Prayer is not trying to grab hold of God. Prayer is to recognize God coming to us.
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.
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It used to irritate a friend of mine that when he went to confession he never got the chance to tell the priest the good things he had done.