one – one with an intricate and complex character, but one, nonetheless. For us to understand who we are, we must understand Jacob’s struggle and how important it is that we can all identify with it.

• We all struggle with life choices

• We all regret some of the choices we have made

• We have all been on a journey, away from the name we feel we sometimes deserve, and towards the name we wish to deserve

• Inside each of us is Israel: the one who struggles with God

As did Jacob, we too, can become Israel if we grow and learn from our mistakes, and journey to be our best selves

So we see in Jacob a tragic flaw from the offset. He believed if he was going to get ahead in this life he was going to have to hustle and strive and be knifing – even if it meant hustling his own brother. And the strange irony of it all is that Jacob didn’t need to hustle. God had already promised him this blessing. While he was still in the womb God proclaimed to Rebeccah that the younger one would be the blessed one. And when you have God’s blessing what more do you need? The problem was that Jacob didn’t believe it – even though he must have heard it many times from his mother while working alongside her, but he still didn’t believe it.

• All he could see was Esau – the strong one

• All he could see was Esau — the popular one

• All he could see was Esau — the first born

• All he could see was Esau — the skilled hunter

• All he could see was Esau — the preferred one of his father and the rest of the world

• He figured the only way he’d ever be blessed would be to steal it from Esau

I wonder how many of us are like Jacob, always watching somebody else, coveting their gift in spite of the gift God has given us. Esau is pictured as a self-centered, irresponsible man, caring far more for sports than for the responsibilities that come with being an adult. He did not want to be saddled with the responsibility of family affairs and business. Jacob was the exact opposite of Esau. Jacob was a mature, quiet, settled man who looked after the affairs and responsibilities of the family. He stayed right with the tents, the workers, herds, and affairs of the family. It is unfortunate that they were not able to embrace their differences and work together. This is how it is within the church at times. If we are not careful we begin to watch what everybody else is doing and then desire to be like them instead of embracing what God has given us. I am always concerned when I travel and visit smaller churches and they have 50 members and 20 of them are in the pulpit. It is usually a clear indication of a church that does not understand the importance of embracing the various giftings that operate within each of us – I like to encourage them to be yourself, everyone else is taken.

Being who you are is the most natural thing there is and takes less effort than trying to be someone that you are not. I may never preach like T.D. Jakes, but that is okay, I am not T.D. Jakes, I may never teach like Creflo Dollar, but that’s okay, I am not Creflo Dollar. I many never speak before tens of thousands like Billy Graham, but that is okay, I am not Billy Graham. All too often, in the church, we spend too much time trying to be like somebody else. I am glad I am who I am, and there is no one else just like me.

Jacob wasted 20 years of his life hiding from his brother – simply because he wanted to be like his brother. In spite of what God had already promised him while he was still in the womb, Jacob could not take his eyes off of being like his brother. It would ultimately cost him years of frustration. He would never see his mother alive again, not even able to attend her funeral in an attempt to add closure. You see my brothers and sisters; it is not worth it in the long run – be yourself, everyone else is taken.

David understood this at a very early age. When we consider the life of King David, we can really understand the value of Being Yourself. David would become the most loved and respected King that ruled over God’s people. Here it is thousands of years later and we are still talking about his life and what he accomplished. Unlike Jacob, David had more than just one brother to contend with. David was the eighth and youngest son of Jesse from the kingly tribe of Judah.

The biblical King David of Israel was known for his diverse skills as both a warrior and a writer of psalms. In his 40 years as ruler, between approximately 1010 and 970 B.C.E., he united the people of Israel, led them to victory in battle, conquered land and paved the way for his son, Solomon, to build the Holy Temple. But most of us really don’t understand what it was that bought David before King Saul. We don’t know what his gifting was that moved him to become the most prominent King in history. His first interaction with Saul came when the king was looking for someone to play music for him, and the king’s attendant summoned the skilled David to play for him. Saul was pleased with David and kept him in his service as a musician.

It was not his courage or his leadership that bought him before the King. David was gifted as a skilled musician. Apparently someone had heard David play various instruments and it was that Gift that bought him before the King. Could you imagine if David had been more concerned about trying to be like his brothers. David appreciated what God had placed in him. My brothers and sisters, I really think that is key – we must learn how to appreciate what God has imparted unto us. When we learn how to appreciate our gift, it is only then that God will be able to move us into another realm – just be yourself, everyone else is taken. We all know that David would come to prominence because of the battle that was brewing between the Israelites and the Philistines. There was a giant in the land by the name of Goliath. The Philistine Army was the most feared of any in the Ancient Near East. Their superior armaments during the middle of the eleventh century, BCE, enabled them to threaten Judea. They had already colonized areas along the coastline. So, here we have Goliath the Philistine of Gath, a giant, who is nine feet tall and a champion warrior. No one in the army of Israel really wants to face up to such a giant. The entire Israelite army, including King Saul, was filled full of fear and felt defeated before they even considered facing such a giant. It didn’t help matters much when Goliath took advantage of every opportunity to verbally insult them and the LORD God. What were they to do?

David the musician shows up and stands before King Saul. After a conversation King Saul sends this boy David out to fight against the giant. He then attempts to equip David for his encounter with the giant. Saul clothes David with his own armor. He puts a bronze helmet on David’s head and clothes David with his own big coat of mail. David straps Saul’s sword over the armor. Then David tries to take a step. He quickly realizes that he had not earned any of that equipment. He quickly remembers the Gift that he has – the gift beyond being a Musician. David remembers that he is good at throwing rocks. That is the gift that David had which ultimately would bring him before the King and set him on the path of his destiny. We know the rest of the story; he would be victorious over the giant.

What would cause David to walk in his Destiny is the fact that he understood his gift was Throwing Rocks. What a strange gift to have. We must identify the Gift that God has given us and understand no matter how big or small we think that gifting is — to simply operate in it. We read in PROVERBS 18:16 A MAN’S GIFT MAKETH ROOM FOR HIM, AND BRINGETH HIM BEFORE GREAT MEN. This strange gift of throwing rocks would usher David into his destiny – it would bring him face to face before King Saul because he was Gifted at Throwing Rocks. I don’t know about you but I am glad today that David was comfortable with who he was, he understood how important it was to be yourself, everyone else is taken.

• If my gift is throwing rocks – I’ll throw Rocks in Jesus name

• If my gift is Playing Instruments – I’ll play in Jesus name

• If my gift is serving on the Usher Board – I’ll serve in Jesus name

Whatever my gift is, I’ll wait, because God promised my gift will make room for me and take me to great places.

Paul understood this when he talked and counseled with a young preacher by the name of Timothy. Paul would go on to tell Timothy that he would grow to be a great preacher one day and then gave him sound advise according to I TIMOTHY 4:14 NEGLECT NOT THE GIFT THAT IS IN THEE, WHICH WAS GIVEN THEE BY PROPHECY, WITH THE LAYING ON OF HANDS OF THE PRESBYTERY.

— Your gift will take you to places you never dreamed

— Your gift will elevate you in due season

— Don’t neglect the gift that God has given you

— Don’t set your sight on what others have and are doing

— Allow God to continue to grow the gift that He has placed with you


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I have been all things unholy.  If God can work through me, he can work through anyone.

Francis of Assisi


This Day's Verse

Little children, let us not love in word or speech but in deed and in truth.

1 John 3:18
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Gratitude is the soil of joy.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God has infinite attention to spare for each one of us.  You are as much alone with Him as if you were the only being He had ever created.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak,

Ezekiel 34:16
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The cross we carry is never so heavy as the chains from which we were freed.

J. A. Lacy


This Day's Verse

Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth.

1 Timothy 6:6
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

In a world where you can be anything, be kind.

Bumper sticker


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is such an ordinary, everyday, mundane thing.  Certainly, people who pray are no more saints than the rest of us.  Rather, they are people who want to share a life with God, to love and be loved, to speak and to listen, to work and to be at rest in the presence of God.

Roberta Bondi


This Day's Verse

“Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father.  And whatever you ask in My name, that I will do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.  If you ask anything in My name, I will do it.”

John 14:12-14
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

So wait before the Lord.  Wait in the stillness.  And in that stillness, assurance will come to you.  You will know that you are heard; you will know that your Lord ponders the voice of your humble desires; you will hear quiet words spoken to you yourself, perhaps to your grateful surprise and refreshment.

Amy Carmichael


This Day's Verse

Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms.

Psalm 95:2
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Wholehearted, ready laughter heals, encourages, relaxes anyone within hearing distance.  The laughter that springs from love makes wide the space around it—gives room for the loved one to enter in.  Real laughter welcomes, and never shuts out.

Eugenia Price


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

LOVE-LOVE-LOVE

by Jerry Morrissey

Jesus appears to his disciples. At his word they catch a huge amount of fish. They share a meal that Jesus prepared. Then Jesus commissions Peter as pastor of his Church and prophesies his martyrdom.

Although the Gospel seems to have ended with chapter twenty, especially verses thirty and thirty-one. Chapter twenty-one, has been appended and gives more resurrection appearances, now in Galilee, and yet another conclusion in verses twenty-four and twenty-five. There are two scenes here. The first one is about fish, catching them as a symbol for missionary success.

The second scene is about sheep, leading them as a symbol of Peter being not only a missionary apostle fisherman, but a model for pastoral care shepherd.

In verses one to fourteen, the Miraculous Catch of Fish reveals Peter the Fisher of Men.

In verse one, Jesus revealed himself again: This is the third appearance to his disciples according to John. It takes place in Galilee. The disciples have apparently returned to their former occupation of fishing. Jesus appears to them in the course of their daily work.

In verse three, that night they caught nothing; night was considered the best time for fishing and the fish would be fresh for the market in the morning. Night is also a symbol for spiritual distress and need.

In verse four, 4 Jesus was standing; Jesus simply materializes suddenly as he does in several of the post-resurrectional narratives.

Disciples did not realize that it was Jesus: On one level, the physical, they do not recognize Jesus because his glorified body has changed his outward appearance to some degree. On another level, the spiritual, Jesus can only be truly seen with the eyes of faith. Gradual recognition of Jesus is an important theme in John.

In verse five, children; this word, like “kids” in our language, implies the master-disciple, teacher-student relationship.

In verse six, they cast the net; the success of the fisherman on level one, that is, the earthly and physical, there is the catch of fish and on level two, missionary success is entirely dependent on their obedience to Jesus’ word.

In verse seven, it is the Lord; as in chapter twenty verses one to ten, the Beloved Disciple is the first to recognize Jesus because of his love for him. Peter, on the other hand, literally “jumps in the lake” to hasten to shore. There he will learn the lesson of love from Jesus himself.

In verse nine, fish and bread; as the story goes Jesus already had some fish on the fire before the disciples could bring the freshly caught ones. This meal is a quasi-Eucharist. Jesus takes the initiative because he is the giver of spiritual food, which is Himself. Fish was a frequent symbol of the Eucharist along with bread, of course.

In verses eleven to thirteen, 153 large fish; the catch of fish symbolizes the mission of the Church. The un-torn net symbolizes the unity of the Church and the 153 represents totality. It is not possible to trace the exact meaning to which the number 153 refers, perhaps it was well known to the disciples, but we are not told.

In verse thirteen, “Come, have breakfast.” The breakfast is an act of communion with the Lord who is known by faith. It also sets the precedent for celebrating the Eucharist outside the supper context, even early in the morning.

In verse fourteen, this is now the third time, the reference is to chapter twenty verses nineteen and twenty six.

In verses fifteen to seventeen, Peter the Shepherd.

In chapter ten, Jesus was the one good shepherd. Now, he transfers that function to Peter. The scene has been prepared for by the theme of feeding in verses one to fourteen. Jesus puts three questions to Peter, corresponding to his triple denial. He had claimed he had sacrificial love for Jesus. He had not. In the Greek there are two different words for “love” being used. In the first question Jesus asks Peter if he has agape, sacrificial love, “laying down one’s life for the sheep” love. Peter honestly answers that he has philia, affectionate, human, friendship love. In the second question Jesus drops “more than these,” a boastful claim Peter made at the Last Supper. Any agape at all will do. It need not be more than others. Peter admits again the human and limited quality of his love. The third question “distresses” Peter because Jesus changes verbs and asks him if he has philia love for him. Peter says that Jesus really knows him, “knows everything,” and that he certainly has that kind of love. Having broken through Peter’s conceit and gotten him to admit the true quality of his love, Jesus gives him pastoral authority of the Good Shepherd. Peter did not need to start out perfect. He would get there, but his honesty about his motivations would be enough for Jesus. It would open the way for grace to empower Peter to one day die a martyr’s death, lay down his life in agape love. Agape love was the distinguishing characteristic of the Beloved, Greek agapetos, Disciple throughout his life with Jesus. Peter would end up that way, but begin with only philia love.

In verses eighteen to nineteen, Peter the Martyr.

In verse eighteen, this saying of Jesus is probably based on a proverb that goes something like “in youth a man goes freely, wherever he likes; in old age, a man must let himself be taken where he does not wish to go.” The point is that the decision to go, that is, to follow Jesus, must be taken while there is freedom of action; if left until later, it may be too late. It also means that Peter will die a martyr’s death at the hands of enemies, as did Jesus.

In verse nineteen, follow me, at last the real point of the narrative is reached. Peter is to live and die just as Jesus did, in imitation of him, reproducing the act by which Jesus most fully revealed the Father’s glory and character. True discipleship continues Jesus’ mission and is based on agape love. Peter will feed the flock in the same way Jesus did, ultimately by laying down his life-freely-for them. In that respect Peter will have to catch up to the Beloved Disciple. However, Jesus will go on to point out that bloody martyrdom is not the only martyrdom. The Beloved Disciple will die a natural death, but live a life of supernatural love. That is martyrdom too.

Although Peter appears too be the “star” of today’s gospel lesson, the Beloved Disciple, the hero of the author of this gospel, is the model to be imitated. The author recognizes Peter’s authority and leadership role, but he admires and wants all to emulate the Beloved Disciple. In the end, even Peter, the symbol of authority in the Church, must emulate the love of the Beloved Disciple. As the author develops the relationship between Peter who represents, authority, and the Beloved Disciple who represents, love, authority is always behind love and must always catch up. Love is much more sensitive to the presence of Jesus than is authority and structural leadership. The leadership of love is something all Christians should exercise. It is broader and will be longer lasting, more pervasive and penetrating than any authoritative stance, teaching, posture or position. It may not seem so at times, but this is still Christ’s Church. He set it up and he knows what makes it work and last. It is love. Authority has its legitimate place and is to be honored, but love is to be imitated. Authority, at least, structural authority, is a necessary component of Christ’s Church, but not the only one, nor is it the central one.

There is no hint that Peter abused the legitimate authority entrusted to him by Christ. Certainly in this text, Peter is showing no signs of being an overlord or being overbearing. So, the primacy of love over the primacy of authority does not just apply to authoritarianism, but also to those exercising authority legitimately and properly.

We do not need to hold a church office as Pastor or congregational president, in order to exercise authority. We all exercise authority over our own lives. We are, after all, in charge of ourselves, though not in control of ourselves. And we are, in most cases, in charge, though not in control, of others. It might only be baby-sitting. It might be parenting or teaching or managing. It might be at home, at work, or even at play, as when we are coaching. One minute I might be the one in charge, example, driving the grandchildren around; the next minute I might be in a more subservient position, example, sitting at a meeting with the Bishop presiding. In whatever situation we are challenged to balance authority with love. Authority wants to get it right and do it correctly. This only makes sense. Doing things right results in progress and peace. Love, however, wants to do the right thing. That is really leadership, whereas doing things right is really just good management. Doing things right need not take into account the human being or human beings involved, their feelings, their preferences and abilities and their disabilities. Love tempers authority and shapes its exercise. Authority is based on knowledge, or should be, knowing what and knowing that. Love is based on wisdom, knowing when and knowing how, when to act and when not to, knowing how to relate to a person and how not to. Even the legitimate and proper exercise of our authority can violate the sanctity of another person unnecessarily. Love prevents that.

When Jesus called Peter aside to speak with him privately, he gave us all an example of how we pass on the gospel in one-on-one situations. Indeed, most of our preaching, teaching, and counseling is one-on-one. The duly authorized preachers and teachers find themselves speaking to groups, but most of us spread the gospel much more informally and privately. We might have expected Jesus to read Peter the riot act, berate him for denying him, threatening him that if it happens again he would be fired as an apostle. Instead, Jesus forgives him and promotes him to chief shepherd! However, his forgiveness is preceded by teaching, teaching him, albeit gently, where he went wrong, how he overestimated the quality and purity of his love for Jesus. Peter needed to learn humility, honesty really, if he was going to become open to the grace of forgiveness Jesus was prepared to give. Like tough love, this was tough forgiveness, not the blanket, namby-pamby kind that passes for the real thing.

Like Peter, we too are warned not to be so fast in claiming the purity of our love. Honestly admitting to ourselves, to the Lord, and to others that we do not love Jesus for who he is, for himself, but only for what he has done and can do for us opens us to his grace, the grace to love him for himself. When that happens we can rise above our limited ability to love and love unconditionally and risk our lives unconditionally, indeed live our lives in daily martyrdom.

Recognition of the risen Lord’s presence in our midst requires eyes of faith and hearts of love.

Trusting in the Lord enhances success in work and in love.

Every meal is an opportunity to recall the Eucharist and the Lord as its provider and presider.

Being right is important; doing right is even more so.

The Lord forgives where others would not.

If we learn from our sins the Lord trusts us with greater responsibilities.

Being a Missionary: All Christians have the same mission; all are missionaries. We think of people going off to foreign lands and preaching the gospel. Of course, they are Christian missionaries. However, so are we. We see Jesus preaching to large groups, both in his home region and Galilee as well as in the region of the Ten Cities and in the southern part of the country. He preached both home and abroad. We see him teaching smaller groups at greater length, especially his disciples. However, we also see him talking to, counseling, one person at a time. That is what he is doing to Peter in this text. All Christians do this one-on-one preaching, teaching, counseling, conversing and thus all are missionaries. We always bring Christ into our conversations, even if we do not specifically mention his name. He is always the guide and gauge of our words, our “sermons,” if you will. Jesus did not preach at Peter. He conversed with him. Christians who talk to others in a “one-on-one” about Christ as though there were a whole crowd of people there are using the wrong model for communicating. And they may be coming across to the other person more like a pompous Bishop rather than a humble fisherman or shepherd. The authority of the message may be shouted so loudly that the love within it can be drowned out. Being a missionary of Christ’s and for Christ requires no letter of authorization other than Baptism and no program or procedure other than Christian love.

Love, Love and Love: There are three different words in Greek that are translated into English as the same word, “love.” The Greek eros, “love,” stands for romantic, erotic, sexual love. God created that kind of love. It is good. However, Jesus does not command we all be “in love” with everyone else. In fact, that is impossible. The Greek philia, “love” stands for friendship love. We can be friends with a whole lot more people than we will ever be “in love” with. However, Jesus does not command that we be friends with everyone either. Peter admitted he was a friend of Jesus, but that is as far as he could or would go after he had denied even knowing him three times in public. Like “in love” love, friendship love is mutual, we cannot really be in love or friends with someone who is not also in love with us or also our friend, reciprocal being in love or friends involves a reciprocity of actions, and affective, we feel good about our beloved or friend. The Greek agape, love,” stands for God’s kind of loving. It differs from “in love” love and friendship love in that it is one-way, that is, God loves us whether we love him back, it does not require that we reciprocate. That is the kind of love Jesus commands. Good feeling love cannot be commanded. This text and others make it clear that Jesus has nothing against emotional love, be it friendship love or “in love” love, both created by God and quite often blessed by God. Indeed, both can exist along with divine agape love. Moreover, divine love, love for God and the love of God for others, does have that emotional element within it, though it is not primary or required. It is when it is stripped down, like Peter was, and seen all by itself, separated from the clothing of friendship or romantic love, that its presence and strength is revealed or it is absence. Peter had to admit that his love for Jesus was of the garden-variety human kind and was not strong enough to allow him to risk, lay down, his life for Jesus’ and integrity sake. He could only receive, never acquire on his own, that love from Jesus, THE lover, who gives it when the person is humble enough to admit that he or she does not have it. Then Jesus will enter and work miracles, transforming the fear into courage, the hatred into love, the sadness into joy.

We are taught that honesty is enough for Jesus. If we honestly admit that we love Jesus for the good things he does for us and not for him alone, we can begin to grow by his grace into that pure love which will empower us to lay down our lives. That power-to lay down one’s life-does not only kick in at death as a sort of proof, but it plays out in life. To have this kind of love is to be free beyond the limits of death, torture, suffering and certainly inconvenience. It frees us to be truly missionary in the sense taught in the beginning of this text.

In the midst of our daily occupations, especially when experiencing failure, we can sense-through love, like the Beloved Disciple did-the presence of Jesus. He just materializes before our very, faith, eyes. We listen to him. We do what he says, no matter how seemingly absurd or impossible, and we experience success. We let him feed us at breakfast, lunch and or supper, both materially and sacramentally, and we grow step by step from selfish love to selfless love. We move from the authoritarian mode-the mode of lording it over others, controlling them, manipulating them-to the loving mode-letting Jesus act in us to free them and us, to save them and us, to be with them and us. Yes, in the midst of daily occupations and life we find the Lord, we feel the Lord’s presence and love, and we love the Lord and others. This is following him through life and through death to life again in eternity.

Salvation, experience of Jesus, does not happen by being transported into the clouds or entrance into an ethereal realm. It happens by Jesus entering into our fleshly lives, lives lived in the dailiness of routine. Then, amidst ordinariness, we experience the abundance of a 153 fish-catch, the joy of camaraderie with Jesus and our fellow believers and the impulse to go forth and bring in others. The resurrected Lord is found in our lives just as he was found in theirs-on the edges and shores, in the seas, at meals, alone in conversation and personal teaching and on the crosses of life.

People in authority must grapple with what Peter faced. He had to learn the hard way that his love of Christ was on the human plane alone. That is fine as far as it goes, but it will not go far enough. It took Peter to the courtyard of denial. Love, agape love, laying down one’s life love, sacrificial love took him to the graveyard of self-denial. In the courtyard he temporarily escaped judgment, the judgment of humans. In the graveyard of martyrdom he escaped real death. His story is told not just to throw cold water on the conceits of those in church authority, but to challenge all of us, as to the quality of our love for Christ.  Amen.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is the voice of faith.

Richard Henry Horne


This Day's Verse

Do not boast about tomorrow, For you do not know what a day may bring forth.

Proverbs 27:1
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Perfect love means to love the one through whom one became unhappy.

Soren Kierkegaard


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Men substitute tradition for the living experience of the love of God.  They talk and think as though walking with God was attained by walking in the footsteps of men who walked with God.

William Charles Braithwaite


This Day's Verse

“Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things which you have not known.”

Jeremiah 33:3
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I believe in God, whom I understand as Spirit, as Love, as the Source of all.

Leo Tolstoy


This Day's Verse

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

Colossians 3:8
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

You pay God a compliment by asking great things of Him.

Teresa of Avila


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

How divinely full of glory and pleasure shall that hour be when all the millions of mankind that have been redeemed by the blood of the Lamb of God shall meet together and stand around Him, with every tongue and every heart full of joy and praise!  How astonishing will be the glory and the joy of that day when all the saints shall join together in one common song of gratitude and love, and of everlasting thankfulness to this Redeemer!  With that unknown delight, and expressible satisfaction, shall all that are saved from the ruins of sin and hell address the Lamb that was slain, and rejoice in His presence!

Isaac Watts


This Day's Verse

—the righteousness of God through faith in Jesus Christ for all who believe.

Romans 3:22
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is not eloquence, but earnestness; not the definition of helplessness, but the feeling of it; not figures of speech, but earnestness of soul.

Hannah More


This Day's Verse

My soul, wait silently for God alone, For my expectation is from Him.

Psalm 62:5
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Who brought me hither
Will bring me hence;
No other Guide I seek.

John Milton


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

BE THE CHURCH!

by Scott R. Bayles

 

A mega-church in Vista, California made headlines when they canceled all of their worship services over the weekend. Rather then meeting together in an air-conditioned sanctuary, North Coast Church closed its doors for what they called a “Weekend of Service,” providing churchgoers the opportunity to actually show the love of Jesus in their community.

Of the 7,000 believers who attend North Coast Church, over 5,500 of them showed up Sunday morning to live out their commitment as they tackled 139 community service projects at 70 different sites all throughout North San Diego County.

The senior pastor of the church, said, “Our weekly service projects and our Weekend of Service is simply one more way to help our members understand that church is what we are, not just something we go to… What we tell people is—this week, we’re going to be the church instead of just going to church.”

Now, there is a congregation that understands what church is all about.

There are simply far too many Christians out there who have this mistaken belief that church is just something that you go to for sixty minutes on Sunday morning (assuming the preacher doesn’t go over-time). The truth is—you don’t go to church; you are the church! The church isn’t a place; it’s people! Jesus said…

“You are the salt of the earth.” (Matthew 5:13)

“You are the light of the world.” (Matthew 5:14)

“You are…a city set on a hill.” (Matthew 5:14)

You are the church! It’s up to us (you and me) to be the mouth, the hands, and the feet of Jesus—to be the church! Of course, getting involved in the community and doing service projects—like the folks at North Coast Church—is only part of what it means to be the church. Being the church also means being like Jesus, being a part of God’s family and giving of ourselves and our means.

I don’t believe there is anybody in all of Scripture that exemplifies what it means to be the church more clearly or concisely than an often-over-looked woman named Phoebe. While there are no examples in the Bible of the perfect Christian—because “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” (Romans 3:23)—there is this one woman, mentioned briefly in Romans 16:1-2, that I believe gives us some insight into what God wants from us and what it means to be the church. Let’s read these two short verses together:

“I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a servant of the church in Cenchrea. I ask you to receive her in the Lord in a way worthy of the saints and to give her any help she may need from you, for she has been a great help to many people, including me.” (Romans 16:1-2 NIV)

We know very little about this godly woman who carried Paul’s letter to the Romans. We just have the brief mention of her name and service. She was named after the Moon-Goddess of the Greeks. The goddess Artemis, known commonly as Phoebe, was supposedly identified with the light of the moon. But the Phoebe whom Paul so highly commended shone as a light for Jesus, the “Light of the World”! In a fifty-three-word parade of praise, Paul gives a beautiful cameo to this saintly servant of Jesus. But what can we learn from someone mentioned only so briefly? We can learn a lot—especially about what it means to “be the church.” Paul, in these two verses, uses three powerful words to describe Phoebe. The first description he bestows on her is “sister.”

  • SISTER:

Paul began by saying, “I commend to you our sister Phoebe.” First and foremost, being the church means being a part of God’s family. We may not all be sisters, but we are all spiritual siblings. The Bible says, “Jesus, who makes people holy, and those who are made holy are from the same family. So he is not ashamed to call them his brothers and sisters” (Hebrews 2:11 NCV). Take a moment to let the amazing truth sink in. You are part of God’s family. When you place your faith in Jesus, God becomes your Father, you become his child, other believers become your brothers and sisters, and the church becomes your spiritual family. The red-letter words of Jesus are unmistakable: “Pointing with his hand at his disciples, he said, ‘Look, here are my mother and my brothers. Whoever does what my Father in heaven wants is my brother and sister and mother’” (Matthew 12:49-50 GWT).

I’ve said it so many times before—church is about family. It’s about having brothers and sisters who love you, who can come along next to you and see you through life’s trying times. Being included in God’s family is the highest honor and the greatest privilege you will ever receive. Whenever you feel unimportant, unloved, or insecure, remember to whom you belong.

That’s what family is, isn’t it—a place to belong? Even in the perfect paradise of Eden, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18). We are not meant to live lone-ranger lives; rather, we are created for communion and community. One of the classic hymns and a favorite in many churches still is Lanny Wolfe’s “God’s Family”:

We’re part of the family that’s been born again;

Part of the family whose love knows no end;

For Jesus has saved us, and makes us His own,

Now we’re part of the family that’s on it’s way home.

And sometimes we laugh together, sometimes we cry;

Sometimes we share together, heart-aches and sighs;

Sometimes we dream together of how it will be

When we all get to Heaven, God’s family.

That’s what God’s family is all about—laughing together, crying together, and dreaming together. In fact, the Bible says that Christians are put together, joined together, built together, members together, heirs together, fitted together, held together, and will be caught up together. There’s a lot of togetherness in God’s family! Being the church means experiencing life together. And what do we do together? Well, there’s another Bible phrase that answers that question—one another:

“Love one another” (John 13:34).

“Be devoted to one another in brotherly love” (Romans 12:10).

“Honor one another” (Romans 12:10).

“Live in harmony with one another” (Romans 12:16).

“Let us not judge one another” (Romans 14:13).

“Accept one another” (Romans 15:7).

“Greet one another with a holy kiss” (Romans 16:16).

“Teach one another” (Romans 15:14).

“Serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13).

“Be kind and compassionate to one another” (Ephesians 4:32).

“Encourage one another” (Hebrews 10:25).

“Offer hospitality to one another” (2 Peter 4:9).

“Love one another” (1 John 3:23, 4:7, 4:11 and so many more).

It takes both God’s power and our effort to produce a loving Christian community. Being the church meaning being a family and living out these “one another” verses on a daily basis. Let’s make that our goal as God’s family.

Additionally, Paul goes on to describe Phoebe in yet another way. Paul calls Phoebe a saint.

• SAINT:

Paul told the Roman Christians to “receive her in the Lord in a manner worthy of the saints.” In other words, roll out the red carpet, bring on the confetti, throw your arms wide open and wrap them around her when she gets there! Why? A saint is coming to town. Despite popular opinion, you don’t have to perform any miracles or be canonized in order to become a saint. Every one of us are saints from the time we are born again. At that moment God sanctifies us; he makes us holy. A saint is any person who has been sanctified by God. In fact, Paul addressed this letter “To all in Rome who are loved by God and called to be saints” (Romans 1:7).

If you are in God’s family, then you are a saint. Of course, that doesn’t mean you will always act like a saint. Sainthood, or being sanctified, is an ongoing lifelong process. Put very simply, sanctification is the process of becoming like Christ. The Bible says, “As the Spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like him and reflect his glory even more” (2 Corinthians 3:18 TLB). Both being the church and being a saint mean becoming like Jesus. God’s ultimate goal for your life on earth is not comfort, but character development. You were created to become like Christ. But the thing is—you cannot reproduce the character of Jesus on your own strength. New Year’s resolutions, willpower, and best intentions are not enough. Only the Holy Spirit has the power to make the changes God wants to make in our lives.

Do you sometimes wonder why you aren’t more like Jesus? Let me answer that with another question. Have you ever noticed how couples who’ve been married for a long time start to look alike? After so many years or decades of togetherness, they start to have the same mannerisms, the same inflection in their voice, even the same facial expressions. The more time you spend with someone the more you become like that person. So, how much time do you spend with Jesus? How much time to you spend praying and talking with God about life’s failures and successes? How often do you open your Bible and just listen to what he has to say? More than anything else, I think the Spirit of God uses the Word of God to make you more like the Son of God.

But we have to open to it, we have to want it, and cooperate with the Holy Spirit. How does that happen in real life? Through spending time in prayer, through reading our Bibles, through personal and public worship, but also through the choices and decisions we make. I know it sounds cliché, but ask yourself, “What would Jesus do?”

What if, for one day, Jesus lived your life for you?

What if, for twenty-four hours, Jesus wakes up in your bed, walks in your shoes, lives in your house, and assumes your schedule? Your boss becomes his boss, your kids become his kids, and your headaches become his headaches. Your health doesn’t change. Your circumstances don’t change. Your schedule isn’t altered. Your problems aren’t solved. Only one thing changes.

What if, for one day and night, Jesus lives your life with his heart? Your heart gets the day off and your life is led by the heart of Christ. What would you be like? Would people notice a difference? Your family—would they see something new? Your co-workers—would they sense a change? And how about you? What alterations would this heart transplant have on your stress levels? Your mood swings? Your temper? Would you sleep better? Would you see sunsets differently?

Adjust the lens of your imagination until you have a clear picture of Jesus leading your life, then snap the shutter and frame the picture. What you see is what God wants. The Bible says, “In your lives you must think and act like Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5 NCV). The heart of Christ-likeness is having a heart like Christ. God’s plan for you is nothing short of a new heart. Long before Jesus walked the streets of Galilee, God promised, “I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. And I will put my Spirit in you” (Ezekiel 36:26 NLT).

God loves you just the way you are, but he refuses to leave you that way. He wants you to be just like Jesus. He wants you to have a heart like his. That’s what it means to be the church. But we’re not quite done. Paul had one last adjective for Phoebe. He calls her a servant.

• SERVANT:

Once again, Paul says, “I commend to you our sister Phoebe, who is a servant of the church.” The word used here for “servant” is the Greek word diakonos, which is usually translated “deacon” or “minister.” The point, however, is not that she held a special position or title, but that she served her local church in a variety of ways. In the next verse, Paul says, “Help her in every way you can, for she has helped many in their needs, including me” (vs. 2 TLB). Being the church means helping out; it means being a servant.

North Coast Church is a wonderful example of a service orientated church, but they aren’t the only ones. Could churches everywhere will be canceling their regularly scheduled meetings, in order to “be the church,” to participate in local community service projects all across the country?  But you don’t have to engage in a major community project in order to be a servant. You don’t even have to leave the building. There are ample opportunities for you to be a “servant of the church” right here in your church.

A list could literally go on and on. But listen, the point is—being the church requires us to help out in what ever way we’re needed. I know that most of you haven’t been a part of our church family for very long, others may feel like they aren’t qualified to teach a class, or your afraid to speak in public, or your life is already so busy, but it all goes back to that same question: “What would Jesus do?” Or rather, “What would Jesus have me do?” Choose to do what God wants you to do and then trust his Spirit to give you the power, love, courage or wisdom you need to do it.

Robert J. Morgan once told the story of a preacher who was approached by a man who wanted to join the church. “But,” the man said, “I have a very busy schedule. I can’t be called on for any service, like committee work, teaching, or other such things. I just won’t be available for special projects or to help with setting up chairs or things like that. I just want to sit through Sunday worship and then go on about my business.”

The minister thought for a moment, and then replied, “I believe you’re at the wrong church. The church you’re looking for is three blocks down the street, on the right.” The man followed the preacher’s directions and soon came to an abandoned, boarded up closed down church building. It was a dead church—gone out of business.

That’s what happens to churches that don’t have servants. Being the church means being a servant. Phoebe was a servant of the church, she had a servant heart. We would all do well to live by her example.

Conclusion:

Church isn’t something that opens or closes with a prayer. Church isn’t just something you attend; it’s something you are. Church isn’t a place; it’s people. What does it mean to “be the church”? Well, if Phoebe give us anything to go by, it means being a sister—a vital part of God’s household, fashioned for God’s family, a saint—created to become like Christ and learning to have a heart like his, and a servant—made for ministry and willing to help out. So whatever you do, wherever you go, whether it’s Sunday, Saturday or any day in-between—remember to be the church.

Invitation:

This is going to be a broad invitation. If you want to be a part of our church family or if you aren’t sure whether or not you are a part of it yet and you you’d like to know, then this invitation is for you. If you need some help developing a Christ-like heart, then this invitation is for you. Or if you are willing to be a servant rather than a spectator—meaning if you want to volunteer to help out in any capacity (giving communion talks, leading songs at a song service, you want to learn how to prepare a sermon, you want to help with the children’s program, fixing pipes, cleaning floors, laying tile, or any other kind service what-so-ever)—I want to invite you to take a step of faith.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The world appears very little to a soul that contemplates the greatness of God.  My business is to remain in the presence of God.

Brother Lawrence


This Day's Verse

“It is the LORD who goes before you; he will be with you, he will not fail you or forsake you; do not fear or be dismayed.”

Deuteronomy 31:8
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed and redeemed and redeemed.

Audrey Hepburn


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Worship is a voluntary act of gratitude offered by the saved to the Savior, by the healed to the Healer, and by the delivered to the Deliverer.

Max Lucado


This Day's Verse

Christ, in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge.

Colossians 2:2-3
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Faith in faith is pointless.  Faith in a living, active God moves mountains.

Beth Moore


This Day's Verse

Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in all ways.  The Lord be with you all.

2 Thessalonians 3:16
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Just pray for a tough hide and a tender heart.

Ruth Bell Graham


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Cómo amar a Dios y a los gays

Cómo amar a Dios y a los gays

Cómo amar a Dios y a los gays, por Eric Elder

¿Qué debe hacer un cristiano? (Spanish Edition of Loving God & Loving Gays)
por Eric Elder, Traducido por Eduardo Nieto

Una reflexión profunda sobre un tema delicado, fruto de mi propia experiencia personal y de mi ministerio con cientos de personas en este ámbito durante los últimos 30 años.

Este libro está lleno de ESPERANZA para cualquiera que desee encontrar formas válidas de satisfacer sus necesidades legítimas, formas de honrar a Dios con sus deseos y formas de alcanzar más alegría y satisfacción de lo que nadie podría esperar o imaginar. Este libro también incluye formas de ser más amable y cariñoso con cualquiera que experimente atracciones hacia personas del mismo sexo, incluyendo aquellos que puedan tener creencias muy diferentes y profundamente arraigadas. Se incluye una guía de estudio para grupos pequeños para debatir lo que están leyendo.

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Nota especial: Respecto a las guías de estudio

Este libro contiene una guía de estudio en cada capítulo, la cual es para reflexión personal o estudio bíblico. 

Estas guías están intercaladas a lo largo del libro después de cada dos capítulos para mayor comodidad de quienes quieran estudiar dos capítulos por semana durante seis semanas (con una séptima semana opcional para la Conclusión y el Epílogo).

Para conocer más acerca de las guías de estudio y cómo usarlas, además de aquellas personas que a mi parecer se beneficiarán más de este libro, ¡por favor mira la página 21!

Capítulo 1: Mi testimonio en pocas palabras

Donde compartiré mi testimonio en menos de 150 palabras, incluyendo unas para animarte a leer este libro hasta el final.

Llegué a la homosexualidad en el verano de 1982. Salí de la misma en el otoño de 1984, gracias en gran medida a una amiga que luego llegó a ser mi esposa. 

En el verano de 1987 Dios puso fin a todo el poder que la homosexualidad tenía sobre mi vida, de una vez por todas, cuando puse mi fe en Cristo para todo.

Desde entonces, me casé, tuve seis hijos, y disfruté una sexualidad fuera de serie con una mujer que superaba todo lo que podría haber soñado. 

Han pasado 30 años desde que salí de la homosexualidad. Nunca volví, y no planeo hacerlo. En este libro comparto por qué. 

A lo largo del recorrido, compartiré algunas ideas de cómo acompañar a otros en lo que puede ser el viaje más importante de sus vidas, y cómo hacerlo de una manera verdaderamente amorosa.

Eric Elder

Capítulo 2: Mi testimonio en una cáscara de huevo

Donde comparto que hablar de homosexualidad es como caminar sobre huevos, para mí y para muchos otros. 

Quizás para ti también.

No suelo comenzar mis conversaciones hablando de homosexualidad. (Tampoco suelo iniciar así mis libros). Pero parece que en la actualidad son más y más las conversaciones que tarde o temprano terminan abordando este tema. Y en sí no es algo malo. 

Para mí, como alguien que ha tratado con las atracciones homosexuales por gran parte de su vida, en realidad es algo bueno. El hecho de que hayas tomado un libro como este, me dice que este tema te interesa. Me dice que estás tratando de entenderlo más, para así poder amar más a quienes te rodean, a personas que, quizás por años, han estado luchando con estos sentimientos en silencio.

También debo admitir que cuando surge este tema, todavía me hace sentir un poco nervioso. No por lo que sé o no sé acerca del mismo, ni por lo que creo o no creo, sino por lo que puede suceder si digo algo que se incline hacia un lado u otro. Es uno de esos asuntos delicados que pueden lanzar a órbita a cualquiera con tan solo una palabra o incluso una mirada, así sea sensible o con buenas intenciones.

Incluso, mientras escribía este libro, después de enviar un primer borrador a varios amigos, a una de ellas le gustó todo hasta que llegó al Capítulo 12. Cuando leyó una de mis sugerencias en cuanto a cómo amar mejor a los homosexuales, me envió una nota diciendo: “lo siento, pero estoy sinceramente en desacuerdo contigo en este punto. No puedo seguir leyendo tu libro. Hasta aquí llego. Te deseo lo mejor”.

Quedé impactado, ¡puesto que era una de mis mejores amigas y de ideas afines! La llamé de inmediato para hablar sobre el tema. 

Tras muchas horas de conversación, durante varios días, ella seguía sin ceder. Aunque cambié las palabras y el tono, me mantuve fiel a mi idea original. Ella lo volvió a leer y de nuevo escribió diciendo: “lo siento, Eric. En realidad lo intenté. No puedo seguir con tu libro. Sencillamente no puedo. Todavía me incomoda, y no puedo recomendarlo. De nuevo, lo siento”. 

No podía hacer nada más, solo orar. Y así hice. 

Esa noche ella me volvió a llamar. “Eric”, dijo. “Creo que debo tomar en serio lo que dices en ese capítulo. Creo que contiene una verdad que Dios quiere que vea”.

Gracias a Dios, la situación se resolvió por completo cuando ella leyó la última edición pocas semanas después, la cual contenía los mismos pensamientos y creencias, pero con una redacción más fresca y mayor agudeza. Ella escribió: “Eric, no pude esperar. Salté directo al Capítulo 12. Y estoy llorando. Lloro de gozo. Es genial. Simplemente genial. La redacción es perfecta”.

Mi punto es que, si este tipo de conversaciones se dan entre amigos cercanos y creyentes con mentalidades similares, no es de extrañar que este tema genere tanta tensión entre extraños y quienes no comparten las mismas ideas. 

Sin embargo, en el otro extremo del espectro hay cristianos que no tienen sentimientos fuertes de ninguna índole respecto a este asunto. Sencillamente no saben qué pensar.

Cuando le conté a una amiga sobre mi pasado en la homosexualidad, ella me expresó el dilema que ella y muchos otros cristianos enfrentan;

“Tengo muchos amigos gays”, dijo. “Veo que son amorosos, generosos y amables. Para los cristianos, saber cómo comportarse en torno a los homosexuales es algo similar a una adivinanza, ¿no crees?”

Ella tiene razón. Es una adivinanza, un acertijo que deben descifrar, y un rompecabezas que por muchos años he tratado de resolver. Mi anhelo al escribir este libro es compartir contigo algunas de las soluciones que he encontrado para ayudarte a dar el salto y acercarte más para que tú mismo puedas resolver el enigma.

MANÉJALO CON CUIDADO

Si bien la homosexualidad es un tema sensible, eso no quiere decir que no podemos hablar del mismo de manera sensible, de tal forma que de verdad traiga vida, esperanza y ánimo a quienes nos rodean. 

Doy gracias porque alguien tomó el tiempo para escribir lo que Dios dijo acerca de este tema, aunque las palabras hayan sido escritas hace aproximadamente 2,000 años y a más de 5,000 millas de distancia de donde vivo. Esas pocas palabras, tan solo unos pocos párrafos, en realidad, las escribió un hombre llamado Pablo para los cristianos de Roma. 

Cuando las leí hace 30 años, esas palabras cambiaron mi vida para bien y para siempre, tanto en esta tierra como para la eternidad. En el Capítulo 6 compartiré más acerca de lo que Pablo dijo y cómo me impactó. Ahora quiero que sepas que tus palabras también son importantes, al igual que tus acciones. 

Quiero felicitarte por escoger este libro, por aprender todo lo que puedes aprender, y por querer hacer algo para ayudar a otros en esta área tan importante. Nunca sabes cómo una palabra, una mirada, o un acto considerado de amor puede cambiar la vida de alguien, incluso la tuya. (Por ejemplo, la amiga que más me ayudó, llegó a ser mi esposa. ¡Tus resultados pueden variar!)

He compartido mi historia con muchos durante los últimos 30 años, con cientos de personas en conversaciones cara a cara, y miles más en conferencias y por internet. Sin embargo, siempre que hablo de homosexualidad, ¡siempre!, lo hago con mucho temor. 

Antes me daba miedo compartir mi testimonio por las personas que odiaban a los gays. Temía lo que pensaran de mí, o su trato hacia mí por saber lo que había hecho en el pasado. (Si la Rana René pensaba que no era fácil ser verde, me pregunto cómo se sentiría si la gente pensaba que yo era gay). 

Pero las cosas han cambiado tan dramáticamente en los últimos años, y todavía siento miedo cada vez que comparto mi testimonio. ¡La diferencia ahora es que tengo miedo de las personas que aman a los gays! Temo lo que puedan pensar de mí, o cómo sea su trato hacia mí por saber lo que he compartido. Temo que puedan pensar, de manera errada, que debido a lo que comparto, en cierto sentido odio a los homosexuales. ¡La verdad es que ahora amo a los gays más que cuando yo mismo lo era! La diferencia es que ahora puedo amarlos de verdad, no por lo que puedo obtener de ellos, sino por lo que son en realidad. 

A pesar de mis temores, he aprendido que siempre que comparto mi testimonio, las personas reaccionan con gozo genuino. Mi historia parece aumentar la fe que los demás tienen en que Dios todo lo puede, literalmente todo.

Muchos entienden que, si Dios pudo tocar mi vida de manera tan profunda, entonces puede hacer cualquier cosa por quienes están viviendo algo en lo que ellos no quieren que estén. 

Aunque siempre tengo temor de compartir mi testimonio, la razón por la cual sigo haciéndolo es porque trae esperanza a muchos. En realidad, el negocio de Dios consiste en transformar vidas. Esa es una de Sus especialidades.

Además del cambio que a lo largo de los años ha habido con respecto a por qué me da miedo compartir mi testimonio, también he notado un cambio en los conocimientos que muchos tienen hoy en día acerca de este tema, además que quieren conocer aún más. 

LAS DIFERENCIAS SUTILES ABUNDAN

En la actualidad, la conversación acerca de la homosexualidad tiene muchas más sutilezas que antes.

Hace unos años, cuando publiqué un libro que hablaba de mi testimonio, no en pocas palabras, sino en un libro de 67,000 palabras, donde explicaba con detalle cómo Dios cambió mis pensamientos y deseos en esa área, la respuesta fue fenomenal. ¡Los comentarios y preguntas que recibí de quienes leyeron las primeras 100 copias de ese libro superaron el conteo de palabras del libro mismo!

Lo que a mi parecer sería un libro que satisfaría los deseos de más conocimiento de los lectores, resultó ser un libro que dio lugar a más preguntas y conversaciones. Las personas están hambrientas por saber más acerca de este tema. 

Lo que me gusta acerca de este deseo es que es evidente que la gente de verdad quiere entender este asunto lo mejor posible. De verdad quieren ayudar lo mejor posible a sus amigos y familiares. Como has leído hasta este punto, asumo que tú también te encuentras en esta categoría.

Lo difícil en cuanto a este deseo es que cada vez más, las preguntas que muchos hacen están cargadas de sutilezas. Es mucho más difícil dar respuestas “simples” a preguntas “simples”. Las preguntas detrás de las preguntas parecen interminables.

Hay momentos en los que me siento como uno de los ciegos que Jesús sanó, según el relato bíblico. Su testimonio en pocas palabras es algo así: “Yo era ciego, pero ahora veo”. 

Algunos saltaron llenos de gozo cuando escucharon el relato de aquel hombre, aceptando con gran entusiasmo lo que él decía. 

Otros, sin embargo, querían saber más. Sus preguntas y comentarios también tenían más sutilezas. Es como si quisieran saber “¿exactamente, qué tan ciego eras? ¿Y cuánto puedes ver ahora?” No era suficiente que solo dijera que había sido cambiado. Los demás querían saber, en detalle y con precisión, lo que implicaba dicho cambio. 

Algunos se preguntaban si en realidad había sido ciego antes. Se preguntaban si era el hombre que afirmaba ser, o solo otra persona que se parecía a él. Sin embargo, otros querían demostrar que estaba equivocado, sin importar lo que dijera, ya fuera rechazándolo a él por completo o a la persona a quien se le había dado el crédito de su sanidad. 

Ante todo esto, él solo respondió: “Una cosa sé; que habiendo yo sido ciego, ahora veo” (Juan 9:25b).

Para mí está bien que me hagan preguntas. No me molesta responderlas.

Cuando me pregunta qué tan “ciego” estaba antes, lo que en mi caso significa “¿qué tan fuerte fue tu atracción hacia los hombres en el pasado?” No me molesta decirles que era muy fuerte. Creo que es importante que los demás lo escuchen. 

Cuando me preguntan si podía “ver” todo eso antes, lo que en mi caso significa: “¿en el pasado te sentiste atraído hacia las mujeres?” No tengo problema en decir que sí sentía esa atracción, pero que nunca tuve intimidad sexual con una mujer hasta que conocí a la mujer con quien me casé. 

Cuando me preguntan cuánto puedo “ver” ahora, no me afecta responder que por 23 años tuve una vida sexual fuera de serie con mi esposa, hasta que la perdí en el año 2012, cuando murió de cáncer. 

Y cuando me preguntan si he cambiado por completo, si ya no tengo ninguna atracción hacia los hombres, no tengo problema en responder que todavía tengo pensamientos y deseos ocasionales en esa dirección, pero que el poder que esos pensamientos y deseos tuvieron una vez sobre mi vida ahora ha sido destruido. Cualquier pensamiento gay que pueda tener, ya no me controla a mí ni a mis acciones, como antes.

Las personas quieren saber estas cosas, y no me molesta responder a sus preguntas, incluso si sus motivaciones son, quizás, para encontrar errores en lo que sea que yo esté diciendo. Como David Swift lo escribió en su guión para la película Pollyanna: “Si buscas el mal en alguien, esperando encontrarlo, sin duda lo encontrarás”.

Si alguien buscara algún error en mí o en mi historia, para poder señalarlo como una prueba que respalda su posición, sin importar cuál sea, entonces, estoy seguro de que lo encontrará. Pero si alguien hace una pregunta, no me molesta responderla, porque creo que es importante tener todas las cartas sobre la mesa. 

Todavía me asombro cada vez que escucho una decisión dividida en la Corte Suprema de los Estados Unidos. Me asombra porque la corte está compuesta por nueve de las personas más inteligentes de nuestro país, quienes miran exactamente el mismo conjunto de factores, sin embargo, los jueces suelen llegar a conclusiones opuestas. El voto final suele ser 5 a 4 o 4 a 5 en cualquier caso. 

¿Por qué? Los hechos en sí no son los que conducen a estas conclusiones diferentes, sino lo que las personas vinculan a esos hechos, lo que han aprendido y que es ajeno a ellos, o lo que procuran lograr cuando interpretan esos hechos.

PUNTOS CIEGOS

No culpo a los demás por tener opiniones diferentes sobre lo que puedan o no puedan ver en mi historia. En el mercado de las ideas, creo que la mía se mantendrá tan fuerte como, o más fuerte que, cualquier otra.

Y, al igual que el hombre ciego que Jesús sanó, sé que Dios así lo ha hecho conmigo. Como el ciego, lo único que sí sé es esto: “¡Yo era ciego, pero ahora veo!”.

Así que, no me molesta si alguien está leyendo este libro, en busca de razones para discutir lo que estoy diciendo. Pero espero que no sean como el hombre de un relato de ficción quien pensó que estaba muerto y fue al psiquiatra para confirmar lo que creía, que de verdad estaba muerto.

Después de decirle a su psiquiatra que pensaba que estaba muerto, éste le preguntó: “¿los hombres muertos sangran?”

El hombre pensó en la pregunta del psiquiatra y, al ver que cuando un hombre muere, su corazón deja de latir y su sangre deja de fluir, respondió: “no, los hombres muertos no sangran”.

Así que el psiquiatra le pidió que tomara un alfiler y pinchara su dedo para ver si sangraba o no. Así que el hombre lo hizo, y comenzó a sangrar en su dedo. A lo cual el hombre exclamó: “¿sabe qué? ¡Los hombres muertos sí sangran!”

Muchos están convencidos de sus opiniones, y no tienen en cuenta las evidencias que demuestran lo contrario. Si ese eres tú, entonces dudo que haya algo que pueda hacer que te convenza de lo contrario. 

Pero si eres como yo cuando estaba ahondando en este tema para encontrar lo que Dios pensaba, sentía y quería para mí en esta área de mi vida, estando dispuesto a aceptar lo que encontrará como la verdad, porque sabía que lo que fuera que Dios quisiera para mí era mejor que lo que yo pudiera desear, entonces este será un esfuerzo que bien vale la pena. 

Todos tenemos puntos ciegos espirituales, incluso yo, y si no le pedimos a Dios que nos las revele por medio de su Espíritu Santo, sencillamente no podemos verlos por nuestros propios medios. Desde que puse mi fe en Cristo, le he estado pidiendo a Dios que me revele los míos, y siempre me han asombrado los resultados.

RECORRIENDO TODO EL CAMINO

Para quienes aman a los gays y quieren apoyarlos y animarlos lo que más pueden, permítanme decirles esto: “¡Gracias!” Nunca en mi vida ha habido más interés en este tema que ahora, ya sea en nuestro país o en todo el mundo. Desde el presidente hacia abajo, este tema sigue atrayendo la atención nacional e internacional. 

Aunque hay quienes pueden sentirse incómodos con toda la atención que se está dando a este tema, personalmente agradezco mucho que tantas personas estén dispuestas a mirar, en la mayoría de casos por primera vez, las grandes presiones, luchas y dolores profundos que enfrentan las personas que sienten atracción hacia el mismo sexo. 

En muchos sentidos quisiera haber visto tal afluencia de personas buscando entender este asunto 30 y 40 años atrás, cuando comencé a luchar con todas estas preguntas, aparentemente solo. 

En nombre mío y de otros que han tenido sentimientos de atracción hacia los de su mismo sexo, de verdad quiero decir “gracias”. Gracias por tu disposición a aprender, entender y tratar de ser lo más amoroso posible hacia las personas cuya realidad diaria es este tema.

También quiero animarte a recorrer todo el camino en tu amor hacia los demás, sin parar de inmediato cuando encuentres una o dos verdades sutiles. Quiero que sigas preguntando y buscando mayor entendimiento, de modo que puedas ofrecer algo de mucho más valor a tus seres queridos. 

Hay un ciclo de vida natural que las personas siguen cuando aprenden sobre un tema que es nuevo para ellos. A veces las personas terminan su búsqueda muy pronto, tras encontrar algunas verdades, pero nada cerca de toda la verdad.

Este tema lo he explorado durante más de 30 años, y puedo hablar sobre mi propio ciclo de vida en el aprendizaje del mismo. Muchos de los pasos tomaron años. 

Me tomó años pasar de temer a otros cuando me llamaban gay, a preguntarme qué era lo malo de ser gay, a aceptar a quienes estaban involucrados en ese tipo de vida, hasta terminar sumiéndome yo mismo en la homosexualidad. También me tomó años entender el impacto a largo plazo que tenían mis acciones, las cuales me estaban engañando, alejándome de la plenitud que Dios quería para mi vida (y lo que yo mismo quería para mi vida), y lo destructivo que era todo esto para mí y quienes me rodeaban. 

Tardé años en darme cuenta que ser gay no era solo una de las muchas opciones en torno a mi sexualidad, ni tampoco la segunda mejor opción, sino que de verdad habría podido destruirme si hubiese seguido por ese camino. 

No inicié en la homosexualidad de la noche a la mañana, y tampoco salí de la noche a la mañana, aunque mi decisión de dejarla por mi bien fue inmediata cuando puse mi fe en Cristo para todo en mi vida, incluyendo mi sexualidad. Fue ahí cuando me sentí como el salmista que escribió: “Por el camino de tus mandamientos correré, cuando ensanches mi corazón” (Salmo 119:32, RVR).

No sé en qué punto te encuentres del ciclo de aprendizaje de la vida acerca de este tema. Quizás hayas estado pensando y orando sobre este asunto por un tiempo, y quizás hayas llegado a algunas conclusiones. 

Pero si esas conclusiones no encajan con lo que aprendes de la naturaleza, en la manera como Dios ha diseñado a las personas, las plantas y los animales para usar sus órganos sexuales; y si esas conclusiones no se ajustan con lo que conoces de la Biblia, en donde Dios nos ha dado las más fuertes advertencias respecto a esto y otros temas a fin de protegernos, entonces permíteme animarte a seguir preguntando, seguir en la búsqueda, y seguir llamando hasta que encuentres algo que esté de acuerdo con lo que ves en la naturaleza tal como Dios la ha diseñado y esté en línea con las palabras que lees en la Biblia, puesto que es la inspiración de Dios. 

Mi anhelo para ti es que sigas buscando el mayor entendimiento y sabiduría que puedas en cuanto a este tema hasta que por ti mismo encuentres las respuestas de Dios, así te tardes años.

BALDE DE LÁGRIMAS

También entiendo muy bien que, aunque el relatar mi historia puede crear gran esperanza en algunos, también puede generar mucha angustia en otros, dependiendo de su pasado y a dónde quieren llegar. 

Para quienes sea esperanzador, me siento agradecido y mi oración es  que sí sea de ánimo en su recorrido. Para quienes sea hiriente, lo siento mucho. 

Créanme cuando digo que puedo llenar baldes con las lágrimas que he derramado por quienes enfrentan estas luchas; lágrimas por quienes han sentido el peso de preguntarse por qué tienen las atracciones que sienten y por qué esas inclinaciones no han cambiando de la manera que esperaban; y lágrimas por quienes han luchado con este problema por años, pero que todavía no han visto realizados los avances significativos que tanto han deseado.

Pero también puedo decir que llenaría baldes con las lágrimas de gozo que he derramado al ver personas caminar hacia el altar con el hombre o la mujer de sus sueños y del sexo opuesto, gracias a la gran sanidad y restauración que Dios les ha dado en esta área de sus vidas; lágrimas de gozo con amigos al experimentar el nacimiento y el crecimiento de sus hijos que nunca habría venido a este mundo si hubiesen seguido el camino que estaban llevando; y lágrimas de gozo con personas que han encontrado a Cristo y han encontrado una comunidad dentro de sus iglesias, a veces por primera vez en sus vidas, donde encuentran satisfacción para sus más profundas necesidades de significado y conexión, así no hayan conocido aún, o nunca llegue a conocer, a una persona en particular con quien casarse.

Digo todo esto para afirmar que no escribo desde una posición ingenua en torno a las luchas reales que muchos enfrentan en esta área. Tampoco escribo desde una posición de juicio o condenación, pensando que si las personas tuvieran más fe o más sabiduría, o mejores perspectivas, o sentimientos diferentes, todo resultaría diferente para ellos. 

Escribo desde una posición de haber visto a Dios hacer milagros en las vidas de otros, persona tras persona tras persona, a veces de maneras tan diferentes y únicas como cada persona, pero de maneras que, cuando se ha invitado a Dios a entrar, nos ha asombrado a todos los que hemos visto realizados esos milagros. 

GRAN ESPERANZA

Hay una razón por la cual hablar de homosexualidad se siente como caminar sobre huevos. Es porque es como caminar sobre huevos. Pero vale la pena hacerlo porque las personas lo valen. Solo necesitamos hacer nuestro mejor esfuerzo para caminar con sensibilidad.

Como el escritor llamado J. Masai ha dicho de las personas en general: “Por todas partes hay sentimientos, sé sensible”. En cuanto al tema de la homosexualidad, esto es más cierto aún. La homosexualidad es un tema sensible que afecta a las personas en lo más profundo de su ser. Pero el hecho de que sea un tema sensible no quiere decir que no podemos abordarlo con sensibilidad para hablar al respecto.

Para mí, la mejor manera de hablar acerca de este tema es una que sugirió el Apóstol Pablo en una carta que escribió a los cristianos que vivían en Éfeso. Me gusta mucho como lo expresa la versión Nueva Traducción Viviente de la Biblia: “Hablaremos la verdad con amor y así creceremos en todo sentido hasta parecernos más y más a Cristo” (Efesios 4:15, NTV).

Dios sí quiere que crezcamos, que maduremos y que conozcamos toda la verdad. Luego quiere que digamos toda la verdad con amor, como Cristo en todo. 

Adivino que esto es exactamente lo que también estás esperando con relación a este tema: ser maduro, conocer toda la verdad, y decirla en amor, como Cristo en todo. 

Aunque puedes tener la sensación de caminar sobre huevos cuando hables a otros sobre este tema, la verdad es que Dios puede usar tus palabras, tu corazón y tus acciones para traer vida a quienes te rodean. Las personas pueden tardar en cambiar, pero no creas que nadie te está escuchando. No creas que no prestan atención a lo que estás diciendo. A veces solo necesitan meditar en lo que estás diciendo para poder llegar a sus conclusiones por sí solos. 

La gente te está escuchando, sí les interesa lo que piensas. Y no importa lo que hagas o lo que digas, si buscas toda la verdad y la dices con amor, como Cristo en todo, entonces sin duda podrás ver milagros en las vidas de otros, para bien y para siempre, tanto aquí como en la eternidad.

Ten claro que hay GRAN ESPERANZA. Lo que tienes para ofrecer a otros es algo que necesitan desesperadamente: tu amor, tu interés, tus palabras, tu toque, tu amabilidad, tu comprensión; en resumen, la verdad de Dios envuelta en amor.

Guías de estudio para los capítulos 1 y 2

En este libro, después de cada dos capítulos quiero hacer una pausa y darte la oportunidad de reflexionar o hablar con otros respecto a lo que has leído.

Si estás leyendo este libro por tu cuenta, quizás sea bueno que tomes un lapicero o un lápiz para escribir lo que piensas. Si lo estás leyendo con un grupo, puedan usar estas guías de estudio para hablar sobre los capítulos a medida que avanzan.

Una de las razones por las cuales incluyo estos pensamientos adicionales para reflexión y discusión es porque he leído que Jesús hizo algo similar con los que fueron más cercanos a Él. 

A Jesús le gustaba mucho relatar historias. De hecho, la Biblia dice: “Jesús empleó muchas historias e ilustraciones” (Marcos 4:33a, NTV). Pero a Jesús también le gustaba mucho extender esas historias con las personas más cercanas a él, como el mismo pasaje lo dice: “cuando estaba a solas con sus discípulos, les explicaba todo a ellos” (Marcos 4:34, NTV). 

Mi anhelo con estas guías de estudio es hacer por ti lo que Jesús hizo con los más cercanos a Él, repasar todo, organizar los enredos y desatar los nudos, si los hay. 

Para ese fin, cada guía de estudio incluye un Resumen del Capítulo y varias Preguntas para Reflexión y Discusión. He incluido una guía de estudio por cada capítulo, pero las he intercalado cada dos capítulos del libro para que sea más fácil para quienes quieren completar ese estudio en seis semanas, con una séptima semana opcional si quieren hablar sobre la Conclusión y el Epílogo de manera separada. 

Para las discusiones de grupo ten libertad de elegir solo algunas preguntas de cada capítulo para conversar cada semana, a fin de dar suficiente tiempo para que todos hablen. Para ayudarte a decidir qué preguntas abordar, sugiero que primero uses las preguntas que incluyen referencias bíblicas.

Por favor ten presente que estas guías de estudio pueden ser la parte más importante de todo el libro, puesto que es ahí donde Dios puede hablarte con la mayor claridad respecto a cada tema que se está abordando. 

Sin importar cómo lo hagas, ¡mi oración es que Dios hable!

EL PÚBLICO A QUIEN VA DIRIGIDO ESTE LIBRO 

También quiero decir algo acerca de la audiencia para quienes he escrito este libro. 

El mismo pasaje de la Biblia que nos dice que Jesús relataba historias y las explicaba, también nos dice que Jesús tenía en cuenta a su audiencia en particular cada vez que hablaba. La Biblia dice: “Jesús empleó muchas historias e ilustraciones similares para enseñar a la gente, tanto como pudieran entender” (Marcos 4:33, NTV).

Así mismo, he escrito este libro con una audiencia particular en mente. 

Desde el fallo de la Corte Suprema de 2015, donde se legalizó el matrimonio homosexual en todos los 50 estados de los Estados Unidos, el panorama cambió para los gays en este país. Y como esto hizo eco en todo el mundo, esa simple decisión también ha cambiado el panorama para los gays a nivel mundial. 

Si bien este fallo da una opción para los gays que quieren llevar sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo hasta el mayor extremo posible, ayuda muy poco a quienes no quieren seguir sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, cualquiera sea la razón que tengan para no hacerlo. Para este último grupo es para quien he escrito este libro, no sólo como lectores, sino también para quienes los aman. 

Si conoces gays que están felices con seguir sin limitación sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, entonces quizás este libro no sea para ellos. Sé como es, y quizás tú también lo sepas, que alguien trate de convencerme de algo que ya he mirado muy a fondo, sopesando todos los factores en la medida de lo posible, y llegado a una conclusión. Que alguien trate de convencerme de lo contrario a veces parece “un metal ruidoso o un címbalo que resuena” (1 Corintios 13:1b, NTV). 

Mi deseo con este libro no es añadir más heridas o dolor a quienes a menudo han soportado suficientes heridas y dolores para una vida. 

He escrito este libro primordialmente para quienes están luchando con sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo y para quienes los aman. He escrito para quienes se preguntan si puede haber una alternativa, cualquier alternativa, para tratar con sus sentimientos de atracción hacia el mismo sexo, lo cual no incluye seguir a plenitud esas atracciones. 

Conozco a muchas personas que se sienten atrapadas en sus atracciones, como si estuviesen encerradas en una sola opción para toda la vida. A nadie le gusta sentirse así de enjaulado. Si conoces a alguien que se siente “estancado” en algo donde no quiere estar, atrapado por sentimientos que nunca pidió tener y nunca habría elegido por sí mismo, aunque sintiera que tenía una elección, entonces este libro es para ti. 

Este libro es para quienes quieren seguir un camino diferente con sus vidas y para quienes los aman. He escrito este libro no sólo como un ejercicio académico, sino como una manera de compartir contigo un camino que yo mismo he seguido y he encontrado muy satisfactorio, incluso más fantástico de lo que nunca imaginé. Es un viaje que puedo recomendar de todo corazón a todo aquel que quiera seguirlo. 

Para quienes no están interesados en esta opción, pero sí les interesa aprender lo más que pueden acerca de un tema cercano y querido para ellos, creo que este libro será de gran beneficio, no solo para ellos sino también para quienes los aman, así no haya mayor razón que entenderse mejor a sí mismos y unos a otros. He escrito este libro de una manera que incluso los que nunca en sus vidas han tenido una atracción hacia el mismo sexo puedan entender a, y relacionarse con los que sí. 

Al final, los verdaderos beneficiarios de este libro serán aquellas personas que se recibirán el mejor amor que se dé como resultado de que alguien que los ama tomó el tiempo para leerlo. 

DOS OTROS LIBROS

Por último, para los lectores que todavía no han puesto su fe en Cristo, o para los cristianos que quisieran leer un relato más romántico de mi historia (¡porque es una historia de amor!), quizás quieran leer mi verdadera historia en forma de novela titulada Fifty Shades of Grace, la cual, por razones de modestia, escribí bajo mi seudónimo, Nicholas Deere. 

Los lectores han dicho que la historia de Fifty Shades of Grace es “un relato cautivante” y “una historia con la que todos nos podemos relacionar”. Como su título lo indica, el libro contiene un relato más bien sensual de mi historia, y aunque está muy bien narrado, algunos lectores lo han encontrado sorprendentemente íntimo. (¡Considérate advertido!)

Para aquellos lectores que quieran leer mi historia en el contexto del “cuadro completo” de lo que Dios tiene para decir respecto al sexo más allá del tema de la homosexualidad, quizás quieran leer mi libro, Lo que Dios Dice Acerca del Sexo. Este popular pero práctico librito ha sido de ayuda para lectores de todas las edades que desean aprender más acerca del sexo desde una perspectiva bíblica, incluyendo lectores menores que por primera vez están empezando a aprender acerca del sexo.

Tras esta introducción, y para quienes quieren continuar leyendo este libro (¡y espero que así sea!), ¡prosigamos con las guías de estudio para los Capítulos 1 y 2!

Eric Elder

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 1: “MI TESTIMONIO EN POCAS PALABRAS”

Resumen del Capítulo

El breve testimonio del autor comunica al menos tres cosas:

  • que llegó a la homosexualidad,
  • que salió de la homosexualidad gracias al poder de Cristo y con la ayuda de una amiga que luego llegó a ser su esposa,
  • y que siente que desde entonces ha estado viviendo una vida abundante, por más de 30 años.

El autor dice que a lo largo de este libro también propondrá ideas para ayudar a los lectores a caminar junto a las personas que aman, en el que puede ser el viaje más importante de sus vidas.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Juan 10:10. ¿Cómo crees que estas palabras de Jesús se pueden aplicar al testimonio del autor?

Lee Juan 20:30-31. A la luz de estos versículos, da algunas razones por las cuales las personas comparten sus historias respecto a lo que Jesús ha hecho por ellos. ¿Qué razones puede tener el autor de este libro para querer compartir su historia?

Lee Juan 21:25. Si Jesús tocó las vidas de tantas personas cuando caminó en esta tierra, de modo que no podrían contenerse en todo el mundo, y si desde entonces ha estado vivo y activo tocando las vidas de muchos, ¿de qué manera crees que esta idea puede ayudarte con respecto a la capacidad que Él tiene para tocar tu vida y las de tus seres queridos?

¿Qué pensamientos vinieron a tu mente cuando leíste el breve testimonio del autor? ¿Su historia dio pie para alguna pregunta? ¿Qué más quisieras saber acerca de su historia?

¿Has escuchado alguna vez un testimonio similar al del autor, sobre alguien que haya experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, pero que haya llegado a vivir una vida heterosexual a largo plazo y muy satisfactoria? Si tal vida fuera posible para ti o algún ser querido, ¿la quisieras para ti o para esa persona? ¿Por qué sí o por qué no?

¿Conoces a alguien que pueda beneficiarse de leer este libro y estudiarlo contigo? De ser así ¿considerarías pedirle que lo haga?

¿Jesús ha tocado tu vida de una manera similar a como tocó la vida del autor, así los detalles sean diferentes? De ser así, ¿estarías dispuesto a compartir tu propio “testimonio en pocas palabras” con quienes te rodean?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 2: “MI TESTIMONIO EN UNA CÁSCARA DE HUEVO”

Resumen del Capítulo

Hablar sobre homosexualidad a veces puede ser como caminar sobre huevos. Pero el hecho de que sea un tema sensible no quiere decir que no podemos hablar sobre el mismo siendo sensibles. ¿Por qué? Porque:

  • las personas quieren hablar al respecto, 
  • hoy más que nunca hay más preguntas acerca del tema,
  • y las vidas de muchos pueden cambiar para bien y para siempre, así como la vida del autor fue transformada cuando leyó lo que otro dijo acerca de este asunto.

El autor dice que a lo largo de los años ha sentido miedo de compartir su testimonio por dos razones:

  • ¡por temor a lo que puedan pensar las personas que odian a los gays, 
  • ¡y por temor a lo que las personas que aman a los gays puedan pensar!

Sin embargo, el autor sigue compartiendo su testimonio con la esperanza de que ayude a quienes están experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, pero no quieren seguir esos sentimientos, cualquiera sea la razón para no querer hacerlo.

El autor sabe que quizás haya personas que no acepten lo que él tiene para decir, sin importa qué sea, pero anima a los lectores a seguir leyendo, y dice lo mismo que dijo el ciego que Jesús sanó: “Una cosa sé; ¡Yo era ciego, pero ahora veo!”

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Juan 9:1-41. Después que le hicieron varias preguntas acerca de su sanidad, ¿como el hombre ciego resumió lo que le había sucedido (versículo 25)? ¿Por qué es importante lo que él dijo? ¿Cómo relaciona el autor esta historia con la suya propia?

¿Encuentras que el tema de la homosexualidad surge más y más en conversaciones hoy en día? ¿Por qué el autor considera que esto puede ser bueno? Cuando este tema surge, ¿te sientes cómodo hablando al respecto, o te sientes más como caminando sobre huevos?

Lee el Salmo 119:32. ¿Qué razones da el salmista para decir que su corazón ha sido liberado? ¿En qué áreas de nuestras vidas esta misma razón también puede liberar nuestros corazones? 

Lee Efesios 4:15. Según este versículo, ¿qué quiere Dios que hagamos y que lleguemos a ser? ¿Cómo el hacer estas cosas nos ayuda a crecer a la semejanza de Cristo? ¿En qué punto del “ciclo de aprendizaje de vida” te ves en cuanto a este tema?

¿Por qué algunas personas siguen siempre sin convencerse de que los cambios reales son posibles, al menos según la cita de David Swift y la historia del hombre que pensaba que estaba muerto? 

¿De qué manera puedes aplicar la cita de J. Masai: “por todas partes hay sentimientos, sé sensible” a tus conversaciones acerca de este o cualquier otro tema?

Capítulo 3: Algunas palabras sobre atracciones

Donde comparto la complejidad de las atracciones, de dónde vienen, qué hacer con ellas, y el hecho de que pueden cambiar y en efecto lo hacen, a veces de manera muy significativa.

En este libro encontrarás que a menudo hablo acerca de “atracciones”. Hay un gran debate en torno a la procedencia de las atracciones, ya sea que las circunstancias las forjen o no, ya sea que sean una elección o no, y ya sea que se puedan cambiar o no. Afortunadamente, aquí estoy para responder a todas tus preguntas, sin falta (dicho, con ironía). 

La primera pregunta que me hacen respecto a la homosexualidad es esta: 

“¿Crees que las personas nacen gays?” 

Es una pregunta válida, y en este capítulo daré una respuesta válida. Pero creo que la pregunta más interesante es: “¿Por qué las personas sienten atracción hacia quienes se siente atraídas?”

Esta historia no está en la Biblia, pero he escuchado que Adán un día habló con Dios acerca de Eva. 

Adán dijo: “¿Dios, por qué la hiciste tan hermosa?”

Dios dijo: “La hice así, Adán, para que te sintieras atraído hacia ella”.

Adán pensó por un momento y luego dijo: “Pero ¿Dios, por qué la hiciste tan tonta?”

A lo cual Dios respondió: “La hice así, Adán, para que se sintiera atraída hacia ti”.

(Es una broma que ofende a todos por igual, según mis hijos, eso es lo que la hace tan divertida).

Aunque esa historia acerca de la atracción no está en la Biblia, hay muchas otras que sí lo están, historias como la atracción de Jacob hacia Raquel. (Génesis 28-30), la atracción de David hacia Betsabé, (2 Samuel 11-12), o la atracción de Amnón hacia Tamar (2 Samuel 13). 

Cada uno de estos relatos describe atracciones profundas, pero todas de ellas con finales dramáticamente diferentes. ¿Por qué? Por las elecciones que las personas hicieron respecto a las atracciones que sentían, decisiones que cumplían o destruían los planes de Dios para sus vidas.

Durante los últimos 30 años he tenido conversaciones cara a cara con cientos de personas, y siempre me asombran las respuestas que escucho cuando hablo de las atracciones. Las personas tienen atracciones muy diferentes por razones muy diferentes. 

Hay personas a las que les gustan los hombres con barba; y hay quienes los prefieren sin barba. Hay quienes gustan de mujeres con curvas muy pronunciadas; y hay quienes las prefieren más delicadas. A algunas personas un actor les parece atractivo, mientras que otras no piensan igual del mismo actor. Las razones por las cuales las personas se sienten atraídas a otras personas varían casi tanto como las personas mismas.

CAMBIO DE ATRACCIONES

En una ocasión, después de conocer a un hombre que yo también conocía, una amiga anciana me dijo que le parecía uno de los hombres más feos que jamás había conocido. Aunque no era repulsivo para nada, algunos de los rasgos de su rostro eran desproporcionados con respecto a lo que ella estaba acostumbrada a ver. 

Sin embargo, después me dijo que, tras varios meses de conocerlo, comenzó a verlo de una forma muy diferente. En realidad era un hombre muy atractivo, y él la ganó a ella. Tras meses de pensar que era uno de los hombres más feos que había conocido, llegó a verlo como uno de los más atractivos que jamás había conocido.

Veo esto todo el tiempo, ya sea con novios, novias, esposos o amantes, donde una persona que no sentía ninguna atracción en particular hacia otra, de alguna manera, y repentinamente encuentra que esa persona es el único objeto de sus afectos. He visto personas enamorarse locamente de otros que antes no habían despertado el más mínimo interés en sus corazones. 

También lo he visto pasar a la inversa: alguien que en un momento estaba locamente atraído hacia otra persona, pero luego, incluso de repente o con el paso de un periodo de tiempo, deja de sentir cualquier atracción hacia esa persona. La llama que una vez ardía con tanto brillo desaparece por completo. La persona ha “perdido ese sentimiento de amor”, y ni siquiera queda un rastro de humo de aquel fuego que en otro momento estuvo tan encendido. 

¿Qué hace que las atracciones de otros cambien de forma tan dramática? 

A menudo nada cambia en cuanto a la apariencia o la personalidad de quien es el objeto de tanto cariño o desprecio, pero todo cambia en la mente de la persona que ama o desprecia. 

Se ha dicho que el órgano sexual más importante del cuerpo es la mente. Después de 30 años escuchando las historias de muchos respecto a lo que les atrae y lo que no, estoy convencido de que eso es cierto.

También he encontrado algo particularmente claro al hablar con personas que se sienten atraídas hacia personas de su mismo sexo. Las personas con este tipo de atracción no siempre se sienten atraídas hacia todos los de su mismo sexo, sino solo hacia un pequeño grupo.

Hablando con un hombre que por muchos años ha luchado con la atracción hacia el mismo sexo, le pregunté si se sentía atraído hacia todos los hombres o sólo hacia algunos. Él respondió, “sólo hacia algunos, y no son muchos”. 

Aunque luchaba con sus atracciones hacia ciertos hombres, durante nuestra conversación entendió que no todos los hombres lo atraían, sino que en realidad eran unos pocos. 

Cuando le pregunté acerca del tipo de hombres que lo atraían, hizo una lista específica de cualidades y características que él equiparaba a lo que buscaba en una amistad cercana con un hombre. Incluso si hubiese nacido con una atracción hacia los hombres, en realidad no había nacido con una atracción hacia todos los hombres, porque sencillamente no tenía ese tipo de atracción, sino que era solo hacia un pequeño subconjunto de hombres.

¿NACIDO GAY?

Permíteme subrayar este punto un poco más. Un día estaba hablando con un hombre afroamericano acerca de sus atracciones hacia los hombres. Cuando iniciamos la conversación, me dijo que estaba completamente convencido de que había nacido gay. Si no era así, ¿entonces por qué había tenido esos sentimientos toda su vida?, se preguntaba. 

Cuando le pregunté si se sentía atraído hacia todos los hombres o sólo hacia algunos, su respuesta fue, “¡es claro que sólo hacia algunos!” 

Luego pasó a decirme que había hombres mayores de cierta edad y otros menores hacia los que definitivamente no se sentía atraído. También me dijo que había algunos tipos de hombres por los cuales sentía completa repulsión, por la forma como caminaban, hablaban o como se comportaban, y que nunca consideraría tener ningún tipo de relación romántica con ese tipo de hombres. 

Sin embargo, lo más diciente de todo, para él y para mí, fue cuando dijo que, dentro de ese pequeño subgrupo de hombres, solo se sentía atraído hacia hombres blancos. Él nunca jamás, ni una sola vez, había sentido atracción o había tenido un encuentro con otro hombre afroamericano.

Después de conversar por unos minutos acerca de lo que acababa de decir, le pregunté, lo más amablemente que pude: “¿Entonces me estás diciendo que cuando Dios te creó, te hizo gay, Y TAMBIÉN racista?” 

El hombre soltó una carcajada ante la ironía de la verdad que acababa de comprender. 

Aunque quizás no haya conocido las razones detrás de las atracciones que tenía, entendió que estaba mal atribuir sus atracciones a Dios o a la naturaleza solo porque no sabía de dónde más provenían. 

En ese momento, tanto él como yo pudimos ver que en sus atracciones había algo que no se debía a su ser interno desde el nacimiento, sino que podía ser otra cosa en juego. 

Aunque algo respecto a cómo fue diseñado desde la concepción puede haber tenido un efecto en las atracciones que tenía, el hecho que no se sintiera atraído a todos los hombres, ni siquiera hacia la mayoría de ellos, sino solo hacia un subgrupo en particular de hombres con un subconjunto característico de rasgos, nos hizo entender que probablemente en lo relacionado con atracciones había más cosas en juego que el simple hecho de haber “nacido gay”.

¿Creo que hay razones por las cuales nos sentimos atraídos hacia ciertas personas, algunas de las cuales pueden tener mucho que ver con la forma como Dios nos diseño? ¡Sí! A veces, nuestras reacciones y respuestas hacia otras personas, y sus reacciones y respuestas hacia nosotros, se dan por características o rasgos particulares que Dios nos dio al nacer. (Y antes de finalizar este capítulo, compartiré contigo algunas de las razones por las cuales mi diseño en particular me hizo especialmente receptivo a los avances de otros hombres).

Pero también creo que más allá de nuestro diseño inicial al nacer, hay razones que nos hacen sentir atraídos o no hacia ciertas personas, sin importar su género.  

SENTIMIENTOS

Al hablar de homosexualidad, hablamos de sentimientos. Y los sentimientos pueden cambiar, a veces tan pronto alguien descubre que la persona que ama ha sido infiel, o ha sido sorprendida en una evidente mentira, o ha creado un hábito destructivo. Por el contrario, los sentimientos pueden cambiar tan pronto alguien derrama una copa de vino, o al mirar una luna llena, o al extender una manta sobre la playa. 

Los sentimientos también pueden tardar más tiempo en cambiar, siguiendo la rutina y el flujo normal de una relación a medida que crece o fracasa.

Sin embargo, aunque los sentimientos cambian mucho, también es importante tener presente que puede ser increíblemente difícil cambiarlos, y a menudo persisten por mucho más tiempo del deseado. 

Sé cómo es enamorarse de alguien que no se ha enamorado de mí, y no importa cuánto haya intentado desear u orar para no tener esos sentimientos, no he podido hacerlo, no en mis propias fuerzas. Sin embargo, el hecho de que esos sentimientos persistan no significa que Dios haya determinado que yo esté con esa persona (¡puedo decir que para el gran alivio de la otra persona!) 

También hay personas hacia quienes me he sentido atraído de inmediato, pero después de una o dos conversaciones con ellos, he perdido toda la atracción. 

La sola experiencia, tanto para mí como la de las personas que he escuchado en cientos de conversaciones personales, me dice que nuestras atracciones son complejas, a veces variables, a veces no, a veces persistentes sin importar cuánto lo intentemos, y a veces, al parecer, no se pueden resucitar, así lo intentemos.

Así que, para dar respuesta a la pregunta que prometí responder al comienzo de este capítulo, cuando me preguntan: “¿Crees que las personas nacen gays?” para mí es importante saber la pregunta detrás de esa pregunta.

Si lo que me están preguntando es: “¿Los sentimientos que tengo ahora, o los que he tenido toda mi vida, son los mismos que voy a tener mañana o por el resto de mi vida?, entonces mi respuesta es: “No, tus sentimientos pueden y van a cambiar, y también pueden y podrían cambiar en esta área de su vida”. 

Pero si la pregunta es: “¿Hay algo respecto a cómo me creó Dios, que haya influido en las atracciones que siento ahora, o he sentido en el pasado?” entonces mi respuesta es: “Sí, Dios te creó, y la forma como tú y los demás reaccionan y responden a la forma como fuiste creado puede tener algo que ver con las atracciones que sientes ahora, y las que puedas sentir en el futuro”. 

No soy psicólogo, pero sí sé que las personas tratan a otros de manera diferente, de acuerdo con la forma como Dios los creó, ya sea que sean blancos o negros, zurdos o diestros, delgados u obesos. Y sé que las reacciones de las personas con relación a cómo fueron creadas sí afectan sus atracciones o falta de las mismas. 

Así que, sí creo que la forma como somos creados influye en las atracciones que sentimos y las que otros sienten hacia nosotros.

Pero cuando las personas preguntan: “¿Crees que las personas nacen gays?” a menudo preguntan con motivos muy diferentes. Si son personas que se sienten atraídas hacia el mismo sexo y quieren seguir con esas atracciones, entonces a menudo esperan que la respuesta sea “sí”, para así poder dar libertad sin obstáculos a sus atracciones, al menos sin ese obstáculo. Pero si son personas que se sienten atraídas hacia el mismo sexo y no quieren seguir con esas atracciones, personas que se sienten atrapadas y sin esperanza en sus situaciones, entonces a menudo esperan que la respuesta sea “no”, para así tener la esperanza de que el cambio sí es posible. 

REFORMULANDO LAS PREGUNTAS

Es por esto que me gusta replantear las preguntas que me hacen, no para evitarlas, sino como una forma de abordar las que hay en sus corazones, las cuales, en el caso de si las personas nacen gays o no, en el fondo simplemente se reducen a esta: “¿Crees que las atracciones de las personas pueden cambiar?” 

Y a esa pregunta, mi respuesta es un claro y resonante “¡Sí! Sí creo que las atracciones de las personas pueden cambiar y cambian. 

Luego les doy algunos de los ejemplos que acabo de compartir contigo. 

Para quienes se sienten atrapados y sin esperanza en medio de su situación, esto suele darles esperanzas reales, a veces por primera vez en sus vidas. Para las personas que buscan una razón para “perseguir a” lo que sea que quieren, esto hace que al menos hagan una pausa y piensen un poco más cuidadosamente lo que desean y por qué lo desean.

La realidad práctica es que sencillamente no podemos “perseguir a” todas y cada una de las personas hacia las que nos sentimos atraídos, cuando nos parezcan atractivas. 

Me he sentido atraído hacia muchas estrellas de Hollywood, pero no puedo perseguir a ellas. A menudo pertenecen a alguien más, y quizás nunca se sientan atraídos hacia mí. 

También me he sentido atraído hacia personas casadas o que ya están en relaciones de compromiso. Tampoco puedo perseguir a ellos, sólo porque me siento atraído hacia ellos, de lo contrario destruiría las relaciones que ya tienen con otros. 

Si alguien que siente atracción hacia el mismo sexo se casara con su pareja gay, se estaría engañando a sí mismo al pensar que por casarse con esa persona, de una u otra forma todas sus otras atracciones hacia los demás quedarían eliminadas. 

El casarse no elimina de repente las atracciones que sentimos hacia los demás, ni en los matrimonios gay ni en los matrimonios heterosexuales. Entonces ¿qué harán las personas casadas con sus atracciones sexuales no deseadas? ¿Ser indulgentes con esas atracciones? ¿O (¡Dios no lo quiera!) negarlas? 

En el mejor de los casos, elegirán la última, por su propio bien, por el bien de Dios, y por el bien de todos los involucrados.

Sencillamente no podemos concluir que, si sentimos atracción sexual o romántica hacia una persona, entonces eso quiere decir que Dios quiere que “persigamos a” esa persona. Es por esto que Dios nos ha dado restricciones, las cuales no solo están escritas en la Biblia, sino en nuestros corazones, tales como “no cometerás adulterio”. Dios ha establecido estas restricciones para protegernos a nosotros y a los demás, y para ayudarnos a comprender la plenitud de lo que Él tiene en mente para nuestras vidas, incluyendo nuestras relaciones amorosas. 

¿Las personas nacen siendo gays? Aunque es posible, es casi como decir que las personas nacen racistas. No estoy negando que la forma como Dios nos creo puede influenciar, y de hecho lo hace, la forma como reaccionamos y respondemos los unos a los otros. Pero atribuir esos sentimientos de atracción solo a Dios, o solo a la naturaleza misma, niega lo que para mí es una realidad obvia de que sin duda también hay otras fuerzas en juego.

INCIDENTES QUE INCITAN

Aunque en tantas conversaciones que he tenido con hombres y mujeres a lo largo de los años he encontrado que son pocos los que no han podido identificar alguna razón en particular que explique por qué sienten atracción hacia los de su mismo sexo, o por qué tienen aversión contra los del sexo opuesto, muchos de ellos sí han podido determinar, con absoluta claridad, el día, momento, incidente o razón exacta que los hizo mover su atención hacia los del mismo sexo o desviarla de los del sexo opuesto.

Algunas mujeres han compartido conmigo incidentes que las han llevado a temer el tener intimidad con hombres. En consecuencia, sencillamente se sienten más cómodas con mujeres. 

Parece sugerir, de manera lógica al menos, que si un evento o circunstancia en particular hizo que los sentimientos de atracción de alguien se dirigieran en cierta dirección, entonces, quizás, otro evento o circunstancia podría hacer que los sentimientos de atracción de esa persona se movieran en otra dirección. 

Esto no es para decir que puede ser fácil cambiar las direcciones. Pero sí es para decir que sí se puede asumir que dicho cambio es posible. Y, con mis propios ojos muchas veces he visto reversiones así de dramáticas.

También he escuchado a hombres decir que ahora no sienten atracción hacia ninguna mujer gracias a la influencia negativa de una o varias mujeres dominantes en sus vidas, ya sea su madre, su hermana o su pareja. Esas mujeres los hacen sentir reprimidos y constreñidos, de modo que terminan prefiriendo estar con hombres. 

En consecuencia, se podría decir que, si sus atracciones se vieron afectadas negativamente por la mala influencia de unas pocas personas en sus vidas, entonces también podrían verse influenciadas positivamente por la influencia positiva de unos pocos en el futuro. 

De nuevo, no estoy diciendo que esto tenga que ser fácil, y he caminado por esta misma senda con suficientes personas durante suficiente tiempo, y sé lo difícil que puede ser, pero sí estoy diciendo que sí es concebible, y más que concebible, vuelvo y lo digo, con mis propios ojos he visto esos cambios.

Todo esto, desde luego, llega al fuerte campo de la psicología, donde abunda un amplio rango de posibilidades y opiniones respecto a las atracciones de las personas. 

Sin embargo, ni siquiera sugeriría esas ideas si no hubiese visto personas descubrir la fuente de sus atracciones, resolver las razones y los por qué, y luego avanzar hacia otra forma de pensamiento y de vida, que les ha dado mucha más plenitud, mucho más gozo y más paz que nunca. (Esto también da lugar a la vieja pregunta: “¿Cuántos psicólogos se necesitan para cambiar una bombilla?” La respuesta: “Solo uno, pero es necesario que la bombilla de verdad quiera cambiar”).

MI RECORRIDO HACIA LA HOMOSEXUALIDAD

Permíteme acercar eso a mí vida. Ya en este capítulo dije que iba a compartir contigo más acerca de mis propias atracciones y algunos de los factores que he identificado como los elementos que en un comienzo me hicieron muy receptivo hacia la homosexualidad.

En cierto sentido sí creo que la forma como Dios me hizo ha afectado mis atracciones y se trata de esto: Dios me hizo con un carácter muy sensible. Soy sensible con las personas, soy sensible al dolor, y soy sensible con las sutilezas, los sentimientos, los colores y las texturas en la belleza, la música y el arte. 

Creo firmemente que así es como Dios me hizo, y que me creó de esa forma para realizar sus propósitos específicos en y por medio de mi vida, así como ha creado a otros de otra forma para lograr sus únicos propósitos en y por medio de sus vidas.

Sin embargo, esto no quiere decir que Dios me creó para tener relaciones sexuales con otros hombres. 

Una simple mirada a las partes del cuerpo involucradas revela que todos nosotros, como humanos, estamos hechos para la sexualidad heterosexual. Los órganos encajan mejor de esa forma, y están diseñados para encajar de maneras y por razones muy específicas, incluyendo la intimidad y la reproducción. 

Además de esta “mirada simple” a las partes del cuerpo involucradas, un estudio más detallado, ya sea en libros de medicina o a la luz de la experiencia práctica, revela la increíble intrincación con la que funciona el sistema reproductivo humano. Es verdaderamente asombrosa la manera como todo encaja, desde cómo la estimulación de los órganos sexuales hace posible la relación sexual, hasta la forma como la esperma y el óvulo se unen para dar inicio a la vida, permitir el crecimiento de un bebé, y llegar al alumbramiento. (Para mí, el sistema reproductivo humano es una de las evidencias naturales más atractivas que demuestra la existencia de Dios).

Estuve presente en el parto de mis seis hijos y es asombroso cómo nacen los bebés. Pero también he estado en la concepción de mis seis hijos, ¡y la forma como son concebidos es incluso más asombrosa!

Desde un punto de vista meramente físico, para mí es muy convincente que Dios me creó como ser humano para ser heterosexual. Así es como nací. Decir lo contrario sería negar “los hechos de la vida” como los veo.

No creo que el hecho de ser alguien sensible signifique que Dios me haya creado para tener sexo con hombres. Pero mi sensibilidad ha significado que con más frecuencia he estado más inclinado hacia el arte, la música, el drama y el baile que hacia los deportes de contacto o a juegos rudos y fuertes. 

Gracias a esto, el haber crecido en el pequeño pueblo donde crecí, a menudo me llevó a estar rodeado de mujeres que compartían las mismas características y fácilmente se convirtieron en unas de mis mejores amigas. 

Me gustaban los deportes, pero no los deportes de contacto, así que tomé clases de danza y de gimnasia en un estudio de baile que quedaba en un pueblo más grande cerca de donde vivía. En cada una de esas clases solía haber de 20 a 30 niñas, y máximo uno o dos chicos. 

Me gustaba la música, y cuando era niño escuché a un hombre de Suiza tocar la flauta, quien dijo que la tocaba cuando caminaba por los Alpes Suizos, cuando lo escuché decir eso, me atrajo mucho poder tocar la flauta algún día. 

Así que cuando tuve la oportunidad de elegir un instrumento para tocar en la banda de la escuela, elegí la flauta. A lo largo de los años, a menudo he tocado en bandas marciales, rodeado de mujeres, en lugar de chocar cabezas en el campo de fútbol con otros hombres. 

Canté en el coro y actué en obras de teatro, las cuáles, de nuevo, en el pueblo donde crecí eran actividades dominadas por mujeres.

Ninguna de estas actividades en sí mismas me hicieron gay. Ninguna de estas actividades me hicieron tener sexo con otro hombre. De hecho, siempre me asombraba que algunos de los chicos de la escuela me llamaran Gay porque hacía esas cosas, ¡sin embargo yo tenía amistades más estrechas con mujeres que cualquiera otro de los hombres que conocía! 

RELACIONES CON HOMBRES

El problema para mí, así como para muchos hombres que llegan a la homosexualidad, no estaba en las relaciones con las mujeres. Ellas a menudo eran mis mejores amigas. Mi problema estaba en las relaciones con los hombres. Yo no hacía parte de su cultura. No hacía parte de sus bromas en los vestidores. No hacía parte de sus clubes sociales, de deportes o clubes para beber. 

Me parecía irónico ver que los hombres que me llamaban gay saltaban unos sobre otros en el campo de fútbol para celebrar sus victorias o se daban palmadas en el trasero después de un juego, así fuera en público, en el campo o estando en privado en las duchas después de un juego. 

Los hombres más machos que conocía, rara vez pasaban tiempo con chicas, mucho menos sólo en relaciones de amistad, sino que pasaban tiempo con otros chicos. TODO. EL. TIEMPO. Me llamaban gay, pero parecían tener relaciones personales y físicas más cercanas con otros hombres, que las que yo jamás había tenido. 

En ese entonces yo no tenía sentimientos de homosexualidad, pero eso no evitó que me llamaran gay, no basándose en mi sexualidad, sino basándose en las actividades en las que participaba. Eso me hacía sentir fuera de sincronía con otros chicos.

¡Y sí me gustaban las chicas! Tuve algunas novias en la escuela media y una relación significativa en la secundaria. Éramos románticos, emocional y físicamente, a menudo nos tomábamos de las manos, nos besábamos y dábamos largas caminatas por los bosques. 

Me gustaba la intimidad física y emocional de esas relaciones. Pero nunca tuve alguna actividad sexual, ya que era algo que sólo era correcto para el matrimonio.

Cuando fui a la universidad, conocí algunos chicos que mostraban verdadero interés en ser mis amigos. En lugar de burlarse de mis talentos artísticos, ¡ellos los celebraban! Pensaban que era bueno que me gustara el canto, el baile y la actuación. 

No podía creer que hubiera hombres que de verdad me entendieran, me apreciaran y disfrutaran estar conmigo por lo que yo era, y no esperaban que fuera alguien diferente. 

Cuando uno de esos mismos chicos se me acercó para ver si yo podía estar interesado en algo más para nuestra amistad, no me tomó mucho tiempo decir “sí”. Aunque tener una relación íntima con un hombre era territorio desconocido para mí, y al comienzo tuve algunas reservas en cuanto a la idea, aún así me fue fácil caer en ello. 

De hecho, me gustó. Me gustó la atención, me gustó que alguien se sintiera atraído hacia mí, y me gustaron los sentimientos físicos que eso producía. 

A nivel emocional, ese tipo de presencia de otro hombre en mi vida satisfacía una profunda necesidad de amistad masculina que había en mi interior, la cual sentía que no había tenido por mucho tiempo, y tenía como bono adicional la afección física que incluía. Para mí, ese era un verdadero caso de “amigos con beneficios”, como algunas personas suelen llamar a esas relaciones.

Cuando entendí que el sexo parecía ser el camino hacia la satisfacción de esa profunda necesidad de amistad masculina en mi vida, encontré que mis atracciones hacia los hombres estaban creciendo. 

Así como muchas mujeres lo han hecho, comencé a buscar hombres con quienes pudiera tener intimidad, de modo que también pudiera sentirme cercano a ellos como amigos. Y, como muchas mujeres, pronto descubrí que, cuando decía “no” al sexo, esa amistad que a mi parecer estaba ganando llegaba a su fin. Tras ver terminadas muchas amistades por esas razones, entendí que quizás esa no era la mejor forma de hacer amigos.

Aunque mis atracciones hacia los hombres crecían con cada relación, no estaba muy seguro si quería que mis atracciones crecieran en esa dirección. 

Pero luego comencé a preguntarme si tenía alguna opción. Aunque en la secundaria, cuando mis amigos me llamaban gay, en realidad no lo era, ahora no podía negarlo. Me refiero a que la primera persona con quien tuve alguna relación sexual fue un hombre, y desde entonces solo tuve intimidad sexual con hombres, así que supongo que eso me hizo gay, ¿correcto? ¿O no? 

Y si era gay, ¿iba a serlo para siempre? No estaba muy seguro de lo que pensaba acerca de esa idea. 

¿De verdad había nacido gay?

Capítulo 4: Algunas palabras acerca de ser gay

Donde comparto lo que significa ser gay, por qué más personas de lo que crees podrían ser definidas como gays, y por qué nunca me consideré a mí mismo gay, incluso cuando lo era.

Nunca me consideré a mí mismo gay. De hecho, ni siquiera sabía el significado de esa palabra hasta cuando algunos chicos de la escuela me llamaron así. Tuve que buscarlo en el Diccionario Webster’s Collegiate de mi familia.(Todavía faltaban unos 20 años para que naciera Google).

Las palabras de elección en ese tiempo variaban entre gay, mariquita, afeminado, raro, y la más denigrante de todas: homo (como cuando caminaba por el pasillo para ir a clase me decían “¡homo!”, o más aún cuando me abría paso por un vestidor lleno de gente después de la clase de educación física, tratando de pasar entre otros 25 chicos con quienes acababan de compartir la ducha abierta). 

A veces las palabras eran en broma. Otras veces las decía con la verdadera intención de quererlo decir.

Cuando busqué la palabra gay, ésta me condujo a la palabra homosexual, la cual estaba definida como “una persona sexualmente atraída hacia miembros de su mismo sexo”. 

En la terminología de hoy la palabra gay suele definirse de manera similar, como “alguien que experimenta atracciones hacia su mismo sexo”. Al usar el término “atracciones del mismo sexo”, la definición amplía un poco el significado para incluir no solo los que se sienten sexualmente atraídos a miembros de su mismo sexo, sino también a quienes están romántica o emocionalmente atraídos a miembros de su mismo sexo, así no sientan atracción sexual hacia ellos.

En cualquiera de estas definiciones he encontrado interesante que la homosexualidad no describe ninguna característica física en particular de una persona, sino los sentimientos que experimenta una persona. Como tal, ser gay no es algo que ningún científico u otra persona podría identificar en otra persona con algún grado de certeza sin que esa persona se lo revele. 

Esto no es para decir que no puede haber algunas expresiones físicas de esos sentimientos, porque a veces las hay. Pero sería como tratar de identificar si alguien tiene hambre o no, sin que esa persona te lo diga. No puedes decir si alguien está hambriento sólo con mirar a esa persona, a menos, que, desde luego, su hambre se manifieste en la manera como actúa debido a su condición.

Con estas definiciones, cualquiera que tenga sentimientos de atracción hacia alguien de su propio sexo podría ser considerado gay. No se tiene en cuenta el grado en el que sienten esas atracciones, ya sean fuertes o débiles, o si en algún grado también tiene sentimientos hacia alguien del sexo opuesto. 

Tampoco toma en cuenta si los sentimientos de atracción de una persona hacia los miembros de su mismo sexo incluyen a todos, o solo un subgrupo, sea grande o pequeño. Si alguien está experimentando o ha experimentado sentimientos de atracción hacia alguien de su mismo sexo, ya sea a nivel sexual, romántico o emocional, entonces, al menos al momento de tener esas atracciones, esa persona es gay. 

Esta definición es demasiado amplia, y, según mis conversaciones con personas que me han hablado acerca de sus propios sentimientos de atracción, incluye muchas más personas de las que podrías imaginar.  

¿OBVIO O INCONSCIENTE?

He hablado con personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, que están casadas y tienen hijos, con otros que permanecen en soltería y celibato, algunos miran fútbol americano en televisión o ballet en el teatro, y hay quienes tienen un aspecto suave y afeminado y otros con apariencia de machos y rudos. 

A veces tengo que contenerme para no hablar cuando alguien, ya sea una esposa o una madre, me dice que puede identificar a un gay a una milla de distancia, como si hubiera algo en las expresiones externas de cada persona que pone en evidencia  que es homosexual, sin embargo esa misma persona puede ignorar el hecho de que su propio esposo o hijo acaba de revelarme que ha experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, solo que nunca ha compartido esos sentimientos con su esposa o madre por lo que podría pensar si lo supiera. 

Así que, aunque puede ser posible identificar ciertos tipos de gays, es muy difícil reconocer la amplia variedad de personas que a diario nos rodean y que experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, muchos de quienes nunca adivinarías que son gay. 

¿Por qué? Porque nuestros sentimientos se dan en el corazón y en la mente, y solo se exteriorizan si optamos por expresarlos (o si los revelamos inadvertidamente). 

Lo que vemos en el exterior de una persona no siempre revela lo que sucede en el interior. Como Dios le dijo al profeta Samuel cuando estaba buscando al siguiente líder de Israel: “No te dejes impresionar por su apariencia ni por su estatura… La gente se fija en las apariencias, pero yo me fijo en el corazón” (de 1 Samuel 16:7).

¿Por qué es importante conocer esto? Porque si vamos a hablar acerca de cómo amar mejor a los gays, es importante conocer que la definición de gay incluye personas de quienes quizás nunca hayas sospechado que tienen esas atracciones. 

Quizás no haya nada en su forma de hablar, caminar o comportarse, o nada en lo que hacen o no hacen que pueda darte una pista. 

Siempre que hablo en público acerca de este tema, las personas se me acercan, ya sea en público, justo después de terminar, o en privado en otro momento, para revelarme que ellos también han sentido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Las primeras palabras que a menudo dicen son algo así: “Nunca en mi vida he hablado con nadie acerca de esto, pero por lo que has compartido, siento que puedo decírtelo”.

Uno de estos era un hombre casado y con hijos. Después de una charla se me acercó para preguntarme cómo había enfrentado la vergüenza de todo, habiendo tenido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo como las que él tenía. 

Le hice algunas preguntas y me dijo que él hacía parte de la armada. Dijo que cuando alguno de sus compañeros de abordo hacía chistes sobre homosexualidad, él se unía y también hacía chistes. Pero me confesó que estaba teniendo sexo en secreto con algunos de los otros hombres a bordo. La vergüenza de todo eso lo estaba matando. 

Si no me hubiese revelado el secreto, nunca habría sospechado que tenía sentimientos de atracción hacia otros hombres, e imagino que tampoco su esposa, sus hijos o sus compañeros de navío, salvo aquellos con quienes había tenido intimidad. 

Es importante tener presente que cualquier persona con la que hables puede tener atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, y lo que digas en esas situaciones sí importa.

Un amigo mío de hace mucho tiempo ha luchado toda su vida con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Sin embargo, casi nunca le ha hablado de sus luchas a ninguno de sus allegados. Hace poco me dijo que uno de sus mejores amigos, un hombre casado cuya familia había sido de gran bendición para él, tenía el hábito de hacer con frecuencia comentarios despectivos acerca de los gays, comentarios que punzan. Aunque mi amigo a veces ha querido expresar sus objeciones, dice que teme decir algo por temor a poner en peligro su querida y valiosa amistad. Su amigo casado sencillamente no entiende el dolor que genera en uno de sus mejores amigos.

Otro hombre que conozco dijo que hace parte de un grupo de hombres donde a veces hablan sobre sus luchas con la pornografía. Él decía que se sentía agradecido por no tener ese problema, al menos eso pensó hasta que un día tropezó con pornografía homosexual. 

Se encontró atraído hacia lo que veía y en poco tiempo terminó adicto a la pornografía, pornografía gay. Este hombre quedó tan sorprendido con lo que le estaba sucediendo como cualquier otra persona lo estaría. 

Desafortunadamente, sentía que no podía compartir sus luchas con los otros hombres de su grupo por temor a sus reacciones. Dijo que solo lo compartía conmigo porque yo había compartido mi testimonio. 

La razón por la cual relato esto es porque los chicos de su grupo de hombres nunca van a saber que uno de sus miembros, un hombre con quien se han reunido semana tras semana, lucha con pornografía homosexual. Mientras este hombre no elija revelarles su secreto, los demás en su grupo seguirán pensando que la atracción hacia el mismo sexo es una lucha poco común. Pero no lo es. Es mucho más común de lo que piensas, pero a casi ningún hombre le gusta hablar al respecto.

¡NO TODOS LOS GAYS SON IGUALES!

Otra idea equivocada muy común es pensar que todos los gays son iguales. ¿Recuerdas, por ejemplo, a mi amiga del Capítulo 2, quién dijo que los gays que conoce son “amorosos, generosos y amables”? 

Aunque algunos de los gays que conozco sin duda son “amorosos, generosos y amables”, he conocido otros que son “odiosos, tacaños y sarcásticos”. Algunos son abiertamente mezquinos. Y algunos usan tácticas de matoneo que rivalizarían con cualquiera de las tácticas que enfrenté en la escuela. 

Aunque puede haber algunas características comunes entre ciertos tipos de gays, en realidad no hay un conjunto de características que definen a todas las personas que alguna vez hayan tenido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Esto no debería sorprendernos, ya que no hay un conjunto de características que define a todo el que es maestro (mi maestro de inglés de tercer grado era muy diferente de mi maestro de física de secundaria) o a todos los atletas profesionales (imagina un tenista profesional cambiando de papel con el defensa de un equipo de fútbol americano). 

He conocido mujeres con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo y que están entre las mujeres más hermosas que haya conocido (algunas han sido modelos profesionales), mientras que he conocido otras que están entre las mujeres más rudas, hoscas y “varoniles” que haya conocido (algunas harían un buen trabajo de gorilas a la entrada de un bar). 

He conocido hombres con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo que parecen cincelados como el David de Miguel Ángel (y que se han forjado carreras ante las cámaras de televisión), y otros con apariencia de criminales (algunos de hecho han estado en prisión por crímenes sexuales, independientemente de su aspecto).

Luego estoy yo. Me considero un chico “común y corriente” que creció en una granja en el Gran Medio Oeste. Toda mi vida la he vivido lo más cercano a Normal que puedas pensar. (Eso es un chiste… Vivo a unas 20 millas de una ciudad llamada Normal. Cuando me mudé a Plano, Texas por un año, un amigo hizo el comentario: “qué emocionante para ti, mudarte de Normal, Illinois, a Plano, Texas”. Es decir, ¿puedes tener algo más “común y corriente” que eso?). 

Todo esto lo digo para hacer énfasis en que las personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo vienen en todos los tipos, tamaños y formas.

Mientras hago una revisión mental de todas las personas que me han hablado sobre su atracción hacia el mismo sexo, la gran mayoría de ellos son también muy “comunes y corrientes”. Quizás es por eso que mi propia “normalidad” los atrae a hablar conmigo cuando escuchan mi testimonio, porque ven en mí alguien con quien se pueden relacionar y compartir de sus propios sentimientos y luchas. 

Pero cualquiera sea la razón, todo el tiempo conozco personas “comunes” que enfrentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, lo cual me hace ver con claridad que hay demasiadas personas con estas atracciones, muchas más de las que adivinarías.

Sin embargo, quizás no sepas de todos, así como quizás nunca hayas escuchado de mí antes de leer este libro, porque, para ser honesto, es algo muy, muy, difícil de confesar a otros. 

Nuestros sentimientos de atracción son tan personales, tan cercanos al corazón, y afectan nuestras interacciones con demasiadas personas a diario. En especial, para los hombres es bastante difícil hablar de sus pensamientos y sentimientos más profundos, sin mencionar sus pensamientos y sentimientos más profundos en cuanto al sexo, ¡y mucho menos sus pensamientos y sentimientos acerca de su atracción hacia el mismo sexo!

¿SIMPLONES CÉLIBES?

Hay quienes piensan erróneamente que personas como yo, que sirven en el ministerio, no pueden entender a las personas del “mundo real”, que luchan con “problemas reales”. 

Pero quienes están en el ministerio, y que son dignos de su cargo, escuchan más acerca de problemas y dificultades reales de quienes los rodean, que la mayoría de otros profesionales o laicos en el mundo. 

Un pastor británico de comienzos de los años 1900, G.K. Chesterton, escribió una ingeniosa serie de libros de misterios acerca de un sacerdote rechoncho y de baja estatura llamado Padre Brown, quien tenía una “visión extraña de la maldad humana”. 

En uno de los relatos de Chesterton, cuando el Padre Brown atrapa a un notorio criminal, el mismo criminal que antes lo había llamado “simplón célibe”, el sacerdote le explica al criminal, en gran detalle, cómo había podido detectarlo y sorprenderlo en su crimen. 

Ante lo cual el criminal exclamó: ¿Cómo rayos conoce todos esos horrores? 

A lo cual el sacerdote respondió: “Oh, siendo un simplón célibe, supongo. ¿Nunca has pensado que es poco probable que un hombre que no hace casi nada sino escuchar los verdaderos pecados de los demás no sea completamente consciente de la maldad humana?

En realidad, no podría adivinar cuántas horas he dedicado a escuchar a otros decirme algunas de las historias más dolorosas y trágicas que jamás podrías escuchar. 

¿Por qué te digo esto? Para que sepas que, aunque las personas no te hablan de sus luchas en esta área, definitivamente sí me las dicen a mí, y no quiero que desconozcas aquellas cosas con las que pueden estar luchando a diario quienes te rodean.

Una de las razones por las que he escrito este libro es para traer a la luz las verdaderas luchas de los demás. Espero aumentar tu consciencia de lo que sucede al interior de los que te rodean, de modo que cuando hables sobre este problema, puedas hablar de una forma que anime a las personas y no que las haga sentir, peor, así nunca te revelen sus propias atracciones hacia el mismo sexo.

No te sientas mal si hasta este punto no has sido consciente de cuántas personas a tu alrededor están experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. He conocido a algunos de los cristianos más sinceros, compasivos y de buen corazón que sencillamente no lo perciben tampoco.

Hace poco estaba preparándome para dar una charla a un grupo de unos 300 jóvenes en una iglesia. Cuando me encontré en un café con una mujer que asistía a esa iglesia, y le mencioné que estaba preparando una charla sobre ese tema ella me dijo: “ah, ¡tú crees que algunos de los chicos de ese grupo están luchando con esto?”

Casi me ahogo con el emparedado que estaba comiendo cuando la escuché decir eso. Por la cantidad de grupos a los que me he dirigido, así sean de 10, 20 o 30 personas, al menos una porción de ese grupo está luchando con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, o saben de alguien muy cercano a ellos que tiene esa lucha, mucho más en un grupo de 300 jóvenes cuyas hormonas corren sin control, así como las preguntas que pasan por sus cabezas. Se preguntan si sus atracciones significan que son gays. Se preguntan qué pensarán los demás de ellos si descubren sus atracciones. Se preguntan si deberían invitar a salir a una chica o a un chico, o solo quedarse llorando en casa. 

Al sacar esta realidad a la luz, de ninguna manera estoy culpando a nadie por no darse cuenta de que este problema afecta a más personas de las que creen. ¡Es por eso que comparto esto contigo! 

Quiero que lo sepas, porque si no lo sabes, no podrás ayudar, al menos no como creo que quieres hacerlo, (que es la razón por la cual estás leyendo este libro).

LLANTOS SILENCIOSOS

Quizás hayas observado que algunas personas llevan en sus mangas sus preferencias sexuales, ya sea para llamar la atención hacia sí mismos, o para anunciar su disponibilidad, o solo porque ya no les importa lo que otros piensen. Algunos son “abiertos y ruidosos” y a veces llaman toda la atención.

Sin embargo, es probable que muchas más personas nunca le digan a nadie de sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Es decir que nunca le dirán a nadie a menos que sientan que han encontrado a alguien en quien pueden confiar por completo, alguien que los apoye, que se interese lo suficiente por ellos al punto de caminar a su lado en medio de sus luchas. E incluso si tienen a una persona así, quizás tomen años para tener la libertad de hablar al respecto.

He tenido amigos con quienes me he relacionado por más de una década, amigos con quienes he compartido mi testimonio, con quienes hemos hablado de algunos de los pensamientos y sentimientos más preciosos e íntimos, y que sólo después de tanto tiempo finalmente me han confesado que han tenido los mismos sentimientos y atracciones hacia otras personas. 

Quizás la vergüenza, el temor, o su incertidumbre respecto a qué hacer con esos sentimientos, nunca les dieron la libertad para hablar con nadie respecto a sus atracciones, ni siquiera conmigo, sólo hasta cuando llegaron a un punto máximo donde la ayuda era más necesaria que su necesidad de mantener el secreto. 

Incluso para mí, tras haber compartido mi testimonio tantas veces a lo largo de los años en charlas, libros y artículos, sigue siendo difícil admitir que fui gay. Ser gay conlleva ciertas connotaciones con las que nunca quise que me asociaran. 

Sin embargo, basado en lo que he hecho y las atracciones que he sentido, debo admitir que fui gay. Y, según las definiciones del diccionario, donde lo único que se necesita es experimentar un sentimiento de atracción hacia alguien de mi mismo sexo, yo sin duda lo era. Incluso después de tantos años, no me gusta admitirlo. 

EN UNA ESCALA DE 0 A 10

También creo que es importante compartir contigo que los términos “gay” y “heterosexual” no son tan estrictos como puedes pensar, (con estricto quiero decir que el uno o el otro son excluyentes). 

Una de las observaciones más importantes que he hecho a raíz de mis conversaciones con quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, es que sus atracciones no solo varían en el grado en el que se sienten atraídos hacia una u otra persona, sino también en la mezcla de atracciones que sienten hacia los miembros de ambos sexos.

He encontrado que esto es cierto en tantos casos que cuando estoy ayudando a otros a pensar en sus atracciones sexuales, a menudo les pregunto en qué punto de una escala de 0 a 10 se pondrían, donde 0 significa que solo se sienten atraídos hacia personas de su mismo sexo y 10 significa que sólo sienten atracción hacia personas del sexo opuesto. Rara vez alguien con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo se ha puesto en el punto 0 de la escala, lo cual significa que nunca han sentido alguna atracción hacia una persona del sexo opuesto. 

E incluso en esos casos poco comunes donde alguien sí se ha puesto en el punto 0, me han dicho que no ha sido así siempre. 

Un buen amigo mío me dijo que se habría puesto en 0 durante sus primeros 33 años de vida. En todos esos 33 años, nunca, ni una sola vez, jamás, había sentido alguna atracción sexual hacia una mujer. 

Sin embargo, un día, estando sentado en una playa con una amiga, ¡de repente pasó de 0 a 10! ¡Fue un momento decisivo para él que cambió el curso para el resto de su vida! 

Mi amigo quedó completamente asombrado. Nunca había experimentado algo así, ¡y no sabía qué pensar al respecto! Toda su mentalidad cambió aquel día, y pocos años después se casó con una mujer que también cambió su posición en la escala de 0 a 10 cuando se conocieron. Mi amigo y su esposa ya tienen veinte años de casados y tienen dos hijos.

Aunque esta historia puede ser más extrema que otras que he escuchado, donde han pasado años sin sentir una atracción hacia el sexo opuesto, esto indica el hecho de que las atracciones de las personas pueden cambiar, y de hecho así sucede, incluso después de periodos muy largos, no solo dentro de las categorías de gays o heterosexuales, sino entre esas dos categorías. 

Según mi propia experiencia y las de las personas con quienes he hablado, la mayoría de los que se sienten atraídos hacia el mismo sexo tienen una mezcla de atracciones, y no están en un extremo u otro del espectro. Y, como lo mencioné antes, incluso esas atracciones varían mucho dependiendo de las personas en particular hacia las que sienten o no alguna atracción. 

Gracias a los cientos de conversaciones que he tenido, para mí es claro que las atracciones sexuales son complejas, varían mucho, y siempre están cambiando, todavía veo que muchos consideran la orientación sexual como algo rígido y fijo: que se es gay, heterosexual o bisexual. (Y si vas a incluir el bisexualismo en la lista de categorías, y tienes en cuenta que las personas tienen grados variables de atracción dentro de cada una de estas categorías, entonces en realidad estás hablando de todo el espectro de atracciones de 0 a 10).

CONVERSACIONES CONFUSAS

Esto nos lleva de vuelta a la idea de que la orientación sexual no es tan polarizada como muchos tienen a creer, sino que más bien se da como un proceso continuo. Estas conclusiones han conducido a conversaciones muy confusas con personas que insisten en usar las categorías, bueno, queriendo decir de manera categórica algo “inequívocamente explícito y directo”.

En una de esas conversaciones, un hombre que había leído mi historia sobre las relaciones sexuales que había tenido con hombres en el pasado, me envió un correo electrónico. 

Fue muy amable, pero en medio de su nota escribió: “si ha tenido relaciones sexuales con un hombre, usted es gay, solo admítalo”. 

Al responderle, traté de ser lo más amable al decirle: “pero también he tenido relaciones sexuales con una mujer de manera regular por más de 20 años, y nunca más volví a tener relaciones sexuales con otro hombre, así que me pregunto ¿eso qué me hace?” 

A lo cual él respondió que yo seguía siendo gay y que sólo estaba reprimiéndolo. Otros han insinuado que yo nunca fui gay y que solo estaba experimentando. Sin embargo, otros han dicho que debo ser bisexual porque me siento contento con cualquiera de los extremos, lo cual, por cierto, parece ir contra el argumento que afirma que las personas no pueden moverse de un extremo al otro del espectro.

Otra persona me escribió diciendo que no creía que alguien podía pasar de sentir atracción hacia su mismo sexo para sentirse atraído hacia el sexo opuesto. 

Ella dijo que, aunque nunca había tenido relaciones sexuales con nadie, sabía que era lesbiana y nunca iba a poder cambiarlo. 

Después de relatarle mi historia con más detalles, su conclusión fue: “Bueno, si ahora te gusta tener relaciones sexuales con tu esposa, entonces quizás nunca fuiste gay”. 

Esto venía de una mujer que nunca en su vida había tenido un encuentro sexual con otra mujer, sin embargo, se consideraba lesbiana y sin posibilidad de cambiar su condición. Pero también concluyó que yo, que había estado involucrado íntimamente con muchos hombres por muchos años, en realidad nunca había sido gay, porque ahora estaba completamente enamorado con una mujer más allá de mis sueños. 

Conversaciones como estas a veces me son confusas, y otras hacen enojar a las personas con quienes hablo, porque la realidad de lo que les presento no coincide con la pseudo-realidad que han creado en sus propias mentes. (Y eso me hace pensar, de nuevo, en el hombre que creía que estaba muerto, pero que, después de pincharse el dedo y ver que sangraba, dijo: “¡adivina! ¡Los hombres muertos sí sangran!”) 

La verdad es que muchas personas avanzan en medio de esto con sus sentimientos, en lugar de hacerlo con sus pensamientos. 

¿Qué tan heterosexual se debe ser para ser considerado heterosexual, o qué tan gay se debe ser para ser considerado gay, o qué tan cerca al centro hay que estar para ser considerado bisexual? 

Aunque estas categorías pueden ser útiles para generalizar los sentimientos de atracción de las personas, no son muy útiles para describir el hecho de que nuestros sentimientos y atracciones pueden moverse, y de hecho lo hacen de manera continua, basándose en múltiples elementos, en diferentes momentos y en respuesta a diferentes personas en diversos grados.

El verdadero cambio en nuestras vidas no sólo es posible, sino que en la Biblia lo fomenta con mucho énfasis en versículos como este: “No os conforméis a este siglo, sino transformaos por medio de la renovación de vuestro entendimiento, para que comprobéis cuál sea la buena voluntad de Dios, agradable y perfecta” (Romanos 12:2) Y si el único órgano sexual de mayor importancia en el cuerpo es la mente, ¡este versículo puede ser de gran esperanza a quienes esperan una verdadera transformación. 

He visto transformaciones dramáticas, tanto en mi propia vida como en las de muchas personas que he tenido el gusto de conocer en persona, cambios en cuanto a este tema que se han dado en los corazones y mentes de muchos. He visto cómo personas pasan de un extremo al otro del espectro, a menudo de maneras que han traído gozo y plenitud duraderos mucho más allá de lo que cualquiera podría imaginar. 

En el siguiente capítulo compartiré cómo se dio ese cambio en mi propia vida.

Guía de estudio para los capítulos 3 y 4

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 3: “ALGUNAS PALABRAS SOBRE ATRACCIONES”

Resumen del Capítulo

Todos tenemos atracciones fuertes, pero no podemos asumir que Dios quiere que “persigamos” todas aquellas personas hacia quienes nos sentimos atraídos.

  • Jacob amaba a Raquel y eso terminó bien (Génesis 28-30),
  • David amó a Betsabé y varias personas terminaron muertas (2 Samuel 11-12),
  • y Amón amó a Tamar y terminó asesinado (2 Samuel 13).

Dios quiere que dirijamos nuestras atracciones hacia los propósitos para los que nos las dio.

Algunas personas se preguntan si las atracciones pueden cambiar. El autor comparte varias historias de personas que:

  • han estado enamoradas, pero luego han “perdido ese sentimiento de amor”,
  • han sido solo amigos, para luego encontrar que “hay algo que no sentían antes”,
  • y han estado en relaciones homosexuales, pero luego se han enamorado y casado con alguien del sexo opuesto.

Las atracciones de las personas pueden cambiar, y cambian, a veces de manera significativa. Todos tenemos necesidades válidas, pero Dios quiere que satisfagamos esas necesidades válidas de manera válida.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Génesis 29:17-20 (o toda la historia de los capítulos 28-30), 2 Samuel 11:2-4 (o toda la historia de los capítulos 11 al 12), y 2 Samuel 13:1-2 (o toda la historia del capítulo 13). ¿Por qué cada una de estas tres historias, que tratan de atracciones fuertes, terminó tan diferente?

¿Por qué algunas personas sienten una fuerte atracción hacia ciertos atributos o características, cuando otras no se sienten atraídas a esos atributos o características? ¿Qué elementos pueden influir en dichas atracciones o la carencia de las mismas? 

¿Alguna vez has tenido una fuerte atracción hacia alguien hasta cuando llegaste a conocer mejor a esa persona, o, por el contrario, no has sentido una fuerte atracción hacia alguien hasta cuando lo conociste mejor? 

¿Qué elementos pueden cambiar las atracciones que alguien siente hacia los demás? ¿Por qué las personas a veces “pierden ese sentimiento de amor” y en otros momentos encuentran que “hay algo que no sentían antes”?

Lee Romanos 2:14-15. ¿Qué función cumplen nuestras consciencias en las decisiones que tomamos? ¿Cómo puede alguien “conocer” lo que Dios quiere que hagan, incluso si nunca han leído la Biblia?

Algunas personas saben con precisión qué dio origen a sus atracciones hacia los de su mismo sexo, o su rechazo hacia los del sexo opuesto. ¿Eres consciente de algún incidente o evento en particular que pueda haber influido en ti o en alguien que amas? Si ese es el caso, ¿podría otro evento o incidente positivo hacer que esas atracciones cambien de nuevo en la dirección opuesta?

¿Qué opinas sobre la siguiente afirmación?: “Se ha dicho que el único órgano sexual de mayor importancia en el cuerpo es la mente”. 

¿Alguna vez has notado que tú o alguien que conoces ha sido como el hombre afroamericano descrito en este capítulo, que solo se sentía atraído hacia rasgos muy particulares en una persona? ¿Qué funciones consideras que la naturaleza, la crianza y las experiencias de vida pueden tener en dichas atracciones? 

¿Alguna vez has experimentado atracciones difíciles de contener, sin importar cuánto te hayas esforzado? O, por el contrario, ¿has tenido atracciones difíciles de reencender, así lo hayas intentado mucho? 

¿Por qué el autor cree que se vio inclinado a tener relaciones con los del mismo sexo? ¿Qué opinas sobre la idea de que los hombres con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo no suelen tener problemas en sus relaciones con las mujeres, pero sí en sus relaciones con hombres?

Si las personas creen que está mal negar las atracciones fuertes que sienten en su interior, ¿qué deberían hacer los que se casan y siguen teniendo esas atracciones hacia personas diferentes a su cónyuge? ¿Cuáles son algunas de las razones por las que Dios puede querer que neguemos nuestras atracciones, sin importar lo fuertes que sean?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 4: “ALGUNAS PALABRAS ACERCA DE SER GAY”

Resumen del Capítulo

El autor comparte tres aspectos acerca de ser gay:

  • ser gay implica sentimientos de atracción hacia las personas del mismo sexo, ya sea que esos sentimientos sean sexuales, románticos o emocionales,
  • y como esos sentimientos se dan en el corazón y la mente, no hay manera de identificar a alguien como gay a menos que lo revele de manera expresa en sus palabras o acciones,
  • como tal, muchas más personas pueden estar luchando con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo sin que nadie lo sepa.

Por eso es tan importante que cuidemos nuestras palabras, porque incluso las personas más cercanas a nosotros pueden estar experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo y están escuchando lo que decimos y las actitudes de nuestros corazones.

El autor afirma que la mayoría de personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo con quienes ha hablado, han tenido una mezcla de atracciones hacia hombres y mujeres. Él añade:

  • aunque la gente suele usar los términos gay, heterosexual o bisexual, la realidad muestra que los sentimientos hacia los del mismo sexo o del sexo opuesto se graficarían mejor en una línea continua, que de manera categórica en uno u otro extremo, o en el medio,
  • muy pocos de los cientos de personas con quienes ha hablado personalmente acerca de sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo han dicho que ese ha sido el único tipo de atracción que han sentido
  • y gracias a estos factores, muchas más personas de las que se pueden determinar podrían ser identificadas como gays.

El verdadero cambio en todas las áreas de nuestras vidas no sólo es posible, sino que en la Biblia se lo anima con mucho énfasis en versículos como este: “No os conforméis a este siglo, sino transformaos por medio de la renovación de vuestro entendimiento, para que comprobéis cuál sea la buena voluntad de Dios, agradable y perfecta” (Romanos 12:2) 

El autor dice que ha visto y experimentado muchas transformaciones como esas, donde las personas han pasado de un extremo del espectro al otro, a menudo de maneras que han traído gozo y plenitud duraderos mucho más allá de lo que cualquiera podría imaginar.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee 1 Samuel 16:7. ¿Por qué las cuestiones del corazón son tan difíciles de leer en otra persona? Dado que ser gay consiste más en sentimientos de atracción que en alguna característica física, ¿cuál es la única forma de decir si alguien está experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo o no? 

Lee Romanos 2:1-2. ¿Según estos versículos, qué se necesita para ser transformados? Dado que algunas personas dicen que la mente es el órgano sexual más poderoso en el cuerpo, ¿qué otras cosas dicen estos versículos acerca de nuestra capacidad de transformar los deseos sexuales?

¿Te sorprende escuchar que muy pocos gays se sienten atraídos solamente hacia los de su mismo sexo, sino que tienen una mezcla de atracciones hacia ambos sexos? ¿Por qué sí o por qué no? ¿De qué manera esta información cambia tu perspectiva en cuanto a si los gays pueden “cambiar” sus atracciones hacia uno u otro sexo? 

Si tú o alguien que conoces experimenta atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ¿dónde te pondrías a ti mismo o a esa persona que conoces, en la escala de atracciones de 0 a 10, donde 0 es atracción únicamente hacia los del mismo sexo y 10 es atracción únicamente hacia los del sexo opuesto? (¡No tienes que responder en voz alta!) ¿De qué forma esta información puede ser útil para otros al pensar detenidamente en este tema? 

Dado que las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo se dan en los corazones y mentes de los que las experimentan, ¿qué tan probable es que las personas que te rodean estén experimentando esos sentimientos sin que ni siquiera seas consciente de ello? ¿Cómo el saber esto, afecta lo que dices o haces alrededor de los demás? 

¿Por qué puede ser más fácil para alguien hablar de sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo con ciertas personas y no con otras? Si de verdad quieres ayudar a otros en este aspecto, ¿qué podrías decir o hacer para animar a que te compartan con más libertad acerca de sus atracciones, sin tener que respaldar la homosexualidad? 

Después de haber leído en este libro la historia del autor y de otras personas, incluyendo la del hombre que nunca había sentido atracción hacia alguien del sexo opuesto hasta cuando cumplió 33 años, ¿qué puedes decirle a alguien que considera imposible que sus sentimientos de atracción hacia los del sexo opuesto puedan cambiar alguna vez? 

Dado que has aprendido que la mayoría de personas que tienen atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, en algún grado también sienten atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ¿esto quiere decir que una persona debe ser gay si ha tenido relaciones sexuales con alguien del mismo sexo? Y si esa persona ha tenido relaciones sexuales con alguien del sexo opuesto, ¿esto quiere decir que debe ser heterosexual? Aunque las palabras gay, heterosexual y bisexual pueden ser útiles como categorías amplias, ¿por qué son términos que a veces complican más las cosas en lugar de ayudar en discusiones acerca de este tema?

Capítulo 5: El valor de un amigo amoroso

Donde comparto cómo salí de la homosexualidad, cómo mis atracciones cambiaron con el paso del tiempo, y el valor de un amigo amoroso.

Si localizara mis propias atracciones en una escala de 0 a 10, donde 0 significa que sólo siento atracción hacia hombres, y 10 indica que mi atracción es sólo hacia mujeres, me pondría en algún punto entre esos dos extremos, dependiendo de las diferentes épocas de mi vida. Aunque hay puntos específicos que a veces han cambiado de un extremo a otro, siempre he tenido una mezcla de atracciones. 

Encuentro que me siento atraído hacia las personas sin importar su género. El peligro para mí y para todos nosotros, sin importar nuestra posición en esa escala, surge cuando nuestras atracciones se hacen románticas o sexuales. 

Todos nos sentimos “atraídos” hacia ciertas personas, ya sean estrellas de cine, un vecino o vecina, algún compañero de trabajo o amigos en la iglesia. Nuestras atracciones no son el problema. El problema es cuando esas atracciones se vuelven románticas o sexuales, algo que Dios ha reservado sólo para disfrutarlo dentro de Sus límites bien definidos.

Durante la secundaria, yo habría ubicado mis atracciones en un punto de la escala entre un firme 7 u 8. Me sentía atraído hacia las mujeres. Me gustaba estar cerca de ellas, me parecía fácil conversar con ellas, y como lo mencioné antes, mis mejores amistades solían ser con mujeres. 

Sin embargo, también me veía atraído hacia hombres, aunque a un grado mucho menor. Los hombres me parecían misteriosos e intrigantes. Me sentía atraído hacia los que eran bien parecidos o talentosos. Y de vez en cuando tenía pensamientos sexuales con hombres. En general, deseaba haber sido su amigo. 

Pero la idea de tener una relación romántica o sexual con un hombre no era una opción, ni en mi mente ni en la realidad. 

Si sentía que la intimidad sexual con una mujer antes del matrimonio no era algo correcto, como lo mencioné en el capítulo 3, entonces la intimidad sexual con un hombre parecía mucho menos conveniente. 

En esa época tampoco conocía a nadie que fuera gay, o por lo menos no conocía a personas que admitieran que lo eran. De hecho, tiempo después me enteré de que algunos de mis amigos de secundaria habían tenido relaciones homosexuales durante esos años. 

Sin duda, nunca hablé de mis sentimientos de atracción hacia los hombres. Aunque estaban ahí, no eran sentimientos significativos. Sentía que no podía hacer nada con ellos, así quisiera.

UN CAMBIO REPENTINO

Cuando me mudé a la universidad, y mi novia y yo tomamos caminos diferentes, seguí sintiéndome muy atraído hacia las mujeres. Salí con muchas chicas, y no fueron pocas las increíbles noches que pasé besándome con ellas en el patio, anotando luego en mis diarios cosas como esta: “¡Podría pasar toda la noche besándola!”

Mis atracciones comenzaron a cambiar en el verano después del primer año de estudios. Había comenzado a hacer amistad con unos chicos del campus que parecían tener un interés genuino en mi vida. 

Cuando algunos de ellos quisieron llevar nuestra amistad a otro nivel, las barreras que tenía terminaron cayendo. No me resistí.

Mis atracciones y deseos cambiaron rápidamente al otro extremo de la escala. Los sentimientos de esa época los pondría en un firme 2 o 3. 

Debido a que esas relaciones con hombres fueron mis primeras relaciones sexuales, y como ellos satisfacían en mi vida una necesidad válida de amistades masculinas cercanas, comencé a buscar más amistades como esas. Era como si la fuerza gravitacional sobre mis deseos hubiera cambiado y mi brújula ahora apuntara en la dirección opuesta. 

Todavía sentía atracción hacia las mujeres, y seguía disfrutando de algunas amistades con ellas. Pero como estaba encontrando hombres que por primera vez satisfacían algunas de mis necesidades más profundas, esas relaciones terminaron siendo más y más tentadoras. 

Fue ahí cuando comencé a preguntarme si lo que mis amigos gays decían era verdad: “Una vez gay, siempre gay, Eric”. Parecía que tenían razón, y sus propias experiencias sexuales parecían indicar que esa había su experiencia genuina. 

Aunque mis amigos gays me dijeran esto con motivaciones menos genuinas en mente, ya fuera para justificar sus propias acciones o mantenerme por un poco más de tiempo dentro de su círculo de amigos íntimos, tuve que preguntarme si era verdad lo que decían respecto a “una vez gay, siempre gay”. 

Como nunca había tenido intimidad sexual con una mujer, me preguntaba cómo podría saberlo, a menos que también tuviera relaciones sexuales con una mujer. Así que consideré probar, solo para ver. Pensé que una amiga podría estar dispuesta a intentarlo conmigo y se lo propuse, pero, ahora que lo recuerdo, afortunadamente esa puerta se cerró. 

Tras escuchar por años a varios hombres que han intentado tener sexo con una mujer sólo para ver si les gusta, en lugar de buscar amor genuino y profundo hacia esa mujer, he aprendido que ese tipo de intentos a menudo fracasarán, por obvias razones. 

El sexo es una maravillosa extensión de la intimidad, pero nunca tendrá comparación si se lo toma como sustituto.

Sin saber qué más hacer, seguí haciendo lo que estaba haciendo. Me involucré con otro hombre del campus y comencé a disfrutar a fondo nuestra cercana amistad. 

La homosexualidad estaba satisfaciendo una profunda necesidad en mi vida, y tenía los beneficios adicionales de permitirme tener relaciones sexuales sin el temor a un embarazo, y, al menos desde mi punto de vista, no tenía que pensar en que la relación alguna vez pasara a ser una de largo plazo. Eso sencillamente no estaba en mi radar. 

El matrimonio gay no era una opción legal en ninguna parte del mundo (y no se iba a legalizar en ningún país por otros 17 años), y tener una relación abiertamente homosexual no era una opción para mí. No veía cómo podría enfrentar el ridículo. 

Ni siquiera pensé en el temor de contraer una enfermedad de transmisión sexual. Aunque no lo creas, el SIDA no se había identificado cuando me inicié en la homosexualidad. Tres meses después de mi primera relación homosexual se acuño el término SIDA para describir esta “nueva” enfermedad que en ese tiempo estaba afectando casi exclusivamente a hombres gays, o a los que habían tenido contacto con sangre de hombres homosexuales. 

Considerándolo todo, la homosexualidad parecía ser, al menos para mí, una experiencia libre de riesgos, con poco compromiso y muy gratificante. Me encantó. De verdad. Aunque no lo consideré como una opción a largo plazo para toda la vida, estaba disfrutándolo tanto que no pensé mucho en buscar una alternativa.

Así que no lo consideré mucho más hasta cuando tuve mi propio “encuentro de playa”, como el encuentro en la playa de mi amigo que mencioné antes, solo que el mío fue con la mujer que tiempo después llegó a ser mi esposa.

MI SALIDA DE LA HOMOSEUALIDAD

Había conocido a Lana más o menos un año antes en una fraternidad de negocios profesionales de la universidad. Ella era tierna y divertida, incluso una noche la acompañé caminando hasta su casa, después de haber pasado todo el día juntos en una salida de campo a otra ciudad con nuestra fraternidad de negocios profesionales. 

Esa noche le di un beso de buenas noches en la puerta de su apartamento. En mi diario escribí sobre ese maravilloso día y el beso en la noche, y añadí estas palabras al final: “Pero no creo que de esto salga mucho”. 

Y en efecto así fue. Al menos, no hasta un año después cuando comencé a hablar con Lana acerca de un viaje en auto que estaba planeando hacer hacia la Costa Este. Sabía que a ella le gustaba mucho viajar, así que le pregunté si le gustaría venir conmigo. Ella dijo que le encantaría. Yo la invité sólo como un amigo, nada más, porque yo ya estaba saliendo con otro hombre (algo que ni ella ni nadie más sabía).

¡Lo que no sabía cuando la invité a ese viaje, es que el año anterior, la noche cuando le di el beso de buenas noches a la puerta de su departamento, ella le escribió una carta a su mejor amiga, diciéndole que acababa de conocer al hombre con el que se iba a casar! Desde luego, Lana no me dijo eso, no en ese entonces, claro está, ¡ni siquiera lo hizo hasta después que nos casamos! Ella lo compartió con su amiga y nadie más, guardándolo en su corazón todo el tiempo.

Cuando emprendimos ese viaje hacia la Costa Este, yo no tenía en mente ninguna relación romántica o sexual con ella. 

Pero una noche, mientras caminábamos por la playa y hablábamos de amor y romance en general (yo nunca le había hablado a ella acerca de mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo), nos sentamos y disfrutamos de una botella de vino blanco. Quizás fue la luna y las estrellas, o el vino y las olas, o lo exquisitos que se veían sus labios, no lo sé, pero me incliné y la besé. 

Y ella también me besó. 

¡En ese momento algo sucedió que movió mi escala de un 2 o 3 a un 10! Como lo dice una frase en una canción de La Bella y la Bestia, de repente surgió “algo que no hubo antes”.

Cuando alguien me pregunta si las atracciones pueden cambiar, no dudo al decir “¡Sí! ¡Claro que sí!”

Comenzamos ese viaje como amigos, pero volvimos a casa como algo mucho, mucho más. Nunca antes en mi vida había experimentado esa clase de amor, esa clase de emoción, esa clase de atracción, hacia hombres o mujeres. Era algo fuera de serie. 

Cuando volví a casa después de ese viaje, enfrenté un dilema. Seguía disfrutando mucho de mi amistad cercana con este chico con quien estaba saliendo, pero ahora estaba de cabeza enamorado de Lana. Hice lo que los demás hacen cuando se encuentran en ese dilema y no saben qué hacer, seguí saliendo con los dos. Cuando estaba con mi amigo gay, disfrutaba mucho nuestra vida de gays. Cuando estaba con Lana, disfrutaba mucho nuestra vida heterosexual. 

Las semanas fueron pasando y llegué a tener más y más conflictos en mis pensamientos y sentimientos. Sabía que no podía seguir en dos direcciones tan opuestas sin destruirme a mí mismo, y los más probable es que a ellos también. 

Además del dilema de salir con dos personas al mismo tiempo, lo cual estaba mal en sí mismo, tenía el dilema adicional de preguntarme si debía “seguir” la vida homosexual, o tratar de “seguir” la vida heterosexual. Ambas opciones ofrecían algo real, profundo y satisfactorio, pero sabía que no podía tener ambas cosas para siempre. 

También sabía que mi dilema iba más allá de decidir entre las dos personalidades de las dos personas involucradas, involucraba decidir qué camino iba a seguir en la vida. 

Estaba destrozado por completo. Sentía que no podía hablar con nadie al respecto. Mis amigos heterosexuales no sabían de mi vida gay, y mis amigos gays eran muy claros en decir “una vez gay, siempre gay”.

Quisiera poder describir la angustia real que sentía al tener que tomar una decisión tan importante. Al mismo tiempo me alegra no poder describírtelo, porque en una sola palabra, era insoportable. 

No quería renunciar a las amistades significativas que estaba disfrutando con mis amigos varones después de haber esperado tanto para experimentar un compañerismo genuino como ese. Pero tampoco quería seguir en una dirección que evidentemente no me iba a llevar a donde yo quería llegar. 

Cuando miraba hacia mi futuro, de verdad esperaba algún día tener esposa e hijos, y esperaba tener una relación abierta, sin secretos, para poder hablarles a los demás acerca de la persona más maravillosa en mi vida. (Al recordar esa decisión hoy, entiendo que algunos de esos factores que me preocupaban en ese entonces ya no existen, al menos no en la misma medida, pero en ese momento eran razones muy presentes en mi mente. Otras razones me han impedido volver a la homosexualidad desde entonces, como lo comparto en los Capítulos 9 y 11).

Sabía que esa era una decisión que impactaría el curso del resto de mi vida. En el centro de mi ser, sólo podía ver un camino que me llevaría a donde quería ir. 

MI DECISIÓN

Tomé mi decisión después de varias semanas de luchas y conflictos en mis pensamientos, deseos y emociones. Ahora debía comunicarlo a las dos personas que más me importaban en el mundo.

Se lo dije primero a mi amigo gay, quien lo tomó mal, pero lo había visto venir. Él sabía que tenía sentimientos hacia Lana desde que habíamos hecho el viaje a la Costa Este. 

También sabía que luchaba con el concepto de “una vez gay, siempre gay”, y si en realidad era verdad o no. Aunque fue difícil para él, no trató de impedir que hiciera lo que para él era evidente que había en mi corazón. 

Yo sabía que era una decisión trascendental, pero en ese momento no sabía que al decirle adiós esa noche, le estaría diciendo adiós a la última relación gay de mi vida.

Sabía que al día siguiente tenía que comunicarle a Lana la decisión que había tomado, lo cual también significaba tener que confesarle mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, y el hecho de que había estado saliendo con un hombre al mismo tiempo que había salido con ella. 

Sabía que iba a ser una conversación muy difícil, y no tenía idea de cuál sería su reacción. No podía saber si ella estaría dispuesta a seguir saliendo conmigo después de lo que estaba por decirle.

Aunque sentía que tenía mucho que perder al confesarle esto, no podía imaginar tratar de construir una relación futura con ella sin hablarle acerca de este profundo y oscuro secreto en mi vida. Me parecía justo para ella, y si trataba de mantener ese secreto terminaría destrozándome.

Llamé a Lana y le pregunté si podíamos encontrarnos para hablar sobre algo que había en mi corazón. Aquella noche, con varios intentos fallidos y muchos bocados atascándose en mi garganta, por primera vez en la vida le hablé acerca de mis atracciones hacia los hombres, mis temores de lo que eso podía significar para mi vida, y el hecho de que había estado involucrado activamente con un hombre hasta el día anterior.

LA RESPUESTA DE LANA

La respuesta de Lana me sorprendió. De hecho, me dijo: “Eric, te amo. Siempre te he amado. Y también caminaré a tu lado en medio de esto”.

Nunca en la vida, ni aquel día, ni ningún otro día después de ese evento, sentí algo que no fuera el amor de Lana hacia mí con respecto a mis luchas con la homosexualidad. Nunca me sentí juzgado, menospreciado, sino apoyado y animado. 

No sé cómo lo hizo, y tampoco sé cómo decirle a alguien más cómo hacer lo que ella hizo. Todo lo que sé es que su respuesta aquella noche, y su manera de responder de ahí en adelante cada vez que el tema surgía, me dio el valor y la confianza para saber que podía hacerlo, para seguir en una relación con ella que fue plena y completa, sin carencia de nada. 

Su respuesta fue la expresión de amor más extravagante que alguna vez sentí en mi vida hasta ese punto.

Quizás pienses; “yo nunca habría podido reaccionar como Lana. Después de haber escuchado lo que tenías para decir, habría quedado marcado si hubiese estado en su lugar”. Créeme, yo habría pensado lo mismo. Pero para Lana, su respuesta fue tan natural como respirar. 

Quizás influyó el hecho de que ella creía que Dios le había hablado aquella primera noche cuando le di un beso de buenas noches y le dijo a su amiga que acababa de conocer al hombre con quien se iba a casar. 

Después de casarnos, cuando me reveló lo que Dios le había dicho aquella noche, me dijo que sentía que debía haber sido Él quien le dijo eso por las palabras que vinieron a su cabeza: “Ese es el hombre con quien te vas a casar”. 

Si hubiesen sido sus propios pensamientos, dijo, habría sonado algo como: “Ese es el hombre con el que me voy a casar”. Ella no dudaba que Dios le había hablado esa noche, y ella confió en esas palabras desde ese momento, incluso cuando, parecía que nunca se iba a casar conmigo.

Permíteme reiterar cuánto me abrumó la respuesta de Lana. Yo estaba en un punto muy frágil. Había estado luchando tan intensamente con mis sentimientos respecto a la decisión monumental que estaba tratando de tomar, que lo que dijo y lo que no dijo trajo calma a mi alma de una forma que nunca había imaginado. 

Lana era la clase de amiga que necesitaba en esa crítica coyuntura de mi vida, y siguió siendo esa clase de amiga durante el resto de su vida. 

Sé que no todos tendrán las mismas razones de Lana para amar a sus amigos y familiares gays. Sin duda, ella sólo tenía un papel que jugar en mi vida. 

Pero lo que me fascinó de su respuesta es algo que se puede aplicar a cualquier persona: Lana no permitió que la confusión que había en mi mente le impidiera verme como la persona que ella creía que era. 

Ella me amaba. Ella me veía como un hombre, completamente heterosexual, y capaz de llegar a ser el esposo y padre que tiempo después fui. (En su caso, ¡su esposo y el padre de sus hijos!) 

Esto es lo mismo que tú puedes hacer por tus amigos y familiares que luchan con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo: no dejes que la confusión que haya en sus mentes te impida verlos como las personas que crees que son y que Dios creó para que fueran. 

Aunque algunas personas pueden ofenderse con una afirmación como esta, no debería ser así. A veces otras personas pueden ver en nosotros lo que nosotros mismos no podemos ver.

TU RESPUESTA

Quizás no te sientas calificado para ser esa clase de persona en las vidas de tus amigos o familiares. De ser así, permíteme añadir en este punto que Lana no tenía ningún don o llamado particular para servir a personas que lucharan con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Ella nunca supo ni sospechó que yo había tenido alguna atracción hacia mí mismo sexo hasta cuando yo se lo dije. 

Lana no tenía un “corazón” especial hacia los gays, y nunca se había sentido atraída hacia su mismo sexo. Ella simplemente me amaba.

Quizás pienses que no tienes nada que ofrecerle a alguien que tenga ese tipo de atracciones, ¡pero eso está muy lejos de la verdad! Si amas a alguien, si te interesa su vida, ¡tienes un gran tesoro que ofrecer a esa persona! No necesitas haber pasado por lo que ellos han pasado para poder ser de gran bendición a sus vidas. Ni siquiera tienes que tratar de “meterte en su piel” por uno o dos días para sentir lo que ellos sienten. ¡Solo tienes que amarlos! 

De hecho, es posible que te repugne la idea de la atracción hacia el mismo sexo. Quizás sea algo muy ajeno para ti como lo era para Lana. 

Si ese es tu caso, ¡permíteme decir primero que creo que eso está bien! Hubo una época cuando la idea también me repugnaba, y también creo que eso estaba bien. De hecho, por un tiempo la idea del sexo en general me repugnaba, ¡y creo que eso está bien! 

¿Por qué creo que está bien? Porque, así como nuestras atracciones nos pueden ser útiles en los contextos correctos, nuestras repulsiones también nos pueden servir bien en los contextos correctos.

Por ejemplo, creo que todos estamos programados con cierto rechazo a la idea del sexo cuando somos niños. Si alguna vez has visto a niños viendo a una pareja besarse en televisión o en persona, por lo general su reacción es de mirar hacia otra parte y decir “¡guácala! No quiero hacer eso nunca”. Y es posible que cualquier adulto presente en ese sitio se ría y les diga que muy seguramente van a tener sentimientos diferentes cuando sean mayores, ante lo cual los niños protestarán aún más, creyendo firmemente que no quieren hacer eso nunca, porque en realidad no pueden imaginarse haciéndolo. 

Tuve esos sentimientos en la preadolescencia. Tampoco podía imaginar tener relaciones sexuales con otra persona. Si definiera mis atracciones según la escala que he descrito, no habría puesto un punto en ninguna parte de esa línea. 

SENSORES EN NOSOTROS

¿Por qué no? Creo que es porque Dios ha puesto sensores en nuestro interior respecto a cosas que no pueden ser buenas para nosotros, cosas que nos pueden hacer daño. 

Si alguien tiene relaciones sexuales antes de estar en capacidad de concebir un bebé en términos biológicos, eso sin duda, en el mejor de los casos, no tiene sentido y en términos más serios es perjudicial. Nuestros cuerpos no fueron creados para las relaciones sexuales durante la niñez. Eso tiene sentido para mí, así como el hecho de que Dios nos haya programado para reaccionar diciendo cosas como “¡guácala!” cuando otros se nos acercan para hacer cosas que pueden hacernos daño.

No sé si esto fue cierto en tu caso, pero para mí, cuando entendí de qué se trataba el sexo ¡quedé asombrado! ¡No podía creer que mis propios padres habían hecho eso! Pero entendí que sin duda así había sido, y que seguramente había sido más de una vez porque sabía que mis hermanos y yo proveníamos de ellos. 

Recuerdo haber hablado con un amigo de mi edad que también había llegado a ese entendimiento el mismo día. A los dos nos repugnaba la idea. Ni él ni yo queríamos pensar en el hecho de que nuestros padres habían hecho algo así, y yo no consideraba el hecho de que quizás seguían haciéndolo después de tantos años. ¡Era inconcebible!

No fue hasta cuando llegué a la pubertad que mis pensamientos sobre el tema comenzaron a cambiar, y empecé a considerar que quizás algún día querría hacer eso también. Incluso entonces, la idea seguía siendo extraña para mí y me asustaba un poco pensar en tener que hacerlo algún día. Pero como muchas cosas en la vida, lo que en un comienzo me repugnó, después me intrigó.

Cuando llegué a la universidad, como ya lo mencioné, fue cuando alguien se me acercó con intenciones serias de tener relaciones sexuales conmigo, y esa persona resultó ser un hombre. 

Cuando eso sucedió, todavía tenía barreras internas que superar, sensores que se encendían y que tuve que ignorar, algo con lo que la mayoría de personas se puede identificar. 

Como sólo había besado mujeres hasta ese punto, la idea de besar a un hombre con barba de tres días en su cara era mucho más que algo incómodo. Muchos todavía se incomodan un poco cuando ven por primera vez a unos homosexuales besándose, ya sea en televisión, en una película o en persona. Ese hecho conlleva algo que, incluso para mí hoy en día, y después de haber estado envuelto en la homosexualidad por años, todavía parece incorrecto. 

También creo que es una reacción correcta, de hecho “natural”. Este tipo de reacciones no indican que amas menos a los gays, de hecho, pueden ser una señal de tu capacidad para amarlos más, amarlos de verdad, ya que tienes menos probabilidades de enredarte sexual o románticamente con ellos.

Como a niños que les repugna la idea del sexo en general, no puedo evitar pensar que esos sensores en nuestro interior con respecto a la homosexualidad Dios también los puso como advertencias para considerar con seriedad lo que estamos a punto de hacer antes que lo hagamos. Para algunas personas, esos límites dados por Dios se han cruzado a muy temprana edad y con tanta frecuencia que ya no recuerdan que existían cuando se cruzaron por primera vez. 

Pero en mi caso fui muy consciente cada vez que los crucé. 

Todo esto lo digo para que tú puedas ser un amigo amoroso para con las personas que tienen atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ya sea que tengas un “corazón” especial hacia los gays o no, ya sea que alguna vez tú mismo hayas sentido atracción hacia el mismo sexo o no, e incluso si te repugna o no la idea de que alguien tenga atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

El hecho de que solo ames a alguien que sí tiene esas atracciones, te califica como uno de sus mejores amigos que puede ayudarles en sus luchas, así como Lana fue una de las mejores amigas que jamás pude tener, y que me ayudó en medio de mi lucha.

Capítulo 6: El valor de un Dios amoroso

Donde comparto por qué es útil llevar a las personas a Jesús, cómo algunos amigos me llevaron a Jesús, y el increíble valor de tener una relación de amor con Él.

La Biblia relata la historia de algunas personas que llevaron a un amigo a Jesús. Su amigo necesitaba un toque sanador, tanto en el cuerpo como en el alma. 

Debido a la condición de su amigo él no podía llegar por sus propios medios hasta Jesús. Así que ellos lo llevaron. Cuando llegaron a la casa donde Jesús se encontraba hablando, la multitud era tan grande, que no podían entrar. Así que subieron al techo, hicieron una abertura y bajaron a su amigo hasta Jesús.

La Biblia dice que cuando Jesús vio la fe de ellos lo sanó, tanto en su cuerpo como en su alma. 

¡Vaya! Su amigo pudo volver caminando a casa ese día, sanado, perdonado y gozoso. El relato termina diciendo: Todos quedaron asombrados y ellos también alababan a Dios. Estaban llenos de temor y decían: “Hoy hemos visto maravillas” (Lucas 5:26).

La verdad es que hoy tú puedes ser esa clase de amigo para alguien que amas. ¿Cómo lo sé? Porque tuve amigos que hicieron lo mismo por mí. 

Mis amigos no tenían un don específico para ayudarme con lo que necesitaba. Ellos sabían que yo estaba luchando con algo, pero ni siquiera sabían qué era. Solo me llevaron a Jesús. 

Luego Jesús hizo lo que mejor sabe hacer. Sanó mi cuerpo y mi alma.

Aunque todavía sentía una fuerte atracción hacia Lana, un sólido 11 en la escala de 10 puntos, todavía no veía algo inherentemente malo en la homosexualidad. Aunque ser homosexual no era algo con lo que quería continuar, seguía considerando que no estaba mal que otros lo hicieran. 

Todavía disfrutaba pasar tiempo con mis amigos gays, y solía tener los mismos intereses de fondo con ellos. En mi opinión lo que ellos hacían, o lo que yo había hecho no era algo anormal o aborrecible, solo que no era aceptado. Sentía que entendía los pensamientos, los deseos y las atracciones de mis amigos de una forma que la mayoría de mis amigos que siempre habían sido heterosexuales nunca podrían hacerlo. 

Tres años después que me distancié de mi última relación gay, tuve el encuentro con Dios más significativo que jamás había tenido en mi vida, y, en esencia, giró en torno al tema de la homosexualidad.

PALABRAS ESCLARECEDORAS

Cuando me gradué de la universidad, hice un viaje de corto plazo al exterior para realizar un trabajo como consultor de computadoras, después volví a los Estados Unidos y tomé un empleo en Texas, en el departamento de sistemas de una corporación del listado Fortune 10. Una prima que vivía en la misma ciudad me invitó a que fuera con ella a la iglesia, así que fui. 

Aunque toda mi vida había asistido a la iglesia, todavía tenía algunas preguntas elementales respecto a la fe cristiana, no podía estar seguro si Jesús de verdad había vivido, muerto y resucitado. 

Me gustaban las enseñanzas de Jesús, y me agradaba la idea de tratar de ser una persona buena y decente. Pero no podía creer en Él de la misma manera que creían algunas de las personas a mi alrededor.

En la iglesia de mi prima encontré un grupo de personas con quienes sentía que podía ser honesto en cuanto a mis dudas. 

Un fin de semana, en un retiro de solteros, le confesé a un pequeño grupo de hombres que no estaba seguro si de verdad creía en Jesús o no. Uno de ellos fue muy hábil para abordar mis preguntas obvias respecto a la fe, y me invitó a un estudio bíblico con un grupo de hombres que se reunían cada semana en su casa. 

Dijo que ellos solo leían la Biblia, hablaban sobre lo que decía, y trataban de aplicarlo a sus vidas. Me pareció una gran idea, así que la siguiente semana fui a la reunión.

Fue en ese estudio bíblico que por primera vez leí lo que Dios tenía que decir en cuanto a la homosexualidad. 

Estábamos leyendo las palabras del Apóstol Pablo, las que mencioné en el Capítulo 2 y que habían sido escritas casi 2,000 años atrás y a más de 5,000 millas de distancia de donde yo vivía. 

Al leer las palabras de Pablo en la introducción de la carta que había escrito a los cristianos de Roma, Dios les dio vida para mí vida personal. 

Es como si en mi cabeza se hubiera encendido una bombilla. Sentí que Dios me decía: “Eric, te he dado el don de la sexualidad para que puedas tener una vida abundante. Pero lo has usado de una manera en la que yo nunca lo diseñé, una manera que podría darte todo lo opuesto: la muerte”.

“¿Muerte?” Pensé. “Claro que no. No puedo morir por algo que haya hecho”.

Mis palabras sonaban muy similares a lo que la serpiente le había dicho a Eva en el Jardín de Edén respecto a comer del fruto del árbol que Dios le había dicho que no comiera: “Pero la serpiente le dijo a la mujer: ¡No es cierto, no van a morir!” (Génesis 3:4).

Pero Eva sí comió del fruto prohibido, luego le dio a Adán y lo animó a hacer lo mismo, así como yo había comido algo que me había podido quitar la vida, y había animado a otros a hacer lo mismo.

“¿Cómo podría morir por eso? Me preguntaba. “Sólo estaba divirtiéndome”. 

Luego pensé en el SIDA. Nunca antes me había hecho pruebas para el SIDA. Ni siquiera lo había considerado. De repente me sobrecogió el temor. Y si de verdad había contraído una enfermedad que en ese entonces no tenía cura ni forma de detener su constante avance hacia la muerte.

¡No quería morir! ¡Quería vivir! ¡Y Dios quería que viviera! ¿Pero qué podía hacer yo? No podía revertir lo que había hecho. 

Aunque los hombres de mi estudio bíblico no tenían idea de que yo había estado envuelto en la homosexualidad, sabían que estaba luchando con algo. Así que me llevaron a Jesús. 

Ahora Jesús mismo me estaba hablando, por medio del poder del Espíritu Santo y las palabras de la Biblia, entre las que Dios había inspirado al Apóstol Pablo para que las escribiera.

Al leer esas palabras, pude ver que eran las mismas palabras escritas en mi corazón, sólo que las tenía frente a mí, las estaba leyendo en las páginas de mi Biblia y estaban escritas en blanco y negro. Las palabras en mi corazón trataron de advertirme cada vez que crucé la frontera que no debí haber cruzado, no solo en términos de homosexualidad con otros hombres, sino también a nivel heterosexual con Lana. 

Sin embargo, yo había ignorado esas advertencias, y como resultado, posiblemente me encontraba rumbo hacia mi propia muerte.

Aunque no quería morir, y aunque no quería creer que lo que había hecho podía haberme llevado a la muerte, de repente sentí que era justo que muriera por mis actos del pasado. 

El asunto no se trataba de que Dios no me hubiese dado indicadores de advertencia a lo largo del camino, sino que yo seguí adelante ignorándolos. No era culpa de Dios lo que yo había hecho y sabía que no debía hacer. Esa culpa recaía por completo sobre mí. 

Nunca antes había sentido tal peso. Nunca antes había sentido un dolor tan real por mis acciones. Traté de encontrar alguna salida de mi apuro, pero si la había, no podía verla. 

¿Cómo podía revertir lo que había hecho? ¿Y cómo podía cambiar los pensamientos, sentimientos, deseos atracciones que seguía sintiendo dentro de mí?

EL CAMINO

Luego Dios, en Su asombrosa gracia, ¡me mostró el camino! 

Al día siguiente, me encontraba leyendo un pasaje en la Biblia del libro de Mateo acerca de dos ciegos que le pidieron a Jesús que los sanara.

“Ten misericordia de nosotros” le dijeron a Jesús.

Y Jesús, en lugar de hacer barro y ponerlo en sus ojos, o decirles que se sumergieran en un estanque específico, como había hecho con otros, solo les hizo una pregunta. 

Jesús les preguntó: “¿Creen que puedo sanarlos?” (Mateo 9:28b).

Cuando leí esa pregunta, sentí que Jesús me estaba haciendo la misma pregunta con respecto a mi deseo de sanidad sobre esas atracciones que podían haberme costado la vida. Sentí con claridad que Jesús me estaba preguntando: “Eric, “¿crees que puedo hacer esto también?”

Pensé en todo lo que había escuchado acerca de Jesús: cómo había sanado a los enfermos, caminado sobre el agua, y resucitado a los muertos. Sabía que, si alguien podía hacer algo así, ese era Jesús.

Estando solo, levanté mis manos hacia el cielo y le di a Jesús la misma respuesta que esos ciegos le habían dado. Dije: “sí, Señor, sí lo creo”. 

En ese instante, cuando dije esas palabras con toda la sinceridad de mi corazón, Jesús me tocó, así como había tocado a los ciegos, y me dijo lo mismo que les había dicho a ellos: “Que se haga con ustedes conforme a su fe” (Mateo 9:29) 

En ese momento, la abrumadora carga que había sentido hasta ese punto, el peso de todo lo que había hecho, se quitó de inmediato. El poder restante que la homosexualidad tenía sobre mi vida hasta ese punto fue destruido. Lo supe. Supe que la homosexualidad nunca más volvería a tener poder sobre mí.

Aquella noche, un amigo me invitó a la iglesia donde escuché una charla misionera acerca de la razón por la cual Jesús había venido a la tierra: a morir por las cosas que habíamos hecho mal en nuestras vidas y a romper el poder que éstas tenían sobre nosotros. Si estaba dispuesto a poner toda mi fe y confianza en Él, Él me daría una vida abundante, tanto aquí en la tierra como en el cielo por la eternidad.

Nunca había sentido un amor tan abrumador como el que sentí aquella noche, ni siquiera de parte de Lana. Fue asombroso. Fue maravilloso. Lo abarcó todo. Pensé: “Si Jesús estuvo dispuesto a morir por mí, entonces estoy más que dispuesto a vivir para Él”. 

Esa noche al acostarme, me puse de rodillas, enterré la cara en la almohada, y lloré. 

Lloré por todo lo que había hecho en el pasado que iba en contra del plan de Dios para mi vida. Le confesé (poniéndome de acuerdo con Él) que hasta ese punto había hecho de mi vida un gran desorden. Quería que Él asumiera el control desde ese momento en adelante. 

Le pedí a Jesús que fuera mi Señor, el que ordenaría los movimientos de ahí en adelante. 

Por primera vez en mi vida, de verdad creí que Jesús era exactamente lo que decía ser. Había hecho lo que en su carta a los Romanos el Apóstol Pablo decía que debía hacer para ser salvo: “que, si confiesas con tu boca que Jesús es el Señor y crees en tu corazón que Dios lo levantó de entre los muertos, serás salvo” (Romanos 10:9). 

Al día siguiente me levanté a una vida totalmente nueva.

UNA PELOTA DE PLAYA DESINFLADA

Antes de entregar mi vida a Jesús de esta manera, la batalla de tratar de controlar mis atracciones homosexuales había sido como tratar de mantener sumergida una pelota de playa. Podía hacerlo, pero requería gran esfuerzo. 

Incluso, aunque estaba muy enamorado de Lana, seguía teniendo esa atracción gravitacional hacia los hombres porque todavía tenía una profunda necesidad de amor y aceptación de parte de ellos. Aunque Lana podía satisfacer mis necesidades de intimidad femenina de una manera que sólo lo puede hacer una mujer, ella no podía satisfacer mis necesidades de afirmación y aceptación masculina, que sólo podía satisfacer un hombre. 

¡Pero Jesús lo hizo!

Cuando puse mi fe en Jesús, fue como si Él hubiese llegado con una navaja en su mano y pinchado esa pelota de playa de una vez por todas. La pelota colapsó y se hundió en el agua, llegando hasta mis pies en el fondo, perdiendo así todo el poder que podía tener sobre mi vida. 

Luego Jesús me dio un abrazo como ningún otro hombre pudo haberme dado.

Ese día todo cambió en mi vida, incluyendo mis pensamientos y deseos en cuanto a la homosexualidad. Recuerdo que poco después fui a almorzar con otro hombre que era muy bien parecido. 

Antes de poner mi fe en Cristo, apenas podía mirarlo cuando estaba con él porque me parecía muy atractivo. Pero después de haber venido a Cristo, cuando salimos a almorzar juntos, pude sentarme y por primera vez disfrutar por completo mi tiempo con él, hablando, riendo y disfrutando por lo que él era, un verdadero amigo, un hermano en Cristo. 

¡Me asombró que podía verlo sin sentir ninguno de esos impulsos dañinos que en otro momento habían hecho que fuera tan difícil mirarlo!

¡Esto fue muy interesante! ¡Jesús de verdad lo había hecho! ¡De verdad había roto el poder que por tanto tiempo esas atracciones habían tenido sobre mi vida!

Cuando me preguntan si todavía siento atracción hacia el mismo sexo, no me molesta decirles, “Sí, de vez en cuando, todavía las tengo”. La diferencia ahora es que ya no tienen poder sobre mi vida. Ya no me controlan. Ya no me hacen sentir que debo reprimir esos sentimientos, como tratando de mantener bajo el agua una pelota de playa. 

Todavía noto esas atracciones de vez en cuando, pero ahora es más como posar mis pies sobre esa pelota desinflada. Cuando eso sucede, solo lo rechazo o me alejo.

De verdad fui un hombre libre ¡y sigo siéndolo hoy! ¡Aleluya!

Nunca podré exagerar lo que Lana hizo por mí, y cómo su amor y amistad me sacaron de la homosexualidad en un comienzo. Pero tampoco podré exagerar lo que Jesús hizo por mí y cómo Su amor y Su amistad trataron de una vez por todas con el golpe mortal que tenía por mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

UNA VIDA ABUNDANTE

Lana, dicho sea de paso, puso su fe en Cristo alrededor de la misma época cuando yo lo hice. Ella también había empezado a leer la Biblia por su cuenta, y por primera vez en su vida. 

En su caso, aunque siempre había creído en Jesús y había orado a Él con frecuencia desde su niñez, cuando comenzó a leer la Biblia por su cuenta, entendió que nunca había invitado a Cristo para que fuera su Señor, dejando que Él determinara los movimientos y siguiendo su liderazgo, en lugar de pedir Su bendición para cualquier actividad que ella ya había decidido hacer.

Como los dos pusimos nuestra confianza en Jesús, Él puso un amor mutuo más profundo en nuestros corazones, guiándonos a casarnos y a disfrutar la plenitud de una vida sexual sin inhibiciones, que era lo que Dios siempre había querido para nosotros. 

Varios años después, Dios nos dio un hijo, luego otro, luego un tercero, un cuarto, un quinto y ¡un sexto! ¡Una vida abundante! ¡Alabado sea Dios! 

Mi historia de amor con Lana tiene mucho más, la cual relato en mi libro Fifty Shades of Grace, y que describe en más detalle cómo mis pensamientos, sentimientos, deseos y atracciones siguieron cambiando. 

Pero para el propósito de este libro, basta decir que Lana me dio la plenitud de su amor, y Jesús me dio la plenitud del suyo, y el cambio que surgió a raíz de experimentar el amor de ellos fue dramático.

Estoy muy agradecido con ellos, así como con mis amigos que en un principio me llevaron a Jesús, y todo esto nos trae de vuelta a la historia al comienzo de este capítulo respecto a los amigos que llevaron a su amigo a Jesús, y cómo tú puedes hacer lo mismo por tus amigos.

TUS CALIFICACIONES

Quizás pienses que no estás calificado para ayudar a salir de la homosexualidad a tus amigos o familiares gays. ¡La buena noticia es que no tienes que hacerlo tú solo! 

Si sigues llevando a tus amigos a Jesús, ¡Él hará el resto! Como ya lo dije antes, Dios está en el negocio de transformar vidas. Es una de sus especialidades.

Piensa en mi prima que me invitó a la iglesia. Piensa en el hombre de aquel retiro que me invitó a su estudio bíblico. Piensa en los hombres de ese grupo que se acercaron para ayudarme a leer y aplicar las palabras de Dios a mi vida. 

Ninguno de ellos sabía que yo estaba luchando con la homosexualidad, y si lo superan tampoco habrían sabido como ayudarme. Pero lo que sí sabían era que Jesús podía hacer cualquier cosa, absolutamente cualquier cosa. Ellos hicieron lo que podían hacer y dejaron que Jesús hiciera el resto.

La realidad es que las palabras han convencido a muy pocas personas para que salgan de la homosexualidad, pero muchas sí han salido gracias a los hechos. Si amas a las personas, entonces tienes lo que se necesita para acompañarlas en medio de lo que sea que puedan estar enfrentando, ¡incluyendo esto!

Para aquellos de ustedes que son heterosexuales y nunca en su vida han sentido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, permítanme añadir esto: el hecho de que nunca hayan luchado en esta área es una de las mejores habilidades que pueden tener para ser de ayuda.

¿Por qué? En mi propia vida, lo que estaba buscando en mis relaciones homosexuales era la afirmación, aceptación y amor verdadero de los que me rodeaban. Aunque en cierto grado encontraba esta aceptación entre mis amigos gays, a menudo había un motivo subyacente husmeando bajo la superficie. Las cosas no siempre eran lo que parecían.

Lo que encontré en los hombres de aquel estudio bíblico fue afirmación, aceptación y amor verdadero hacia mí, pero sin ningún interés romántico o sexual. ¡Esto fue muy liberador! 

Después de poner mi fe en Cristo y comunicarles mi decisión a esos hombres, ¡ellos se regocijaron conmigo de todo corazón! Durante las siguientes semanas ellos pudieron ver la diferencia que eso estaba haciendo en mi vida, el nuevo sentido de propósito que mi fe en Cristo me había dado. Aunque todavía no conocían mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ni la obra específica que Cristo había hecho por mí, ellos igual se regocijaban conmigo, viendo que de verdad yo era un hombre transformado.

DICIÉNDOLO A LOS DEMÁS

Poco después de tomar mi decisión por Cristo, quise contarle a uno de los hombres del estudio bíblico específicamente qué había sucedido para que yo pusiera mi fe en Cristo.

Él y yo trabajábamos juntos en la misma compañía, y durante mi primer año en Texas habíamos entablado una buena amistad. 

Pero, cuando estaba por relatarle dos detalles de mi historia, sentí que debía relatársela toda a Lana de nuevo. Estaba muy asustado de cuál sería su reacción. Tenía miedo de perder su amistad. Al mismo tiempo, quería que él supiera lo que de verdad había pasado en el fondo de mi ser. 

Y, así como sucedió con Lana, cuando finalmente expresé mis palabras, mi amigo no se espantó, y no se alejó. 

En lugar de eso, se puso de pie y me dio un gran abrazo. 

Aunque nunca en su vida había experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, y no sentía ninguna atracción hacia mí, siguió amándome. Siguió interesándose por mí. Y siguió siendo mi amigo no solo ese día, sino al día siguiente, y el siguiente, y el siguiente, hasta hoy, más de 30 años después. 

Lo que mi amigo hizo por mí al escucharme y luego ponerse de pie y darme un abrazo, rompió con los sentimientos de inferioridad que tuve por años entre mis pares masculinos. Eso acabó con años de ser ridiculizado y de sentir que no era aceptado. Puso fin a años que dediqué a tratar de satisfacer de manera ilegítima las necesidades válidas de amistades cercanas con hombres. 

Ahí tenía a un amigo que me amaba por lo que era, que no quedó aturdido por lo que yo había hecho, y que estuvo dispuesto a seguir amándome por mucho tiempo hacia el futuro.

Poco a poco comencé a compartir mi historia con otras personas cercanas a mí: mi prima que me invitó a la iglesia, sus padres que habían estado orando por mí desde el día que había llegado a su ciudad, y otros hombres que también estaban luchando con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo y querían escuchar lo que Dios había hecho en mi vida y cómo lo había hecho. 

Dios tuvo mucha gracia para conmigo, no pidiéndome que compartiera mi historia con todo el mundo, sino llevándome a entender que estaba bien no compartirla con todo el mundo, al menos no en ese momento. En la historia bíblica acerca de los dos ciegos que Jesús sanó, observé que Jesús les dijo puntualmente que ¡no le dijeran a nadie lo que Él había hecho por ellos! 

¿Por qué no? ¡Eso no me sonaba muy evangelístico! Pero ese no era el momento correcto. Al parecer, Jesús tenía otro momento para que ellos lo compartieran, y es por eso que su historia quedó registrada en la Biblia, y ahora ha llegado a hacer parte de mi propia historia. 

Me fascina el hecho de que Jesús se interesa tanto en nosotros y se interesa tanto por los demás, que nos guía respecto a cuándo compartir, qué decir y con quien quiere que lo hagamos. 

Incluso Jesús mismo a veces se contuvo de decirles a Sus discípulos todo lo que tenía en su corazón, no porque no quería que lo supieran, y no porque no lo iba a comunicar en otro momento, sino porque sabía que sería más de lo que ellos podían soportar en ese momento. 

En un punto, Jesús les dijo: “Muchas cosas me quedan aún por decirles, que por ahora no podrían soportar. Pero, cuando venga el Espíritu de la verdad, él los guiará a toda la verdad, porque no hablará por su propia cuenta, sino que dirá solo lo que oiga y les anunciará las cosas por venir” (Juan 16:12-13).

Así que solo traté de mantenerme cerca de Jesús, compartiendo mi historia cuando él me animaba a hacerlo. A medida que el tiempo pasaba, sentía que Jesús me llevaba a compartir más y más. 

Mi fe se estaba fortaleciendo, y podía ver cómo mi historia era útil de más y más formas y cómo de verdad podía ayudar a otros. 

Dos años después de poner mi fe en Cristo, y poco después que Lana y yo nos casamos, el pastor de la clase de solteros de la iglesia a la que asistíamos me preguntó si estaba dispuesto a compartir mi historia con toda la clase, un grupo de 200 personas. Estaba nervioso, y todo el tiempo que hablé temblé como una hoja. Pero pude ver a Dios obrar en cada persona cuando presentaba la historia de lo que Jesús había hecho por mí. 

Al final de mi mensaje, toda la clase se puso de pie y aplaudió. Quedaron muy impactados y llenos de confianza en que Dios puede hacer cualquier cosa, absolutamente cualquier cosa. 

Esa respuesta me tomó por sorpresa, puesto que había compartido con ellos el secreto más profundo en mi vida. Ellos no celebraban mi secreto, claro está, sino la forma como Dios había cambiado mi vida y me había redimido de aquello que me habría quitado la vida si hubiese seguido por ese camino. 

Después de eso, muchos me dijeron que les había animado lo que Dios había hecho por mí, porque les dio esperanza de que Él también podía hacer algo similar por ellos, sin importar lo que estuvieran enfrentando.

MÁS SANIDAD

Después de esa charla, Dios siguió invitándome a compartirla con mayor frecuencia. Y como veía que Dios podía usar mi historia para Su gloria, estuve más dispuesto a compartirla. 

También empecé a ver que el compartirla me daba una dosis adicional de sanidad que también necesitaba. Ahí estaba yo, temeroso de que al contar tan abiertamente lo que siempre había sido tan privado, mi historia terminara alejando aún más a los demás. En lugar de eso, encontré que el compartir mi historia les daba a las personas la oportunidad de expresar su aprecio hacia mí a pesar de lo que había hecho en el pasado. Sólo en la economía de Dios, Él podía sacar algo tan bueno de algo tan malo. 

Para quienes tienen miedo (como yo) de decirles a los demás lo que Dios ha hecho por ustedes en sus vidas, permítanme resaltar cuánta sanidad trajo Dios a mi corazón a medida que yo fui compartiendo mi historia. 

Recuerdo que se la relaté a uno de los hombres más heterosexuales que haya conocido, un hombre grande y fuerte que era el entrenador principal de una escuela secundaria local. Un hombre de hombres, ¡sin duda! Y ahí estaba yo, sintiendo que Dios quería que le dijera que había sido homosexual. 

Este hombre hacía parte de otro grupo de hombres al que luego asistí en un pequeño pueblo de Illinois donde me mudé con mi familia después de nuestro tiempo en Texas. Él y yo nos habíamos hecho compañeros de oración, y nos encontrábamos una vez a la semana para orar y animarnos mutuamente antes de iniciar el día en nuestros respectivos trabajos.

Después de varios encuentros como ese, sentí que debía contarle lo que Dios había hecho por mí en cuanto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Tenía miedo, de nuevo, de contarle a otra persona lo que había hecho. Fue una mañana tensa para mí, porque sentía que tenía mucho que perder, mucho en juego. 

Pero, como había sucedido con Lana, y con mi compañero de trabajo en Texas, después de compartir mi historia con este hombre, se puso de pie, y también me dio un gran abrazo de oso. Lloró diciéndome que me amaba, me apreciaba y me agradeció por compartir esa parte tan personal de mi vida. 

Él tampoco había sentido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, nunca en su vida. Para mí, y por la forma como me habían tratado en el pasado los chicos del equipo de fútbol americano de mi escuela, el abrazo de ese entrenador y sus palabras de afirmación me trajeron de vuelta. 

Ya han pasado 20 años desde aquel día cuando compartí mi historia con aquel hombre, y es interesante que ahora lidera un estudio bíblico con los jóvenes de una iglesia nueva en otro pueblo donde yo también vivo, ¡un estudio bíblico al que asisten mis propios hijos adolescentes!

En lugar de alejarse con mi historia, que era lo que me temía, el amoroso acogimiento de este hombre, no solo hacia mí, sino hacia toda mi familia también, ha permanecido por más de 20 años.

¿Puedes ver cómo Dios usa un hombre que siempre ha sido heterosexual, que sabe muy poco acerca de la homosexualidad, para ministrar a un hombre roto que tiene gran necesidad de su ayuda? No se necesita mucho, pero sí se necesita algo: se requiere amor, puro, no adulterado, amor de corazón.

Si puedes hacer algo por quienes luchan con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, es poder juntarlos con otros que nunca han luchado en esta área de sus vidas, y pedirles que caminen juntos por una o varias temporadas, o a lo largo de la vida. 

TRAYENDO TUS AMIGOS A JESÚS

Así como nunca podré exagerar lo que Lana hizo por mí al llenar esos lugares solitarios en mi corazón con un alma gemela, una ayudadora, una amante y una amiga constante; y así como nunca podré exagerar lo que Jesús ha hecho por mí al llenar ese vacío del tamaño de Dios que había en mi corazón, de una forma que sólo Él podía hacerlo; tampoco podré exagerar lo que mis amigos heterosexuales han hecho en términos de llenar esos vacíos en mi vida donde he necesitado y anhelado amigos cercanos, amigos con quienes caminar a lo largo de la vida y con quienes compartir un vínculo que no es ni romántico ni sexual, sino que satisface una de mis mayores necesidades que sólo ellos pueden llenar.

Lo mejor que Lana y mis otros amigos han hecho por mí durante todos estos años, ha sido mostrarme a Jesús, aquel que pudo sanarme, salvarme y cambiarme de adentro hacia afuera. 

Él es el que está a mi lado cada noche al acostarme y cada mañana al levantarme. Él es el que sabe por lo que estoy pasando a cada momento del día, que puede regocijarse conmigo cuando me regocijo, y puede llorar conmigo cuando lloro. 

Él es el que me dio la vida desde el comienzo y que me dio una nueva vida cuando puse mi fe en Él. 

¡Me fascina saber que si no te gusta cómo naciste, puedes volver a nacer! ¡Sólo pon tu fe en Jesús! ¡Aleluya! 

Como Jesús le dijo a un hombre llamado Nicodemo que vino a él de noche: “De veras te aseguro que quien no nazca de nuevo no puede ver el reino de Dios… Porque tanto amó Dios al mundo que dio a su Hijo unigénito, para que todo el que cree en él no se pierda, sino que tenga vida eterna” (Juan 3:3 y 3:16).

Trae tus amigos a Jesús. Quizás no conozcas cuál es su necesidad, pero Él sí. Quizás no puedas sanarlos, pero Él puede. Sigue haciendo lo que puedes, y sigue confiando en que Él hará el resto.

Guías de estudio para los capítulos 5 y 6

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 5: “EL VALOR DE UN AMIGO AMOROSO”

Resumen del Capítulo

El autor dice que, a lo largo de su vida, en una escala de 0 a 10, sus atracciones las pondría en tres diferentes puntos:

  • en su adolescencia, en 7 u 8 inclinándose firmemente hacia la heterosexualidad, aunque hasta ese momento nunca había tenido relaciones sexuales,
  • al comenzar sus veintes, en un 2 o 3 inclinándose mucho hacia la homosexualidad, después de haber tenido sus primeras y subsecuentes interacciones con hombres,
  • y a mitad de sus veintes, en un 10+, inclinándose abrumadoramente hacia la heterosexualidad, después de haber tenido una relación íntima con la mujer que luego llegó a ser su esposa. 

Tras 30 años después de haber salido de la homosexualidad, nunca ha vuelto.

Después de confesarle a su novia acerca de sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ella respondió diciendo que aun así lo amaba y estaba dispuesta a acompañarlo en medio de todo eso. Ella se convirtió en uno de sus mayores apoyadores que lo ayudaron a salir de la homosexualidad, y lo hizo sólo amándolo en medio del proceso. Él dice que ella:

  • no tenía un “corazón” especial para los homosexuales.
  • nunca se había sentido atraída hacia su mismo sexo,
  • y no permitió que la confusión que había en la mente de él le impidiera verlo como la persona que ella creía que era, y la persona que ella creía que Dios tenía en mente cuando lo creó. 

Tú puedes hacer lo mismo por los que amas.

El autor dice que las personas pueden ayudar grandemente a los gays, así no se sientan cómodos con la idea de la homosexualidad. El hecho de que alguien no tenga atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, lo califica más para amar de verdad a los que sí tienen esas atracciones, dándoles afecto de corazón sin tener ninguna expectativa romántica o sexual.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Juan 3:17. ¿Por qué crees que la respuesta de la novia del autor fue tan útil para él en su proceso?

¿Por qué es importante no permitir que la confusión mental que tiene otra persona te impida verla como crees que es y como crees que Dios la creó? 

Lee Proverbios 25:11. Antes de leer este capítulo, ¿cómo habrías respondido si alguien que amas te hubiera dicho que es gay? Después de leer este capítulo, ¿cómo quisieras que fuera tu respuesta? (Y si alguien a quien amas ya te dijo que es gay, ¿cómo respondiste, y cómo quisieras haber respondido?

¿Puedes entender por qué los sentimientos de atracción que tenía el autor cambiaron con el tiempo, pasando de ser predominantemente heterosexuales a homosexuales después de sus primeros encuentros íntimos con hombres, y después volvieron a cambiar tras su primer encuentro íntimo con una mujer? ¿Qué función consideras que jugaron las “necesidades válidas” en sus atracciones en cada uno de esos escenarios y en cada cambio de sentimientos?

Considera esta afirmación: “El sexo es una maravillosa extensión de la intimidad, pero nunca tendrá comparación si se lo toma como sustituto”. Cuando las personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo “solo intentan” tener relaciones sexuales con alguien del sexo opuesto, ¿por qué ese tipo de encuentros tienden al fracaso?

¿Cómo puede alguien que nunca ha experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo ser de ayuda especial para alguien que sí  ha tenido esas atracciones? ¿Qué le puede ofrecer alguien a otros así no tenga un “corazón” especial hacia los gays, o sí incluso siente repulsión ante la idea de la homosexualidad?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 6: “EL VALOR DE UN AMIGO AMOROSO”

Resumen del Capítulo

La Biblia relata una historia de unas personas que llevaron a su amigo a Jesús para que lo sanara. De este relato podemos aprender tres cosas:

  • cuando Jesús vio la fe de ellos sanó al amigo enfermo, tanto en su cuerpo como en su alma,
  • aunque quizás tú no conozcas las verdaderas necesidades de tus amigos, Jesús sí las conoce,
  • y si haces lo que puedes hacer, lleva a tus amigos a Jesús, ¡él hará lo que él puede hacer! 

El autor comparte cómo algunos amigos lo llevaron a él a Jesús, sin ni siquiera conocer sus luchas con los sentimientos homosexuales, pero sabiendo que luchaba con algo. Jesús luego sanó al autor en su cuerpo y en su alma. 

El autor describe lo sucedido de esta manera:

  • mientras leía la Biblia, entendió que había hecho algo que podía haberle quitado la vida,
  • se arrepintió de lo que había hecho y fue libre de volver a que sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo controlaran su vida,
  • y describe el cambio como algo similar a pasar de tratar de mantener bajo el agua una pelota de playa a que Jesús pinchara esa pelota con una navaja, derrotando así cualquier capacidad que pudiera tener la pelota para volver a flote por su cuenta.

El autor dice que agradece a sus amigos por hacer lo que podían y agradece a Jesús por hacer lo que Él podía. Él anima a otros a llevar a sus amigos a Jesús, entendiendo que su propia relación constante con Jesús le ha traído la mayor sanidad posible.Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Lucas 5:17-26. ¿Que hubo en la fe de los amigos que pudo haber tocado el corazón de Jesús? 

Lee Mateo 9:27-31. ¿Por qué crees que Jesús le pidió a los ciegos si creían que Él podía sanarlos? Según Jesús, ¿qué función cumplió la fe de ellos en su sanidad? Según el autor, ¿qué papel jugó su fe en Jesús para su sanidad? 

Lee Romanos 10:8-10. De acuerdo con este pasaje, ¿qué se necesita para ser salvo? ¿Qué sucedió con el autor cuando declaró que Jesús era su Señor y creyó en su corazón que Dios lo había resucitado de los muertos?

Lee Juan 16:12-13. ¿Por qué Jesús no siempre comparte la totalidad de lo que podía haber compartido con sus discípulos? ¿Qué sabiduría puede haber habido para que el autor no compartiera todo lo que pudo haber compartido con otros respecto a su testimonio? ¿Cómo ésta sabiduría también le trajo alivio?

¿De qué manera podrías tú “traer a tus amigos a Jesús”? ¿A qué clase de actividades podrías invitarlos o qué cosas podrías hacer por ti mismo que podrían ser útiles para presentarles a Jesús? 

El autor usa la analogía de sostener bajo el agua una pelota de playa para describir cómo sus atracciones habían tenido atrapada su vida. ¿Alguna vez sentiste algo similar en alguna área de tu vida? ¿Qué clase de alivio trajo, o traería, si Jesús pinchara esa pelota de playa una vez y para siempre? ¿Estarías dispuesto a invitar a Jesús a hacerlo?

¿De qué maneras el autor vio que el compartir su historia, en determinadas ocasiones con determinadas personas, traía mucha más sanidad a su propia vida? ¿De qué maneras se podrían aplicar estas ideas a ti si consideras compartir tu propia historia?

Capítulo 7: El valor de una iglesia amorosa

Donde comparto cómo la iglesia me ha ayudado en esta área de mi vida, incluyendo mi iglesia local, la iglesia que se extiende más allá de los muros de ésta y la iglesia a lo largo de la historia.

Hay quienes preguntan: “¿Qué me dices de la terrible respuesta de la iglesia a este tema? ¿No crees que ha sido horrible?” 

A eso tengo que preguntar: “¿Cuál ha sido tu experiencia personal con la iglesia en cuanto a este asunto?” Sinceramente quiero saber. Porque he escuchado historias de terror acerca de cómo las iglesias han hablado sobre este tema, pero sólo las he escuchado en informes de noticias o en revistas o en televisión. 

En toda mi vida, nunca he hecho parte de una iglesia en la que no me haya sentido amado, aceptado, cuidado, respetado y tratado con compasión profunda en cuanto a este tema, incluso cuando estaba involucrado en la homosexualidad. 

Toda mi vida he estado en la iglesia, más de cinco décadas, en iglesias de diversos tamaños, denominaciones y en diferentes ciudades. Y en todos los años que me he congregado en esas iglesias, semana tras semana, tras semana, por más de 50 años, nunca he escuchado un sermón o alguna enseñanza que me haya hecho sentir rechazado, despreciado, desprotegido o no aceptado. 

Ni una sola vez me he sentido degradado, reprochado, humillado o amenazado. De hecho, he encontrado todo lo opuesto. Los líderes y las personas en esas iglesias me han recibido, me han amado, han cuidado de mí, han sido considerados conmigo, se han interesado en mí y han sido amables. Cuando he sido honesto al hablar con otras personas acerca mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ya sea a nivel personal, en grupos pequeños o desde el púlpito, me he sentido respetado, aceptado y honrado. 

Me han abrazado más veces de lo que podría contar, ya sean hombres y mujeres de todo tipo, de un amplio rango de trasfondos, formas y tamaños (incluyendo fornidos entrenadores de fútbol americano). El amor y la aceptación que me han mostrado los cristianos, en muchos entornos me han ayudado en mi propia sanidad a lo largo de este viaje. He encontrado que la iglesia es un refugio, un santuario, y un lugar de sanidad y aceptación. 

Es “allá afuera”, en “el mundo”, ya sea en el gimnasio o en espacios públicos, o en entornos seculares, donde me he sentido vilipendiado, maltratado, irrespetado, amenazado, intimidado y degradado. Es allá afuera, en el mundo, donde me he sentido rechazado, alejado, humillado y despreciado. Es allá afuera donde me han llamado gay, afeminado, marica, raro, y [eliminando el improperio] homo, pero nunca, jamás, ni una sola vez, en la iglesia.

Antes de mudarme a Texas, leí un artículo en una revista de circulación nacional respecto a una iglesia en ese estado. El artículo describía lo que esa iglesia pensaba acerca de los homosexuales y lo que les harían si alguno iba a esa iglesia. 

Recuerdo que pensé: “¡vaya!” No veo cómo podría vivir en Texas. ¡Eso sería horrible!” 

Pero cuando obtuve una oferta de trabajo de una compañía en Texas y me mudé allá, lo que encontré en la iglesia a la que asistí, fue un amable grupo de hombres, quienes fueron de gran apoyo, me amaron y cuidaron de mí como nunca antes alguien lo había hecho. 

Esa iglesia fue el primer entorno en mi vida donde me sentí tan apreciado por mis dones y talentos, y por ser único, ¡y esto venía de personas que no querían tener relaciones sexuales conmigo! Su cariño genuino me llevó a tener un corazón abierto a Cristo, lo cual cambió el resto de mi vida. 

Algunos de los hombres de esa iglesia llegaron a ser unos de mis mejores amigos, amigos para toda la vida, que me apoyaron en mi boda y hasta el día de hoy siguen apoyándome a mí, a mi familia y mi ministerio. Pero si hubiese prestado atención a lo que leí en esa revista de circulación nacional, nunca me habría mudado a Texas. 

Así que mi primera pregunta a quienes piensan que la iglesia les ha dado una respuesta equivocada a las personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, es para saber cómo ha sido su experiencia personal.

MI EXPERIENCIA EN LA IGLESIA

Quizás mi experiencia sea un testimonio a los tipos de iglesias de las que he hecho parte. Pero a lo largo de los años he estado involucrado con una amplia variedad de iglesias, no todas han sido del mismo tamaño y sabor. Las iglesias han variado en tamaño desde unas pocas docenas de miembros hasta varios miles, y he pasado varias fronteras teológicas desde tradicionales y evangélicas hasta no denominacionales y carismáticas.

O quizás mi experiencia sea un testimonio de la forma como reaccioné personalmente a las cosas que escucho en la iglesia. Aunque en ocasiones no he estado de acuerdo con un orador o un líder en cuanto a cierto tema, mi tendencia ha sido a dejar que esas pequeñas porciones se deslicen, porque por lo general puedo escuchar lo que hay en el corazón de esas personas cuando lo dicen. 

Así que no me ofende mucho lo que las personas dicen en las iglesias a las que asisto, porque sé, y creo que están tratando de hacer lo correcto; están tratando de vivir como Cristo lo mejor que pueden. Y, honestamente, aunque tengo convicciones muy firmes en cuanto a ciertos temas, es muy poco probable que en un entorno de iglesia escuche cosas con las que esté en desacuerdo al punto de enojarme o sentir que mis pensamientos u opiniones estén siendo denigrados de manera indebida.

¿Alguna vez me ha herido la iglesia? Sí. ¿He tenido algunas “experiencias desagradables con la iglesia”, en las que me han tratado de formas que a mi parecer no han sido cristianas, y que me han causado heridas profundas? Sí. Pero nunca de tal forma que denigre la homosexualidad. 

Incluso en mis años de universidad, mientras estuve involucrado en la homosexualidad, seguía asistiendo a la iglesia. Recuerdo que escuché un sermón sobre el sexo y después de escucharlo pensé: “Tengo opiniones diferentes sobre ese tema”. Pero no me sentí herido ni ofendido por lo dicho. Respetaba lo que se había dicho, porque podía escuchar la intención genuina del orador hacia el corazón de los que hacíamos parte de la congregación.

MI EXPERIENCIA EN INTERNET

Quizás algunos piensen que debo haber tenido una exposición muy limitada a las iglesias si no me he encontrado con la mezquindad que ellos han percibido. Pero pueden estar equivocados. 

Por más de 20 años he dirigido un ministerio en internet el cual ahora alcanza a casi 40.000 personas al día, seis días a la semana en más de 160 países. De vez en cuando escribo sobre la homosexualidad, incluyendo mi propio testimonio acerca de cómo Cristo ha cambiado mi vida. 

En más de 20 años escribiendo, dando conferencias y hablando acerca de este tema como parte de mi ministerio, solo un puñado de personas me han dado respuestas negativas, y en ninguna ocasión esas respuestas han provenido de personas que dicen odiar a los homosexuales, sino sólo de personas que dicen que los aman, que afirman que aman la diversidad, y que ¡dicen que quieren que todos sean tratados con tolerancia y respeto! 

Es sólo de ellos, los autoproclamados más “tolerantes” grupos de cristianos, de quienes he escuchado algo de odio o mezquino hacia mí o mi mensaje acerca de este tema. Siempre me ha parecido irónico que quienes más acogen la idea de la tolerancia parecen mostrarla menos hacia quienes no están de acuerdo con ellos. 

En todos mis años de ministerio en esta área, no puedo recordar ninguna persona, ni siquiera una, que me haya escrito y me haya hecho sentir condenado o menospreciado por haber compartido mis experiencias con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Y en caso de que creas que todos mis suscriptores comparten mi manera de pensar en el reino de Dios, y quizás yo solo les estoy predicando a los de mi coro, ¡créeme, no es así! Mi grupo de suscriptores está compuesto por cristianos y no cristianos de tantas denominaciones como las que pueden existir, ubicados en países de todo el mundo. 

Suelo recibir noticias de personas opinando sobre lo que he escrito o enviado y con lo que están en gran desacuerdo. Ellos no guardan sus opiniones si consideran que una cita o un párrafo no coincide con sus creencias o teologías personales, ¡o si hay un apóstrofe o coma fuera de lugar! 

Pero, con respecto a algo que yo haya escrito en cuanto a la homosexualidad, no tengo memoria de haber escuchado ni siquiera un comentario mezquino acerca de los sentimientos que tuve de atracción hacia el mismo sexo y que hayan provenido de algún cristiano. 

Por el contrario, las personas se han sentido inspiradas por los relatos que han escuchado, y a menudo, en sus comentarios han dado detalles de sus propias vidas o las de sus seres queridos, y han buscado consejo y ánimo en medio de lo que han estado enfrentando. Por lo general, las personas de verdad quieren saber más, mucho más, acerca de lo que sea que pueda decirles en cuanto a este tema.

O quizás mi experiencia es un testimonio de la forma de presentar lo que comparto. O quizás es un testimonio de la mano protectora de Dios sobre mí en estos últimos 20 años de ministerio. Posiblemente sea una combinación de todas estas cosas que he mencionado. 

Pero, sencillamente, mi experiencia no me ha llevado a decir que la iglesia ha tratado mal a los homosexuales, o que no ha respetado o sido compasiva con quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ya sea en las iglesias de las que he hecho parte aquí en Illinois, iglesias de las que hice parte en lo profundo de Texas, o personas de iglesias alrededor del mundo a quienes sirvo a diario. 

En cuanto a los pastores que he tenido el honor de escuchar y de quienes he aprendido semana tras semana, ninguno de ellos nunca ha respondido con odio, maldad o intolerancia después de escuchar mi historia en cuanto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Los pastores solo han respondido con amor, gracia y respeto por lo que he vivido. 

Puedo pensar en al menos una docena de pastores y líderes en mi iglesia actual, que es de más de 5.000 miembros, que conocen mi historia y por lo general me saludan con grandes abrazos, mucho amor y mucho respeto, no solo cuando comparto mi historia de como Dios ha cambiado mi vida, sino también cuando comparto mis pensamientos y sentimientos constantes respecto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Todos los grupos pequeños en los que he participado han hecho lo mismo, me han permitido hablar abiertamente de mis experiencias, lo cual suele conducir a que otros hablen de sus propias luchas en otras áreas de sus vidas.

TU EXPERIENCIA

Quizás estés leyendo esto acerca de la iglesia y esa no haya sido tu experiencia. De ser así, lo siento mucho. Como cristianos, deberíamos ser los embajadores más amorosos del Hombre más amoroso que jamás haya vivido en esta tierra. 

Me da una gran tristeza cuando veo que no nos estamos comportando de esa forma. Podría apelar al hecho de que todos tenemos una naturaleza caída, que ninguno es perfecto, pero eso no nos excusa de no hacer nuestro mejor esfuerzo para resolver las cosas con las personas a quienes hemos ofendido. 

Si tú y yo estuviéramos juntos en persona, te pediría que me hablaras de cómo ha sido tu experiencia con la iglesia, y con gusto me disculparía en lugar de mis hermanos y hermanas en Cristo por cualquier ofensa que hayan cometido contra ti. Ya lo he hecho antes y lo volvería a hacer.

Pero después de haber conversado contigo, también te pediría que me hablaras de cómo han sido tus experiencias “allá afuera” y que luego las compararas con tus experiencias en la iglesia. 

Si, por comparación, tu iglesia te ha tratado con menos amor que el trato que has recibido del mundo, entonces te sugeriría, con la mayor amabilidad posible, que busques otra iglesia, y no solo una que apoye a los homosexuales, porque puedo asegurarte de que no estás recibiendo la plenitud de lo que Cristo y Su próxima esposa, la iglesia, tienen para ofrecerte. No estás recibiendo lo que puedes recibir en miles de iglesias en todo el mundo, iglesias constituidas por personas pecadoras como tú y como yo, pero que en su corazón de verdad quieren hacer lo mejor posible para ser como Jesús.

Algunas iglesias, y, por mi experiencia, con “algunas” me refiero a muy pocas, suelen salir en noticias por estar llenas de odio y rechazo hacia este tema. 

Es correcto que los espectadores cristianos denuncien esas iglesias por su comportamiento, tanto como lo hace el público secular. Sin embargo, después de haber sido denunciadas esas iglesias, con frecuencia, los medios siguen considerándolas como si fueran las representantes de la mayoría de iglesias existentes. Y no lo son. 

En contraste, he visto iglesias que han mostrado gran respeto y amabilidad hacia los homosexuales, sin mencionar los desfiles de orgullo gay y celebraciones de diversidad, a las que miembros de iglesias han ido para regalar agua, expresar su amor y participar en discusiones amables y civilizadas con los asistentes. He visto a miembros de iglesias hacer esto en entornos donde incluso los homosexuales expresan algunas de las espeluznantes actividades en las que sus compañeros gays participan, y lo hacen públicamente, frente a niños y familias. 

He encontrado que los cristianos están entre los grupos de personas que más aman, aceptan y respetan a los demás en todo el mundo, en especial cuando los comparo con algunas de las otras principales religiones de hoy en las que la homosexualidad sigue siendo castigado con la muerte. Y en todos mis años de asistencia a iglesias cristianas, nunca, en ninguna de esas iglesias, he escuchado a un líder pedir la muerte de los homosexuales, o algo diferente a honor, amor y respeto hacia quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo.

Habiendo dicho todo esto, decir que mi experiencia en la iglesia habla por todos los que alguna vez han sentido atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, sería como pedirle a alguien de los Estados Unidos que describiera cómo es para todos haber crecido en ese país. ¡Es imposible! 

Todos tenemos personalidades, trasfondos, historias, dones, limitaciones y demás cosas tan diferentes, que sería imposible usar el ejemplo de una persona como yo para catalogar a todos los que sienten atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Sin embargo, cuando escucho a alguien hablar acerca del trato que la iglesia ha tenido en cuanto a este tema, me gusta preguntar acerca de las experiencias personales, porque de verdad me son ajenas. Y cuando hago esta pregunta, es más frecuente ver que las personas no tienen historias específicas que relatar según sus propias experiencias, sino que están repitiendo historias que han escuchado de otros, a menudo en informes noticiosos que presentan unas de las pocas iglesias que ya he mencionado, las cuales también han sido denunciadas por casi todos los demás cristianos. 

Lo he visto suceder también en temas diferentes a la homosexualidad. Cuando inicié en el ministerio, hubo unos grandes escándalos sexuales que sacudieron al cristianismo. Le comenté a uno de los líderes de mi iglesia que pareciera que todos los pastores estaban teniendo una aventura amorosa. A lo que él respondió: “Oh, conozco muchos pastores que nunca han tenido una aventura amorosa”. 

Él tenía razón, y sus palabras me ayudaron a recalibrar mis pensamientos. Si bien había unos muy pocos casos de alto perfil, cuando me di a la tarea de pensar en los diferentes pastores que había conocido personalmente a lo largo de los años, me di cuenta de que esos pocos casos de alto perfil que veía en las noticias en realidad eran la minoría. 

Aunque es natural que algunas historias ocupen los titulares nacionales, la razón por la cual lo hacen no es porque sean la norma, sino todo lo contrario: ocupan los titulares porque no son la norma, son la excepción.

LA IGLESIA MÁS AMPLIA

Ya he compartido muchas historias contigo acerca de la ayuda cotidiana que las personas en iglesias locales me han dado en cuanto a este tema, incluyendo los amigos heterosexuales que he conocido en esas iglesias a las que he asistido, quienes me han acompañado y apoyado en lugar de alejarme.

Permíteme añadir dos historias más acerca de la iglesia en general y la iglesia histórica, las cuales te ayudarán a entender lo valiosa que ha sido la iglesia para mí y para muchos otros, especialmente en partes muy críticas de mi viaje.

Tras dar mi testimonio ante la clase de solteros en mi iglesia de Texas, una mujer se me acercó y me habló de una conferencia para personas que luchaban con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Ella pensó que quizás yo debía considerar asistir a esa conferencia, pero para ser honesto, no quería ir. Nada sonaba peor que reunirme con una cantidad de personas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ¡porque todos allá sabrían por qué me encontraba en ese lugar! También podía usar una insignia que dijera: “¡Sí, he luchado con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo!”

Pero unos pocos meses después, un amigo me preguntó si estaría dispuesto a asistir con él a esa conferencia. Él pensó que le podría ayudar con sus luchas, así que decidí ir, tanto por su bien, como para saber acerca de la misma, como lo había sugerido aquella mujer en mi iglesia.

En ese momento, mis deseos y atracciones hacia Lana eran fuera de serie, y estaba disfrutando mucho mis amistades con muchos hombres heterosexuales. No estaba luchando con ningún tema específico cuando fui a esa conferencia, pero sí tenía una pregunta en el corazón, y me preguntaba si Dios podía darme la respuesta. 

Me preguntaba si en todo esto todavía estaba pasando algo por alto, alguna porción de información crítica que quizás había ignorado que alguien podría usar algún día en mi contra para arruinar mi matrimonio, mi familia o mi vida. En mi opinión todo estaba bien, pero no quería puntos ciegos, así que me pareció buena idea aprender lo que más pudiera en cuanto a este tema, con las personas que ya habían estado ahí y que habían tratado con lo mismo durante años. 

De modo que fui a la conferencia. Después de superar la incomodidad inicial de literalmente ponerme una etiqueta en el pecho con el logo de la conferencia (ahí estaba: mi insignia diciendo” “¡Sí he luchado con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo!”), todo me pareció asombroso. 

¡Ahí estaban más de 1.000 personas que había experimentado lo mismo que yo! Muchos de ellos ya habían encontrado una salida por medio del poder de Cristo y ahora estaban en diferentes etapas en su caminar de libertad. Algunos apenas habían puesto su fe en Cristo y querían saber qué debían hacer ahora. Otros habían estado caminando en completa libertad por 20, 30, 40 o más años. Para ese entonces habían sido muy pocos mis encuentros con personas que habían tenido experiencias similares a la mía. ¡Y ahí habían más de 1.000 personas de esas en un mismo lugar!

Asistí a cada una de las sesiones, escuchando a todos los oradores que confirmaron lo que yo había experimentado y tuve que aceptar que era verdad. ¡Fue fascinante!

LA RESPUESTA DE DIOS A MI PREGUNTA

Una noche, durante la alabanza, mientras adoraba a Dios por esa reunión de cristianos, le pedí una respuesta a mi pregunta (si había algo más que debía saber en cuanto a este asunto, para que no surgiera en el futuro y me arruinara a mí, o a mi familia, o toda mi vida), y un hombre que estaba de pie adorando a mi lado, a quien nunca antes había visto, se dio la vuelta y dijo: “Nunca vas a volver a lo que una vez fuiste. “Nunca, nunca, nunca, nunca, nunca vas a volver”. 

Quedé asombrado. Pudo haberle dicho esas palabras a cualquier otra persona en esa conferencia, y habrían sido de ayuda, pero para mí, como esa era la pregunta puntual que tenía en mi corazón para Dios, no pude evitar prestar atención. 

Lo siguiente que dijo fue mucho más asombroso. Dijo: “El hombre te va a dar muchas oportunidades. No las tomes. Toma sólo las que Dios te da. Satanás no necesita hacerte pecar para impedir que hagas la voluntad de Dios en tu vida. Lo único que tiene que hacer es llevarte a hacer cosas diferentes a las que Dios quiere que hagas, así esas otras cosas puedan ser buenas y piadosas en sí mismas”.

Las palabras de este hombre llegaron a lo profundo de mi ser. 

Fue durante esa adoración que descargué todas las preocupaciones que tenía de que algún día volvería a la homosexualidad o que de alguna forma esto me destruiría a mí, mi vida o a mi familia. 

No es que me haya sentido inmune a la tentación, ni que repentinamente haya bajado la guardia de tal modo que nunca más volvería a ceder a algún pensamiento. Pero eso me ayudó a cambiar de enfoque. Dejé de preocuparme pensando que algo de mi pasado podía estar al acecho, y me concentré en lo que creía que Dios estaba poniendo en mi corazón para hacer.

Después de la última sesión, el día de cierre de la conferencia, iba caminando por el campus de vuelta al dormitorio donde me estaba quedando, cuando un auto con un par de chicos pasó por mi lado. Uno de ellos, que al parecer había escuchado que esa conferencia tenía algo que ver con la homosexualidad, se asomó por la ventana del pasajero y me gritó: “¡Muérete, [improperio eliminado] afeminado!”

Mientras ellos se alejaban a toda velocidad ¡yo estallé en carcajadas! Aunque estaba usando un distintivo que implícitamente decía: “¡He luchado con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo!” ¡Sentí que nunca antes en mi vida había estado tan lejos de ser homosexual! 

Dios había hecho una obra asombrosa en mi vida y durante esa semana, ¡que mi única respuesta a esa burla fue reírme!” (Y, como quizás lo notes, el hombre que me dijo eso no era alguien de la iglesia, sino alguien de “allá afuera”, de “el mundo”. Eran cristianos, los de la iglesia, los que habían organizado esa conferencia para ayudar a quienes querían ayuda).

Esa reunión de cristianos fue de tanta ayuda, no solo para mí sino también para mi amigo y muchos otros con quienes pude conversar durante la semana, que por varios años volví como orador para hablar sobre diferentes temas.

Había descubierto que la iglesia en general estaba haciendo su trabajo de amar a Dios y a los gays, y me alegró hacer parte de su trabajo.

LA IGLESIA HISTÓRICA

La otra historia que quiero compartir es acerca de cómo la iglesia histórica me ha ayudado en esta área de mi vida. 

Por ejemplo, hasta cuando puse mi fe en Cristo llegué a saber que Dios también había liberado a otros de este mismo problema en las iglesias del pasado, en los días posteriores a la vida, muerte y resurrección de Jesús.

A medida que seguía leyendo mi Biblia, descubrí que la iglesia de Corinto, Grecia, estaba integrada por personas que habían participado en la homosexualidad y cuyas vidas habían sido transformadas por el poder del Espíritu Santo. El mismo Apóstol Pablo que escribió la carta a los cristianos en Roma, también escribió una carta a los cristianos en Corinto alrededor de los años 53 y 57 D.C., tan solo 20 a 22 años después del ministerio público de Jesús en la tierra. (Jesús fue crucificado en el año 33 D.C.). 

En la carta de Pablo a los Corintios, él dice que algunas de las personas en esa iglesia habían estado involucradas en la homosexualidad, entre otras cosas, y luego añadió: “Algunos de ustedes antes eran así; pero fueron limpiados; fueron hechos santos; fueron hechos justos ante Dios al invocar el nombre del Señor Jesucristo y por el Espíritu de nuestro Dios” (1 Corintios 6:11, itálicas mías). 

Esa pequeña palabra, eran, es lo que me más impactó cuando leí por primera vez ese pasaje. Encontré que hace casi 2.000 años hubo personas que experimentaron lo que yo estaba viviendo, habían estado en la homosexualidad, y luego habían salido de él ¡en el nombre de Jesucristo y por el poder de Su Espíritu Santo! 

Si me asombró encontrar en esas conferencias a 1.000 personas que habían pasado por todo lo que yo había estado pasando, ¡puedes imaginar mi asombro al ver que justo en los días posteriores a la vida, muerte y resurrección de Jesús también hubo personas que experimentaron lo mismo! 

Comprendí con claridad que lo que había vivido no era algo nuevo que se está dando sólo ahora en los siglos 20 y 21. Había tenido que enfrentar algo a lo que las personas habían estado haciendo frente por miles de años. 

Conforme he seguido leyendo la Biblia, he aprendido que se ha hablado de la homosexualidad desde los días de Abraham, unos 4.000 años atrás (lee Génesis 18:16-19:29). 

Se volvió a hablar de lo mismo en los días de Moisés cuando Dios le dio instrucciones a Moisés acerca de cómo debería ser nuestra manera de vivir, unos 3.300 años atrás (lee Levítico 18:22 y 20:13). 

Y de nuevo se volvió a hablar de homosexualidad en los años siguientes al ministerio de Cristo en la tierra, unos 2.000 años atrás (lee 1 Corintios 6:9-11).

¡Todo esto es para decir que a Dios no le sorprende la homosexualidad! ¡No es algo que brotó de repente en mi generación! 

A Dios no le sorprende que las personas se sientan tentadas con eso. De hecho, ¡esa es la razón por la cual él habla de eso en la Biblia! 

En la Biblia, Dios no habla de cosas que a Su parecer no sean de tentación para las personas, sino que habla de aquello que Él sabe que es tentador hacerlo. Y en este tema en particular, Dios nos ha expresado sus advertencias con la mayor claridad posible. 

Sin embargo, he visto cómo muchos tratan de hacer gimnasia teológica con esas advertencias claras y explícitas, a fin de hacer parecer que Dios sí quería que participáramos de la homosexualidad. 

Lo entiendo. Comprendo su manera de leer esos pasajes y he leído sus argumentos a favor de eso. Pero para mí, cada uno de esos argumentos se cae por su propio peso. ¿Por qué? Porque he tratado de imaginar qué palabras podría haber usado Dios que fueran más claras o más firmes que las que ya usó. 

Si las palabras en la Biblia en cuanto a este tema no son claras para las personas ¿entonces cuáles palabras pueden serlo? ¿Qué palabras desearían las personas que Dios hubiese dicho si en realidad no quería que participaran en la homosexualidad? (Y ¿qué palabras quisieras tú que Él dijera?) 

Al mirar cualquiera de los pasajes bíblicos que he mencionado en las páginas anteriores, ¡he encontrado que las palabras usadas en ellos son más fuertes que cualquiera otra que haya visto! 

No estoy diciendo que puede haber varias maneras de interpretar las palabras que tenemos en la Biblia. Lo que estoy queriendo decir, es que me sería muy difícil encontrar palabras más fuertes o más claras. 

Según todo lo que he leído en la Biblia, y todas las conversaciones que he tenido respecto a lo que he leído, una y otra vez he cobrado ánimo al ver que la experiencia transformadora que he tenido con Cristo en esta área es algo que también les ha pasado a muchos. 

También siento ánimo al ver que las personas pueden cambiar, han cambiado por miles de años, y siguen cambiando en la actualidad, así como yo y cientos de personas con quienes me he reunido personalmente hemos cambiado, y miles más que he visto en las conferencias a las que he asistido.

Entonces, ¿por qué nos sorprende saber que el Espíritu de Cristo sigue cambiando personas hoy, de la misma manera que lo hizo con tanta claridad hace casi 2.000 años? Las palabras del Apóstol Pablo a los Corintios son como música a mis oídos: “Algunos de ustedes antes eran así”.

Lejos de tener un registro desagradable en su trato para con los homosexuales, en mi experiencia, la iglesia ha tenido un asombroso desempeño. 

He encontrado amor y apoyo en mi iglesia local, en la iglesia que se extiende más allá de los muros de mi iglesia y la iglesia a lo largo de la historia. 

No es una sorpresa que Dios ame tanto a la iglesia. No es una sorpresa que Él espera el día para encontrarse con la iglesia, Su novia, en el último banquete de bodas, la cena de las bodas del Cordero (lee Efesios 5:31-32, Apocalipsis 19:7, 21:2, y 21:9).

Capítulo 8: Algunas palabras acerca de la tentación

Donde comparto por qué las tentaciones no nos definen, cómo podemos enfriar o alimentar nuestras atracciones, y por qué celebramos el 4 de julio y no el Tratado de Versalles.

Como lo mencioné antes, cuando alguien me pregunta: “¿Todavía te sientes atraído hacia los hombres”” No me molesta responder “Sí. Sí me siento atraído”. 

Pero luego hay otra pregunta de seguimiento que quisiera que hicieran, porque la respuesta a esa pregunta es mucho más significativa: “¿Las atracciones todavía controlan tus acciones?” Mi respuesta a esa pregunta es un resonante: “No, no lo hacen”. 

Y aunque pareciera que estoy haciendo un gran contraste entre esas dos preguntas y respuestas, la diferencia entre ellas es como el día y la noche. 

Cuando Dios transformó mi vida, no solo me cambió llevándome de ser una oruga a ser una mariposa. Me dio alas para que pudiera volar. Me hizo una nueva criatura. Como dice la Biblia: “De modo que si alguno está en Cristo, nueva criatura es; las cosas viejas pasaron; he aquí todas son hechas nuevas” (2 Corintios 5:17, RVR)

Aunque en algunos aspectos sigo siendo la misma persona, soy una criatura totalmente nueva en otros. 

Una de las principales razones por las cuales escribí un libro más íntimo acerca de mi testimonio hace unos años, fue para describir, en detalle lo mucho que Dios había hecho para transformar mi vida en las áreas de mis sentimientos y pensamientos, en mis deseos y atracciones. El libro fue para que las personas supieran que el cambio es posible en la vida real, y que no es solo un cambio de aspecto sino una remodelación completa de todo nuestro ser.

También escribí ese libro para satisfacer el apetito que los demás tienen por más, para que supieran que, si dejan su antigua vida, así ofrezca todos los placeres y alivios de dolor, Dios puede darles toda una nueva vida que ofrece mucho más. Nunca le recomendaría a nadie seguir el camino que yo he seguido si no creyera de todo corazón que a largo plazo sería mejor para ellos, tanto en esta tierra como en el cielo para siempre.

HAY MÁS

Conocí a un hombre que cuando llegó a Cristo, asistía a una iglesia local. Esa iglesia era superficial. Seca. Aburrida. Nada sucedía. El Espíritu nunca fluía. 

Ese hombre estaba muy emocionado de haberle entregado su vida a Jesús, pero cuando iba a esa iglesia, quedaba muy decepcionado. Un día, mirando alrededor, dijo: “¿dejé las drogas por ESTO?” 

Sabía que debía haber más. Sabía que debía haber más de la vida abundante que Jesús le había ofrecido, comparado con lo que estaba experimentando. 

Así que siguió adelante con Dios, terminó yendo a otra iglesia y encontró justo lo que estaba buscando, ¡la vida abundante que había esperado por mucho tiempo! ¡Eso era mejor que las drogas que había dejado! ¡Mucho mejor! Llegó a ser pastor y plantó por todo el mundo más iglesias rebosantes de vida.

Pero si en esos primeros días yo lo hubiera aconsejado, y su primera experiencia en la iglesia fuera un verdadero indicador de cómo iba a ser el resto de su nueva vida en Cristo, yo habría sido el primero en enfatizarle: “¡vuelve a las drogas!”

No han sido pocas las personas las que han venido a mi diciendo que creen que Dios las hizo gays, pero que Él no quiere que actúen de acuerdo con la manera como las hizo, que están destinadas a vivir el resto de sus vidas en frustración y con dolor en el corazón. Yo les he dicho: “Si de verdad crees que Dios te hizo así, pero que quiere que vivas frustrado el resto de tu vida porque nunca vas a poder comportarte conforme a la manera como Él te hizo, entonces permíteme ser el primero en decir enfáticamente: “¡Sigue en la homosexualidad, y hazlo con gusto!” 

Pero no animes a otros a hacerlo, porque creo que Dios no ha hecho gay a nadie sólo para luego hacer que se sienta frustrado el resto de su vida por la manera como Él lo hizo. 

En mi opinión hay otras cosas que impiden que las personas experimenten la vida abundante para la que Dios las hizo. También he encontrado que muchos sí creen de corazón que Dios no los hizo así, aunque quizás no puedan encontrar otra manera de explicar lo que sienten. Sencillamente no ven otras opciones. Se sienten atrapados, en una jaula, sin ninguna salida aparente. 

Mi deseo es ayudarles a encontrar, a explorar lo que Dios de verdad quiere que hagan, y darles esperanza en que Dios de verdad tiene algo mejor para ellos, sin importar si algún día se casan o no con alguien del sexo opuesto. 

Jesús no nos prometió una vida abundante solo para arrebatárnosla una vez pongamos nuestra fe en Él. Aunque a veces podemos sentirnos así, esa no es la verdad, y no nos vamos a sentir así para siempre. 

Animo a quienes están frustrados y que desean más a que sigan preguntando, sigan buscando y sigan llamando a la puerta porque recibirán más. 

Estas no son solo mis palabras de ánimo. Son Sus palabras. Jesús dijo: Sigue pidiendo y recibirás lo que pides; sigue buscando y encontrarás; sigue llamando, y la puerta se te abrirá. Pues todo el que pide, recibe; todo el que busca, encuentra; y a todo el que llama, se le abrirá la puerta (Mateo 7:7-9, NTV).

Cuando Jesús dijo: “Mi propósito es darles una vida plena y abundante” (Juan 10:10, NTV), hizo su promesa a todos los que hemos estado dispuestos a poner nuestra fe en Él.

El aspecto de esa “vida plena y abundante” va a ser diferente en cada caso, y Jesús es el único que sabe toda la plenitud de lo que eso significa para nosotros. Pero estoy seguro de que Dios traerá Su plenitud de vida a cada uno de nosotros, así como estoy seguro de que el sol volverá a salir mañana. Dios de verdad quiere que todos experimentemos la mayor plenitud de vida posible.

NUESTRA RESPONSABILIDAD
(O HABILIDAD DE RESPUESTA)

Quizás no podamos elegir nuestros sentimientos, pero sí podemos elegir qué hacer con ellos. Sí podemos elegir si vamos a calmarlos o a alimentarlos. Sí podemos elegir actuar conforme a lo que sentimos o no seguir lo que sentimos. 

Y lo que elijamos hacer con lo que sentimos, en gran medida, determinará el tipo de experiencia que tendremos en estas vidas que Dios nos ha dado. Nuestra manera de responder a nuestros sentimientos es nuestra responsabilidad (o habilidad de respuesta).

Sé lo que es estar muy enamorado de alguien, pero no poder satisfacer ese amor. Sé lo que es tener corazones flotando en la cabeza cuando piensas en alguien especial, pero no poder actuar conforme a esos sentimientos. 

Sé lo que se siente cuando el corazón se acelera en tu pecho, pero no poder controlarlo y tener que reprimirlo en tu interior al no poder expresar el amor de la manera que he querido hacerlo. 

Pero también sé cómo es poder calmar esos deseos, llevarlos todos a los pies de Jesús para que no me causen más dolor, confusión y pena por amor.

Esto no significa que en ocasiones no haya tratado de revivir esos sentimientos después de haber renunciado a ellos, deseando tomar el teléfono o enviar una nota “sólo para seguir en contacto”. Pero he aprendido que siempre que he intentado hacer alguna de esas “pequeñeces inofensivas”, mi corazón se acelera en mi pecho y necesito una gran cantidad de tiempo y esfuerzo para calmarlo. Así que termino volviendo al comienzo. 

He aprendido que cuando eso sucede, lo mejor que puedo hacer es hacer el teléfono a un lado o no enviar la nota. He tenido que reconocer que mis motivos no son los correctos. Mis intenciones no son puras. 

Sé que mis sentimientos me conducirán a la decepción si continúo siguiéndolos, porque nunca podré seguir con ellos de la manera que he deseado. Este tipo de golpe al corazón es una revelación indicando que mis atracciones están aproximándose al peligro.

En cuanto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, en la medida que sean solo atracciones, simplemente tener claro que hay algo atractivo en alguien, no resulta un problema. 

El problema surge cuando nuestros corazones también comienzan a latir por alguien. Es ahí cuando nuestros sentimientos se hacen peligrosos. Es ahí cuando debemos retirarnos. Es en ese momento cuando debemos identificar lo que sentimos y por qué. 

Entonces, después de saber que lo que sentimos se basa en una necesidad legítima, podemos encontrar maneras de satisfacer esa necesidad legítima de manera legítima, en lugar de hacerlo de manera ilegítima. Si sabemos que nuestros sentimientos no están atados a una necesidad legítima, o que esa no es una manera válida de satisfacer esa necesidad, entonces lo mejor para nosotros es “dejar las cosas así”. Seguir caminando. Dar la vuelta y cambiar de dirección, darle tiempo a nuestro corazón para que se calme. 

He aprendido este sencillo consejo: decirme a mí mismo: “Deja las cosas así”, sigo caminando y no miro atrás, es asombrosamente efectivo. Cancela las punzadas en el corazón que las personas suelen sufrir en la vida.

Cuando digo que todavía siento atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, lo que estoy diciendo es: “Sí, todavía reconozco si una persona me es atractiva o no”. Pero la gran mayoría de las veces, esas atracciones son solo reconocimientos de atracción. El corazón no se ve involucrado. 

Mi corazón sigue tranquilo en mi pecho. No hay dolor, no hay deseos de aferrarme a algo que siento que es doloroso o que injustamente no puedo disfrutar. 

Incluso cuando sí siento que mi corazón se está involucrando de manera inadecuada con alguien, el simple hecho de tener consciencia de eso, y comprender que no puedo seguir esos sentimientos por una amplia variedad de razones, resulta ser de gran ayuda para mantener mi corazón controlado, de esa manera vuelve a estar calmado.

GUARDANDO NUESTROS CORAZONES

Para mí, eso es lo que el rey Salomón nos animó a hacer cuando dijo: “Sobre todas las cosas cuida tu corazón, porque este determina el rumbo de tu vida (Proverbios 4:23, NTV). 

En lugar de hacer eso, con mucha frecuencia tendemos a derribar las murallas de nuestro corazón, haciéndonos vulnerables al dolor que es una consecuencia natural de no poder tener aquello que deseamos en el corazón. 

Lo que trato de expresar aquí es que hay una diferencia en la manera como experimentamos nuestras atracciones. Pueden seguir siendo simples atracciones, o pueden convertirse en tentaciones, y más que eso, deseos o anhelos que llegan a ser muy dolorosos en la medida que siguen sin ser satisfechos. 

Cuando mi esposa murió, el dolor que experimenté justo después fue increíblemente intenso. Lana había estado conmigo unos días antes, tendida a mi lado en nuestra cama, con su cabeza en la almohada y mirándome con sus ojos llenos de vida. 

Luego, llegó el día en el que ya no estaba ahí. Mi corazón deseaba estar con ella, anhelaba estar con ella, pero sabía que nunca más podría estar con ella en persona de este lado del cielo. 

Al saber que nunca más volvería a satisfacer ese anhelo de mi corazón en esta tierra, el dolor resultante de ese deseo del corazón fue tan intenso como cualquier dolor físico que hubiera sufrido. 

Sin embargo, a medida que el tiempo fue pasando, aprendí que podía contener mi corazón. Por último, llegué a comprender que mi anhelo por estar con ella, nunca se satisfaría. 

En mi dolor llegué a un punto en particular, del que luego leí en un libro escrito por Harold Ivan Smith titulado Decembered Grief (Duelo en diciembre). Él cita a una mujer que también llegó al mismo punto, diciendo: 

“He tomado meses para llegar al punto en el que puedo decir: ¡Está bien, el futuro no va a ser lo que pensaste que sería. Se ha ido, y no lo vas a tener. Sencillamente no va a ser así. Tu futuro se fue con él. Ahora tienes que construir uno nuevo’”.

En mi caso, yo también había aceptado el hecho de la ausencia de mi esposa, y que ella no iba a volver. 

Cuando llegué a ese punto, el dolor en mi corazón disminuyó mucho. Sí, todavía me encantaría estar con ella, tenerla cerca, y mirarla directo a los ojos. Pero mi deseo ya no iba acompañado con el mismo tipo de dolor.

En su libro Fuera del Planeta Silencioso C.S. Lewis describe la diferencia entre estos dos tipos de anhelos. Lewis escribió que en el idioma de las criaturas de su planeta ficticio había dos palabras que significan desear y anhelar, pero que esas criaturas hacían una clara diferencia entre ellas diciendo que “todos lo desearían (wondelone), pero que nadie en sus plenos sentidos podría desearlo (hluntheline)”.

Es algo muy sutil pero que hace una gran diferencia en términos de su impacto práctico en nuestras vidas. Es la diferencia entre recordar a mi esposa con pena y dolor en el corazón, o recordarla con cariño y aprecio. 

Mi dolor por desear algo en el corazón solo se daba cuando retenía la esperanza de que, por alguna razón, lo que anhelaba era una posibilidad real, aunque remota. Pero cuando llegué al aceptar el hecho de que ya no había ninguna remota posibilidad de ver realizado mi anhelo, entonces la parte dolorosa de ese anhelo también desapareció. 

No era posible que mis anhelos se hicieran realidad de ninguna manera, y mi corazón recobró la compostura.

CALMANDO NUESTROS DESEOS

Para decirlo en otras palabras, a veces he pasado al lado de alguien fumando un cigarrillo, y aunque nunca he fumado, a veces he respirado ese humo y pensado: “Ahh, eso huele muy bien”. 

Aunque pueda parecer extraño para algunos, como nunca he fumado, todavía reconozco algo seductor en el olor, ya sea que me recuerde las fogatas al aire libre en mi niñez, o que estimule algo placentero en mi interior, en realidad no lo sé. (Pero ahí está, otra verdadera confesión).

Esto me volvió a suceder hace poco. Iba caminando y pasé por el lado de un hombre que estaba fumando frente a un edificio donde yo había estado haciendo unas compras. 

El hombre se disculpó por fumar frente a mí cuando pasé por su lado. Le dije que no había problema, y aunque nunca había fumado, a veces me gustaba el olor. 

Ahora, no me siento tentado a fumar. No siento el deseo de poner algo dentro de mí con el potencial de causarme la muerte. Pero todavía puedo reconocer que me es atractivo, y puedo ver por qué los es para otros, incluyendo para ese hombre. 

Si hubiera crecido en un ambiente diferente, o expuesto a situaciones de vida diferentes, fácilmente me habría quedado fumando al lado de él. Pero como no fue así, y como no planeo satisfacer algún día ese deseo en particular, mi corazón nunca late por la idea de fumar. 

Puedo seguir mi camino, así como lo hice aquel día, sin volver a pensarlo, hasta cuando pensé en relatarte esta historia. Aunque había experimentado algo que me era atractivo, no tenía ningún poder sobre mí. 

Es lo mismo respecto a cualquier atracción hacia el mismo sexo que siento ahora. 

Aunque reconozco esas atracciones cuando se presentan, puedo seguir mi camino y no pensarlo dos veces. Mis atracciones ahora son como esa pelota de playa desinflada bajo mis pies, en la arena al fondo del agua, algo que, como ya lo dije antes, puedo quitar o pasar por el lado. 

Creo que parte de la razón por la cual puedo hacerlo es debido a la obra transformadora que Dios ha hecho en mi vida, pero en parte también se debe a la sabiduría práctica que Dios me ha dado por medio de Su Palabra y el consejo de algunos cristianos piadosos. 

La buena noticia en cuanto a esto para quienes están luchando con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, o cualquier tipo de atracción no deseada, es que ese mismo poder transformador y sabiduría colectiva están a disposición de cualquiera que esté dispuesto a aferrarse y valerse de ellos. He visto a otros poner en práctica estas ideas en sus propias vidas, de una manera tan efectiva como ha sido mi caso, y sé que son transferibles. 

A veces, de verdad necesitamos “soltar”, para que esos fuegos se extingan, sabiendo que, aunque lo que sintamos puede estar basado en necesidades legítimas, Dios no quiere que satisfagamos esa necesidad de manera ilegítima.

Al reconocer que nunca podré satisfacer ciertos deseos, y alejarme de otros deseos, Dios me ha ayudado a calmar lo que siento hacia las cosas que sé que pueden ser perjudiciales para mí.

ALIMENTANDO NUESTROS DESEOS

Por el otro lado, Dios también me ayudó a alimentar mis deseos hacia aquellas cosas que sé que pueden ser de verdadera ayuda para mí. 

Cuando Lana todavía estaba viva, encontré formas prácticas para profundizar mi amor y afecto hacia ella más allá de lo que ya era. 

Aunque la intimidad que compartimos al comienzo de nuestra relación fue increíble, se fortaleció mucho más con el paso del tiempo. ¿Por qué? En parte, porque comencé a construir con ella una base de datos de experiencias que no tenían comparación. 

Como muchos otros hombres casados que conozco y que han experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, mis atracciones hacia mi esposa eran muy particulares en su enfoque, es decir, casi nunca había sentido atracción hacia alguna mujer diferente a ella. Aunque muchos pueden indicar que este hecho indica que nunca fui transformado, desde mi punto de vista, esa fue una inmensa bendición para mí. 

Lo último que necesitaba era pasar de estar predominantemente atraído hacia los hombres, ¡a estar predominantemente atraído hacia las mujeres! Esa no podía ser una señal de sanidad. Sería tan solo una señal de pura locura reemplazar una forma de tentación por otra. Pero lo que Dios hizo por mí, y lo que ha hecho por otros, fue poner en mi interior una atracción única y fuera de serie hacia mi esposa. Y creo que así es como debería ser. 

Como dice la Biblia: “Que tu esposa sea una fuente de bendición para ti. Alégrate con la esposa de tu juventud. Es una cierva amorosa, una gacela llena de gracia. Que sus pechos te satisfagan siempre. Que siempre seas cautivado por su amor. (Proverbios 5:18-19, NTV).

Sin ser gráfico, lo que puedo decir es que después de crear cientos de memorias de experiencias íntimas con mi esposa, tras muchas semanas, muchos meses y años, encontré que mis deseos se movían con tan solo una mirada a sus senos, cerca del borde del cuello de su blusa. Una mirada fugaz me hacía sonreír por mucho tiempo, suscitando en mí deseos que solo un esposo debería sentir hacia su esposa. 

Para mí siempre fue asombroso experimentar algo como esto, porque en mis años de pre adolescente, e incluso durante la adolescencia, no encontré ninguna diferencia entre ver los senos de una mujer, o ver sus codos o sus rodillas. Sencillamente, no me seducían. 

Sin embargo, después de haber disfrutado de la intimidad con mi esposa una y otra vez, y llegar a entender más a fondo que sus senos tenían una función más profunda en nuestra intimidad, comencé a verlos de otra forma. Con el paso de los años, pude comprender a plenitud de qué hablaban los otros chicos en la escuela, cuando decían que incluso un vistazo a los senos de una mujer provocaba una respuesta inmediata en ellos. 

Conforme la base de datos de experiencias con mi esposa fue creciendo, me ayudó a alimentar el fuego en mi corazón, lo cual también me ayudó a mantener vivo nuestro romance.

Otro paso que tomé para concentrar mi atención sólo en mi esposa fue seguir el consejo de otra persona que también había recorrido ese camino antes de mí. 

Como comparto en mi libro What God Says About Sex (Lo que Dios Dice acerca del Sexo), un amigo cristiano me animó a que renunciara a la idea de complacerme yo mismo a nivel sexual cuando estaba solo, tanto antes como después de casarme. En lugar de disfrutar de libertad por mi cuenta, este amigo me recomendaba que disfrutara de esa experiencia cuando estuviera en compañía de mi esposa. 

Este pequeño consejo resultó ser una de las mejores bendiciones para nuestro matrimonio, porque, aunque a veces me vi tentado a hacer otra cosa, con el tiempo llegó a ser uno de esos anhelos profundos del corazón (hluntheline) que C.S. Lewis describe en su libro. El haber reconocido que yo no podía satisfacer mis deseos sexuales de ninguna manera diferente a cuando estaba con mi esposa, quitó todo el estrés interno que algo así podría haber causado. 

Como consecuencia, mi esposa se convirtió en mi única fuente de placer sexual en la vida. Las bendiciones de una sola decisión nos siguieron felizmente durante el resto de nuestro matrimonio.

Por ejemplo, en gran medida, gracias a esa decisión, nunca caí en la pornografía, porque no tenía sentido activar esos deseos si no podía satisfacerlos. Y como nunca caí en la pornografía, nunca tuve que comparar a mi esposa con los millares de modelos maquilladas que aparecen en esas imágenes. 

En realidad, hallé satisfacción en los senos de mi esposa, en primer lugar, porque de verdad creo que Dios mismo la hizo única como un regalo para mí, pero, en segundo lugar, porque no estaba comparándola todo el tiempo con otra persona. Como mi única fuente de deleite sexual, ella se convirtió en la persona más espectacular del planeta. 

No estoy diciendo que otros deberían hacer exactamente lo mismo que yo he hecho para mantenerme tan enfocado en mi esposa, pero son consejos que resultaron muy buenos para mí, y funcionaron muy bien en nuestra situación. 

Lo que sí estoy diciendo es que hay cosas que todos podemos hacer para calmar nuestros deseos o alimentarlos. Me sentí muy agradecido de haber encontrado por mí mismo algunas de estas cosas, y debo añadir, en representación de mi esposa, que ¡ella también se sintió muy agradecida!

DEJANDO QUE DIOS NOS DEFINA

También he llegado a entender que mis tentaciones no me definen. Esto se hizo más evidente cuando supe que la Biblia dice que Jesús fue tentado en todo al igual que nosotros, pero que no pecó. 

Al hablar acerca de Jesús, el escritor del libro de Hebreos dice: “Nuestro Sumo Sacerdote comprende nuestras debilidades, porque enfrentó todas y cada una de las pruebas que enfrentamos nosotros, sin embargo, él nunca pecó. Así que acerquémonos con toda confianza al trono de la gracia de nuestro Dios. Allí recibiremos su misericordia y encontraremos la gracia que nos ayudará cuando más la necesitemos” (Hebreos 4:15-16). 

Si Jesús fue tentado en cada una de las pruebas que enfrentamos nosotros, entonces, al parecer también se vio tentado con la homosexualidad, como algunos de nosotros. Sin embargo, nadie que lea atentamente a las escrituras llamaría gay a Jesús, así como no lo llamaría ladrón, mentiroso, adúltero o fornicario, porque nada en las escrituras nos da evidencia alguna de que haya sido alguna de esas cosas. Sin embargo, si Jesús de verdad fue tentado en cada una de las pruebas que nosotros enfrentamos, entonces podemos creer que de verdad también fue tentado con todas esas cosas. 

Pero a Jesús no lo definieron sus tentaciones, y tampoco nos definen a nosotros. Dios, nuestro creador, es quien nos define, el Dios que nos tejió en el vientre de nuestras madres. 

Cuando Dios me hizo, me hizo hombre, completo con todas las partes reproductivas masculinas que me declaran que soy hombre, incluyendo un cromosoma X y uno Y en cada célula de mi cuerpo. (Las mujeres, por otra parte, y por definición científica, tienen dos cromosomas X en cada célula de sus cuerpos).

Soy un hombre en todo el sentido de la palabra, creado desde la concepción para reproducirme heterosexualmente, si Dios quería que me reprodujera. Aunque puedo tener sentimientos hacia los hombres, o verme tentado a involucrarme en actividades sexuales más allá del heterosexualismo, esos sentimientos no me definen. Mis tentaciones no me definen.

El Dios que me creó es quien me define, y la ciencia da testimonio de la naturaleza y los propósitos para los que fui creado.

¿Esto quiere decir que está mal querer tener amistades cercanas con hombres? ¡Claro que no! ¿Esto quiere decir que está mal sentir atracción hacia un hombre o ser tentado a involucrarse romántica y sexualmente con un hombre? ¡Claro que no! 

Nuestros deseos de amistad cercana, y nuestras tentaciones hacia cosas que pueden involucrar a esos amigos cercanos no nos hacen culpables de pecado, así como Jesús no fue culpable de pecado por los deseos y tentaciones que enfrentó. De nuevo, como lo afirmó el autor del libro de Hebreos: “Nuestro Sumo Sacerdote …enfrentó todas y cada una de las pruebas que enfrentamos nosotros, sin embargo, él nunca pecó”.

Podría decir que nuestras atracciones y deseos se forman por una combinación de factores, algunos de los cuales están relacionados con la naturaleza (la forma como nacimos), con la crianza (la forma como fuimos educados), y las circunstancias (las experiencias de vida que hemos tenido). Esto no es ciencia de cohetes, sino una sencilla observación de la naturaleza humana tal como cientos de personas me lo han expresado al compartirme sus experiencias de vida.

DANDO FORMA A NUESTROS DESEOS

Nuestra naturaleza y crianza, y nuestras experiencias sí sirven para dar forma a nuestros “gustos” y a nuestros “deseos”, ya sea que el objeto de esos gustos y deseos sean cosas que podrían terminar siendo buenas, o ser perjudiciales para nosotros. 

¡Y nuestros gustos se pueden alimentar o enfriar de muchas maneras!

Me asombra la manera como el fumar cigarrillos se estilizó tanto en la generación de mis padres, con anuncios que promocionaban beneficios para la salud pulmonar de las personas si fumaban. Un anuncio famoso decía: “Más médicos fuman cigarrillos Camel, que cualquier otro cigarrillo”. 

De hecho, los médicos aconsejaban a los pacientes que inhalaran a fondo humo de cigarrillo a fin de promover pulmones más saludables. 

Pero ahora que el fumar está científicamente vinculado con el cáncer, esta actividad se ha demonizado casi en todo el mundo. La sociedad en general ha cambiado su punto de vista de manera dramática con respecto a fumar, así como también ha cambiado su perspectiva en muchas otras prácticas. 

Aunque no lo creas, cuando yo era niño, usaba pijamas hechas con asbestos. Los asbestos son un excelente retardante de llama, así que se consideraba que era una buena idea saturar con este material la tela de nuestra ropa, en especial la ropa para dormir que usaban los infantes y niños que pudieran tener dificultades al escapar de una habitación en llamas. 

Pero cuando se descubrió que esas mismas fibras de asbesto podían llegar a los pulmones de las personas y provocar cáncer de pulmón, el pensamiento de la sociedad en cuanto a este tema cambió casi de la noche a la mañana.

Así mismo, mi perspectiva sobre las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo cambió de la noche a la mañana cuando Dios me abrió los ojos frente a los efectos dañinos de lo que había hecho. Aunque todavía puedo ver algunos aspectos positivos de involucrarme en una relación homosexual, esos beneficios los supera con mucho peso el daño que podría causar a mi vida, no solo las enfermedades como el SIDA, que acabó con las vidas de muchos homosexuales en los años 1980, sino por las diferentes maneras en que la homosexualidad parece estafar la plenitud de vida que Dios tiene para mí.

Debido a este cambio en mi propia manera de pensar, rara vez permito que cualquier pensamiento fugaz respecto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo vaya más allá de eso, un simple pensamiento fugaz, así como rara vez (bueno, nunca) cedo ante un pensamiento fugaz respecto a la idea de comprar una pijama de asbesto para mí o para mis hijos.

Esto no es para decir que no puedo, si quisiera hacerlo, tratar de volver a inflar esa pelota de playa desinflada. ¡Estoy seguro de que podría! Pero no quiero porque sé que si lo hiciera sería como morir.

INFLANDO NUESTRAS PELOTAS DE PLAYA

Sin embargo, algunos de mis amigos, han tratado de inflar sus pelotas de playa y las he visto explotar cuando lo han hecho.

Por ejemplo, un amigo se casó con una de las chicas más hermosas que haya conocido. Tanto él como su esposa son muy atractivos físicamente, y bien parecidos. 

Antes de casarse, mi amigo había luchado con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, pero después de conocer a esa maravillosa chica, comenzaron a salir y tiempo después se casaron en una boda de película en una locación de maravilla. 

Volví a encontrarme con mi amigo un año después de su boda, y quedé abrumado al enterarme que se estaba divorciando. ¿Cómo podía ser eso posible? Había estado tan enamorado de su novia, y ella también estaba muy enamorada de él. Todo parecía que iba a salir muy bien.

Pero las cosas no funcionaron, me dijo. Me encontré con él en un restaurante de su ciudad natal, conversamos por varias horas, lo escuché decirme que sencillamente ya no sentía interés físico hacia ella. Él quería volver a su vida de homosexualidad. 

Me desconcertó por completo el hecho de que las cosas no estuvieran funcionando para él. Hice cuantas preguntas de sondeo que pude, pero no pude encontrar una razón.

Fue solo casi al final de nuestra conversación que él finalmente me dijo, como si fuera un comentario adicional, “bueno, dos semanas después de nuestro matrimonio yo sí dormí con el hombre que prestó el servicio de organización de nuestra boda”. Y por alguna razón (no diría que sorprendente), a partir de ese punto, su matrimonio comenzó en decadencia.

“Intenté con el matrimonio”, dijo en tono concluyente, “y no funcionó”. 

Yo quería gritar: “¡Tu no lo intentaste con el matrimonio! ¡Ni siquiera lo hiciste por dos semanas!” 

Yo estaba asombrado. Y él estaba furioso. Me dolía el corazón por su esposa, una mujer que había sido el sueño de la mayoría de otros hombres, así como lo había sido para él en una ocasión, sin embargo, él saboteó su propio matrimonio debido a sus indiscreciones casuales, destruyéndola a ella al mismo tiempo. 

Su matrimonio fallido no fue el resultado de la supresión de sus deseos hacia el mismo sexo; ese fue el resultado de su indulgencia hacia esos deseos, avivando la llama y dejando muchas personas quemadas por el camino.

Tengo otro amigo que nunca en su vida había tenido una relación homosexual, pero siempre se había preguntado cómo sería tenerla. Esas inquietudes quedaron atrás cuando se casó con una mujer que amaba entrañablemente, y juntos iniciaron una familia. 

Sin embargo, años después, me confesó a mí y a su esposa que estaba en peligro de hacer realidad sus sentimientos homosexuales, diciendo que éstos habían vuelto a surgir después de mucho tiempo. 

Me dijo que él y su esposa ya casi nunca tenían intimidad, esto se debía en parte a algunos problemas de salud que ella tenía. Según él, esto, combinado con su carencia de amistades masculinas cercanas en la ciudad donde vivía, lo hizo desear intimidad y una conexión más cercana con otros hombres.

Al hablar más acerca de esas atracciones hacia el mismo sexo y por qué después de tanto tiempo estaban teniendo una influencia tan fuerte, me confesó que ahora estaba viendo pornografía homosexual todos los días. Para él, era como leer el periódico matutino. 

Así que no fue ninguna sorpresa para él ni para mí que ahora se estuviera sintiendo tan en riesgo de hacer realidad sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Esos sentimientos que había podido mantener alejados en el pasado, ahora estaban amenazando con atacarlo a él y a su matrimonio, y él los estaba alimentando a diario. Gracias a Dios, mi amigo tuvo la sabiduría y el valor de llamarme en medio de su lucha, dando así una válvula de escape para que sus tentaciones no lo consumieran.

Un cuento popular relata la historia de un padre que le dijo a su hijo que dentro de cada uno de nosotros viven dos lobos, uno de los cuales quiere hacer lo correcto y el otro quiere hacer lo malo. Cuando su hijo le preguntó cuál lobo iba a ganar al final, el padre respondió: “El que tú alimentes más”.

La Biblia dice que hay una progresión natural en desear algo que puede ser perjudicial para nosotros, luego de desearlo, nos involucramos en, y luego enfrentamos las consecuencias de habernos involucrado. 

Como el Apóstol Santiago dice: “Cuando alguno es tentado, no diga que es tentado de parte de Dios; porque Dios no puede ser tentado por el mal, ni él tienta a nadie; sino que cada uno es tentado, cuando de su propia concupiscencia es atraído y seducido. Entonces la concupiscencia, después que ha concebido, da a luz el pecado; y el pecado, siendo consumado, da a luz la muerte” (Santiago 1:13-15, RVR).

Esa es la progresión natural de nuestros deseos dañinos. Gracias a Dios hay una rampa para salir de este ciclo perjudicial, y Dios quiere que la tomemos siempre. No siempre es fácil, pero Dios en Su Palabra dice que siempre dará la salida, de lo cual hablaré más en el siguiente capítulo (lee 1 de Corintios 10:13).

DECLARANDO NUESTRA VICTORIA

Quiero darte otra sugerencia práctica para ayudarte a ti y a quienes amas a encontrar la libertad frente a sus luchas. 

Un día salí con un amigo a caminar por un parque estatal aquí en Illinois, en nuestro recorrido encontramos un aviso que nos decía que justo en ese lugar se había presentado cierta batalla durante la guerra de independencia de los Estados Unidos. 

Cuando miré más de cerca la placa, decía que dicha batalla se había dado durante el año 1779. 

“¿1779?” Le dije en voz alta a mi amigo. “¿Acaso no obtuvimos nuestra independencia en 1776? ¿Por qué seguían librando batallas aquí en 1779?” 

Luego recordé. ¡Claro! El 4 de julio de 1776 fue el día que declaramos nuestra independencia. Aun así, fueron necesarios siete años más de batallas sangrientas hasta dar por terminada la guerra por nuestra libertad. 

El simple hecho de haber declarado nuestra independencia en 1776 no significó el fin de nuestras batallas. 

De hecho, de muchas maneras, el día de nuestra declaración fue cuando las batallas comenzaron en serio. Y esas batallas no terminaron sino hasta más de siete años después, cuando los Estados Unidos e Inglaterra finalmente firmaron el Tratado de Versalles el 3 de septiembre del 1783.

Sin embargo, no conozco a nadie que celebre la firma del Tratado de Versalles, ni que recuerde la fecha cuando se firmó y se dio fin oficial a la guerra. 

Lo que las personas celebran, y lo que más recordamos, es el día que declaramos nuestra libertad, la fecha que ha estado indeleblemente marcada en la mente de todo estadounidense, el 4 de julio de 1776.

Yo siento lo mismo con respecto al día cuando decidí poner mi fe en Cristo para todo en mi vida, febrero 9 de 1987. 

Esa fecha también ha estado indeleblemente marcada en mi mente, porque fue cuando puse mi fe en Cristo para todo lo que sucediera en mi vida, declarando así mi libertad del yugo que la homosexualidad había tenido sobre mi vida hasta ese punto. 

Esto no quiere decir que no ha habido escaramuzas desde entonces, o que no he tenido momentos cuando esas tentaciones han tratado de surgir en mi interior. ¡Eso no es una sorpresa! ¡Así es la vida! ¡Así es como opera la tentación!

Pero, decir que alguien no ha sido liberado de algo que alguna vez lo mantuvo cautivo, solo porque en ocasiones tiene que librar batallas, es como decir que los Estados Unidos no fueron libres el día que declararon su libertad, sino sólo en otra fecha después de haber dado fin a todas sus batallas, una fecha que casi nadie recuerda ya. 

Cualquier persona que alguna vez haya renunciado a algo que ha disfrutado, así sepa que es algo que terminará siendo destructivo, sabe que tomar la decisión de renunciar a eso es tan importante como ganar las batallas que vendrán después de esa decisión.

La vida es demasiado corta como para seguir viviendo en algo que sabes que terminará destruyéndote.

Quiero animarte a poner tu fe en Cristo para todo en tu vida, así como también quiero animar a tu familia y amigos a que hagan lo mismo. 

Declara tu libertad hoy de todo lo que sea tentador para ti, y aférrate a la libertad que Dios te está ofreciendo por medio de Su Hijo Jesucristo. 

Así podrás cantar como el salmista cantó y como yo he podido cantar: “Por el camino de tus mandamientos correré, cuando ensanches mi corazón” (Salmo 119:32, RVR).

Guías de estudio para los capítulos 7 y 8  

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 7: “EL VALOR DE UNA IGLESIA AMOROSA”

Resumen del Capítulo

Algunas personas creen que la iglesia no ha respondido bien al tema de la homosexualidad. Pero el autor dice que su experiencia ha sido todo lo opuesto: Él dice que:

  • ha encontrado que la iglesia es un santuario, un refugio, y un lugar de sanidad y aceptación,
  • y es “allá afuera”, en “el mundo”, donde se ha sentido vilipendiado, maltratado, irrespetado, amenazado, intimidado y degradado.

A las personas que sienten que la iglesia les ha dado una mala respuesta ante este tema, él les pide que compartan cómo han sido sus experiencias personales, no refiriendo historias de otras personas que han escuchado acerca de algunas pocas iglesias que no son como Cristo y que suelen ser presentadas en las noticias.

Él cree que:

  • la iglesia es la esperanza para el mundo,
  • Cristo sigue perfeccionando a la iglesia para que sea Su esposa,
  • y los líderes y las personas en varias iglesias a las que ha asistido, han sido los más atentos, de mayor ayuda y los más amables con respecto a este tema, incluso cuando todavía estaba involucrado en la homosexualidad. 

El autor reconoce que es posible que sus experiencias no representen las de todos los demás y, en representación de la iglesia, se ha disculpado con quienes han tenido experiencias diferentes. Pero desde su perspectiva, la iglesia como un todo, ha tenido un asombroso registro en su manera de tratar con este tema.

Él concluye diciendo que la iglesia histórica, como se documenta en la Biblia, ha sido útil para él con relación a este tema:

  • porque ve que personas en la iglesia de Corinto fueron liberadas de la homosexualidad de 20 a 22 años después de la vida de Cristo en la tierra,
  • porque ve que este no es un asunto que se limita al siglo 21, sino algo que Dios ha estado afrontando hace 2000, 3000 y hasta 4000 años.
  • y porque ve que las advertencias que Dios hace acerca de este asunto no pueden ser más claras y firmes.

A las personas que consideran que la Biblia no es clara ni firme en cuanto a este tema, el autor les pide que piensen cómo quisieran que Dios expresara sus advertencias a fin de hacerlas más claras o más firmes que lo que ya son. 

Luego indica que la razón por la cual Dios es tan claro y firme en cuanto a este asunto no es porque a él le repugne la homosexualidad, sino porque al haber creado nuestra sexualidad, Dios sabe lo poderoso pero peligroso que puede ser el sexo si se usa de maneras para las que no fue diseñado.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Apocalipsis 19:7-9 ¿Por qué crees que Jesús todavía ama a la iglesia de hoy y espera la gran cena de bodas del Cordero? ¿Qué ánimo puede darte el amor que Jesús tiene por la iglesia en cuanto a la perspectiva que tienes de ella?

Lee Levítico 18:22, Levítico 20:13, Romanos 1:24-32 y 1 de Corintios 6:9-12. ¿Puedes pensar en palabras de advertencia que Dios puede haber usado y que pueden haber sido más fuertes o más claras que las registradas en la Biblia? ¿Qué palabras elegirías tú si fueras a hacer una advertencia en cuanto a algo que es tentador para otros pero que puede hacerles daño? ¿Usarías palabras más fuertes o más débiles que las ya registradas en la Biblia?

Lee Romanos 5:8. ¿Por qué los cristianos no pedimos la pena de muerte para quienes participan en actos de homosexualidad? ¿Qué ha cambiado desde la venida de Cristo? ¿La condena? ¿O el hecho que esa condena ya fue pagada?

¿Cuál ha sido tu experiencia personal con la iglesia en cuanto a este tema? ¿Has escuchado a líderes de tu iglesia hablar acerca de este asunto de formas desagradables, con odio y degradantes para los homosexuales? ¿O tu experiencia ha sido lo opuesto, donde los líderes de tu iglesia han hablado con compasión, amor y queriendo ayudar a quienes luchan con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo? 

¿Por qué crees que las mismas pocas iglesias siguen llegando a los titulares de noticias cuando se habla de manera horrenda sobre los gays? ¿Crees que esas pocas iglesias hablan por la iglesia en general? ¿Hablan por ti? 

¿Qué les sugiere el autor a las personas que sí son parte de iglesias donde los homosexuales son denunciados, menospreciados y humillados? ¿Se debería ir a una iglesia que respalda a los gays a fin de encontrar otro enfoque? ¿O crees que hay iglesias que consideran que los actos homosexuales son pecaminosos, pero que pueden tratar con dignidad y respeto a las personas que sienten atracciones hacia el mismo sexo?

¿Qué significado tiene para ti el hecho de que la Biblia diga que las personas en la iglesia de Corinto habían estado involucradas en la homosexualidad, pero que añada: “y esto erais algunos”? ¿Qué esperanza pueden dar estas palabras a quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo pero que no quieren hacer nada al respecto?

¿Qué dice acerca de la conciencia de Dios sobre este tema, y el corazón con respecto al mismo, el hecho de que Él haya hecho advertencias tan fuertes y claras hace unos 2.000 años en los días de Jesús, hace unos 3.300 años en los días de Moisés, y unos 4.000 años en los días de Abraham? ¿Crees que sus advertencias indican su escándalo ante la idea de que alguien considere comportarse según sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, o porque Él sabía muy bien que las personas se verían tentadas a hacerlo?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 8: “ALGUNAS PALABRAS ACERCA DE LA TENTACIÓN”

Resumen del Capítulo

Las tentaciones vienen de todas partes, así como las tuvo Jesús. Pero nuestras tentaciones:

  • no nos definen, así como no definieron a Jesús,
  • no nos controlan, así como no controlaron a Jesús,
  • y no tienen que abrumarnos, porque Dios dijo que siempre daría la salida para escapar de nuestras tentaciones, y Él quiere que siempre tomemos esas vías de escape. 

El autor sugiere varias ideas prácticas para ayudar a calmar deseos dañinos y alimentar los saludables, incluyendo:

  • reconocer que sencillamente nunca debería haber lugar para algunas actividades, con lo cual se reducirían las inclinaciones del corazón,
  • nunca tratar de volver a inflar esas pelotas de playa desinfladas a nuestros pies, al llamar a alguien “sólo para seguir en contacto” o dejando que nuestros pensamientos o vistazos se entretengan en algo que no es saludable,
  • y comprometiéndonos a disfrutar de la plenitud sexual sólo cuando sea en la compañía de nuestro cónyuge, ni siquiera mediante la auto-gratificación. 

Él también dice que no debería sorprendernos que las tentaciones continúen incluso después de haber declarado nuestra intención de alejarnos de ellas, así como las batallas de la Revolución de los Estados Unidos siguieron por varios años después de haber firmado la Declaración de Independencia. Declarar nuestra libertad es tan importante como librar las batallas que siguen. Sin embargo, no debería sorprendernos que vengan batallas, incluso durante años, así como las batallas de la Revolución de los Estados Unidos continuaron hasta la firma del Tratado de Versalles, más de siete años después de la firma de la Declaración de Independencia.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee 2 Corintios 5:17. ¿Cómo se relaciona este versículo con la siguiente afirmación del autor?: “Cuando Dios transformó mi vida, no solo me cambió llevándome de ser una oruga a ser una mariposa, me hizo una nueva criatura”.

Lee Juan 10:10. ¿Cómo se relaciona este versículo con el relato del autor acerca del hombre que terminó en una iglesia seca, superficial y aburrida y que dijo: “¿dejé las drogas por ESTO?”? ¿Alguna vez sentiste que la vida cristiana tiene más de lo que estabas experimentando? ¿Sientes que has encontrado la vida abundante que, según Jesús, está disponible para quienes han puesto su fe en Él, o todavía la estás buscando?

Lee Proverbios 4:23 y Proverbios 5:18-19. ¿Por qué el Rey Salomón dijo que guardáramos nuestro corazón? ¿Qué puede suceder si bajamos la guardia? ¿Cómo podemos guardar nuestros corazones y volver a concentrar nuestra atención en lo que Dios quiere que deseemos?

Lee Hebreos 4:15-16. ¿Qué dicen estos versículos acerca de las tentaciones de Jesús y si esas tentaciones eran consideradas pecado o no? ¿Por qué a Jesús no lo definieron sus tentaciones? ¿Por qué nuestras tentaciones no deberían definirnos?

Lee 1 Corintios 10:13. ¿Qué dice Dios que nos dará cada vez que seamos tentados? ¿De qué maneras dice el autor que las personas pueden calmar o alimentar sus deseos? 

¿Por qué algunas personas se pueden ver sorprendidas por el hecho de que alguien que haya declarado su libertad en esta área todavía enfrente algunas tentaciones? Considerando el hecho de que la mayoría de estadounidenses celebran el 4 de julio de 1776 como una fiesta nacional en lugar de celebrar el 3 de septiembre de 1783, ¿qué dice esto acerca de la realidad de enfrentar batallas constantes para ganar nuestra libertad definitiva? ¿Qué dice esto acerca de la importancia de declarar nuestra libertad, en relación a obtener esa libertad?

Capítulo 9: Algunas palabras acerca del dolor

Donde comparto cómo el dolor puede tentarnos a hacer cosas que quizás nunca hayamos considerado hacer de otra forma, y cómo puedes ayudar a otros en medio de sus tiempos de dolor.

Cuando sufrimos, a veces podemos vernos tentados a hacer cosas que quizás nunca consideraríamos hacer. 

Incluso Jesús se vio tentado de vez en cuando a alejarse de la voluntad de Su Padre, hasta la misma noche antes de Su muerte. Jesús clamó en oración por si había otro camino diferente al que estaba por enfrentar. 

Sin embargo, Jesús terminó sometiéndose a la voluntad de Su Padre, diciendo, “… Sin embargo, quiero que se haga tu voluntad, no la mía” (Lucas 22:42b, NTV).

La tentación es real, y yo tampoco estoy por encima de la tentación. A menos que pienses que en realidad no entiendo la lucha constante que muchos enfrentan a diario, quisiera compartir contigo el papel que ha jugado la tentación en mi vida, en especial en un tiempo de muy profundo dolor.

Poco después que mi esposa Lana fue diagnosticada con cáncer, los médicos nos dijeron que desafortunadamente ya se había extendido por todo su cuerpo. No podían hacer nada para detener su rápido crecimiento. 

El día que recibimos la noticia, lloré en mi habitación por 24 horas seguidas. No pude salir ni siquiera para comer. Mi madre había muerto por el mismo tipo de cáncer, y no podía imaginar ver a mi esposa pasar también por lo mismo. Sabía que me estaba enfrentando a unos de los días más oscuros que enfrentaría en mi vida.

Durante los meses siguientes, el dolor que sentía al pensar en perder a Lana comenzó a volverse insoportable. Un día ella me pidió que habláramos sobre algo que la está inquietando. Dijo que estaba sintiendo celos al pensar con quién me casaría yo después en caso de que ella muriera. 

Esa era una conversación que yo no quería tener. No podía imaginar perderla, mucho menos vivir sin ella, y ¡mucho menos tratar de imaginar tener otra relación con alguien diferente a ella!

No imaginaba que hubiera otra persona que pudiera entenderme como ella me entendía, o perdonarme como lo había hecho, o con quien pudiera tener una vida sexual fuera de serie como la que había tenido con ella. La lista de objeciones en mi mente seguía en aumento.

Pero pocos días después, en medio de mi pena y el dolor de pensar sobre todo eso, a mi cabeza vino un nuevo pensamiento, algo que ya ni siquiera me gustaba. Aunque no podía imaginar tener intimidad con alguna otra mujer por el resto de mi vida, la idea que vino a mi mente fue esta: “Pero si el hombre correcto llega… (o el hombre incorrecto como puede ser el caso)”. ¡¿Qué?! Pensé, mientras mi mente explotaba en su interior.

“Sí”, me dije a mí mismo, “sé lo que Dios dice en Su palabra. Y sí, he hablado sobre este tema por muchos años y he visto a Dios hacer cosas asombrosas. Pero estoy cansado. Tengo dolor. Y estoy sufriendo. Apenas puedo recordar algo que me haya dado algún tipo de alivio al dolor”.

No podía creerlo. Casi por tres décadas no había considerado seriamente la homosexualidad. El solo pensarlo me asustó tanto que al día siguiente le dije a Lana lo que me había pasado y por qué. Ella fue mi mejor compañera de oración en la vida, incluso para cosas como estas. 

Le pedí que orara por mí, así como lo había hecho siempre que le había confesado algo en el pasado, respecto a cualquier tema que me estuviera molestando. Lana oró conmigo, y dos semanas después Dios respondió a esas oraciones.

Durante esas dos semanas, sentí como si una nube oscura estuviera sobre mí todo el tiempo, algo como una niebla o algo pesado. No podía identificar de dónde venía o como deshacerme de eso. Lo único que podía hacer era confiar que Dios me ayudaría a salir de eso.

LA RESPUESTA DE DIOS

Dos semanas después de luchar con las razones por las que pensé algo como eso, Dios me habló muy claramente, tres veces el mismo día.

La primera vez que Dios me habló fue poco después de levantarme. Era un domingo por la mañana, y me senté para tener un tiempo de quietud antes de ir a la iglesia. 

Al abrir mi Biblia, llegué al capítulo 1 del libro de Romanos, el mismo pasaje que leí cuando la luz vino a mí tantos años atrás, cuando Dios quiso tratar con mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Al volver a leer las palabras de Pablo, todo volvió a mí. 

“Eso es”, pensé. “Es por eso que nunca volvería a la homosexualidad. Sé que, si lo hiciera, para mí sería como morir”.

Esa mañana, al estar en la iglesia, nuestro pastor dijo algo acerca de la homosexualidad. Lo que dijo fue quizás la afirmación más simple y profunda que haya escuchado sobre este tema, después de tantos años de estudiarlo, leerlo y hablar a otros al respecto. 

Mi pastor dijo: “Si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien”.  

Cuando dijo esas palabras fue como una segunda y más potente luz de una lámpara de tres bombillos que se encendió aquel día, iluminando mucho más mi mente.

Pensé: “Sí, Señor, eso es. También es por eso que no lo hago”.

Y esa misma noche Dios me habló una tercera vez, en esta ocasión por medio de un amigo. Estaba hablando con él sobre mis temores de perder a Lana y de cómo la idea de la homosexualidad había vuelto a mi mente.

Él me dijo que lo mismo le había sucedido cuando enfrentó la posibilidad de perder a su esposa unos años antes. Dijo que en ese momento se había preguntado si así era como Dios le estaba diciendo que ahora estaba bien si quería involucrarse en la homosexualidad.  

“¡Claro que no!” Dije “Dios no querría que hicieras eso, ¡y tampoco quiere que yo lo haga para suavizar el dolor que ahora estoy sintiendo!” 

Una cosa era considerar la idea en mi propia mente, ¡pero otra muy diferente era escuchar palabras similares de la boca de mi amigo!

Tan pronto como él dijo eso, fue como si todo el resplandor de aquella lámpara hubiese entrado a mi mente. 

“¡Claro que no!” Volví a pensar. “Aunque mi dolor sin duda es real, ¡sé que así no es como Dios quiere que enfrente mi dolor! 

Todos estos años que he ministrado a personas que luchan con sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, han sido para ayudar a aliviar el dolor, no para aumentarlo. Y aunque sé que no puedo aliviar todo el dolor de las personas, espero poder al menos evitarles el tipo de dolor malo, el dolor que pueden causarse ellos mismos al hacer lo que quieren hacer, en lugar de hacer lo que Dios quiere que hagan. 

Así como es posible que no tengamos elección respecto al tipo de tentaciones que enfrentamos, tampoco tenemos elección sobre el tipo de pelotas curvas que nos lance la vida. 

Sin embargo, sí podemos elegir cómo responder a esas pelotas curvas.

EL ÁNIMO EN LA OSCURIDAD

En ese momento, con la luz de esa tercera luz, sentí desaparecer la oscuridad que había estado sobre mi cabeza durante las últimas semanas. 

Ese día Dios me habló con claridad en tres ocasiones: primero en Su palabra, segundo usando al pastor de mi iglesia, y tercero con las palabras de un amigo cristiano que había enfrentado una lucha similar. En cada una de esas ocasiones, Dios me ayudó a entender que en la tierra no hay un dolor por el que valga la pena lanzarme yo mismo a un dolor más profundo. 

Mi cabeza se aclaró de inmediato y desde entonces no volví atrás, ya han pasado cinco años. Aunque mi dolor y pena ante la posibilidad de perder a Lana, y el hecho mismo de haberla perdido, siguieron hasta sus últimos días y se extendieron por semanas y meses después de su fallecimiento, pude evitar ese dolor sobre el que sí tenía control. 

Esa noche, después que Dios me habló con tanta claridad en tres ocasiones, pude decirle a Lana que sus oraciones por mí habían sido respondidas. Pude decirle que no tendría que preocuparse más por que yo volviera a la homosexualidad, así ella muriera, porque Dios había eliminado la niebla una vez más. 

Como nota adicional, pocos meses después Lana me dio un hermoso regalo, cuando volvió a hablar sobre la posibilidad de volver a casarme. Dijo que había estado pensando más al respecto, y quería darme su bendición con la esperanza de que yo me volviera a casar algún día. Dijo que se sentía muy bendecida de tenerme como su esposo y sabía que yo sería una bendición para otra persona en el futuro. 

Aunque aquel día no quería hablar sobre el tema, así como no quería hacerlo unos meses antes, agradecí mucho que ella pudiera tener paz en su corazón en cuanto a mi futuro, y que me diera su bendición si algún día llegaba el momento en el que yo de verdad pensara en volverme a casar.

Después de ese evento, hablé con otro pastor amigo sobre lo que me había pasado y él me dio una perspectiva muy útil. Me dijo que esos pensamientos no eran algo extraño, porque cuando enfrentamos dolor, a menudo nos vemos tentados a volvernos a cualquier cosa que pueda darnos algún alivio de ese dolor, muchas veces sintiéndonos atraídos al pasado. El Rey Salomón también habló de eso en Proverbios 26:11. (Dejaré que busques por tu cuenta esa cita).

Te relato esta historia para que sepas que tampoco me sorprende, si tú o alguien que conoces sigue luchando de vez en cuando con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, incluso después de muchos años viviendo en libertad, y en especial cuando hay un profundo dolor. Ninguno de nosotros sale de este mundo sin ser tentado, ni siquiera Jesús. 

Es entendible que algo de dolor pueda parecer tan insoportable que la idea de ceder a la tentación ya deja de parecer algo terrible. 

También es comprensible si tú, como un amante y compasivo seguidor de Jesucristo, puedes sentir el deseo de decirles a tus seres queridos que sigan adelante y cedan a sus tentaciones. Quizás quieras decirles que de pronto no es tan mala idea, ante lo que estén enfrentando en ese momento. Quizás quieras decirles que disfruten cualquier alivio que puedan encontrar para su dolor, al menos por un poco de tiempo. 

Pero ¿puedo animarte a mantenerte firme? ¿Puedo animarte a ser sabio en medio del dolor de tus seres queridos, y que les ofrezcas verdadera sabiduría que de verdad les ayude en medio de su situación?

Como mi pastor me recordó: “Si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien”.

Quizás pienses que el dolor que tus amigos o familiares enfrentan ahora es insoportable, pero puedo asegurarte de que será mucho peor si ceden a sus tentaciones, en especial si Dios ha dicho que no debemos hacer lo que ellos quieren hacer. Sencillamente no les va a ir bien. No va a funcionar. 

No puedo decirte todo lo que podría salir mal porque no puedo anticipar todo. Pero sé, en este caso especial, que el Padre sí sabe mejor. 

Si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien. Y tampoco les irá bien a tus seres queridos.

¿UN PREMIO DE CONSOLACIÓN?

Algunas personas creen sinceramente que ser gay es la primera mejor opción que Dios tiene en mente para sus vidas o las de sus seres queridos. Creen que Dios debe haberlos hecho así porque no pueden pensar en otra razón que justifique por qué se sienten de esa manera. 

Otras personas creen que, aunque ser gay no es la primera mejor opción, puede al menos estar cerca a la segunda, un premio de consolación para los que no obtuvieron lo que se necesita para tener la primera mejor opción en sus vidas. Aunque pueden creer que ser homosexual no es lo ideal, puede ser lo mejor que ellos o sus seres queridos pueden tener en esta tierra. 

Pero Dios dice que la homosexualidad no es ni la primera mejor opción ni la segunda mejor opción. Dios dice que es una opción perjudicial y destructiva, no solo para los que se involucran en estas actividades, sino también para Sus planes y propósitos para la sexualidad y Sus planes y propósitos para el mundo como Él lo creó. 

Hay quienes pueden decir: “¿Pero qué daño hace la homosexualidad? ¿Por qué no dejar que las personas hagan lo que quieren? No lastiman a nadie”.

Ya he compartido algunos de los daños que he enfrentado por mi homosexualidad: la posibilidad real de contraer SIDA y perder la vida, la posibilidad real de engañarme a mí y a mi esposa para no tener lo que llegó a ser la relación más fabulosa que pudimos tener en la vida; y la posibilidad real de alterar los planes y propósitos de Dios al darnos el regalo de la sexualidad, para crear intimidad entre mi esposa y yo, y procrear hijos que mi esposa y yo pudiéramos amar.

Las personas pueden objetar y decir que hay formas de evitar cualquiera de esos daños. Sí, las hay. Pero apenas he comenzado y ya he listado tres daños importantes que podrían afectarme si hubiera seguido en el camino de la homosexualidad. La lista de perjuicios sigue y sigue.

Creo que quienes dicen que la homosexualidad no lastima a nadie nunca se han sentado con una esposa inconsolable porque su esposo la acaba de dejar por otro hombre, reconociendo que es homosexual, que siempre lo ha sido, y que eso es lo mejor para todos los involucrados. 

Creo que los que han dicho eso nunca se han sentado con los hijos de alguien que los ha abandonado diciéndoles que sigan sus propios deseos en lugar de ser el padre o la madre de los niños que han engendrado. 

Creo que esas personas nunca se sentaron con una novia destrozada, ahora con miedo de algún día casarse porque el hombre de sus sueños acaba de decirle que cree que es gay y que probablemente nunca lo superará, yéndose así a dormir con otro hombre para ver si es verdad lo que cree. 

Desde mi punto de vista privilegiado, he visto a la homosexualidad hacer mucho daño. Y sí, también he visto al heterosexualismo hacer mucho daño. Esto es porque el sexo es como la electricidad: muy poderosa y útil cuando se retiene dentro de sus debidos límites, pero igual de poderosa y destructiva cuando se la libera sin restricción.

Siento dolor por las personas que han sido engañadas pensando que no tienen salida de las tentaciones que enfrentan, y por eso ceden. Me duelen esas personas, en especial porque sé que sí hay otro camino. 

También siento dolor por las personas abandonadas por los que sienten atracciones hacia su mismo sexo cuando ceden a sus tentaciones, y en el proceso dejan un rastro de destrucción. 

Alguien puede decir: “Bien, es mejor que alguien con esas atracciones se marche y no que permanezca en un matrimonio enfermizo y cause más dolor en el futuro”. 

Estaría de acuerdo si la única opción fuera causar más dolor en el futuro. 

Pero esa manera de pensar pasa por alto el hecho de que Dios todavía sigue en el negocio de transformar vidas. No tiene en cuenta el hecho de que Dios ha ayudado, y sigue ayudando a otros a superar toda clase de luchas y tentaciones en sus vidas, así como me ha ayudado a mí y muchas otras personas que conozco. 

Esa manera de pensar también menosprecia el hecho de que los matrimonios enfrentan toda clase de problemas, y algunas personas usan esto como excusa para no tratar con los otros problemas igual de reales en sus matrimonios.

CAMBIANDO UN DOLOR POR OTRO 

Aunque en la Biblia y en nuestros corazones Dios ha hablado fuerte y claro sobre este asunto, el dolor tiene la capacidad de reducir nuestra habilidad para escuchar a Dios, a menos que permitamos que ese dolor nos acerque a Él.

En muchas ocasiones he visto cómo el dolor y la tentación no solo me han afectado a mí sino también a las personas que amo.

El padre de un amigo mío cometió adulterio. Cuando la verdad salió a la luz, el dolor que enfrentó la madre de mi amigo la llevó a quitarse la vida. Ante todo esto mi amigo y sus hermanos quedaron desesperados.

Como la relación de él con su padre ya se había deteriorado antes de ese evento, el dolor causado por el adulterio de su padre y la muerte de su madre lo hizo más susceptible a las tentaciones hacia el mismo sexo. Terminó sucumbiendo a los avances de un hombre de mayor edad, alguien incluso mayor que su propio padre. 

El afecto y la atención de ese hombre satisficieron una necesidad válida en la vida de mi amigo, llenando los vacíos en su corazón. Sin embargo, para mí era irónico que el dolor resultante de un acto sexual ilegítimo hiciera que mi amigo se volviera a otro acto sexual ilegítimo para aliviar ese dolor. Mi amigo odiaba a su padre por haber cometido adulterio, pero cometió adulterio con aquel hombre mayor, puesto que él también estaba casado con una mujer y tenía una familia. 

¡La familia de aquel hombre también se destruyó cuando su adulterio salió a la luz! Ahí estaba mi amigo, tratando de hacer frente al dolor del adulterio cometido por su padre, solo que, al tratar de hacerlo, cometió adulterio de la misma manera como su padre lo había hecho, salvo que con un hombre. 

No estoy seguro si mi amigo alguna vez hizo la conexión entre lo que su padre le hizo a su familia y lo que él mismo había hecho a la familia de aquel hombre.

Estoy seguro de que mi amigo y si padre, e incluso aquel hombre mayor, estaban tratando de satisfacer sus necesidades legítimas, pero con métodos increíblemente inválidos, dejando a su paso un rastro de destrucción para los años por venir. Lo que cada una de las partes hizo fue cambiar un dolor por otro.

Otro amigo mío fue líder en el movimiento ex-gay por muchos años. Personalmente me ayudó de muchas maneras significativas al comienzo de mi propio viaje. 

Sin embargo, hace algunos años supe que volvió a la homosexualidad, abandonando en el proceso a su segunda esposa y a su familia. A su primera esposa la dejó antes de ser cristiano, lo hizo para seguir su homosexualidad. 

Aunque hizo mucho para ayudarme a mí y a muchos, su segundo matrimonio resultó ser muy difícil por múltiples razones, no solo por sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Cuando encontró a un hombre que captó su atención, decidió volver a la homosexualidad. Su nuevo interés lo convenció de que seguramente todo el tiempo estuvo leyendo las Escrituras de manera equivocada. 

Si yo no entendiera tan bien la conexión que hay entre el dolor y la tentación, me habría confundido su repentino cambio hacia esta “nueva” interpretación de las Escrituras, que lo condujo a creer que la homosexualidad ahora es algo correcto, pero que respetar sus compromisos de largo plazo con su esposa y su familia ya no era necesario. 

Una cosa es pensar que está bien ser gay, pero otra es usar esa creencia como justificación para abandonar las otras partes de la Escritura que ya entiendes como verdad. (O, como Mark Twain suele ser citado diciendo: “Las partes que no entiendo de la Biblia no son las que me molestan, sino las que sí entiendo”).

Aunque mi amigo dice que ahora se siente más libre que antes, y estoy seguro de que así es, puedo imaginar que su esposa y su familia sentirán el aguijón de su decisión durante años. 

No estoy lanzando piedras a mi amigo. Ya te he confesado que sé cómo es tener tanto dolor al punto de vernos tentados a dejar todo lo que hemos aprendido, o enseñado, o creído, o escuchado, o leído en la Palabra de Dios, para encontrar alivio. Lo entiendo. De verdad que sí lo entiendo. 

Pero también me entristece el corazón cada vez que escucho que algo como esto sucede porque, con la correcta sabiduría de Dios, el apoyo de una sólida iglesia local, y el toque de algunos amigos amorosos, se podría evitar mucho de este trágico dolor.

NO TODOS TIENEN UNA LANA

Algunos pueden pensar que pude manejar mejor que otros mis atracciones hacia el mismo sexo gracias a que mi crianza fue muy positiva o porque tuve a alguien como Lana a mi lado. Estoy seguro de que las personas que dicen esto tienen algo de razón. Sí creo que esas cosas me han ayudado mucho, y siento mucha gratitud por ello.

Recuerdo que un día compartí con una persona cómo había dejado la homosexualidad y me había casado con Lana, la mujer de mis sueños. Esta persona nos conocía a Lana y a mí, y dijo: “Sí, pero no todos tienen una Lana”. 

Su afirmación me hizo callar por unos días y tomé tiempo para considerar lo que dijo y dejar que la verdad de sus palabras penetrara. 

Ella tenía razón. No todos tienen una Lana en sus vidas, y eso lo lamento mucho. Pero después de otros días considerándolo, comprendí otra verdad: ¡Yo tampoco contaba más con Lana! 

¿Cómo lo estaba logrando, y cómo iba a continuar lográndolo sin esa increíble compañera de vida a mi lado? Bueno, lo estoy logrando porque voy a seguir haciendo lo que Dios me ha mostrado que debo hacer, con o sin Lana a mi lado. Verás, no se trata de tener o no tener a Lana (¡por mucho que quisiera que muchos tuvieran a alguien así a su lado!)

Se trata de encontrar la “salida” de Dios para escapar de las nubes de la tentación cuando se presenten, una vía de salida que Dios ha prometido proveer siempre. Como dice la Biblia: “No os ha sobrevenido ninguna tentación que no sea humana; pero fiel es Dios, que no os dejará ser tentados más de lo que podéis resistir, sino que dará también juntamente con la tentación la salida, para que podáis soportar” (1 Corintios 10:13).

Claro que Lana me ayudó, pero Dios también ha provisto otras “salidas”.

Incluso en las horas más oscuras de mi vida, Dios ha provisto una salida por medio de Su Palabra, por medio de Su Iglesia, y por medio de algunos amigos cristianos maduros, incluyendo a Lana. 

Cuando no pude encontrar la salida por mí mismo, Dios respondió a nuestras oraciones ayudándome a encontrarla. 

Dios puede usar toda clase de cosas para darnos una vía de escape, pero estas tres son especialmente útiles: permanecer en Su Palabra, permanecer en Su Iglesia, y permanecer en comunión con amigos maduros en Cristo.

¡TÚ PUEDES AYUDAR!

¡Aquí es donde tú entras! Tú puedes ser el amigo que tus seres queridos necesitan cuando están enfrentando momentos de dolor y sufrimiento. 

Tú puedes ser su verdadero “alivio para el dolor”, no diciéndoles que “sigan” algo que podría darles algún alivio temporal, pero a la larga podría causarles más dolor que nunca.

Tú puedes caminar al lado de tus seres queridos durante sus tiempos de mayor necesidad.

Una de las mayores tragedias que escucho estos días es cuando cristianos aparentemente firmes y de muchos años en el Señor sienten que no tienen un amigo o familiar en quien puedan confiar de verdad. 

Hace poco se conoció la noticia que un famoso cantante cristiano se declaró gay, afectando con esto a su esposa, sus seguidores y sus amigos. Ninguna de estas personas más cercanas a él tenía alguna idea de que por años él había luchado con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Para mí, la parte más triste de su historia fue que él sentía que no tenía a nadie con quien pudiera compartir sus luchas. No es que las personas alrededor de él no hubiesen estado dispuestas a ayudarlo si él se abría con ellas, sino que, por alguna razón, él sintió que no podía ser honesto con ellos. 

Para cuando finalmente les confesó sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo a su esposa, a su familia y amigos, ya estaba completamente comprometido con dejar a su familia en involucrarse de lleno en la homosexualidad. En ese punto ya no había retorno para él, y el oleaje que provocó cuando golpeó las aguas de la homosexualidad sigue teniendo impacto hoy.

En una entrevista después de haber publicado sus inclinaciones, este cantante dijo que se sentía muy aliviado del dolor que había mantenido escondido por años, y luego añadió: “Ya no creo que Dios me odia”. 

Aunque me alegra que sepa ahora que Dios no lo odia, la verdad es que Dios nunca lo odió. Dios lo amó incluso en medio de sus luchas secretas con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Por alguna razón, había creído una mentira, pensando que, debido a sus atracciones, Dios debía odiarlo, cuando la verdad era que Dios lo había amado todo el tiempo, con o sin atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

Este cantante cambió la verdad de Dios por una mentira, y esa mentira lo condujo a dejar a su esposa y a su familia, pensando que les hacía un favor. Habiendo ocultado su lucha por tanto tiempo, nunca tuvo la oportunidad de beneficiarse con la luz. 

Te animo a que ayudes a tus seres queridos para que abran su corazón y expresen el dolor que están sintiendo. Dales permiso de hablar sobre la realidad que hay en sus corazones y mentes. Ofrece un oído atento si algún día quieren hablar, luego, cuando tengas la oportunidad, habla la verdad a sus vidas, en amor, siempre que observes que han dado lugar a una mentira.

Si te parece que estoy sonando una alarma al tratar de advertir a las personas que no sigan en la homosexualidad, ¡es porque lo estoy haciendo! Estoy tratando de advertirles, así como Dios trató de advertirme, ¡y tuvo éxito! 

Dios nos da sus advertencias por Su gran amor para con nosotros, no por Su gran odio hacia nosotros. Y Dios quiere que también advirtamos a los demás desde una posición de amor.

EL PROBLEMA CON EL PROBLEMA

Al terminar este capítulo, quiero compartir contigo una última historia acerca del dolor, y cómo éste puede llevar a las personas a hacer lo que nunca harían. 

Sin embargo, esta historia es sobre un personaje literario de ficción, un hombre que fue descubierto como gay muchos años después de la publicación de la serie de libros en la que aparecía. 

En estos libros, el hombre era presentado como un héroe, y la autora, al igual que muchos de los lectores de los libros, lo describía como “el epítome de la bondad”. 

Muchos años después de la publicación de los libros, la autora respondió a una pregunta acerca de los libros, y en su respuesta, hizo una delicada afirmación sobre su personaje, diciendo, “Siempre pensé en él como si fuera alguien gay”.

Esta afirmación impactó de muchas maneras a los lectores: algunos se regocijaron en que uno de sus personajes más queridos de toda la literatura era gay, aunque los otros se vieron sorprendidos fuera de guardia, tratando de ver cómo uno de sus personajes favoritos podía ser homosexual. La manera como este personaje es percibido ahora se ha visto alterada para siempre por el pequeño trozo de siete palabras que dijo la autora. 

Yo fui uno de esos lectores que fue sorprendido fuera de guardia. Pero al pensar más acerca de la afirmación del autor, y al considerar unos de los pasajes en los libros que describían su historia de vida, pude ver con certeza por qué podía ser gay, en especial a la luz de lo que decía sobre sus años de niñez. 

Al recordar su historia, este personaje describió de la siguiente manera el tiempo en su vida cuando supuestamente era gay: “Dos meses de locura, de sueños crueles y de rechazo por parte de los únicos dos miembros de mi familia que me quedaban… Él huyó mientras yo me quedé para enterrar a mi hermana y aprender a vivir con mi culpa, y mi terrible pena, el precio de mi vergüenza”.

Aunque esto viene de una obra de ficción, lo he visto pasar tantas veces en la realidad, como para saber que sus palabras describen, de manera muy poderosa, cómo el dolor nos puede llevar a cualquiera de nosotros a hacer cosas que nunca considerarías hacer en otras circunstancias. Si este personaje hubiese tenido un amigo como tú, su historia habría sido diferente. : )

Hay una razón por la cual las personas con dolor tratan de correr hacia cualquier cosa que tenga la posibilidad de aliviarlo. “El problema con el problema”, he oído decir, “es que por lo general comienza como algo muy divertido”. 

Pero no dejes que el dolor te impulse a ti o a tus amigos o familiares hacia algo que puede causar un dolor mucho más profundo al final, en especial cuando hay un mejor camino. 

Dios quiere ayudarnos a aliviar nuestro dolor, en el momento correcto, y quiere satisfacer nuestras necesidades legítimas, pero de maneras legítimas. 

Oro por que animes a tus amigos a hacer lo mismo. Quizás solo los salves de sufrir mucho más dolor. 

Como dice la Biblia: “Mis amados hermanos, si alguno de ustedes se aparta de la verdad y otro lo hace volver, pueden estar seguros de que quien haga volver al pecador de su mal camino salvará a esa persona de la muerte y traerá como resultado el perdón de muchos pecados” (Santiago 5:19-20).

Capítulo 10: La importancia del libre albedrío

Donde comparto la importancia de dejar que otros ejerzan su libre albedrío, así como Dios te permite ejercer el tuyo.

La mayoría de personas con quienes he hablado con respecto a atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, son personas que me han buscado. Me han escuchado hablar, o han leído mi testimonio, o han escuchado mi historia de parte de un amigo o familiar. 

La belleza de esto es que la mayoría de personas con quienes he hablado han querido escuchar lo que tengo para decir. Han estado intrigados por la idea de que quizás no tengan que seguir viviendo en algo que ni pidieron ni desearon. 

Esta puede ser una de las razones por las cuales la mayoría de personas con quienes he hablado ha encontrado que mi posición en este tema es de gran esperanza, porque a menudo desean tener en sus vidas la misma libertad que ven en la mía.

Pero también quiero relatarte unas historias acerca de unas de las pocas personas a quienes he buscado para hablar sobre este tema. 

Algunos de ellos han sido hombres con quienes tuve una relación en el pasado y quise compartir con ellos lo que Dios ha hecho por mí. 

Otros han sido amigos que seguían ese estilo de vida cuando yo estaba envuelto en la homosexualidad, pero con quienes no estuve involucrado íntimamente. 

Algunos han sido personas que he conocido a lo largo de mi vida, y por quienes me he sentido impulsado a compartir mi historia. 

Me alegra decir que casi siempre he encontrado una audiencia receptiva entre esas personas, por lo menos en un comienzo. No presiono, pero tampoco me contengo si están dispuestos a escuchar, y por lo general así es. Mis amigos me han escuchado relatar mi historia, y he escuchado sus más profundos pensamientos en respuesta. Siempre he apreciado esas oportunidades para compartir. 

Pero creo que también es importante que sepas que los resultados finales de muchas de estas conversaciones no han provocado ningún cambio externo en las vidas de esas personas, al menos no que yo los haya podido ver. 

Al momento de escribir esto, ninguno de mis antiguos compañeros sentimentales ha llegado a las mismas conclusiones que yo llegué. Ninguno de mis amigos gays de mi pasado en la homosexualidad ha tenido la misma experiencia transformadora que yo tuve, incluso después de haber escuchado a fondo mi historia y haber dedicado tiempo para orar juntos. Al comienzo de este libro, bromeé un poco al decir que solo se necesita un psicólogo para cambiar una bombilla “pero para hacerlo es necesario que la quiera cambiar”.

Aun así, me siento bien con el hecho de que he podido hablar con cada uno de esos hombres y compartir mi historia con ellos. Y, en varias ocasiones, he sentido que no fui solo yo el que quería compartir mi historia con ellos, sino Dios mismo el que organizó nuestros encuentros. 

Al relatarte estas historias, quiero animarte a seguir compartiéndolas con los que te rodean, no importa si ves o no resultados al hacerlo. También quiero animarte a compartirlas de una manera que honre y respete las decisiones que tus amigos y familiares han hecho y que no afecte la afectuosa amistad que tienes con ellos.

Como dice la Biblia, “Si tuviera el don de profecía y entendiera todos los planes secretos de Dios y contara con todo el conocimiento, y si tuviera una fe que me hiciera capaz de mover montañas, pero no amara a otros, yo no sería nada” (1 Corintios 13:2).

UNA CITA DIVINA

En una ocasión hice un viaje personal hasta el otro lado del país para visitar a un amigo y llevarlo a una conferencia para hombres. 

Antes de ese fin de semana, sentí que Dios me estaba animando a que compartiera mi testimonio con él. Él nunca había luchado con la homosexualidad, pero aun así sentí que, por el bien de nuestra amistad, era importante que compartiera con él esa parte importante de mi vida. 

Y pensé que ese era el fin de semana adecuado para hacerlo. Aunque estaba nervioso y renuente, estaba dispuesto a hacerlo. Después de encontrarnos, traté dos o tres veces de hablar del tema, pero nuestra conversación tomaba otro rumbo antes de que pudiera hacerlo.

Cuando llegó el momento de tomar mi vuelo de vuelta a casa, abordé el avión sintiéndome un poco desanimado porque no pude compartir con él lo que sentía que Dios había estado poniendo en mi corazón. 

Al tomar asiento en el avión para volver a casa, me pregunté por qué no había escuchado a Dios, y en ese momento un hombre se sentó a mi lado, abrió una Biblia de estudio grande de pasta dura y la puso en la bandeja frente a su silla. Era exactamente la primera Biblia de estudio que yo compré cuando llegué a Cristo hace muchos años. La mía ya estaba desgastada y andrajosa, pero la de él se veía fresca y deslumbrantemente nueva. La tenía abierta en la primera página del primer libro del Nuevo Testamento, el libro de Mateo.

Miré para ver quién estaba a mi lado, y, para mi asombro, ¡era un amigo con quien había ido a la universidad hacía unos 15 años! 

En ese entonces los dos sabíamos que éramos homosexuales, e incluso hablamos de tener un encuentro íntimo una noche. Pero momentos antes de hacerlo, algo me detuvo por completo. 

Me excusé diciéndole que por alguna razón no me sentía bien de hacerlo. Nunca supe por qué, y nunca tuve una relación sexual con él. Sin embargo, seguimos siendo amigos, y de vez en cuando nos encontrábamos mientras estuvimos en la universidad. 

Al estar a su lado en ese avión, busqué en el fondo de mi cerebro para tratar de recordar su nombre. Cuando finalmente lo recordé, lo dije de inmediato en voz alta. 

Él me miró y también dijo mi nombre, ¡y no sé cuál de los dos quedó más sorprendido de estar sentados “al azar” uno al lado del otro en ese avión!

Le pregunté por la Biblia que tenía abierta en la bandeja frente a él. 

Me dijo que su madre se la había dado justo antes de subir al avión, ella pensaba que él debía leerla. Por años, ella había estado orando por él, esperando ayudarlo a ordenar su vida. Me dijo que ni siquiera sabía por dónde comenzar porque nunca antes había leído la Biblia. Es por eso que la tenía abierta en el primer libro del Nuevo Testamento, porque vio que ahí era donde se encontraban los relatos acerca de Jesús. 

Le dije que ese era un excelente punto de partida, que yo tenía la misma Biblia y que las palabras de Jesús en el libro de Mateo habían cambiado mi vida para siempre, sacándome de la homosexualidad para mi bien. (La historia de los hombres ciegos en Mateo, capítulo 9, donde Jesús les preguntó: “¿Creen que puedo sanarlos?”)

Después de mi decepcionante fin de semana, sintiéndome bloqueado a cada intento de compartir mi testimonio con mi otro amigo, quedé asombrado al ver que, en mi viaje de regreso, esta puerta se había abierto de par en par, ¡con una mesa servida por Dios mismo para los dos! 

Mi amigo también estaba sorprendido y ansioso por escuchar lo que yo tenía para decirle, y, si yo hubiera escuchado con suficiente atención, probablemente habría escuchado a su madre decir algunos “amén” y “aleluya” en la distancia, sabiendo que Dios sin duda respondería sus oraciones tan pronto como su hijo abriera ese libro tan especial. 

Su madre no habría podido imaginarse que Dios iba a proveer un Testamento Viviente como compañero de viaje para su hijo en ese mismo momento, alguien que podría confirmar y dar testimonio de lo que él estaba a punto de leer en el Nuevo Testamento. 

Compartí mi historia como él, así como lo he hecho contigo en este libro.

Él estuvo muy atento durante todo el vuelo, hizo preguntas, relató historias, y compartió las alegrías y frustraciones de ser gay en la ciudad donde vivía. 

Terminamos nuestro tiempo juntos con una oración y un abrazo, cada uno siguió su camino, todavía sorprendidos por la Cita Divina que Dios había organizado. 

Yo había estado sintiendo la fuerte necesidad de compartir mi historia ese fin de semana, pero no lo hice con mi amigo que fue a la conferencia de varones, y que nunca había luchado con la homosexualidad. Lo hice con un amigo de mucho tiempo atrás, quien estuvo muy abierto a mi mensaje y había estado involucrado activamente en la homosexualidad hasta ese mismo día.

CONFIANDO EN DIOS

Quisiera poder decirte que la vida de mi amigo cambió dramáticamente durante los días siguientes a nuestro encuentro, y que ha elegido seguir a Cristo, así como yo lo hice. Pero hasta donde tengo conocimiento, eso no sucedió aquel día, y todavía no ha sucedido. 

Sin embargo, no puedo evitar pensar que Dios tenía algo en mente para que yo lo compartiera ese día, porque hizo algo que yo solo nunca habría podido orquestar. Y, como ya lo he dicho, me tomó años cambiar mi manera de pensar sobre este tema hasta ese día cuando todo lo que había escuchado hasta ese punto, finalmente surtió efecto. 

Debo confiar que el mismo Dios que organizó esa Cita Divina en el avión la usará de alguna manera para atraer a mi amigo hacía Él cuánto sea posible. 

También sé que Dios les da a las personas libre albedrío, la libertad de tomar sus propias decisiones en cuanto a lo que van a hacer con sus vidas y los caminos que van a seguir. Como Bruce le dice a Dios en la película Bruce Todopoderoso: 

“¿Cómo puedes hacer que alguien te ame sin afectar su libre albedrío?” 

“Bienvenido a Mi mundo, hijo”, responde Dios. “Encuentra la respuesta a esa pregunta, y hablamos.”

El libre albedrío es una de las cosas más hermosas, pero más difíciles que le podemos ofrecer a alguien. Pero Dios nos lo da a cada uno de nosotros con tanta libertad, y creo que Él quiere que nosotros hagamos lo mismo, incluso cuando sea muy difícil hacerlo.

VERDADEROS AMIGOS

He hecho muchos otros viajes, algunos por negocios y otros por placer, a varias otras ciudades del mundo, donde he podido hablar con algunos de mis viejos amigos gays. 

En cada una de esas reuniones hemos podido renovar nuestra amistad, animarnos el uno al otro por compartir juntos, y he podido compartir mi historia con ellos, así como lo hice con mi amigo de la universidad en ese avión. 

En algunas ocasiones he podido seguir en contacto con mis amigos, ya sea por teléfono, correo electrónico o por redes sociales. Pero al haber compartido mi testimonio con ellos, y a su vez haber escuchado sus historias, por lo general no he vuelto a hablar del tema. He dejado las conversaciones en su lado de la cancha, para mantener viva nuestra genuina amistad, y sabiendo que, si algún día quieren hablar más, pueden hacerlo. 

Por mucho que quisiera que las cosas positivas en mi vida afectaran positivamente a mis amigos, en realidad aprecio mi amistad por lo que ellos son, no por lo que puedo lograr en ellos o incluso lo que creo que tengo para ofrecerles. 

Si somos amigos con las personas solo con el fin de evangelizar, o solo para convertirlos a nuestro punto de vista, debo preguntar si de verdad somos verdaderos amigos. 

Los verdaderos amigos les dan a los demás el espacio para tener sus propios pensamientos y convicciones, incluso si esos pensamientos y convicciones difieren dramáticamente de los propios. Como un amigo me dijo una vez: “No sacrifiques a otros en el altar de tus creencias”.

Aunque me apasionan mis convicciones, y me encantaría que todos eligieran el camino que yo he elegido, también trato de respetar el libre albedrío que los demás tienen para tomar sus propias decisiones en la vida. 

Después de compartir en una ocasión con alguien, sigo dispuesto a seguir hablando más con esa persona, en especial si Dios me impulsa a hacerlo. Pero también quiero respetar la genuina amistad que compartimos, y no hago que sea condicional dependiendo de si ellos aceptan lo que creo, o que yo acepte lo que ellos creen. 

Hay algo liberador y de gozo en las relaciones que de verdad son incondicionales, así nuestras intenciones sean buenas al querer que nuestros amigos lleguen a nuestro punto de vista.

Comparto estas historias contigo para animarte a compartir tus pensamientos y sentimientos con tu familia y amigos, incluso en temas sensibles como este, haciéndolo con prudencia, y en especial si sientes que Dios ha abierto la puerta para que lo hagas. 

No tengas miedo de decirles a tus amigos y familiares lo que piensas. Eso es parte lo que hace que nuestras relaciones sean tan genuinas, reales y significativas. 

También quiero animarte a darles a tus amigos y familiares el espacio que pueden necesitar para llegar a sus propias conclusiones, respetando y honrando su libre albedrío de seguir o no el camino que les sugieres, así como esperas que ellos respeten y honren tu libre albedrío de seguir o no el camino que ellos sugieren. 

Creo que, si nunca lo has intentado, encontrarás que es algo liberador hacerlo. Veo que cada situación será diferente, desde luego, y no puedo decir que mi enfoque sea el mejor o el único. Pero sí puedo decir que me ha ayudado a mantener las puertas abiertas para conversaciones futuras, y a mantener mis relaciones intactas mucho mejor que cuando he tratado de hacerlo de otra manera.

En una ocasión, una mujer confrontó al evangelista D.L. Moody, diciéndole: “No me gusta mucho su método de evangelismo”.

A lo cual Moody respondió: “A mí tampoco me gusta mucho mi método. Dígame ¿cuál es el suyo?”

Ella dijo: “No tengo ninguno”.

A lo cual Moody respondió: “¡Entonces me gusta más mi método!”

Mi método puede no ser tú método, ¡pero oro porque pruebes alguno! 

Quizás nunca en tu vida le hayas expresado a otra persona tus pensamientos en cuanto a este tema (o es probable que nunca en tu vida tampoco le hayas compartido a alguien lo que piensas acerca de Cristo). 

De ser así, ¿puedo animarte a que consideres hacerlo? 

Quizás Dios no te haya tocado en esa área de tu vida como lo hizo conmigo, pero creo que sí lo ha hecho en otros aspectos. Y puedo imaginar, si has llegado hasta este punto del libro, que también conoces el poder de Dios y sabes que él puede hacer cualquier cosa, nada le es imposible.

Quizás tengas una fe inquebrantable en Dios, y en la Palabra de Dios como está en la Biblia, y hay personas que necesitan escuchar de tu fe inquebrantable. Es posible que no conozcas todas las respuestas sobre la homosexualidad, pero para cuando termines de leer este libro, espero que puedas tener mucho más para ofrecer, comparado con lo que tenías antes. 

De ser así, ¿puedo animarte a hablar de lo que sí sabes, o escribirlo, de modo que otra persona pueda escuchar lo que tienes para decir? Y cuando lo digas, hazlo con seguridad, pero dilo con respeto hacia el libre albedrío de las otras personas, así como esperarías que ellos respeten tu libertad para decidir.

Como me dijo un amigo en una ocasión, y vale la pena repetirlo ahora: “No sacrifiques a otros en el altar de tus creencias”.

CONVERSACIÓN CON ADOLESCENTES

Quiero relatarte otra historia para animarte a comprender que, si compartes lo que piensas acerca de este tema, eso puede transformar una vida, incluso con los que no te han pedido que les expreses tu opinión.

Una noche, después de haberme ido a la cama, cerca de las 11 p.m., recibí una llamada. Era un pastor que conocía muy bien, así que contesté. 

Acababa de encontrar a tres adolescentes de su iglesia que estaban involucrados en una relación de trío. Ellos y sus padres se habían quedado en la iglesia para organizar algunas cosas después de un evento, y fue durante ese tiempo que se presentó el encuentro. 

Cuando el pastor me llamó, los padres todavía estaban allá, los chicos seguían allá, al igual que el pastor y su esposa. Me estaban llamando para preguntarme si podía ir a su iglesia para ayudarlos a saber qué hacer. Ahora, ¡esto sin duda iba a ser incómodo para todos los involucrados!

Conduje hasta su iglesia y entré al lugar de reunión donde se encontraban los tres avergonzados adolescentes sentados junto a sus tres parejas de confundidos padres, quienes estaban junto a su pastor y su esposa quienes deseaban ayudar, pero no sabían bien qué hacer. ¡Y se suponía que yo debía tener todas las respuestas a sus preguntas! 

Lo asombroso es que Dios sí me dio algunas respuestas aquella noche, y pudimos avanzar en medio de la situación con la mayor sabiduría y gracia posible. 

Hablé a todo el grupo, luego hablé con los adolescentes, luego con los padres y el pastor y su esposa. Programé reuniones personales para la semana siguiente con cada uno de los adolescentes, además de una reunión de seguimiento con cada pareja de padres, luego otra reunión con todos los adolescentes juntos. (Esta no es una fórmula, solo pensé en compartir cómo abordamos esa incómoda situación tanto aquella noche como en las semanas siguientes).

Después de escuchar sus historias y compartir la mía, cada uno de los adolescentes dijo que estaba dispuesto a seguir un camino diferente al que estaban siguiendo la noche cuando fueron sorprendidos. 

En los años siguientes a ese evento, esos tres chicos terminaron casándose con tres mujeres maravillosas, y todos están empezando sus propias familias. Aunque fue incómodo para ellos el haber sido sorprendidos, no puedo evitar pensar que la gracia de Dios permitió que eso sucediera. 

Gracias a Dios, en gran parte debido a que un pastor que oró y actuó para ayudarlos a ellos y a sus padres, que estaban dispuestos a acompañarlos en medio de ese tiempo crítico de sus vidas, estos jóvenes ahora están viviendo la vida que ellos creen, y yo creo, que Dios los llamó a vivir.

Aunque esos adolescentes no pidieron mi opinión, pudieron adoptarla cuando la escucharon, y sus vidas fueron transformadas en el proceso.

¿PROHIBIENDO LA CONVERSACIÓN CON ADOLESCENTES?

He compartido esta historia para animarte a entender que tus palabras y acciones pueden hacer una diferencia, incluso con personas que no han pedido tu ayuda. 

Pero también he compartido este relato contigo porque en los últimos años ha habido un movimiento que prohíbe a las personas hablar de esta manera con los adolescentes, evitando que ellos reciban el mismo tipo de sabiduría y respaldo que yo pude darles a esas familias aquella noche. 

Hace pocos años, aquí en mi propio estado, una ley fue presentada para votación, la cual prohibía a los consejeros profesionales licenciados sugerir a cualquier persona menor de 18 años lo que yo les sugerí a esos chicos aquella noche: que no tenían que ser homosexuales si eso no es lo que querían para sus vidas, y que no estaban atrapados en los sentimientos o actividades que los condujeron a ese punto la noche que fueron sorprendidos.

Según esta ley, cualquier profesional en salud mental estaría obligado a no dar información a un menor de 18 años a quien estuviera aconsejando, indicándole que sí existe la posibilidad de cambiar, así ese menor le dijera que quiere ayuda en ese sentido, e incluso si los padres firmaran un consentimiento para que el consejero pueda ofrecer ese tipo de ayuda. 

Es más, los consejeros profesionales tampoco estarían autorizados para remitir esos clientes a otra persona que pudiera ofrecer ese tipo de ayuda o consejo, ni siquiera si el cliente pidiera específicamente esa información, de lo contrario, el consejero profesional se vería “sujeto a acciones disciplinarias por parte de las respectivas autoridades licenciantes”. Me sorprendió que una propuesta de ley como esa hubiera llegado tan lejos. 

Aunque no soy consejero profesional licenciado, he visto bastantes cambios positivos en las vidas de personas como estos tres adolescentes, sin mencionar los cientos de adultos, de los cuales la mayoría alcanzaron sus metas de no permitir que sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo controlaran sus futuros si querían procurar un resultado diferente para sus vidas. 

Algunas personas dicen que este es el derecho a la auto determinación, el derecho a decidir tu propio futuro y cómo va a ser. En algunos aspectos, yo lo llamaría libre albedrío. 

Aunque esta propuesta de ley estaba bajo consideración, supe que el representante de mi distrito estaba preguntándose cómo votar y que estaba dispuesto a escuchar opiniones de parte de sus electores. 

Llamé a su oficina y dejé un mensaje hablando de los cambios positivos que he visto en mi propia vida y en las vidas de muchos otros que conozco, incluso personas que vivían en su propio distrito. 

Él no tardó en devolver la llamada para hablar un poco más al respecto, y escuchó atentamente lo que yo tenía que decir. 

Luego preguntó: “¿Qué de aquellas personas que afirman que este tipo de consejería es perjudicial?

Yo le dije: “También he escuchado a otros decir eso, y estoy seguro de que hay quienes han sido heridos por toda clase de consejería en todo tipo de formas. Pero en mis 30 años de experiencia hablando con cientos de personas que han luchado con las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, no he encontrado una sola vez que ese sea el caso. Por el contrario, las personas con las que he hablado se han sentido esperanzadas, en muchos casos por primera vez en sus vidas, al escuchar que sí tienen una opción, que de verdad pueden vivir el tipo de vidas que quieren vivir”. 

Al día siguiente me sentí agradecido de ver que él votó como yo esperaba que lo hiciera, lo cual para mí era una sencilla decisión de dar a las personas el derecho de la autodeterminación. 

Desafortunadamente la ley fue aprobada de todas formas, y en muchos otros estados se han presentado propuestas de leyes similares, cortando así el derecho que cualquier persona menor de 18 años tiene para recibir ayuda con algo en lo que se siente atrapada y no puede encontrar la salida por sí sola.

LA IDEA DE DIOS

Encuentro irónico que la mujer que presentó esta propuesta de ley en nuestro estado es una lesbiana que ha dedicado años a luchar, y ganar, por el derecho a seguir el camino que ella considera mejor para su propia vida, pero ahora quería restringir a otros para que no siguieran el camino que ellos consideran mejor para sus vidas. 

Si queremos que los demás respeten nuestro libre albedrío, debemos respetar el de ellos. Creo que, si esa mujer honestamente se interesara en la salud mental de los niños, habría buscado ofrecerles todo el rango de libertades por las que ella ha luchado y ganado para sí misma. Pero en lugar de hacerlo, ahora estaba sacrificando a los demás en el altar de sus creencias.

Aunque me entristece saber que a nadie se le puede pedir que contra su voluntad reciba consejería para cambiar sus inclinaciones sexuales, también me entristecen restricciones como estas que prohíben que las personas que sí quieren ayuda no la puedan obtener de parte de quienes la pueden dar, ¡o incluso que no puedan obtener una remisión a alguien que pueda dar ese tipo de ayuda!

Hay quienes sienten que es malo restringir los derechos de los que quieren seguir con sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, así que para mí es igual de malo restringir los derechos de quienes no quieren seguir sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, aquellas personas que de verdad quieren ayuda para alcanzar sus propias metas. 

En lugar de ser perjudiciales, de acuerdo con la pregunta del representante, he encontrado, según mi propia experiencia y la de cientos de personas con quienes he hablado personalmente, que, para muchas, muchas personas, esas conversaciones y consejos han sido útiles, de esperanza y de vida. 

El libre albedrío no es solo una buena idea, es la idea de Dios.

Aunque Dios tiene planes para cada una de nuestras vidas, nos permite elegir por nosotros mismos si hemos de seguir sus planes o no. 

Como Josué le dijo al pueblo de Israel: “Por lo tanto, teme al Señor y sírvelo con todo el corazón… Pero si te niegas a servir al Señor, elige hoy mismo a quién servirás… Pero en cuanto a mí y a mi familia, nosotros serviremos al Señor” (Josué 24:14-15, NTV).

MANTENIENDO LAS AMISTADES

Aunque tengo convicciones firmes en cuanto a lo que creo, aun así, sigo teniendo amistad con personas que piensan diferente, incluso en este tema. ¡No tengo problema con eso! ¡Son mis amigos! 

El simple hecho de que mis amigos y yo tengamos creencias diferentes sobre ciertos temas, no impide que comparta lo que pienso con ellos. Pero como son mis amigos, tampoco trato de atacarlos por eso. No hablo mal de ellos en las redes sociales. No les envío artículos airados para expresar mis frustraciones y lo ridículos que me parecen por tener esas creencias. 

Quizás tú tengas otro enfoque con tus amigos. De ser así, con gusto respeto tu libre albedrío, ¡también! Sólo quiero estar seguro de que has pensado detenidamente y orado con respecto a ese enfoque, asegurándote de que honre y respete el libre albedrío de las personas que estás tratando de alcanzar. 

Cualquier diferencia que pueda haber entre mi metodología y la de otros puede basarse en estilo o personalidad, o sólo en hacer seguimiento a lo que es, y lo que no es efectivo para mí. Pero quería compartir contigo lo que hago, y lo que no hago, porque considero que es muy posible tener una discusión abierta y civilizada sobre temas como estos, dando espacio para que otros ejerzan su libre albedrío, así como Dios me permitió ejercerlo. 

Si lo que estoy diciendo respecto a honrar y respetar el libre albedrío de los demás no suena como gran cosa, lo siento. ¡No lo es! Y de hecho no promuevo el punto de vista que afirma que todas las creencias son iguales. 

Pero como ya lo he dicho, dentro del entorno de las ideas, creo que las creencias que tengo se pueden defender por sí solas, e incluso prevalecer. Es por eso que considero de gran valor que compartamos esas ideas. 

Sin embargo, también creo que esas ideas las debemos expresar con civismo y amabilidad, y con afecto y amor mutuo, en especial hacia las personas que son difíciles de amar.

Quisiera que todos pudieran experimentar lo que yo he experimentado al poner mi fe en Jesús. Quisiera que todos pudieran experimentar lo que yo he experimentado desde que salí de la homosexualidad. Pero tampoco voy a retorcerme si alguien no quiere experimentar lo que yo he vivido, así yo desee mucho que esa persona lo viva. No todos quieren cambiar. 

Para algunos, volver al closet es como volver a una jaula. Para otros, tener que seguir viviendo algo que nunca pidieron ni desearon, también es como volver a una jaula. Nadie quiere sentirse atrapado en una jaula. Y esa es la belleza del libre albedrío. Nadie tiene que sentirse así. 

Aunque Dios podría forzar a todos a que hicieran Su voluntad, Él es un Caballero y nos permite elegir por nosotros mismos el camino que hemos de seguir.

Cuando hables con tus familiares y amigos, te animo a que lo hagas como yo suelo animar a las personas a quienes he ministrado, y a los legisladores en su intento por gobernar bien al pueblo: dales a las personas el mismo libre albedrío, el mismo derecho a determinar sus propios futuros, así como Dios te lo dio a ti.

Guías de estudio para los capítulos 9 y 10

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 9: “ALGUNAS PALABRAS ACERCA DEL DOLOR”

Resumen del Capítulo

El dolor puede llevarnos a considerar hacer cosas que quizás nunca hayamos pensado hacer. Incluso Jesús enfrentó unas de sus peores tentaciones la noche de su muerte. 

El autor menciona cuatro cosas que lo ayudaron en medio de un tiempo cuando enfrentó algo de su más profundo dolor:

  • pidió oración,
  • leyó las Escrituras,
  • fue a la iglesia,
  • y habló con un amigo.

Cada una de esas actividades llevó fruto, puesto que esas oraciones fueron respondidas, la Palabra cobró vida y recibió ánimo en su iglesia y con su amigo.

Cuando la verdad finalmente penetró, sus tentaciones y la oscuridad desaparecieron. Durante ese tiempo, el autor escuchó uno de los mejores consejos que ha escuchado con respecto a las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, cuando su pastor dijo: “Si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien.”

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Lucas 22:39-46. ¿Qué les dijo Jesús a sus discípulos que debían hacer para no caer en tentación? Cuando pudo verse tentado a hacer otra cosa, ¿qué hizo Jesús para mantenerse fiel al camino que Su Padre había trazado para Él? ¿De qué manera este pasaje describe la angustia misma de Jesús en medio de ese momento tan difícil?

Lee Santiago 5:19-20. ¿Qué dice el Apóstol Santiago que sucederá siempre que ayudemos a alguien a alejarse del pecado?

¿Por qué el dolor tienta a las personas a considerar hacer cosas que quizás nunca antes consideraron hacer? 

¿Qué cosas podemos hacer para protegernos de las tentaciones cuando estemos en medio del dolor? ¿Qué podemos hacer por otros para ayudar a protegerlos de las tentaciones cuando enfrenten dolor? 

¿Alguna vez has conocido a alguien que al estar en medio del dolor tomó una mala decisión respecto a sus tentaciones? ¿Alguna vez has tomado una mala decisión, o te has visto tentado a hacerlo, estando en dolor? 

¿Qué sucede cuando alguien hace algo que Dios dice que no debemos hacer? ¿Por qué el pecado siempre es una opción destructiva a largo plazo, y no sólo una segunda o tercera mejor opción? 

¿Alguna vez has experimentado la verdad de esta afirmación?: “El problema con los problemas es que por lo general comienzan como algo muy divertido.” De ser así, ¿cuál fue el resultado? ¿De qué manera el “pensar cómo salir” en lugar de solo “sentir que debes salir”, ha cambiado el resultado?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 10: “LA IMPORTANCIA DEL LIBRE ALBEDRÍO”

Resumen del Capítulo

¿Cómo interactuamos con personas que se aferran a sus más profundas convicciones, así como nosotros nos aferramos a las nuestras? El autor hace tres sugerencias:

  • sigue siendo útil y bueno expresar nuestras creencias, puesto que esa es la manera como los verdaderos amigos y familiares pueden aprender mejor el uno del otro.
  • después de compartir el uno con el otro sus convicciones más profundas, también es de utilidad y bueno respetar el libre albedrío que los demás tienen para elegir y mantenerse firmes en sus propias decisiones.
  • es importante mantener abierta la puerta de la comunicación para conversaciones futuras sobre el tema.

El autor dice que gran parte del éxito que ha tenido en sus conversaciones con quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, posiblemente se debe al hecho de que la mayoría de personas con las que interactúa lo han buscado a él. Entre las personas a las que él se ha acercado para conversar sobre el tema, en lugar de que haya sido a la inversa, a menudo ha encontrado amables oyentes, pero poco cambio, a menos que la persona de verdad quiera cambiar.

Si bien el autor entiende que otros pueden tomar enfoques diferentes a sus conversaciones sobre este tema, también afirma que algunos quizás no tengan ningún enfoque en absoluto. Él anima a las personas a considerar al menos algún método para interactuar con sus amigos y familiares con respecto a este tema. 

El autor también relata la historia de tres jóvenes que no pidieron su ayuda, pero cuyos padres y pastor sí lo hicieron, y cómo Dios usó lo que él compartió para traer nueva dirección a sus vidas. 

Él añade que, aunque hay quienes pueden decir que es perjudicial obligar a las personas a cambiar, es igualmente perjudicial impedir que obtengan ayuda para alcanzar sus propias metas en la vida, así como muchos gays también han luchado y ganado el derecho a seguir y alcanzar sus propias metas. 

El autor concluye con las palabras de un amigo, que resumen cómo podemos respetar el libre albedrío de cada persona: “No sacrifiques a los demás en el altar de tus creencias”.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee 1 Corintios 13:2. ¿De qué manera este pasaje se aplica a nuestras interacciones con las personas que quieren seguir sin restricción sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo? ¿Cómo podemos expresar nuestro amor, incluso cuando no estamos de acuerdo con algo que hace una persona?

Lee Josué 24:15. ¿Qué dice Josué en este pasaje respecto a darles a los demás la libertad de ejercer su propio libre albedrío? ¿Qué dice Josué respecto a ejercer su propio libre albedrío, sin importar lo que los demás puedan decir? ¿Cómo podemos aplicar este principio a las conversaciones con nuestros seres queridos y con quienes podemos discrepar respecto a las decisiones que tomamos en nuestras vidas?

Aunque el autor bromeaba respecto a la cantidad de psicólogos que se necesitan para cambiar una bombilla, ¿Qué verdad puede haber en el remate del chiste: “Es necesario que la bombilla de verdad quiera cambiar”? Si las personas no quieren hacer cambios en sus vidas, o no creen que esos cambios sean posibles, ¿qué probabilidades hay de que de verdad cambien? ¿Cómo las historias en este libro pueden ayudar a alguien a desear ese tipo de cambio o a creer que sí es posible cambiar?

¿Alguna vez te has sentido impulsado por Dios a hacer algo? Y, en comparación, ¿alguna vez te has sentido obligado por Dios a hacer algo, pero no necesariamente impulsado? ¿Encontraste alguna diferencia en los resultados? 

¿Por qué Dios a veces quiere que compartamos una verdad con otra persona, aunque no veamos ningún resultado al hacerlo? 

¿Qué le preguntó D.L. Moody a una mujer que le dijo que no le gustaba su método de alcanzar a otros? Después de escuchar su respuesta, ¿por qué dijo él que prefería su propio método? ¿Y cómo es en tu caso? ¿Qué método has encontrado efectivo para amar a los gays? 

Habiendo leído hasta este punto del libro, ¿qué ideas prácticas has encontrado respecto a amar mejor a los gays? 

Habiendo leído hasta este punto del libro, ¿qué piensas respecto a la idea de los legisladores de impedir que las personas que no quieren seguir sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo obtengan ayuda para alcanzar sus metas? ¿Qué piensas en cuanto a la idea de que los adolescentes en particular en muchos estados ahora no puedan recibir ayuda en esta área? 

Aunque quizás queramos que otros experimenten lo que nosotros hemos disfrutado en nuestra vida, y aunque puede ser útil y bueno compartir con otros nuestras experiencias, ¿por qué es importante dejar que los demás ejerzan su propio libre albedrío con respecto a lo que hemos compartido? ¿Qué beneficios podría traer el siguiente consejo: “No sacrifiques a otros en el altar de tus creencias”?

Capítulo 11: La importancia de los cinturones de seguridad

Donde comparto acerca de la importancia de usar nuestros cinturones de seguridad, en especial ahora que el péndulo sobre este tema está moviéndose tan rápido.

Hace unos meses, una buena amiga mía me estaba animando a orar por la persona que Dios podía traer a mi vida como posible esposa para la siguiente etapa de mi vida. 

Sin embargo, observé que cuando lo mencionaba, se refería a mi futura esposa como “tu persona”. “Ora por tu persona”, o “anhelo conocer a tu persona” o “quizás tu persona es alguien que ya conoces”. 

No pensé mucho en su elección de palabras hasta que leí un artículo de una mujer que estaba en una relación con otra persona del mismo sexo y que describió a su compañera como “mi persona”. 

Así que la siguiente vez que hablé con mi amiga, le dije: “He notado que siempre que te refieres a mi posible futura esposa, nunca usas la palabra ‘ella’, sino que usas ‘tu persona’. Solo quiero saber si lo haces de manera intencional, y si es así, ¿es porque piensas que ‘mi persona’ podría ser una mujer o un hombre?”

Mi amiga hizo una pausa por un momento y pensó seriamente en mi pregunta, lo cual también hizo que me detuviera y tratara de llenar los espacios en blanco por mí mismo: “Después de todo lo que conoce de mí, ¿ella de verdad piensa que Dios ahora querría que me case con un hombre en lugar de hacerlo con una mujer?”

En lugar de responder de inmediato, dijo que le gustaría orar al respecto por unos días y luego volver a darme su respuesta.

Pocos días después lo hizo. Me envió una nota diciendo, entre otras cosas sinceras y amables: “Creo que puedes tener la relación que desees a la profundidad que quieras con cualquier hombre o mujer con quien compartas una atracción mutua. Estoy contigo. Te apoyo, cualquiera sea tu elección”.

Aunque ella era sincera con sus palabras, y sabía que lo que estaba diciendo podía sorprenderme, lo que no supo fue lo devastadoras que fueron sus palabras después de leerlas, me desanimaron por completo y me hirieron. 

Es como si estuviera negado todo lo que Dios había hablado a mi vida en cuanto a este tema; así como las miles de horas que había pasado orando al respecto; o los cientos de conversaciones que he tenido con personas que han buscado mi ayuda para liberarse de las atracciones hacia el mismo sexo; o la gran cantidad de charlas que he dado y artículos que he escrito y libros que he publicado, cada uno exigiendo un gran costo para mí mismo y mi familia; es como si ella estuviera negando mi matrimonio con Lana y el nacimiento de mis seis hijos; y negara la conversación más significante y transformadora que he tenido con Dios en toda mi vida, la conversación que me hizo poner mi fe en Cristo y confiar en Él plenamente para todo en mi vida, incluyendo mi sexualidad. 

Lo que más me afectó fue que si ella no creía que Dios me había estado hablando con tanta claridad y de manera tan consistente en cuanto a este tema durante más de treinta años, entonces ¿quién podría  creerme? 

Ya tenía otros nueve amigos cristianos que habían cambiado sus posiciones sobre la homosexualidad durante los últimos años. Ellos, como muchos otros en nuestro país, habían “evolucionado” en su manera de pensar, creyendo que la homosexualidad ahora estaba bien y era bueno, algo que podía celebrarse.

Cada vez que un amigo me ha dicho que ahora acepta la homosexualidad, me he sentido más desanimado, un poco más aislado, un poco más solo. 

Sé que la intención de mis amigos no es hacer eso, pero no saben que para alguien como yo, que ha luchado con este difícil problema por muchos años, no le es fácil escuchar lo que dicen, es como si las personas más cercanas a ti insinuaran que ya no creen en lo que has estado diciendo todo el tiempo, ya no creen en que Dios te ha estado hablando, y ya no creen en todo aquello por lo que has luchado, enfrentado y a lo que has renunciado con el fin de ayudarte a ti mismo y a otros a vivir sus vidas un poco mejor, con un poco más de libertad. Es absolutamente descorazonador. 

La sugerencia de mi amiga, diciendo que yo podía casarme con quien quisiera casarme, sin importar su género, fue lo que terminó desanimándome más. Fue una afirmación que me derribó al piso. Sentí como si yo fuera esa pelota de playa desinflada de que describí antes, y que me habían hundido al fondo del océano, sin que me quedara nada de aire adentro. 

Para ser honesto, no sabía si algún día podría volver a escribir una palabra o dar otra charla sobre este tema. Si mi amiga más cercana ya no creía en lo que yo decía, ¿cómo podría alguien creerme? 

VOLVIENDO A PONERME DE PIE

Pero lo que me ayudó a volver a ponerme de pie, a abrir mi computadora y tratar de dar una explicación, una vez más, fue que sabía que mis amigos que estaban cambiando de posición sobre este tema, no lo hacían porque no me creían a mí, al menos no directamente, sino porque ahora estaban tratando de identificar por sí mismos la mejor manera de amar a quienes los rodeaban y que experimentaban atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

También sabía que muchas personas a quienes había servido personalmente me habían creído, y seguían creyendo en mí, y sus vidas eran un reflejo de la verdad que he estado exponiendo todos estos años. 

Conozco a muchas personas cuyas vidas han sido totalmente transformadas por las palabras que he compartido sobre mi propia transformación. He visto a Dios obrar de manera tan poderosa en mi vida y en las vidas de otras personas, que sé que seguirá haciendo lo mismo en más vidas y de maneras aún más poderosas. 

También sé que de mí no depende cambiar los corazones, las vidas o las creencias que los demás tengan en cuanto a este tema, sino que todo esto depende de Dios mismo, sólo Él puede hacer algo así. 

Como dijo el Apóstol Pablo: “Y mi mensaje y mi predicación fueron muy sencillos. En lugar de usar discursos ingeniosos y persuasivos, confié solamente en el poder del Espíritu Santo. Lo hice así para que ustedes no confiaran en la sabiduría humana sino en el poder de Dios” (1 Corintios 2:4-5). 

Incluso mi fe no provino de las palabras de Pablo solas, sino de una demostración del poder del Espíritu cuando Dios le dio vida a estas palabras para mí.

Literalmente me tendí una y otra vez en el piso por varios días seguidos, y al hacerlo las palabras que siempre venían a mi mente eran las mismas que el ciego dijo después de haber sido sanado: “Una cosa sé; que habiendo yo sido ciego, ahora veo” (Juan 9:25b).

Sabía que mi amiga no quería herirme ni aplastarme o desanimarme. Sabía, y lo apreciaba mucho, que ella estaba tratando de expresar lo mucho que me amaba, lo mucho que estaba dispuesta a defenderme, y a apoyarme sin importar cuál fuera mi elección.

OTRO CLAVADO PROFUNDO

Así que, después de recuperarme del impacto inicial de sus palabras, decidí volver a Dios una vez más y preguntarle si había algo más que quería decirme en cuanto a este tema, algo que Él quería que yo escuchara. 

No soy tan engreído como para pensar que he sondeado toda la profundidad de lo que Dios tiene para decir en cuanto a este tema, o cualquier otro tema, como para no volver a él una y otra vez en busca de más. Aunque por muchos años he hablado con Dios muchas veces sobre esto, aproveché esta oportunidad para volver a mirar todo lo que Dios me había dicho en el pasado y cualquier cosa adicional que pudiera decirme ahora.

Este libro que estás leyendo ahora, es el resultado de esa “revisión” con Dios. 

La verdad es que el paisaje ha cambiado significativamente en este tema durante los últimos años, no solo aquí en los Estados Unidos, sino también en todo el mundo. El paisaje también ha cambiado en mi mundo personal ahora que he vuelto a estar soltero y me pregunto qué me deparará el futuro con respecto a otra posible relación duradera.

Decidí usar como trampolín las palabras de mi amiga a fin de aclarar mis pensamientos en cuanto a este asunto en donde fuera posible y ajustar lo que fuera necesario. 

Este ejercicio ha resultado de mucho valor para mí, y por eso agradezco mucho las palabras de mi amiga, aunque fue difícil escucharlas. Personalmente he compartido con ella lo que pienso, así como lo estoy compartiendo contigo. Ella no quería hacerme daño, y yo lo sabía. Sólo quería apoyarme sin importar lo que yo hiciera.

Hasta este punto ya he compartido contigo muchas de las conclusiones a las que he llegado en cuanto a este tema. Y quisiera compartir algunas de las aclaraciones y ajustes que aprendí en esta última inmersión que hice para analizar lo que considero la voluntad de Dios al respecto, y espero que también te sean útiles. 

UN NUEVO PAISAJE

La verdad para mí es que ya no existen algunas de las barreras que en otro momento me contuvieron de buscar una relación homosexual a largo plazo. 

Si quisiera, ahora podría casarme legalmente con un hombre. Ahora podría tener una relación abierta con otro hombre, y tener gran aceptación si así lo quisiera, e incluso sería considerado un héroe. Ahora podría adoptar hijos legalmente o ser el padre de mis propios hijos por medio de una madre sustituta, y criarlos con un padre gay. Ahora podría unirme a cualquier número de iglesias que me darían la bienvenida y me aceptaría como abiertamente gay. Ahora podría encontrar un sinnúmero de libros que ciernen sombras de duda sobre las Escrituras, las cuales en realidad parecen ser muy claras.

Según estas nuevas realidades del mundo, me pregunté ¿qué elegiría, si de verdad pudiera escoger sin ningún obstáculo, sin ninguna restricción, aquello que de verdad deseara en lo profundo de mi ser? ¿Si de verdad fuera una opción para mí, de verdad desearía tener una relación gay permanente? ¿O preferiría tener una relación heterosexual permanente, dados mis pensamientos y sentimientos más profundos, y los deseos de mi corazón?

También decidí darme un clavado profundo en esas aguas, así pareciera muy arriesgado, y aquí está lo que encontré.

Aunque pude ver que casarme con un hombre o una mujer podría satisfacer ciertos apetitos de mi corazón, no encontraría satisfacción para los mismos apetitos. Porque, a pesar de todo lo que se dice sobre la igualdad de matrimonio, casarme con un hombre no sería lo mismo que casarme con una mujer, porque cada opción pone algo muy diferente sobre la mesa. 

Si casarme con un hombre fuera igual que casarme con una mujer, las personas no tendrían preferencias de matrimonio según un género u otro. Son las mismas diferencias entre hombres y mujeres las que hacen que las personas quieran casarse con alguien del mismo sexo y no con alguien del sexo opuesto. La verdadera igualdad de matrimonio no haría diferencias entre hombres y mujeres. 

Pero algunas de las personas que más han luchado por la igualdad de matrimonio son aquellas que ignoran esas diferencias. Quieren casarse con la persona de su elección, precisamente porque esa persona es un hombre o una mujer. 

Cuando alguien quiere cambiar su género a otro, no es porque sienta que ambos géneros son lo mismo, sino porque siente que, de hecho, ambos géneros son diferentes, y prefiere identificarse con un género más que con otro. 

Algunos hombres quieren la libertad de vestirse como mujeres, negando al mismo tiempo que existen diferencias entre ambos géneros. Pero si no hubiese diferencias, entonces su manera de vestir no importaría. Así mismo, algunas mujeres quieren la libertad de comportarse como hombres, vivir como hombres, y ser tratadas como hombres, negando que haya verdaderas diferencias entre hombres y mujeres. 

Los hombres y las mujeres no son lo mismo, y son sus diferencias las que hacen que un género sea más atractivo que otro para algunas personas.

EL SEXO NATURAL

Para mí, aunque disfruté de relaciones románticas y sexuales con hombres en el pasado, y podría imaginar disfrutar de ese tipo de relaciones en el futuro, la biología inherente de las partes del cuerpo involucradas me hace entender que hay algo completamente “antinatural” en ese tipo de relación. 

Con esto estoy diciendo que así no tomara en cuenta lo que Dios dice sobre el sexo en la Biblia, y sólo tomara en cuenta lo que puedo ver con mis ojos en la naturaleza que me rodea, puedo ver que las partes sexuales en un acto homosexual no coinciden muy bien. 

En una relación del mismo sexo nunca se podría cumplir uno de los principales propósitos para los que esas partes parecen haber sido diseñadas. 

Aunque hay otras formas de estimular esas partes del cuerpo, las cuales pueden producir genuino placer, la verdad es que el sexo entre dos hombres o entre dos mujeres siempre será, en el mejor de los casos una simulación del sexo entre un hombre y una mujer. En el peor de los casos, involucrarse en ese tipo de actividad podría causar daños reales. 

Por ejemplo, y vuelvo a decirlo, no quiero ser gráfico, sólo usar una perspectiva científica, las paredes del revestimiento de una vagina humana son más gruesas y más elásticas que las paredes del revestimiento de un ano humano, por lo cual éste último se rompe mucho más fácil durante un acto sexual. Así mismo, el órgano sexual de una mujer produce su propia lubricación cuando se lo estimula, como también sucede con el del hombre, lo cual significa que esas partes no solo encajan, sino que lo hacen con más facilidad, mientras que el canal anal no produce esa lubricación, ni siquiera con estimulación sexual. 

Podría describir la fecundidad que se puede dar con el acto heterosexual cuando un espermatozoide y un óvulo se unen, comparado con la infecundidad que hay entre el acto sexual de dos hombres cuando el semen es liberado dentro de un orificio que parece estar mucho más claramente diseñado para excretar los desperdicios. También puedo describir mucho más, pero no lo haré. 

Estos son sólo unos pocos de los contrastes entre los dos tipos de interacción sexual que puedo observar en la naturaleza y que me sirven de indicador suficiente para entender que algo está mal en el sexo entre personas del mismo género, que no es bueno, que algo no es correcto. 

Esto ni siquiera toma en cuenta las diferencias entre el sexo de lesbianas o el sexo oral, o las caricias mutuas de los órganos sexuales en muchas otras maneras. 

Si bien, no hay duda que estos actos pueden ser placenteros y crear un fuerte grado de intimidad entre dos personas, en lo que respecta a lo natural, es decir, según como vemos la naturaleza, y al menos según el propósito primordial que cada uno de esos órganos tiene, puedo decir que el acto sexual entre dos personas del mismo sexo, en el mejor de los casos, es una emulación de sexo heterosexual, y en el peor de los casos, en realidad puede ser dañina o destructiva. 

Cuando el Apóstol Pablo dice en Romanos 1 que el sexo homosexual es “contra lo natural”, no creo que use esa palabra de manera despectiva. No está diciendo que el sexo homosexual sea “asqueroso” o “repulsivo”. Lo que está diciendo, es sencillamente que va contra lo que el sexo humano se nos presenta en la naturaleza, sin importar si atribuimos el diseño del sexo a la naturaleza o a Dios.

SEXO SOBRESALIENTE

Hay quienes pueden decir que algunos animales a veces tienen comportamientos homosexuales, y que otros, como las lombrices, han sido creados con partes de macho y de hembra. Pero no me convence adoptar aspectos de lo que vemos en el reino animal para nuestros propios hábitos sexuales. 

Por ejemplo, como suele decir uno de mis amigos, la mantis religiosa hembra, le quita la cabeza al macho inmediatamente después del apareamiento, y luego se come el resto del cuerpo, así puede tener suficiente alimento para la nueva vida que en poco tiempo va a crecer en su cuerpo. (Aunque algunas mujeres pueden celebrar este tipo de comportamiento, ¡personalmente no creo que aporte mucho a la construcción de una relación duradera!)

El sexo entre un hombre y una mujer es muy especial y único. No quiero decir que solo sea especial para mí. Sino que, de todas las criaturas del planeta, Dios creó a los seres humanos para que hicieran el amor de una manera que ningún otro ser puede hacerlo: cara a cara. 

¡Ninguna otra criatura en el planeta tiene esta habilidad! Ninguna. ¡Esto es asombroso para mí! 

Seguro, podemos tratar de emular los hábitos del apareamiento de otras criaturas, ¡e incluso podemos tener placer al hacerlo! Pero cuando miro lo que Dios ha puesto a nuestra disposición como seres humanos, y las diferencias entre el sexo heterosexual y el homosexual, entonces trato de imaginarme una relación de por vida con alguien del mismo sexo, y no puedo evitar sentir que me estoy perdiendo de algo muy especial y único, que Dios ha hecho posible sólo para los seres humanos. 

En mi caso, yo quiero lo mejor: el abrazo completo, cara a cara. (Y al considerar la vida sexual de la mantis religiosa, ¡también quisiera estar con vida al día siguiente después de haber hecho el amor!).

CONSULTANDO EL MANUAL

Además de esta perspectiva natural, biológica y científica sobre el sexo, también creo que Dios es quien ha creado nuestros cuerpos y, junto con ellos, nos ha dado el “manual del propietario” en la Biblia. Dios nos ha dado estas palabras para ayudarnos a proteger y preservar nuestros cuerpos para la vida más plena posible. Como el creador del sexo, Él es la primera y principal autoridad en decirnos por qué creó el sexo y cómo hacer el mejor uso del mismo. 

Comentando sobre la poderosa naturaleza del sexo, el evangelista Billy Graham dice: “El sexo es lo más maravilloso que hay sobre esta tierra, siempre que Dios haga parte del mismo. Cuando el Diablo se inmiscuye, es lo más terrible sobre la tierra”. 

¡No podía estar más de acuerdo! 

Como ya lo mencioné antes, al mirar los pasajes de la Biblia que hablan especificamente sobre actividad sexual con personas del mismo sexo, no puedo imaginar otra manera en que Dios habría podido expresar Sus advertencias sobre este asunto, para que fueran más claras o firmes de como han sido expresadas. 

Esto no se debe a que Dios odie a quienes tienen atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, y tampoco es porque los actos sexuales entre personas del mismo sexo sean tan repulsivos para Dios que Él no pueda imaginar por qué alguien querría hacerlo, sino porque él sabe lo poderosas que pueden ser las atracciones sexuales. ¡Él creó el sexo! Él sabe muy bien por qué alguien querría realizar actos sexuales que pueden ser perjudiciales para sí mismo o para otros. 

Dios no nos advierte sobre cosas que en Su opinión nadie nunca querría hacer. Él nos advierte de cosas que Él sabe que podemos hacer, porque Él sabe lo poderosos que pueden ser esos sentimientos, emociones y atracciones. Dios nos advierte porque quiere que disfrutemos esos regalos de la mejor manera más posible, la que da vida. 

El no atender a las advertencias de Dios sería como si mis hijos no atendieran a las mías cuando les digo que no corran hacia la calle porque podría morir si lo hacen, y que les dijera lo mismo muchas veces más y de muchas formas. Imagina mi frustración si me llegara a enterar que ellos siguen corriendo hacia la calle, sugiriendo que mis instrucciones les parecen poco claras, o que en realidad yo no hablo en serio al expresarlas.

En la Biblia hay suficientes palabras registradas con mucha claridad y que me permiten creer que Dios de verdad no quiere que me involucre en actividades sexuales con alguien de mi mismo género. Y, de nuevo, en las palabras que mi pastor me dijo para ayudarme un día que tenía gran necesidad de escuchar lo que Dios tenía para decir sobre este tema: “Si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien”.

MOTIVACIÓN INTERNA

Si nada me detuviera, (iglesia, familia, ministerio, algún argumento, las Escrituras, o las revelaciones personales de Dios), podría verme disfrutando de una relación romántica y sexual con un hombre o una mujer. De verdad podría hacerlo. Y como en el pasado he disfrutado de ambos tipos de relaciones, puedo imaginarme disfrutando cualquier tipo de relación en el futuro, aunque, como ya lo he dicho antes, cada tipo de relación satisfaría necesidades diferentes en mi vida por razones diferentes. 

Pero, al mirar más a fondo en mi ser, he encontrado esto: aunque en el corto plazo podría imaginarme disfrutando de una relación con alguien del mismo sexo, lo haría bajo mi propio riesgo. 

Lo que más quiero, y lo que sé que me dará la vida más abundante posible, es una relación comprometida de largo plazo con alguien del sexo opuesto, alguien que sea un verdadero complemento a la fuerte masculinidad que siento en todo mi ser. 

No siento esto porque la Biblia, la sociedad, mi familia o mis amigos me lo digan. Lo siento porque creo que Dios lo ha escrito en mi corazón. Lo ha codificado en mi ADN, en cada célula de mi ser. Soy un hombre creado por Dios para tener intimidad con una mujer. 

Conocer esta verdad, desde el fondo de mi ser, ¡es increíblemente liberador! 

La razón definitiva por la que querría buscar una relación con el sexo opuesto en el futuro no se debe a que un factor externo me dice que lo haga. Sino porque en mi corazón está escrito hacerlo. 

Como dice la Biblia: “Aun los gentiles, quienes no cuentan con la ley escrita de Dios, muestran que conocen esa ley cuando, por instinto, la obedecen, aunque nunca la hayan oído. Ellos demuestran que tienen la ley de Dios escrita en el corazón, porque su propia conciencia y sus propios pensamientos o los acusan o bien les indican que están haciendo lo correcto” (Romanos 2:14-15, NTV).

OBSTÁCULOS EXTERNOS

Me encanta tener motivaciones internas en lugar de externas, y sí, agradezco mucho los obstáculos externos. ¿Por qué? Porque, aunque mi conciencia me puede indicar lo correcto y lo malo, ella no es infalible. 

Como escribe un pastor: “El problema con la conciencia es que, de todas las fuentes de verdad, ésta es la menos confiable porque la Biblia nos enseña que nuestra conciencia se puede debilitar. Se puede deformar. Se puede endurecer… De hecho, se puede matar… El hecho de que mi conciencia me permita hacer algo, eso no quiere decir que sea correcto. Todo ser humano en este mundo ha sido programado para conocer lo bueno y lo malo. El truco está en llenar nuestras mentes y corazones con la verdad de Dios para que ‘hagamos eco de Su sí y Su no’”.

Esta es la razón por la cual los obstáculos externos son tan útiles. Y es por eso que siento tanta gratitud por la evidencia de heterosexualismo que encuentro en la naturaleza y por las advertencias de Dios registradas en la Biblia. Por tal razón agradezco a mi familia, mis amigos y mi iglesia por su sinceridad en querer mantenerme dentro del mejor camino que Dios tiene para mi vida.

Hace poco vi un aviso en la autopista que decía: “¿No llevas cinturón de seguridad? ¿Qué te está deteniendo?” Me pareció una perfecta analogía para esta discusión sobre los encuentros sexuales, así como para toda clase de experiencias en las que quizás deseemos involucrarnos. 

Si nada me detuviera, hay muchas cosas que disfrutaría hacer, al menos por una vez en la vida, como saltar de un acantilado de 100 pies, o comer toda una bandeja llena de brownies, o ver si mi auto de verdad puede alcanzar las 160 millas por hora, como dice en el velocímetro. Y debo admitir que he intentado hacer algunas de estas cosas, al menos en cierto grado, ¡conociendo muy bien el riesgo de que las cosas podrían terminar muy mal para mí!

Pero vivir la vida sin ninguna restricción es tan loco como subir a una montaña rusa sin ponerse el arnés de seguridad que ha sido específicamente diseñado para eso. El hecho de que podamos hacer algo, no quiere decir que deberíamos hacerlo. 

Después de la desagradable aventura de Bill Clinton con una de sus practicantes en la Casa Blanca, un periodista le preguntó por qué lo había hecho. Bill respondió: “Creo que hice algo por la peor razón posible: sólo porque podía hacerlo. Creo que esa es la razón moralmente más débil que alguien podría tener para hacer algo, cuando lo hace sólo porque puedes”. 

El libre albedrío sólo es libre si sigues con vida para ejercerlo. Sí, Dios nos ha dado libre albedrío, pero Él espera que elijamos Su voluntad porque Él sabe que Su voluntad siempre es lo mejor para nosotros. 

Aunque tengo mucha gratitud con Dios por haberme dado el libre albedrío, también estoy muy agradecido porque me ha dado la sabiduría y la habilidad para contenerme de hacer absolutamente todo lo que podría desear hacer, porque hay muchas cosas que desearía hacer si no tuviera restricciones. Pero sé que no me iría bien si hiciera esas cosas, así como sé que no les iría bien a quienes me rodean o por los propósitos para los que Dios me creó.

¿Por qué te digo todos estos deseos secretos que he encontrado en el fondo de mi corazón? Porque quiero que sepas que, por muchos, muchos años, he considerado muy bien estas cosas. 

Y siempre que he salido a la superficie después de esos profundos clavados, siempre, he salido con un mayor entendimiento de por qué Dios ha dicho lo que ha dicho sobre este tema, y por qué me alegra mucho haberlo escuchado hace tantos años.

TERRITORIO NUEVO

Habiendo dicho todo esto, también quiero decir que, estando en mi última profundización hacia el fondo de mi ser con respecto a mis pensamientos, sentimientos y deseos, descubrí que sigue habiendo mucho territorio que puedo explorar en mis amistades con hombres, territorio que no es sexual ni romántico, pero que me he abstenido de recorrer en el pasado por miedo a ser considerado como “gay”. 

Aunque el panorama en este tema ha cambiado, ese cambio no necesariamente es para mal. En cierta medida, ese cambio ha mejorado mucho las cosas, incluso para mí. 

Me parece importante aclarar, en especial para los lectores jóvenes de este libro, por qué este cambio de panorama no se ha dado tan rápido como puedes pensar que sucedió en los corazones y mentes de muchos de mi generación y generaciones pasadas. 

El temor a que alguien piense que puedes ser gay se basa en la realidad de que la homosexualidad, cuando yo era niño, en realidad era ilegal. 

Una persona podría ser multada, enviada a la cárcel, perder su empleo, ser expulsada del ejército, de su apartamento, ser obligada a recibir terapias o quedar marcada de por vida ante los ojos de la sociedad, sin mencionar a todos los que podrían llegar a considerar a esa persona como su futuro cónyuge.

Por esas y otras razones (como el deseo de no querer recibir una golpiza después de clase de gimnasia), yo y muchos otros como yo, evitábamos hablar abiertamente sobre nuestras atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. 

A todo costo, evitábamos cualquier apariencia que indicara que sentíamos atracción hacia el mismo sexo, incluso alejándonos de los que decían que sí sentían esas atracciones. 

Sin embargo, en los últimos años he entendido que muchos de esos temores que tuve en mi juventud ya no son válidos ni útiles. Por esta razón Dios me ha estado mostrando de qué maneras he seguido conteniéndome en algunos de mis propios pensamientos y amistades, por temores que he tenido respecto a cómo me veo, no por algo que Dios haya dicho respecto a mis actividades. 

Por ejemplo, cuando hace poco le pedí a una de mis hijas que pintara la portada para uno de mis libros, en el fondo ella pintó una hermosa sombra de color púrpura. Sin embargo, para mí, y porque el libro era tan revelador a nivel personal sobre mi propia vida y caminar de fe, su elección de colores era equivalente a gritar a todo pulmón: “¡Mírame! ¡Soy gay!” 

Por supuesto, Dios no dice nada en Su Palabra que restrinja el uso de cualquier color, mucho menos del color púrpura. De hecho, el púrpura era tan costoso crearlo en la antigüedad, que a menudo era el color preferido de la realeza. 

Al pensar más racionalmente sobre la elección de colores que hizo mi hija, en lugar de hacerlo con las emociones, entendí que su propuesta de portada se veía hermosa tal como ella la había hecho. Nada de eso había pasado por la cabeza de mi hija, y entendí que probablemente en estos días no importaría si incluso alguien piensa que sí soy gay (y algunas personas, incluso entre mis amigos, podrían hacer una fiesta por mí si pensaran que lo soy). 

El hecho de haber titubeado después de ver la portada por primera vez, y haberla aceptado como hermosa después de todo, me hizo ver con claridad el hecho de que para mí ahora está bien adoptar algunas de esas cosas que en otro momento había tenido miedo de hacer. Puedo aceptarlas porque en ellas no hay nada inherentemente ilícito o impío.

En otro ejemplo, hace un tiempo me tomé una selfie con una pareja para quienes dirigí su boda. 

Al sostener la cámara, el novio inclinó su cabeza hacia mí, pero la novia no lo hizo, y la foto resultante mostraba a dos hombres bien vestidos recostados el uno sobre el otro, mientras la novia estaba bien erguida y alejada hacia un lado. 

Les pedí que tomáramos la foto de nuevo, diciendo que la luz no había quedado bien, lo cual sí era verdad, pero esa no fue la única razón por la que quise tomar la foto de nuevo. Quise hacerlo porque, para mí, parecía que el novio y yo éramos la pareja, y no él y su novia. 

Cuando volví a ver la primera foto que habíamos tomado ¡estaba perfectamente bien! Nos veíamos como buenos amigos pasando un buen tiempo en una boda. 

Nadie, salvo yo, se habría fijado en la manera como estábamos parados, ¡y nadie tampoco habría pensado que él y yo éramos pareja! Pero en mi hipersensibilidad a parecer gay, de cualquier manera, estuve a punto de eliminar una foto que era muy normal.

NUEVOS EJEMPLOS

Los ejemplos siguen y siguen. Desde la muerte de mi esposa, he tenido un nuevo interés en algunas de las actividades que me gustaba hacer en la juventud, como el baile, la pintura, escribir música y tocar el piano. Muchas de esas actividades las hice a un lado cuando dejé la homosexualidad porque me parecían actividades de gays. 

Durante mi niñez, en mi círculo de amigos eran las mujeres las que dominaban estas artes. Pero con el paso del tiempo, he descubierto que un gran número de hombres, tanto en tiempos bíblicos como en la actualidad, disfrutan y sobresalen haciendo cosas como estas todo el tiempo. 

El Rey David, por ejemplo, es conocido por matar a miles en batalla, pero tocaba el arpa y escribió la mayoría de las tonadas del libro de los Salmos. Pero dudo que alguien lo haya enfrentado en el campo de batalla y le haya pedido que sacara primero su Identificación de Hombre. Incluso él podría hacer temblar a Chuck Norris. 

Por años me ha gustado mucho tocar el piano, y también la flauta, así como varios otros instrumentos, pero nunca me sentía “varonil” al hacerlo. Pero cuando leí en la Biblia sobre un hombre llamado Jubal, en Génesis capítulo 4, vi que él fue llamado “el padre de todos los que tocan la flauta y el arpa” (de Génesis 4:21). 

Ahí está un hombre que no solo tocaba la flauta y el arpa, sino que fue llamado el “padre” de todos los demás que lo hicieron después de él. ¡Qué honor! ¡Qué distinción! Pero yo me había sentido avergonzado todos esos años por algunos de los talentos que Dios había puesto en mí. 

El Rey David danzó delante del Señor (lee 2 Samuel 6:14), y un hombre llamado Bezalel fue muy hábil haciendo diseños artísticos y todo tipo de artes manuales (lee Éxodo 31:1-5). 

La lista de modelos varoniles sigue, según lo registrado en y fuera de la Biblia. Pero por años no quise disfrutar de muchas de esas cosas por miedo a ser catalogado como gay. 

RECUPERANDO TALENTOS

Sin embargo, ahora estoy disfrutando mucho de tocar el piano, no solo para mí mismo sino también en público. He estado componiendo música e incluso escribiendo un musical acerca de la vida del verdadero San Nicolás que vivió entre los siglos 3º y 4º D.C. 

He estado pintando por diversión y tomando clases de baile solo porque me hacen reír.

Ninguna de estas cosas es inherentemente de homosexuales. ¡Ninguna de estas actividades me hacen querer tener sexo con un hombre! ¡Ninguna de estas cosas son restringidas por Dios! 

Pero ahora estoy comenzando a disfrutarlas a mayor plenitud porque mi temor de ser catalogado como gay finalmente se está desvaneciendo, al menos en parte, ante la creciente aceptación de la homosexualidad entre la sociedad. Ser considerado gay ya no conlleva el mismo tipo de riesgo que tenía hace 30 años. 

Dios me ha estado mostrando que ahora puedo comenzar a derribar algunos de los muros de protección que he puesto alrededor de mi vida, muros que ya no son necesarios.

Como dije en los primeros capítulos, aunque algunas personas pueden sentirse desanimadas por los cambios sociales con respecto a este tema, hay razones para sentirse muy agradecido por ese cambio, puesto que finalmente está permitiendo que personas (incluido yo) exploren y recapturen algunos de los talentos que Dios les ha dado y que han evitado por mucho, mucho tiempo, talentos que desde un principio nunca debieron haber evadido.

Para concluir este capítulo, permíteme reiterar que, así como es conveniente usar cinturones de seguridad al conducir, es igual de conveniente evitar actividades que sean románticas o sexuales a fin de proteger la preciosa intimidad que Dios tiene en mente para nosotros. 

Pero también es igual de conveniente deshacernos de aquellas cosas que nos impedirían explorar todo el territorio que tenemos a nuestra disposición, territorio en el que podemos disfrutar nuestras amistades más plenamente y usar los dones, talentos y habilidades que Dios nos ha dado. 

Aunque este cambiante paisaje ha producido nuevas libertades para muchos, también ha producido nuevos dilemas, en especial para los cristianos, los cuales abordaré en el siguiente capítulo.

Capítulo 12: La importancia de las lágrimas

Donde comparto cómo las lágrimas pueden ser una de tus mejores expresiones de amor genuino, y cómo pueden ayudarte a seguir amando a otros mientras te mantienes firme en lo que crees.

El paisaje cambiante respecto a la homosexualidad ha creado la necesidad de una respuesta genuina de parte de los cristianos. Espero que este libro sea parte de esa respuesta. 

Creo que el dilema principal que los cristianos están enfrentando está mejor ilustrado en las preguntas en torno al tema del matrimonio gay. Es ahí donde la teoría se pone en práctica. 

He observado que cuando alguien recibe una invitación a una boda homosexual, esto de repente trae a la superficie todo lo que esa persona cree, o piensa que cree respecto a la homosexualidad. La pareja que envía la invitación está pidiendo una respuesta, la cual, a su vez, tiene el potencial de consolidar o romper una amistad para los próximos años. Aunque no tiene que ser así, a menudo parece ser así para todos los involucrados.

El dilema se magnifica exponencialmente cuando esa invitación viene de alguien muy cercano y querido, como un hijo o una hija, un hermano o una hermana, o un amigo cercano o compañero de trabajo. 

Nuestra reacción como cristianos en esos momentos importa mucho. Si bien este capítulo se concentra en el tema de cómo puedes responder a alguien que te invita a una boda gay, por favor ten presente que uso esto solo como ejemplo para ayudarte a pensar cómo puedes amar a Dios y a los homosexuales más profundamente, y cómo puedes expresar tu amor de tal forma que tus seres queridos puedan recibirlo. 

Espero que esta conversación no solo sea aplicable a un evento de un día, sino que también te dé una ayuda real en las constantes interacciones y expresiones de amor hacia amigos y familiares homosexuales.

Permíteme comenzar con esta verdad que nunca cambia, que es la meta suprema de cualquier respuesta que podamos dar, y es el amor. Como dice la Biblia: “… y hagan todo con amor” (1 Corintios 16:14 NTV).

También quiero añadir otra importante verdad. Siempre que alguien nos pide hacer algo, es importante tener presente que el amor no siempre dice “sí”, y tampoco dice siempre “no”. El amor tiene en cuenta a las personas involucradas y las relaciones únicas que hay entre esas personas. 

Tengo seis hijos, y no siempre les respondo de la misma manera a cada uno de ellos, incluso si me hacen la misma pregunta. ¿Por qué? Porque todos tienen su propia personalidad, y tengo una relación única con cada uno de ellos, basada en sus personalidades, así como en nuestras historias de interacción entre nosotros a lo largo de muchos años.

Mientras algunas personas pueden responder bien al amor con mano firme, otras responden mejor a la sola bondad. La Biblia dice que hay espacio para ambas cosas (lee 2 Corintios 7:8-10 y Romanos 2:1-4).

Comencemos con el ejemplo que usé en el capítulo anterior, donde hablé de una amiga que estaba tratando de expresarme su amor al decirme que me apoyaría sin importar las decisiones que yo tomara en el futuro en cuanto al sexo de algún compañero sentimental. 

Si bien mi amiga quería mostrar mucho amor con sus palabras, lo que no percibió fue cuánto me hirieron. No siempre sabemos cómo será la reacción de alguien ante nuestras expresiones de amor hasta después de haberlas expresado, ¡porque las personas no son cortes de cartón de dos dimensiones que siempre son predecibles!

En la situación con mi amiga, pocos días después tomamos tiempo para hablar respecto a cómo me había hecho sentir con sus palabras, y volver a escuchar lo que en realidad estaba tratando de expresar, y ofrecernos sinceras disculpas por yo haberme ofendido y por ella haberme hecho sentir todo menos amado por ella como amiga. En otras ocasiones he tenido que hacer lo mismo con ella, porque he dicho cosas con la intención de ser cariñoso, pero no han sido entendidas, sino que se han recibido de forma muy diferente a lo previsto.

El hecho de que seas amigo de alguien no significa que siempre puedes ver lo que hay en su mente, y tampoco que siempre salga todo bien. Afortunadamente, la gracia no se limita a una sola ocasión, sino que es algo que podemos extender y recibir continuamente. 

Recuerda: “Por todas partes hay sentimientos, sé sensible”. 

EXPRESANDO NUESTROS PENSAMIENTOS

Cuando intentamos expresar mejor nuestro amor es importante tener en cuenta no sólo lo que decimos y hacemos, o lo buenas que son nuestras intenciones en lo que decimos y hacemos, sino cómo nuestros seres queridos van a recibir lo que decimos y hacemos.

Con respecto al tema del matrimonio gay, digamos, por ejemplo, que consideras que el matrimonio gay no es bueno, correcto ni saludable para la pareja que te ha invitado a asistir a su boda. ¿Cómo puedes dar una respuesta guiado por amor? 

Si consideras que lo que están haciendo no es bueno, correcto o saludable, y te sientes motivado por Dios o por tu propio deseo interno de compartir tus preocupaciones con una o ambas de las personas que se van a casar, entonces por supuesto, ¡por favor hazlo! 

Hazlo con amor, pero no dejes de hacerlo si sientes que tus palabras podrían ser de ayuda para ellos. Sé que habría querido que alguien me hubiese hecho la advertencia con amor antes del día de mi boda, si de verdad consideraba que había una razón por la cual no debía casarme con la persona con quien planeaba hacerlo. Esta sabiduría se aplica, desde luego, si la pareja que se va a casar es heterosexual u homosexual. 

Por otro lado, si Dios no te está animando a compartir tus preocupaciones con la pareja en cuestión, o no tienes un impulso interno para hacerlo, quizás debas prestar atención a lo que sientes o no sientes. Quizás no sea algo que Dios quiera que abordes, o es probable que no sea el momento correcto para que lo hagas, o puede empeorar las cosas para todos los involucrados, tanto a corto como a largo plazo.

Ha habido momentos en los que me he sentido impulsado a decirle algo a alguien que estaba haciendo algo que a mi parecer era perjudicial para él o ella, pero en otras ocasiones simplemente me he sentido obligado, no necesariamente impulsado, a decir algo. La diferencia entre la manera como han sido recibidas mis palabras ha sido notoria, de manera positiva en el primer caso y de manera negativa en el segundo.

Tu obligación no es corregir todo lo malo que ves en este mundo. Como ya lo dije antes, Dios no envió a Jesús “a condenar al mundo, sino para que el mundo sea salvo por Él” (Juan 3:17b). Hay una gran diferencia entre condenar a las personas por su pecado y salvarlas de su pecado.

Cualquier padre sabe que los hijos no se corrigen todas las veces que, según tu opinión, hacen algo mal, de lo contrario, ellos siempre tendrían miedo de volver a intentar hacer cualquier cosa. Gracias a Dios, en Su gran misericordia no me reprende cada vez que hago algo que podría hacerme daño. Pero sí hay ocasiones cuando hay tanto en juego, que es importante decir algo. 

Si consideras que esta es una de esas ocasiones, te sugeriría que siguieras el consejo del Apóstol Santiago, que dice: “Todo hombre sea pronto para oír, tardo para hablar, tardo para airarse…” (Santiago 1:19b, RVR). Esto está de acuerdo con la manera como Dios se acerca a nosotros (lee Éxodo 34:6-7).

TIEMPO, ORACIÓN Y MUCHA MEDITACIÓN

Hace varios años, unos amigos míos recibieron una invitación a una boda gay, y me preguntaron qué pensaba que debían hacer. La boda iba a ser un gran encuentro. Familiares de todas partes del país iban a asistir, y muchos no se habían visto por bastante tiempo. 

La reacción inicial de mis amigos fue que no deberían ir porque no consideraban que el matrimonio gay fuera algo correcto. Aunque querían ir por el bien de las relaciones con la pareja que los había invitado y por el resto de la familia extendida que asistiría, por su buena conciencia, no consideraban que debían asistir. 

“¿Qué debemos hacer?” me preguntaron.

Les dije que su primera reacción era razonable, ya que nadie debía sentirse obligado a asistir ni a participar en algo que violaba sus conciencias. 

También les pedí que tomaran tiempo para considerar su decisión, y no que la tomaran con ligereza, ya que sus relaciones con la pareja y su familia extendida también eran importantes. 

Así que mis amigos tomaron tiempo para pensar, orar y meditar al respecto. Al final, decidieron no ir. Una de las principales razones para la decisión, fue que ellos consideraban que no debían participar en una celebración que ellos consideraban perjudicial para la pareja en cuestión. 

También sentían que su asistencia indicaría que aprobaban algo que Dios no aprueba, violando así la advertencia bíblica en el libro de Romanos contra dar tal tipo de aprobaciones, que dice: “… no sólo las hacen, sino que también se complacen con los que las practican” (Romanos 1:32b). 

Mis amigos no hicieron un gran escándalo con su decisión. La pareja que les había extendido la invitación ya conocía las convicciones de mis amigos con respecto al matrimonio gay, así que no fue necesario decir algo más. Respondieron amablemente y rechazaron la invitación.

Aprecio que mis amigos hayan tomado tiempo para pensar, orar y meditar en cuanto a su respuesta. Quienes les habían hecho la invitación merecían ese honor. 

Aunque los que se iban a casar habrían podido ofenderse con la decisión de mis amigos, también creo que pudieron haber sentido alivio ante la respuesta. La mayoría de parejas no quieren que los invitados se sientan obligados a ir a su boda si no se sienten cómodos para hacerlo.

Sé que no me gustaría que alguien violara su consciencia para hacer algo que yo les pidiera hacer, así como creo que esa persona no querría violar mi consciencia para que yo hiciera algo que me pude hacer. El amor va en doble vía en una relación, y el respeto de la consciencia del otro es una manera de expresar nuestro amor.

También puedo decir que en varias ocasiones he recibido invitaciones a bodas con las que no he sentido afectada mi conciencia, pero a las que no he sentido mucho entusiasmo por asistir. ¿Por qué? Porque he sentido una genuina preocupación por la pareja. He dudado de que ese matrimonio pudiera durar algunos meses y mucho menos algunos años. 

Para mí es una lucha ir a esas bodas, pero aun así siempre he orado para tomar una decisión, porque los que me han invitado merecen ese honor. Al final, mi asistencia no siempre es un reflejo de mi opinión respecto a la relación de esa pareja, es un reflejo de lo que creo en la relación que tengo con la persona que me ha invitado. 

Aquí hay un principio que quizás se ilustre mejor con un ejemplo personal.

RELACIONES PERJUDICIALES

Desafortunadamente, sé lo que es que alguien rechace asistir a tu boda, y sé que ese rechazo puede generar una grieta en una relación, la cual puede verse afectada por años. 

Una mujer muy cercana a Lana creía sinceramente que Lana iba a terminar en el infierno si se casaba conmigo, porque yo había crecido en una denominación diferente a la de Lana. Esta mujer dijo que estaba orando todos los días, para poder encontrar lo bueno en mí, pero lo único que veía era mal. Se rehusó a ir a nuestra boda, esperando que su decisión hiciera que Lana la cancelara. 

Aunque Lana apreció la preocupación de aquella mujer, ella tenía sus propias creencias firmes y profundas con respecto al tema, y sentía que casarse conmigo era justo lo que Dios quería que hiciera.

Esa mujer se había dado a la tarea de expresarle su opinión a Lana en varias ocasiones, y Lana había tratado de expresarle las suyas de manera amable, pero sin ningún resultado. Esto llegó al punto en el que los rechazos constantes y verbales de esta mujer dejaron de ser bien recibidos, amables y cariñosos. 

Aunque ya mencioné que habría querido que alguien me lo dijera si consideraba que estaba tomando una decisión con mi vida que podía ser un terrible error, también creo que hay un punto en el que esas opiniones dejan de ser útiles, amorosas o amables. 

Si, después de haber tomado tiempo para orar y meditar respecto a la idea de alguien, todavía estamos en desacuerdo, yo esperaría poder llegar a un punto de respeto mutuo hacia las convicciones de cada uno. 

Desafortunadamente, ese no fue el caso con esta mujer, quien de manera constante y verbal se rehusaba a asistir a nuestra boda. Aunque ella decidió sí asistir en el último momento, sus palabras, acciones y la grieta que crearon entre ella y Lana generó una verdadera división entre ellas, la cual se extendió por años.

Creo que hay otra forma, una mejor.

UN TIEMPO PARA TODO

Como lo dice la Biblia: “Hay una temporada para todo, un tiempo para cada actividad bajo el cielo… un tiempo para callar y un tiempo para hablar” (Eclesiastés 3:1 y 3:7). 

En realidad, hay un tiempo para todo. De verdad hay tiempo para hablar y tiempo para callar. Aunque aprecié que esta mujer compartiera sus convicciones con Lana, cuando llegaron al punto en el que sus palabras sonaban como “un metal o un címbalo que retiñe”, quisiera que ella se hubiese dado cuenta que lo que hacía ya no era amoroso sino más bien una exigencia. 

Por otra parte, me alegra que ella haya expresado sus opiniones antes de la boda, ¡y que no lo haya hecho en la boda!

Me he preguntado qué se puede hacer si el que oficia una boda gay dijera esto que se suele decir: “Si alguien conoce una razón por la cual esta pareja no debería casarse, que hable ahora o que calle para siempre”. 

¿Sería ese el momento para que alguien que tiene convicciones profundas en cuanto a que el matrimonio gay no está bien, hable y exponga por qué cree que la pareja no debería casarse? ¿O hay una mejor manera de hacerlo? ¿Hay un mejor momento? 

Si alguien espera hasta ese punto en la ceremonia para hablar, creo que eso sería muy poco amable y falto de amor. Esto lo menciono porque si Dios está animándote a hablar con la persona, esperaría que lo hicieras antes del día de la boda, ¡y no durante la ceremonia! Recuerda, “lo que hagas, hazlo con amabilidad y amor”. Quizás sería apropiada una llamada telefónica o una conversación tomando un café con uno o con los dos que te invitaron. O si reunirse personalmente resulta muy incómodo o potencialmente explosivo, quizás una tarjeta o una carta podrían funcionar. 

O quizás, como ya lo mencioné, si Dios no te está impulsando a decir algo, y no sientes un llamado interno a hacerlo, también valdría la pena prestar atención a esa falta de estímulo o impulso interno. Así como hay momentos apropiados para hablar, hay ocasiones propicias para callar. 

Si sientes que debes decir algo, por favor no dejes que nada te desanime a hacerlo (vuelve a leer Santiago 5:19-20). Pero tampoco te sientas obligado a decir algo si Dios no te está llamando a hacerlo, porque de lo contrario, tus palabras pueden sonar como metal o címbalo que retiñe. Es por esto que es muy importante tomar tiempo para orar y meditar en tu respuesta.

MANTENIENDO LAS RELACIONES

También he conversado con personas que han recibido invitaciones a bodas gays de seres querido muy allegados a ellos, y que han expresado su amor de otra manera, sintiendo que Dios los ha animado a asistir.

He escuchado sus consideraciones en cuanto a qué hacer y qué no hacer. He visto sus luchas con los sentimientos de querer estar con quienes aman, pero no querer ver ningún daño sobre sus vidas. 

¿Cómo puede alguien decidir qué hacer cuando siente que Dios le anima a asistir? De nuevo, creo que es importante tomar tiempo para pensar, orar y meditar al respecto. También debo recordar que, aunque el amor no siempre dice “sí”, tampoco siempre dice “no”.

Como lo dije antes, mi asistencia a una boda heterosexual no siempre es un reflejo de mi confianza en la relación de la pareja que se está casando, sino un reflejo de mi confianza en la relación que tengo con la persona que me ha invitado.

Para algunos que han tomado esta difícil decisión, han encontrado sabiduría al asistir por esta sencilla razón: a fin de mantener las relaciones con quienes los invitaron. 

Cuando los que reciben la invitación tienen relaciones estrechas con la pareja que los ha invitado, y todos ya conocen las profundas convicciones de cada uno en cuanto al tema, no hay ninguna confusión en que su asistencia pueda indicar aprobación. En lugar de eso, su asistencia indica su disposición a mantener las relaciones con sus seres queridos, incluso cuando no están de acuerdo. 

LA BONDAD DE DIOS

Caminar al lado de las personas que amamos mientras ellos hacen cosas que consideramos dañinas y perjudiciales para ellos puede ser una de las cosas más difíciles que tengamos que hacer.

También puedo imaginar que esta es una de las cosas más difíciles que Dios tiene que hacer por nosotros al darnos la libertad de ejercer nuestro libre albedrío cuando sabe muy bien hacia dónde nos van a llevar nuestras decisiones. 

Sin embargo, caminar a nuestro lado, también es una de las cosas más amorosas que Dios hace por nosotros, incluso cuando tomamos decisiones permanentes, que alteran nuestra vida y tienen el potencial de ser perjudiciales. Dios nos promete que seguirá a nuestro lado, permitiéndonos ejercer nuestra propia voluntad, incluso si tiene que contener las lágrimas mientras lo hacemos. 

Como Dios dice en la Biblia: “Nunca te fallaré. Jamás te abandonaré” (Hebreos 13:5, NTV). 

He tratado de pensar cuántas veces Dios ha caminado a mi lado cuando he decidido hacer cosas que van contra Su voluntad, cosas destructivas para mí y para los que me rodean. 

He tratado de pensar en cuántas lágrimas debió derramar Dios al yo tomar esas decisiones, pero aun así siguió a mi lado. Como padre, he derramado una buena cantidad de lágrimas por las personas que amo, y también he estado a su lado en medio de momentos muy difíciles. Pero también puedo decir que nuestras lágrimas a menudo pueden hablar más que cualquier palabra que hayamos dicho.

Las lágrimas en realidad son una de las mayores expresiones de amor que podemos ofrecer por nuestros seres queridos. Como dijo Washington Irving, “hay algo sagrado en las lágrimas. No son muestra de debilidad, sino de poder. Hablan con más elocuencia que mil lenguas. Son mensajeros de una pena abrumadora, de profunda constricción, y de amor indecible”.

Hace poco hablé en el funeral de una querida amiga y una de las mujeres más piadosas que he conocido. Uno de sus nietos se me acercó al finalizar y me habló del gran impacto que la vida de su abuela había tenido en la suya. 

Me dijo cómo, siendo adolescente, una navidad quería de regalo un álbum musical que era de los más vulgares en el mercado. Estaba en un tiempo de rebeldía, y la música expresaba todo el dolor que sentía y la ira que deseaba expresarle a todos los que lo rodeaban. 

Él estaba llorando mientras me relataba la historia de cómo su abuela le había dado el álbum que había pedido para esa navidad, y cuando lo hizo, comenzó una conversación con él respecto a lo que estaba sintiendo y por qué se sentía así. Ella le dijo que entendía por qué deseaba esa música, pero había mejores maneras de tratar con sus sentimientos, que no tenían que acudir a esa música en busca de ayuda, sino que podía buscar a Dios. 

Ella estuvo dispuesta a encontrarse con él en su situación, pero no quiso dejarlo solo. Al darle el álbum, ella le expresó su amor de una manera que podía recibirlo. Pero ella le mostró que había otra forma, una mejor.

Lloré al escuchar lo que mi querida amiga había hecho, algo que no sé si yo habría podido hacer, pero que tocó la vida de este joven, quien meses después de haber recibido ese álbum, le entregó su vida por completo a Cristo y renunció a buscar su solaz en cosas que terminarían destruyéndolo.

No puedo sugerirles a todos el método de mi amiga para cada situación, pero sí puedo decir que Dios lo usó ese día de una manera poderosa para tocar la vida de aquel joven. Y como mi amiga fue una mujer firme en Dios, tengo la seguridad de que ella tomó tiempo para orar y pensar en su decisión antes de proceder en la dirección que se sintió guiada a seguir.

MIS LÁGRIMAS

¿Cómo se relaciona esto con el matrimonio? Se relaciona porque Dios usó esta historia para hacerme llorar una noche cuando sentí que me preguntó si alguna vez yo podría ir a una boda gay, si, por alguna razón en particular, Él quería que fuera.

Aunque he acompañado a otros al tomar sus decisiones respecto a si asistir o no a una boda gay, nunca me han pedido a mí que vaya a una. Pero una noche Dios me preguntó que considerara qué haría si alguien muy querido para mí lo hiciera. Una cosa es aconsejar a otros mientras tratan de navegar esas aguas turbulentas. Otra muy diferente es cuando tú eres el que está en el bote.

Aunque es difícil hacer hipótesis sin conocer lo específico, si considero valioso pensar en este tema antes de que se presente la situación, así estaremos mejor preparados para responder si sucede o cuando suceda.

¿Podría asistir a una boda gay, sabiendo lo que sé sobre la homosexualidad, y creyendo lo que creo acerca de lo que Dios me ha dicho con tanta claridad en cuanto a este tema? 

El dilema para mí es que mi participación con la homosexualidad casi me quita la vida. Es el pecado en mi vida que Dios señaló como la razón por la cual Jesús dio su vida por mí. Estaba siguiendo un camino hacia la muerte, pero Jesús dijo que ya había pagado ese precio por mí. Si yo estaba dispuesto a poner mi fe en Él, podría recuperar mi vida y vivir con Él y para Él, para siempre.

Aunque en mi vida hay muchos otros pecados por los que Jesús murió y que luego señaló, este fue el que Dios destacó para mí entre toda la lista de Romanos capítulo 1. Eso fue lo que me condujo a poner mi fe en Cristo. 

No podía ver cómo podría algún día asistir a una ceremonia que celebraba solemnemente una relación por la que creo que Jesús tuvo que ir a la cruz. Sencillamente no podía.

Pero al parecer, casi como cuando le pidió a Abraham que sacrificara su hijo Isaac en un altar, Dios me estaba preguntando si yo estaba dispuesto a asistir a una boda gay si Dios mismo me pedía que lo hiciera.

Pensar esto me quebrantó, así como Abraham debió llorar al pensar en que tenía que sacrificar a su hijo. ¿Qué haría yo si alguien cercano y querido para mí me invitara a su boda gay, así él o ella conociera mis más profundas convicciones, pero que aun así tuviera un profundo deseo de que yo estuviera presente en uno de los días más importantes de su vida?

Lo único que podría hacer es llorar, llorar por la trascendencia de la decisión tomada por esa persona cercana a mí; llorar por los daños que podrían llegar a la vida de mi ser querido como consecuencia; llorar por esta decisión que estaría cerrando la puerta para siempre a la posibilidad de casarse con alguien del sexo opuesto como yo me casé con Lana y experimenté algo con ella mucho más allá de lo que jamás pude imaginar.

Pero luego pensé en cuántos baldes de lágrimas ha llenado Dios por mí cuando he tomado decisiones que han impactado el resto de mi vida, pero aun así Él siguió a mi lado, sosteniendo mi mano a lo largo del camino.

Seguro, podría quedarme en casa y pretender que nada está sucediendo. O podría asistir y sentarme en una esquina, como si estuviese usando un brazalete negro en protesta por sentirme coaccionado a asistir. O quizás había una mejor manera. 

Quizás, como Dios me estaba sugiriendo, podía sostener la mano de mi ser querido en uno de los días más significativos de su vida, no por mi confianza en la relación de la pareja que se está casando, sino por mi confianza en mi relación con la persona que amo y que me invitó.

“Quizás yo podría hacerlo, Dios”, yo dije, “pero sólo después de derramar muchas, muchas lágrimas”. 

Y Dios dijo: “Ahora estás comenzando a entender la profundidad de mi amor. También estás empezando a comprender cómo puedo hacer lo que tengo que hacer a diario. Estás viendo cómo puedo mostrar gracia a millones, incluso en medio de su pecado, conociendo las consecuencias de éste sobre sus vidas, porque sé cuánto me ha costado su pecado”.

Como dice la Biblia: “Pero Dios mostró el gran amor que nos tiene al enviar a Cristo a morir por nosotros cuando todavía éramos pecadores” (Romanos 5:8). 

TOMÁNDOLO EN SERIO

Si recuerdas mi historia al comienzo de este libro, respecto a mi querida amiga y creyente con quien compartimos la misma manera de pensar, que dejó de leer en un punto del capítulo 12 y me envió una nota diciendo que ya no lo podía leer, éste es ese punto.

Yo no lo explicaba con tanto cuidado como lo estoy haciendo ahora. Y aun así todavía es posible que no esté capturándolo con la precisión con la que Dios me lo explicó. Pero después que ella leyó el primer borrador de mi libro, donde dije que podría verme asistiendo a una boda gay si Dios me animaba, y si mi relación con la persona que me había invitado era de suma importancia, mi amiga se preguntaba cómo podría yo alguna vez tener una buena razón para asistir a una boda gay. 

Ella me dijo que sentía que yo estaba contradiciendo todo lo que había dicho en el resto del libro, porque le parecía que yo estaba respaldando el matrimonio homosexual. Pero mis palabras en ese borrador quizás eran más ambiguas de lo que esperaba, porque nada podía estar más lejos de la verdad. No puedo celebrar, no puedo respaldar, y no puedo afirmar algo que Dios no celebra, respalda ni afirma. No puedo hacerlo. 

La verdad es que creo que lo que Dios me mostró esa noche me sirvió para destacar y resaltar todo lo demás que he dicho en el resto de este libro respecto a lo que se necesita para amar a Dios y a otros en la mayor plenitud posible. 

¿Qué me mostró? Me mostró la importancia de las lágrimas, lágrimas que se expresan en amor.

¿Podría yo ir a una boda gay? No con celebración. Pero quizás podría ir por respeto a la relación que tengo con la persona que me invitó. No podría celebrar algo por lo que Jesús tuvo que ir a la cruz. Quizás podría si mi asistencia fuera una manera de expresar mi verdadero afecto hacia la persona que me invitó de una manera que esa persona pudiera recibirlo, así como mi amiga le dio a su nieto un álbum y expresó su afecto hacia él de una manera que él pudo recibirlo. Si bien hay mucho en juego al ir a una boda gay, puedo ver cómo el mismo principio permitiría que las personas a quienes amo sigan aferradas a sus principios mientras yo sigo firme en los míos. 

Hay una gran diferencia entre acompañar a alguien celebrando algo perjudicial para él o ella, y acompañarla conteniendo las lágrimas. Externamente, ambas cosas pueden parecer lo mismo. Pero por dentro, la diferencia está en las lágrimas, las cuales se expresan en amor.

Alguien puede decir: “¿Entonces sería mejor no ir?”

Yo pensaría lo mismo, salvo por lo que Dios me recordó acerca de las muchas veces en mi vida cuando Él caminó a mi lado al pasar por cosas que sé que habría deseado nunca haber presenciado al estar a mi lado. Ahora, al recordar esos momentos, lo único que puedo decir es que estoy muy agradecido de que Él estuvo ahí.

¿Querría yo ir a una boda gay? No, no me gustaría ir, porque sinceramente creo que Dios nos ha advertido que no participemos de actos homosexuales, y creo que “si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien”. Y por causa de lo que creo, tampoco puedo imaginar que la mayoría de parejas gay querrían que yo fuera a su boda. Nadie quiere obligar a alguien a hacer algo que esa persona no quiere hacer.

Pero sí podría entender si alguien me extendiera una invitación de corazón sincero, teniendo claros conocimientos y las razones de mis convicciones en este tema, pero que aun así quisiera que yo fuera por el genuino y mutuo afecto que sentimos, entonces sería probable que yo fuera, no porque crea en el matrimonio gay, sino porque creo en mi relación con la persona que me ha invitado. 

Al explicarle esta verdad con más precisión a mi amiga que dejó de leer en este punto, y cuando Dios comenzó a mostrarle a ella lo que me había mostrado a mí, ella me volvió a llamar y me dijo: “Creo que necesito tomar en serio lo que estás diciendo en ese capítulo. Contiene una verdad que Dios quiere que vea”.

Sin duda, hay tiempo para el amor con mano firme, y Dios puede llamarte a que expreses tu amor de esa manera (lee 2 Corintios 7:8-10). Pero también hay tiempo para simple gentileza, y Dios también puede llamarte a que expreses tu amor de esa manera (lee Romanos 2:1-4). Así como la Biblia habla sobre cómo el amor con mano firme puede conducir a arrepentimiento, también habla de cómo la gentileza puede llevar al arrepentimiento.

Estas son decisiones difíciles, y no se pueden tomar a la ligera. Si fueran fáciles, ¡creo que no habrías empezado a leer un libro como este! 

Pero si estás dispuesto a pedirle sabiduría a Dios, dándole suficiente tiempo a tus decisiones, orando y meditando en ellas a fin de escuchar Su dirección, estoy convencido de que podrás tomar decisiones que lo van a honrar a Él, a tus seres queridos y a sus más profundas convicciones.

Como dice la Biblia: “Y si alguno de vosotros tiene falta de sabiduría, pídala a Dios, el cual da a todos abundantemente y sin reproche, y le será dada” (Santiago 1:5).

LA PLENITUD DE LAS PALABRAS DE DIOS

Antes de terminar esta discusión, hay un matiz importante que no quiero que pierdas de vista. 

Aunque en este capítulo he usado el matrimonio como ejemplo para amar a otros en medio de nuestras lágrimas, esa es una de las muchas situaciones que enfrentaremos en la vida cuando tengamos que decidir cuál es la mejor manera de expresar nuestro amor a otros de una manera que puedan escucharlo mientras nos mantenemos firmes en nuestras convicciones.

Creo que Jesús nos da el mejor ejemplo de cómo poder hacerlo.

Un amigo mío hace poco asistió a un evento especial en una iglesia que estaba visitando. El pastor a cargo del evento pasó al frente en un punto y leyó en la Biblia el pasaje acerca de la mujer que fue sorprendida en adulterio y que fue llevada ante Jesús.

El pastor leyó este pasaje en relación con el tema de la homosexualidad. Y esto es lo que leyó:

Mientras hablaba, los maestros de la ley religiosa y los fariseos le llevaron a una mujer que había sido sorprendida en el acto de adulterio; la pusieron en medio de la multitud. “Maestro —le dijeron a Jesús—, esta mujer fue sorprendida en el acto de adulterio. La ley de Moisés manda apedrearla; ¿tú qué dices?”. 

Intentaban tenderle una trampa para que dijera algo que pudieran usar en su contra, pero Jesús se inclinó y escribió con el dedo en el polvo. Como ellos seguían exigiéndole una respuesta, él se incorporó nuevamente y les dijo: “¡Muy bien, pero el que nunca haya pecado que tire la primera piedra!”. Luego volvió a inclinarse y siguió escribiendo en el polvo. 

Al oír eso, los acusadores se fueron retirando uno tras otro, comenzando por los de más edad, hasta que quedaron solo Jesús y la mujer en medio de la multitud. 

Entonces Jesús se incorporó de nuevo y le dijo a la mujer: —¿Dónde están los que te acusaban? ¿Ni uno de ellos te condenó?

—Ni uno, Señor —dijo ella. 

—Yo tampoco —le dijo Jesús—.

(Juan 8:3-11a).

El pastor cerró su Biblia en ese punto de la historia, miró alrededor del salón y dijo: “Eso es todo lo que necesito escuchar. Debemos decirles lo mismo a quienes son homosexuales: ‘Yo tampoco te condeno’”. 

Mi amigo dijo que casi todos los presentes asintieron con la cabeza en aprobación. Casi todos, salvo mi amigo. Él había dejado su Biblia abierta por un poco más de tiempo para seguir leyendo lo que Jesús dijo después. 

Se preguntó por qué el pastor había cerrado la Biblia en ese punto del relato, en lugar de leer el resto de lo que Jesús le dijo a esa mujer aquel día. 

¿Por qué el pastor solo compartió algunas de las palabras de Jesús, y no todas sus palabras?

Lo que mi amigo leyó, y lo que el pastor debió haber leído a las personas en ese evento si hubiese dejado su Biblia abierta solo para leer una frase más, fueron las siguientes palabras: 

“Vete y no peques más” (Juan 8:11b).

Aunque creo que ese pastor y los presentes en esa reunión habían sido sinceros en tomar algo de tiempo, meditación y oración respecto a este tema, y habían encontrado algunas ideas sobre la verdad, también creo que se quedaron cortos y no encontraron la plenitud de lo que Jesús tenía para decir en cuanto a este tema. 

Jesús sí veía los pecados de esta mujer iguales a los del resto de personas reunidas alrededor de ella para apedrearla. Eso es verdad.

Y Jesús sí demostró que no quería que nadie la apedreara, sino que deseaba que ella viviera en lugar de morir. Como le dijo a Nicodemo: en realidad no vino “a condenar al mundo, sino para salvar al mundo” (lee Juan 3:17). Eso también es verdad.

Pero el trozo de verdad que el pastor y estas personas no encontraron fue aquello que evitaría la muerte de esta mujer por lo que estaba haciendo, y le permitiría vivir la vida a plenitud. Esta verdad estaba en las últimas palabras que Jesús le dijo a ella: “Vete y no peques más”. 

Fue este trozo de verdad que le costaría la vida a Jesús unos pocos días después. Este trozo de verdad fue la única razón por la cual Jesús pudo perdonarla por sus pecados y dejarla ir, porque él mismo iba hacia la cruz a pagar con Su propia vida el precio de los pecados de ella. Fue ese trozo de verdad lo que le permitió a ella de verdad quedar libre y vivir la vida que Dios había creado para ella.

La Biblia no nos dice qué hizo aquella mujer después de que Jesús la liberó. Pero, según lo que me sucedió cuando enfrenté la posibilidad real de la muerte por mis pecados, y el compromiso resultante que tuve de nunca volver a mis viejos caminos, puedo imaginar que ella tampoco volvió a sus viejos caminos.

Dios nos ha mostrado toda Su maravillosa gracia, y quiere que extendamos esa gracia a otros. También nos ha mostrado Su maravilloso amor, y quiere que también extendamos ese amor a otros. La gracia dice: “Yo tampoco te condeno”. 

El amor añade: “Vete y no peques más”.

Mi esperanza es que todos sigamos buscando cada trozo de verdad que Dios tiene en mente para que lo encontremos en este tema y en muchos otros, sin nunca perder de vista la plenitud de lo que Él tiene para decir. 

Como dice la Biblia: “En cambio, hablaremos la verdad con amor y así creceremos en todo sentido hasta parecernos más y más a Cristo” (Efesios 4:15, NTV). 

P.D. No dejes de leer la conclusión y el epílogo, ¡que vienen después de las guías de estudio de las siguientes páginas! ¡Algunos de los primeros lectores de este libro dijeron que estos últimos dos capítulos son sus favoritos en todo el libro!

Guías de estudio para los capítulos 11 y 12

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 11: “LA IMPORTANCIA DE LOS CINTURONES DE SEGURIDAD”

Resumen del Capítulo

Algunos cristianos quieren respaldar y afirmar a sus amigos gays al estimularlos a seguir al máximo sus atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Pero para las personas que no quieren seguir esas atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, ese tipo de “apoyo” puede ser aplastante. El autor sugiere que:

  • aunque todos queremos que nuestros amigos nos amen y respalden, no queremos que nos animen a hacer cosas que van contra nuestras propias convicciones,
  • y aunque todos queremos ser amorosos y de apoyo, debemos comprender que las palabras de respaldo que damos a los demás pueden no sonar como apoyo para quienes las escuchan.

El mensaje de esperanza de una persona puede sonar como un mensaje de esclavitud para otra. Todo esto indica por qué necesitamos ser cuidadosos con lo que hablamos y orar en cuanto a este tema, teniendo en cuenta la persona con quien hablamos.

Si bien, ya no existen muchas de las restricciones que en otro momento sirvieron de obstáculo para que las personas no siguieran el camino de la homosexualidad, las restricciones de la palabra de Dios han seguido intactas. La palabra de Dios actúa como un “cinturón de seguridad” para nosotros, y sigue siendo la mejor protección para evitar que nos hagamos daño a nosotros mismos y a los demás.

El autor dice que el cambiante paisaje en cuanto a este tema:

  • ha sido útil de muchas maneras para quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, puesto que pueden tener mayor libertad para explorar formas válidas de satisfacer sus necesidades legítimas, sin el temor de ser catalogados como gays,
  • pero ninguna de estas nuevas libertades ha cambiado el hecho de que los hombres y las mujeres son diferentes, razón por la cual las personas todavía prefieren casarse con una persona de un sexo en lugar del otro.

Incluso con todas estas nuevas libertades, el autor dice por qué está completamente convencido de que la Palabra de Dios sigue siendo la mejor manera de restricción en cuanto a este asunto: para nuestro bien, por honrar a Dios, y por el bien de todos los involucrados. 

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee 1 Corintios 2:4-5. ¿Cómo puede nuestro testimonio hablar a las personas del poder de Dios tanto como las otras palabras que podemos procurar usar para convencerlos de lo que creemos? ¿Cómo puede el testimonio del autor hablar del poder de Dios tanto como las otras palabras que puede tratar de usar?

Lee Juan 9:25. ¿Qué hace tan poderoso el sencillo testimonio del hombre ciego a quien Jesús sanó?

Lee Romanos 1:26-27. ¿Por qué la Biblia describe los actos homosexuales como “contra naturaleza”? ¿Qué afirmación hace esto en cuanto a los “hechos de vida” según lo que nos presenta la naturaleza?

Lee Génesis 4:21, 2 Samuel 6:14, y Éxodo 31:1-5. Aunque algunas actividades pueden hacer parecer a las personas como más o menos gays, ¿qué dice la Biblia respecto a la variedad de dones que Dios le ha dado a su pueblo? ¿Cómo este tipo de pasajes pueden dar libertad adicional a quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo para que satisfagan sus necesidades legítimas? 

¿Qué dijo el autor respecto a por qué se sintió tan mal cuando una amiga le ofreció su apoyo, sin importar el género de la persona con quien se casará en el futuro? ¿Cómo nuestras palabras de apoyo, así las expresemos con amor, a veces pueden ser interpretadas de la manera incorrecta? 

¿Qué palabras crees que el autor habría deseado que su amiga le hubiera dicho, al darle su apoyo como persona, pero sin respaldar algo que Dios le ha advertido que no haga? 

¿Cómo podemos ofrecer nuestro amor sincero, con cuidado y compasión a quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, sin comprometer nuestras más profundas convicciones? 

¿De qué formas has visto cambios en las políticas públicas en cuanto a este tema a lo largo de tu vida? ¿Y en los años recientes? 

¿Cómo crees que este cambio en la opinión y las políticas públicas afectará a quienes experimentan atracciones hacia el mismo sexo al tratar de decidir por sí mismos el camino que van a seguir? ¿Crees que este cambio facilita o dificulta esas decisiones? 

Si el género en verdad no importa con respecto al tema del matrimonio ¿Por qué algunos prefieren casarse con otra persona de determinado sexo en lugar del otro? ¿Puedes ver cómo se pueden satisfacer diferentes necesidades con personas de géneros diferentes, pero no siempre se pueden satisfacer las mismas necesidades con personas de ambos géneros?

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA EL CAPÍTULO 12: “LA IMPORTANCIA DE LAS LÁGRIMAS”

Resumen del Capítulo

El nuevo panorama con respecto a la homosexualidad requiere una respuesta genuina de la iglesia. El autor espera que este libro sea parte de esa respuesta. En este capítulo, el autor usa el ejemplo de ser invitado a una boda gay para abordar diferentes formas de expresar nuestro amor en otras situaciones. Este ejemplo es útil porque:

  • una invitación a una boda gay es tan clara como una “pregunta”, que suele requerir la respuesta específica de una persona,
  • una invitación a una boda homosexual a menudo traerá a la superficie todo lo que esa persona cree, o piensa que cree respecto a la homosexualidad,
  • y una respuesta a la invitación a una boda homosexual involucra a personas y relaciones reales, no teorías abstractas.

Aunque puede haber muchas discusiones en cuanto a asistir o no a una boda gay, incluso entre devotos cristianos que creen en la Biblia y tienen la convicción de que el matrimonio gay no es correcto, bueno o saludable para los que se van a casar, puede ser útil tener una discusión considerada sobre este tema. Algunas de estas respuestas varían según las relaciones y convicciones de las personas que invitan y los invitados, tales como:

  • si la asistencia o no asistencia viola la conciencia de una persona,
  • si la asistencia o no asistencia equivale a aprobación,
  • y si la asistencia o no asistencia impactaría de manera significativa la relación entre los que hacen la invitación y los invitados.

Algunas consideraciones adicionales a tener en cuenta incluyen:

  • cómo Dios ha estado a nuestro lado incluso cuando hemos hecho cosas que Él no ha querido que hagamos,
  • cómo el acompañar a alguien en celebración es muy diferente a acompañarlo conteniendo las lágrimas,
  • y tanto el amor con mano firme como la genuina gentileza pueden conducir al mismo resultado, dependiendo de la situación.

Aunque este capítulo se concentra en el matrimonio gay como ejemplo, ilustra el dilema real que los cristianos enfrentarán en sus vidas con sus seres queridos. El autor confía en que Dios puede guiarnos a tener el enfoque más amoroso si le damos a esa situación algo de tiempo, oración y meditación. 

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee 1 Corintios 13:2 y 16:14. ¿Cuál debería ser siempre nuestra guía en respuesta a cualquier problema cultural o de otra índole? 

Lee Eclesiastés 3:1, 7 y Santiago 1:9. ¿Qué dicen estos pasajes en cuanto al problema de cuándo hablar y cuándo callar? ¿Alguna vez te han pedido que expreses lo que crees en cuanto al tema de la homosexualidad? De ser así, ¿cómo crees que fue tu respuesta? ¿Qué quisieras haber hecho mejor? 

Lee Romanos 1:32 y Hebreos 13:5b. ¿Cómo cada uno de estos pasajes pueden guiar a alguien a saber si asistir o no a una boda gay? ¿La asistencia a una boda equivale necesariamente a la aprobación de la misma? ¿Cómo tu respuesta a la pregunta anterior afecta tu decisión de asistir o no?

Lee Juan 8:1-11, Juan 3:17, y Romanos 5:8. ¿De qué manera pudo dejar libre Jesús a la mujer que había cometido adulterio? ¿Qué iba a hacer en su lugar para que su libertad fuera posible? Aunque no podemos morir por los pecados de alguien como lo hizo Jesús, para liberar a esa persona, ¿cómo podemos vivir por esa persona para que sea libre? ¿Qué hizo Cristo por nosotros mientras seguíamos pecando?

Lee Romanos 2:4. ¿A qué puede conducir la benignidad de Dios? ¿Qué actos de bondad podemos extender a otros y que puedan conducir a lo mismo?

¿Alguna vez te han invitado a una boda de cualquier clase en la que no necesariamente aprobabas la unión, pero de todas formas fuiste? ¿Qué factores influyeron en tu decisión de ir o no ir? ¿Cómo pueden esos factores ser útiles con respecto a la decisión de asistir o no a una boda gay?

¿Alguna vez has recibido una invitación a una boda gay? De ser así, ¿cuál fue tu respuesta, y por qué? Y ya sea que te hayan invitado o no a una boda gay, ¿por qué es tan importante tomar tiempo para orar y meditar en tu respuesta?

Conclusión: Por qué todos necesitamos un arco iris

Donde comparto por qué el arco iris es un símbolo apropiado, no solo para el movimiento homosexual, sino para todos nosotros, porque todos estamos juntos en esto.

A veces, como cristianos, pensamos que tenemos ventaja al estar con Dios. Creemos que estamos en su grupo “interno” y todos los demás están “afuera”. Perdemos de vista el hecho de que todos somos preciosos ante los ojos de Dios, que todos hemos sido creados a su imagen.

Esto lo comprendí de una manera conmovedora cuando fui a Israel por primera vez en el año 1995. Me hospedé con una familia musulmana en el lado Oeste, era una casa donde las balas, en el pasado, habían perforado los muros exteriores y los vidrios de las ventanas de la habitación donde yo dormía. 

Ahí estaba yo, un cristiano apasionado visitando Israel por primera vez, menos de 10 días después de haber renunciado a mi trabajo secular para entrar a servir de tiempo completo en el ministerio. Era un peregrinaje de fe, a solas con Dios, iba a vivir por una semana con una familia de quienes sólo había escuchado un poco la mañana cuando partí de casa para ir al aeropuerto. 

Ese mismo día, un amigo mío había organizado mi hospedaje con un amigo suyo que era musulmán y que administraba la tienda de alimentos de nuestro pequeño pueblo, él me ofreció un lugar de hospedaje con sus familiares mientras yo visitaba el país. 

Esta familia musulmana fue muy amable conmigo, me trataron como a la realeza, aunque el mismo día que llegué mencionaron de paso que si alguna vez veían al evangelista estadounidense Billy Graham, lo asesinarían de inmediato. (Decidí que ese no era el momento para mencionar que el señor Graham era uno de mis héroes vivientes de la fe, y que mi esposa y yo habíamos usado su apellido como segundo nombre para uno de nuestros hijos. ¡De verdad hay tiempo para hablar y tiempo para callar!)

Aunque esta familia fue muy hospitalaria, más amable que ninguna familia que haya conocido, todavía tenía esa sensación en mi interior de que por ser cristiano estaba con Dios “dentro” de un círculo especial, y que por alguna razón ellos estaban “afuera” de ese círculo. 

Teológicamente sí entiendo que Cristo sí abre una puerta para que nos acerquemos a Dios limpios y perdonados, lo cual sí nos da increíbles bendiciones y beneficios, ¡incluyendo vida eterna! Pero en términos de ser preciosos a los ojos de Dios, todos estamos en el mismo nivel del campo de juego.

Una noche, después de haber estado visitando algunos de los lugares sagrados de esa Tierra Santa, llegué a la casa de esta familia y comprendí esto: De hecho, yo era un gentil (como la Biblia se refiere a todos los que no son judíos), así como mis anfitriones musulmanes eran gentiles. Yo no era alguien “de adentro” con Dios, así como tampoco ellos lo eran. 

Según cualquier judío ortodoxo, yo era más como esa familia musulmana y no como la mayoría de los primeros judíos seguidores de Jesús. Ese día, Dios puso en mi corazón que la única diferencia entre mis anfitriones musulmanes y yo era que yo había puesto mi fe en Cristo y que ellos no, lo cual sí hace toda la diferencia, tanto en este mundo como en el venidero. Sin embargo, por mi nacimiento natural yo era tan gentil como mis anfitriones. 

De repente sentí con ellos una unidad que nunca antes había sentido. Comprendí que había estado en el mismo bote en el que ellos estaban. Fue sólo por la disposición que Cristo tuvo para abrir las puertas del reino de Dios para todos que yo, como gentil, había tenido la oportunidad de entrar a ese reino.

LAS PERSONAS SON PERSONAS

Esto lo comparto contigo mientras consideras cómo amar mejor a Dios y a los gays. En realidad, no es cuestión de “nosotros contra ellos”, sino de “todos estamos juntos en esto”. 

En muchas formas me siento tan lejos de ser gay como cualquiera que nunca ha experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Es como que ahora soy “esto” mientras ellos siguen siendo “aquello”. Pero la verdad es que todos somos “aquello”, todos necesitamos la misericordia y la gracia de Dios porque hemos pecado de una u otra manera. 

Y todos también volvemos a Dios de la misma manera: por medio del amor y el perdón que nos ofrece por Jesucristo.

Romanos 1 tiene unas fuertes palabras de advertencia para quienes, entre otras cosas, han estado en la homosexualidad. Pero Romanos 2 tiene unas fuertes palabras de advertencia para todos los demás:

“Tal vez crees que puedes condenar a tales individuos, pero tu maldad es igual que la de ellos, ¡y no tienes ninguna excusa! Cuando dices que son perversos y merecen ser castigados, te condenas a ti mismo porque tú, que juzgas a otros, también practicas las mismas cosas… Y tú, que juzgas a otros por hacer esas cosas, ¿cómo crees que podrás evitar el juicio de Dios cuando haces lo mismo?  ¿No te das cuenta de lo bondadoso, tolerante y paciente que es Dios contigo? ¿Acaso eso no significa nada para ti? ¿No ves que la bondad de Dios es para guiarte a que te arrepientas y abandones tu pecado? (Romanos 2:1, 3-4). 

A lo largo de este libro he tratado de comunicar que las personas que luchan con atracciones hacia el mismo sexo no son muy diferentes a cualquier otra persona que lucha con otra clase de tentación. 

Todos nos sentimos atraídos a algo que no es bueno ni saludable para nosotros. Todos nos sentimos atraídos a algo contra lo que Dios trata de advertirnos con el “No” más fuerte y claro posible. Todos necesitamos el amor de Dios, su compasión, y su gracia, y Él nos da todo esto gratuitamente por medio de Jesucristo.

Un día, la autora de la popular serie de libros que mencioné antes, quien dijo que siempre vio a uno de los principales héroes de sus libros como alguien gay, respondió en Twitter a un mensaje proveniente de una de sus seguidoras, quien dijo que “no lograba verlo”. 

Había leído de principio a fin todos los libros de la serie y en ninguna parte había identificado que ese importante personaje fuera homosexual. 

La autora respondió: “¿Será porque las personas que son gays se ven como… personas?”

¡Vaya! ¡Qué respuesta! ¡Qué revelación! Es algo muy cierto, en muchos niveles.

Las personas son personas. Todos tenemos cosas con las que luchamos, y todos tenemos cosas de las que necesitamos ser salvos. Ninguno de nosotros tiene un registro moral perfecto. Es verdad que “todos estamos juntos en esto”. 

ANTEOJOS DE COLOR ROSA

Todos, como Noé y su familia después del diluvio, necesitamos un arco iris en el cielo, una promesa de Dios de que no nos volverá a destruir con un diluvio. 

Cuando comencé a leer la Biblia siendo ya adulto, me intrigó qué tan rápido, en el capítulo 6 del primer libro, Génesis, nosotros como humanidad ya nos habíamos desviado tanto de las esperanzas y sueños que Dios tenía para nosotros, que Él estuvo listo y dispuesto a destruir todo lo que había creado.

Sin embargo, Dios encontró a una persona que hacía lo correcto ante sus ojos, y por sólo una persona, Dios estuvo dispuesto a darnos otra oportunidad. 

Dios salvó a Noé y su familia de la destrucción total, luego prometió que nunca volvería a destruir la tierra con una inundación. Ya conoces la historia: Dios puso un arco iris en las nubes como señal de esa promesa.

Lo que no comprendí hasta cuando leí esa historia siendo ya adulto, fue para quien era la señal. Siempre pensé que el arco iris era una señal para nosotros, Sus hijos e hijas en la tierra, para recordarnos que Él nunca volvería a destruir la tierra. Pero al mirar el pasaje más de cerca, vi que el arco iris en realidad era una señal para Él, un recordatorio para Él de la promesa que había hecho. 

Dios dijo: “Cuando envíe nubes sobre la tierra, el arco iris aparecerá en las nubes y yo me acordaré de mi pacto con ustedes y con todas las criaturas vivientes. Nunca más las aguas de un diluvio volverán a destruir a todos los seres vivos” (Génesis 9:14-15).

Esto cambió mi manera de pensar en cuanto al arco iris. En lugar de ser una señal para mí, era una señal para Él. Me impactó que el arco iris, para Dios, es como un par de anteojos de color rosa, (anteojos de la talla de Dios), a través de los cuales Él puede ver la tierra de una nueva manera.

Una vez tuve unos anteojos como esos. Aunque había tenido gafas de sol de otros colores: grises, azules o de color marrón, ninguna de ellas parecía mejorar lo que veía a mí alrededor tanto como las de color rosa. 

Siempre que me las ponía, todo se veía un poco más brillante, un poco mejor. Era como si tuviera una perspectiva completamente nueva ante la vida, ante todo lo que veía.

Después de leer este pasaje sobre el arco iris desde la perspectiva de Dios, pude imaginarlo mirándome, y en lugar de ver mi fealdad, las cosas que yo había hecho y estropeaban mi propia imagen, Él me veía con otra óptica. 

Podía imaginar que, para Dios, Él me veía un poco más brillante, un poco mejor. 

Cuando Dios nos mira a través de su arco iris, es como si estuviera viéndonos de la manera como nos creó en un principio, como esperaba que fuéramos desde el comienzo.

Luego pensé en las personas del movimiento gay que eligieron el arco iris como su símbolo, y que adhieren pegatinas de arco iris a sus autos, y que uzan banderas de arco iris en sus casas. Y no pude evitar pensar que quizás, ante los ojos de Dios, esto le ayuda a Él a ver las cosas bajo otra luz, una luz que vuelve a recordarle Sus promesas.

ÉL ESTÁ CONMIGO

¿Y no es eso lo que Jesús hizo por nosotros? Cuando Jesús vino a la tierra y murió por nuestros pecados, pasó a ser nuestro nuevo arco iris, nuestro nuevo pacto. 

Ahora, cuando Dios me mira, ve a Jesús, no porque yo sea como Jesús (aunque quisiera serlo), sino porque Jesús se pone de pie delante de mí y dice: “Él está conmigo”. 

Cuando Jesús tomó mi lugar en la cruz, un lugar que yo merecía por mis muchos pecados, Dios me cubrió con el perdón que Cristo compró con Su vida. 

Cuando Dios me mira, ve a Jesús. Ve un Eric mejorado, un Eric glorificado, un Eric santificado, Eric 2.0, porque me ve a través de sus gafas color Jesús.

Como la mujer sorprendida en adulterio, yo también fui sorprendido en mis pecados. Y como la mujer sorprendida en adulterio, Jesús dijo que yo también podía ser libre, por lo que Él hizo en la cruz para pagar por mis pecados, permitiéndome vivir la vida que Dios había creado para que yo viviera desde un comienzo. Y al comenzar a vivir esa nueva vida, Jesús me dijo, así como le dijo a la mujer sorprendida en adulterio: “Vete y no peques más”.

Todos necesitamos un arco iris. Todos necesitamos a Alguien que pueda salvarnos de nuestros pecados. Todos estamos juntos en el mismo bote.

No sé tú, pero en mi caso estoy muy agradecido por que Dios haya puesto ese arco iris en el cielo. No puedo pensar en una mejor señal o en una bandera más apropiada para ondear en mi vida, no como símbolo de mi orgullo, sino como un recordatorio de las promesas que Dios ha hecho.

Incluso, a veces me he preguntado si es posible que Dios mismo haya inspirado a los del movimiento gay a que eligieran el arco iris como su símbolo, como la señal que pueden exhibir en sus casas, sus desfiles y sus vidas. 

¿Podría ser que Dios mismo haya inspirado a alguien en la Casa Blanca para encenderla con todos los colores del arco iris el día que nuestra Corte Suprema legalizó el matrimonio gay en todo el país? 

¿Podría ser que Dios mismo haya inspirado a las personas a ondear la bandera del arco iris en nuestras embajadas de todo el mundo? 

No sé la respuesta. Pero estaría agradecido si fuera Dios el que inspiró cada una de esas cosas.

Ahora, siempre que veo un arco iris, recuerdo el increíble amor de Dios hacia mí. Me recuerda Su maravillosa gracia. Me hace acordar que todos estamos juntos en esto. 

Por sobre todo, me hace recordar que todos necesitamos un arco iris de vez en cuando. 

Es gracias a Jesús, quien envió su Espíritu Santo a morar dentro de todo el que pone su fe en Él, que tenemos ese arco iris, a donde quiera que vayamos.

Guía de estudio para la conclusión

GUÍA DE ESTUDIO PARA LA CONCLUSIÓN: “POR QUÉ TODOS NECESITAMOS UN ARCO IRIS”

Resumen del Capítulo

A veces es fácil pensar en términos de “nosotros” y “ellos” respecto a cualquier tema en la vida, y mucho más en cuanto a este tema. Pero la verdad es que todos estamos juntos en esto. La verdad es:

  • ninguno de nosotros tiene un registro moral perfecto,
  • todos necesitamos la misericordia y la gracia de Dios,
  • y todos también volvemos a Dios de la misma manera: por medio de la fe, el amor y el perdón que nos ofrece por Jesucristo.

Así como el arco iris fue una señal en el día de Noé, hoy sigue siendo una señal para nosotros de la promesa que Dios hizo de nunca volver a destruir el mundo con un diluvio. El arco iris:

  • es una señal para nosotros de la promesa de Dios, así que podemos descansar tranquilos en esa promesa,
  • es una señal para Dios de Su promesa, para que Él la recuerde,
  • y quizás sirve como unas gafas color rosa del tamaño de Dios, así, cuando nos mira, nos ve como nos creó en el comienzo, sin pecado, así como ve a quienes han puesto su fe en Cristo: justificados ante sus ojos.

Aunque sin duda Dios mismo es la inspiración detrás de todos los arcos iris en el cielo, el autor se pregunta si quizás Dios también sea la inspiración detrás de todos los otros arcos iris que vemos en el mundo, sin importar quienes los exhiban o por qué lo hagan, así todos nos vemos un poco más brillantes ante los ojos de Dios. 

Si ese es el caso, entonces todos podríamos usar un arco iris en nuestras vidas, ¡todos los días! Y gracias a Jesús tenemos uno.

Preguntas de Reflexión y Discusión

Lee Romanos 2:1-4. ¿Por qué el Apóstol Pablo dice que nosotros que juzgamos a otros por ciertos pecados hacemos lo mismo? ¿Qué es lo que él quiere decir en Romanos 2:1-4?

Lee Génesis 6:9-14, 7:21-24 y 9:1-17 ¿Qué estaba sucediendo en los días de Noé que hizo que Dios deseara destruir a todo el mundo? ¿Por qué Dios decidió salvar a Noé y su familia? 

¿Alguna vez has considerado este asunto en términos de “nosotros” y “ellos”? ¿Qué opinas sobre la siguiente afirmación?: “Todos estamos juntos en esto”. ¿Por qué el autor dice que todos estamos juntos en esto, así alguien nunca haya experimentado atracciones hacia el mismo sexo, o haya tomado acciones en ese sentido?

¿Qué opinas sobre la siguiente afirmación?: “Será porque las personas que son gays se ven como… personas”.

¿Qué diferencia haría si, en lugar de confrontar a las personas involucradas en la homosexualidad, camináramos a su lado, para ayudarlos a salir de esa condición?

¿Por qué Dios necesitó establecer un recordatorio en el cielo para nunca volver a destruir la tierra con un diluvio? ¿Para quién lo puso? ¿Cómo crees que el arco iris nos ayuda a Dios y a nosotros cada vez que aparece en el cielo?

¿Cómo puede Jesús servir de “arco iris” en las vidas de los que ponen su fe en Él? 

Aunque Dios es claramente la inspiración detrás de cada arco iris que aparece en el cielo, ¿es posible que Él también sea la inspiración detrás de cada arco iris que vemos a nuestro alrededor todos los días? De ser así, ¿qué propósito puede tener Él al hacerlo? ¿Cómo puede esta manera de pensar cambiar tu manera de ver los arcos iris cada vez que veas uno a partir de ahora?

Epílogo: 10 pasos hacia una mejor comprensión

Donde comparto algunas ideas prácticas para guiar tus discusiones sobre este tema con quienes están experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo.

Ya que has leído este libro, quizás te estés preguntado; “¿Y ahora qué?” 

He escrito esta guía para darte unas ideas en cuanto a cómo abordar este tema con quienes están experimentando atracciones hacia el mismo sexo. Así es como yo abordo este tema con las personas que amo. 

Oro por que esta guía te ayude a multiplicar todo lo que Dios ha podido hacer por medio de mí para hacerlo también por medio de ti. Juntos, espero podemos tener un impacto positivo en la mayor cantidad posible de personas, incluyendo a los que más amas.

PASO 1) CONOCE LO QUE CREES Y POR QUÉ LO CREES

Antes de conversar sobre este tema, es útil identificar lo que ya has llegado a creer al respecto y por qué has llegado a esas convicciones. Aunque lo que crees puede cambiar con el tiempo con un poco más de exploración, oración y conversaciones, este es un buen punto de partida para tener una conversación.

Esto es lo que yo creo en cuanto a este tema y por qué lo creo. Ten la libertad de usar esta lista como trampolín para crear tu propia lista. 

La pregunta es esta: “¿Qué es lo que en realidad crees en cuanto a la homosexualidad y por qué?”

  • Creo que los actos homosexuales son pecado. ¿Por qué? Porque Dios nos ha advertido en la Biblia que no los hagamos, y lo ha hecho de manera fuerte y clara. (Romanos 1:8-32; Levítico 18:22, 20:13; 1 Corintios 6:9-20)
  • Creo que las tentaciones homosexuales no son pecado. ¿Por qué? Porque Dios dice que todos enfrentamos tentaciones, así como Jesús las enfrentó, pero esas tentaciones no nos definen. (1 Corintios 10:13; Hebreos 4:14-16)
  • Creo que cualquier persona puede ser redimida y liberada para nunca más volver a seguir sus tentaciones homosexuales. ¿Por qué? Porque Dios está en el negocio de transformar vidas, incluso en este tema, (1 Corintios 6:11-12; 2 Corintios 5:17; además de mi propio testimonio y el de muchos otros)
  • Creo que los que de verdad desean casarse algún día con alguien del sexo opuesto, pueden hacerlo y tener maravillosos resultados. ¿Por qué? Porque cuando nos deleitamos en el Señor, Él nos concede los deseos de nuestro corazón. (Salmos 37:4-6, Juan 10:7-10; además de mi propio testimonio y el de muchos otros)
  • Creo que el matrimonio ideal para Dios es un esposo y una esposa comprometidos de por vida. ¿Por qué? Porque Dios nos creó intencionalmente de una forma que satisface de manera simultánea nuestro deseo de intimidad y Su deseo de un mundo lleno de personas, ¡porque Él ama a las personas! (Génesis 1:26-28; Génesis 2:18-25; Marcos 10:2-9; Juan 3:14-18)
  • Creo que las relaciones homosexuales no son ni la primera, ni la segunda mejor opción para nadie, sino que a largo plazo son destructivas y perjudiciales para los involucrados, para otras personas, y para los propósitos de Dios al habernos dado el regalo de la sexualidad. ¿Por qué? Porque si haces algo que Dios dice que no debes hacer, no te va a ir bien. (Romanos 1:24-32; Romanos 3:23, 6:23; Deuteronomio 28:1-2, 15)
  • Creo que Dios nos ama incondicionalmente, nos llama a vivir nuestras vidas a plenitud, y nos capacita para hacerlo. ¿Por qué? Por la forma como Jesús nos perdonó, nos llamó a vivir nuestras vidas a plenitud, y nos capacitó para hacerlo. (Juan 8:1-11; 1 Corintios 6:9-11; Romanos 8:9-11)
  • Creo que Dios nos llama a amarnos incondicionalmente unos a otros, a tratarnos como quisiéramos que nos trataran. ¿Por qué? Porque así fue como Jesús nos amó y nos invitó a hacer lo mismo. (Mateo 7:12; Mateo 22:34-40; Romanos 5:6-8)

PASO 2) CONOCE LO QUE CREEN TUS SERES QUERIDOS Y POR QUÉ LO CREEN

  • Pídeles a tus seres queridos que te relaten su historia, siendo lo más honestos posibles, y escuchándolos de verdad, con el deseo de entender, no solo responder. (Santiago 1:19-20; Proverbios 10:19, 18:2, 18:13)
  • Escucha su corazón, no sólo sus palabras, de modo que puedas entender con mayor claridad lo que dicen (y dentro de lo posible no ofenderte con cualquiera de sus palabras). (Proverbios 20:5)
  • Presta atención a las necesidades legítimas que están tratando de satisfacer. (Filipenses 4:19)
  • Escucha cómo están tratando de satisfacer esas necesidades legítimas, ya sea de manera ilegítima o no. (Proverbios 3:5-6)

PASO 3) COMPARTE LO QUE CREES Y POR QUÉ LO CREES

  • Comparte, con amor, las verdades que has llegado a creer. (Efesios 4:15)
  • Comparte, con amor, los versículos que respaldan lo que crees, confiando que esos versículos cobrarán vida para los que los escuchan. (Hebreos 4:12)
  • Comparte, con amor, la historia de Corintios en la Biblia, mi historia, y las historias de otros que han encarnado lo que crees. Para comenzar: comparte este libro, o comparte toda mi historia, Fifty Shades of Grace, escrito bajo mi seudónimo Nicholas Deere; o la historia de Dennis Jernigan Sing Over Me; o la de Jeff Konrad, You Don’t Have to be Gay; o la de Christopher Yuan, Out of a Far Country. (1 Corintios 6:9-11; Juan 20:30-31; Juan 21:25)

PASO 4) IDENTIFICA LOS PUNTOS DE ACUERDO Y DE DESACUERDO

  • Identifica los puntos en común respecto a lo que cada uno piensa, en especial en cuanto a necesidades válidas, reconociendo que estar de acuerdo es algo poderoso. (Mateo 18:19)
  • Identifica los puntos de desacuerdo en lo que cada uno piensa, en especial con respecto a las maneras de satisfacer esas necesidades legítimas, pero que pueden parecer inválidas para cada uno de ustedes, reconociendo que incluso las personas maduras a veces tienen puntos de vista diferentes. (Filipenses 3:15-16; Gálatas 2:11)
  • Identifica los posibles daños que pueden venir de satisfacer necesidades válidas de maneras que cada uno de ustedes considera inválidas; incluyendo daños a las personas involucradas, daños a otros, y daños a los propósitos para los que Dios nos ha dado el regalo de la sexualidad. (1 Corintios 6:18-20; Romanos 1:27; Génesis 3:1-3)

PASO 5) EXPLORA IDEAS PARA SATISFACER NECESIDADES LEGÍTIMAS DE MANERAS LEGÍTIMAS.

  • Explora ideas para satisfacer necesidades legítimas que no sean sexuales ni románticas. (1 Samuel 18:1-4; Ruth 1:16-18; Proverbios 18:24; Hechos 9:27, 11:25-26; 1 Timoteo 1:2)
  • Explora cómo las personas pueden usar sus dones y talentos para honrar a Dios, y no comprometer su integridad. (Efesios 2:10; Éxodo 31:1-11; 1 Samuel 16:14-23; Génesis 4:21)

PASO 6) OREN EL UNO POR EL OTRO, PIDIENDO SABIDURÍA Y SANIDAD DE DIOS

  • Oren el uno por el otro, por que Dios revele su sabiduría en este tema y de la manera más completa posible. (Santiago 1:5-8)
  • Oren el uno por el otro, pidiendo sanidad sobre cualquier herida que hayan recibido en cuanto a este tema. (Santiago 5:13-15)
  • Pidan y reciban perdón el uno del otro por cualquier herida que puedan haberse causado, ya sea de manera intencional o no. (Santiago 5:16; Efesios 4:32; Colosenses 3:12-14)

PASO 7) ESTABLEZCAN LÍMITES SALUDABLES ENTRE SÍ, PARA HONOR Y RESPETO MUTUO

  • Conversen sobre cómo pueden honrar y respetar las profundas convicciones que cada uno tiene. (Romanos 12:10)
  • Hablen sobre límites o restricciones que pueden ser de mucha ayuda para honrar y respetar las convicciones de cada uno. (1 Corintios 10:23-31)

PASO 8) DEJEN LA PUERTA ABIERTA PARA OTRAS CONVERSACIONES, ¡PERO NO SE MOLESTEN!

  • Deja la puerta abierta para otras conversaciones, entendiendo que con el tiempo logramos perspectiva gracias a la oración y también obtenemos respuestas. (Romanos 8:22-28; 12:18)
  • Consideren sus conversaciones en cuanto a este tema como santas y preciosas, porque lo son, no son triviales ni superficiales. (Proverbios 21:19; Colosenses 3:21; Proverbios 25:11; 27:15-16)
  • Cuando no estén de acuerdo, háganlo con civismo. (Proverbios 15:1-7; Lucas 12:58; Romanos 15:1-7; 2 Timoteo 2:14)

PASO 9) ¡DISFRUTEN LAS PARTES DE SU RELACIÓN QUE PUEDEN DISFRUTAR!

  • Disfruten el regalo que Dios le ha dado a cada uno, sin importar sus profundas convicciones en cuanto a este tema en particular. (Juan 13:34-35)
  • Dejen que cada uno ejerza su libre albedrío, así como Dios nos permite ejercerlo, siempre honrando y respetándose el uno al otro. (Gálatas 5:13)

PASO 10) NO DEJEN QUE NADA LOS SEPARE DEL AMOR QUE TIENEN EL UNO POR EL OTRO, INCLUSO ESTE TEMA, ASÍ COMO NADA PUEDE SEPARARLOS DEL AMOR DE DIOS.

  • Recuerden que nada puede separarlos del amor de Dios. (Romanos 8:34-39)
  • Comprométete con no dejar que nada te separe de tus seres queridos, incluyendo este tema. (Ruth 1:16-18)

Acerca del autor

Descrito por USA Today como “una nueva clase de evangelista”, Eric Elder es autor, orador y pianista contemporáneo. También es pastor ordenado y el creador de The Ranch, un sitio en internet diseñado para impulsar la fe:

www.TheRanch.org

Otros libros escritos por Eric Elder:

  • Two Weeks With God
  • What God Says About Sex
  • Exodus: Lessons In Freedom
  • Jesus: Lessons In Love
  • Acts: Lessons In Faith
  • Nehemiah: Lessons In Rebuilding 
  • Ephesians: Lessons In Grace
  • Israel: Lessons From The Holy Land
  • Israel For Kids: Lessons From The Holy Land
  • The Top 20 Passages In The Bible
  • Romans: Lessons In Renewing Your Mind
  • St. Nicholas: The Believer 
  • San Nicolás: El Creyente (Spanish Edition)
  • Making The Most Of The Darkness
  • 15 Tips For A Stronger Marriage
  • Fifty Shades Of Grace (bajo el seudónimo de Nicholas Deere) 
  • Water From My Well

Para más información, por favor visita: www .Inspiring Books .com

¡A Eric siempre le gusta tener contacto con sus lectores! Puedes escribirle en cualquier momento a: eric@theranch.org

This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Money can build or buy a house.  Add love to that, and you have a home.  Add God to that, and you have a temple.  You have “a little colony of the kingdom of heaven.”

Anne Ortlund


This Day's Verse

“Therefore anyone who humbles himself as this little child, is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.”

Matthew 18:4
The Living Bible


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God looks at the world through the eyes of love.  If we, therefore, as human beings made in the image of God also want to see reality rationally, that is, as it truly is, then we, too, must learn to look at what we see with love.

Roberta Bondi


This Day's Verse

For you make me glad by your deeds, O LORD; I sing for joy at the works of your hands.

Psalm 92:4
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

The rays of happiness, like those of light, are colorless when unbroken.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

FORGIVENESS

by Johanna Radelfinger

 

Forgiveness defined in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary is to give up resentment of or claim to requital for (forgive an insult) or to grant relief from payment of (forgive a debt); to cease to feel resentment against (an offender).

When the first missionaries came to Alberta, Canada, a young chief of the Cree Indians named Maskepetoon savagely opposed them. But he responded to the gospel and accepted Christ. Shortly afterward, a member of the Blackfoot tribe killed his father. Maskepetoon rode into the village where the murderer lived and demanded that he be brought before him.

Confronting the guilty man, he said, “You have killed my father, so now you must be my father. You shall ride my best horse and wear my best clothes.”

In utter amazement and remorse his enemy exclaimed, “My son, now you have killed me!” He meant, of course, that the hate in his own heart had been completely erased by the forgiveness and kindness of the Indian chief.

Why should we forgive anyway? First of all because God forgave us. Look up 1 John 1:9 (I¡¦m reading from the Clear Word). Now look up Luke 6:37. If God condemned us every time we sin; we would all be lost. Instead He sent his son to take that penalty for you and me. So if God forgives us, is it too much to ask for us to forgive each other. Go to Eph. 4:31,32. Another reason to forgive is because God told us to. He knows what is best for us.

According to the latest medical and psychological research, forgiving is good for our soul and our bodies. People who forgive:

a. benefit from better immune functioning and lower blood pressure.

b. have better mental health than people who do not forgive.

c. feel better physically.

d. have lower amounts of anger and fewer symptoms of anxiety and depression.

e. maintain more satisfying and long-lasting relationships.

“When we allow ourselves to feel like victims or sit around dreaming up how to retaliate against people who have hurt us, these thought patterns take a toll on our minds and bodies,” says Michael McCullough, director of research for the National Institute for Healthcare Research.

The last reason I’d like to point out to you is because Christ forgave when he was on this earth. Turn to Luke 23:34. Jesus forgave the people that hammered nails into his hands, spit at him and eventually killed him. Take note that He asked His Father to forgive them. He loved them (his enemies) enough to ask his Father to pardon them. For some reason that thought gives me the chills.

But what if I don’t want to forgive? Does anything happen? Yes something does happen. Not forgiving and holding a grudge can be tragic like this next story.

There was a merchant who had identical twin sons. The boys worked for their father in the department store he owned and, when he died, they took over the store. Everything went well until the day a dollar bill disappeared. One of the brothers had left the bill on the cash register and walked outside with a customer. When he returned, the money was gone.

He asked his brother, “Did you see that dollar bill on the cash register?”

His brother replied that he had not. But the young man kept probing and questioning. He would not let it alone.

“Dollar bills just don’t get up and walk away! Surely you must have seen it!” There was subtle accusation in his voice. Tempers began to rise. Resentment set in. Before long, a deep and bitter chasm divided the young men. They refused to speak. They finally decided they could no longer work together and a dividing wall was built down the center of the store. For twenty years hostility and bitterness grew, spreading to their families and to the community.

Then one day a man in a car stopped in front of the store. He walked in and asked the clerk, “How long have you been here?”

The clerk replied that he’d been there all his life.

The customer said, “I must share something with you. Twenty years ago I was ’riding the rails’ and came into this town in a boxcar. I hadn’t eaten for three days. I came into this store from the back door and saw a dollar bill on the cash register. I put it in my pocket and walked out. All these years I haven’t been able to forget that. I know it wasn’t much money, but I had to come back and ask your forgiveness.”

The stranger was amazed to see tears well up in the eyes of this middle-aged man. “Would you please go next door and tell that same story to the man in the store?” he said. Then the man was even more amazed to see two middle-aged men, who looked very much alike, embracing each other and weeping together in the front of the store. After twenty years, the brokenness was mended. The wall of resentment that divided them came down.

This story may sound silly but it actually happened. It is the little things that divide people. And the solution, of course, is to let them go. There is really nothing particularly profound about it. But for fulfilling and lasting relationships, letting them go is a must. Refuse to carry around bitterness and you may be surprised at how much energy you have left for building bonds with those you love.

Turn to 1 Cor. 2:10, 11. Paul says that forgiving each other is important. If we don’t, Satan can gain a foothold. Forgiveness is hard. But not forgiving leads to hurt bitterness, anger, resentment and self-destruction. It tears up families, ruins friendships and worst of all it can divide up a church. I think Satan’s trickiest and strongest tactic is to get Christians to not forgive. It doesn’t pay to keep records of “wrongs” or to hold grudges.

The pastor of an evangelical church near Orlando, Florida had been leading the same flock for more than twelve years. Things were running smoothly except for the fact that one member, an influential banker, was constantly questioning his authority on business matters. When the banker was nominated to become a deacon, the pastor stood before the congregation and said, “I don’t believe this man is qualified to be elected.” Then he read a long list of instances where the man had questioned his decisions. The congregation didn’t agree with him and voted the banker in. Soon everyone in his church thought lower of him. Eventually he resigned within six months. Don¡¦t be like this pastor. Letting anger take control of you.

Did you know that being angry (not forgiving) is a sin? I didn’t know that until I found a verse while doing this sermon. Turn back to Eph. 4:26.

It is all right to be angry. God gave you that emotion when something wrong or unfair happens to you or someone else. But don¡¦t sin by not forgiving and letting your angry take control.

Another reason to forgive is to help you. Not forgiving and holding a grudge against a person can eat at you like cancer.

A man awoke out of sound sleep one night, due to a recurring dream. The dream was always the same. He was swimming in a lake, and although a good swimmer, his arms and legs grew increasingly weary, and he feared he might not make it back to shore. Suddenly, as if out of nowhere, an elderly man who looked identical to his deceased father passed by in a rowboat. He stopped, held out his hand, but recalling how poorly his father treated him as a child, he smiled dryly and said,” No thank you, Dad. I’ll be OK.”

The man continued to frantically splash his way back to shore. Looking to the side, he saw yet another form in the distance. It was his daughter, swimming quickly toward him with a life preserver. “Here, dad! Put this on!” Remembering the many times his daughter disobeyed him as a rebellious teen, the man shook his head and waved his daughter on.

Upon finally making it to shore, the man collapsed from exhaustion in the wet sand. Conscious, yet unable to move, the man spied a large group of people around him. All the people looked familiar – faces of the many friends and relations he had come in contact with during his life. They offered to take him to the hospital, to bring him some warm clothes, or towel, but as each person spoke, the man recalled the many times that person did him wrong. “No thank you,” he said, “I will be fine.” The man stood up, brushed off his sandy, wet clothes, and walked wearily into the sunset.

After the third night of dreaming this same dream, the man sought the opinion of the only person he felt he could trust to not hurt him, his wise, old grandmother.

“What does the dream mean, gram?” He asked. The wrinkled and wise- looking woman sat in silence for several moments, and then finally spoke. “I’m no ‘dream-readin’ expert, sonny, but I’d say that someone is trying to tell you that you are holding in a lot of bitterness, due to an unforgiving attitude.”

The man pounded his fists on the table in indignation. “Bitter? Unforgiving? That is absurd! I should have known better than come to an uneducated woman like you!”

The old woman sat very still and calmly said, “There is more. I’m guessin’ that the struggle you encountered in the water is the same sort of struggle that you often feel inside. You WANT to reach out and take hold of a warm and caring hand, but no hand is good enough for you. You made it to the shore THIS time, but what about next time?” Red-faced and exasperated, the man stormed out of the room muttering to himself.

Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is something we do for our SELF. Those who do not forgive others, who do not forgive easily, or who forgive on a conditional basis, slowly build up bitterness inside themselves.

Did you know that angels would never think of accusing us before God? Check out 2 Peter 2:11. When I discovered this verse it hit me hard. The angels watch us and protect us. Wouldn’t they know us better than humans would? But still they would cringe to even think of accusing us before God.

We on the other hand especially in our church families forget we are all under Jesus¡¦ blood. Humans make mistakes. None of us are above another. We should all forgive no matter how bad someone hurt us.

I know from personal experience that forgiving is very hard. The other day a friend hurt me. I didn’t know if I could trust him again. He apologized and I said I forgave him. But I still felt hurt. Then I got to thinking that everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes we forget that very fact. Satan wants us to be hurt and hold grudges against people. But God wants to remind us that humans aren¡¦t perfect. This story helped me.

Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.” They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.” The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”

The other friend replied: “When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”

Learn to forgive the bad and hold on to the good things that people do for you.

Lets say you have decided that forgiving is a good idea. But how do you really forgive someone? Go to Matthew 18:15. Forgiveness is an action.

Leonardo Da Vinci, just before starting on the “Last Supper” had a violent argument with a fellow painter. Leonardo was so bitter that he determined to paint the face of his enemy, the other artist, into the face of Judas, and thus take his revenge. In fact the face of Judas was one of the first faces he finished. The worst thing about it was that everyone could easily recognize it as the face of the painter with whom he had quarreled.

But when he came to paint the face of Christ, he could make no progress. Something seemed to be baffling him, holding him back, frustrating his best efforts. Finally he came to the conclusion that the thing that was frustrating him was that he had painted the face of his enemy onto the face of Judas. He decided to forgive and not take revenge. So he painted out the face of Judas and was then able to resume his work on the face of Jesus. This time though he painted Jesus face with the success that the ages have acclaimed.

When DaVinci moved past his right to take revenge and made the right response instead, he broke the power of hatred and allowed the love of Christ to have the last word….

There is another step in forgiveness called Reconciliation. This word means to restore a friendship. Sometimes though you can only forgive and it isn¡¦t possible to reconcile with someone. For example a Jew in a concentration camp can¡¦t go to the officer that beat her and try to reconcile. Because he is her enemy. But in a church family Christ urges us to reconcile. Turn to Matthew 18:15-17. If it is possible God wants us to reconcile. But He always wants us to forgive.

Why does God want us to forgive and reconcile with one another? Because forgiving and loving go together. Go to I Cor. 13:5. Notice love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. God has told us many times to love one another. That also means to forgive too. Go to 1 John 4:7,8. If love comes from God then how can we possible love and forgive each other on our own. Forgiving by ourselves is impossible! The good news is in Luke 1:37. Check it out! If you don’t feel like forgiving, God can help you forgive that person completely.

God wants you to forgive. I have learned it is better to forgive. It improves your health to forgive. But it is YOUR choice to forgive.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Many things in the Bible I cannot understand; many things in the Bible I only think I understand; but there are many things in the Bible I cannot misunderstand.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain.

1 Corinthians 15:10
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.

Mahatma Gandhi


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The God of the universe—the One who created everything and holds it all in His hand—created each of us in His image, to bear His likeness, His imprint.  It is only when Christ dwells within our hearts, radiating the pure light of His love through our humanity, that we discover who we are and what we were intended to be.  There is no other joy that reaches as deep or as wide or as high—there is no other joy that is more complete.

Wendy Moore


This Day's Verse

“Then you shall call, and the LORD will answer; you shall cry, and he will say, ‘Here I am.’”

Isaiah 58:9
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Don’t let controversy hurt your soul.  Live near to God by prayer.  Just fall down at His feet and open your very soul before Him, and throw yourself right into His arms.

Catherine Booth


This Day's Verse

“For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.”

Matthew 12:50
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

If you are unhappy with your lot in life, build a service station on it.

Corrie Ten Boom


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I don’t think there is anyone who needs God’s help and grace as much as I do.  Sometimes I feel so helpless and weak.  I think that is why God uses me.  Because I cannot depend on my own strength, I rely on Him twenty-four hours a day.

Mother Teresa


This Day's Verse

Then Jacob awoke from his sleep and said, “Surely the LORD is in this place; and I did not know it.”

Genesis 28:16
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God instructs the heart not by ideas, but by pains and contradictions.

Jean Pierre de Caussade


This Day's Verse

Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways.  For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.

Psalm 128:1-2
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

There is one spectacle grander than the sea, that is the sky; there is one spectacle grander than the sky, that is the interior of the soul.

Victor Hugo


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Wishing you all a most meaningful and joyous Easter celebration!
Greg and Eric for This Day’s Thought from The Ranch

EASTER

by James Wilson

John 15:13

Back in the 1880’s Nietzsche declared that “God is dead,” and before the turn of the Twentieth Century, Shaw and Wells chimed in saying the 20th Century would mark the end of the world’s “religious phase.”

Yet, today a church now meets in Russia’s Museum of Religion and Atheism-the former center of atheism. Nearly half of the United States’ population attend Worship on a regular basis while revival is sweeping through Latin America and Christianity grows behind China’s iron curtain. (From Fresh Illustrations http://www.freshministry.org/illustrations.html )

Nietzsche, Shaw and Wells have long since decayed in their graves, and God continues to live! That’s the message of Easter. He is risen. He is risen, indeed!

Why do we believe? Recently an African Muslim was converted to Christ. When someone asked him why he had become a Christian, he answered. “Well, it’s like this. Suppose you were going down a road when suddenly it forked in two directions, you didn’t know which way to take. There at the fork in the road you could see two persons, one dead and one alive. Of which one would you inquire the way?” This is a supreme difference between Islam and the gospel. The Muslim regards both Muhammad and Christ as prophets of God. But whereas Muhammad lived and died and passed from the scene of history, Jesus lived, died, and arose!. (John T. Seamonds)

Muhammad died, and was buried. His faithful followers take pilgrimages to visit his remains, the same is true of Buddha and other religious leaders. But it is not true of Jesus. You cannot visit His remains, you can only visit his empty grave, because He isn’t there. He Arose!

This side of history, we understand that Jesus’ death was necessary. Without His death, there could be no resurrection. At the cross, He laid down His life for us. He willingly gave His all. But how did his friends that He laid His life down for view the cross?

One answer to that question would be, “from a distance.” Except for John, they weren’t there. The cross was the ultimate symbol of shame. It was reserved for vile criminals. The disciple’s teacher, the one they left home to follow, was hung on a cross, and when He was, they turned their back on Him. No doubt they viewed the cross as shameful. Perhaps they even began to question the wisdom of their decision to follow Him.

Disillusioned? Disappointed? Certainly. Afraid? Perhaps. The crowd was out of control. Did they know if they were safe? Could the soldiers come and take them away as they took Jesus away?

Then it happened! Jesus broke through the chains of death and arose from the grave. He appeared to the woman at the empty tomb and gave them the word to tell the disciples. Later, he appeared before the disciples, but Thomas wasn’t there.

The disciples found Thomas and told him the good news. Jesus had risen!

But Thomas doubts the apostles testimony. Let’s read John 20:24-25 “Now Thomas (called Didymus), one of the Twelve, was not with the disciples when Jesus came. 25 So the other disciples told him, ‘We have seen the Lord!’ But he said to them, ‘Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it.’”

He’d heard about the vicious way they’d driven the nails in his hands instead of tying them to the cross, and he’d heard the way the soldiers stabbed him in the side with a spear, like a piece of meat. His anger and his doubt blended to become a toxic cocktail of bitterness, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it.” Do you blame him? His hopes and dreams dashed, Thomas was drowning in depression and doubt-no way he could believe the unbelievable, not without proof. In the next verse, Jesus challenges Thomas to believe. “A week later his disciples were in the house again, and Thomas was with them. Though the doors were locked, Jesus came and stood among them and said, ‘Peace be with you!’ 27 Then he said to Thomas, ‘Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop doubting and believe.'” (John 20:26-27 )

Without touching the nail scars or putting his hand in Jesus’ side, Thomas believes. Thomas said to him, “My Lord and my God!” John 20:28

Thomas, by his actions said, seeing is believing, but we know that “Believing is seeing.” Jesus said to him, “Because you have seen Me, have you believed? Blessed are they who did not see, and yet believed.” John 20:29

That’s you and me! We’ve not seen, and yet we believe.

We believe, because He loved us. The scripture says, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13 KJV)

A volunteer at Stanford Hospital, was present when a little boy decided to give the ultimate sacrifice because he loved his sister Liza. The volunteer says the little girl was dying of a rare disease, with only one chance for survival–a blood transfusion from her five-year-old brother. After the doctor explained what would happen during the transfusion, the little boy agreed to give his blood to save his sister.

He peacefully laid still during the transfusion. After a while, he asked the doctor a question that gave great insight into his character, “Will I start to die right away?” Apparently, the boy thought he would have to give all his blood, but was willing to do so to save his sister. (From Fresh Illustrations http://www.freshministry.org/illustrations.html)

Jesus laid down His life for you. There is room at the cross for you. Will you come to Him today?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

This Easter-time brings us the assurance that when He comes and shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trump of God, believers who sleep in Christ and those then living will be caught up together to meet Him in the air, and all will be, as in the twinkling of an eye, transformed and transfigured and possessed of bodies as perfect and as glorious as His own, and in these glorious and resplendent bodies we shall reign and rejoice forever.

E. P. Goodwin


This Day's Verse

Then Jesus shouted out again, and he released his spirit.  At that moment the curtain in the sanctuary of the Temple was torn in two, from top to bottom.  The earth shook, rocks split apart, and tombs opened.  The bodies of many godly men and women who had died were raised from the dead.  They left the cemetery after Jesus’ resurrection, went into the holy city of Jerusalem, and appeared to many people.

Matthew 27:50-53
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

We Christians do not believe that Jesus Christ was the only one that ever rose from the dead.  We believe that every death-bed is a resurrection; that from every grave the stone is rolled away.

Charles Spurgeon


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We do not strike out one part or another part of the prophecy on record; we have the whole compacted together by this mighty keystone in the arch, the resurrection of the Son of God and the glorious manifestation given by Him as the divine representative and Son in the world.  Then the world is beautiful; it is not a place of graves; it is a place of graves that are to be opened.  It is not the city of the dead.  They who are dead to human view are living unto God  It is a portal of paradise instead of a place of graves, and there is light upon it every Easter morning such as never was before on sea or shore until the Master had risen from the grave.

Richard S. Storrs


This Day's Verse

So Pilate entered his headquarters again and called Jesus and said to him, “Are you the King of the Jews?”  Jesus answered, “Do you say this of your own accord, or did others say it to you about me?”  Pilate answered, “Am I a Jew?  Your own nation and the chief priests have delivered you over to me. What have you done?”  Jesus answered, “My kingdom is not of this world.  If my kingdom were of this world, my servants would have been fighting, that I might not be delivered over to the Jews. But my kingdom is not from the world.”

John 18:33-36
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The fact of resurrection is not extraordinary;  it is in accord with what we who believe at all believe to be the uniform law of life—that death does not touch it.  The witnesses to the resurrection of Christ were unprejudiced, unexpectant, incredulous, and their honesty is not doubted even by skeptical criticism.

Charles Spurgeon


This Day's Verse

And when the hour came, he reclined at table, and the apostles with him. And he said to them, “I have earnestly desired to eat this Passover with you before I suffer.  For I tell you I will not eat it until it is fulfilled in the kingdom of God.”  And he took a cup, and when he had given thanks he said, “Take this, and divide it among yourselves.  For I tell you that from now on I will not drink of the fruit of the vine until the kingdom of God comes.”  And he took bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, which is given for you. Do this in remembrance of me.”  And likewise the cup after they had eaten, saying, “This cup that is poured out for you is the new covenant in my blood.”

Luke 22:14-20
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

A happy and a glorious Easter will this one be to all of us who get a new vision of the risen Christ, and prostrate ourselves in humble adoration at His feet, and cry out: “Rabboni!  Robboni!”  Then shall we set our hearts, lifted into a new atmosphere, on things above, and reach an actual higher life.  We shall know more of what it is to live by Christ, in Christ, for Christ, and with Christ, till we reach the marvelous light around the throne in glory.

Theodore L. Cuyler


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Yes, He is risen who is the First and Last;
Who was and is; who liveth and was dead;
Beyond the reach of death He now has pass’d,
Of the one glorious Church the glorious Head.

Horatius Bonar


This Day's Verse

Then Judas Iscariot, who was one of the twelve, went to the chief priests in order to betray him to them.  And when they heard it they were glad, and promised to give him money.  And he sought an opportunity to betray him.

Mark 14:10-11
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Sometimes we feel that evil is winning.  Then Easter comes to remind us that there is no grave deep enough, no seal imposing enough, no stone heavy enough, no evil strong enough, to keep Christ in the grave.

James W. Moore


This Day's Verse

When they came together in Galilee, he said to them, “The Son of Man is going to be betrayed into the hands of men.  They will kill him, and on the third day he will be raised to life.”  And the disciples were filled with grief.

Matthew 17:22-23
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

The diamond that shines in the Saviour’s crown shall beam in unquenched beauty, at last, on the forehead of every human soul, risen through grace to the immortality of heaven.

Martin Luther


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Palm Sunday

by Kevin Litchfield

 

A little boy was sick on Palm Sunday and stayed home from church with his mother. His father returned from church holding a palm branch.

The little boy was curious and asked, “Why do you have that palm branch, dad?”

“You see, when Jesus came into town, everyone waved Palm Branches to honor him, so we got Palm Branches today.”

The little boy replied, ” Aw Shucks! The one Sunday I miss is the Sunday that Jesus shows up!”

This morning as many of you know today is Palm Sunday- The day, taken from the Gospels, where a whole city threw a parade for Jesus. As Jesus rode into the city, the people threw Palm branches in anticipation of his coming.- Thus we get our word Palm Sunday. – This day marked a time of celebration where Jesus was the worshipped and praised.

This day is Bittersweet for us because even as we read of the celebration we know that Friday is coming- The cross is coming. We know that many in this same crowd will within a few short days exchange words of praise to words of death. Shouting Hosanna, Hosanna and then later shouting Crucify Him, Crucify Him.

This morning I want to focus our attention on two services both which focused upon Jesus, but with two different results.

If you have your bibles this morning turn with me to two passages one from the Gospel of Matthew and the other from the gospel of Luke. Turn first to Matthew chapter 27 beginning in verse 15. Place your finger there and then turn to Luke chapter 19 beginning in verse 36.

The great evangelist, Billy Graham, has been quoted many times as saying that the greatest mission field in our country to today is in our local church- the people sitting already in our churches. Now I am not sure whether this statement is true or not, but one thing that I do know is that many people know what to say, How to say it, even how to act in it, but when the rubber truly meets that road, there is no personal relationship with Jesus Christ. No salvation- just empty words.

We see a perfect example of this in our two passages this morning. On Sunday Jesus rode into the city with the people shouting praises and praising God for all the wonderful miracles they had seen.

On Friday they are shouting give us Barabas, We want him, Crucify Jesus Crucify Him. Why the change?

Well there are many possible reasons, but one simple reason is that their words did not match their heart. They possessed a casual not a committed faith. They had religion but they missed the person Jesus… So how can we have a committed faith… How can we be real and sincere? Consistent in all that we do… Well this morning I want to offer you some keys to just such a faith.

The first Key is that a committed faith is not self-centered it is Christ-Centered.

This sounds obvious, but we often miss it . In America, we tend to say to God, “ Hey God, here is my calendar, here is my agenda… Now I can squeeze you in here or here. Pulling God out or turning to God only when it is convenient or useful.

In our passage, The people praised Jesus as He passed by, but many of them praised him for two reasons. First, because of his miracles. He had healed the sick, raised the dead…They praised Him because he was serving them and Second, because they saw in Jesus a way to be politically delivered from the Romans- To be set free from Rome as Israel was set free from Egypt. Their praise was tempered with the attitude of Jesus what can you do for me.

A few days later at the trial they saw a beaten and disfigured Jesus- A man who no longer looked like a deliverer or a conqueror. And as words were said about him, they bought into all the lies and quickly changed their position. For them it was all about Me, Me, Me.

There is a legend about an ancient village in Spain. The villagers learned that the king would pay a visit! In a thousand years, a king had never come to that village. Excitement grew! “We must throw a big celebration,” The villagers all agreed. But, it was a poor village, and there weren’t many resources. Someone came up with a classic idea. Since many of the villagers made their own wines, the idea was for everyone in the village bring a large cup of their choice wine to the town square, “We’ll pour it into a large vat and offer it to the king for his pleasure! When the king draws wine to drink, it will be the very best he’s ever tasted!”

The day before the king’s arrival, hundreds of people lined up to make their offering to the honored guest. They climbed a small stairway, and poured their gift through a small opening at the top. Finally, the vat was full! The King arrived, was escorted to the square, given a silver cup and was told to draw some wine, which represented the best the villagers had.

He placed the cup under the spigot, turned the handle, and then drank the wine, but it was nothing more than water. You see every villager reasoned, “I’ll withhold my best wine and substitute water, what with so many cups of wine in the vat, the king will never know the difference!” The problem was, everyone thought the same thing, and the king was greatly dishonored.

Today, Palm Sunday, choose to honor our great King, Jesus Christ by giving him our very best. Withholding nothing… Giving him our all.

A second key is that a committed faith is relationship driven.

Many of those who gathered to throw their coats and palm branches onto the street and who shouted praises did so because it was the popular thing to do at the time. At that one brief moment it became trendy. Perhaps some began doing it with sincere motives, but others soon did it because others were doing it. Later at the trial, shouting crucify Him was the thing to do… In fact for a brief moment it was the trendy thing to do to make a mass murderer and criminal their hero when they shouted we want Barabas.

In our own lives a committed faith comes only through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. One where every day is fresh and new as he personally directs our steps.

In order to have a committed faith we must develop an maintain a personal relationship with Jesus.

A third Key is that committed faith is not swayed or blocked by our personal trials and crises.

At the parade it was trendy to offer praise… Everyone was doing it.. But At the trial to speak out for Jesus was risky…Possibly even life threatening.

Many of us come to Jesus expecting everything to go Good… Maybe some slight bad but not too much of it… So when the bottom drops out for us… we often ask God Why? Thinking it is not supposed to happen this way.

If our faith is based on our situations or circumstances it will never be committed… It will always be casual. In my life I have gone to many big Christian events. Many packed large stadiums… Where the praises for God rock the entire arena… Where everyone is praising…

When returning home while everyone is still glowing from the worship, I say guys it is easy to do that here, but tomorrow you face the hard task, can you do that in a world that is not all praising in fact a world that is mocking laughing and is often angry.

A committed faith takes the good with the bad. Knowing that all we are ever promised is that in the midst of both our good and bad; Jesus will never leave us nor forsake us. He will stand with us.

A story is told of A little girl who while walking in a garden noticed a particularly beautiful flower. She admired its beauty and enjoyed its fragrance. “It’s so pretty!” she exclaimed. As she gazed on it, her eyes followed the stem down to the soil in which it grew. “This flower is too pretty to be planted in such dirt!” she cried. So she pulled it up by its roots and ran to the water faucet to wash away the soil. It wasn’t long until the flower wilted and died.

When the gardener saw what the little girl had done, he exclaimed, “You have destroyed my finest plant!”

“I’m sorry, but I didn’t like it in that dirt,” she said. The gardener replied, “I chose that spot and mixed the soil because I knew that only there could it grow to be a beautiful flower.”

God has placed us exactly where we are. We must trust him. In the trusting We eventually see that He is using our pressures, trials, and difficulties to bring us to a new degree of spiritual beauty. True Contentment comes when we accept what God is doing and thank Him for it.

This morning is your faith casual or committed. As we approach this week where our Jesus suffered incredibly for us. In A week where our sins, past, present, and future were the nails that hung him on that cross doesn’t Jesus deserve a second look. Doesn’t he deserve total control of your life? Doesn’t he deserve a personal relationship with You? This week consider it all… and choose to give it all to him.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To pretend to explore the depths of God is such a challenge that places the wise man at the same level of the insane.

Juan Antonio Monroy


This Day's Verse

Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

Psalm 51:10
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Mirth is God’s medicine.

Henry Ward Beecher


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There are two ways of exerting one’s strength: one is pushing down, the other is pulling up.

Booker T. Washington


This Day's Verse

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.

Proverbs 19:11
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

You can’t know, you can only believe—or not.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

Therefore I tell you whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Mark 11:24
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.

Anne Lamott


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin


This Day's Verse

“Now change your mind and attitude to God and turn to him so he can cleanse away your sins and send you wonderful times of refreshment from the presence of the Lord and send Jesus your Messiah back to you again.”

Acts 3:19-20
The Living Bible


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The only purpose of life consists in helping to establish the kingdom of God.

Leo Tolstoy


This Day's Verse

Let the righteous one rejoice in the LORD and take refuge in him!  Let all the upright in heart exult!

Psalm 64:10
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

In our home we have a rule: You can disagree with a man’s position as much as you want—after you have been able to state it to his satisfaction.

J. Irwin Miller


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Glory And Majesty!

by Melvin Newland

I want to read a passage of Scripture that I imagine is familiar to most of you. It is where Matthew tells about the transfiguration of Jesus, & it is found in Matthew 17:1-8.

“After six days Jesus took with Him Peter, James & John the brother of James, & led them up a high mountain by themselves. There He was transfigured before them. His face shone like the sun, & His clothes became as white as the light.

“Just then there appeared before them Moses & Elijah, talking with Jesus. Peter said to Jesus, `Lord, it is good for us to be here. If you wish, I will put up three shelters – one for you, one for Moses & one for Elijah.’

“While he was still speaking, a bright cloud enveloped them, & a voice from the cloud said, `This is my Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased. Listen to Him!’ When the disciples heard this, they fell facedown to the ground, terrified. But Jesus came & touched them. `Get up,’ He said. `Don’t be afraid.’ When they looked up, they saw no one except Jesus.”

This Transfiguration scene must have been one of the most exciting events in the life of Peter, James, & John – & maybe even for Moses & Elijah as well. And I am convinced that it can mean a great deal to us, too.

The Greek word translated as “transfiguration” is the word “metamor-phothe,” from which we get “metamorphosis.” As any student of biology knows, a “metamorphosis” is “a transformation, a complete change of appearance & form.” (Example: Caterpillar into a butterfly.)

Jesus certainly went through a metamorphosis – & more than once. First, He left the glories of heaven to come to earth in human form – to live with us – to share our pain & suffering, our hungers & temptations. For 33 & 1/2 years He lived upon the face of this earth in human form.

But at the time of this scripture that we have read, Jesus coming to the end of His ministry upon this earth, & for a few minutes on a mountainside in Galilee, Peter, James, & John are privileged to see another metamorphosis, as Jesus is once again clothed in His glory, the glory of Almighty God.

This morning I want us to look at the transfiguration through the eyes of the apostle John, & behold what he beheld. So what did John see? As John stood on that mountain & saw the transfiguration of Jesus, what did he see?

I. JOHN SAW HIS GLORY!

Years later, in the 1st chapter of his Gospel, vs. 14, John says, “The Word became flesh, & made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the One & Only, who came from the Father, full of grace & truth.”

John knew what he was talking about, for on that mountainside they had seen Jesus transfigured, His appearance changing dramatically, His face & clothing shining like the light of the sun. And just as that happened, Moses & Elijah appeared & began talking with Jesus. So awed was Peter by this sight that he said, “Lord, it is good for us to be here. If you wish, I will put up three shelters – one for you, one for Moses & one for Elijah.”

But that obviously wasn’t God’s plan, for “While he was still speaking, a bright cloud enveloped them, & a voice from the cloud said, `This is my Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased. Listen to Him!’”

About a week before the transfiguration Jesus had asked His apostles this question, “Who do people say that I am?” They replied, “Some think that you are Elijah or Jeremiah or one of the other prophets. Some even think that you might be John the Baptist come back from the dead.”

Then Jesus asked them, “But what about you?…Who do you say that I am?” It was Peter who answered, “You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God” [Matthew 16:16].

I have always wondered how the other apostles reacted when Peter said that. Did they all join in, saying, “He’s right, you are the Christ, the Son of the Living God. Peter is absolutely right!” Or did they look at one another in confusion? Did they turn to Peter & ask, “Why did you say that? Are you really convinced that He is the Messiah?”

I think that there must have been some late conversations around the campfire as they discussed what Jesus had said. They re-examined His miracles, & talked about the people who had come to Him. “Is He really the Christ, the Messiah we long for, whose coming we have prayed for again & again?” There must have been many lingering questions until, on this mountainside, Peter & James & John saw the glory of God.

Suddenly, like the rushing of a mighty river, John was convinced that what Peter had said is true. “Jesus is the Christ!” And that is important.

You see, it is one thing to recognize that there is a God who has put the sun & the moon & the stars in place. It is one thing to recognize that there is a God who made us & who appreciates beauty, & who gives us morality & helps us feel bad when we are bad, & good when we are good.

It is one thing to recognize that there is a God of order who is in control, but it is another thing to recognize that God became one of us.

To John that must have been an overwhelming revelation. “This Jesus who patted me on the shoulder when I was discouraged – this Jesus who prayed with me – this Jesus who dried my tears – this Jesus who is concerned about my family – this Jesus who is concerned about my feelings when I am lonely & tired – this Jesus is God! He is actually God in human flesh!”

Years ago I visited an old & very famous church & was able to attend one of its Sunday morning services. The minister was an orator. He preached a masterpiece of a sermon about the philosophy, the teachings, of Jesus, & he showed how to apply them to our lives.

But as I listened to him, I became more & more aware that he evidently considered Jesus just a master teacher, much like some other master teachers of ages gone by. Not once did he suggest, or even hint, that Jesus was more than a man – that He was the Christ, the Son of the Living God.

Do you realize how blessed we are week after week to be able to come & share our faith together that Jesus is the Christ? I pray that you will never grow tired of that. I pray that you will proclaim it with all your power. He is the Christ, the Lord of all. John realized that as he saw the glory of Almighty God, & we need to realize that too.

II. WE NEED TO SEE THE GLORY OF GOD

You know, I think most of us are very much like the apostle Philip. Do you remember? After 3 years of being with Jesus, seeing all the miracles, listening to His teachings – & just a short time before His crucifixion – Philip said, “Lord, show us the Father, & that will be enough for us.”

“Jesus answered: `Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father” [John 14:8-9]. When we see Jesus we know what God is like, for Jesus came to reflect & reveal God to us.

We need to see God. We need to listen to His word. When we don’t, there are frantic attempts, I think, to reach out & find something to believe in.

A few years ago a housewife in New Mexico was frying tortillas on her stove. One of them burned, & it just so happened that the burn formed the shape of a face. She decided that the image was the face of Jesus.

She took it to her priest & asked him, “Do you think it looks like Jesus?” He thought that it looked like Jesus, too. And he blessed it. He had never blessed a tortilla before, but he blessed that tortilla.

She took it home & put it in a little box, surrounded with white cotton so that it would look like it was floating on a cloud. Then she & her husband built an altar & began to pray before it. The news spread, & soon thousands of people were coming to see & pray before this burned tortilla.

Well, it has happened here, too, hasn’t it? In the past few years crowds of people have seen what they believe to be sacred images on tree trunks & car fenders. And they have prayed devoutly before them.

Several years ago, some people in Poland discovered a tree with a strange shape in the bark. The one who discovered it was a crippled man & he decided that it was an image of the Virgin Mary. Later he claimed that he was healed while there, & he tied his crutches to the tree.

Sixty miles away another tree was discovered that seemingly had the same image on it.

So, in Poland, thousands of people are buying train tickets to go out to the countryside & kneel before two trees – to leave their money at the foot of the trees – to ask the blessing of the Virgin Mary on their lives. Why? Because they want so desperately to see & feel the glory & power of God.

We all want that in our lives. We search for it & when it is not there, somehow we try to create it. We try to put it there in one way or another.

When Ethel & I were in Israel, & then again in Greece, we visited some magnificent church buildings, hundreds of years old. We saw stained glass windows, & statues. I think of all the years of labor put in to build these wonderful monuments to God, but none of them even touch the hem of the garment of what John saw on the Mt. of Transfiguration when he beheld the glory of Jesus. We need to see that glory too.

III. WE NEED TO REALIZE THAT WE HAVE A SHARE IN HIS GLORY

In John 17, Jesus prays that very wonderful prayer which he prayed just before Judas betrayed Him in the Garden of Gethsemane. He prayed for Himself, & for the apostles, & for all who would believe on Him because of the witness of the apostles.

In that prayer He mentions the glory of God 8 times. His prayer goes something like this, “Father, the time has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify you…I have brought you glory on earth by completing the work you gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify me in your presence with the glory I had with you before the world began” [John 17:1,4,5].

Then, a little bit later on, He prays for us, “I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one.”

It is a shared glory. That glory is something that we share because we are Christians – because we are born anew – because God works a change in each of our lives. Then we can share in the glory that John saw on that mountain.

But we need to watch out. There is a danger that the change might be a counterfeit change – not a transfiguration – not a transformation – but simply a masquerade that fools most of the world & maybe even ourselves.

I know that most of you know who Erma Bombeck was. In one article she wrote these words:

“Someone asked me the other day if I had my life to live over would I change anything? My answer was `No.’ But then I thought about it & I’ve changed my mind. If I had my life to live over again I would wax less & listen more. I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased & sprayed.

“I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained & the sofa faded. I would have eaten popcorn in the good living room & worried less about the dirt when you lit the fireplace.

“I would have taken time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have sat cross legged on the lawn with my children & never worried about the grass stains. I would have cried & laughed less while watching TV, & more while watching real life.

“I would have eaten less cottage cheese & more ice cream. I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day. I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, or would not show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

“When my child kissed me impetuously I would never have said, `Later. Now go & wash up for dinner.’ There would have been more `I love you’s; more `I’m sorry’s; more `I’m listening’s.

“But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it. Look at it & really see. Try it on. Live it. Exhaust it. And never give the minute back until there was nothing more left of it.”

It is not with great trumpets – or magnificent choirs – but in simple acts of service that we reflect & reveal the glory of God. Maybe it is while washing dishes at home, or vacuuming the carpet, or changing diapers, or caring for crying babies.

Maybe it is while driving on the highway, or when you display a different attitude than any of your coworkers at work. Maybe it is out there in a world that seems so alienated from God that you can just consistently day after day witness, share, reflect, & reveal the glory of God.

When Peter blurted out, “Let’s stay here on the mountain & build 3 tabernacles,” Jesus answered, “No, we’re not going to stay on the mountain. Down at the foot of the mountain there is a boy possessed with a demon, & a concerned father who has brought him. The boy is sick, & we need to be there more than we need to be here.”

So they went down from the mountain to heal a sick boy. They went out into the world to feed the hungry, save the lost, & bring the sheep back into the fold again, & to reveal His glory. We who are His disciples are called to do the same thing.

Maybe there are people here who need to make a decision for Jesus this morning. We would have you behold His glory & know that He wants to be your savior. We invite you to accept Him as Lord & master of your life, too.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The word which you keep inside of you is your slave; the one that you let escape is your master.

Persian proverb


This Day's Verse

We love, because he first loved us.

1 John 4:19
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

I have sought everywhere for peace, but I have found it not, save in a little corner with a little book.

Francis de Sales


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Belief in, and dependence on God, is absolutely essential.  It will be an integral part of our public life as long as I am governor.

Ronald Reagan


This Day's Verse

For by grace you have been saved through faith.  And this is not your own doing, it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.

Ephesians 2:8-9
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Few know how to count among God’s gifts the brevity of life.

Francisco de Quevedo


This Day's Verse

Who by him do believe in God, that raised him up from the dead, and gave him glory; that your faith and hope might be in God.

1 Peter 1:21
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Fortune lost, nothing lost; courage lost, much lost; honor lost, most lost; soul lost, all lost.

Dutch proverb


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is within my power either to serve God, or not to serve Him.  Serving Him I add to my own good and the good of the whole world.  Not serving Him, I forfeit my own good and deprive the world of that good, which was in my power to create.

Leo Tolstoy


This Day's Verse

For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation.  There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow.  But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.

2 Corinthians 7:10
The New Living Translation


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is no stopping place in this life—no, nor is there ever one for any man, no matter how far along his way he’s gone.

Meister Eckhart


This Day's Verse

But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.  To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity.  Amen.

2 Peter 3:18
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom.

Theodore Rubin


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Surrender It

by Jim Twamley

There was a Church where the preacher and the song leader were not getting along. This began to spill over into the worship service. One week the preacher preached on commitment, and how we should dedicate ourselves to service. The song leader then led the song, “I shall Not Be Moved.”

The next Sunday, the preacher preached on giving and how we should gladly give to the work of the Lord. The song leader then led the song, “Jesus Paid It All.”

The next Sunday, the preacher preached on gossiping and how we should watch our tongues. The song leader then led the song, “I love To Tell The Story.”

The preacher became very disgusted over the situation, and the next Sunday he told the congregation he was considering resigning. The song leader then led the song, “Oh, Why Not Tonight.”

As it came to pass, the preacher resigned and the next week informed the church that it was Jesus that led him there and it was Jesus that was taking him away. The song leader then led the song, “What A Friend We Have In Jesus.”

Matt 16:24-26

24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. 25 For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it. 26 What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul? Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul?

Ex 1:6-2:10

6 Now Joseph and all his brothers and all that generation died, 7 but the Israelites were fruitful and multiplied greatly and became exceedingly numerous, so that the land was filled with them. 8 Then a new king, who did not know about Joseph, came to power in Egypt. 9 “Look,” he said to his people, “the Israelites have become much too numerous for us. 10 Come, we must deal shrewdly with them or they will become even more numerous and, if war breaks out, will join our enemies, fight against us and leave the country.”

11 So they put slave masters over them to oppress them with forced labor, and they built Pithom and Rameses as store cities for Pharaoh. 12 But the more they were oppressed, the more they multiplied and spread; so the Egyptians came to dread the Israelites 13 and worked them ruthlessly. 14 They made their lives bitter with hard labor in brick and mortar and with all kinds of work in the fields; in all their hard labor the Egyptians used them ruthlessly.

15 The king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, whose names were Shiphrah and Puah, 16 “When you help the Hebrew women in childbirth and observe them on the delivery stool, if it is a boy, kill him; but if it is a girl, let her live.” 17 The midwives, however, feared God and did not do what the king of Egypt had told them to do; they let the boys live. 18 Then the king of Egypt summoned the midwives and asked them, “Why have you done this? Why have you let the boys live?” 19 The midwives answered Pharaoh, “Hebrew women are not like Egyptian women; they are vigorous and give birth before the midwives arrive.” 20 So God was kind to the midwives and the people increased and became even more numerous. 21 And because the midwives feared God, he gave them families of their own. 22 Then Pharaoh gave this order to all his people: “Every boy that is born you must throw into the Nile, but let every girl live.”

Exodus 2

2:1 Now a man of the house of Levi married a Levite woman, 2 and she became pregnant and gave birth to a son. When she saw that he was a fine child, she hid him for three months. 3 But when she could hide him no longer, she got a papyrus basket for him and coated it with tar and pitch. Then she placed the child in it and put it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile. 4 His sister stood at a distance to see what would happen to him.

5 Then Pharaoh’s daughter went down to the Nile to bathe, and her attendants were walking along the river bank. She saw the basket among the reeds and sent her slave girl to get it. 6 She opened it and saw the baby. He was crying, and she felt sorry for him. “This is one of the Hebrew babies,” she said.

7 Then his sister asked Pharaoh’s daughter, “Shall I go and get one of the Hebrew women to nurse the baby for you?”

8 “Yes, go,” she answered. And the girl went and got the baby’s mother. 9 Pharaoh’s daughter said to her, “Take this baby and nurse him for me, and I will pay you.” So the woman took the baby and nursed him. 10 When the child grew older, she took him to Pharaoh’s daughter and he became her son. She named him Moses, saying, “I drew him out of the water.”

This is a story of a mother desperate to save her child from certain death. She struggled to figure out a way to save her infant son. She took a huge risk and set him adrift in the Nile river – hoping against hope for a miracle. God intervened and brought life when death was knocking at the door.

Many people struggle to find themselves.  They think they are full of life and vitality yet they keep searching for meaning for their lives.

They try careers, toys, vacations, physical fitness, new age hocus pokus, volunteerism, Eastern religions, drugs and alcohol, pornography, anything – anything that will bring them temporary satisfaction. They look alive on the outside but they are dead on the inside.

You and I know they won’t find joy until they surrender their lives to Jesus.  It’s a God thing – I call it the “surrender principle.”  It’s only when they lose their lives and surrender to Christ that they find eternal life.  But the “surrender principle” isn’t just for new Christians. It’s for mature Christians as well.

Our enemy, the Devil, works overtime to provide Christians with new opportunities to get distracted. Satan knows your weaknesses and will exploit them. He will set you up and take you down.

Most Christians are on their guard for obvious temptations. So the Devil doesn’t need to tempt you with the big sins. No, he is more subtle than that. He is crafty and sneaks up on you. He doesn’t just call you over to the trap and push you in. No, he leads you there one crumb at a time.

Most Christians have sin in their lives that they are unaware of. It’s like dirt on the bottom of your shoes.

The altar is the place to clean your shoes – leave your dirt at the altar.  We need to have a season of prayer and ask God to reveal to us the dirt on our feet. Then we need to repent and surrender to Him.  What are the things that are hindering your walk with God?  What kind of mess have you tracked into God’s house today?  We can’t stand before God with muddy feet.

You’ve got to lose whatever you’re hanging onto that stands between you and God. It must be surrendered. Otherwise you run the risk of losing everything.

What are some of the things that stand between Christians and God?

Jobs – Some Christians allow greed to creep into their lives. They work more and more hours, including when they should be in church, just so they can have more money to buy more things. They’re often too tired to even attend, much less help out.

Unwholesome Entertainment – What kind of filth do you bring into your home in the form of music, video games, movie rentals, romance novels, and soap operas? What kind of filth do you allow your children to see, read, or play?

Wholesome Entertainment – Entertainment can be good for the soul, but it becomes destructive when it takes center stage in your life. We must be careful that we don’t make an idol out of our entertainment interests. Too much time spent on even wholesome entertainment squeezes out God.

Relationships – Some Christians allow their relationships with other people, including family members, to interfere with their walk with God.

Laziness – Some Christians choose to be “Sunday only” Christians. They come to Church and are “spiritual consumers.” They don’t spend time in the Word or in prayer during the week. They only attend on Sunday morning unless there’s something in it for them… like food.

Do you ever wonder why it is that so many more people show up for a Sunday night potluck than a regular Sunday night service?

Lazy Christians don’t help out at the church. What’s your excuse for not helping? Is it your age? My 87 year old grandmother helps with Missionettes and my wife’s 91 year old grandfather helps with rest home ministries twice a month and is a greeter at his church. They both have lost their spouses, both are hard of hearing, and one no longer drives, yet they continue working for the Lord.

What’s your excuse for not helping? Is it that you work and don’t have time to spare? We have Sunday School teachers, youth workers and others who work full time, yet have made time in their busy schedules to serve the Lord here at this Church.

What’s your excuse for not helping? Is it that you help with your kid’s basketball team, you attend PTA and go on all your child’s field trips and are just too busy with school activities to help out at church?

Being involved with your children IS important but it’s also important that they see you involved in working for the Lord. If you’re too busy to work for the Lord, you’re just plain too busy.

Let me tell you about the needs here at our church. Right now we need a Children’s Church teacher, a Children’s Church assistant, a Missionette leader and two Royal Ranger leaders.

We shouldn’t have to beg to fill these jobs. We have enough adults that these positions should be easily filled. Instead, we have no program at all available for the young boys of this church. We have families who have attended on Wednesday night with their sons, who haven’t returned. We have boys who ride the van with their older siblings, who are attending youth group instead of Royal Rangers, because we don’t have an age appropriate class for them. We have another boy who rides the van who is in the Rainbows class – he’s too old for Rainbows but we don’t have anyone to teach the Royal Rangers class he should be in. We have a Missionettes class to offer one child on Wednesday night, but nothing for her brother. We have a class for one child on Wednesday night, but nothing for her cousin. Next year one child will be old enough for Royal Rangers, but we don’t have a class for him to graduate into.

Listen, if we’re going to minister to kids who come here on the church van, we are all going to have to pitch in to provide Christian education for them. They don’t have parents attending – WE have to fill those roles. Yes, even if you were involved ten or 20 years ago when your kids were young. Let’s put the excuses aside, and figure out where God wants us to be involved! Surrender your time and talents to God.

Money – Some Christians don’t tithe. Their hard-earned money is more important than obedience to God. Money has a choke hold on them and they can’t let go. It hurts them to give. They can’t give with a cheerful heart because they have no joy. If that’s you, then you need to surrender your money to God. Don’t lose your soul over money!

Pride and Dignity – Some Christians can’t worship God with exuberant praise and worship. Many of us can’t dance before the Lord because we’re hung up on dignity. Some of us can’t raise our hands to the Lord or kneel before the Lord because of what others might think. Does it really matter what anybody else thinks? They aren’t the audience … God is! If your pride is standing between you and God, you need to surrender it.

Anger and Bitterness – If you are angry with another person, you need to surrender it. If bitterness keeps you up at night, then you need to surrender it.

Fear – You can’t share Jesus with your neighbor because you’re afraid of rejection and ridicule. You can’t go to the altar because you’re afraid people might think you’re less than perfect. You need to surrender your fear and need for perfection!

Hurt and Pain – Past hurts and emotional scars keep you from getting close to God. You’re afraid of being hurt. Feelings of abandonment and panic haunt your soul. Surrender it!

The name Moses means “drew him out of the water.” God has a purpose in everything He does, and your life is no different. God drew Moses out because He had a purpose for his life. We know that Moses was to be the instrument through which God brought deliverance to His people.

Listen Church, WHATEVER stands between you and God –

Surrender it!

Many of us don’t even realize we have dirty feet. We don’t know what it is that separates us from a closer walk with God. It’s time we find out and take care of business.

I want each of us to get on our knees before God and ask, “God, what is it that separates me from a closer walk with You?” That’s an honest prayer. That’s a prayer that God will answer.

I don’t want anyone to leave today before you know what it is God wants you to surrender. Once you know what it is, I want you to write it on a piece of paper. It is symbolic of surrender. This is a private matter between you and God.

Let the Holy Spirit search your heart this morning and show you what it is He wants you to surrender to Him.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If the work of God would be comprehended by reason, it would be no longer wonderful, and faith would have no merit if reason provided proof.

Gregory the Great


This Day's Verse

But let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy.  Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you.

Psalm 5:11
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

Spencer Johnson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

He rather likes people who fight Him.  Fighting God, fighting Judaism, means that you are active, not passive, within it.  If I don’t care about it, then I have no questions, and if I have no questions, then I have no problems.  If I do care about it, then I’ll be questioning it, and I’ll definitely have more problems with it because the questions lead to problems, not answers.  In a certain way the difference between a saint and someone who is surely not a saint is not that the saint has no problems, but that he has more, and more elaborate, problems.  It is an incessant struggle.

Adin Steinsaltz


This Day's Verse

Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being.

1 Corinthians 10:24
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

As the grave grows nearer my theology is growing strangely simple, and it begins and ends with Christ as the only Savior of the lost.

Henry Benjamin Whipple


This Day's Verse

I will give peace in the land, and you shall lie down, and none shall make you afraid.

Leviticus 26:6
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

In a child’s lunch basket, a mother’s thoughts.

Japanese proverb


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There are joys which long to be ours.  God sends ten thousand truths, which come about us like birds seeking inlet; but we are shut up to them, and so they bring us nothing, but sit and sing awhile upon the roof, and then fly away.

Henry Ward Beecher


This Day's Verse

“For I will satisfy the weary soul, and every languishing soul I will replenish.”

Jeremiah 31:25
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The love of the Father is like a sudden rain shower that will pour forth when you least expect it, catching you up into wonder and praise.

Richard Foster


This Day's Verse

I will praise thee, O LORD, with my whole heart; I will show forth all thy marvellous works.  I will be glad and rejoice in thee: I will sing praise to thy name, O thou most High.

Psalm 9:1-2
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.  Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

JUST AS LOST
Luke 15

by Grant Stauter

Click here to LISTEN to this message: “Just As Lost”

Today we are going to continue to look at the parable of the prodigal son in Luke 15, in particular the elder brother.

Last week, we heard about the reckless-living younger brother, and now this week, I am preaching on the elder brother, who turns out was “just as lost,” but in a different way–a more subtle and even more dangerous way, according to Jesus.

To remind you where we are within Luke 15, we need to look at verse 1, where the tax collectors and sinners were drawing near to Jesus.

Jesus is beginning to attract a crowd, and the Pharisees and scribes (the religious teachers of their day) grumble against Jesus saying that this man eats with sinners, receives them, and hangs out with them.  This has been the case all throughout Luke.

In response, Jesus then tells them three parables. The first one is about the lost sheep, where the shepherd leaves the 99 to go find the one. The second is about a woman who searches all over to find a lost coin. The third is about a son who leaves his Father’s, house but then comes back and is found.

So you see the pattern: lost then found, followed by joy; lost then found, followed by joy; lost then found, followed by joy. What a powerful picture this third parable gives us.  And if you missed last week’s sermon, I highly recommend you read or listen to it at this link, called “Welcome Home.”

A verse that I thought of last week as I was listening to the sermon was Luke 10:22:

“All things have been handed over to Me by My Father, and no one knows who the Son is except the Father, or who the Father is except the Son and anyone to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.”

I rejoiced, that of all they ways God could relate to us, of all the different voices in the world telling us what God is like, no one knows God the Father like God the Son, and here Jesus is telling us that He is like a Father who goes running to son when he returns home.  He is telling us here that the Father receives sinners and all of heaven celebrates.  It’s a celebration of extravagant, over-the-top unprecendented grace.  Grace beyond what any of us can imagine.  Grace that shocked the prodigal, the father’s servants, and the tax collectors and sinners who were listening.

But that grace also infuriated others because it violated their sense of justice.  For some who were listening in the crowd, the Pharisees couldn’t imagine how such a holy God would show such grace to wretches.  Law-breakers.  That is what we are going to see today in the elder brother.

Let’s read verses 25-32:

“Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing. So he called one of the servants and asked him what was going on.

” ‘Your brother has come,’ he replied, ‘and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.’ 

“The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. But he answered his father, ‘Look! All these years I’ve been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’ 

“ ‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ ”

Now this story shifts all of a sudden, and the pattern of “lost then found, followed by joy” stops.  The older son comes in from the field and hears music playing, people are busting out their best moves, and they bring out the finest meat in all the land. I imagine there is probably some nice wine flowing, and one of the servants tells the older brother that his little brother is back safe and sound.  This infuriates him.  It’s the first time there is anger in this chapter, except for the Pharisees in the beginning.

Many of you here have been in this situation as the father, maybe at a birthday party or a Christmas celebration.  Friends and family are gathering and you are at the dinner table and a seat is visibly empty.  Everyone knows who it is. It’s one of your children.   He is upstairs in his room and refuses to come down. What do you do?  Do you go up to his room and say, “What do you think you are doing?  You get downstairs right now.”  Do you grab his arm and pull him into the party, saying, “You better change your attitude right now.”  Do you send a messenger up there to tell him that if he doesn’t come downstairs there is going to be a consequence that he won’t like or do you just leave him up there and say, “I don’t care”?

Look at verse 28.  His father came out and entreated him.  It means the father pleaded, begged, and appealed to him.  Again, what a picture that Jesus is giving us here of God the Father.  Again, at great expense to himself the father is the one who is being humiliated, who is leaving the party, and who is going to his other son.  He pursues him.  This is one of the most wonderful truths in all the Bible. We see it after the very first sin in Genesis 3. Did Adam seek out God? No, God came and sought Adam.  In the Old Testament we see it over and over that God continually pursued his people, as in Malachi 3:7:

“From the days of your fathers you have turned aside from My statutes and have not kept them. Return to Me, and I will return to you, says the LORD of hosts.”

And then finally, at just the right time, God sends His very own Son to invite us to come back home to God.  Our God is a pursuing God.  Hence, why we as a church body and as individuals should imitate God in this way and pursue those who refuse to come into the Father’s party.

Now what does the elder bother say in response to the father’s gracious request (verses 29 and 30)?  There are three characteristics that I want to point out in the elder brother.

1) His first characteristic is that he has a distorted view of the father-son relationship. Even though he shared the last name and lived in the same house as the father, he viewed himself as a slave.  He didn’t view his father as the provider, protector, nurturer, mentor, and friend that his father was. No, he saw himself as more of a employee and his dad as the boss.  It was a work relationship and that’s it.  He says it there in the beginning.  “Look, here I have slaved, I have served you all these years.  I have never disobeyed you. I have worked and worked and worked.”

In the church it can be very easy for elder-brother types to appear like they are flourishing. Elder brothers thrive on the fact that the homework is always done, they’ve never gotten a detention, they always have work projects done, they show up to meetings 5 minutes early; they are accomplishers, do it yourselfers, go getters, hard workers; they have good reputations in the community, they serve on every team in the church, and they have only missed a few Sundays in the past 20 years. They are, by all outward appearances, in the faith.  But to be a Christian is more than just following the laws of God and keeping your nose out of the dirt. The Christian faith is one of being a son or daughter of God and having that father-child relationship with Him.

J.I. Packer asks the question in his book Knowing God: “What is a Christian?  The question can be answered in many ways, but the richest answer I know is that a Christian is one who knows God as Father… If you want to judge how well a person understands Christianity, find out how much he makes of the thought of being God’s child, and having God as his Father. “

Amen.  It’s possible to have your life put together and do many spiritual disciplines and fool everyone in the church and the community for years and still not know God as Father.  That is exactly what this parable is teaching us, but we also have testimonies throughout church history of this exact situation.

John Wesley, an influential preacher in the 18th century, was probably most well known for starting a movement that ended up becoming the Methodist denomination.  He grew up in Christian home, was an honor graduate at Oxford University, an ordained pastor, visited prisoners, gave generously to orphans, fasted for up to 40 days at a time, went to multiple worship services on Sunday and throughout the week, and even served as a missionary to the colony of Georgia to the native Americans there.

Yet on his way home from the trip, he wrote in his journal:

“I, who went to America to convert others, was never myself converted to God. I had, even then, the faith of a servant, though not of a son.”

I don’t want to ask if you are connected in the church or what fruit have can you show in your life, but do you have a real relationship with God?  Is He your Father where it’s a joy to be able to serve Dad?

You want people to see and know how great your Father is.  Does the thought of being a son or daughter make you want to worship?  Does it affect your prayer life and Bible reading, or are all those disciplines just something you have to do?  To a son, those disciplines are something that, yes, we may not always feel like doing, but we know this is how we learn about our Father more than the one who has a slave’s faith and thinks, “This is what I have to do to be good in the faith.”  Do you find in your heart crying out to God saying, “Abba Father”?  This elder brother doesn’t understand the father-son relationship, and it’s the first clue that he is just as lost as the younger brother was.

2) The second characteristic with this elder brother is that he has an “I” problem.  Look at verse 29 with me.

“I have always done everything right.  I have never disobeyed you.”  You can just hear the self-righteous prideful arrogance coming out of this brother’s mouth.  Throughout the book of Luke, Luke has shown us how the Pharisees are continually grumbling against Jesus for being around younger brother types.  They couldn’t understand why Jesus would want to hang out with these sinners when they were the ones who followed God’s law.  Blamelessly.   In Luke, chapter 7, we read that they rejected John the Baptist’s baptism. Why?  Because it was a baptism of repentance. They believed that they had nothing to repent of. They are good.  They meticulously followed the law.  They dotted the I’s and crossed the t’s. The only problem was that they misspelled the word.  They didn’t understand grace.

Pride is absolutely one of the most dangerous and deadly sins out there.  It’s in a class by itself.  It makes God oppose you. James 4:6 says that God opposes the proud.  It blinds us and causes us to see a distorted reality and is particularly disgusting to the Lord. Because pride contends for supremacy with God.  While the prodigal’s sins may have led him farther away from the father, pride elevates the elder brother over the father.  You can see it in his response.  It is accusatory that the father doesn’t know what he is doing.  On the surface, we would just say that it is a sin of the mouth, but it comes from pride of the heart.  Pride is a mother sin, and it gives birth to other sins.  Pride is what’s at the root of so many of our sins.

Pride gives us the amazing ability to find faults in everyone else, but is often blind to our own faults.  We may never go as far as the elder brother and say, “I have never disobeyed,” but when we can more easily find other’s faults than our own, then you know that pride is blinding you somewhat.  How often do you confess and repent after hearing a sermon compared to how often you think that so and so really needs to hear this sermon?

Pride will give us a harsh spirit and a feeling of superiority.  The elder brother even refuses to acknowledge that his younger brother is his brother.  In Luke 18, Jesus tells another parable very similar to the prodigal son.  It says that He told it to those who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and treated others with contempt.  Of course, it’s the parable of a Pharisee and a tax collector.  They go up to the temple and pray and the Pharisee says, “God I thank you, that I am not like those sinners. I tithe, I fast” and yada yada.  His prayer is all about what he does.  What kind of maniac goes to the Lord in prayer and just recites how awesome he is?  Then the tax collector doesn’t even look up, but says, “God, be merciful to me.”

Elder brothers will base their image on being hardworking, or moral, or members of the elite, or smart, which inevitably leads to feeling superior over those who don’t possess those qualities.  The elder brother liked it that his younger brother struggled because it made him look better.  It made him feel superior.  How many of you like it when someone tries to do something you do, but just doesn’t do it quite as well or you get somewhat adjitated when they do it better?  Here is one for you: what about when your child does better than other people’s kids and so you think, “I am such a good parent. If only other parents would work with their kids like I have.” Or how many of you parents get defensive when other kids perform better than your child and the thoughts just start coming into your head, “Well, of course their child is better at volleyball. They devote their lives to it.  Our family keeps it in its proper place.”  We get defensive when our pride is hurt.  I am willing to bet that the elder brother thought to himself, “Pffff! I bet you he’ll go and pawn that ring that dad just gave him and run off again.”  Would people describe you as a compassionate person?  You should probably ask someone else if you are compassionate, because of course you will say, “I am a compassionate person.”

Or would people say that you have an unforgiving and judgmental spirit?   Elder brothers lack compassion because they would NEVER do such a thing as that younger brother.  Elder brothers lack the ability to forgive because they think that they have never been forgiven of that much.  Even though I personally resonate with the younger brother, I think that if we are all being honest, it seems like the older you get, the easier it is to say, “You need to lie in the bed you made.  You reap what you sow,” and just have a crusty, hard heart towards people and not have any compassion.  Remember verse 20. The father felt compassion.

I love what Jonathan Edwards says about the way we should treat each other:

“Christians who are but fellow-worms ought at least to treat one another with as much humility and gentleness as Christ treats them.” 

3) The third and final characteristic of the elder brother is that there is no love for the father.  Why does he want a young goat?  To celebrate with his friends.  He doesn’t care if his father is there.  He doesn’t care about his father’s joy of a lost son returning home.  He doesn’t care that he has been able to work alongside his father for all these years. That’s no reward to him.

In 2007, there was a movie that came out called American Gangster. It was about a guy by the name of Frank Lucas (played by Denzel Washington in the movie).  He was a drug lord who ruled the streets of Harlem.  He would brag that he was making a million dollars a day and this was in the 1970’s.  They could never catch him, but one day, when they raided his apartment, they couldn’t find anything. But his wife panicked and started dumping cash out the window–over 500,000 dollars.  After he got arrested, he then gave up the names of all the people that he paid off and worked with to get his sentencing reduced.  Which resulted in three quarters of the New York drug enforcement agency that he had paid off.  Now isn’t that an interesting picture, that on the outside, you have two completely different people: one is a drug lord and the other is a police officer.  One says he is going to live however he wants and the other says he will uphold the law, and yet greed corrupted both of them.  Their hearts were exactly the same.

BOTH of these sons were lost, and both wanted the same thing: the father’s inheritance.  One decides he is just going to ask for it and live however he wants, and the other decides that he is going to follow all the rules so that the father owes him.  Both of them are forgetting the most obvious command to LOVE their father. Jesus says something interesting about the Pharisees’ hearts in Luke 11:29. He says that their hearts were full of greed.  They were filled with worldliness.  They wanted the fattened calves and parties and glory and power and wealth.

Let me ask you this: if you could go to heaven and there was no sickness, no death, all sin would be gone and you would live with friends and family for all of eternity, but God would not be there, would you be ok with that?  What gets you excited about heaven?  An eternity of pleasure or finally seeing the One who suffered and died in your place so that you could be cleansed from your sin and live with God for all of eternity?

Just this past Tuesday, I was reading Exodus 33 and Moses was asked a similar question by God.  God was upset:

“Depart; go up from here, you and the people whom you have brought up out of the land of Egypt, to the land of which I swore to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, saying, ‘To your offspring I will give it.’ I will send an angel before you, and I will drive out the Canaanites, the Amorites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. Go up to a land flowing with milk and honey; but I will not go up among you, lest I consume you on the way, for you are a stiff-necked people.”

And Moses said to Him:

“If your presence will not go with me, do not bring us up from here. For how shall it be known that I have found favor in Your sight, I and Your people? Is it not in Your going with us, so that we are distinct, I and Your people, from every other people on the face of the earth?”

Moses doesn’t want anything to do with the promised land if God is not going to be with them.  It’s easy for us to fall into a state where we just want the good life, the American dream, an enjoyable retirement of just travelling and good health, or maybe it’s just good friends, or that significant other, more than a relationship with the Father.  Even in the church world, I wonder how many would prefer growing numbers or success in our ministry over the presence of God.

Jesus is teaching us here that there is a more subtle and even more dangerous way to be lost than the prodigal younger brother.  All throughout the gospels we see that there are people whose lives are externally put together, and yet they are lost.  This is one of the ways that the Christian faith is distinct from all other faiths.  Everyone in the world who has any kind of moral fiber would say that the younger brother is living in sin and is lost. But Jesus is saying, no, even those who live a good moral life and have all the appearances of being a good person need to repent and accept the grace of God.  That is offensive to elder brothers to have to say, “God I am just like my younger brother. I am in need of your saving grace.”  How many, though, will refuse to repent of their pride and all of their good works and refuse to accept the grace that is found in Jesus Christ.

You see at the end of this parable again the tender heart of the father.  Even after this other son has spoken so disrespectfully to him, he says to him, “Son.”  I imagine Jesus is looking at the Pharisees at this point.  “Son, you are always with me and all that I have is yours.  We had to celebrate for your brother was dead and is now alive.”  Then the story just ends.  Jesus stops the parable. We don’t know whether the elder brother came to himself and went in to the party of grace and celebrated his brother’s repentance or if he continued to stay outside in his bitterness refusing to embrace his brother.  Jesus is leaving the door open to the elder brother to come and join the party.

The offer still stands for us today.  If you are in here and the Lord has convicted you and you are thinking, “I am that elder brother,” then remember that God is entreating you to come on in.  To repent of your pride, of your righteousness that you find in yourself.   Humble yourself and say to God, “Be merciful to me, a sinner in need of grace.”  If you have done that, come talk to one of the elders after the worship service.  God can do miraculous transformations with elder brothers, for the apostle Paul an author of most of the New Testament was a typical elder brother.

This parable also  leaves us wanting and wishing for an elder brother who embraces his younger brother.

It’s in our hearts. We yearn for stories where families are reconciled, forgiveness is given, and in the end, they live happily ever after. But in reality, we are part of a story that is far greater than if the elder brother goes into this party.

Which leads us to Jesus.  In Romans 8, it says that Jesus is the firstborn among many brothers.  Jesus is our true Elder Brother who cares for us.  Jesus is not just the brother who will travel to the far country to come and find us, but He travels all the way from heaven to earth to bring us home.

Jesus doesn’t just pay for a fattened calf and an expensive party, so that we would be welcomed into the family.  Our debt is greater.  He is the Elder Brother who is willing to be stripped naked on the cross so that we would be clothed in His robe of righteousness.

Jesus was treated as an outcast so that we would be welcomed into God’s family. Jesus drank the cup of God’s wrath so that we could drink the cup of God’s grace.  For it is only by our Elder Brother, Jesus, that we can come home to our heavenly Father–and be embraced as a son who was lost and is now found.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The man who lives for himself is a failure.  Even if he gains much wealth, position or power he is still a failure.  The man who lives for others has achieved true success.  A rich man who consecrates his wealth and his position to the good of humanity is a success.  A poor man who gives of his service and his sympathy to others has achieved true success even though material prosperity or outward honors never came to him.

Norman Vincent Peale


This Day's Verse

To him who overcomes I will grant to sit with Me on My throne, as I also overcame and sat down with My Father on His throne.

Revelation 3:21
The New King James Version


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No university can take away the religion a child gets at its mother’s knees.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer covers the whole of man’s life.  There is no thought, feeling, yearning or desire, however low, trifling, or vulgar we may deem it, which, if it affects our real interest or happiness, we may not lay before God and be sure of sympathy.  His nature is such that our often coming does not tire him.  The whole burden of the whole life of every man may be rolled on to God and not weary him, though it has wearied the man.

Henry Ward Beecher


This Day's Verse

The fear of the LORD is instruction in wisdom, and humility goes before honor.

Proverbs 15:33
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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

What we need in religion is not new light, but new sight; not new paths, but new strength to walk in the old ones; not new duties, but new strength from on high to fulfill those that are plain before us.

Tyron Edwards


This Day's Verse

In love, he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.

Ephesians 1:4-6
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Our great-grandfathers called it the holy Sabbath; our grandfathers, the Sabbath; our fathers, Sunday, but today we call it the week end.  We have substituted a holiday for the holy day.

Wesleyan Methodist


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Getters generally don’t get happiness; givers get it.  You simply give to others a bit of yourself—a thoughtful act, a helpful idea, a word of appreciation, a lift over a rough spot, a sense of understanding, a timely suggestion.  You take something out of your mind, garnished in kindness out of your heart, and put it into the other fellow’s mind and heart.

Charles H. Burr


This Day's Verse

He answered: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Luke 10:27
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Wisdom is the right use of knowledge.  To know is not to be wise.  Many men know a great deal, and are all the greater fools for it.  There is no fool so great a fool as a knowing fool.  But to know how to use knowledge is to have wisdom.

Charles H. Spurgeon


This Day's Verse

Those who trust in the LORD are like Mount Zion, which cannot be moved, but abides forever.  As the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the LORD surrounds his people.

Psalm 125:1-2
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If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light.  Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness and fears.

Glenn Clark


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WELCOME HOME
Luke 15:11-32
by Andy Huette

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I invite you to open to Luke chapter 15.

The first words that Luke records of Jesus in his Gospel are in Luke chapter 4 when he visits a synagogue.  Jesus picks the scroll of Isaiah, and he reads Isaiah 61 which says, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor: he has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”

And with these words, Jesus gives us his mission for the rest of Luke.  He’s going to preach good news, and give hope to the poor, and deliverance to captives, liberty to the oppressed.  Jesus is the BRINGER OF GOOD NEWS.  We see this all throughout Luke’s Gospel:  In Luke 5 he’s good news when he touches a leper and makes him clean, In Luke 7 he brings good news to a prostitute who is ashamed and weeping at his feet but he pardons her sin, in Luke 8 he gives liberty to a demon-possessed man by freeing him from oppression, Jesus is the bringer of GOOD NEWS.

And in Luke 15, Jesus tells a story that is INDEED very GOOD NEWS.  In fact, out of the whole entire Bible, Luke 15 may be the most vivid picture of the Good NEWS of God’s Love.   It’s the story that has become known as the Prodigal Son.  Prodigal means “lavish”—it’s a story about a son who wastes his father’s money on “lavish living” but as we will see, the story is not so much about Son’s lavish life, as it is about the Lavish Love of God.

If you’ve been raised in church, you’ve likely heard this story before, and as a result, you may have lost some of your awe for just how astonishingly Good this story is.  I was reminded of the beauty of this story last Sunday.

Each month, on the first Sunday of the month, our church gets to lead the church service at the Livingston County jail.  And last week, it was our turn, and I was scheduled to lead the teaching, and the first group that came in the room was a group of six women.  And they came in the room and sat down and I invited them to open to Luke 15, and I said, “I have a question for you: Have you ever done something stupid in your life that you really, really regret?” And they all kind of smirked, looked at me and were like “HELLO!  We’re in jail!  Of course we have!” and I said, “Well, today we’re going to look at a story in the Bible about a man who did something stupid, it was shameful and he regretted it, it’s the story of that’s called the Prodigal Son—have you ever heard of it?”  And the six women sitting there all shook their heads.

None of them had heard this story before.

And I’m telling you, I saw with my own eyes, that these words of Jesus from Luke 15—this story of God’s love that they heard for the FIRST TIME was and is TRULY GOOD NEWS.  I saw, right in front my eyes, Luke 4 happening.  That Jesus Christ, has good news for Captives.  Jesus Christ has good news for the poor in spirit. I saw that this message, right here in Luke 15, the message of God’s Love is the best message there is.  And as we walked through this story together, one woman in particular would begin to cry, and then she’d gather herself, and then she’d begin to cry some more as we kept unpacking the story.  For the first time in her life, she heard the story of the Prodigal Son, and it was Good News—it showed her a picture of God, who is a Father, who rejoices, REJOICES, CELEBRATES SHAMELESSLY, when sinners turn and come home to him in repentance.

I share that because this morning, as we dive into Luke 15, I know that many of you have heard it before, but I’d ask you—as far as you able, to consider this story anew, fresh, as though you’re hearing about what God is like for the very first time.

(PRAY)

Beginning in Luke 15:11, we read, “11 And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. 12 And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. 13 Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living.14 And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to[b] one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. 16 And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything.”

Let’s stop and consider the situation.

A. Journey to the Far Country

Jesus is telling a parable, which is a fictional story shared to illustrate a point.  This is a story of a Father, who represents God, and two sons.  While all of us have traits of both sons, in general, most of us will relate to one of the sons more than the other.  So we’re actually going to spend this week on the younger son, and another week on the older son we read about in v. 25-32.

The younger son leaves his father.  So the younger son is a metaphor, for a sinner a person who walks away from God the Father. This younger son represents a person who rejects relationship with God and goes off to do his own thing.

The story begins with

1.) Freedom:  The son coming his Father and asks him for his “share of the property.”  The son wants his inheritance early.  His dad is evidently well off, by other indicators we’ll read later in the story, and the son says, “I don’t want to wait until you die to get my share of the inheritance, I want it now.”   And many commentators talk about how offensive this would have been in the first century Patriarchal culture of honor toward the Father of the household.  But my take is that it doesn’t really matter what culture you’re in, this is offensive to any father, at any time.   It’s the son saying, “I wish you were dead.  I just want your money.”  I don’t value our relationship, I don’t really care about living here and being near to you.  You’re rich, I want your money and I want to leave and do my own thing.  I want to do what I want to do, and I don’t even care if that means that I never see you again.” That’s universally hurtful to a Father.

And as audacious as the son’s request is, what is perhaps more astonishing that the Father says, “O.k., you can have your inheritance.”   The Father permits this ridiculous request.  The father, though hurt and ashamed by his son’s request, GRANTS him what he asks for.

And there’s a point to be made here.  In Scripture, we see that God often PERMITS US to have what we want, even when what we want is sin.  Romans 1, talks about how when people worshipped and served, God gave them over to their lusts.  It’s the idea that God, sometimes, perhaps often times, says to us, “O.k. that’s what you want.  I’ll let you have that.  You want to ignore me? You want to ignore my word?  You want to walk away?  Then I’ll give you over to that.  I’ll let you walk down that path.”   That is the case here.  The Son wants to leave, and the Father say,s “O.k., I’m going to honor that—I’m going to give you over to your folly and your sin.”

2.) Selfishness Takes Us Away From Loving Community

A second truth that we see in these verses is one that is often overlooked.  But it is that Selfishness draws us out of loving community. Sin—which is selfishness at the core—fractures our relationship with community.  This parable is about a father and two sons, but it was spoken in a day when most Jewish communities lived inside a walled city, with farmland outside the walls. The average size for a Jewish settlement in the first century was 6 acres.  That’s not very big, that’s the size of our church property perhaps, if you count the spare lots next to the parking lot. And, families lived together in multigenerational housing.  Every family, was like Everybody Loves Raymond.  Everyone’s living all smooshed together; everyone is in everyone else’s business; it’s a community.

And here this guy takes his money, and he leaves to go party—where?  In a FAR COUNTRY.  He abandons his people.  His selfish desires, take him away from the people that know him, and love him.

It’s been like this from the very beginning in Genesis.  Our sin fractures our relationships.  All sin is in some way selfish.  It’s us saying, “ME FIRST.”  Sin is when we say, “I want to do what I want to do.  It’s assertion of our freedom, outside the confines of God’s authority.   And when we say ME FIRST through any sin in our lives, we are not able to love others because love is saying, “You first. Not me, but you first.”  Our selfishness TAKES AWAY FROM LOVING COMMUNITY.

And here’s the other thing about sin—is that when we sin, we love DARKNESS, so the reality is WE DON’T WANT COMMUNITY when we are in sin.  There’s a reason this guy goes to a FAR OFF COUNTRY to party with prostitutes. He doesn’t want anyone in his hometown knowing. When we walk in sin, we love darkness.  Jesus says this in John 3: He says people “loved darkness because their works were evil.”  This is why he goes to a far off country—he exchanges his loving community with God and others, a community who will hold him accountable and speak truth in love to him—he exchanges that for a new group of people in the far country who are walking in darkness with him. Right, I want to be clear on that it’s not that everyone in the far country or everyone in darkness is lonely, they might just be in darkness together.  But the point is, the FAR COUNTRY is where people love to go when they are sin.

I think of a friend of mine back in college, who had an ongoing dating relationship that was Suuuper unhealthy.  It was just bad in a lot of ways, and he knew it was bad, and he’d tell us how bad it was when they broke up, but then a few weeks would go by and he’d start talking on the phone away from us, (this was in ancient times, before texting), and I’d see him on the phone shutting the door, and standing outside away from everyone talking on the phone, and if you asked about the girl, he’d change subject, and he’d just get real shifty and shady—and guess what?  They were back together.  This whole thing happened like 6 times.  On again, off again, and finally he came to me and he said, “Hey man, I know I shouldn’t be with this girl, we’re bad for each other, and I’m not going to get back together with her and I want you to hold me accountable.” And said, “No you don’t.  You don’t want me to hold you accountable.  Because you’ve asked me that before, but every time I try to ask you something about her, you hide, you dodge, you lie, you cover up your relationship.  You don’t want accountability, you want to hide from me.”

When we are in sin, we LOVE the far country.  We love hiding. We love being anonymous.

The Far Country is an appealing place, when we want to live ME FIRST.  But the far country comes at the price of loving community.

3.) Deceptive Power of Sin

There’s a third truth we see here about our sin.  Sin is so DECEPTIVE.  Our selfish desires, our me-first actions, the path of walking away from the Father is SO DECEPTIVE.

It promises fullness, and it leads to emptiness.

It promises freedom, and it leads to captivity.

It promises pleasure, and it leads to pain.

This young son runs off to the far country, and in anonymity, he lives it up.  The text says that he “squandered his property in reckless living.”   Reckless—he was seeking temporary highs.  He sold his father’s land, he had a pocket full of cash, no one to tell him how to live, and lived it up.  He partied hard.  Later in verse 30 his older brother says that he devoured his father’s money by spending it on prostitutes.  This guy went off the deep end.  He just lived for the moment, for temporary pleasure.  Who knows exactly what this guy did with his money, but in two millennia human nature hasn’t changed much.  In the first century they had brothels, they had booze, and they had fine food and fancy possessions.  This guy goes out and parties hard, and he gets his hits of dopamine, he gets the thrill of the moment.  We gotta be honest here that sin is MOMENTARILY thrilling.  Adam and Eve weren’t tempted with leftover Brussels sprouts.  They were tempted with fruit that was “a delight to the eyes.”  Don’t think that every prodigal hates his/her life.  There are a lot of prodigal sons in the far country that would tell you in the moment: “I’m happy.”  Children rebel against their parents all the time while their laughing and smiling, and it’s no different with the prodigal.  Sin is so DECEPTIVE that You can actually feel like you’re having fun, while you trash your life and rebel against God.

Maybe there were some moments when he was in the far country, and he rolled out of bed late with a headache after a hard night of partying, and he wondered, “What am I doing here?”, but away from his community, away from the people who could help him, the thought didn’t last long, and he kept walking the lonely road, and ended up back at the bar, the brothel, or both later that night.

And one night, when he went to close out his tab at the bar, the bartender handed him his VISA card back and said, “the card has been rejected.”  His money had run out.   Verse 14 says he “had spent everything” and “began to be in need.”   Uh oh.  He’s in the far country.  He doesn’t have any connections there.  All his so-called “friends” from the bar—all those tabs he picked up, all those people are no where to be found. Verse 16 says “no one gave him anything.”  He’s looked for help, but he finds himself all alone.  Times get tough, there’s a famine in the land, and people are not in a very generous mood.  He’s stuck.  He needs money, he needs to eat, but there’s no good solution.  He doesn’t have connections in the far country, and he certainly can’t go back home.  After what he’s done, he dead to them.  There’s no way his family, his community would take him back, he thinks.  That’s not an option.  He’s gotta make something work in the far country, and it turns out that his best option is to work for a pig farmer.

There are a few people in the church family who know what it’s like to work with pigs.  In the past or currently, you raise pigs, and you know—your nostrils testify—to the reality that pig farming can be a pretty nasty job.  There are some rough days out there in the pig pen.   There’s a reason that I tell my kids their bedrooms look like a pigsty.  Pigs live in filthy conditions.  And more to the point of this story, Jesus is telling this to a largely Jewish audience.  So here, this Son is in a far away country—GENTILE TERRITORY—and he’s working with PIGS, animals that are unclean by Jewish law, and on top of all that, verse 16 tells us that he was so hungry that he “was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate.”

Think about that.  One afternoon when he was out filling up the feeding trough with pods, pig food, pig slop, his stomach growled.  It had been a few days since he had eaten, and he looked over his shoulder; didn’t see one around, and he reached down, and—he didn’t have any other choice.  He had to, he was hungry.

The UNTHINKABLE, had become thinkable.

The UNDESIRABLE, had become desirable.

The foul, the dirty, the disgusting, the abhorrent, all of a sudden didn’t seem so bad anymore.  That’s the definition of PERVERSION. When a bad thing, doesn’t seem so bad anymore.  Sin perverts, distorts, twists our perspective.  Jesus calls it “blindness.” We don’t see how bad things are.

-People who love their families, really truly love them, walk down a road of sin, and before long they’re telling lies and more lies, and unthinkable lies that they never thought they’d tell to people they love.

-Or here’s one: There was a stat that came out a few years back—maybe 6-7 years ago, that something like 90% of home burglaries in Bloomington/Normal were drug related.  The people broke in to get money for drugs.   Do you think that the first time those people ever took a hit to get a temporary high—do you think that they ever imagined that in a few years they’d be breaking into someone’s house to pay for their addiction?   When we walk in sin, the UNTHINKABLE becomes THINKABLE.

We could go on a list a hundred more examples, but we don’t need to because you know from own life or the life of loved ones that THE FAR COUNTRY IS a DANGEROUS PLACE.  It promises one thing, but the promise fades, the fun is temporary, the satisfaction fizzles, and sooner or later, we find ourselves in a pigsty of consequences.  Sooner or later it’s all a lie.  Sin is so DECEPTIVE. Sooner a later, we reap what we sow.

In verse 17, the story continues:

B. He Came to His Senses.

17 “But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants.  And he arose and came to his father.”

1.) He came to himself

It’s a powerful line.  Jesus says, “He came to himself.” He came to his senses. He woke up, he wised up, he came to himself.” He had a moment of clarity, a moment when he realized what he had walked away from and how bitter his life had become.  We don’t know what God used to give him this clarity.  Maybe he woke and remembered it was his dad’s birthday and started about home.  Maybe he was walking down the street and saw a family sitting together at a table, and thought about some of the good times he had had with his family sitting at a table.  Maybe he couldn’t sleep, and he was lying there staring at the ceiling, and the aftertaste of pig pods in his mouth, and he remembered the favorite food that his mom used to make.  Maybe one of his friends from the bar tried to hit him up for money, and he realized, “This guy’s not my friend.  He’s just using me,” and he longed his old community.

We don’t know how, but somehow or another, this guy WOKE UP.  He came to his senses.  His eyes were opened, and I would submit to you that this was God PURSUING HIM.  10 weeks ago, we saw that Luke 15 contains three stories, and each story makes the same point.  The first story is of a shepherd.  One of his sheep is lost, and he leaves 99 behind and goes out and searches for the lost sheep and rescues it.  The next story is a woman who has 10 coins, each worth about a day’s wages, and she loses one coin, and she sweeps all over the house and then find the coin and rejoices, celebrates and has party when she finds it.   This story—the story of the son is the third, climactic story of the three, and the point is the same—God is a God who pursues the lost sheep, the lost coin, and the lost son.

He is not indifferent to our lostness.  He does not look at this wayward son, and say, “Told him so.”  No, he pursues.  In the words of C.S. Lewis that I mentioned 10 weeks ago, he continues to “Woo” us, to pursue.   And often, the way that God gets our attention, gives us clarity, makes us wake up and come to our senses, often it is through Pain, Suffering, and Despair.  It’s what some have called God’s “violent mercy.”

This guy finds himself in a pigsty longing to eat pig slop, and life is terrible, but from heaven’s perspective that pig slop is God’s violent mercy.  It’s God saying, “Wake up!”

God uses pain to draw us to repentance.   Throughout the prophetic books, time and time again, we read that the Lord sends judgment. He says, “I sent famine to you, “YET, even then you did not repent.”  What was the Lord’s purpose in the famine?  Violent mercy.  To wake people up. To beckon them to return to him.

Here the man came to his senses, and what I’m suggesting is that the famine, the pigsty, the growling stomach, are all demonstrations of violent mercy.  God’s gracious means of drawing this man to repentance.   Sometimes it’s these worst moments in our lives that actually turn out to be some of the best, defining moments of our lives from the perspective of heaven.

This guy is at his worst, and he comes to his senses. He returns to his father.  This return to the Father is a picture of REPENTANCE.

2.) Repentance

Some Bible commentators have questioned whether or not this guy is really, truly repentant or if he’s just plain hungry and wants some food.   There’s not enough information in the parable to tell the motives in this guy’s heart, but given that verse 7 and verse 10 in the previous two parables about the sheep and the coin talk about the God’s response to repentance, it seems that we are supposed to read this third story as one of sincere repentance.

The word “Repent” means to turn away from one thing and to turn toward another.  It’s to do a U-turn.  To turn away from self and sin and turn to him and righteousness.  And from the outset of the Gospels, Jesus calls people to repent and believe the good news.  He’s calling people to turn away from something and turn towards him.  To turn away from self and sin, and turn to him and righteousness.

Notice two aspects of the young son’s repentance.  There is CONFESSION and there is ACTION.

1. Confession

When he comes to his senses, he thinks about what he will say to his father.  Which is that he has sinned against both heaven (God) and his father.  There’s a vertical, or Godward confession, and a horizontal confession to his father.   This is key to confession, because sometimes when a person is in a bad situation in life, they hit proverbial rock bottom and they realize they’ve hurt other people, they may try to mend things with those who they’ve hurt, which is a good thing to do, but it’s not the ultimate problem.

Our sin is first and foremost against our creator.  We hurt others with our sin in this world, but ultimately, our sin separates from God and our primary need for all eternity is to be made right with God.  So repentance is acknowledging sin as transgressing, violating, rebelling against God’s plan for our lives.  We’ve lived independently from him. The Far country is not just far from our family and friends, it’s far from our relationship to God.

And often when we think of repentance, we think of renouncing the bad things we’ve done.  So for this guy, it’s him renouncing sleeping with prostitutes.  And that’s true, certainly he should renounce that, but repentance is EVEN DEEPER THAN THAT.  It’s not just having sorrow for the bad things we’ve done, it’s actually acknowledging that we’ve lived completely for the wrong purpose.  We’ve lived for the kingdom of self, we’ve worshipped the idol of self, of self glory, self fulfillment, self anything, we’ve been all about me, myself and I, and it’s not just that we’ve done a few bad things, it’s that our lives were completely lived for the wrong purpose. We wanted nothing of God.  We had no room for him, we only wanted to fulfill self.  Repentance is confessing these core truths, heart-level realities, that we worshiped self over God.

2. Action

But repentance doesn’t stop with just a few words.  The second half of repentance is ACTION.  The text says that “he arose and went to his father.”  This would not be a story of repentance if he remained in the far country.  In order for repentance to occur, he had to walk away from darkness, he had to act.

And this is where repentance gets really tough because the action of repentance is humbling.  I suppose that many people know they’ve sinned against God and others, but they never arose from their sin, they never owned it and acted because to do so would be humiliating.  Consider this young man.  He is going to travel back home, and walk into a community where everyone knows that he’s the kid who basically told his dad that he wishes he were dead, he cashed out his inheritance—something that you never do—and now here he is walking back into town empty handed after squandering it on prostitutes and booze.

The SHAME of that act—of walking back into town in humility—keeps people from repenting.  There are people drinking alone all over this country who know they’ve done something wrong, that they’ve sinned, but their shame is too great, their pride keeps them from humbly turning and returning to God, to the Church, and to those they’ve hurt.

We can see this guy’s shame right here in verse 18—he’s already rehearsing his speech.  He says that he’ll go to his father and say to him, “Father I have sinned against heaven and before you.  I am no longer worthy to be called your son.  Treat me as one of your hired servants.”

Imagine you’re this young son—you’re heading back home, you have a speech in your head about how you’re not worthy and you just want to work as a servant.  You’re going to walk into town, probably you’re going to find the time of day when the least amount of people are going to see you, you’re going to go to your home, and knock on the door, and YOU HAVE NO IDEA what your dad is going to say.  He could literally shut the door in your face.   He could say, “Don’t say a word to me, unless you have every penny that I gave you.”  Keep in mind this is a first century middle eastern culture based on honor and shame. It would not be strange at all for a Father in to open the door and see this prodigal son, and say, “Who do you think you are?  Do you know how many people you’ve hurt?  Don’t you know that the second you walked out of this door, our family disowned you.  You are dead to us.  Get out.  Get out, and don’t you ever show your face in this town again.”

This guy is traveling home, and he doesn’t know what to expect.  He’s only hoping that he can beg for his father to allow him to work as a servant, to make some small little repayment of all that he has lost.

But in verse 20, we begin to see, that this young man, DID NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT HIS FATHER IS LIKE.  HE DID NOT KNOW HIS FATHER’S CHARACTER.

C. Father

Verse 20 “20 And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him.21 And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’[c]22 But the father said to his servants,[d]‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. 23 And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate.”

If you’re confused about what Christianity is, this is it. This is the filet of Scripture.

Consider what Jesus is saying here.  A son who walked away from his father, his family, his community, he lived it up in reckless partying, squandered everything, who lost a massive amount of money, he is a disgrace to his family, who is full of shame and embarrassment and SHOULD BE, walks back into town absolutely humiliated, but the most humiliating character in the story is no longer this son . . . it’s the FATHER.

The father sees him a long way off, and he takes off running.  Again this is the first century, where Patriarchs, the Fathers, wore robes and were respected and served, and it would be considered undignified to run, but this father starts running toward his son, and he gives him a huge bear hug and kisses him.  And we assume he’s weeping tears of joy and saying, “Son, how I’ve missed you.  Praise God, you are here, I’m so glad you’re here. Praise God.”

And the son begins his speech.  “Father, I’ve sinned against heaven, and against you. I’m no longer worthy to be called your son, just let me be a servant.”  And the Father says, “SHHHHH.  None of that.  You’re my SON!  You were dead and now you’re alive!  You were lost; you’re found!  WELCOME HOME SON!!! Welcome home!  QUICK!” he shouts to his servant, “Tell everyone.  Invite the neighbors.  Slaughter the fattened calf. We are having a party!  Go get this son some clothes.  Give my credit card take him to get a suit, get him a haircut, make him a bedroom, and welcome him home.”

Don’t forget, this Father has reason to be ashamed.  This guy’s own son wished him dead.  This Father has heard neighbors whispering about his son at the coffee shop when his son was in the far country.  This Father sent out a family Christmas card last year and his son wasn’t in the photo.  This Father had to put up a for sale sign on his family land, this guy lived day in and day in the community with people wondering and asking and now: What are they going to think?

How would you handle this situation?  Even a loving, gracious father would at the very least say, “O.k. you’re my son, I’ll let you come home, but you gotta live in the servant’s quarters for a least a year or two until you earn back some of the money you lost.”

That’d seem to be plenty gracious.

But this Father is RIDICULOUSLY GRACIOUS.  I mean that in the most literal sense—his grace and love and acceptance of his son is son immense that he will certainly be ridiculed by others.  There will be people who go, “That guy’s insane.  He’s having a party for that kid?  Are you kidding me?  He gave him a new ring, a new robe, new shoes, and he slaughtered the fattened calf for that kid?  This is ridiculous.

GRACE offends our sense of justice.

GRACE—true GRACE—is scandalous.

Our ingrained sense of justice says people should get what they deserve. And we have a sense of what is deserved. Grace is when God does not treat us as we deserve. At best this guy deserves nothing, at worst he deserves to be rejected by the community he has already rejected.  But Grace is when the loving Father celebrates his return, throws a celebration, and doesn’t hang this over his son’s head.  What matters to the father is not what his son did, but that HIS SON IS HOME.  He was lost and now he is found.

And so he pours out his grace, and celebrates the return of his son.  And God’s grace is so lavish that it is offensive to our sense of justice.

And it’s in this celebration of the returning son that we see the VERY HEART OF GOD.  All throughout Scripture, God’s heart, his character, his nature is that of a Father who has his arms outstretched to those in sin.

-Zechariah 1:3, “Return to me,” says the Lord, “and I will return to you.”

-Isaiah 65, “All day long, I held out my arms to an obstinate and rebellious people.”

-Exodus 34, “The Lord, the LORD, merciful and gracious, slow to anger and ABOUNDING in             steadfast love.”

-Lamentations 3, “The steadfast love of the LORD NEVER ceases.”

-Micah 7 “Who is a God like you, pardoning iniquity and passing over transgression.  He does not               retain his anger forever because he DELIGHTS in steadfast love.”

We know this about God, for it’s his nature all over the pages of Scripture, but the shame of sin clouds out the character of God for the prodigal and the scandal of grace clouds out the true nature of God’s love for those who can’t believe the lavish love of the Father.

Many of the people who heard Jesus tell this story just couldn’t quite understand the fact that God welcomes sinners to come home.  They were scandalized by the thought.  You see, if you look at Luke 15:1 with me, we see that these religious folks are the very people to whom Jesus speaks this story of the Prodigal Son.  Luke 15:1-2 says, “Now the tax collectors and sinners were all drawing near to hear him.  And the Pharisees and scribes grumbled saying, ‘This man receives sinners and eats with them.”

The religious people in Jesus’ day didn’t understand that God loves sinners.  He rejoices in repentance and that Jesus’ very mission was to seek and save sinners, the lost.

And this is the subtle twist in the story of the Prodigal Son.  The story is a story about God the Father, and his love for the wayward son, but at the end of the story—the Father is eating, feasting, and celebrating with the “sinner,” the returned son.   The twist is that Jesus is not merely talking about God the Father, he’s talking about himself.  Jesus is telling a story about his own heart, and his own mission.  He is the King, who receives sinners.

This is GOOD news.

When we go to the far away country in sin, Jesus is the King who leaves his home to go to the far country to redeem us from sin.

We feel the guilt and shame and humiliation of sin, and Jesus goes to the cross, bears our, rids us of our shame, and is humiliated in our place.

We reject the Father, Jesus is rejected by the Father on the cross in order that we might be received by him.

We hide in the darkness of sin, Jesus enters the darkness as the light of the world to beckon us home to the Father.

We who were dead in sin, are made alive in repentance and faith, because Jesus died for our sin, and rose from the grave, giving life to all who repent and believe.

The Good News is that our Father has sent his Son into this world on a mission to call sinners home to him by repentance and faith.

It doesn’t matter what far country you’ve visited.  The Father not only receives you in repentance, he CELEBRATES YOUR REPENTANCE! Verse 7 says there is “JOY IN HEAVEN” over repentance.  Verse 10 says there’s “Joy before the angels of God” when a sinner repents.  And here we see the image of God is not and image a Father at the door with a glare and his arms crossed, but a father who in his Joy is a foolish sight, a humiliated man as he runs down the road weeping, shouting, hugging, kissing, and declaring “WELCOME HOME MY SON.  Welcome home.”

APPLICATION:

This morning we all sit here with different stories and at different places in life.

1.) (Heading Toward the Far Country)

There may be some here right now, or perhaps someone listening or reading online, or someone who listens to or reads this 3 years down the road, and you know in your heart that you are LIVING IN THE FAR COUNTRY.  Right now, you know that your back is to God the Father, you’re dodging people who love you, you’re living for yourself.  You are me-first, you’re covering over your sin by finding people who celebrate sin with you, and you’re on the run.  You know it.  Maybe you’ve been on the run so long that you’re comfortable with the far country, or maybe you’re not even to the far country yet, but it’s where you want to go—you’re headed toward it.

If that’s you, know for certain today that the Far Country is a dangerous place.  It does not satisfy, it will not last, and you don’t have to go there or stay there.  There are dozens and dozens of people in our church family who have spent a long time in the far country, and every one of them today would stand up here and beg you to return home.  The broad path leads to destruction. The far country leads to pain, and worst of all, it’s away from the Presence of God the Father.  Today, if you are in the far country or headed that way, DO A U-TURN.  I plead with you, RETURN TO THE LORD.  Confess that you have sinned against God and man, and leave your place of sin, and RUN HOME.  Run home. Return to the Lord today.  Zechariah 1, says “Thus says the Lord, “Return to me, and I will return to you.”

2.) (Sons Acting like Servants)

There are others here today—who PRAISE GOD—have fled the Far Country. By the gracious WOO of God, but the violent mercy of God, you’ve come to your senses, and you’ve turned home to God to others.  You’ve confessed your sin, you’ve taken action, you’ve burned bridges in the far country, and you’re rebuilding bridges at home.  Praise God.

And if that’s you today, I want to remind you of one simple truth:  By the grace of God, given to you in Jesus Christ, received by faith, YOU ARE A SON—You’re not a slave.  What I mean is this:  Because of your sin and your shame and pride, you’re not going to feel like you deserve the grace of God and so you’re going to live in the servant’s quarters in your soul and try to work really hard to pay back God and others.  And eventually you might think, “Ok, I’ve done my time, I’m good enough again, All is well.”

But that’s not the Gospel of Grace.  The Gospel of Grace is that WE NEVER DESERVE the FATHER’S   LOVE.

The Gospel of GRACE is that NONE OF US CAN PAY OFF OUR DEBT.

The Gospel of GRACE is that the Father RUNS TO US, we don’t crawl our way back to him.

Our Sins from the Far Country become WHITE AS SNOW, NOT because we log overtime in the servants’ house, but because the Father says to us, “Welcome Home” in the person of Jesus Christ.

By Grace we are Sons and Daughters, not servants, in the Father’s house.

CONCLUSION:

For the past few months I’ve been listening to a song called “At the Table” by Josh Garrels, and it’s the story of the prodigal son.  A wayward son runs from home and the Father is saying “Return to me.  For you will always have a seat at my table.”

This morning before we sing our final song, we’re going to listen to the song At the Table and this is a time for all who are in the far country to hear the call of God saying, “Return home.  There’s a place for you.  Turn back and be received.”  And for everyone here to remember and rejoice in the Lavish Love of our Heavenly Father.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Wherever you are, pray secretly within yourself.  If you are far from a house of prayer, give not yourself trouble to seek for one, for you yourself are a sanctuary designed for prayer.  If you are in bed, or in any other place, pray there; your temple is there.

Bernard of Clairvaux


This Day's Verse

If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?  And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.

1 John 4:20-21
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

The best smell is bread, the best saver salt, the best love that of children.

George Herbert


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When an apprentice gets hurt, or complains of being tired, the workmen and peasants have this fine expression: “It is the trade entering his body.”  Each time that we have some pain to go through, we can say to ourselves quite truly that it is the universe, the order and beauty of the world, and the obedience of God that are entering our body.

Simone Weil


This Day's Verse

“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.  By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

John 13:34-35
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

In God’s economy, you must go down into the shadow of grief before you can scale the heights of spiritual glory.  You must come to the end of self before you begin to live.

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Some of the staunchest Christians I know are people who had periods in their life when they questioned the Bible, Christ, and God.  But as they continued to examine the matter, there was overwhelming evidence that only “the fool hath said in his heart, there is not God.”

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It is strange that men will prepare for everything except death.

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Some people have received Christ but have never reached spiritual maturity.  We should grow as Christians every day, and we are not completely mature until we live in the presence of Christ.

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To know the will of God is the highest of all wisdom.

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Think of the blessings we so easily take for granted: Life itself; preservation from danger; every bit of health we enjoy; every hour of liberty; the ability to see, to hear, to speak, to think, and to imagine all this comes from the hand of God.

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When we come to the end of ourselves, we come to the beginning of God.

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Anxiety is the natural result when our hopes are centered in anything short of God and His will for us.

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My prayer for you today is that you will feel the loving arms of God wrapped around you.

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The effective Christians of history have been men and women of great personal discipline–metal discipline, discipline of the body, discipline of the tongue, and discipline of the emotion.

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Suppose that I understand the Bible.  And, suppose that I am the greatest preacher who ever lived!  The Apostle Paul wrote that unless I have love, “I am nothing.”

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Prayer shouldn’t be casual or sporadic, dictated only by the needs of the moment.  Prayer should be as much a part of our lives as breathing.

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Every day has exactly 1,440 minutes; can’t you find even ten of them to be with your heavenly Father?  Doesn’t God deserve the best minutes of your day?

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What kind of place is heaven? First, heaven is home. The Bible takes the word “home,” with all its tender associations and with all of its sacred memories and tells us that heaven is home. Second, heaven is a home which is permanent. We have the promise of a home where Christ’s followers will remain forever. Third, the Bible teaches that heaven is a home which is beautiful beyond every imagination. Heaven could not help but be so, because God is a God of beauty. Fourth, the Bible teaches that heaven will be a home which is happy, because there will be nothing to make it sad. In heaven, families and friends will be reunited. God’s house will be a happy home because Christ will be there. He will be the center of heaven. To Him all hearts will turn, and upon Him as eyes will rest.

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Wherever the Gospel is preached, no matter how crudely, there are bound to be results.

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In obedience to discernment, more discernment will come. We need to be attentive and alert in order to hear and understand God’s call and then act, knowing that God blesses even our mistakes.

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A spirit of thankfulness is one of the most distinctive marks of a Christian whose heart is attuned to the Lord. Thank God in the midst of trials and every persecution.

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We have found that marriage should be made up of two forgivers. We need to learn to say, “I was wrong, I’m sorry.” And we also need to say, “That’s all right, I love you.”

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Heaven is full of answers to prayers for which no one ever bothered to ask.

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We hurt people by being too busy.  Too busy to notice their needs.  Too busy to drop that note of comfort or encouragement or assurance of love.  Too busy to listen when someone needs to talk.  Too busy to care.

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Life is a glorious opportunity, if it is used to condition us for eternity.  If we fail in this, though we succeed in everything else, our life will have been a failure.  There is no escape for the man who squanders his opportunity to prepare to meet God.

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I try not to worry about life too much because I read the last page of THE book and it all turns out all right.

Billy Graham


This Day's Verse

For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory;  While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:17-18
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The legend about the wandering Jew who was suffering the punishment of eternal life is very true.  In the same way, there is a legend about a man who was punished by being given a life without any suffering.

Leo Tolstoy


This Day's Verse

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.

Proverbs 14:30
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Brethren, why so many meetings with our fellow men and so few meetings with God?

Andrew Bonar


This Day's Verse

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

Matthew 6:14-15
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

I have problems flown in fresh daily wherever I am.

Richard Lewis


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Peace

by Tim Zingale

Mark 4:35-41
Job 38:1-11

35 On that day, when evening had come, he said to them, “Let us go across to the other side.”

36 And leaving the crowd, they took him with them in the boat, just as he was. And other boats were with him.

37 And a great storm of wind arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that the boat was already filling.

38 But he was in the stern, asleep on the cushion; and they woke him and said to him, “Teacher, do you not care if we perish?”

39 And he awoke and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, “Peace! Be still!” And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.

40 He said to them, “Why are you afraid? Have you no faith?”

41 And they were filled with awe, and said to one another, “Who then is this, that even wind and sea obey him?”

Grace and Peace to you from our Lord and Saviour, Jesus who is the Christ. Amen

An artist was commissioned by a wealthy man to paint something that would depict peace. After a great deal of thought, the artist painted a beautiful country scene. There were green fields with cows standing in them, birds were flying in the blue sky and a lovely little village lay in a distant valley. The artist gave the picture to the man, but there was a look of disappointment on his face. The man said to the artist, “This isn’t a picture of true peace. It isn’t right. Go back and try again.”

The artist went back to his studio, thought for several hours about peace, then went to his canvas and began to paint. When he was finished, there on the canvas was a beautiful picture of a mother, holding a sleeping baby in her arms, smiling lovingly at the child. He thought, surely, this is true peace, and hurried to give the picture to the wealthy man. But again, the wealthy an refused the painting and asked the painter to try again.

The artist returned again to his studio. He was discouraged, he was tired and he was disappointed. Anger swelled inside him, he felt the rejection of this wealthy man. Again, he thought, he even prayed for inspiration to paint a picture of true peace. Then, all of a sudden an idea came, he rushed to the canvas and began to paint as he had never painted before. When he finished, he hurried to the wealthy man.

He gave the painting to the man. He studied it carefully for several minutes. The artist held his breath. Then the wealthy man said, “Now this is a picture of true peace.” He accepted the painting, paid the artist and everyone was happy.

And what was this picture of true peace?? The picture showed a stormy sea pounding against a cliff. The artist had captured the furry of the wind as it whipped black rain clouds which were laced with streaks of lightening. The sea was roaring in turmoil, waves churning, the dark sky filled with the power of the furious thunderstorm. And in the middle of the picture, under a cliff, the artist had painted a small bird, safe and dry in her nest snuggled safely in the rocks. The bird was at peace midst the storm that raged about her.”

Peace, tranquility, calmness, these are the emotions which each we seek as we experience the storms of life. We long, we search for peace. We search for the quiet, the calm, the contentment as we experience the storms, the chaos, the uncertainties of life.

As we live with all the brokenness of sin, with all the tension of this sinful world, we cry out, we long for some peace to somehow insulate, or protect us from all the fury around us. We are very much like that wealthy man, searching, dreaming, wanting peace in the middle of the fury of life. We search, we long, for that peace. We even call out as the disciples did to Jesus in that sinking boat, we call out to God for peace, for comfort. We call out to God,, wondering if He is around, wondering if He is sleeping while we are searching.

The question asked more often by human beings is always some variation on this theme,’Where are you, God?” Or “God, are you sleeping?” or “God, are you dead?” or God, do you hear me?” or “God, why don’t you. Answer me?”

And God’s answer, God’s ’s only answer, God’s answer that we can only understand is this: “I am in the midst of you through the crucified Christ” Yes, I am here, I am with you as I was with my Son on the cross of Calvary.”

Our Old Testament Lesson and our gospel lesson focus for us this morning on that question, “Where is God in the tumult of life?” Job asks that question of God as he is suffering, the disciples ask that question of Jesus as they are sinking with their boat into the Sea of Galilee.

“Don’t you care, aren’t you concerned with our plight, why am I suffering like this,” are the questions which beg for an answer in our lessons this morning.

Jesus and the disciples were crossing the sea when a sudden storm broke upon them. The disciples became afraid as the wind blew, and the fury of the storm began to fill the boat with water. These were seasoned fishermen, they had experienced these kinds of storms before, but this one was different, it was worse than they had ever experienced. They used their skills, but still they were sinking.

Then in the middle of the storm, they thought about Jesus, where was he. He was in the stern of the boat sleeping on a pillow. Jesus had that sure confidence in the peace of God which allowed Him to sleep even though the storms of life, even this storm of the sea as it was raging all about him.

But the disciples didn’t have that peace, they were afraid, they wondered if Jesus even cared for them as they awoke Him with this question “Teacher, do you not care if we perish?”

They soon saw Jesus’ caring as He awoke and spoke to the wind and the sea saying: “Peace’ Be Still !”’ Then the sea calmed, the winds stopped there was peace.

Then Jesus asked the disciples a question: “Why are you afraid?? Have you no faith?”

Jesus had peace, he was not afraid because He had faith in the Father to protect and provide for Him.

He wanted His disciples to have that same peace. A peace that knows that no matter what circumstances in life we may find ourselves, God ifs in control, so there is peace. Peace does come, peace is equal to faith in the power of God to control, to provide. The disciples saw the power of God in nature as Jesus calmed the storm. That same power is present in all circumstances of life. There is peace to life when we believe in and trust in the power of God to be with us, to guide us, to save us from all the storms of life.

The disciples were afraid because they could only see the storm, their eyes we fixed on that storm. It was difficult for them to have any peace when they were focused on the storm. The problem for the disciples and our problem is not the storms of life but where our attention is placed. It’s hard to see the Christ in the boat when our attention is riveted on the waves outside the boat. When our attention is so consumed by the storms of life so that we cannot see Christ, or turn to Him, or trust in Him, then there is no peace, no contentment, but only worry and despair.

For example: “A story from the days of sailing ships, tell about a ship caught in a sudden and severe storm. The passengers became panicky, rushing here and there as the waves beat upon the ship. There was fear and dread on the faces of all the passengers except one little boy, who remained calm and cheerful. When asked why he was so calm, he said,”Why should I be afraid? My father is at the helm.” In order words, he was not afraid, because e his father was in control.

So, too, with us we face the storms of life. We need not be afraid, or full of despair, because God through His Son Jesus Christ is in control. God is at the helm of life. We need to believe and trust in His power to guide our lives.

Job, in our first lesson, learned of this power of God to be in control of life as God encountered Job in the whirlwind. Job comes to God with his questions of why. Why did he have to suffer? Was there something he did wrong that he deserved this suffering? He came to God, he, in a sense challenged God with his questions.

And what does God do? He comes to Job in a whirlwind and God asks Job questions. God asks if Job had been present at the beginning of time, was Job present at creation, did he have a hand in creating the world? God asked Job if he was the one to control the seas, if he was the one who created the rain and clouds? God came to Job in all of His power and reminded Job of that power, reminded him that humankind cannot understand the mind or the workings of God.

The text doesn’t say Job’s reply, but if we read further we see that the only reply Job had was to fall on his knees in humble subjection. When he finally saw and encountered God, Job saw his own helplessness and lack of wisdom. Job remained faithful to God in all of his trials, but he never came to a point where he didn’t trust or believe in God’s power to deliver or save him.

So, with us, as we face the unanswered questions, as we face the whys, the how comes, as we face suffering, as we face the tragedies of life.

It is not that we disbelieve God’s ability to do anything to save. We all too frequently fail to trust the power He has. We come to God with our human condition of sin. We come to God with our inability to really understand God, so we give up. We question, we ask, we search, but we don’t wait for an answer.

As Pastor Paul Scheidt says in Preaching Helps:

“God calls us to faith, but we prefer to hope for miracles.

“Surely we say, “Our Creator, who supports the earth’s foundations, can arrest the storm in a moment. He has before; perhaps he will again.”

But if our prayer is one-dimensional request for a miraculous calm, we may let ourselves in for a large helping of disappointment and despair if God’s plan dictates some thing different from our request.

The prayer of of faith will include a second dimension that God will help us, hear his voice in the storm. His voice which says loud and clear, I am with you, I am with you.”

As Job found out, as the disciples found out the only answer to our questions about life comes with a simple but powerful answer, “I am with you, period.”

That is all we need to know our God is with us as we face all the why questions of life.

40 He said to them, “Why are you afraid? Have you no faith?”

Amen


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Christ knew His Father and offered Himself unreservedly into His hands.  If we let ourselves be lost for His sake, trusting the same God as Lord of all, we shall find safety where Christ found His, in the arms of the Father.

Elisabeth Elliot


This Day's Verse

Wait patiently for the LORD.  Be brave and courageous.  Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.

Psalm 27:14
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

One of the mysteries of human conduct is why adult men and women are ready to sign documents they do not read, at the behest of salesmen they do not know, binding them to pay for articles they do not want, with money they do not have.

Gerald Hurst


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Lift up your eyes.  Your heavenly Father waits to bless you—in inconceivable ways to make your life what you never dreamed it could be.

Anne Ortlund


This Day's Verse

Let not your heart envy sinners, but continue in the fear of the LORD all the day.

Proverbs 23:17
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Today I give it all to Jesus: my precious children, my mate, my hopes, my plans and dreams and schemes, my fears and failures—all.  Peace and contentment come when the struggle ceases.

Gloria Gaither


This Day's Verse
Last of all I want to remind you that your strength must come from the Lord’s mighty power within you.

Ephesians 6:10
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

A man without mirth is like a wagon without springs.  He is jolted disagreeably by every pebble in the road.

Henry Ward Beecher


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I am not what I ought to be,
I am not what I wish to be,
I am not what I hope to be;
but, by the grace of God,
I am not what I was.

John Newton


This Day's Verse

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Psalm 73:26
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We are of such value to God that He came to live among us…and to guide us home.  He will go to any length to seek us, even to being lifted high upon the cross to draw us back to Himself.

Catherine of Siena


This Day's Verse

And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you.

Luke 17:6
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Fault is one of the easiest things to find, and yet many people keep on looking for it.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Rest in this-it is His business to lead, command, impel, send, call or whatever you want to call it. It is your business to obey, follow, move, respond, or what have you.

Jim Elliot


This Day's Verse

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock.  If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me.”

Revelation 3:20
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A stiff apology is a second insult.  The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.

G. K. Chesterton


This Day's Verse

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.  Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.  Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand.  His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7
The New Living Translation


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The greatest tragedy in the world is that the church doesn’t love the world the way God does.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

The LORD shall preserve thee from all evil: he shall preserve thy soul.  The LORD shall preserve thy going out and thy coming in from this time forth, and even for evermore.

Psalm 121:7-8
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

When you realize that everything you buy is purchased with a portion of your life, it should make you more careful with the use of money.

James Dobson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There are times when you cannot understand why you cannot do what you want to do.  When God brings the blank space, see that you do not fill it in, but wait.  The blank space may come in order to teach you what sanctification means, or it may come after sanctification to teach you what service means.  Never run before God’s guidance.  If there is the slightest doubt, then He is not guiding.  Whenever there is doubt-don’t.

Oswald Chambers


This Day's Verse

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 15:1
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Death cannot kill what never dies.

Thomas Traherne


This Day's Verse

“But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive you your sins too.”

Mark 11:25
The Living Bible


This Day's Smile

I hope you will find a few folks who walk with God to also walk with you through the seasons of your life.

John Eldredge


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Tithing

by Dean Morgan

Malachi 3:6-12

Let me begin by making three statements about tithing:

1. Tithe means “a tenth” – Genesis 28:22 – “And this stone which I have set as a pillar shall be God’s house, and of all that you give me I will surely give a tenth to You.” The word tithe in the Hebrew means “a tenth.”

2. The Lord claims the tithe as His – Leviticus 27:30 – “And all the tithe of the land, whether of the seed of the land or of the fruit of the tree, is the LORD’S, It is holy to the LORD.”

3. Obedience in tithing carries a promise read Malachi 3:10.

I don’t believe for one minute that tithing buys God’s blessing. But I do believe that it opens a door – or better, a “window” – of release for God to bless continually and mightily. The concept underlying this practice and promise is found throughout the Bible, but in the book of Malachi, God most pointedly deals with tithing. There he faces his people with the charge of neglect in the “covenant” practice.

In this passage, the Lord calls for the return of his people. But when they ask, “In what way shall we return” (v. 7), the Lord says something completely foreign to our way of thinking.

• He doesn’t tell them to get on their knees & pray.

• He doesn’t instruct them to read the Bible.

  • He doesn’t demand they go to the temple more often.

Rather, He starts by talking to them about their money – about tithing. Notice that it’s His starting place.

First, the Lord contrasts His own changelessness with the unfaithfulness of their fathers.

Though God created us and promised to sustain us, it is a great difficulty for many of us to give God His portion.

Consider this: before the fall of man, God gave Adam and his wife stewardship over all creation. Genesis 1:27, 28 – “(27) So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (28) Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

After this, God said, in effect, “I only ask one thing of you: that you honor the fact that a certain portion of creation is Mine and Mine alone.” That’s essentially what God said when He told Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Genesis 2:16-17 – “(16) And the LORD commanded the man, saying, ‘Of every tree of the garden you may freely eat; (17) but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.’”

We usually think of that prohibition as only being “to eat or not to eat.” But the issue was deeper. It was an issue of recognized rights. It involved man understanding and accepting that a small portion of all he had within his reach was reserved – it belonged to the Lord. The Lord said, “Everything else is yours, but this is Mine.”

We are dealing with exactly the same issue when we discuss the tithe – God’s claim on 10% of our income. Again let’s read Leviticus 27:30 – “And all the tithe of the land, whether of the seed of the land or of the fruit of the tree, is the Lord’s. It is holy to the Lord.”

Of course, we know so well the events at the beginning. Satan came, tempting the man and woman and saying, in effect, “God knows that if you ever get hold of His portion, too, you’ll be so much better off than you are now” (see Genesis 3:5).

How easily we’re persuaded by the supposition that if we can just have what God says is His, we’ll be better off! And the tempter succeeded, with the bottom line being that man tried to take God’s job into his own hands.

“You will be like God,” the serpent hissed, and man fell for it. The tragedy is that all of God’s likeness that they needed was already theirs, for God had created them marvelously and miraculously, fully in His image. They didn’t need God’s power, only the blessing of His Person imprinted in their nature. They didn’t need God’s position, only the promise of His provision to sustain their every need. But in Adam and Eve’s pursuit of “acquiring,” they took God’s portion, thereby not only losing what they thought they would gain, but what they already had as well.

To see the divine claim on 10% of our income and to surrender it in worship, faithfully, is to find life’s financial starting place and life’s essential beginning point of blessing once we’re in Christ.

His Pattern and Blueprint

All of us understand the concept of a pattern or blueprint. The tailor who designed the clothes you’re wearing had to follow a pattern or the clothing would not fit. It would be too tight in some places, or it would be too loose and would feel uncomfortable in other places if it were not made according to pattern. A building would not be safe, nor would an engine run, if not made according to the blueprint.

It is the same thing with life. We have to start right. His commandments and precepts are blueprints–designs provided so we can build lives that stand strong and tall.

The pattern for godliness that God gave Adam included directions on how mankind is to relate to any portion that God says is His.

Rob God? How?

Malachi’s message pointed back to the beginning–“your fathers.” And so we’ve seen how early the issue of man taking God’s portion became a problem. Then the prophet asks a strange question: “Will a man rob God?” (Malachi 3:8).

It’s important here to say the obvious: God doesn’t have a cash-flow problem! So how is it that the prophet says that the people’s not tithing had “robbed” him? A look at the whole text answers the question: God had been robbed of his opportunity to bless his people! God has been robbed of his opportunity not just to bless you but to bless others since you aren’t paying the tithe.

That’s His heart–his desire. God wants to bless! Notice that when He says that if we’ll return, He’ll open the windows of heaven, and pour out a blessing we won’t be able to contain, the Lord isn’t merely talking about financial benefit. He’s talking about all His blessings. The “windows of heaven” aren’t a bank, but they are the openings from which all life’s benedictions flow.

Malachi 3:10 (NIV)–“Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this, says the LORD and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.”

• When the windows of heaven are open over your home, there is joy and happiness.

• When the windows of heaven are open over your business, there is fruitfulness and prosperity

• When the windows of heaven are open over your mind, there is peace and confidence.

  • When the windows of heaven are open over your body and soul, there is health and contentment.

“The windows of heaven” are the Bible’s words to describe the source from which God blesses, and that’s what God delights to bring about. God’s request for our tithe isn’t an appeal from a hard-pressed deity suffering for cash. It’s a request that we not deprive Him of blessing us in very real ways. It’s also a request that we not deprive Him of blessing others with the money we give. He’s calling us to order our finances on the earth side of things in a way that lines up with the release of special graces waiting to be poured out from the heaven side of things. Tithing starts right–by aligning us under the place where the blessings of God are released: heaven’s windows.

But the decision to tithe is ours.

Just as surely as the Lord Jesus Christ knocks at the doors of our hearts & says, “If you’ll open the door, I’ll come in, and you’ll be saved,” we have that choice. And having received Him as Savior, we can stop there or move ahead as His disciples. The wisest & most sensitive of us choose growing in him, making Him Lord in our life’s daily matters. And nothing says, “Yes, Lord,” any clearer than our obedience and our worship with our tithe.

When I let go, when I give, when I release, I make room for life and abundance to flow into my life according to God’s order.

If I hesitate to start tithing because I’m worried about how I’m going to make it, and in my effort to make ends meet I violate the Lord’s first principle of giving, am I succumbing to a deception luring me to put myself in God’s place? Am I saying that I am better able to make things work out than God is?

I believe I need to mention something here before we go on. Some still raise a tired question: “Isn’t tithing only in the Old Testament?”

The idea in this expressed doubt is that tithing is part of the law and therefore has no meaning to NT believers. This resistance usually projects the notion that teaching tithing will deprive a Christian of his “liberty” or move a believer “into law and out of grace.”

Jesus Himself addressed the issue of tithing. It’s recorded in two NT books – Matthew & Luke.

Jesus was dealing with the Pharisees – a tough breed of religionists who were looking for every way they could to attend to the letter of the law without attending to its spiritual demands.

Read Matthew 23:23 (Also is found in Luke 11:42).

The “woe” on these religious hypocrites was not for their tithing, but for their neglect of “weightier matters”–justice, mercy and faith. Now, the Pharisees were attending to the letter of the law in the presenting of their tithes, and it wasn’t just a matter of bringing one bushel of wheat out of every ten. They were even weighing out the tithe of the tiniest spices – mint & cummin!

If tithing was unimportant to the Savior, if it was meaningless to maintain within the new order He was bringing, then as a part of emphasizing that new order He could well have said, “Take care of justice and mercy, and quit bothering with tithing – mint, cummin or anything else!” But instead Jesus says, “These you ought to have done” – referring to their tithing– “without leaving the others undone”–referring to their attitudes.

He uses the word “ought”. When we acknowledge that something ought to be, we are appealing to a higher order – to the divine will. We are saying, “There are certain laws that should not be violated.” With this “ought,” Jesus is saying of the practice of tithing, “This is a precept that ought not to be violated.” By the affirmation of Jesus our Lord Himself, tithing is thereby made a timeless practice, as important to New Testament believers as to Old.

In tracing the footsteps of Abraham, we find that Scripture says of him: “And he gave him [Melchizedek] a tithe of all” (Genesis 14:20). Abraham is revealed as a man who learned the pathway to promise before the law was ever given! Tithing was established in the Scripture before the Law of Moses. It precedes and transcends the Mosaic code as a principle built into the fabric of the human order of things.

Rebuking the Devourer

To cap off the grand truth of the tithe, God makes an incredible promise. As a part of His response to our worshipping him through the faith-exercise of tithes and offerings, He says, “I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes” (Malachi 3:11). It’s another evidence of the fact that how we deal with our money is a spiritual issue touching all of life. These words reveal that when we obey in the material realm, it impacts the spiritual realm.

Who is “the devourer”?

Jesus taught us that we have a common enemy whose animosity is leveled toward all mankind.

John 10:10 – “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly”

1 Peter 5:8 – “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”

The thief advances with viciousness and in terms of our finances, devours in some of the most obvious ways. Breakdowns. Repairs needed. An unexplainable onslaught of illness. The dishwasher or the garbage disposal goes “pop,” and there goes $79.50 out the window or $123.52 down the drain. Investments go sour. Money owed us isn’t paid. The devourer often comes in any or all such things that eat up – or devour–our resources.

Now God doesn’t promise that we’ll never have a car breakdown or that mechanical things will never wear out if we tithe. Neither is tithing a formula guarantee that we’ll never have to get flu shots. But the Lord does say, “These things aren’t going to eat you up!”

As we learn the liberty of full, free, let-go obedience to the Lord and His ways, we have an overcoming promise. God says He sill make it His mission to rebuke the oppressive forces that chew up our finances and cause reversal in our situations. Tithing holds no magic promise of trial-free living, but tithing does have a share in the promise that when we face trials of any kind, we have reason to expect God to come against the advances of our adversary.

Cursed?

There is a devourer seeking to curse, to swallow up, to eat through and spit out, if you please. And whether we like it or not, choosing not to tithe is to choose to step out from under God’s umbrella of blessing. Without His protection, you and I are far more vulnerable to life’s “rain” of circumstances–however mild or fierce.

So the Lord calls us to “prove Him,” to give him the opportunity to pour out blessings on us that we cannot contain. He says that He will open the windows of heaven and rebuke the devourer (vv. 10-11). The first is a promise of abundance, and the other is a promise of victory over the adversary.

Money and the Miraculous

When I voluntarily give at least 10% of my budget into His kingdom enterprise, I’m saying, “I can ‘see’ His ability to create enough to make my budget run with less than the unbeliever claims he needs.”


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is only the fear of God that can deliver us from the fear of man.

John Witherspoon


This Day's Verse

but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

Isaiah 40:31
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

If people sat outside and looked at the stars each night, I’ll bet they’d live a lot differently.

Bill Watterson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To be commanded to love God at all, let alone in the wilderness, is like being commanded to be well when we are sick, to sing for joy when we are dying of thirst, to run when our legs are broken.  But this is the first and great commandment nonetheless.  Even in the wilderness-especially in the wilderness-you shall love Him.

Frederick Buechner


This Day's Verse

But God will redeem my life from the grave; he will surely take me to himself.

Psalm 49:15
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Compassion will cure more sins than condemnation.

Henry Ward Beecher


This Day's Verse

He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

Micah 6:8
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

If your prayers were always answered, you’d have a reason to doubt the wisdom of God.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

He Reminded Us Of You (A Prayer For A Friend)

You are a great God.
Your character is holy.
Your truth is absolute.
Your strength is unending.
Your discipline is fair…
Your provisions are abundant for our needs.
Your light is adequate for our path.
Your grace is sufficient for our sins…
You are never early, never late…
You sent your Son in the fullness of time and
will return at the consummation of time.
Your plan is perfect.
Bewildering.  Puzzling.  Troubling.
But perfect.

Max Lucado


This Day's Verse

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.

1 John 4:7
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

I often say my prayers, but do I ever pray?
And do the wishes of my heart, go with the words I say?
I might as well kneel down, and worship gods of stone,
As offer to the living God, a prayer of words alone.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value.  The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.

Galatians 5:6
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Say something to make at least three people really happy in one day.

Bret Nicholaus


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

KINDNESS

by D. Greg Ebie

Galatians 5:16-25 (NIV)

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Tony Campolo tells about an incident that happened to him on his way into work. Walking the sidewalk pathways of downtown, Tony would often pass by a number of homeless and transient people. From time to time, they would make requests for money; generally, he ignored them.

One day a bag lady, whom he had seen before in his mad dash to get from point A to B, shuffled out of a donut shop with a steaming hot cup of coffee. Their eyes met and Tony forced a smile. Putting down her coat and bags she called out, “Hey mister, would you like a sip of my coffee?”

Now if you were Tony how would you respond? Keep waking and ignore her? That’s what Tony did, or at least he started to. A half a block away, he turned back around and said, “Hey lady! Yes, yes I would like a taste of your coffee.” She held out the cup with her dirty hand; he took the cup and swallowed what had to be the most delicious cup of coffee he had tasted in a long time.

“Isn’t it good,” she said.

“Yes it IS GOOD! and thank you. By the way, why did you offer me your coffee?”

“Because it was so good, I thought someone might like to share it with me and enjoy it too.”

A small, yet simple act of kindness from a stranger interrupted Tony Campolo’s walk to the office. Kindness comes in all shapes and sizes, yet regardless of how big or small we all appreciate a kind act. This morning we are going to focus on “THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS . . . KINDNESS.”

The fruit of the Spirit is OF THE SPIRIT and not the saints. Kindness is born of the Spirit; human energy or effort does not naturally produced kindness; it comes from God. Yes, people can be kind apart from God, but their kindness is impure and incomplete.

The Kindness of God – What is God’s kindness like?

Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV)

The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.

Who is it that God is drawing to Him with loving-kindness, the righteous? No! God’s loving kindness is given to those who have rebelled against the Lord and turned away from Him. God is kind to the wicked.

Luke 6:35 (NIV)

Love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back . . . because [God] is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.

Jesus doesn’t tell us to love our friends and treat them nicely. He says love your enemies! Why? Because that is what God is like; we are to follow His example. God is kind to the ungrateful—those who take God’s kindness for granted and don’t give it a second thought—and the wicked—those who turn their back upon God and despise Him.

Notice how Matthew expresses the kindness of God in the parallel passage of Jesus’ teaching.

Matthew 5:45 (NIV)

He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.

The kindness of God does not discriminate! God does not treat His enemies differently than He does His friends. God shows His enemies kindness in order to win their friendship, as Paul told the Romans, “God’s kindness leads to repentance” (Romans 2:4 NIV).

God’s kindness is without limit. Kindness breaks down barriers and boundaries. Kindness opens the door to the fullness of God’s love and fellowship. Kindness takes in the objectionable and critical; it welcome those filled with bitterness and resentment. Kindness even takes in us!

Ephesians 2:7 (NLT)

God can always point to us as examples of the incredible wealth of his favor and kindness toward us, as shown in all he has done for us through Christ Jesus.

We who believe show others the riches of God’s incredible kindness. God offers His kindness to those who do not deserve it and us regardless of how the recipients of His kindness respond.

The fruit of the Spirit is kindness. Jesus said as we are connected to Him we would bear much fruit. Remember that apart from Christ we can do nothing! Separated from Jesus there is no fruit (See John 15:5).

Kindness Illustrated – The Good Samaritan

Jesus show us what the kindness of God looks like as it is expressed in our lives. THE FRUIT OF KINDNESS DEVELOPS AND MATURES TO BE GIVEN TO OTHERS.

Luke 10:30-35 (NIV)

A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he fell into the hands of robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him. The next day he took out two silver coins and gave them to the innkeeper. “Look after him,” he said, “and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have.”

The story of the Good Samaritan shows us four different types of people. We encounter people like this everyday; however, today we are not called to be FRUIT INSPECTORS, but FRUIT PRODUCERS. In other words we need to take a look in the mirror and see which of these types of people look back at us. Let’s allow the Holy Spirit to reveal the condition of our hearts to us so we can be transformed to be the person God would have us to become and produce much fruit.

1. The Selfish and Hostile

The robbers represent the selfish and hostile. These people are only interested in what they want. They will climb the latter of success regardless of whom they have to step on doing what ever it takes to get what they want. Their motto is simply “The end justifies the means.” If I want money and wealth then I can do what ever I want to have it, including taking it from you.

James 4:1 (MsgB)

Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves.

The priest and the Levite represent the next two types of people. Jesus does not tell us why the priest or Levite crossed over to the other side of the road. While one would expect both of these to have offered to help because of their religious standing, they passed by.

2. The Indifferent

The priest and Levite may have just been indifferent. Perhaps they are just overwhelmed by the need and feel that they have nothing to offer those in need. The indifferent lack a heart of compassion.

The indifferent won’t kick you when your down, but they won’t offer you a hand to get up either. They ignore you and just pass by minding their own business.

3. The Legalistic

The priest and Levite may also be legalistic. They justify their lack of compassion in order to remain holy in the eyes of their peers. The legalistic follow their man made rules and ignore God’s higher law to love your neighbor as yourself.

If I stop to get involved, I’ll be late for work.

I can’t give because we have made a commitment to get out of debt.

If I say something nice, then my friends will make fun of me.

4. The Kind and Compassionate

The Samaritan is kind and compassionate. Jesus shows us what Godly kindness is like through the Samaritan. The Holy Spirit will help to bring about these things in our lives so kindness fully develops and matures.

1. Kindness will take action.

The Samaritan did not pass by or ignore the one in need. The Samaritan took action to do what he could to help meet the need.

Kindness is love in action. Kindness is not an attitude we develop in our heart; it is not a new way of thinking about the situations we encounter. Kindness has to get out; kindness held in is not kindness at all.

Remember we have said we are talking about THE FRUIT of the Spirit and not the fruits. Love is the blossom; without love it is impossible for the fruit to be produced in our lives. 1 Corinthians 13 tells us, “Love is kind;” in other words, love takes action and finds expression through kindness.

Kindness is love serving. To serve others requires action!

Kindness will give; it will share.

Kindness will provide for others; it supplies what is lacking or needed.

Sometimes all that is needed is a kind word. An elderly lady always went to the local post office because the employees were so friendly. Once she was waiting in a long line to buy stamps just prior to Christmas. The man in line behind her said, “Mamma there’s no need for you to wait in line; you can buy your stamps at the machine in the lobby.” The old woman said, “I know, but the machine won’t smile or ask about my arthritis.” The only action the machine could provide was to dispense stamps, but the action of the employees dispensed stamps and kindness!

Colossians 3:12 (NIV)

Therefore, as God’s chosen people . . . clothe yourselves with . . . kindness.

2. Kindness will take a risk.

The Samaritan did not stop to consider if the robbers were still lurking behind the rocks. Or what if it is all a trap and the Samaritan becomes the victim? The Samaritan was willing to put his possessions and even his life in jeopardy to offer kindness to the one who was in need.

What if Jesus had wanted to play it safe? What if He didn’t want to take any chances? We would still be lost in our sin without any hope for salvation.

Philippians 2:6-8 (MsgB)

He had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! . . . He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that: a crucifixion.

Jesus was willing to take a chance and risk everything so He could meet our need. The wages of sin is death (see Romans 6:23); Jesus was not worried about the price. He determined to provide what we needed no matter what. That’s what kindness does; it will take a risk.

3. Kindness will pay the price.

The Good Samaritan didn’t examine the man’s wounds and then calculate the cost. The Samaritan was willing to pay the price and do whatever to took to help the man in need. Wine was poured on the wounds to purify and prevent infection; oil was added to comfort and soothe. The Samaritan paid for the man’s care at the inn; he paid the price!

The price was paid even without the guarantee that the man would recover from his wounds or even that the man would be thankful for his assistance! Jews hated Samaritans, but the Samaritan didn’t let this prejudice keep him from giving to meet a need. Kindness pays the price regardless of the outcome. Paying the price means you assume the risk.

Jesus assures us that while paying the price may come with no guarantees in this world, God will assure us of a surefire dividend that we can’t lose! In other words, paying the price of kindness has its rewards!

Luke 12:33 (MsgB)

Be generous. Give to the poor. Get yourselves a bank that can’t go bankrupt, a bank in heaven far from bank robbers, safe from embezzlers, a bank you can bank on.

Luke 6:38 (MsgB)

Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.”

Kindness will take action; it takes risk and will pay the price.

4. Kindness will put others first.

The Samaritan didn’t worry about his schedule for the day. He didn’t think about himself but put the needs of the wounded man ahead of himself. Not only did the Samaritan give of his resources, but he also gave of his time. Putting others first often means being willing to give of our time.

Philippians 2:3 (NIV)

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

Ephesians 4:28 (NLT)

If you are a thief, stop stealing. Begin using your hands for honest work, and then give generously to others in need.

Perhaps we could paraphrase what Paul tells us like this: “Have you been living only for yourself? Stop it! Think of others and share with those in need.” Kindness will put others first.

5. Kindness will finish what it starts.

The Samaritan didn’t just bandage the man’s wounds. He didn’t just take the man to a safe place where he could receive more help. He even did more than pay for room and board the man would receive. He also promised to pay whatever else was needed to nurse the man back to health. THE SAMARITAN FINISTHED WHAT HE STARTED!

Philippians 1:6 (GW)

I’m convinced that God, who began this good work in you, will carry it through to completion on the day of Christ Jesus.

Quaker, Stephen Grellet wrote: “I expect to pass through this world but once, any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow-creature, let me do it now, let me not defer to neglect it, FOR I SHALL NOT PASS THIS WAY AGAIN.” [quoted in Winward, The Fruit of the Spirit page 136]

Kindness will take ACTION. Kindness takes a risk and is willing to pay the price. Kindness puts others first, it finishes what it starts. And finally:

6. Kindness does not seek recognition.

What was the Good Samaritan’s name? Jesus doesn’t tell us. The Good Samaritan does not seek out the priest and the Levite to promote himself over them. The Samaritan is content to remain unknown.

Likewise, our kindness is not to elevate our reputation, or make us look good in the eyes of other people. Real kindness does not seek to find glory for oneself; instead, kindness gives glory to God.

Corinthians 10:31 (MsgB)

As a matter of fact, do everything that way, heartily and freely to God’s glory.

KINDNESS DOES NOT SEEK RECOGNITION, INSTEAD THE RECOGNITION AND GLORY GOES TO GOD. The fruit of the Spirit expressed in our lives is like electricity. When you plug something into an outlet it makes a connection to the source, but the electricity will not flow through wires or do anything until the circuit is complete. When you turn on the switch the circuit is then closed; in this way the current runs through your electrical appliance to do the work it is designed to do, and then the power continues to flow back to the source. The electricity that is generated at a power-plant completes a circle through all the electrical things you use in your home and back to where it all started.

Are you going to allow God’s Spirit to produce kindness in your life?

Will you take action?

Are you willing to take a risk?

Will you pay the price?

Are you ready to put others first in your life?

Will you finish what you start?

Are you willing to give the glory back to God and not seek recognition for yourself?


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

There is no greater discovery than seeing God as the author of your destiny.

Ravi Zacharias


This Day's Verse

Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name.

Hebrews 13:15
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

What the mother sings to the cradle goes all the way down to the coffin.

Henry Ward Beecher


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

All men naturally desire to know, but what does knowledge avail without the fear of God?

Thomas Kempis


This Day's Verse

O people of Zion, who live in Jerusalem, you will weep no more.  How gracious he will be when you cry for help!  As soon as he hears, he will answer you.

Isaiah 30:19
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When God crowns our merits, it is nothing other than his own gifts that he crowns.

Augustine of Hippo


This Day's Verse

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.

Psalm 32:8
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Ah, many a heart is longing
For words that are never said,
And many a heart goes hungry
For something better than bread.

Josephine Pollard


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

The real challenge of Christian living is not to eliminate every uncomfortable circumstance from our lives, but to trust our sovereign, wise, good, and powerful God in the midst of every situation.  Things that might trouble us such as the way we look, the way others treat us, or where we live or work can actually be sources of strength, not weakness.

John MacArthur


This Day's Verse

For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments.

1 John 5:3
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

God blesses us in spite of our lives and not because of our lives.

Max Lucado


This Day's Verse

“if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”

2 Chronicles 7:14
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Every true friend is a glimpse of God.

Lucy Larcom


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This Day's Thought from The Ranch

PEACE

by Russell Brownworth

When it was evening on that day, the first day of the week, and the doors of the house where the disciples had met were locked for fear of the Jews, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you.” After he said this, he showed them his hands and his side. Then the disciples rejoiced when they saw the Lord. Jesus said to them again, “Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I send you.” When he had said this, he breathed on them and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.” But Thomas (who was called the Twin), one of the twelve, was not with them when Jesus came. So the other disciples told him, “We have seen the Lord.” But he said to them, “Unless I see the mark of the nails in his hands, and put my finger in the mark of the nails and my hand in his side, I will not believe.” A week later his disciples were again in the house, and Thomas was with them. Although the doors were shut, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you.” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here and see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it in my side. Do not doubt but believe.” Thomas answered him, “My Lord and my God!” 29Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have come to believe.” Now Jesus did many other signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book. But these are written so that you may come to believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that through believing you may have life in his name. John 20:19 – 31 (NRSV)

I‘m definitely a Thomas kind of guy. Thomas didn’t want to believe what seemed too good to believe until he had seen Jesus like the other disciples had seen Jesus. It’s not that he didn’t have faith; Thomas had stronger faith than the other disciples earlier–before Jesus was arrested. The Pharisees had threatened to stone Jesus to death, and Jesus announced he was going to Jerusalem to confront them. The other disciples protested loudly that it was too dangerous. But Thomas just said, well, let’s go and die with him. That’s faith!

Thomas was no doubter, but he also had no sense of timing. When Jesus appeared to the disciples on the evening of resurrection day Thomas was the only one of the bunch to miss church.

I’ve often wondered just why Thomas missed meeting with the group on that evening. My best guess is that he was pretty resigned to the fact that it was “game-over”. The Pharisees had won, Jesus was dead, and there was nothing left to do but start figuring-out a life beyond following Jesus, because there was no more Jesus to follow.

And then there’s the other wonderment–why did Thomas come back to the group a week later. It had to be that some of the other disciples went and got Thomas…brought him back into the fold. They had seen the resurrected Lord, and they shared the good news with him. Thomas’ faith had flickered, and his friends brought him back. Somewhere in that there’s a sermon for any church with as many inactive members as active ones!

We are waiting like the disciples, door shut, Thomas, the backslider has been reclaimed, and we’re remembering the last time we saw Jesus enter the room. We recall his first words, “Peace be with you”. Jesus said those words three times in our text, and each time they brought a different kind of peace…

I. Saving Peace

There is a peace that rescues. The disciples had shut the doors for fear that what had happened to Jesus would happen to them. When suddenly Jesus was present with them, that fear vanished with the realization of victory.

My family watched the movie “The Passion” with its two grueling and graphic hours depicting the arrest, beating, trial and crucifixion of Jesus. Afterwards, when Jesus appeared to the disciples, he had the marks of his suffering, but it was obvious those marks didn’t have him anymore.

There is a peace that is surreal when the darkness of disaster and defeat are replaced by the morning light of victory. When Jesus said, “peace be with you” he was saying, “I am with you–your victory, your peace…I am here to save.” Even the name “Jesus” means “God saves”. Saving Peace, and…

II. Sending Peace

“Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I send you.”

This second kind of peace Jesus brought with him is sending peace. The Father sent Jesus into the world to seek and to save that which was lost–us! He told the disciples, and he also tells us, that in the same way the Father sent him to the mission of reconciling all people to him, Jesus sends us to that same mission.

A story is told of a woman who wanted peace in the world and peace in her heart, but was very frustrated. The world seemed to be falling apart. She would read the papers and get depressed.

One day she decided to go shopping, and she went into a mall and picked a store at random. She walked in and was surprised to see Jesus behind the counter. She knew it was Jesus because he looked just like the pictures she’d seen on holy cards and devotional pictures. She finally got up her nerve and asked, Excuse me, are you Jesus?

I am.

Do you work here? No, I own the store.

Oh, what do you sell here?

Just about everything, Jesus said. Feel free to walk up and down the aisles, make a list, see what it is you want and then come back and we’ll see what we can do for you.

She did just that, walked up and down the aisles. There was [for sale] peace on earth, no more war, no hunger or poverty, peace in families, no more drugs, harmony, clean air, careful use of resources. She wrote furiously. By the time she got back to the counter, she had a long list. Jesus took the list, skimmed through it, looked up at her and smiled. No problem. And then he bent down behind the counter and picked out all sorts of things, stood up and laid out the packets.

She asked, What are these?

Seed packets, Jesus said. This is a catalog store.

She said, You mean I don’t get the finished product?

No, this is a place of dreams. You come and see what it looks like, and I give you the seeds. You plant the seeds. You go home and nurture them and help them to grow and someone else reaps the benefits.

Oh, she said. And she left the store without buying anything.

Sometimes it is easier to dwell on saving peace than on the peace which compels us to “go into all the world” with the good news.

But he said “peace” to them once more…

III. Symbiotic Peace

Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you.”

This was the eighth day…a whole week later than the first time Jesus said, “peace” to them. This time he came back when Thomas was there. Thomas may have felt pretty second-class as a disciple. But Jesus came back and spoke the same wonderful word to him…. “Peace”!

We all come to Jesus at different times and in different walk–but his peace is still his peace. Symbiosis is: a cooperative, mutually beneficial relationship between two people or groups. [4] To be “symbiotically-peaceful” is to get along with each other in the kind of love God planned for us.

Three times Jesus said “peace” to his followers–

• Saving peace that covers our sins and saves us from hell

• Sending peace that commissions us to go bring people to the fold

  • Symbiotic peace that conjoins us and holds us together in a bond of brotherhood and the selfless love of God.

Together this saving, sending and symbiosis-making peace is the whole point of the resurrection. It is what Paul meant when he told us that God was in Christ to reconcile the whole world to himself– and has given us that very same mission.

Peace is the work of reconciliation–first I am reconciled to God with his saving peace, having been rescued from my sins. Then I take part in rescuing others because of his sending peace. And I am taught to live in symbiotic God-love, the peace that passes all understanding.

It is a matter of living in peace.

In Joseph Cardinal Bernardin’s little book, The Gift of Peace….there is a gripping and moving account of his meeting with Steven Cook, the young man who had accused Cardinal Bernardin of sexual abuse….In 1993, the accusation became public, and Cardinal Bernardin had to live in the blare of public curiosity, constant media attention and the deep pain of experiencing his credibility and integrity questioned by many people who simply assume that an accusation is the equivalent of guilt. And then, over time, Mr. Cook acknowledged that the charges were false, and the case was dropped. The Cardinal plunged back into his busy schedule but he kept thinking about Steven Cook, his accuser, now critically ill with AIDS, living alone.

So Cardinal Bernardin did the most remarkable thing. He located Mr. Cook and invited him to meet at a seminary outside Philadelphia.

Cardinal Bernardin explained that his only reason for wanting to see Mr. Cook was to tell him that he, Cardinal Bernardin, harbored no ill feelings. He wanted to pray with Mr. Cook.

Steven Cook accepted that invitation and said that he wanted to apologize for the hurt and embarrassment he had caused. When the meeting happened, Mr. Cook told his story, including his alienation from the church. They talked for awhile. The cardinal said what he had come to say, and he gave Mr. Cook an inscribed Bible and offered to celebrate Mass. Mr. Cook hesitated at first. Cardinal Bernardin took a 100-year-old chalice out of his case. Steven, this is a gift from a man I don’t even know. He asked me to use it to say Mass for you some day. Please, Steven responded tearfully, let’s celebrate Mass now.

Afterward, Steven Cook said, a big burden has been lifted from me today. I feel healed and very much at peace.

Cardinal Bernardin reflected, as we flew back to Chicago that evening, Father Donohue and I felt the lightness of spirit that an afternoon of grace brings to one’s life.

This is the sum total of what saving, sending and symbiotic peace means in the human family.

And so…brothers and sisters….take a moment and pass the peace; take this lifetime and pass the peace!


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

A soul enkindled with love is a gentle, meek, humble, and patient soul.

John of the Cross


This Day's Verse

And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

1 John 5:14
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

Laws of nature are God’s thoughts, thinking themselves out in the tides.

Charles Parkhurst


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If I had really cared, as I thought I did, about the sorrows of the world, I should not have been so overwhelmed when my own sorrow came.

C. S. Lewis


This Day's Verse

But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.

Psalm 3:3
The King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

People get very upset by the idea that their children might have to suffer.  Well, why are you having children?  You want them to be Christians, don’t you?  If they are going to be Christians, they are going to suffer.  That is what life is about.

Stanley Hauerwas


This Day's Verse

Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.

Proverbs 12:25
The English Standard Version


This Day's Smile

One of the disadvantages of wine is that it makes a man mistake words for thoughts.

Samuel Johnson


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is not our most natural response to the world.  Left to our own impulses, we will always want to do something else before we pray.

Henri Nouwen


This Day's Verse

This is my comfort in my affliction, For Your word has given me life.

Psalm 119:50
The New King James Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

To know the will of God is the highest of all wisdom.

Billy Graham


This Day's Verse

God’s law was given so that all people could see how sinful they were.  But as people sinned more and more, God’s wonderful grace became more abundant.  So just as sin ruled over all people and brought them to death, now God’s wonderful grace rules instead, giving us right standing with God and resulting in eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Romans 5:20-21
The New Living Translation


This Day's Smile

Train your child in the way in which you know you should have gone yourself.

Charles Spurgeon


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Proposing a New Image for Old Age

by Richard Pfeil

II Corinthians 4:7, 16-18

You might find today’s sermon title a little funny. It’s a beautiful Sunday and we’re talking about getting old.

Why should we bother with this subject of aging? Because we can’t help but experience it. Is there anyone growing younger? We all are going to experience aging, and you don’t have to wait until you are retired to experience the effects of aging, am I right? Can you do now what you could when you were 17?

We will all hopefully deal with aging parents. I say hopefully because it is hoped that you will experience having your parents with you that long. Not everyone does. Hopefully, God willing, we too will become old because the alternative is not all that good.

Paul Mays is the administrator of a nursing home who happened to see a lovely, well-groomed 86 year-old woman walking slowly down to the dining room. He said, “Hey, Mavis. How’s it going? How is everything?” Mavis said, “Well, as good as can be expected.” Then she stopped for a moment and thought a bit and said, “You know this growing old stuff is for the birds. But considering the alternative, I’ll take growing old.”

She represents our ambivalence towards aging in that all of us want to live a long time, but none of us want to grow old. I think the reason for this is due to our image of an old man or an old woman. Think about it. What comes to your mind when I say old man or old woman? Is it wrinkles, sickness, weakness, loss, forgetfulness, nursing home, dependence, crotchetiness, incontinence. All these things come to mind and this is fueled by our mass media which depicts old age as a calamity, something to be avoided. In fact, we try to mask it or hide it with dyes and creams and elective surgeries to show people that we are not growing old. We spent $4 billion on these things on a yearly basis.

In our public discourse, senior citizens are referred to as a problem, as a threat to the collapse of our Social Security system, as a siphon of our medical dollars. Sometimes they are referred to as a burden or “the fate of the young.” With all those negative images, who wants to get old? Nobody does. But is this an accurate image. Is this the real picture of aging and of growing old? If it is, should that be our focus? If not, what should our focus be as we age?

Let’s hear from a man in his own culture and his day–the Apostle Paul. He was very old, but he never retired. He experienced what aging is as well as its effects, and he dealt with it very appropriately. He tells us how we can deal with it ourselves. Growing old and aging can be a very satisfying, very fulfilling experience if we follow Paul’s advice. We find this in II Corinthians 4: 7, 16-18.

We need to develop a right mental image of growing old. So much of what we experience and the meaning of it is dependent upon our expectations. If we expect it to be a very bad experience, we are going to think this as we enter into it. If we expect it to be something very good, we will experience this instead.

Have you seen the movie, “Home Alone”? This little boy is told about the crotchet guy who lives next door and that he has murdered his whole family. If the little boy peeks at him through the window and the man sees him, the boy shuts the blinds real quick because he fears him. However, the little boy finds that he is really a kind, elderly gentleman who was a devout Catholic and a loving person.

To develop a positive imaging of aging, we need to take our lives off what is seen. I am not saying that we should deny reality. You will find a very realistic portrayal of aging in Ecclesiastes 11: 8-10. This tells us to enjoy life while we are young because dark days are ahead. Paul himself does not deny the effects of aging. He says that outwardly we are wasting away.

I witnessed the wasting away of my grandparents and their deaths, and we must be very realistic about this. Aging does keep you from doing the things you did when you were young. As you age, you tend to experience more pain in different places and recovery time is a lot longer. Some people experience some sensory loss. As you age, your bones become more brittle and falls can cause us to become disabled or even crippled. As you age, you lose loved ones.

Now, that’s a realistic picture. However, I’ll say this. All these things are true of every period of your life. This is not unique to aging. We experience these things all through our lives, and they are not a hazard of getting old. They are a hazard of being alive. In fact, if you are over 70, you should praise God because you have already beaten the averages. More than half of your classmates are gone. You are the survivor, the lucky one, the fortunate one. We need to praise God for our lives instead of our losses which is why Paul tells us to fix our eyes not on what is seen but on what is unseen.

What does it mean to fix our eyes? It means to focus on something as a goal or a target. Like an archer who pulls back the arrow and focuses on the bull’s eye, like a golfer who focuses on the hole and not the hazards, our proper focus is to go for the goal. It is by looking at the goal that we derive our motivation, our energy and our enthusiasm. It’s what makes the game meaningful for us, it’s what makes the struggle and pain worthwhile. No runner focuses on the pain while running. If they do, they lose heart and falter. No golfer stares at the bunker or the lake in fear. If they do, they will lose their game. They look at the goal and at the things that are positive in their lives and try to achieve more than they thought they could.

This is our mistake with aging. We are focusing on the wrong things. We are focusing on the hazards rather than on our goals and dreams. This is probably why we have a very negative view about aging instead of a very positive one. Aging can be a very positive thing. There are a lot of benefits to growing old. One benefit is the fact that you are alive. Another is that you have no more deadlines or schedules, no more performance reviews, no more ladders to climb. You can relax and really enjoy your life. It can be an incredible time of creativity. Some of the best artists and poets painted or wrote during their retirement years. Colonel Sanders of KFC built his business after he retired.

Another nice thing about growing old is that all your life you try to make something of yourself. You try to prove your in-laws or your parents wrong. You try to make something of your life. The wonderful thing about maturity is the fact that you are somebody, and you have always been somebody, and you don’t have to prove it anymore. It’s not something you achieve, it’s simply the gift of being born in the image of God.

Aging actually brings financial stability. People are wealthiest at the end of their lives. I get angry at McDonald’s. Senior citizens can buy a cup of coffee for 25 cents. I’m the one that needs the 25 cent cup of coffee. I have four children. I’m facing three weddings and four college tuitions. My in-laws and most older people are wealthiest at the end of their lives.

Even if we were to focus on the experience of the elderly person, we find that it is not that bad. Here is a realistic picture, despite what our society says, about growing old:

*80% of you who are 55 and older will live and die living independently at home. Only 5% of those 55 and older today will live in a nursing home, and only half of those are there because of the effects of aging. Half of them are there simply because they have outlived everyone and there is no one left at home to take care of them.

*69% of those over 65 say their health is excellent. 85% say they are functionally healthy. Only 15% are unhealthy, and it is not due to the effects of aging. When they study this, it is due to the effects of their former lifestyles. As you get to retirement age, nearly all health problems are preventable and curable. They respond to proper diet and exercise, rest, avoiding alcohol, drugs, smoking and excessive eating. If you do these things, you will reap much benefit as you grow older.

*10% of the population will experience any form of senility of varying degrees. Again, this is not due to aging. This is due more to malnutrition, a tumor, drug use and abuse, depression, boredom, lack of hope, disuse of the mind, or the expectation that you will become forgetful and so you do. The only thing that changes mentally as you grow older is that it takes you longer to process information. Why? Because there is more information to process. Your data banks are very full at that time.

*Only 13% of people 65 and older said that they were lonely. Young people were the largest population group that admitted to loneliness. When asked, 65% of them say that they are lonely.

*45% of people 65 and older said that their lives could be better versus 49% of those who are under 65.

Can you see the real image of aging here? We always focus on the negatives and the reality is that it is much better than we think. Paul tells us that the proper image is not to focus on the hazards of aging, but to focus on the unseen. What is the unseen? For Christians, it means not focusing on the temporary, the material, or the past. It means we focus on the eternal, the spiritual, the purposeful, the dream, what lies ahead, and the possibilities. If we do that, Paul says that we are renewed day by day. We experience an eternal glory that will not fade.

What are some of those things that are unseen? Well, in this text it is the resurrection, eternal life, heaven, God’s kingdom. It is realizing that with every day that passes we are not counting down our lives, we are counting up to our experience of heavenly glory. Paul says that what seem to be unsurmountable problems will be come light and momentary as we focus on heaven. It’s like having an experience of pain and then years later it’s hard to remember the pain. That will be our eternal experience, and that gives us hope now knowing that our wasting away won’t last forever. It is temporary. As we become older, we come closer to the light. If we are going to experience a more satisfying life, one thing we can do is become closer to that unseen world. One of the great gifts we have is time. Spend some time drawing close to the light. As your life is drawn closer to that light, may your heart and soul be drawn as well. As you draw closer to God, his promise is that he will draw closer to you.

Although our bodies are wasting away, our spiritual experience will be a growing satisfaction of being renewed day by day, so much so that in walking with our Lord in our lives, when we hit those shadow times the light of his glory will penetrate that darkness and we can walk through the valley of the shadow of death because he will be with us always.

The unseen represents much more for Paul. Paul did not retire to give up. He kept going, which is an issue I want to raise here. Many children of elderly people attempt to bumper-proof their parents’ lives so that they can squeeze out every ounce of time with them in this life. They limit their parents to such a degree that the parents end their lives watching television and gumming applesauce. That’s unfortunate, because I don’t see Paul doing that. I think it is a shifting of our focus from enjoying and living our lives to making sure we don’t die or that our parents never die or keep from dying. Can you see the shift in focus from something that is positive to something that is negative? I want to keep my parents from dying versus I want to let my parents live and enjoy their lives. We should enjoy our lives and not bumper-proof them to the degree that we squeeze one hundred years out but we don’t live because we died way before. We find that Paul lived his life to the full serving his lord, giving all that he could, until Christ took him home.

What unfulfilled dreams do you have? That’s the unseen. Fulfill them. What places have you always wanted to see but haven’t? See them. What skills have you wanted to develop but didn’t have time for? Develop them. What educational level did you hope to attain? What goals have you left unaccomplished? Accomplish those goals, get your degree. I don’t care what age you are. If you see a need in the community that you have always wanted to fulfill, meet that need. If there is a ministry in the church that you’ve always wanted to start, start it. If you always wanted to be a missionary, become one. If you always wanted to do something positive with your finances, form a trust and do it. If you always wanted to spend time with your kids and grandkids but because you were working so much you didn’t have time, spend time with your children and grandchildren now. Don’t let society, don’t let your kids, and don’t let yourself put you on the sidelines or on a shelf. You are very useful. Make your life count. Finish well.

Think of Paul’s life. All his life he looked over his shoulder because people wanted to kill him. He experienced distress all through his life. He was beaten with rods, he was flogged with 39 lashes five times, he was nearly stoned to death, he was shipwrecked three times, he was lost at sea for a day, he was opposed every-where, he was slandered and maligned and ridiculed inside and outside the church. At the end of his life he was alone. He had no spouse, no home, no major medical insurance, no retirement center, and he was in prison with an incurable disease. Yet, what was his attitude? How does he end his life? Here’s what he says: “Therefore, we do not lose heart. Although outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.”

How can we have such an attitude? Do what Paul did. Don’t focus on the problems and the hazards. When you see a rosebush, do you see a flower with nasty thorns that prick you, or do you see a thorn bush beautified by flowers? Think of the difference in focus. What is your focus of aging. Our focus should be on the opportunities that we have and things that we can do, the unseen, drawing closer to the Lord, living our lives so that we can walk with him. If we do this, aging can become like an antique car. Think of that image. That could be your image of old age.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Prayer is a principal means for opening oneself to the power and love of God that is already there—in the depths of reality.

James A. Pike


This Day's Verse

“For you shall go out in joy, and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.”

Isaiah 55:12
The Revised Standard Version


This Day's Smile

Many a friendship, long, loyal and self-sacrificing, rests on no thicker a foundation than a kind word.

Frederick W. Faber


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Humility is the source of all true greatness: pride is ever impatient, ready to be offended  He who thinks nothing is due to him, never thinks himself ill-treated.

Francis Fenelon


This Day's Verse

“And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”

Revelation 7:17
The New International Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

When a man realizes that he is a beloved child of the Creator of all, then he is ready to see his neighbors in the world as brothers and sisters.

Robert Runcie


This Day's Verse

And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.”

2 Corinthians 12:9
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

Why is it we can’t take the first or second suggestion from the Lord rather than the sixth or seventh disaster.

Unknown


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If we will feed Christ with the food of our houses, even outward food, Christ will reward us with the food of his house, which is spiritual food.

Jonathan Edwards


This Day's Verse

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Proverbs 3:5-6
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

My determination is to transfer this habit of worry into an instant moment of prayer and leave it with God.

Charles Swindoll


This Day's Verse

Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it.  How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live!

Hebrews 12:9
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

Most middle-class Americans tend to worship their work, to work at their play and to play at their worship.  As a result, their meanings and values are distorted, their relationships disintegrate faster than they can keep them in repair, and their lifestyles resemble a cast of characters in a plot.

Gordon Dahl


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This Day’s Thought From The Ranch- This Week’s Sermon


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Trust And Obey

by Paul Fritz

God Chose and Guided Abraham (Genesis 11:27-12:20)

Peter T. Forsythe was right when he said, “The first duty of every soul is to find not its freedom but its Master”.
Warren W. Wiersbe, The Integrity Crisis, Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1991, p. 22.

1. Aim: To lead the people to understand how God chose and guided Abraham because of his faith and obedience

2. Explanation of the Aim: Everyone needs to know that God has specially created them for a unique purpose. God chose and guided Abraham as an example of how He blesses those who trust and obey Him.

God not only calls Abraham out of his familiar surroundings but sets him apart for special service, blessings and future multiplication purposes.

Ask God to help you realize all the ways that Abraham did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God. Instead, Abraham chose to grow more mature in faith by going to a land that he knew nothing about.

Let us learn how to give God greater glory through a remarkable faith as demonstrated in our obedience to His promises.

(Gen. 11:27-12:20)

Great people of faith act in such a way that they have a confident expectation that God will do what He says. Abraham experienced some anxious moments, but refused to give in to fear and looked beyond the superficial difficulties to move where God directed him to go.

Faith is the evidence of things not seen and the assurance of things hoped for. As a result, Abraham has been known as the Father of faith. His life is an example of how we should trust God to use us in great ways since the things that are impossible with men are possible with God. (Luke 1:37)

Whenever God tells us to do something we can be assured that even though it may not make human sense at the time, it will always result in our best interests.

Just as God fulfilled all of His promises to Abraham so we can claim all the promises in Christ according to 2 Cor. 1:20 which says, “For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken to us to the glory of God.”

Allow the power of the Holy Spirit and the truth of God’s promises to be appropriated in all aspects of your life, relationships and ministries.

Understand some of the difficulties that Abraham faced in leaving his home to a strange land.

How would you feel if you were told that you must prepare to leave everything behind and go to a place they had never heard of before?

The BIBLE STORY focuses on Abraham’s faith and obedience that God blessed in ways that demonstrate the Lord’s complete dependability regardless of outward circumstances.

Concentrate on looking at the trust and obedience that God blessed in the heart of Abraham.

How can we grow in our trust and obedience to God. Even if you have been a Christian for a long time you can mature in your trust and obedience as you seek to be more like Jesus in every way. Perhaps you need to express your faith and willingness to obey God in regards to studying your Bible, witnessing, praying and following the directions of those who are over you in the Lord.

What are some of the things that frighten people about having to go to a new place that is completely strange to them? Why?

What are some of the reasons why a person like Abraham might hesitate to go to a completely strange land when he has everything he needs in his own area?

Why do you think that God often tests our faith? How do you think people are able to grow in their faith?

What are some of the ways that you can determine if a person has great faith in God and in His promises?

One time Abraham was directed by God to go to a strange land and he went, not knowing what was ahead. God rewarded Abraham’s faith and obedience and will do the same for anyone who will take Him at His word.

The Bible Story (Gen. 11:27- 12:20)

1. Abraham’s faith is tested when God directs him to leave the things he loves the most, his land, his security and his dearest friends. But God knew what was best because Abraham’s land had become idolatrous, his family and friends were a constant temptation to him and he could not continue there without being infected by his surroundings.

2. God’s directives are always best even though they may seem difficult to adhere to at the time. Whenever we leave our human dependencies and rely completely on God and His word we will never be disappointed. Learn to replace all the negative human responses of our old sinful nature with the positive aspects of faith, love, and hope that come from the Spirit that empowers us to do whatever God asks of us.

3. God guided Abraham because he was willing to abandon his natural affections for divine grace in determining his future. Only when we are willing to replace the negative desires of our sinful nature with the positive responses given to us by the Holy Spirit are we able to discern God’s best for our relationships, ministries and directions. Jesus said, “Unless a person is willing to love me so much that it would appear that they hate their own Father, Mother, wife etc, they cannot be my disciples.” (Luke 14:26)

4. God always wants to know if we are willing to be completely yielded to His will before He reveals greater plans for our life. We need to learn how to be faithful in the little things before we can expect God to give us greater responsibilities. Jesus said, “If you have not been faithful in the little things, who will give you responsibilities over much.” (Luke 16:10-12) Whenever our natural affections come into competition with God’s choices we must learn to yield all of our rights to the Lord.

6. God guided Abraham as long as he demonstrated great faith and obedience to His word. When people consistently exhibit a trusting and obedient heart to the scriptures and the leading of the Holy Spirit, they will enjoy the blessings of being guided in the best paths of life. Jesus said, “If anyone is willing to do my will, they will know of the correct teaching.” (John 7:17) Abraham was willing to abandon the sinful environment of his homeland because God was preparing him to do a new thing in his life and also through his descendants of the faith.

7. God is able to make a way in the wilderness and a stream in the desert for anyone who looks to Him alone for their directives. (Isa. 43:10-13) Let the Lord guide you through His word, through prayer and through godly counselors.

8. God directed Abraham through a special covenant when He said, “Leave your country, your people, and your father’s household and go to the land I will show you. I will make you into a great nation and I will bless you. I will make your name great and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you and whoever curses you I will curse and all peoples on the earth will be blessed through you.” (Gen. 12:1-3)

9. God’s promises help us determine what directions the Lord wants us to take in our decisions. Abraham knew that every promise God makes is conditioned on our obedience and trust in His will. Unless he was willing to listen and follow God’s commands he could not expect to receive any more revelation, instruction or illumination about the next best decision to take.

10. The more we obey God, the more He reveals about His will for our life. If you want to know what God wants you to do tomorrow you must be first do everything He asks of you today.

Here are suggestions in growing in your trust and obedience. Ask yourselves these questions:

God’s will is determined by seven main criteria:

1). What the Bible tell us to do?

2). Have we sought out advice from godly counselors? 3). Have we prayed and asked God for directions?

4). Have we consulted with people who are our spiritual mentors?

5). Have we discerned where the Lord gives us the greater peace and joy in our service to Him?

6). Have we understood how we can use our spiritual gifts for God’s kingdom priority purposes

7). What are the ways we can best help the church grow in qualitative and quantitative measures?

Let us explore how Abraham serves as a great example for a person who trusted and obeyed the Lord and was blessed for doing God’s will even though it might not have made sense at the time.

Romans 4:20,21 – “Yet, he did not waver through unbelief, but was strengthened in his faith…being fully persuaded that God had power to do what He had promised.”

“He leadeth me Oh precious thought. Oh words with heavenly comfort fraught. Whatever I do, wherever I be. Still, tis God’s hand that leadeth me.”

Ask the Lord to guide, lead and provide all the wisdom you need to discern God’s best will for your life.

Where our Captain bids us go,

‘Tis not ours to murmur no;

He that gives the sword and shield

Chooses too the battlefield

Where we are to fight the foe.


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Friday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

You can see God from anywhere if your mind is set to love and obey Him.

A. W. Tozer


This Day's Verse

When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shat not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.  For I am the LORD thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Saviour:

Isaiah 43:2-3
The King James Version


This Day's Smile

What would it be like if you lived each day, each breath, as a work of art in progress?  Imagine that you are a Masterpiece unfolding, every second of every day, a work of art taking form with every breath.

Thomas Crum


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Thursday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

Blessed are the single-hearted, for they shall enjoy much peace…If you refuse to be hurried and pressed, if you stay your soul on God, nothing can keep you from that clearness of spirit which is life and peace.  In that stillness you will know what His will is.

Amy Carmichael


This Day's Verse

And he sat down and called the twelve; and he said to them, “If any one would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.”

Mark 9:35
The Revised Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Wednesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

We should be completely clear about these two facts: God is not obligated to heal, and healing is not His greatest gift.

Unknown


This Day's Verse

“So now, brethren, I commend you to God and to the word of His grace, which is able to build you up and give you an inheritance among all those who are sanctified.”

Acts 20:32
The New King James Version


This Day's Smile

When I give food to the poor, they call me a saint.  When I ask why the poor have no food, they call me a communist.

Helder Camara


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Tuesday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

It is always the case that when the Christian looks back, he is looking at the forgiveness of sins.

Karl Barth


This Day's Verse

So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.

Romans 10:17
The English Standard Version


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This Day’s Thought from The Ranch- Monday


This Day's Thought from The Ranch

If this is to be a Happy New Year, a year of usefulness, a year in which we shall live to make this earth better, it is because God will direct our pathway. How important then, to feel our dependence upon Him!

Matthew Simpson


This Day's Verse

“See, I am dong a new thing!  Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?  I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.”

Isaiah 43:19
The New International Version


This Day's Smile

We will open the book.  Its pages are blank.  We are going to put words on them ourselves.  The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.

Edith Lovejoy Pierce


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